Selena Gomez: ‘Ugly people’ try to ‘get negative things from you’ on social media

2015 NBC Universal Cable Entertainment Upfront

Selena Gomez covers the September issue of InStyle. She’s sort of promoting her album, but mostly she’s just promoting herself, the life and New Age-y thoughts of Selena Gomez. I find I can hold two separate opinions of Selena: I can like her, root for her and wish her well, and I can also think she’s a messy drama queen when it comes to her personal and romantic relationships. All of that is on display in this InStyle interview – she talks about the stuff she learned after walking away from fame/social media for several months last year, when she sought treatment for anxiety, stress and depression. Then she gave me a severe case of the eyerolls when she talked about her relationship with The Weeknd.

Turning 25: “I kind of wish numbers didn’t exist sometimes, because I feel like I’m 15 some days, and then other days I wake up and I’m 40. It’s so weird, how one year can change everything.”

Going to the AMAs after canceling her tour last year: “When I came out, I was asked to go to the American Music Awards, and everyone around me was like, ‘Do whatever makes you comfortable.’ I didn’t want my fans to have a negative view of taking care of yourself, so I just went in head-on, and I’ll tell you, the first time stepping on that carpet was so overwhelming. I felt like my back was sweating.”

Self-care and social media: ““I went away for 90 days, and it was the best thing that I ever could’ve done. I had no phone, nothing, and I was scared. But it was amazing, and I learned a lot. I was in the countryside and never did my hair; I took part in equine therapy, which is so beautiful. And it was hard, obviously. But I knew what my heart was saying, and I thought, ‘OK, I think this has helped me become stronger for other people.’ I go to therapy. I believe in that and talking about where you are. But I’m in a really, really healthy place.”

The pressure of social media: “Because of social media, because of all the pressure that girls have, it’s so difficult. It’s good to be connected, to see things and to get a sense of what your friends are up to. But it also allows people to think they need to look or be a certain way. Now it feels more zoomed-in— you have ugly people trying to get negative things from you, and the energy makes you feel bad about yourself. You can’t help it. It’s very hard to find out who you are during all that mess and pressure.”

Producing ‘13 Reasons Why’: “I think if our show is able to start a conversation at the dinner table, event if it’s just ‘That’s terrible’ or ‘That was great,’ it’s still starting a conversation. It scared people, but it’s really important.”

Child stardom: “I think it’s really dysfunctional to be in the industry at a young age where you’re figuring out who you are. I don’t recommend it.”

Dating The Weeknd: “I don’t depend on one area of my life to make me happy. It’s really important for me to love and nourish my friends and family and to make sure that I never get influenced by a guy. I’ve wanted to be in a strong headspace for years, and I really wasn’t. Before, I was so young and easily influenced, and I’d feel insecure. You want someone to add to your life, not to complete you, if that makes sense. I’m lucky because he’s more of a best friend than anything else.”

[From E! News & People]

“You have ugly people trying to get negative things from you…” I know what she meant, that people were being ugly to her on social media. But she might also mean that ugly people are hating on the poor pretty girl!!! You never know. I’d also like to say – Selena isn’t JUST an innocent social media victim, let’s be real – she regularly used social media platforms to trash her ex, Justin Bieber, and her relationship with the Weeknd has not really been without shady moments.

2015 NBC Universal Cable Entertainment Upfront

Photos courtesy of InStyle.

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  1. perplexed says:

    She probably meant ugly in a metaphorical way. There’s no way she could be so dumb as labelling people as physically ugly, because that would just land you into trouble forever.

    Still find her annoying though.

  2. Slowsnow says:

    Did she say equine therapy? That’s the epitome of rich people hardships. “It was so hard”. Yeah….

    • susiecue says:

      I know, that made me snort. Listen to yourself, girl. “I went away for 90 days…” Good for you! I’m dealing with my problems while working 9-5 like the rest of the world.

    • Rose says:

      God i’d love to take 90 days off! I’d be in such a ‘good place’ if i did that too. Sadly, bills to pay etc etc

      • Oh dear says:

        Pretty sure she has bills to pay too. Difference is she has already earned enough money and doesn’t have to worry about it.

        It’s not like she didn’t earn that privilege so more power to her 🙂

    • sami says:

      I have a friend who is a therapist who works for a non-profit doing equine therapy for homeless people and addicts. It is helpful to a wide variety of people.

  3. minx says:

    She’s so tiresome.

  4. Honey says:

    She shouldn’t have said ‘ugly people, ‘ That doesn’t sound good. Some might not realize she wasn’t talking about looks. Mean or negative wouldn’t have sounded so rude

  5. Cleo says:

    Woody Allen is pretty ugly and negative imo.

    • Bejkie says:

      Exactly. Now she’s signed on for his film, I don’t care to hear about her bs hardships.

    • Nicole says:

      I haven’t been about Selena since she got involved in Taylor drama and black twitter dragged her for it. She is messy. But working with Allen is a wrap for me

      • MM says:

        Her fetish video is really creepy, she just looking for ways to hurt her mouth(?) and kill herself while looking completely dissociated.
        I don’t see it as art. It’s like they trying to make suicide glamorous and I don’t buy it. It doesn’t raise awareness it just males it appealing for young girls.

      • Carrie says:

        Same.

        She doesn’t look good here. Photos with content of this interview aren’t doing her any favours.

        I like what she said about child stardom. That’s new, from her, I think.

  6. littlemissnaughty says:

    I didn’t give Serena the benefit of the doubt so I won’t give it to this one either. Girl. Choose your words more carefully. And maybe have your therapist look at your narcissism. She uses the words “I” and “me/my” waaaay too much. And when hardship to you means no phone for 90 days while riding your pony in the countryside … grow the f*ck up.

  7. Maple Girl says:

    What did they do to her face on the cover? Holly photoshop.

    I feel for her because of her mental health issues, but she is where she is because of fame and being able to latch on to the most popular person at the moment ( Justin, Taylor, now The Weeknd), not talent. She could quit social media and just go away, but she want’s fame to be a switch she can turn on and off when it suits her, and it just doesn’t work that way.

    • Lynnie says:

      I feel she did something to her cheeks irl besides photoshop, but I haven’t been able to put my finger on it

  8. Zondie says:

    Some days so feels like she is 40?!?! Selena you wouldn’t even know what that feels like.

  9. Zondie says:

    #hollywoodproblems

  10. Lynnie says:

    The thing that confuses me about her is that I don’t understand the level of fame she wants, and why she refuses to improve one of her mediocre talents (she’s not the acting/singing diva she thinks she is) to get it. Is she just that clueless or has she bought into her whole hype? I will say her fashioning herself into a fashion darling has been a smart move in terms of keeping interest, but that’ll eventually fade because she’s no Rihanna. Idk, I guess I’m just interested in how long this fame-by-adjacent thing is going to last lol

    I do like the pink outfit in the last photo tho. Pink is such a great color 😊

  11. Pumpkin (formally soup, pie) says:

    “You want someone to add to your life, not to complete you, if that makes sense.”

    Yes it makes sense. I can’t stand the “you make me complete” BS.

  12. Moxie Remon says:

    Okay then, you Woody Allen enabler.

  13. Nicole says:

    She’s the epitome of bland. Seriously she is not great at anything.

  14. Beth says:

    What is she wearing in that last picture? It looks like shredded tissue paper with plastic diamonds. I don’t know what’s worse, the tacky shredded dress or that hideous chair

  15. christy j says:

    I want the chair in that photo! Love it!

  16. Lauren says:

    I don’t root for this woman in anyway. Her Alllivesmatter crap and her basicness on every level is nauseating. That’s all.

  17. Purple Nymphe says:

    At some point this girl has got to stop feeling sorry for herself. Her “poor me” dirge has been wailing for a long time since the decline and end of her relationship with Justin. I feel like she can’t stand to see him happy if she isn’t the reason he is happy, and continues to make negative underhand remarks in order to get his attention. Just grow up and go away.

    This song “Attention” by Charlie Puth describes her real well.

  18. Henny in my Hand says:

    I think she meant “some days you look 12 and act 12 and feel 12”. This girl has the maturity of a tadpole and the intelligence of a pellet. I don’t mean to be unnecessarily harsh but she is exhausting, self centred, and trying WAY too hard. The most untalented person in the industry, complaining about non existent problems caused by the “fame” that she tries so hard to get. She tries playing the sympathy card time after time, while getting attention from the only interesting thing she’s ever done, which is dating people more famous and talented than herself. Snooze fest.