The new issue of Star Magazine claims that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are reconciling, after the couple worked out some their issues in therapy. Judging from the many paparazzi photos of these two out doing domestic activities – they were out shopping together just last week – this seems plausible. Plus legitimate celebrity outlets like People have reported that they’re in therapy. It’s possible they’re reconciling, or that they put their divorce on hold. They haven’t filed yet, we see photos of Garner and Affleck all the time and no one has caught either of them visiting a lawyer, and they’re hanging out together often. Gossip cop got a sort-of denial that “the plan is still to move forward with the divorce,” but I’ll believe it when they file. Will they do it by the end of the year for tax reasons or will they wait? Are they waiting to see if they can work it out? Here’s part of Star’s report, with more in the print edition:
Jennifer Garner didn’t experience a change of heart overnight: It’s taken many months of couples therapy and many apologies for her and Ben Affleck‘s broken marriage to finally start mending.
Ahead of their split on June 30, the pair had already attempted marriage counseling on and off during their 10-year union. But Ben could never be open during those sessions—like the way he’d feel about Jen scolding him for going out with his guy pals instead of spending the night with the family—until now.
“Now that they no longer live together, Ben has finally been able to vent his true feelings and frustrations,” the insider explains. “He’s not scared to say what he really thinks, and Jen is actually listening.
“It made him feel like he was always walking on eggshells around her, and he started to resent her for not letting him do what he wanted. He told her that in therapy,” says Star’s tipster.
While Ben’s honesty was a big enough of a surprise for Jen, his heartfelt words to her that came next really made the actress start doubting divorce. “He sat her down and apologized for everything he’s put her through over the years. He acknowledged that she’s always had to deal with the fallout of his selfishness, and he promised to try harder to be a better man,” the insider reveals.
“Jen has realized she’s never going to find anyone as great as Ben,” reveals a family insider. “Sure, he has his issues, but she says he’s still the kindest, smartest man she’s ever met, and she made a big mistake in letting him go.”
“It finally seems like they both really want this marriage to work,” the insider adds.
There’s so much more about their love on the mend! Pick up the new weekly issue of Star that just hit newsstands on Oct. 28 to find out what kind of promises Ben is making to Jen, what she’s started doing to feel sexy again, plus the secret text message scandal-nanny Christine Ouzounian recently sent Ben, and more!
It’s mildly offensive to me that Ben is the guy who cheated with the nanny and yet the focus in this article is all on Garner not letting Ben “do what he wanted.” What he wants is to gamble, drink and screw randoms. He should be the one with regrets, not her.
There’s something admirable about the way that Garner is sucking it up for her kids, but it’s a fine line between being a doormat and doing the right thing for your family. Add in the public image factor and it’s hard to tell what’s really going on behind the scenes. They’re not trashing each other in the press though, and that’s better than most. (See: Halle Berry.)
Affleck is currently directing and starring in Live By Night, a prohibition era crime film based on the novel by Dennis Lehane (Mystic River, Gone Baby Gone). He posted the photo below to his social media accounts of his first day on set. This looks like an awards baity film. You know that Ben wants that Best Director Oscar.
First day. First shot.
#livebynightmovie pic.twitter.com/TSCUSTF6Kz
— Ben Affleck (@BenAffleck) October 28, 2015
Affleck is show on 10-25 and 10-18. Garner is shown on 10-28 and 10-27. What is with that skirt with those shoes? Credit: FameFlynet
Called this headline. That is all.
She’s a doormat with the worst shoes ever.
Mia: pages and pages of articles and analysis for years and you’ve summed it all up. Love it.
Me too, months ago. She can’t help herself. LOL
This may be fun to watch, how she explains why she wanted him back?
Dependent personality disorder much? My mom is a dependent. They make it seem like every thing is about others. The kids. Their spouse. They come last. But really the do whT they want and are purely selfish creatures. Dependents and narcissists are s classic pairing. Explains her and Ben.
Poorly dressed doormat. No sympathy from me. Ben is a gambling cheater but she enables him. Gahhhh
Co-signed, sealed, delivered.
So true! I always suspected she’d be a doormat and take him back. How sad.
Very skeptical about this. He always looked like a caged animal when he was with his family. And his giving up drinking, gambling, and other women is unlikely in the long term. And staying together “for the kids” is a terrible reason. Maybe she’ll put on blinders again to have that perfect family image back.
This is so true. I know their kids are young but there’s a fine line between modeling that relationships have periods where they need work over the long haul and staying too long and modeling to your daughters that they should just take it because they aren’t worthy of respect and their relationship isn’t worthy of respect. Everyone is allowed to have needs. However if your needs are so different and you can’t compromise willingly and for the long haul, then in needs to end.
+1000 you said it perfect, Belle Epoch.
She’s pragmatic… she likes her status as a power couple.
Yeah, that’s what this is about. I don’t judge her for that (if Hillary gets a pass, so does Jen). But I judge her for letting the media spin it as her fault without response. If she stays with him, the message from both their media teams needs to portray her as the strong, forgiving one, not the one hanging on at all costs. Anything less, and I judge the hell out of her for staying.
Pragmatic, shallow, doormat with fugly shoes. She deserves him and his cheating gambling ways. They drive around Brentwood with the windows of their SUV rolled all the way down so the paparazzi can get good shots of her and ben together. She loves the fame and the status of being Ben Affleck’s wife
Oh, I don’t know, I don’t think so. I think they just wanted people to talk about them again. The media story is very carefully controlled. I mean, this is exactly like a movie plot, or a “scripted reality” show. There are highs and lows, story arcs, enough humanity to get people to relate, and definite episodes. What are we on now, Act 3? Act 4? Maybe they just haven’t decided how they’re going to end it yet and they’re screening a few different endings with test audiences.
I like how you think. I for one am bored with their story. Together. Not together. I don’t care. The comments on them are far more interesting.
No, he’s the “kindness, smartest man she’s ever met.” I think she needs to meet some more men.
Anything she gets from him now as far as cheating and lying she deserves. Fool.
Yep, that pretty much sums it up. Quite the dysfunctional pair.
I feel sorry for their kids who have to spend their lives on one pap stroll after another to convince the world that their parents are happily married.
I don’t think she’s a Doormat at all–I find her intelligent and independent on her own, but she and Ben have a history together and an emotional and physical relationship with children they love. I think people should divorce if they can’t live happily together, but everyone actually does need “fixing” in different ways–we are not perfect people, and our failings, fears, and limitations are most often reflected in our close relationships, which is why marriages take such a hit. If they see reason enough to want to stay together or work on things, that’s great. I think Jen is a natural beauty and when she gets dressed up, she’s a knockout, but much of the time, she’s happy being a Mom who wears average clothes and I admire her for not forcing herself to look like a typical actress, which is why she is mostly criticized. YES, she does wear Mom clothes, but so what? She’s happy, and that’s all that really matters.
Nice. I like your reasonable other side of the coin reply.
I have those shoes I wouldn’t wear them with that skirt, but I agree with you- she’s happy in average mom clothes.
@Kosmos
The problem is that I don’t think she’s happy. Seems to me that she’d be taking him back because of the kids and/or low self-esteem. Ben drinks, gambles and cheats while she keeps the home fires burning. He continually pushes the boundaries — screwing the nanny was a new low — and it’s clear that Ben has lost all respect for Jen.
That’s the very definition of an emotionally abusive relationship. For her own sake, as well as her children’s, Jen should walk away.
Ugh what a great guy he is? Regretting letting him go? Because she “nagged” him about his drinking, gambling and whoring instead of finding time for his family. Yeah he is a catch hang on to that. Why are we so willing as women to settle for less.
x1000
Second the ugh and everything else. Of COURSE it’s her fault that he cheated drank gambled whatever.
“She’s never going to find anyone as great as Ben..”–oh brother–that’s a really low bar
Sounds ridiculous even by Star standards (another low bar😉)
Oh my GOD that outfit!!!!
What in the world *is* that? Looks like what a toddler would put on to dress up, if she just added a big string of beads.
Beads, and a feather boa! LOL!
The sad thing is that hideous outfit probably cost more than my whole wardrobe.
+123
The shoes…the SHOES! I can’t.
Ditto on the shoes. I am starting to think she does it on purpose just to get a rise from those of us who love shoes, and hate to see her shoe game travesty on parade. Her ugly shoe closet must be bottomless. With a fraction of her assets I manage to put my feet into more appropriate footwear. Maybe it is just a complete lack of cobbler awareness?
This must have been leaked by Ben’s team. It is filled with the same nonsense about Jen’s mistakes and how she didn’t let him do whatever. Complete revisionist history. Ben did whatever he wanted while they were married. He had plenty of time to drink, gamble, party, and cheat. So the lie that she was too controlling is major b.s.
1000% agree. ridiculously one sided!
Assuming these aren’t quotes made up by the writer himself (they do that alot -make up a narrative then create supporting source quotes). If these are real sources then you are rightr its Ben’s team
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I agree. I sincerely hope she won’t take him back but we all know women like that, who will love an undeserving guy who treats them like crap and will forgive again and again. Just because she is a celebrity doesn’t change that.
You are right, and a lot of it comes down to money, lifestyle and status. You think the average country club wife/mom who plays tennis and shops all day while her husband “has” to work 50 hours a week..you think she doesnt turn a blind eye? Please. It’s either that or give up the lifestyle and elite social circle to be a divorced, single working mom. Jen is in a better position than most women with bad husbands, but still comes down to the image that she doesn’t want to sacrifice.
Exactly. Even “he sat her down” is one-sided and controlling, something you do with a misbehaving child.
I love “he was always walking on eggshells around her”…..anyone who has ever lived with an addict, whether spouse or parent, knows what it’s like to walk on eggshells, never knowing what mood they’re in.
I just hope this was planted by HER side, maybe to get some objective input? And the moobs have got to go.
Please. My non celeb/non wealthy friend has been separated for almost two years and hasn’t officially divorced yet because the settlement is taking forever to work out. I imagine the terms between these two will be significantly more complicated.
I don’t know which photo is worse, him in the blue t-shirt or her in the sheer skirt and black oxfords. Yikes! 🙂
Both those outfits are TERRIBLE.
So which is it? Is Ben the “kindest” man Jen’s ever met? Or is he the selfish prick like we’ve all been told?
I’m probably alone in this but I’ll risk the celebitchy wrath and put it out there: IF they can make real progress, IF Ben can learn to communicate and stop acting like a bachelor, IF Jen can find a way to accept that he’ll never be exactly what she wants him to be, then I hope they can work it out, for the kids’ sake if nothing else.
The key is that the kids don’t need more of *this*, they don’t need more mixed messages and disruption in their lives. Given that, these two would have to find some sort of LASTING resolution, true understanding AND continued therapy of course.
This is all assuming this story is true, which I’m very doubtful of. Star, after all..
I have very good friends whose histories look like they should absolutely not be in a relationship together (dangerous sex addiction on his part, domestic violence on hers). They’re happy and I’d say, in a pretty health marriage. It takes SO much work though, on going in recovery and therapy. People do and can change but it’s not an easy path.
No wrath here. I also wish both camps would back away from this overplayed PR game.
The kids will someday read about all of this — every weekly tidbit will be preserved on the ‘net. And it has been very mixed messages all along.
I agree Kitten, I hope they can work it out. If nothing else, for their children. No marriage is easy and celebs often too easily give up, I think because they have so many options. Ben has a lot of baggage, but only Jen can decide if she is willing to work through it and love him through his faults. I hope he straightens up.
My daughter was dating the wrong guy for years and I kept my mouth shut. After 8 years, one day she was crying (again), and all I could say as I hugged her was, “it isn’t supposed to be THIS hard.” She broke it off, and is now married to a guy who treats her wonderfully. A marriage is worth fighting for, especially when kids are involved, but it simply isn’t supposed to be THIS hard. I feel sad she’s back with him, and I don’t even think it is good for their kids, probably. Daddy makes Mommy sad a lot.
Here comes the wrath- as someone who spent years in therapy recovering from my parents dysfunctional marriage staying together for the kids is BS . At the end of the day they are actually only thinking of themselves and appearances and their career and not the kids if they stay in this obviously toxic situation.
This is all I got.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kzemA7fOTFY
I’m thinking they’d exhausted every possibility of working it out before they announced their split. Who knows.
I don’t rule out the IFs being possible. My cousin did a seven year married stint (two kids) to a guy who thought a LOT of himself, not so much thought for others (except his kids – they were his reserved exceptions). He was VERY thoughtless towards my cousin (other than always Always appreciating her mothering of *HIS* kids).
He was (is) successful in his career, charming, funny, generous to a fault when it comes to material giving, can do one of the lads or chat politics and issues or compliment a good new hairdo. An all-rounder… an all-rounder who spent every day of 20+ years of adult life as the best Emotional Compartmentaliser you could ever meet! Every aspect of his came in separate boxes and he didn’t know how to link or interconnect them to join them up into a bigger wider life for himself, far less the people who he tried to go about loving.
Kind of like an old apothecary chest, one unit, each herb/remedy having it’s separate drawer… but he didn’t have the skills to know how to blend and mix them for the best results. He’d only dip into one at any given time (one drawer was other women). My cousin kicked him out and it scared the bejeesus out of him. Months of begging, “I’ll never… again… ” BUT my cousin made clear she couldn’t/wouldn’t take him back because he was scared he’d lost what he’d thought they had before, because returning to that scared her far more than keeping on going out on her own (with the kids). She challenged him to go and find out what the heck it was that had scared him so much, all the time they had been together (and before), which had stopped him being able to behave as a whole and only hit one drawer at a time.
Long story shortish – she maintained a connected distance throughout their separation (some counselling) and they are now approaching three years back together as a family. He’s not brand new, she didn’t want that as she’d loved and liked so much that was him before, but he did (after a LOT of those IFs) deal with many of the fears which had kept him from being able to blend all his bits into a whole and recognise the blending in others.
Sometimes something is always going to be wrong and not work, but they certainly bucked that in the end.
Affleck always seems to be able to compartmentalise theory of family and love away from the practise of family and love. Maybe… who knows?
The gossip world will hate it but then we are mere observers who speculate onlives we are not part of. If they can work it out together, they should. Not for the kids but because they do love each other but haven’t known how to live together before now. And given everything, there’s no doubt theres a part of them that wants to keep going. Ben hasn’t run off as was predicted for so many years, so clearly we don’t know as much as we thought.
Thanks for all the replies. Lots of interesting and thoughtful comments.
@Luca75-That SUCKS. I wouldn’t wish that on any child and I can imagine how scarring it was for you to grow up in such an unstable environment. But is it possible that your parents aren’t the same people as Ben and Jen? I’m just saying that some relationships ARE absolutely NOT salvageable but some are. Have you never met a couple who were able to work through seemingly impossible issues? I’m not saying that’s Ben and Jen, I’m just saying that none of us know the personal and private issues that they’re dealing with. We’re all just speculating based on internet rumors, tabloid rags, and gossip websites. I just don’t know how any one of us can say definitively that this relationship cannot be saved.
@dippit-That’s a great (and romantic) story. It made me smile and it’s nice to know that two people can overcome seemingly insurmountable relationship obstacles.
@Naya, Christin, Prim, Heather-Agreed. It’ll be a long road for them, but I think it is possible.
@Nikki-I don’t know…I just look at me and my BF and how much we’ve had to work through things in just a little over a year. As two mid-thirty-somethings who are VERY alike (probably too much alike) we’re both really set in our ways and it’s been challenging at times but we love each other, we’re committed, and we work on it. I mean, we do dumb stuff like making lists of what we expect out of the relationship and of each other, we do LOTS of talking about feelings and it is HARD as hell at times. But I never expected that things would be easy. My parents have been married for almost 50 years and my mom always said that relationships and marriage is hard. Because of that, I grew up thinking being single was better/easier, which was why I was always so reluctant to commit to anyone. But now that I’m in it I realize it’s like everything else: double-edged sword. Life is so much better with him, but it’s also so much harder in certain ways.
I think that’s why I’m always hesitant to comment about celebs’ relationships—because I know how complicated people are and things aren’t always black and white.
Humans are a complex combination of needs/wants/desires/expectations and we’re all really fragile and scared—scared of being vulnerable, scared of losing control, scared of giving ourselves to someone else…or maybe that’s just me? 😉
Sorry for rambling…I hope that made sense…I’m just kind of thinking out loud.
Anyway, anyone else’s opinion on this is as valid as mine–we’re all just speculating in the end.
I’m with you Kittten. I hope they can work it out.
I’ll go so far as to say that sometimes, SOMETIMES, a big shake up can work in your favor in a relationship. In that it can get both parties to stop and reassess.
@Kitten thanks for your sensitivity. I am not really that unique though. And yes I have friends who’ve stayed married through some rough patches. But I still think those couples no matter what they tell themselves aren’t really staying together for the kids. That doesn’t mean they weren’t able to work things out or that they aren’t in a good place now but the whole concept that kids are happier when their parents are married is a myth.
Kids are happy when they are in a stable and healthy environment which can be a cordial and respectful blended family, as opposed to one with a highly functional addict, and a perfectionist codependent obsessed with appearances(can’t help it that’s what I’ve seen looking at this couple for years).
If they want to save their marriage they will be doing it for themselves. Their kids may or may not benefit.
Kitten, thank you for posting such a long, really well thought out post. It gave me a lot to mull over..
There seem to be quite a few couples who announce a divorce but never actually file, e.g
Arnold and Maria, Miranda and Orlando.
WHOA!! Miranda and Orlando? Really???
It’s almost always about money, and agreeing on division of property.(Although maybe ash river won’t divorce for religious reasons).
Autocorrect I meant Maria Shriver)
I understand (it was recently reported somewhere) that it is Arnold that refuses to sign the divorce papers. I assume that, unless both parties sign the agreements on division of property, etc., there would have to be a trial so a court and/or jury could make determinations. That would be unpleasant in their case, I would imagine, and she seemingly doesn’t care if it is finalized or not.
Maria and Arnold have been circling each other for years. They still do very couply things like spend birthdays together, for one. This isn’t a money related delay but a heart related one.
Orlando and Miranda were never married, just bf/gf with a son.
I’m sure the studio behind that Batman vs. Superman movie is furious with him and they are probably offering Garner money and film roles to either take him back or at least pretend as if they might get back till the movie comes out.
No way.
They know the superhero/comic fan audience gives a flying f*** about the marriage of one of the male actors. Let’s face it apart from mostly female gossip readers no one cares or even remembers if Affleck is still married or did the nanny.
When the batman/superman movie comes out even we will have lost interest in this Affleck story.
Affleck’s marriage can’t save the Superman – Batman movie – nothing can!
But maybe Garner will be useful to saving Affleck’s shattered ego after the movie comes out. She will be his Superwoman and she’ll love it.
I can’t fault two people, who have three children, trying to work on saving their marriage, if they still love each other and want to try and keep their family intact…as long as, they recognize the problems, and try to deal with the problems. That being said, this is Star magazine….so I don’t believe a word!
On another note, (see Leah Remini on Star’s upper right hand cover), is anyone else dying to read Leah’s book? It sounds like she is going to really spill the dirt on Scientology and all it’s trained, celeb robots!!!!!!!
I completely agree with everything you said here. It’s easy to say from the outside looking in that their relationship is “doomed” or “toxic” or whatever, but I’m the type of person that believes in a lifelong commitment. But yeah, this is Star and all so….
..and yeah, Leah Remini is going out Full Metal Jacket-style and it’s amazing to see.
Your Bostonian predjudice is showing again.
Huh? What does where I’m from have to do with my opinion about this celebrity relationship?
Oh because Ben is from Boston and I’m from Boston so I have to blindly support him?
As we say in Boston: NAH, dude.
Doesn’t work like that but thanks for playing.
You don’t have to but you do.
@MND
Whats so prejudiced about having a different outlook for a positive outcome?
A lot of people crap on Ben – more than enough in fact – so why is it a problem if some speak up for him?
Asked and answered. Don’t go off on a tangent.
I mean when some have the impertinence, to opine differently. And to do so on a gossip blog no less!!!
sarc off/
Earth to Jegede, come back.
After you MND.
And only after you’ve tracked down and registered more ‘prejudice’ of course!
G’night now.
You know it. I’m the original SJW.
MWAH
I’m not from Boston but I agree as well. They have a nice family and H’wood is a messed up place with 1000 times the temptations of our normal world … so if therapy is helping them – and they might be right about him finally opening up and really getting the help he/they need – then I’m happy for them. Therapy saved my marriage. I think they can hold their heads up high if they can keep it together! It’s easier to walk than fight to make it work.
Frankly, if the story is true (which I highly doubt), I am proud of them for fighting for the marriage. Divorce should be only after you have exhausted all other remedies. I have a friend who was ready to walk, but she said she wanted to be able to tell their children they tried everything to save it. The first things they tried didn’t work and they gave it a less than 5% chance, but they got through it all with a renewed marriage. It takes a lot of work and both wanting it; hope Ben and Jen are able to make it work.
What? SHE made a big mistake? How’s that exactly? She wasn’t the lying gambling cheater in this marriage. He wasn’t allowed to do what he wanted? He sounds like an out of control spoiled brat and she’s the mommy making excuses for him. Whatever.
I’ve got no sympathy for her. She’s an idiot to take this manchild back.
i mean this is Star magazine so I always take these stories with several grains of salt. That being said I still think Jen wants him back and would reconcile in a heartbeat. It’s always been up to Ben if he’s willing to get back in line and grovel a bit, keep his side pieces out of the public eye. Garner likes the status of being in a power couple and worships him whereas he’s wanted out for ages but may not have the wherewithal to cut the check of that chunk of Batman money.
The headline is true — Jen is a fool.
I like that skirt just not with those shoes.
I’m in the super-minority: I like the skirt and shoes… just not especially with the shirt.
Don’t care about the outfit. She shouldn’t be criticised for giving it another go ( if she is). It’s not Rhianna And Chris Brown. Maybe she thinks he’s a crap husband but a good father. I wish them luck.
IMHO she is a mess – bad hair – bizarre thrift shop type clothes. If she just wore a decent pair of jeans with varied nice looking tops and flats she would look fine. A nice haircut with some swing to it. That is all. She is naturally pretty, but for some reason always looks sloppy.
I just don’t believe this.
I mean, anything is possible. And I can see where she wants to stay together, but I think he wants his freedom.
“She made a big mistake letting him go” …!??
More like ‘she made a big mistake NOT letting him go’
I don’t believe this. They are spending time together and they seem friendly. That’s good. That’s the foundation to having a good post-divorce relationship for their children. A reconciliation helps only 1 person and that’s Ben.
I believe she is holding out for that Batman backend money. For real. I would not blame her one bit.
It’s Star. No way is this true.
Ben’s girdle pics are hilarious.
Star also had a cover this month that Brad gave Angelina a divorce ultimatum. In other words, just a made-up story with made-up headlines. Star has no source. Star rarely has real sources. They are already trying for a new baby? Give me a break.
I think they are doing just like Gwen and Gavin after the divorce announcement, quietly negotiating and working out the financial details, and suddenly we will have it announced they are divorced sometime in the next few months, or for the kids hold off the signing of the divorce papers until after Christmas..
The “trying for a new baby” got me too, Jayna. WTF? Poor Samuel has already been the band-aid baby for that relationship.
“Jen has realized she’s never going to find anyone as great as Ben,” Pfffft. Then she has crap self- esteem.
She DOES have crap self-esteem. Her entire identity is attached to this asshole. She would rather be with him and endure whatever he does than to be without him. That is the message here.
Bingo!
Yes. that’s classic “enmeshment”, common in emotionally abusive relationships & with addicts….from always putting yourself aside while dealing with chaos from a charming spouse you admire.
As a child of “that guy”, who went on to several relationships all with “that guy”, with my mum still enmeshed & siblings worse off…. all I can say is RUN. It is not healthy for her or her kids or their future.
Jekyll/Hyde situations speak more to someone’s nature being dark, not a good guy who has demons; the fawning over-appreciation of dad despite his repeated transgressions is a red flag, along with his history of the same.
Well, of course, I believe everything the Star prints. BTW, I’m looking for some prime swampland. Anybody got some to sell?
They were never going to get divorced. She knew the nanny thing was going to come out and just wanted to save face
I don’t think this is true, but if it is, it really proves what immature idiots these two are – and what a doormat Jen is.
This breaking up and getting back together thing is what you go through as a young adult, not a mature, middle-aged person. Also, it ALWAYS ends up in a split, ultimately.
I love Ben as a director, I’ve enjoyed all of the film he has directed so I’m looking forward for this new movie he’s making.
Those shoes. She and the Duchess Kate must text each other aboiut international ugly shoes sales. That being said, if she takes that cheating, lying, hair-plugged Snatchsquatch back, I will barf.
Gwen Stefanis divorce has already come through and they separated after these two announced their separation. Given that they claim to have been separated for nearly a year already, this must seem neverending for them. What do they get out of dragging it out so long? Maybe they really are getting back together, it’s not normal for separated couples not living together to go grocery shopping together without the kids! They could be playing the paps for publicity or they are reuniting and can’t think of anything more interesting and fun to do together because they have nothing in common.
He never seems into her at all and appeared not to be able to escape fast enough initially so it’s weird that he didn’t take full advantage of his freedom and run.
As for the clothes; they both need someone else to dress them properly.
Someone in Ben’s camp sure likes using cliché “walking on eggshells” a lot.
SHE made the mistake?? Awwwww gawwwwd, I can’t with these two.
This woman’s entire identity is wrapped up in this man. I have ZERO respect.
Bottom Line: She needs Alanon and he needs AA. Maybe with that they might have some hope (if they are in fact reconciling). Otherwise we will be back here again.
Ladies!!! Do not have expectations of your husband. Let him come and go as he pleases, he needs his “me time” and time with buddies. You take care of the house and kids and if your husband would rather go out drinking than stay home with your family then SO BE IT! You just focus on being cheery, happy, dutiful, hot and a “cool chick” at all times! Never ask for help or expect your husband to contribute other than financially!!! So glad Jen realized her mistake and will let him back home!!
ROFL
Great advice!😉
Gurrrrrllll, I’m fricking dying ovah heeyah!!!!!!
Ok, well, that article was a very good satire. I guess tabloids are branching out.
I wish both the best but if they are back together and both are doing EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING possible to correct the problems then i am all for that. But, if he did cheat and had all of these other b problems its going to take more than a couple session of therapy to get better. Its not on her to make him better he is a grown man who knows how to take care b of himself. Also i hate when people say ” i hope they get back together for their kids sake” Why would you want children to see their parents in a crap relationship with no love and respect just to say they have a two parent household? What’s best for the children is Mommy and Daddys happiness whether they are together or apart. As a child of separated parents i know i would have been really messed up if my parents had of stayed together for me. My dad did that with his second wife and it turned out HORRIBLE! My brother had to deal with both his mom and dad fighting all the time and now a bad divorce were “mom and dad hate each other” but in someways he is happier than before.
I saw a high school friend who I thought had divorced her husband ten yrs ago, because the last time I saw her ten yrs ago, they were in divorce mode, papers etc…well we were sitting at a small lunch with friends this summer and she informs me “Oh we never divorced”….I was shocked……She is still hanging onto this guy who she sent me tons of emails , and many phonecalls about how he cheated, never helped w the kids, etc…..ten yrs ago..
I was just lost for words..
That’s sort of how I view Jen Garner…I think if it’s at all possible and she can hang on to Ben and stop a divorce, she will. I think whatever he is putting out, she likes it or loves it to the point that she will always take him back. JMO
I have no more clue than others about this, but…in the Gossip Cop rebuttal, at the end it does say that it was Garner’s camp that confirmed the Star story is “not true.” The quote marks on those words were in the story.
I do wonder if it is still about the Nanny – why they haven’t finalized. That girl was not well and I don’t think she’s done yet, and them still being married is some sort of protection (for Ben).
Probably all conjecture by the infamous Star sources to get all the female readers riled up and reading. But, if they are working it out, good for them. It is very possible to not realize what you’ve got till it’s gone. Maybe Ben woke up and maybe Jen wants her kids to have a complete family. People give up on those sacred vows to easily in this day and age.
Can someone help me out? I don’t live in the States and don’t have access to Star. What is the secret text message scandal Nanny sent Ben? Inquiring minds want to know…
I read an article years ago in which it was said that Mrs. Cosby believed it was better to be the present Mrs. Cosby (at the time) than the ex-Mrs. Cosby, as it affects how people treat you in your social circle and by the service industry.
This article reminded me of that story.
Love the “he will TRY to be a better man.” Not “I will not f—k around you anymore ever period!” But he will TRY. I was hungry for lunch, but now I just want to vomit.
I can’t add anything to this discussion, so I now want stories/reports on the other tantalising tidbits on offer in this magazine:
1: Leah Remini and more CO$ gut-spilling
2: Tom Cruise and Kirstie Alley
3: Nicole Ritchie and Joel Madden
I realise these stories have been covered previously, but I want more. Thank you.
He has all that money and can’t buy a shirt that fits.
Maybe the nanny was the one who knew how to wash clothes so that they wouldn’t shrink?
Yeah Star always gets it right. I wouldn’t take him back in a million years, kids or not. Once a cheater…always a cheater…..that’s not even it, the flipping nanny. I would never let a man humiliate me in the manner that he did. Cute kids, but they never seemed right together. What do I know, maybe they’re madly in love.
Don’t know if it’s true, considering the source. But it’s not impossible and it doesn’t mean she’s a doormat.
A friend went through this with her husband having a multitude of affairs. She even had a revenge affair herself. They didn’t have children. They were set to divorce but there was mandatory pre-divorce counseling. During counseling, they both decided they had something worth salvaging. It took a lot of time and a lot of work, but they actually managed to rebuild trust and their marriage was far better than it ever was. So people can change when they have good enough reason.
In this case, they do have children and that’s a good reason to try. Even if it doesn’t work to save the marriage, what they learn can help them be friends and that will help the kids.
yeah.. weird… SHE made the mistake.
I bet anything Ben will continue his side pieces he can get away with anything with Jennifer she has not stood her ground at all. She is just a doormat to him. So a kind man continuously cheats on his wife and with the nanny he was also paying off. I bet Jennifer friends are tired of her going back to him. Gwen Stefani is a strong woman and moving on. I’ve never seen Ben even look adoringly at his wife or the way he looked at the nanny. This guy is always going to be chasing tail Jenn doesn’t do it for him.
Here we go –> “…he started to resent her for not letting him do what he wanted. He told her that in therapy…”
Because that’s what being a spouse and parent is all about. Doing whatever you want.
This guy is going to be a painful person to have in her life for the rest of her life. Hang on to that therapist, Jen.
Mmmm maybe, but then again; it’s Star magazine
LOL – In the absence of (undoctored) photographic & audio evidence, this IS Star Magazine after all. ‘Nuff said.
I don’t think this story is true it being from Star but I have to wonder what is going through her mind at this point. How does one build trust and respect again after such behavior as exhibited by Affleck? The drinking, the gambling, the affairs (?). I’m honestly curious.
On another note, I’m waiting for Leah Remini’s book with glee. Tear down the so called COS.
All of her money and that body and she wears the worst outfits. Sigh, what I could with both in regard to street fashion
I like Jen Garner and I’ll bet she’d be a sweet friend to have in real life, but seriously, these two are soooo boring as celebs. Maybe they realised they have nothing without the Garner-Affleck image. Jen is such a nice person she was born to put up and indulge douches like Ben.
If this was about an addiction, it would be called co-dependancy. No, I don’t think she just “sucks it up” for the kids. She’s had her advantages from this relationship, and she wanted it, knowing for a long time that he has gambling, drinking etc. issues. I’m not even sure it would be best for the kids if she takes him back, and maybe this story is just gossip. At least I hope so. She could start fresh, even with three kids…
If she is truly willing to be degraded like this by his issues— not ONE, but SEVER AL deal breaking issues, then shame on her. I was a SAHM with an ex who made tons of $$ but was a complete narcissistic selfish asshole who told me he would “starve me and make my son hate me” if I left him. I stayed another 5 years. The next time, he threatened suicide. I took my son and ran- went back to work after 11 years making the same amount (20k) that I made the day I graduated from college. He indeed quit work rather than pay child support, took an interest in our son for the first time, talked him into living with him for a year (during which time my son failed school and was left in casino daycares overnight on “dates” with random women with his dad, and eventually was left on my front porch with a bag of medicine and dirty clothes (he is autistic ). That was 8 years ago. My son lives with me and my previous private investigator and now husband and we provide everything for him. He now understands that Dad has “issues”, and they are NOT ok, and that your wife should be treated with love and respect. That is ALL that matters at the end of the day. Not country club memberships, clothes, jewelry, money, status, or even comfort. Only love and respect. Only she knows her motives, but I really really hope she is not that shallow. What she does now will affect her children so profoundly. Pap walks won’t matter. Their ability to love and be loved properly will. Yes we ate rice and beans and yes he grieved, but I have NO regrets. A woman who can financially support her children is certainly without excuse. What their relationship appears to be based on is NOT a foundation for healthy children who grow into healthy adults. I fear she is being selfish while pretending to be selfless. Manipulative and wrong. Have some courage, woman.
So glad you got free of a horrible situation and so sorry you and your child went through so much. It’s a tough call and a scary step to break out. Good for you and blessings.
I do believe in people changing, if they want to and work at it as I have seen people steeped in addictions turn it around in my years of attending ANON meetings.
A counselor once told me that IF my spouse was telling me he was going to change to make our family work, I needed to give it a long period of time to be tested as true as that disorder could fake it well for a long time – ex didn’t get past just saying the words. But, I have seen others still be true after years. No idea what is going on here.
In photos posted on DM, Jennifer is wearing a white shirt with the letters JA on her pocket. Hmmm. Jennifer Affleck or Jennifer Anne or neither….maybe a daughter picked it out for her to wear.
Thank you, Diane. My situation was extreme; there was a spousal rape involved and resulting depression. Luckily I had family (although not local) and awesome friends to kick my ass through it all. And I’m stubborn which helps tremendously. 🙂 Makes one wonder what kind of situation J Garner grew up in, and what kind of support system she has at the bottom of things. I don’t recall her ever being “seen” with friends or family but I’m certainly not privy to all that. The thing is you can talk yourself into doing lots of things “for the kids”, but you really have to be solid on what you know is right and good for them. And I agree with you, people can change. They do it every day. No one really knows except the two people in the relationship!
“Gossip cop got a sort-of denial…” Is this a joke? No, you are in denial. It’s Star Magazine. Wake up. You should be ashamed of yourself.
And you think you are smart…
All I know is I would not want to be in their shoes.
Somewhat interesting in all this? How long has it been since People Mag posted a story on them? Quite a while. For months, People was printing daily stories – sometimes multiple stories in a day. More reputable than all the other rags, they seemed to be the official mouthpiece for what Jen wanted to put out there, but they haven’t said a peep for some time now. Makes me think they’re staying quiet because maybe they’ve been promised a much bigger story in the future? Maybe a big holiday or New Year story about reconciliation and a fresh start. Kind of feel like that writing is on the wall …
Please Affleck does not want her back.He is just trying to destroy their perfect couple image.Garner shall find noone while Affleck shall go on to marry JLo