Star: Patricia Arquette & Ethan Hawke fought before Oscars, were removed

New York premiere of 'Boyhood'
In her many acceptance speeches this awards season, Patricia Arquette thanked her costar Ethan Hawke nearly every time, including at the SAG Awards, Golden Globes and Oscars. In her Globes speech she even said that “Ethan reminded me of my own father.” You get the impression that those two are close, but according to Star Magazine they may not be best buddies. Star claims they were fighting so much before the Oscars that they had to be sent to a side room to calm down, lest they interrupt the ceremony.

“There has been tension between them for a long time,” says an insider. “Ethan made some snide comments years ago about her family, and Patricia has never gotten over that. Now he can’t stand that she’s getting so much acclaim and he is kind of an afterthought.” Things came to a boiling point at the Oscars, when the two – nominated for Best Supporting Actor and Actress – started bickering just before the ceremony started. “He didn’t like that she had a better seat than he did. He thought it was disrespectful,” says the source, who was also an eyewitness. “It got so heated, they were ushered into a small room that was being used for seat fillers. She told him to shut up and get over himself.”

[From Star Magazine, print edition, March 16, 2015]

If this really happened these two got over it quick. I re-watched the video of Arquette getting her Oscar and she hugged her boyfriend, artist Eric White, and then she hugged Ethan, just one row behind her and also in an aisle seat. She even kissed Ethan’s wife. This sounds like B.S. to me. I also Twihard proofed this story by rewatching the opening number (you’re welcome) and Arquette and Hawke were there, they’re at about 7:46 into this video. (With the incredible Chiwetel Ejifor one row behind them.) So if this story is true, they recovered quickly enough to make it back before the show started. That said, I can see tempers flaring before a big stress-filled event like this. Many friends and couples get into arguments, it doesn’t mean they can’t stand each other or are jealous or whatever.

Here’s a screenshot of these two during the opening ceremony:
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Patricia has a new interview with Time Magazine to promote her role on CSI: Cyber. As she did in her interview with Buzzfeed (which we covered yesterday), she claimed that the comments she made backstage at the Oscars (in which she said “it’s time for all the women in America and all the men that love women, and all the gay people, and all the people of color that we’ve all fought for to fight for us now.”) were misconstrued. She said “I don’t think people really understood what I meant by that. I don’t think they understood what I was talking about, exactly. This is a huge discrimination issue affecting women across America. It affects whole lives — the impact of this.” I don’t think Arquette understands that people weren’t responding to her excellent comments about wage inequality during her speech, they were in large part (except for the hacks at Fox News) responding to her calling out other groups for not supporting women’s issues. She does make good points of course.

On the red carpet these two look close. That doesn’t mean they don’t argue occasionally though.
2015 Film Independent Spirit Awards - Press Room

SBIFF 2015 - American Riviera Award

Also here’s Patricia at The Noble Awards, which honor celebrity philanthropists. Gurl, what are you wearing?!
The 3rd Annual Noble Awards - Arrivals

photo credit: WENN.com

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  1. aims says:

    I loved her speech. I was right up there with Meryl on my couch yelling, “yes!”

  2. luffy says:

    by saying “all the gays, and all the people of color”, it sounds like shes forgetting that there are gay women and women of color and gay women of color. it seems her feminism is not very intersectional.

    • Sayrah says:

      Seriously?

    • g0tch4 says:

      She said people, not gay men, men of colour. I don’t see what you see.

    • Kiddo says:

      It sounds like she is doubling down on the dumb part.

    • MtnRunner says:

      Oh pahleeeze! Stop splitting hairs, luffy. You complain that every possible category wasn’t covered in her speech. Just listen to the spirit of what she said, will you?

      • Brittney B says:

        “Every possible category wasn’t covered”? More like “every possible woman” wasn’t covered.

        Luffy isn’t complaining that every possible category wasn’t covered in her speech, but that many, many women were confined to a *separate* category, in her speech and then repeatedly afterwards.

        The problem is what she implied during the speech, and directly stated immediately afterwards. “Categories” (entire communities, actually) were actively EXCLUDED and separated. Women, “gays” and people of color are not three distinct groups. They all intersect.

        This is important, because lack of intersectionality is poisoning the feminist movement and oppressing millions of women (cis-women and trans women alike). It’s not splitting hairs, and it’s not something we should dismiss in favor of the “spirit” of what she said. Words themselves are our greatest tool… not ideas or intentions.

      • hannahf says:

        I agree. The spirit of what she said is more important and for one specific reason. These statements were made in a press room just minutes after she won an Oscar. It’s the most prestigious award bestowed in her profession and obviously overwhelms many people. My point is that minutes after such a momentous occasion I wouldn’t expect her or any other winner to fully and completely articulate their thoughts.

      • meh says:

        @mtnrunner, you are missing the point.

    • Gabriella says:

      This exactly. Women of color, gay women, and gay women of color are all at the intersections most often overlooked. What she said during the speech- right on lady. And like, I’m not even gonna hate on the comments afterwards- she likely hasn’t been exposed to the ideas of intersectionality. The problem really comes when white feminists double down and get defensive as though being able to constructively criticize public comments is somehow slowing their progress down.

      • Gabriella says:

        My point is proven above me. Let’s not forget that feminism has long had race issues. This isn’t a new conversation.

      • katy says:

        Feminism has had issues with racism because during the civil rights movement, both the race and women’s rights movements were going on but race took more precedence. Not saying that women didn’t make any headway during the time, but the main focus was race and women were put on the back burner. I’m also not saying it was wrong or right – it’s just what happened, and even still there is still work to be done for true equality for all.

        On another note, I was actually completely taken aback by all the hate that white feminists get. In all of my time volunteering in my community’s NOW group, I have never seen that in person. It’s only on the internet that I see an immense hatred for white feminists. Granted, I live in a city that is very liberal and diverse, and very proud to be liberal and diverse. I’ve met feminists from every walk of life and we all get along because of the way that we all recognize each others different histories and different focuses, and we bring them all in to a group focus.

        I’m just not sure where the hate comes from – as someone who is white, a woman, and a feminist, I never thought about anything as a “black woman” issue or “white woman” issue. I don’t hate black, Mexican, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, or Middle Eastern feminists; I don’t hate lesbian, trans, pan, gender fluid, non-binary, asexual feminists; Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu feminists; or however a feminist would like to identify, and if one cares strongly for something as a feminist, then I know that it deserves attention. I guess in my community, we all just naturally work together and value each other.

        Not trying to garner hate here, either. Just not sure what happened there – I feel like I missed something.

    • meh says:

      I agree. Her rhetoric completely betrays the fact that she thinks of “women” as “women who are like me: white straight women” and it’s gross and embarrassing that she can’t accept that criticism gracefully. Especially when intersectionality and inclusiveness has been a problem in feminist activism for so long.

  3. minx says:

    I’m smh at all these stories from the Star–they are not even worth citing, IMO.

  4. Dree says:

    I can see him throwing a strop and her telling him to get over it and that its no big deal. They probably did that 100s of times during the filming of Boyhood. He seems like he can be difficult but i think you worked with someone for 12 years there a familiarity there where you can have a dispute and get over it quickly. Its like an old friend or family member.

    • Snazzy says:

      yes exactly! You work with someone closely for 12 years the relationship becomes much more familiar – they probably argue all the time and get over it just as quickly.

    • lucy2 says:

      I agree.
      Plus if he was mad about his seat (seriously?) it’s not like she did the seating arrangements.

    • Angie says:

      I was just about to write this exact comment. I bet they are almost like family now. So yeah I can imagine them having a little tiff and then getting over it. They’ve probably got a really interesting bond now. I was quite touched when she said in her Golden Globes speech that Ethan reminded her of her father.

  5. zinjojo says:

    Got distracted reading the story…mmmm Chiwetel!

    • CharlotteCharlotte says:

      We watched ‘Kinky Boots’ the other week. He is gorgeous and super talented. My partner hasn’t stopped talking about him.

  6. Siedhr says:

    Unfortunately, the first episode of CSI Cyber is awful and stupid and Patricia is totally phoning it in.

    • Celebitchy says:

      I could only get through 10 minutes of it. I find those hyped cybercrime stories so hard to watch.

      • Kiddo says:

        And there is a gazillion of them. The acting in all of them is the same, and I believe, it must be by direction. They all have flat affect, which I guess is supposed to signal ‘serious’, but it’s so apparent and unnatural all I hear is ‘drone’. I couldn’t get past the promos for it, never mind watching the show.

    • FingerBinger says:

      I didn’t hate it. I give a C+ or maybe a B-. The cast is so random too. Patricia Arquette, James Van Der Beek and Bow Wow,whose real name is Shad.

  7. Size Does Matter says:

    Not buying it. They would have seated him behind her to be able to get shots of them in the same frame. He would understand that.

  8. friday says:

    Comparing her appearance in Boyhood to that at Oscars: do you guys think she got a bunch of botox or fillers? If so, that’s really depressing, since it was so nice to see a successful american actress in her 40s ageing naturally. Maybe she felt pressure for the TV gig, like Robin Wright?

    Also, this story about the fight sounds like total fiction.

  9. lila fowler says:

    Yeah, right. Sounds like a made-up story. He looked like he was close to (happy) tears when she won.

  10. burnsie says:

    What’s “twihard proofing”?

    • Norman Bates' Mother says:

      Twihard is a term used to describe die-hard Twilight fans. When there’s a rumor concerning Kristen Stewart or Robert Pattinson and Twihards have a problem with it, they research everything so thoroughly just to find a tiniest proof against said rumor, it verges on obsessiveness. It makes CSI technicians looks like kindergartners in comparison. That obsessiveness and thoroughness earned them a term “twihard proofing.” So I think in this context, it means that Celebitchy spend way to much time and energy on researching this issue and trying to find any indication that Star made it all up.

  11. Norman Bates' Mother says:

    Whenever there’s a title “Star: something, something” I automatically assume it’s bullshit, even when it concerns someone I dislike, like Ethan Hawke or Leann. If it were true, some other tabloid would write about it when it mattered – just after the Oscars. Now it seem like someone run out of stories and tried to find a way to milk the Oscars some more.

    • Kiddo says:

      Plus the issue, seating, would be something that they would bring up with organizers. Who in their right mind, outside of a 5 YO, would start an argument of “Your seat is better than my seat, I want it’? I think someone might have a bug up their ass about not getting a good seat, but they would talk to organizers about it in a sneaky way, or bitch about it to others. I just don’t see this as a legit confrontation. It’s like that commercial -w- Steve Buscemi and “Marsha Marsha Marsha’.

  12. ilovesunnydaze says:

    She should have just accepted the award and said thanks. Not the time or place.

  13. Deb says:

    “Gurl” is wearing her Hogwarts dress robes. 😉

  14. Kay V says:

    I love this chick

  15. Zombie Shortcake says:

    “…Now he can’t stand that she’s getting so much acclaim and he is kind of an afterthought.”
    That’s pretty much what happened with his marriage to Uma

  16. perplexed says:

    I wonder if maybe she’s just not that articulate of a person. She doesn’t sound that good with words. Her words could be parsed for being exclusionary, but her words put together move very quickly from one point to another without being that coherent that I’m not really sure what she’s trying to say about different categories of women when she uses the term “we.” The only real point I understood was the point she made during her Oscar speech that women should have wage equality which I agree with.