Hayley Atwell is best known for her immaculate portrayal of Agent Carter on ABC. Carter is the woman who entranced Captain America and inspired his boy-scout celibacy, and she’s also a Marvel entity who attracts their hardcore fandom. Seriously, the Marvel actors have to deal with all sorts of weird, obsessive behavior. Those fans could give the Twihards a run for their parents’ money. The actors are aware of this (to a degree) when they sign on for these roles, but the fan enthusiasm must be overwhelming. Handlers can keep things under control at events, but social media ends up being a free for all.
Young people, especially, have adopted a newish fan practice of tweeting “mom” or “dad” at their favorite celebrities. Most of the time, this is a harmless (and some say “endearing“) gesture meant to express something like “You’re so cool, I wish you were my mom.” Other instances — like some I’ve seen in replies to Chris Evans — can get pretty explicit. “F*** me, daddy” and much worse, for example. What happened here with Atwell seems pretty innocent. A fan hinted at her “mom” for a birthday tweet. Atwell called her creepy and blocked the fan immediately. Here’s part of the ongoing exchange:
@HayleyAtwell TODAY IS MY BDAY MOM
— Fitzsimmons❁ (@xoxoMaximoff) September 19, 2015
@xoxoMaximoff I'm not your 'MOM'
— Hayley Atwell (@HayleyAtwell) September 19, 2015
@HayleyAtwell OH GOD
— Fitzsimmons❁ (@xoxoMaximoff) September 19, 2015
This 'mom' calling business is creepy. Consider yourself blocked, people!
— Hayley Atwell (@HayleyAtwell) September 19, 2015
You blocked me just because I call you "mom" , … sorry … Today is my birthday and I did not expect that @HayleyAtwell
— Fitzsimmons❁ (@xoxoMaximoff) September 19, 2015
@HayleyAtwell it's creepy that teenagers admire and look up to u as a successful woman? idgi
— phan puppy nad (@ronanandadam) September 19, 2015
@ChrissymayKatie don't care. It's creepy.
— Hayley Atwell (@HayleyAtwell) September 19, 2015
Was Hayley justified in shutting down a fan like this, especially on her birthday? I see it both ways. Yes, the “mom” thing is kinda creepy, and Atwell seems to make the point that real moms don’t deserve to be discounted by celebrity worship. Yet this fan was doing what all other teenagers do, and she received a major slap in the face from someone she respected. Yes, it’s a dumb trend, but this teenager was doing nothing out of the ordinary when compared to her peers. The way Atwell shut her down was at least a little bit cruel. I wouldn’t see it that way if Atwell didn’t know it was the girl’s birthday. It hurts (a lot) to receive a celebrity-on-civilian smackdown, especially if the rebuke followed a positive gesture. Anyway, I hope this girl didn’t take the slight personally, but it probably ruined her birthday.
Photos courtesy of WENN
Not really familiar with Atwell but I don’t blame her. Just because “everyone” is doing something on Twitter doesn’t mean anyone should have to put it up with it if they find it stupid or inappropriate. And really, if Hayley Atwell blocking you on Twitter ruined your birthday, boo hoo. Grow up and stop calling strangers “mom.”
This has been going on for years and why it can be very uncomfortable for some celebs it’s better than some of the things that are on Twitter. I follow RDJ and so many teens call him dad but at least most of them realize he is too old for them to tweet something sexual or lustful. Note I did say some teens, not all.
But Atwell if you’re that sensitive here’s some advice. Stay off Twitter because you could be called much worse than mom.
True. Eventhough Haley won’t stay off Twitter-she loves the attention a little too much. I smelll a Famewhore!!
I think she’s said in the past (on Twitter maybe?) that she doesn’t like the whole mom/mum thing.
100 agree – it’s freaking weird.
yeah, such a bad taste, eew.
If it is a teenager (plenty of fans in their 20s do this too…), I feel bad for her, but…
It IS creepy and weird and I don’t blame Atwell for calling it out.
I think a lots of them say it is their birthday in the hope it will get them a response. Some just send the same text dozens of times. When an actor does respond you get a lot of people mirroring the style or content of the person who got a response and some get nasty when they get nothing. It is creepy and whatever they do someone will complain.
Teenagers are so dumb
I didn’t know that this was the norm, I don’t look at celebrity tweets, but calling someone mom or dad conveys intimacy. I wouldn’t like it either.
Supposedly it’s because they “give you life.” Your idol gives you life like mom and dad did. It’s so dumb. Teens these days are dumber than teens were in the 2000’s, aka, me. They all follow each other’s stupidity online. At least our stupidity stayed private. They all are missing the self-awareness chip.
Haha, you’re calling out teens for being dumber than you were when you were a teenager. You are officially old, out of touch and uncool. Now go drink a nice glass of wine and read a book instead of hanging around the comment section on a gossip website.
Oh come on, the fan is not ten years old (which is about when you should stop expecting the world to bend over backwards for you because it’s your birthday). She’s a teenager and she made someone very uncomfortable. Consequences for your actions- even on (gasp!) your birthday- are a reality.
Team whoever-that-celebrity-is
The smackdown was undeserved I think. Teenagers can be stupid so what? There is a way to get them to see their mistakes without crushing their spirits.
Hayley’s been pretty clear about her distaste for this trend before, right? So…boundary established and lines crossed. The girl got what she deserved.
It can be creepy but perhaps Hayley should stay off social media if she is creeped out by being called mom by a teen. There are worse things she can be called.
@goats on the roof, why would you want to smack down a teen?? there are plenty of horrible adults on twitter who are far more deserving. there are ways to discourage young people whose brain isn’t even fully developed, without being a bully.
@ELL
Her behaviour was inappropriate. A block on Twitter is hardly spirit breaking and may teach others a thing or two about respecting boundaries.
I’m with Goats, why is it so wrong for a teen to have to deal with consequences of their actions especially on social media, it doesnt happen enough if you ask me. Its not like Atwell drove to her house and ran over her puppy. She’s said not to do it, and it was ignored by her fans, so this happened. Welcome to life.
Why is she engaging fans directly on social media?? That to me is worse than the smackdown itself.
I’m with V4Real, there is much, much worse fan behavior on twitter and if a celeb can’t deal with it, perhaps they shouldn’t be engaging with it. Some don’t (Cumberbatch) and their careers don’t suffer for it.
I don’t think anyone is looking at this in another way. Like I said I don’t see Hayley blocking the teens who tweets that they think she’s beautiful, sexy and how they would like to date her. But she blocks a teen for calling her mom. IMO Hayley is bothered by the “mom thing” because these teens are actually saying you’re old enough to be my mother. It’s a vanity thing with Hayley. Are they saying I look old enough to be a mom of a teenager. How dare they. I don’t look like a mom.
It’s like when someone is guessing your age and they guess you to be older than you are. You find it a bit insulting or it can mess with your self-esteem. Damn, do I look that old. I think Hayley sees it as an insult because they are aging her, not that she thinks it’s inappropriate. If that was the case she wouldn’t accept all those sexiness and I want to go out with you tweets from a teen.
V4real you could very well be reaching in your reasoning, none of us have any idea why she finds it creepy. Hell I would and it has nothing to do with age, it’s weirdly infantile yet overly familiar at the same time and would probably stick out amongst the usual sexual stuff. Maybe she was sick of it and this broke the camel’s back. I’m sure the kid will live and she might learn a valuable lesson about properly engaging with strangers – not to mention entitlement.
I agree. If my son does something wrong on his birthday, he gets *gasp* punished – he’s 5. If Hayley doesn’t like being called “mom” by random strangers and has said so, she has all right to block that person. There’s nothing wrong with putting children/teenagers in their place. If you wait until they’re adults, those traits might well be set-in.
So what if she doesn’t mind being called sexy, she is (to some). She’s nobody’s mom. Why should she have to stay off social media (as opposed to blocking out what she doesn’t care for), but the teenager should be coddled and catered to like an infant?
Let me see if I got this right.
Teen calling a 33 year old woman mom is bad.
Teen saying you’re hot; I want to date and have sex with you is good.
Thanks
Got it.
Agree with Hayley. Its just creepy and the fact that the girl was whining about it made her look even more stupid that calling a complete stranger ‘Mom’ (which is bad enough when you get toddlers doing it on the street but they are forgiven as they are toddlers).
Teenagers are generally very self absorbed anyway (most of us were at that age) but social media takes it to a whole new level.
The thing thats odd to me is that these days just because someone is a teen, then they have to be protected from consequences and/or being reprimanded.
I’m sorry, but your idolisation of a celebrity and calling them “mum” or “dad” is creepy and the fact that you’re still a child has no bearing on my finding it so. But if I call you out on it, I’m the one in the wrong because you’re part of the special snowflake generation.
Hayley being on social media doesn’t mean she has to compromise what she finds creepy or not. Just like the teenagers on social media who feel entitled to say whatever they want to celebrities etc., she has the right to express her distaste for the new ‘fad’.
The whole, “but it’s my birthday” thing, means nothing either. Your birthday is important to you & your friends & family. It doesn’t automatically entitle you to a free pass with the rest of the world.
And yes @Betti
we were all self absorbed as teens, but we more than likely had people (parents, teachers, etc) who weren’t afraid to reel us in. Social media is one thing pushing a sense of entitlement on the youth of today, but the parents and others involved with guiding these kids are a huge part of it too.
Everything you said!
I agree about the special snowflake generation. What Hayley said and did was hardly a smackdown. Also, it is new information to me that on your birthday there is some waiver that prevents people from saying things that might hurt your feelings teenager or not. Tweeting a stranger and calling her mom I find weird rather than creepy. Either way if it made me uncomfortable I would just block.
She tweets pretty regurly for people not to call her mom, so the fan should’ve known better. Still it’s kinda cruel for her just to shut them down that way.
Yep. That about sums it up.
Ah, that’s what I was wondering. If she’s made it clear she doesn’t want that and will block those that do, then she’s perfectly justified in doing that. If the fan can’t respect her wishes, then they deserve to be blocked, as they were warned would happen.
I’ve never heard of this trend, but it sounds incredibly stupid.
eh, i find Hayley Atwell to be incredibly thirsty for attention in pretty much any capacity (remember how she was all over Tom Hiddleston when he was big as Loki?) but I can understand why she did what she did. She has mentioned before that it creeps her out. I’m not sure if she went about it a nice way though, it’s kinda harsh to do this to someone, especially if they’re a fan.
But it’s like you said, her fandom is hardcore crazy about her and think she’s a perfect princess or whatever so it’s not as if they’re gonna call her out. Marvel actors get a free pass like that.
Yeah, kinda with you on that. Kind of getting Atwell fatigue in the way I got Hiddleston fatigue.
The “mom” and “dad” thing is creepy and if she’s addressed it before, then the fan should have known better. Not sure I would have called out that particular tweet to make a point, though. But eh, who knows.
I agree. She is incredibly thirsty for attention (see her use of her friendship with Chris Evans… In Twitter… For everyone to see, every time). She trolls her fans hard, again, for attention.
That being said, the ‘mom’ thing is a bit much. I wouldn’t like it either.
I wouldn’t like this but I have to be honest, it seems like a pretty big over-reaction on her part. The girl in question is basically being torn apart by Twitter and given how nasty Twitter is it seems like she picked an odd person to be thrown to the wolves…
this.
Agree. Just say “I’d rather you not call me Mom.” Get over yourself.
Except she’s done that alot. And blocked other people before. Her twitter feed her rules.
In that case, I would just ignore it and the birthday girl. I get that she doesn’t like being called Mom, but her blocking the girl just seems like an overreaction to me.
I totally agree. Great to set boundaries but I feel it was a bit ridiculous.
this
She earned her block and ruined her own birthday.
Happy Blockday!!
Lol. Brill.
+1
If you read some of this girl’s other tweets, she gets a little creepier. She’s constantly tweeting to celebrities how she loves them and wants them to notice her.
See, that’s the sad thing. People can throw all their judgements on Hayley, without looking at the broader problem that this girl is wasting her life obsessing over celebrities noticing her or not. That’s a huge social issue in my eyes. There is a disconnect from reality that I don’t understand.
Yep Bej, I agree completely.
Careful what you wish for – her celeb crush noticed her alright.
Yep, if your birthday’s ruined by a celebrity calling you out, maybe get off your Twitter & actually interact with the real people you actually know.
Some teens need to learn respect and actions/consequenses within social media. HA stated she does’t like the “mom” trend. As a fan, you respect that. You call her mom regardless, so she blocks you. Don’t expect any sympathy. She said she’d block. Her feed, her rules. just because it’s the thing with teens, doesn’t mean she needs to have it on her twitter feed if she doesn’t want it.
Seems like a dumb thing to say and a dumb thing for atwell to respond to. Does she freak out every time someone makes a weird tweet? Then maybe she should get off twitter.
This.
Yeah, I agree!
frankly calling anyone mom without their permission or without a long-term symbolic mother child relationship is moronic, creepy and smells like a discount Oedipus complex – grow up kids just because someone is on the TV screen in your bedroom it doesn’t mean you have a relationship with them.
If you look at this kid’s tweets, her entire timeline is a parade of thirst. She literally tweets at celebs “notice me”, “do you know how much I love you”, “why won’t you respond to me”.
I have a lot less of a problem with her following a stupid trend (as we all did when teenagers) and more that she acts extremely entitled to the time and energy of complete strangers. Regardless of whether you think it’s creepy or not (I do), if this kid loves Hayley Atwell that much she knows that she doesn’t like being called mom because this is the fourth time Hayley has addressed it. To keep doing it anyway is disrespectful of her so-called idol’s wishes.
+1
Does she really tweet stuff like, “why won’t you respond to me?” Damn, that’s some Leanne Rimes level of tweet addiction, and so young too.
I’m wondering if Atwell has had prior exchanges with this person that would have prompted this reaction. She’s pretty cool in general. Her tweets challenging Evans and the Agents of SHIELD cast to lip synch battles and such are rather funny. She does interact with her fanbase more than most. She attended the Comic-Con here in Boston this summer and tweeted pictures of the things people gave her
If you look at the girl’s twitter timeline its mostly full of celebrity type posts – nothing about her own life so its no stretch to come to the conclusion that the girl is a celebrity attention seeker who got what she wanted – attention from a celeb.
And yes Hayley is pretty twitter savvy.
Unpopular opinion probably but sometimes teens need to be lightly smacked down. Personally I think it’s not done enough, or parents teaching them about social media and how to conduct yourself on it.
Harsh I know but honestly, such is life. She’s said she doesn’t like it so don’t do it, or get called out. That is what happened.
I do agree that there are far, far worse things on social media and maybe she does deal with that, doesn’t negate her right to tell someone off for doing something she has asked them not to.
Just because you watch someone on a screen doesn’t give you a free pass to their life. You engage a celebrity on social media? Great, follow their rules. Each celebrity has a comfort zone and it sounds like Atwell has made it clear that being calked mom creeps her out. I wouldn’t like it either, but what you or I or the neighbour would find acceptable does not matter. Her Twitter account, her rules, if she says I don’t like it, how hard is it to not say it??
And for those who think HA was harsh… Please. She blocked the person. Big deal. Birthday or not, doesn’t change the rules because no one is a special snowflake to be so indulged on their bday.
Perfect comment is perfect. 👌
Yup.
+1
agree to the 100th
I’m with the celebrity here.
Then again, I hate being called ‘love’, ‘darling’, ‘sweetheart’,’sister’, ‘babe’ by complete strangers and my reaction is always,’i’m not your x’ whenever someone uses them to me.
It’s inappropriate. Period.
I’m with LAK, actually. Being called ‘babe’ or the like by total strangers is creepy and inappropriate.
If she is calling a stranger Mom, how can you be sure it is her birthday?
Was Atwell suppose to wait until the next day, to tell her stop calling her Mom and block her?
I bet she not going to be calling anyone else Mom now.
It’s creepy and weird and Hayley doesn’t like it. It’s odd that celebrities get attacked for not liking what “fans” do. They do have feelings too and shouldn’t have to put up with something just because a “fan” likes it.
absolutely agree with you
i can’t believe people are siding with atwell, and I’m glad bedhead isn’t. come on! yes, it’s a ridiculous trend and it does sound weird, BUT it doesn’t warrant actual blocking. it’s not a threat to her, and if it bothered her to be addressed as “mom” she could have just ignored the tweet.
i never really liked hayley tbh, agreed she’s very thirsty for attention and by what i’ve seen of her on tumblr, seems to be tweeting/instagramming/feeding her fanbase all the time. this is the thing some celebs don’t get; if you engage with your fanbase at this attention whoring level, then it’s difficult to back down.
ETA: also someone whose twitter description is about the awards she’s been nominated for, is already someone who does my head in without even knowing anything about her.
Now this is a perfect comment.
And yet she has no problem with teens saying how beautiful and sexy she is and that they want to date her.
exactly, I agree with this and with your comment upthread. people are so bothered by what teens are into these days, they fail to see the bigger picture.
I have to agree! While its a silly trend , every single one of us has been part of some silly trend at some point. The whole Mom and Dad thing is suppose to come across as more of a sign of respect than anything, like I admire this person so much. Yes I wouldn’t run around calling people mom but I’m also not a teen. I would rather see a mom comment than some other nasty thing someone COULD be writing. Pick your battles.
She did pick her battles, you just don’t care for the one she chose. Her feed, her rules. I don’t know why teens being dumb suddenly entitles them to all the free passes, if I was being dumb as a teen I was pulled into line. Somehow I survived and I got a lot worse punishment than a blocking on Twitter. Jeez.
On Hayley’s side here. She has said it before, and very clearly that she finds being called mum creepy. She doesn’t have to put up with it.
I wasn’t aware of this mom/dad trend… It’s so creepy! Anyway, it’s not like Hayley was loving being called like that and suddenly changed the mood, so the girl should’ve known better.
It’s funny how attention-thirsty people can make you hate and pity them at the same time, since I’m a bit sorry for her.
It’s truly weird. The first I heard of it was from RuPaul’s Drag Race. I was reading the reddit sub for it and would constantly see twitter screenshots posted where fans call the drag performers Mom. And those people tweeting it were grown adults so my confusion was off the charts. LOL.
I actually pitied PMK yesterday for about 10 seconds. I saw a commercial where she was crying as she cleaned Bruce’s clothes out of their closet, and was saying I can’t believe he’s gone. I know it was scripted and I know she is an attention ho of the highest order, but I felt sorry for her for a couple of seconds.
eh, i don’t like her but what does her weight have to do with anything??
i see that this is a trend amongst youngsters now. my teenage son has a study group that rotates around the member’s houses and one of the days they congregated at mine, a member–who’s a girl–talked really long about “the dads”. after listening for quite a while, i realized that she’s not talking about her real dad but these two young celebs (members of a boyband i think).
but from what i learned from my son long afterwards (me being a busybody mother telling my son not to go calling other people who are not his real parents mom or dad), these celebs don’t really mind, and they actually respond to the fans who call them dads in a positive way (almost encouraging?).
he added that many teenagers show their appreciation to the celebs by saying “adopt me!” but that doesn’t mean that they hated their real parents.
“chill out mom,” my son said, when he saw me terror stricken (i was struck by a sudden bout of self-doubt basically). “it’s not like i really mean it when i ask them to ‘adopt me’. it’s just a figure of speech… teenage speak.”
so yeah, i can sort of get why some celebs (and some real parents) may not appreciate it when their teenaged sons/daughters call out celebs as “mom”, “dad”, “dream (read:pretend) parents”, “adopt me!”
“these celebs don’t really mind”
Atwell has said she minds on numerous occasions so I’m with her on this.
I find the whole thing odd and at risk of sounding like an old fart, honestly twitter and most social media breeds this entitlement culture where fans think they own a part of celebs and owed something. You don’t and aren’t, if they say they don’t like something then knock it off and don’t stalk them (pr their friends and family) for follows or answers.
that was what i was trying to say.
the words “these celebs” allude specifically to the two boyband members i mentioned in my post, not celebs in general.
i apologize if i wasn’t so clear before.
i truly understand from the article that Hayley has made it clear that she doesn’t like it; i’m just juxtaposing it with celebs that -do- like it.
there are some celebs that don’t mind, and there are celebs that do mind. however, some teenagers veer on not understanding why those do mind, do. because to them it’s harmless.
and it’s not just celebs, actually. there may be some parents who may mind that their children quite openly call strangers or talk about calling strangers mom/dad/dreamparents or call for celebs to adopt them. i know some parents that are constantly trying to be the best parents they can be, parents who are already second-guessing themselves and spreading themselves too thin, only to hear their children say “i wish celeb xyz is my mom”. and even if it is said in a jesting way, who knows.
i know a lot of things are “harmless bit of fun” in the eyes of the teenagers, but teenagers need to understand that there are undercurrents to that too. that there are some other people’s feelings other than said teenager’s, that are equally valuable, that must be taken into account also.
maybe i’m just being too sensitive, etc.
@lindy79 the issue also lies with the way celebs conduct themselves on social media, it isn’t just the fans being “entitled”, and I speak as someone who isn’t even on any social media (with the exception of tumblr, but mostly to reblog pretty pics) and has an aversion to it. celebs engage in this constant getting attention from the fans, then whine when there are no boundaries. it’s annoying.
i also completely disagree with your idea of smacking teens down. I’m in my 20s, but my youngest sister is still a teen and yes she needs to be taught boundaries, but there are far less bully-like ways to do it. teen agers’ brains aren’t even fully formed yet. atwell had every right to discourage this sort of behaviour, but overreacting with a teen was uncalled for. smack down actual adults who know exactly what they’re doing instead! i would respect her a lot more.
No you’re right completely!
Sorry I was copying that part of your message as that was a lot of the arguments against Atwell I’m seeing, the whole “its harmless, there are worse things on twitter” and yes it probably was harmless and yes there are worse things on twitter but actions have consequences and I must have missed the memo where no one is allowed to tell a teenager off for anything?
@ell, I personally don’t call this bullying, I see it as exactly what you have said, Atwell setting boundaries after her previous requests were ignored so she stepped it up and blocked. She didn’t send her abuse, she didn’t harrass her or encourage others to, she simply told her off and blocked her, how is that bullying, simply because it was to a teenager?? It may be harsh but Atwell has asked people not to call her that, it was ignored and this is the result. Teenagers are not some alien species walking out of a cave fr the first time, they are young adults.
I think if Atwell made said that she didn’t like to be called mom before then she should have just block the girl. There was no need to engage in conversation with this girl.
Like I said up thread Hayley has an issue with a teen harmlessly calling her mom. But she doesn’t have an issue with teens saying how sexy and beautiful she is and how they want to date her. If she’s going to tell a teenager off, why don’t she tell them off for that.
I bet the truth of the matter is that Hayley is offended by being called mom because she looks at it as wow these teens think I’m old enough to be their mom. It’s a vanity thing.
And like Neah23 said. She could have just blocked the girl without commentary.
“I bet the truth of the matter is that Hayley is offended by being called mom because she looks at it as wow these teens think I’m old enough to be their mom. It’s a vanity thing.”
Yep.
I totally agree with you, V4Real. That’s exactly what I thought when I saw this.
@v4real even if that is the reason, SO F’ING WHAT? She doesn’t like it she doesn’t like it. So beacuse she is a woman or a public figure she is just supposed to like random strangers calling her “mom”?! Seriously? People, not just teens, need to realize that random strangers who don’t know you don’t have to entertain your shit to make YOU feel better.
@Gab no, she’s not supposed to like random strangers calling her anything. but v4real makes a good a point; why is she fine with teens calling her sexy and saying they want to date her, and why does she encourage this sort of behaviour instead?
“People, not just teens, need to realize that random strangers who don’t know you don’t have to entertain your shit to make YOU feel better”
agreed, but celebs also need to learn that when they spend ALL they’re time engaging with the fandom on twitter/instagram/etc this is what happens. some of these celebs want constant attention, but don’t want to deal with the repercussion of social media. idk how can anyone side with them. it’s not like there are no other ways to engage on social media, the vast majority aren’t as attention seeking as atwell.
I read that Marvel do require their actors to have a social media presence and I believe they encourage it. I do agree that actors have to be responsible with their interactions and many of them I think get swept up in the adoration until it bites them in the arse. Hell we all criticised Hiddles for over interacting with his before he got bitten and pulled right back, his was the first account where I saw the crazy levels of manic fan interaction and requests. Some of it was honestly beyond worrying. But likewise as much as it’s the celebs fault, it’s also the individual users fault. We need to be educating young people about social media and how everything that is put up there is there forever, and also about accountability, if you tweet something to someone, it’s out there in public domain and opens you up to a world you might not be ready for.
I agree she probably doesn’t like the fact it makes her sound old or whatever, that’s not shocking to me though, she’s an actor and by nature they’re insecure narcissists, maybe it will make this girl question these people she holds so much stock of self value in….but I doubt it.
“I read that Marvel do require their actors to have a social media presence and I believe they encourage it.”
I’m not sure though, because it wouldn’t explain why other major marvel actors are completely absent from the social media scene, such as scarlett and elizabeth olsen, and others who use social media sparingly (i’d say most use it without going overboard). a few overuse it, and atwell is one of them and I believe that’s her choice.
Classy comment.
Your sarcasm detector needs a checkup, sonny boy. And now that you’ve edited your comment to make it even worse than when I originally replied, rest assured this is being reported along with all your other remarks on this topic.
When I read the ‘Oh God’ part of the teen’s response I snickered, then started giggling then laughing and now I’m howling. I feel like a horrible person but that gave me life for some reason :O
I see a banning in 3…..2……..1
I keep hitting refresh and being surprised it hasn’t happened yet :/
Update: Oh there we go. Thanks guys!
Darn. Missed it. Glad you guys gave ’em heck!
Your comment is far more cruel than anything Haley wrote. And defies logic- if she were thinner and she did the same thing she would be entitled to stand up for herself without getting called the c word?
This is not the first ‘creepy’ social media incident and it won’t be the last.
Famous people need to keep their shit together and not just in regards to paparazzi but on social media as well.
idk I am a teenager & I feel like being called “mom” is way better than the rlly vulgar things that are more often tweeted at other celebrities. Not saying it’s not a little creepy, but it’s pretty normal, literally thousands of people reply to their favorite celebrities tweets with “MOM” or “DAD” no matter what they tweeted or how old they are. Usually this is happening to people Zendaya or Nicki Minaj though, not the seemingly slightly bitchy & overreacting actress from marvel. I don’t do this & think it’s dumb, but in a harmless way, not in an “omg that teenage girl is so creepy I am going to block her on her birthday & call her teenage self out in front of my hundreds of thousands of followers” If she had quietly blocked her, I wouldn’t care, but I’m sure that girl was really embarrassed, & I’m sure the fact that It was someone she obviously is a fan of & respects made it worse.
Being “less bad” doesn’t make it okay though. A light slap is “less bad” than a gut punch, but I’d rather not have either thanks.
but remember it’s a teenage girl who tweeted that. On her birthday. She honestly probably didn’t even think the actress would really see it, let alone reply & shame her in front of hundreds or thousands of people.
Her whole account is just tweets to celebrities begging them to notice her. She very much wanted Atwell to see it and respond. It just didn’t turn out the way the she wanted, but then if she was an actual fan, she would have seen it coming.
Frankly her account is super creepy, so if a bit of public shaming is what it takes for her to get a life and stop bombarding celebrities with insanely annoying repetitive messages, so be it.
If you are a fan of someone and respect them… How about respecting their wishes? HA has made it clear that she finds this trend creepy. Just because some teens find it ok does not mean all the adults out there should go along with it, famous or not. I am the mother if a preteen and if a kid called me mom out of the blue I would definitely shut it down. I don’t owe special consideration to every teen out there, thank you, and if they were not taught boundaries at home and at school, they can use the lesson. Trust me, it is a very mild one compared to the much harsher consequences one would face in a work circumstance, for example.
Second, HA just blocked her. There was nothing mean about it, and I can’t believe anyone would consider it bullying. It is not. Everyone’s social media is a part of their self. They have the right to maintain the barriers they see fit, not the ones that suit you or me or anyone else. How is this difficult to comprehend?
yeah but no one is gonna randomly call you mom out of the blue, it’s something kids do for celebrities. (I feel like that sounds kinda bitchy it’s not meant to be lol) & she didn’t just block her she called her out in front of all her followers, if she had just blocked her I wouldn’t care. It’s her right to block her but the whole smackdown was a little much, but the teen girl is kinda dumb either way
^^ I think you fail to see that a boundary was crossed – there is only so many times that you can tell people not to do something nicely before you reach the end of your patience and that’s what clearly happened with Hayley. This poster was the end of her patience.
You all need to understand that not everyone is going to ‘play along’ with this little teenage ‘fad’ and you should respect those that don’t. If you don’t then you need to take the consequences. Clearly this has been going for a while and it had gotten to the point that smacking someone down for it was the only way to get it across to people that she doesn’t like it and wants it to stop.
Oh please Hayley is just offended because these teens look at her as old enough to be their mom. What young actress in Hollywood wants to be viewed as a mom of a teen.
They can call her hot, sexy, and dateable but damn it, they went to far when they called her Ms. Cleaver.
No boundaries were crossed, the only thing that girl crossed was Hayley’s ego.
Celebrities deal with stalkers and loonies all the time, just because they are on social media isn’t a license for fans to be disrespectful.
Atwell can engage fans however she wants, but it is also her right to have boundaries; possibly to also minimize the chance of idiots running up & grabbing ‘Mom’ for a friendly hug.
As Vauvert & Betti said, this is about boundaries. If it was a public forum then there’s not much Atwell can do, maybe just “stay away from Reddit chats”. But this is her twitter, and she’s been clear she does not like being called Mom.
The girl blatantly ignored that, while using the birthday excuse for a shout out.
@tx_ava: the brains of teens are developed enough to allow them to have jobs & drive, then to vote and have sex, and to drink in some countries…this girl should be able to handle a reminder of showing respect for someone’s wishes.
She’s not playing in a sand-box, she’s writing on a real-live adult’s twitter feed – time to be considerate of others & not just think of herself. It’s a basic concept many children learn before they are teens.
@ justagirl who said “Atwell can engage fans however she wants, but it is also her right to have boundaries; possibly to also minimize the chance of idiots running up & grabbing ‘Mom’ for a friendly hug”
What about the idiots who find her sexy and want to date her running up to her and giving her a hug? She doesn’t seem to shut those teens down. Of course she can engage her fans however she wants and in return they can respond how they want. Though she has the right to block them as she did with this girl. You guys talk about boundaries over a girl calling her mom but yet you don’t see a problem with teens talking about getting with a 33 year old woman. Hayley herself doesn’t have a problem with it because she tends to not call those teens out or block them. That’s disrespectful and inappropriate.
@V4Real you raise an interesting point, similar to Bed Head’s example of the explicit comments Chris Evans gets. I agree with you, the sexual comments from teens are also inappropriate, and it’s odd that she doesn’t mind and apparently encourages it.
But while we see sexual comments as inappropriate and disrespectful – crossing general society rules – to her she doesn’t mind, so it’s not crossing her own personal boundaries. That’s the difference. Both behaviors are generally creepy, but one she has specifically said she does not like – so for anyone to continue to call her Mom, they are not respecting her own stated wishes.
Need to follow hayley on twitter. She sounds fun!
And teens are weird.
Because of this thread I went to Hayley’s twitter, and actually I like her less now. I liked her in Captain America, but I found Agent Carter (the show) deadly dull, even though I am a big Marvel fan and really wanted to like it. I didn’t know much about her as a person. I think she is allowed to block anyone she wants as it’s her Twitter (and how do we even know this person is a teenager? Her profile picture is one of the actresses from Agents of SHIELD. She sounds like a teen, but she could be a 60-year-old man for all we know).
Sadly, I found her twitter to be insipid and boring. Am I the only Marvel fan who finds this dubsmash thing to be incredibly stupid and annoying? But whatever. You can’t please everyone. It’s just not to my taste, and it doesn’t have to be. (And I love Clark Gregg regardless)
And who cares if it was the fans birthday. Worse thing could happen
I can’t say I blame her. I’m not super familiar with the whole calling people Mom thing, but she has the right to block her if she finds it creepy.
This kid, and the one the defended her, need to get over their sense of entitlement that Hayley should have endorsed something she found disturbing JUST because it was their birthday. Dear kid-if this really upsets you, I predict that life will continue to be difficult for you. Grow up.
It creeps me out when people feel like actors are obligated to do whatever they demand just because they want it.
Kids have dumb trends, they do/say dumb things… always have and always will. They’ll look back on their younger selves and cringe just like we all do. I don’t think it’s necessary to single out and publicly slam any of them, at least not for a relatively harmless comment like the one this girl made.
Maybe Atwell’s younger fans should start calling her “Aunt Hayley” instead of “Mom” and see if she’s equally annoyed/repulsed by it. lol
Or how about her fans act respectful, such as not calling her something she doesn’t like? Is there something you don’t like being called, maybe a mean nickname or a short term of your name? And you tell your co-worker/neighbour/ cousin that you hate it but they still call you that. Do you like it? We each have our preferences and there is a fine line between your freedom to say anything and my freedom not to listen to it.
I don’t think they should call her things she doesn’t want to be called, but she’s a public figure and some “weirdness” comes with the territory. The “Mom”, “Dad”, “Please adopt me!” thing is odd but she could have ignored and/or blocked the girl without calling attention to her specifically and making her a target for ridicule from the rabid social media mobs.
Honestly, my guess is that she hates being called “Mom” so much not because it’s creepy but because it makes her feel old.
Oh well… whatever.
Yes, kids have dumb trends. I remember when some of my kids friends would call everything they didn’t like “gay”. Or my daughters first serious boyfriend who used the word “fag”. Should I have let that pass or ignored it, or have educated them to why it was inappropriate? Sure, calling people “mum/mom” or “dad”, isn’t on the same disrespectful level as those words or others. But just because someones a teen, who is using a word you’re not comfortable with, doesn’t mean you should give them a pass. Not even on their birthday.
edited to say, I know those words are very different from the mom tag for Hayley. I’m really just referring to whether anyone has the right to object to certain words being used around them, or toward them. Whether a celebrity or not. Mum/mom & Dad refer a certain intimacy & a lot of people wouldn’t be comfortable with being called either by a stranger on the internet.
your comment is completely out of place. fag is offensive slur, the word mum bloody well isn’t.
As I said above she’s probably only pissed about the “Mom” stuff because it makes her feel old. And like others have pointed out, comments from strangers fawning over her and how “hot” and “sexy” she is, how they’d like to date her, etc., don’t seem to bother her as much as the “Mom” comments do, so I don’t think she’s got a problem with the intimacy aspect of it.
I’d never even heard of her before this post and already she annoys me.
Blocking means Hayley doesn’t have to see or hear things that she doesn’t like. She is entitled to use it. She has said time and time again she’d block people. If you can’t follow the rules you lose the privilege. The fan can still follow her (I think), she just can’t Tweet at her.
I can’t believe people here are advocating for harassment. No means no.
No one cares that Haylee blocked the girl and no one here advocates for harassment. It would have been less dramatic to just block the girl from further comments without exposing her to ridicule.
Maybe this girl was a repeat offender. No means no.
And the block tweet was to all – maybe more than one experienced the ban.
It is harassment when you say no or stop and people don’t. Saying it isn’t that bad because it isn’t profanity or she is a celebrity so she should suck it, is granting a pass to harassment.
I think the public smack down was Hayley making a point – she also said she would start blocking everyone who did it which means that its something that is happening on a regular basis to her and no one is respecting requests to stop it. She clearly felt it needed shutting down and had to act in a way that got her point across to everyone.
Because that does nothing. This girls account is purely there for tweeting pathetic pleading messages at celebs. If one blocks her, she’ll just make another account. A lot of these people have 5-6 accounts on the go because so many people have blocked them.
This way she gets called out, and if nothing else there’s a decent chance she’ll leave Hayley alone, if not all the other people she harasses.
“The fan can still follow her (I think), she just can’t Tweet at her.”
Well she still can if she gets a new twitter account or usees someone else’s IP address. But why should she want to. I don’t think Hayley is that important.
If Hayley has made it clear over and over again that she doesn’t like it, I don’t understand why someone would do it (unless the person is trolling). It could be that the fan didn’t see those posts before or maybe wasn’t even following her before, of course, in which case she seems to have built up a stalkerish obsession fairly quickly.
I admit to tweeting celebrities sometimes. I have to limit myself to one fangirly tweet a day at the most.
No, it’s creepy and she had every right to shut it down.
Feel obliged to point out that on the net, nobody knows you’re a dog. This alleged birthday teen could be a 42 year old man whose birthday was back in January…. 🙂
Arf.
^^^ this ^^^
YEP
Boundaries are some of my favorite things.
Totally agree. I think nobody gets to set other people’s boundaries for intimacy.
I think “Mom” is one of the less creepy Twitter terms actually. I’m too old for it personally but I just read it as someone expressing they are a superfan, and it is SUPER common, and Atwell I imagine attracts a large teen fanbase with her superhero show (which I’ve never watched) so she is coming across as out of touch/overreacting here imo. I think she was flat out rude to this girl on her birthday, and no, celebs don’t owe fans b-day wishes or anything else but if you choose to be on Twitter you better learn how to interact with people without being such a snooty pants, and to have a sense of humour, etc. Calling a young girl creepy who thought she was being harmless is pretty harsh/ingrateful.
Well said.
thank you.
Wow. I never even knew about this “mom” and “dad” stuff. I feel old!
‘Atwell seems to make the point that real moms don’t deserve to be discounted by celebrity worship’
Reading to much into it.
I didn’t get that either. She may very well think that, but I didn’t read that into her tweet. Not that it matters
I’m kinda stunned that anyone would think blocking is the equivalent of bullying. It’s not, people. HA has the right to set boundaries for her own twitter and those boundaries are not exactly unreasonable. HA isn’t rude or disrespectful – that girl is. You don’t bloody tweet at complete strangers any bloody terms of endearment which that stranger has made perfectly clear they don’t like. How is that so difficult to comprehend.
if you read properly maybe, you wouldn’t write these comments. blocking ISN’T bullying, it’s her right. publicly shaming a young girl whose intention wasn’t to offend, especially given how mean the internet can be, IS.
HOW is it bullying to say “I’m not your mom”? It really isn’t. That’s not even rising to the level of shaming – it’s an actual statement of fact.
she basically threw this girl to the dogs, what do you call it if not bullying?
The girl chose to contact her in the most public way and chose to use a phrase Atwell has asked repeatedly for her fans not to use (whatever you think are her reasons behind it). Unfortunately for this girl, it was the straw that broke the camels back like Atwell or not, if you are a fan of an actor/singer etc you should respect their wishes.
Maybe this girl needs to learn that the moment you put something on social media, you’re essentially throwing yourself to the dogs. It is a public forum and you’ve put it out there (and a lot of it in this girls case) for anyone to comment on if your account is public, which hers is.
The lack of awareness some people have about stuff they put on the internet is mind boggling.
Eh, I think Hayley has every right to block the fan, but I also think she is better off just ignoring that kind of stuff. Now it’s a news story, she has just made it into a bigger thing than it needed to be. Also I do think that Celebs should be careful how they interact with fans online, while it doesn’t seem to have happened in this case, sometimes the other fans of the Celeb can really go to town on the “jilted” fan. That usually happens more with pop stars though, Nicki Minaj and Lady Gaga come to mind.
I have seen some of these mom/dad comments and thought “whoa what a weird trend.” I’m glad that social media wasn’t around when I was a teen to document all of the weird, dumb things I did. I’m hoping some of these kids will laugh and say “jeez remember when we tweeted MOM AND DAD 4REAL about a picture of Kanye and Kim?” and “Oh god remember when I used to have a twitter dedicated to defending and tweeting Demi Lovato?” I definitely find it creepy but I do agree with some of you guys that fan interaction on social media can be a slippery slope for some of these celebs. Sarah Paulson was doing it and seemed to get really burned out and ended up making a private account. This was a woman in her forties getting into it with teens… it was odd. I mean, I’m 31 years old and I would feel silly doing that.
Kind of on topic… there seems to be a new trend for some of these teens to tweet things to Donald Trump like “die” and “drop dead” and “f*** me daddy” etc. Well some of his supporters (the ones with Benghazi 4 ribbons on their pic, profiles reading Conservative, Patriot, Obama is not my president, liberals are destroying America etc) seem to not understand what trolling is and start scolding these kids and saying they must be brainless liberals and one lady was telling them they were committing a crime and she was reporting their tweets to the FBI. Twitter is such a weird place.
Well, a death threat would be a crime, I guess
It’s not as easy as saying “she should just stay off social media.” These days, studios expect you to participate in that sphere as part of your promotional duties, and franchise companies like Marvel especially expect it. It’s often written into contracts. Look around, all the Marvel actors are on social media, and I’m sure some, like Chris Evans and Chris Hemsworth, would prefer not to be, but they have to do it. The Marvel TV people are especially expected to engage on Twitter because I’m pretty sure they contractually*have* to live-tweet during their episodes. So Hayley Atwell has to be on there and she’s trying to set a boundary she can live with. The “mom” thing creeps her out and she has openly said that before. Her fans should get a clue and find another nickname.
I don’t know why more celebrities don’t use a platform like tweetdeck or hootsuite, frankly. Every time I hear them complain about creepy stuff they get on twitter, I wonder why they don’t switch to a platform that lets them control what they view. Get tweetdeck and only view @s from people you follow. Then you don’t have to see the weird sh-t fifteen years old say in your timeline.
these are excuses, imo. there still are celebs who choose to stay out of social media, and some who clearly do it only because the studios push them into, just use twitter/instagram very sparingly. when a celeb uses twitter a lot it’s a choice. let’s stop defending people who are clearly attention seekers.
That’s true, she could use it less. But, I believe she does have to maintain a profile and she’s trying to set a boundary. She’s asked people to leave her out of the “mom” stuff and they aren’t so now she’s enforcing her boundary. I don’t think there’s anything wrong that.
it sounds as if this isn´t her first “mom”-maniac.
I have this feeling twitter is part of the Marvel contract. Many actors started with Social Media/ Twitter short before “their” movie came out
On the one hand the whole ‘MOM’ ‘DAD’ thing isn’t for me, I didn’t even call my own Dad (birth and everything, not step) Dad. I’m DEFINITELY not gonna call a celeb that, that’s gross.
On the other hand as people have said above folks have to come to some level of acceptance of how trends are going. Social media is such a mixed bag because as nice as it is we see more of celeb’s personalities I also think on some level it has to encourage more stalking and obsessiveness. ‘Mom’ is this generation’s ‘The Bees Knees’ no one thinks the knees of a bee are impressive, it’s just a phrase that shows enthusiasm. No one wants her to be their mother.
The tweet exchange above is pretty pitiful but that’s because the whole exchange is pitiful. It’s pitiful that a young girl has direct access to a celebrity she knows nothing about under the guise of some internet friendship/contact. It’s sad Hayley (rightfully) hates one of those affectionate nicknames that are just trends more than anything and blocked her. It’s pitiful they had a small exhange and the girl had to get that response on her birthday from someone she likes and it’s even more pitiful that on Hayley’s timeline I can see tweets from teens wanting to date her that bothered her less.
Really lady? 14 yr old boys discussing romantic plans creeps you out less than a throwaway comment from a female fan? She’s not wrong to block but she will need to figure out the best way to handle her Twitter.
Also sucks that she didn’t realize (I’m giving her the benefit of the doubt) that she just put a major target on this kid’s back and she’s getting attacked on Twitter. Sometimes the Internet really sucks. Lesson learned kids, don’t call her Mom.
“Really lady? 14 yr old boys discussing romantic plans creeps you out less than a throwaway comment from a female fan?
BINGO. Notice how Atwell’s defenders don’t have an issue with that.
Because she may not for whatever reason? It’s her prerogative what she does and does not want to hear. Your reasons for it aren’t founded but you’re spouting them as if they’re fact. Hayley has given fair warning about this issue, the fan ignored it so she was gone.
Besides, trying to block every gross fan on Twitter would take years no doubt.
Yeah I think you pretty much covered everything here, Side-Eye. Nicely done.
“Really lady? 14 yr old boys discussing romantic plans creeps you out less than a throwaway comment from a female fan? She’s not wrong to block but she will need to figure out the best way to handle her Twitter.
Also sucks that she didn’t realize (I’m giving her the benefit of the doubt) that she just put a major target on this kid’s back and she’s getting attacked on Twitter.”
these are the 2 reasons why there’s no way I can side with her.
Thanks all, that whole Twitter conversation was one big cringe.
Eternal Side Eye, I love you — In a distant, don’t-know-you-personally, social-media sort of way — for saying everything that you did.
Oh dear! Hailey needs to brush up on her lingo.
Mom is term of endearment, like adopt me, I want to be like you when I grow up. If a kid says that to you you’re cool.
Kids say it to all their idols, they say it to younger people than Hayley. Obviously she got offended because she thought it’s an age thing or whatever.
Thank you for pointing this out. In my neighborhood (which is fairly working class) “Mama” is a term of respect and warmth. It does not mean “You are my mother.” It is not comparable to calling someone “Babe.” I agree that Hayley can block whomever she pleases, but she is overreacting and coming across and cold and classist.
This makes me think of my area where everyone calls everyone hon, sometimes without any affection at all, lol.
Terminology is a funny thing, it’s worth not freaking out over. Hell in some cultures you call all women your mom’s age aunty.
I lived in Turkey for two years. Neighborhood children called me “my elder,” the guy who delivered tea called me “daughter,” the cab driver called me “sister.” It would have been considered cold, rejecting, and socially frigid for them not to use these terms.
Hey, back in Russia the only way to address a stranger is “comrade.” Hell if I judge what people call each other in their neighborhoods! 😀
I think Hayley knows the sentiment behind the term but she has expressed on several occasions that she doesn’t like it and has asked people to stop calling her that. She set boundaries which kept being ignored and as such has every right to tell someone off for crossing over them.
I don’t think she was being cold and classist – more like someone who was just plain old fed up with it.
More like someone who doesn’t want to be viewed as old enough to be a mother of a teen. That’s what she’s fed up with. But it’s ok for teens to discuss going out with her because she’s so sexy.
I’m not going to get drawn into this teen crush thing.
Hayley, like everyone one else (me, you …) has every right to set boundaries regardless if they may offend/displease others. Just because we don’t ‘agree with’ the boundaries she sets doesn’t mean we should troll/shame her for it. Its her twitter account her boundaries.
Of course she has a right to her boundaries, and she can set them however she pleases. But I also feel she should not be surprised if people perceive her to be cold and silly. It’s inevitable.And V4real, I agree that her reactiveness might be an age thing. I felt that wayat first about being called “yashli” by neighborhood children in Turlkey– “Yashli” can mean “my elder” but can also mean “old lady” depending on context. Sometimes you just have to get over these things.
She’s definitely employing double standards, which she’s free to do. She’s also overreacting, which she’s free to do as well. But others are equally free to call out the double standards and overreacting over what is basically a harmless term.
There are so many worse things being said to and about people on twitter, to go after someone who meant no harm like that makes her look petty. There are bigger battles to fight and it doesn’t harm her, her image or her career if some fans employ that term, as weird as it sounds.
People have different pet peeves, fears, etc. HA’s pet peeve is people calling her ‘mom’, and @V4Real, you obviously have a rather strong dislike towards Hailey Atwood or the way she reacted. This is not meant to be a personal attack towards anyone with a different opinion, and I definitely don’t want to correct anyone or sound condescending. What I want to say, though, is that different people have different pasts, experiences, issues and limits, but these limits are all worth the same – meaning: your boundaries should be respected, even if no-one else understands why you have these exact rules for yourself. So I’ll have to state my peaceful disagreement with something @NUTBALLS said – I don’t think anyone can say ‘it doesn’t harm her’. Especially when she’s stated that this specific thing is something she really dislikes. I mean, it can’t be so hard to refrain from typing that one word when you know it gets on the recipient’s nerves.
So she has no problem with strange men saying she is sexy ( thats not creepy?) but she freaks out when a teenage girl calls her mom? Ok…
Yeah, not sure if I’m very thick skinned but this wasn’t particulary harsh of Atwell in my opinion. She has previously stated that she finds the mom /dad trend creepy, the fan shoulder respectful of that. That it was the fans birthday is irrelevant.
Mom and Dad – seriously? I’d block ’em too! Stupid thing to say to someone who isn’t your mother.
I want to sleep with you. Another stupid thing to say to someone who is not your lover. But Hayley doesn’t block those kind of tweets from teens. What does that really say about her.
Personally I agree with you, but Hayley’s preferences and choices don’t have to line up with ours.
You’re right it doesn’t have to line up with ours. However, I bet if this was a male celeb who thought it was ok for a teen to call him sexy and want to sleep with him but got offended that a teen called him dad your view would be a bit different.
You wouldn’t care how that 33 year old male preference was different than ours. You most likely would find him gross for accepting sexual tweets from teen girls, yet he has a problem with being called dad.
It would be funny if tomorrow she issued an apology.
My view would be the same either way, older woman or older man, but there are levels of engagement and non-engagement. I wouldn’t think it was necessary to call out and block a fan, even an underage one, who tweeted flirtatious stuff. However, they’d be best off ignoring it and not responding. I would think it was creepy (of any gender) to retweet it or respond to it, especially if the kid was underage. You shouldn’t flirt back. Is that how she is responding to those tweets, or is she just not blocking them? If she’s responding to those comments, then she is being creepy herself
“However, I bet if this was a male celeb who thought it was ok for a teen to call him sexy and want to sleep with him but got offended that a teen called him dad your view would be a bit different.”
It’s obvious that if the celebrity in question was male, many (likely most) of the same posters siding with Atwell would be ripping into him, calling him pathetic, a sleaze and a pervert. They wouldn’t even recognize it as a double-standard either.
First off, HA has every right to set boundaries. And she HAS – on more than one occasion, she’s stated she doesn’t want to be called “mom.” So when someone goes ahead and does it anyway, it shows a complete lack of respect for that person and their boundaries, which in itself is creepy, especially for a celebrity.
Second, context is key. Others have commented on that teenage girl’s tweets to other celebs, which are equally creeptastic, if not moreso. So it’s possible that she has already creeped HA out, and this overstepping of boundaries was the last straw. And I agree – at some point, you have to put your foot down.
Third, I met HA at a local comic-con a few months ago. She was sweet and gracious, to me and every other fan that met her. I didn’t meet that many celebs, but she was one I went out of my way to say hello to, and she was lovely. So, no, she’s not an arse in general.
And finally, so what? A teenager faced consequences for overstepping bounds and engaging in behavior they were specifically asked NOT to do… maybe, if that happened more often, it would feel less like our planet is being overrun with a-holes.
Did anyone else not know about this until Lea Michele’s character brought it up on “Scream Queens?” I guess I’m an old fogie.
Fans who worship celebrities like their sh#t don’t stink are weird and Hayley has every right to create her own barriers. It’s her choice, none of us have a right to judge what she is and isn’t comfortable with. I like how she was so matter of fact about it. She doesn’t care that she might lose some fans because of it. Kind of cool when most celebs are so sickly sweet to fans to remain popular.
Celebs should just be themselves, screw this media trained mularkey.
She could also just ignore. She doesn’t have to respond to every fan that tweets her. Or she could have just blocked the girl without responding to her. I wouldn’t be surprised if people now started calling her mom just because she made a big deal about it.
She’s just butthurt (another twitter term) because teens look at her as old enough to be their mom.
Sorry, I don’t understand why you keep repeating this as if it was a known fact that HA gets butthurt about being considered old. Maybe there’s a different reason. Anyway, I just wouldn’t spread it as a fact. And why should she ignore it? While keeping your mouth shut is often considered to be the smarter thing for people on display, it’s not like you lose your right to speak or react once you’re well-known.
What a weird trend, I guess I’m old. The teen is not a precious delicate flower she will be ok. On the other hand as a celebrity I wouldn’t engage. She thinks she will single handedly abolish this trend? Just ignore it.
Hayley can dislike the trend. But I think she could have been classier in her dealing with this. To call a teen creepy in public is not cool.
There are people who said she has already told them she dislikes this word. Are we supposing everyone knows all of her likes and dislikes?
She’s a marvel actress now, teen fans come with the demographic. Maybe show more understanding of your fanbase, or simply a sense of humour?
I know of Hayley but had no particular opinion of her so my first real impression of her is negative. She didn’t win me into the fandom, that’s for sure. Most celebs ignore worse kinds of treatment (like actual mean tweets) and she chose to blow up over this? Get a grip and get off twitter if you can’t handle the fan tweets.
I hope that shaming a fan in public over a silly, harmless term used affectionately towards her was worth the PR hit.
Hayley may have already blocked the creepy boys. We see it, she may not.
Why be rude though? She could’ve just blocked her without replying.
Because she’s making a point. She’s asked for it not to be done and is being ignored so….consequences.
Unil this post I had no idea why people called celebrities mom and dad (saw a lot saying that to Chris Evans). it´s silly and creepy, she´s right.
The tweet came from Fitzsimmons ( Character from Marvel Agents of Shield ) calling Hayley Atwell “Mom” (actress from Marvel’s Agent Carter). Knowing the timelines of the shows, I would assume it’s a joke, that one character is the mother of the other.