Jennifer Lopez covers the October issue of Elle UK, which I’m assuming is promotion for her new single or whatever. Her last album came out in June, right? I’m not just hallucinating? J.Lo’s albums don’t have much of an impact in the music world, but she’s releasing a new single/collaboration with Iggy Azalea, which may mean that J.Lo gets more radio play (seriously, the radio stations love Iggy). Anyway, the Elle cover is lovely. Jennifer is SO PRETTY. But the interview? Eh, at least she’s self-aware. That’s all I’m giving her. Some highlights:
She still believes in The One: “I still believe in love. The nirvana man, he’s out there somewhere. But you just have to work at it. You have to work at everything. Every single album I have ever made is about love. But I am not going to give up. I’ve got to hope that if I keep going, I will eventually get it right.”
Her past relationship mistakes: “Everybody has seen that I make mistakes. I rush in, I get swept up and I ignore the signs. But so many of us are guilty of these things. Each time it goes wrong, it’s hard. I get really hurt but I have to let myself go: ‘What did I do? What can I learn?’ And as hard and as hurtful as things get, I want to believe I will be able to go one step higher. I’ve got to hope that if I keep going I will eventually get it right.”
Being a single mom is “not easy”: “I’m from a traditional background. It takes two people to make a kid for a reason. It’s tough because I know they feel the void of that male presence. When Marc and I first broke up, I did think: ‘I wish I could have held this together.’ But when you realise it’s not the right thing for anybody, you think: ‘OK, well how do we make this work, how do we make this better, how do we make this great for the children anyway?’”
[From Elle UK via The Daily Mail]
“I rush in, I get swept up and I ignore the signs.” YES. The self-awareness is good, Jenny. The problem is that all of that self-awareness is for naught. “What did I do? What can I learn?” Perhaps you should learn to NOT rush in, NOT get swept up, NOT ignore the signs. Perhaps? Because you just went back to Casper Smart, the man who cheated on you several times (and got caught) because you didn’t want to be alone. Ugh, Jenny. I love you but I hate the way you love.
I’m also including photos of J.Lo in the Hamptons over the weekend – this dress is Gucci and I love it. According to Page Six, everyone in the stuffy old Hamptons was shocked by her ensemble at the Hampton Classic Horse Show. Oh, and Page Six also said that Casper is in the Hamptons with her.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet and Elle UK.
That’s the thing….she NEVER learns from the past…I swear every time she breaks up with someone, she says the same thing, and then, the next thing you know, she madly in love again….but, man, I wish I knew her secret to the fountain of youth…she looks great!
She is genetically blessed. A stunning woman!
This is actually a good thing; she’s finally publicly acknowledging it. Good for J Lo, maybe this is a sign of change in her behaviour in the future.
I don’t think there is going to be a change. This is her pattern. She talks a good game but the truth will be seen in how she goes from here.
She is a beautiful woman, and I actually like her. But looking at her past relationships and the type of men she has dated.. I don’t know if she has ever had a relationship with a man that you would consider stable and strong enough to have his own thing and her too.
As I think about it there are maybe less than 5 couples you could name where people are on equal level as far as fame and power go.. heck right now I can only think of 2 or 3. She will have a hard time finding a partner on equal footing.
I don’t think Casper Smart was a mistake. He was a nice little filler in between husbands. They had a lot of fun together.
I’m still stuck on “dong haze” . . .
I know, my first big laugh of the morning.
Me too, nice way to start my day 🙂
It’s great that she has self-awareness, it can be the first step to getting better. It sounds like love is like an addiction for her, though. And in that case it could be a good idea to get some serious help. Robin Norwood wrote a classic book about this, Women who love too much.
What I like best about Jennifer, by the way, is her great star quality – though her singing voice is terrible. And I love that she doesn’t do botox or fillers, she actually looks great with a frown.
Admitting you’re dickmatized is the first step.
She should start “Dong Haze Anonymous” for all the other people suffering the addiction of the dong!!!!! lol
🙂
Problem is that she consistently stays There
Hi, My Name is Jennifer and Im A Dickmatized
*Everyone*: HI JENNI
D-cktimized by Caspar, though? Yuck. He does zero for me.
She really should just be single for a while, focus on herself, her kids, her work, whatever.
+1
She’s too old to act like this. JLo needs to focus on herself and her kids. Take time out to learn what she needs as a person.
Single mom? Is she calling herself that because she is single? lol
Does Marc not see his kids, support them or does she not get to use his nanny as well as her own so she is a single mom now?
The secret to being happy with a man is being happy and strong without one first. It’s that simple. You create a life that you love, that fulfills you and requires the engagement of your brains and your heart. You allow yourself to be a whole person. You don’t sit around waiting for Mr. Right. You buy good dishes if you want good dishes. You create a home for yourself. You love who you are and where you are. That’s when you attract someone who is worthy of your love, who wants a whole person to share a life with. And you don’t glom on to the first cute face because you’re desperate. You’re happy, so you wait until someone comes along who adds to that happiness, who wants to share it, who is happy in himself. Trust me, I’ve done it both ways.
So very well put. Hard to believe no one has given JLo this advice, or if someone has that it just doesn’t seem to sink in for her.
Very true! But I think the irony of the story in Jennifer’s case is that she is so beautiful and famous, that it must be hard for her to imagine that in spite of that she could have some issues with self-worth. Being beautiful, rich, professionally succesful and famous doesn’t automatically mean that you feel worthy of love deep down inside though…
I have done it both ways too and you are totally right Goodnames.
Preach it and young ones please LIsten! and when you have built a life, don’t allow a husband, wife, gf, bf take away this that you have built either. There are some that hate the opposite gender and want to destroy that person of that gender – calling controlling behaviours Love.
A huge, yet subtle red flag is when your ‘loved’ one wants you to give those dishes away becasue he doesn’t ‘like’ them or thinks they don’t ‘suit’ you. It is a slippery slope. If a person wants to give a part of you up – a hobby you like doing, clothes you like, you will be giving more of yourself up to suit them and they will never be happy until the ‘you-ness’ of you is gone. Also if the person talks negatively about their past partners and calls you any kind of name even if it is ‘nicely’ said – red flag – run.
THIS. Thank you. My sister always bent over backwards to change for whomever she was dating. She even rearranged her entire apt for a guy she was dating for two weeks, adopted a dog when she didn’t like dogs at all, the list goes on and on. At times I have literally not recognized who she is anymore. I wish I could figure out what was missing in her/our upbringing that she feels such a desperate need to not only be with someone (anyone), but to change/compromise so much, too.
Oh GNAT, you write exactly what I want to say. I got caught up in that “have to have someone in my life, everyone else does.”… but, then realized I couldn’t wait for someone else to make my life for me, so, I did exactly that, bought my own good china, bought my own house, and began to live my life for me, and learn about me…. when meeting the right guy for me at age 47, I could honestly say, my life is great, but, with him, it will enhance it, but…. if it wasn’t meant to be (meaning, if he didn’t feel the same), I would have still been alright. And, at our age we know that we want to spend our lives together, but, if something happened, both of us, would still be alright…. It was worth the wait…
+ 1 000 GNAT ! I wish more women could understand this…
I like her more and more. She has terrible taste in men, but awesome taste in loyalty to her friends. Plus, damn. She is drop dead perfection.
About radio stations “loving Iggy”, she was the main part of some blog post a few months ago “exposing” record labels for paying off radio stations to play their artists music and supposedly this new practice is different than how radio stations would get paid off before because now it’s so focused on one artist that the label wants to blow up and because they pay off the stations through a third party to not make it so obvious and now stations are fighting back against this. If I can find the post I’ll link it, it was pretty interesting and honestly made me happy to know that not that many people had been requesting Iggy to get played.
Kaiser, if you ever get tired of gossip, you’ve got a second career in song-writing. That line “I love you but I hate the way you love” is just gagging to be made into some big sweeping ballad. Preferably sung by J-Lo with hair flicks and big expansive arm gestures. SO MANY ARM GESTURES.
I want that dress! J to the Lo, I absolutely admire your body.
She can FIND love, but like Halle Berry, has no skills to sustain it.
Awareness you have a problem is the first step, Jennifer. Now fix the problem!
Eventually get it right and learn? Your last guy was a boy toy dancer you immediately promoted to choreographer, and not even hot, who from the moment you got together acted like a star and you encouraged it (so I guess I can’t blame him), and he also likes transvestites. You ignored the photo of him the year before caught coming from a peep show known to be frequented by gays. And still you paid his way for another year. Girl, you are going down, not going up, as far as your relationships and quality of men.
And when you repeatedly ignore warning signs for years and years with men, it’s called being afraid to be alone.
Jennifer is so beautiful and funny and smart. I guess I don’t understand why she isn’t dating someone worthy.
I think she isn’t dating someone “worthy” because there are guys like that around her. She’s surrounded by adoring fans, her manager and team, other celebrities… Casper wasn’t a celebrity before she started dating him. I’d assume she was hoping he was a good man.
Number one rule that I have learned for the old and young – Don’t get with a person who has alchohol as their lifestyle – your life will be a living HELL. You will be screamed at for leaving your jacket in the wrong place, romance will consist of jabs and pokes and burps, talked at, not talked with, your life consumed with trying to beg a person to respect you. Stay off this path no matter what – bringing kids into this will make their lives hell too as will staying in it for the sake of the kids. Alcohol has two sides – Dr Jeckll and Mr Hyde.
I remember in 9th grade Physical Science–I had an AWESOME teacher. Seriously–every year afterwards, I would bring him stuff that I baked. But anyway–he had a ‘life science’ lesson one day. Basically about how you shouldn’t let yourself be rushed, or pushed into alcohol. And he told us that when he went to M. Tech, he told himself that he wouldn’t drink for a year–so he could focus on school.
But what changed his mind was something that happened with his boss–as in he is totally abstinent. He said his boss was the NICEST guy ever….when he was sober. But once he got off work, he was a HARD drinker. And my teacher said once he saw that his boss had been up all night drinking, and had wanted to go to bed–but his boss’s girlfriend was trying to pull him back outside, because he had to go to work. And his boss turned and kicked her so hard in the stomach that she had to have surgery–because he’d messed her reproductive organs up so badly, that if she hadn’t had surgery, she wouldn’t have been able to have kids.
if that kept you off alcohol that was good for your teacher to tell you that – I think young people perhaps need to be told stories like this so they don’t choose the path of drinking alcohol as a lifestyle or to be with an alcoholic partner. I hope the girlfriend had the strength to leave and did not stay and have kids with that.
I don’t know about “the signs”… like how can she even meet anyone 100% a normal person in her circle? I’m sure she thought that Casper was sweet and seemed so good with her children. ANd she seems to need to be in a relationship at all times, so it must be hard for her.
I accidentally read the headline as “….dong haze: I rush in and ignore the size.” I like it better than the real headline.
You are awesomely truthful.
I’ll admit I really like her, but yeah, she needs to do something about that asap. She deserves and can do wayyyy better.