Bethenny Frankel is still living with her ex: ‘you just have to endure it’


The last time I remember hearing about Bethenny Frankel’s living condition she was staying with a billionaire “friend” while her estranged husband, Jason Hoppy, was holed up in the Soho apartment he used to share with her. She even went on vacation with this “friend” so it looked like she was dating him. Well that doesn’t seem to have worked out for Bethenny because she’s moved back into her old apartment, where the ex who is putting her through “the most difficult thing” she can imagine going through in her life, divorce, is still living. Like she describes everything else, Bethenny frames this as some epic personal struggle:

The former Real Housewives of New York City star opened up about her lengthy court battle and how unhappy she is still living with Jason.

Bethenny, 42, says that she and Jason are “uneasily” sharing their Manhattan apartment, and they both want full custody of Bryn.

“My living situation is very, very stressful,” she told People magazine. “I don’t think it’s very healthy for anyone involved. It’s very upsetting.” Since they both want to live in the Manhattan apartment she said they make the situation work, even though it is miserable.

“You just have to endure it.”

Bethenny said that she was devastated when her marriage to Jason, 41, turned sour and that she hit a dark and low point with self reflection.

“All the things that I’ve tried to resolve in therapy and get past from my childhood reared their ugly head in my marriage. My marriage made me feel like I was a bad person, like I was damaged, I was dysfunctional, I was never going to be happy. But I don’t believe that to be true. Yet there I was in a relationship that made me feel that way.”

Now getting ready to launch her talk show Bethenny, she said that she had reservations about Jason from the start and wished she’d paid attention to her own feelings.

“Maybe that’s the first lesson learned: to go with my gut. Because I waited a long time to see if I even wanted to be in this relationship I didn’t go with my first instinct.”

[From Radar]

This lady is supposed to be beyond wealthy. She has plenty of money. She could easily sublet another apartment at this point, she could even stay in a hotel, but she doesn’t want to do that. She wants to stand her ground and try and force her ex to move out. That’s fine, she just should own that instead of trying to claim that she’s some victim who has to just “endure” her situation. If she would give in a little it would go much easier for her, much like her custody and divorce battle, in which she’s trying to get sole custody of her three year-old daughter instead of sharing 50/50 custody with her ex.

Photos are from 5-3 and 5-4-13. Photo credit: FameFlynet

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  1. dorothy says:

    There’s nothing more tacky than someone airing their dirty laundry publicly, especially when they have a child together. My respect for Bethenny has tanked.

    • Liz says:

      The only thing Bethenny has to keep her in the news is her pending divorce. She is a crazy, crazy woman. Jason was the sweetest guy she will ever be with. She needs to keep herself in the media so she gets her talk show. I saw her test run show and it was terrible.

  2. Green is Good says:

    Bethany, your “victim” card has expired.

  3. brin says:

    What a drama queen…she’s rich enough to live somewhere else.

    • Decloo says:

      Why should she live anywhere else? It’s her dream home that she bought and renovated, and it’s the child’s home. He should move out. They are both leveraging for a better divorce deal. Every rich couple divorcing asks for full custody. That way, as negotiations continue, they can use custody as a way to make concessions in return for other things.

      • MrsB says:

        Sure, you could make that argument but it’s a choice that she’s making to live there. So if she decides to live there and put herself in that situation then don’t cry and complain about it trying to garner sympathy

  4. Esmom says:

    The little girl is a dead ringer for her dad. Lucky for her!

    • Kate says:

      That’s my thought whenever I see a picture of that kid.

    • needmeds says:

      Agree. I hope personality wise as well.

    • holly hobby says:

      I bet it must kill her that whenever she looks at her daughter, she sees her ex. On the other hand, it’s good that the daughter looks like the dad. Who wants to look like some cartoon character (Bethany?).

      I do feel sorry for the little girl. She will be screwed up with a mom like Bethenny.

      • Ally8 says:

        Can you imagine the eating disorder modeling that goes on?

        “Here’s your Skinny Juice, hon!”

      • Liz says:

        For the sake of Bryn she should be with her Dad. He comes from a stable home and will raise his daughter the same. If the loony one Bethenny raises her she will screw her up for sure.

  5. I'm Gonna Leave Soon says:

    Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me, Look at me,

    Hey your not looking at me! So,

    Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah,

    Try and get a real problem!! I have a few and to get rid of them I got a good therapist and I shut my mouth and listen when I go there. Victim thinking is very narcissistic. I spent a few years there and you get nothing from it but wanting people to fix your problems cause you think they owe you.

    (sorry venting)

  6. Talie says:

    I think they are both hanging onto that apartment for dear life because once someone leaves they can lose the property through abandonment. He certainly doesn’t want that since his income bracket is much lower.

    • Hoya_chick says:

      But it seems like she already left and now has come back so wouldn’t that work in his favor? That she abandoned the property? She can afford to find something else until the divorce is finalized but chooses not to so she can give quotes to People mag about how difficult her life is. Give me a break. She has this terrible woe is me trait that is terribly unbecoming of a woman her age.

      News flash Bethanny, your marriage didn’t make you *feel* like a terrible person…..you are one. Jason has relented, and offered 50/50 custody but she balked. She’s hired Katie Holmes’ lawyer and wants sole custody. I cannot stand her. There was actually a time when I watched her show on bravo and she treated him and his family like sh-t! For example, he threw her a bday party with all her friends and she spent the whole thing in a bathroom crying because he did something so nice and she felt bad that she should be made to feel good…..at her own party, thrown by her loving husband! She is seriously damaged and wouldn’t know a healthy, functional relationship if it bit her in her bony ass. Her poor daughter.

  7. MrsB says:

    I hope her talk show is a miserable failure. That’s about all I got.

  8. Joiq says:

    I’m still not over People Magazine’s Bethenny’s “Brutal” Divorce tag line on the same cover as the Cleveland kidnapping. Stay Classy People. Now, I thought Jason was the one who didn’t want the divorce initially? I think he’s bitter and trying to push her buttons to the point where he may give in (at least with the apartment).

  9. Micki says:

    I guess it’s stressful for the kid. For her sake I’d find my own place.

  10. gogoGorilla says:

    I used to like her on the HW, but she really grates my last nerves these days. She is such a perennial victim. Her husband is actually a nice guy – much nicer than she deserves (clearly). She treated him and his family like shit on national television, so if they are treating her badly in return (by which I’m sure she means “they refuse to move out! they won’t do what I want! wah!”)… karma.

    Her baby is adorable, though.

  11. Dedrie says:

    Scary scary woman.. tacky price tag on her kids hat.. for shame..

  12. junegorilla says:

    She’s horrible. Shea could buy five apartments for herself. All of other yammering about how Her parents were selfish drama queens who ruined her life. And here she is doing the same thing. Jason should take that kid and run.

  13. ms. deneuve says:

    this woman is the epitome of what’s wrong with our society: selfabsorbed, narcissistic anorexic bitch. pleeeeeze, who’s gonna buy that you can’t move out of an apartment to create a healthier living environment for yourself and your daughter. and it makes me wonder what’s wrong with him as well. maybe it’shis fear of her turning the kid into a little bitch as well. he is such a babe. wTF was he thinking/is he thinking? she is fugly, inside and out!

  14. Poppy says:

    She should be on her knees thanking the heavens that her daughter has a father who *wants* 50/50 custody. There are so many women who would give up every penny, never mind an apartment, from their divorce if they could just get that from their ex.

  15. mel says:

    It amazes me she thinks she will get sole custody…and THIS is why she comes across like an entitled twat…there is absolutely no reason for Jason not to have joint custody. I can’t stand it when women like her treat their kids father as nothing more than a sperm donor. In this case…she always seemed more interested in popping out a kid than her marriage.

  16. OXA says:

    Jason did not make her feel anything,maybe she is a bad person.
    If she had doubts early on in the relationship yet she still chose to bring a child into the world she has to deal with the sperm donor. Bree deserves 2 parents and her father clearly loves her so she can not dispose of him when she is done.

  17. Elise says:

    While watching her show (used to be a fan) I concluded two things: under any other circumstances/marriage, he would be a relatively happy guy; and in ANY circumstances, she would be miserable because she thrives in a state of constant misery and dysfunction. Then she goes on Ellen and cries about the fairytale. There IS no fairytale! I say this as a happily married woman. Feel bad for Bryn – hopefully she grows up alright despite of all this. Really do.

  18. dvz says:

    She’s utterly loathsome.

    He needs to knock this shit off too and come ahead the better looking parent while he can. Bryn is probably getting most of her calories from the tension in the atmosphere. SO wrong.

    They can both stop the papping opportunities with the little one too. I shouldn’t know what a Dlister’s little girl looks like

  19. OK says:

    I used to like her, but this divorce has turned my opinion about her. You could even see on the show, she never wanted to give in on anything, it was her way or no way…..ugh

    Plus, is she trying to shame him to move out of the apartment? She filed for the divorce, she should leave if she couldn’t stand to be with him anymore.

  20. truthful says:

    she is so annoying, she strikes me as the friend that always talks about herself and you can’t get a word in..

    will not be watching her new show.

  21. The bonus is that she will never ever …like ever be successful getting full custody. The legal system has been very clear if both parents are remotely half decent they will get shared custody and he has alreadyc said he woukd share which puts him in favourable position with the judge. So she will burn tons of her money on lawyers and court and fail and lose…just watch. she is one angry b$&@. and the lawyer has duty to tell her this…lol

  22. Jen34 says:

    She had reservations about Jason from the start? Really? What a horrible thing to say about your daughter’s father.

    He is the one who should have had reservations. It looks like she wanted a sperm donor and he was the nicest guy she could find. I feel bad for him, his family and their daughter.

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      I agree. I dont know a woman – let alone Bethenny – who could do much better than this guy. He was amazing to her! Hard worker, came from a good, humble family, always willing to bend when she wasn’t, plus attractive IMO. He could do MUCH better than her after seeing how she treated him in return. I really feel sorry for his parents too, who always had the best intentions and wanted to see Bryn and Bethenny wasn’t having it. Ugh. Women would be lined around the block for a man like that.

      • Jen34 says:

        He would be perfect for my sister! He could do much better than Bethenny.

  23. Jacqueline says:

    Feeling any pangs of sympathy for a woman carrying a $12,000 purse and being “forced” to share her multi-million dollar Manhattan apartment is an absolute impossibility for me.

    • MaryBeth says:

      Good Lord.. I could not agree more!!! It’s repulsive.

    • Kim says:

      Entitled rich girl problems. Thats what happens when you combine and unstable person like Bethanny and give her a little attention/fame & money.

  24. MaryBeth says:

    I use to like her.. until the 2nd season of the show. I like her ex much more than her. He’s down to earth and NICE. And yes, Bryn looks remarkably more like him than her. 🙂

  25. KD says:

    I could have sworn from watching her show, and even during her RHONY stage, she was the one pushing him to further the relationship. Whether it was moving in together, when she told him she was “all in,” to getting married after she found out she was pregnant! And now she says she was reluctant from the beginning?
    Any who, I’ve seen this story before. She wants to erase him from that kids life, so she can later play the abandoned single mom card. Everything her mother and Ramona said about her is coming to light.

  26. Fancy says:

    I remember reading a blind that said something about a couple faking a divorce to drum up publicity for her new project. I could see Bethany doing something like that for her talk show. Maybe that’s why she’s being so vocal about how much it hurts, he still wears his ring, they have to “endure” living together.

  27. Kim says:

    She could move out, so could he. They are both playing a game by refusing to move out of the condo. Either they are both immature or the entire divorce is a publicity stunt.

  28. Emily says:

    You do not have to endure it, Ms. Rich Brat. YOU can move out. You have the money, you have the health, you have the freedom, you have bloody everything in the whole world. This is the kind of person who thinks standing in line to buy coffee is a horrible burden and violation of her rights, completely forgetting that 1) some people can’t afford coffee and 2) some people can’t even stand.

  29. LaurieH says:

    My take on it – starting with her show – was that she was never comfortable around Jason’s family or, more specifically, being part of a family (any family). It was pretty obvious that Jason came from a close-knit family and we know Bethany came from a broken dysfunctional family. She knew Jason was a family guy when she met him and thought that was what she wanted – only to realize she didn’t and couldn’t cope. And yet somehow, perennial victim Bethany made this Jason’s fault.

  30. EmmaStoneWannabe says:

    I feel sorry for Jason, their daughter and his parents. I hope he gets everything he is asking for. That little girl needs every bit of positivity she can get, esp coming from a poor-little-me mother like that. She needs to just hook up with that PATHETIC excuse of a shrink she has been going to for years. He is the only one who will sit and listen to her cry about herself endlessly. Would love to hear if he ever appears on her new talk show. Has to be the worst Psychiatrist I have ever witnessed…then again, he was constantly filmed dealing with a sad little person.

  31. eliza says:

    Is it bad that I am lusting after him?

  32. Lou says:

    Being in a “similar” situation, I can appreciate the stress it adds to everything happening in one’s life when you’re cooped up with a spouse that you’re in the process of divorcing. (Hello. I did it for almost a year.) However, my bank account and her bank account look much different and I’ve been in my own place since November. Losing a double income hurts—or at least it did for me. A lot. But if I can do it, so most definitely can she.

    I don’t buy the excuse that she “must endure” because that’s the way it is. What is she, Scarlett O’Hara now?

    More freaking fodder for her talk show. Guaranteed.

  33. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    Hoppy comes across as a decent dude, it will be interesting to see who he dates next.

  34. RHONYC says:

    she had reservations about Jason from the start and wished she’d paid attention to her own feelings.

    “Maybe that’s the first lesson learned: to go with my gut. Because I waited a long time to see if I even wanted to be in this relationship I didn’t go with my first instinct.”

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    WAY TO PUT ON RECORD THAT YOU REGRET HAVING YOUR KID A*SHOLE!!!

    *wiping Purell on my hands to be done with her*

    😡