Luke Perry’s daughter defends nice picture with her mom: ‘Yes I am hurt and sad’

Sophie Perry is Luke Perry’s 18-year-old daughter. She and her brother, Jack, have been devastated by the sudden loss of their father, obviously. Jack posted his thoughts to Instagram two days after Luke passed. Sophie, who was in Malawi when she got the news of the stroke, raced home just in time to say goodbye. The first she posted about his death, was this photo of the two of them. Her caption thanked everyone for the outpouring of good wishes for her and her family. On International Women’s Day, Sophie followed up her tribute to her dad with one to her mom, Luke’s ex Minnie Sharp. Sophie thanked her mom for being everyone’s rock during this terrible time. Unfortunately, Sophie came under attack for it. According to her latest post, people accused her of not grieving enough, using course language in her grief and, inexplicably, the way she dressed to grieve:

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Since my dad died I have received a lot of attention online. And most of it has been positive but of course, some people just can’t be nice. And I’m here to say that I did not ask for this attention, I did not ask to be thrown into some virtual spotlight, and while I don’t mean to offend anybody, I’m also not going to cater to any one else’s needs and beliefs. I’m 18. I swear like a sailor and sometimes I dress like a hooker. And I support causes and you may not. And most importantly. I am going to laugh and smile and live my normal life. YES I am hurt and sad and crying and beside myself with what happened to my dad. It’s the worst thing to ever happen in my life. And I am torn the fuck up over it. But I’m not going to sit in my room and cry day in and day out until the internet has deemed it appropriate for me to do otherwise. And if you knew my dad you would know he wouldnt want me to. So you shouldn’t either. So to those of you shaming me for my language and my wardrobe and most disgustingly, my grieving process, do us both the favor and just unfollow. It’s a waste of both of your time.

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Since my dad died I have received a lot of attention online. And most of it has been positive but of course, some people just can’t be nice. And I’m here to say that I did not ask for this attention, I did not ask to be thrown into some virtual spotlight, and while I don’t mean to offend anybody, I’m also not going to cater to any one else’s needs and beliefs. I’m 18. I swear like a sailor and sometimes I dress like a hooker. And I support causes and you may not. And most importantly. I am going to laugh and smile and live my normal life. YES I am hurt and sad and crying and beside myself with what happened to my dad. It’s the worst thing to ever happen in my life. And I am torn the fuck up over it. But I’m not going to sit in my room and cry day in and day out until the internet has deemed it appropriate for me to do otherwise. And if you knew my dad you would know he wouldnt want me to. So you shouldn’t either. So to those of you shaming me for my language and my wardrobe and most disgustingly, my grieving process, do us both the favor and just unfollow. It’s a waste of both of your time.

Sophie’s trying to make sense of a life without her father, she shouldn’t have to deal with this nonsense. The gall of some people, and all so they can feel better about how they’re feeling. Jennie Garth came under attack as well, and for almost the same thing. She posted a picture of her daughters on International Women’s Day and everyone came for her for not having a picture of Luke instead. Jennie commented that she posted her daughters to celebrate them and that’s what Luke would have wanted because, “his kids were his life.” People came for Jason Priestly for needing a few days before he could respond. Can anyone possibly think that Luke would want people to critique his kids and closest friends as they process his death? Especially since, as Jennie Garth put so well, Luke “didn’t give a f*#k about social media.”

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  1. Becks1 says:

    That is so disgusting. People grieve however they want/need to grieve, and everyone grieves differently. This, to me, is different from something like the Harvey Weinstein scandal, where we wanted a statement from some of his closest associates as soon as possible. Death is different. Jason Priestly can respond publicly whenever he wants to, or not. Luke Perry’s daughter can post what she wants on IG.

    I had a friend in middle school whose father died, and we all went to the funeral Mass (catholic school). My friend didn’t cry, her sister was a mess. Some people in the class were all “I don’t think she was that upset over it, she wasn’t even CRYING” and that ticked me off so much, even to this day. People grieve how they need to grieve.

    • josephine says:

      Not to mention that laughter can be a very real, very important part of the grieving process. Social media can be a source of good, a source of support, but it’s also a source of so much poison.

    • BengalCat😻 says:

      My father died unexpectedly when I was 22 and I was in so much shock, I couldn’t see straight. (I was also living on the other side of the country at the time). Thanks to my amazing friends, I was able to laugh and enjoy myself…family members where not understanding. It took a few months for it to sink in. It’s been 22 years since his death and the lack of compassion is still a source of anxiety. People are awful and I just want to give this girl a big hug.
      I still have those wonderful friends in my life. They are my family.

      • When my mom passed away, we we all were home for three days during the funeral period. The last evening brothers and sisters sat round the kitchen table where we have always gathered and told stories of our youth – there were tears of course, but also gales of laughter as we remembered the fun stuff with our beloved mother. Anyone looking in would have wondered if we were truly grieving – we were heartbroken, but non stop crying would not bring her back, remembering her with laughter and tears keeps mom alive to us all.

      • Snappyfish says:

        Exactly people grieve in so many ways. When my mother passed she wanted her ashes spread in the Chesapeake Bay. We were all grief stricken but the day, sunny & beautiful but with really high winds, involved not being able to get into the urn, a boat captain with a screwdriver & a crab sippy cup to the rescue, & an assortment of other minor disasters left us crying and laughing. She would have loved it. Our hearts were broken but she brought us smiles & laughter & helped us begin our healing.

        The v v best to this lovely young lady & her family at the devastating time

    • Carol says:

      What kind of person would spend any time on any social channel to berate a stranger on how they are grieving? I just don’tget that.

    • Tigerlily says:

      Becks1. Too true we all grieve differently. At my father’s funeral I was dry eyed but just frozen with grief. Two months later at a friend’s mother’s funeral I blubbered like a baby…..delayed reaction or something I guess.

  2. Angie says:

    Wow. This is the same week I’m seeing most of twitter attacking Wade Robson and James Safechuck. Can I be done with people?

  3. Erinn says:

    It enraged me yesterday when I saw this story.

    Luke Perry was a public figure – but I think most importantly to HIM he was a father. And his kids should be left the fuck alone when it comes to grieving. They owe NOTHING to anyone. People need to learn to shut their mouths and give people room to breathe – especially those who are not public figures themselves. And the fact that they’re after this young lady for her language made me so ragey. She is not their property. She is not their child, not their grandchild, not anything to them. She is allowed to speak and express herself however she wants – and the fact that anyone would ever try to tell her how she needs to deal with a traumatic event like this is just absolutely mind boggling trash.

  4. Arpeggi says:

    It’s pretty ridiculous to see people criticize and insult the kids and friends of someone they absolutely knew nothing about. And they call themselves fans?! For real?!?

    That girl owes no one an explanation, she’s allowed to deal with her dad’s death however she wants, she doesn’t have to behave like a Sicilian widow.

  5. OriginalLala says:

    what is wrong with people? Let them grieve. His family and friends owe no one an explanation for how they are grieving.

  6. Zapp Brannigan says:

    I hate this trend of “If it’s not on social media, it did not happen”. Do none of the people criticizing this young lady ever stop to think that maybe she did not post about her grief because it is private and not performative? That her relationship and the loss of her dad are not for public consumption?

    I hope she has love and support in her life right now, and that her and her family are left in peace to heal.

    • dahlia6 says:

      I hate the idea of performative emotion. I come from a very closed-off family. We’re not huggers, we’re not big on social scenes, but that doesn’t mean we love people any less just because we don’t throw ourselves on the coffin weeping. I lost my grandfather 3 years ago and I couldn’t even go to the funeral, it just hurt too much to see him lying in the coffin. That wasn’t how I wanted to remember the man I looked up to. I wanted to remember him taking me for walks through the garden when I was little, and bringing me apples and chestnuts from his orchard. But some people just can’t understand that grief is probably one of the most personal things a human can experience, and every human is different. Just because I couldn’t sit through a 3 hour Baptist funeral full of fire and brimstone preaching doesn’t mean I loved my grandfather any less than the relatives who could.

      People should leave these kids alone and let them have this time to deal with what is likely going to be one of hardest experiences of their life. And just from what I read on her instagram post, this kid has her head on straight and she’s going to be just fine. I wish them all the best and hope for their healing.

  7. Mia4s says:

    Sigh…despite some positives, on the whole social media is a cancer on society.

    Life doesn’t stop because someone dies and no two people mourn the same way. Have these morons never lost someone? Sigh…

  8. Kittycat says:

    My dad died on my birthday.

    He loved going to Niagara Falls so I went there but that didn’t mean I wasn’t devastated.

    I really hope the media leave his kids alone.

    • Marni says:

      This must be so hard! I am so sorry Kittycat. We all grieve differently and we shouldn’t be apologetic for it.

    • Wow says:

      My mother died suddenly the day before she was supposed to fly out to help me get the nursery ready for my twins.

      You know what I did? I went out and bought cribs. I was accused of being selfish by my brother, but I didn’t know what to do. What was I supposed to do?

      I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you found what you needed in that moment at Niagara Falls.

      • Kate says:

        So sorry for your loss and for the pain of being accused that way. Death is so difficult to deal with and it feels doubly worse when people are unkind.

      • TQB says:

        This is why we use the expression “it’s what s/he would have wanted!” Because it’s true. Your mom would have wanted you to go buy those cribs, and YOU are the one who knows that, because it’s personal between the two of you. @Kittycat, same. What a beautiful tribute, to go to a place that was special to him to remember him.

  9. Yrsa says:

    First of all: what the fxck is wrong with these people???

    Second: I’m impressed with how well written her post is.

  10. Kitten says:

    Sigh. People are awful.

  11. adastraperaspera says:

    I lost my Dad at 21. I feel for her. Grief critics are sickos.

    • Nicole(the Cdn one) says:

      I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my dad at 46 and it impacted me in a way I could never have foreseen (4 years later it still does) and I had been living away from my parents since I was 18. I cannot imagine the scars that losing a parent at 21 would cause. I hope you have had the support to help you heal and have not had to deal with the grief critics.

  12. chloe says:

    People are awful, that’s why I keep my Facebook and Instagram accounts private, I followed a huge star that passed away a few years ago and after his passing his underage daughter was getting constantly harassed on Instagram to a point where she went private and some how some of her firends still sharted her stuff. It’s a sick world we live in.

  13. SM says:

    People are crazy. It is a special kind of pain for a daughter to lose a father. Especially when daughters feel very much adored by their fathers. Like Sophie. Like me. When my dad passed I felt like the me I knew died too and I had to find a new way to be in the world.No one knows how much time it takes for someone to find this new way in life. Two years after my dad died, I still am looking for it and struggling sometimes more that I would like to. But life does go on and you feel happy and joyous and content even, there is no point nor need to sit in a dark room mourning all the time. The pain of loss is what you cary with you at all times and still manage to live a good and happy life (having your own small human does help a lot to feel happy). And these two things are not incompatible. At least for me. So to judge someone for how they choose to grief and deal with loss is just wrong.

  14. Charfromdarock says:

    People are fecking idijits.

    She owed no one an explanation but it was so mature and articulate for someone who has just faced a huge loss so young.

  15. Veronica S. says:

    The Internet has given people way too much leeway to be assholes without it being followed up with a punch in the face. This is why my online accounts are locked down.

    On a shallow note: look at all that gorgeous, curly hair! It’s nice to see somebody wear theirs down without straightening it to hell and back. She is a cutie pie.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      My heart goes out to her. I never stop being surprised at how terrible some people can be to others.

      I totally agree with your “shallow note”. Her hair is amazing and I am glad she hasn’t succumbed to the pressure to straighten it. As a curly girl myself, I know know how it is! It looks like her mom has the same hair, it’s gorgeous.

  16. JadedBrit says:

    Social media have turned life into performance art: moral and ethical norms have shifted from the private sphere into public, blurring the boundaries of the Real entirely. Perhaps that’s an unduly philosophical observation, but for generations increasingly raised on appearances (look like X, dress like Y, eat like Z, party like M, quote from U) I fear that the idea and indeed existence of the true Self is increasingly being lost. And this haranguing of an 18 year old dealing with the unimaginable – because until we lose a parent, the reality of losing them is unimaginable – is a perfect example.
    Those ignorami – and I will be harsh, be it their fault or that of the world in which we now live – seem to be in the death grip of an existential crisis. If it isn’t documented, it didn’t happen. This has even spilled over to the most private of spheres: grieving. If it is not publicly displayed and digitised, it does not exist. If it does not exist, it must be condemned. The sole commonalites between the Renaissance and Generation Z, for example, are the herd mentality, self-promotion and unfounded condemnation of the lives of others.
    I mention the Renaissance, because it arose out of one of the greatest natural disasters in history: the Black Death. Ca. 50% of Europe alone died, and in that period of unfathomable loss (“Where are all the dear faces?” mourned the poet Petrarcha: “… They have dwindled like shadows…”) individuals, shattered by the incontrovertible evidence of human frailty and tragedy, began the process of literal self-preservation, particularly through religious and secular art. Many goods, such as humanism, the foundation of modern democracy and the celebration of the Beautiful arose; many ills too, such as publicly endorsed (what we would now term as) egoism. I fear we are facing the same crisis today: the demise of a solid identity, concomitant with the demise of religion, the twilight of Western ideologies and neocapitalism, the fear of the infinite fragility of existence and of simply dwindling like shadows.
    This of course does not excuse the arseholism of such vicious attacks on dear Luke Perry’s daughter and friends, but may go some way to explain it.
    I prefer the old Scottish tradition that no-one ever truly dies while there is one person to tell their story, another to hear it. And my deepest sadness and condolences to not only Perry’s family, but the CBers above who have suffered gutwrenching losses, and are all coping in their own unique way.

    • LivePlantsCleanAir says:

      Have you seen the movie “Coco”…..it’s lovely and describes death the same way…as long as someone remembers them they are around forever 🙂

  17. mtam says:

    For the most part, you can laugh off the craziness of trolls, but sometimes they are truly vile. It’s not their effing business how his actually family decides to grieve. And how freaking insane it is to look at this situation and think, “she’s not grieving properly, let me send her hate messages calling her a whore!” Seriously, these people are the scum of the earth.

    • LivePlantsCleanAir says:

      I honestly always thought those horrible, nasty comments were created by AI…not human beings

  18. Mia says:

    People grieve how THEY want to grieve and however LONG they need to.

  19. Jess says:

    People are sick, and obsessed with social media behavior. Why does anyone need to post nonstop about the death of a loved one? When did that become a sign of true grief?? I don’t post about those things at all, it feels weird to me to announce such deep emotions to 300 people on my newsfeed. I can’t stand when people think that the way they grieve or act online is the way everyone should act.

    I also try to follow the rule of not posting comments to someone if I wouldn’t also say it to their face. I pause for a minute and picture actually speaking to the person, it Keeps me in check, I wish more people did that as well.

  20. lucy2 says:

    I really don’t understand trying to police others emotions, especially on something as devastating as this. Stop. Leave people alone.

    I also don’t understand the weird expectations for social media people have during times like this. Honestly I’d expect someone to stay away from it and just be with their family. I’d never expect someone to post about it, and even worse, demand they post to my liking.

    If I were her, I’d go private, or at the very least turn comments off.

  21. Lady Keller says:

    How cruel. I am sure Luke Perry’s daughter and friends know him a lot better than random internet strangers. I doubt he would care or be offended at all by their behavior.

    When someone you love dies, especially so suddenly you are in a strange position where life still has to go on. You may want the world to stop but bills have to get paid, a lot of us have to go back to work, kids have to get dressed for school, groceries need to be bought…. Social media presence is a regular part of life for many people. Posting pictures on a social media account for international women’s day is hardly disrespectful. Especially in Sophie’s case. I’m sure her mom has been a rock for her. I cant imagine in what universe that is disrespectful.

    • Lady D says:

      A friend of mine went back to work 10 days after her youngest was killed by a drunk driver. I asked her if she was going to be okay and she said she had to be. She was a single mom with two other boys who needed to eat and mortgage payments to make. It was heartbreaking.

  22. Mary says:

    My problem with this is her lack of manners and class on the internet. Why do people think its okay to write before thinking on the internet and to curse and be vulgar online when we are taught to not behave this way IRL?

    She says she curses like a sailor and dresses like a hooker like it is something to be proud of. It is not. Her father was a class act and she should be inspired to act more like him. The f-bombs in the post are just not classy and are inflammatory as well. Whether she realizes it or not, she is stoking the fire with this post and feeding the trolls.

    A death in the immediate family is a time to reflect, not a time to grandstand online for attention for yourself. She should take it offline for a while and heal.

    • JadedBrit says:

      @Mary Why shouldn’t she curse like a sailor and dress like a hooker? Why should she have to fall into to the patriarchally-enforced notions of “ladylike” behaviour which are designed to keep women in their ‘place’? If that is the way she chooses to be: so be it. I rather feel that you are policing her behaviour here; it is up to her whether she rages against these who attempt to impose upon her the approved Grieving Formula. As for your comments re her father: yes, we all loved Dylan. I’m watching my way through the whole of the original Beverly Hills 90210 as a little homage to Luke Perry. But none of us knew him in the private sphere. And he was the one who raised her. So many conjectures re: this young woman’s behaviour and her father’s supposed expectations of her.
      It is deeply disappointing to read such a post.

      • Mary says:

        I think the whole attitude of “If you don’t like my toxic offensive behavior, its your problem.” is so problematic these days. People should be responsible for their offensive, toxic behavior and should work on themselves. It is not the responsibility of society to put up with someones offensive behavior. In my opinion, the most self growth occurs when you reflect on your own toxic/offensive behavior and try to fix it for the sake of the people you love that choose/have to be around you.

        Dropping F-bombs in public and on social media is not a feminist issue, it is a manners issue. Swearing in public and online is bad manners and especially so when you are honoring and discussing your late father in an online post.. There are so many other words she can use in place of swear words.

      • Otaku fairy... says:

        @Mary: Using profanity isn’t toxic or offensive behavior. It’s behavior that some people’s shit-for-brains Bible-thumping ancestors socialized them to clutch their pearls about. I’m tired of all these brainwashed old biddies imposing the respectability politics surrounding profanity and female modesty from THEIR youth on women of this generation and deciding that we’re trash or in the wrong just because we see you as repressed and don’t want that toxic fuckery pushed on us or our own. These women are usually the first ones to side with the patriarchy’s dehumanization and misogynistic abuse of women and girls who fail to meet ‘ladylike’ standards. Any woman who feels too delicate for an f-bomb, still needs modesty to feel pride, or isn’t comfortable with hookup culture (hmm, what kind of pride) is free to watch her language, cover from collarbone to knee, and close her legs like a good girl until a man chooses her as his bride. But all of this can be done without slut-shaming women who choose differently.

    • Kate says:

      Mary, literally anything feeds trolls. Trolls feel anger all the time about everything *cough* and want to spread that anger and hate to anyone else who will take it. I don’t find anything in her post vulgur or offensive or disrespectful to her father’s memory. She is 18 and grieving and defensive b/c she’s under attack by people who don’t know her or her father but who assume they do. Also, people, even women, are allowed to curse these days!

      • Mary says:

        I think men and women who curse like sailors in public online are equally ill mannered. It’s not a sexist comment to find cussing in public settings offensive.

    • S says:

      Mary, oh did I not grieve my father properly because I still swore after he died or went to college parties in cute little dresses? Was I supposed to stop being myself and being a typical 18 year old? Back in the days of AIM was I not behaving properly by leaving vague away messages with song lyrics as we did back then to get attention? I sure do wish my 18 year old self grieved according to your rules. She’s an 18 year old kid! She just lost her dad! Leave her alone to grieve the way she needs to and worry about your own manners.

      • Mary says:

        I think you’re taking this all wrong. I don’t care how someone grieves, I think the issue is social media.

        Its fine to have these growing pains privately IN REAL LIFE but why flaunt your bad habits or low moments to the world on social media and then do so in the name of grief?

        Why expose yourself to the trolls as well? Is nothing sacred or private these days?

        Your AIM away messages didn’t leave a digital footprint behind for forever like instagram. I believe kids, even Sophie, should learn to be responsible digital citizens and cussing/being vulgar online leaves a certain footprint behind.

        Some things should be taken offline and experienced offline.

    • Erinn says:

      This is horseshit.

      So what, Mary? Because I choose to swear I’m somehow less professional? I’m not cursing out coworkers or cursing in a meeting. I have a mouth like a sailor – and I’m not ashamed of that. I also have a much more well developed vocabulary than about 98% of my coworkers.

      You say that her father was a class act? I presume you KNOW that he didn’t swear? He didn’t swear at home, or in front of his children? And even if he was the classiest of humans – what if he swore like a sailor? Does that mean you would have to then say he is no longer a class act?

      She’s allowed to exaggerate. She’s allowed to make a joke. She’s allowed to be self-deprecating if she wants to – and quite frankly, it is none of your business. Is she seeking YOUR approval? Do you have a position of power over any aspect of her life? No. I also have a public instagram account – I suppose that means it’s fair game for someone to burst in and start dictating how I should live my life?

      “Its fine to have these growing pains privately IN REAL LIFE but why flaunt your bad habits or low moments to the world on social media” – and how often do we hear that it’s so damaging for everyone to see a scrubbed down, ‘perfect’ life on social media? How often do we hear about the kind of damage it’s doing to young women’s self-esteem for others to present such a faux-perfect life on social media.

      Look. Leaving a digital footprint is inevitable at this point. But society is moving further and further away from old traditions and customs. As long as she’s not out there treating others like garbage – it won’t really matter. Unless she’s trying to get a position with a religious organization her life isn’t going to be stalled dramatically because she chooses to let some swear words fly online.

      Since we’re discussing what we consider ill-mannered? I would say playing morality police towards a grieving teenager that you don’t even know is pretty ill-mannered. I would assume that class-act Luke Perry would be pretty unimpressed with the kind of attitude people are lobbing at someone he clearly adored – especially after she was flung into the spotlight because people were obsessively searching for her reaction to his death.

      • Mary says:

        We will have to agree to disagree. I am not policing her behavior, I am commenting on an article on Celebitchy.

        I believe our conduct on social media is important and should be more thoughtful. I don’t believe social media is appropriate for this type of behavior, the trolls and her response. That is just my humble opinion.

        Clearly she cannot handle the dark side of social media at this time so why not GET OFFLINE instead of continuing to participate in this unhealthy loop?? I feel like seeking attention on social media (whether to blast the “haters” like Sophie did or troll) is a defining “need” of our generation and I think its really unhealthy.

        As a society, online and IRL, I believe we have lost our sense of decorum and dignity.

        My advice to Sophie would be that instead of lashing out online against trolls, cussing and the like – when they go low, you go high. And offline.

    • Veronica S. says:

      Considering most of her Instagram actually looks like normal teenager stuff without excessively graphic content, I’d assume she was being facetious and spiteful in the face of her detractors. Regardless, at the end of the day, she’s EIGHTEEN and just suffered a massive familial loss, so I think we can give her some leeway on ~behaving like a classy lady~ or whatever other social nonsense we want to throw at her.

    • Using a young woman’s own dead father to shame her in her grief is a new low, Mary. But at least you didn’t curse.

    • Snowflake says:

      @mary, one of the stages of grief is anger. I was sad, then mad, then accepted my father’s passing. Why do you think your opinion of how she should grieve is correct? Anger is a natural emotion to feel after the passing of a loved one. I think it’s sad that you’re more concerned about appearances than her loss.

  23. me says:

    Everyone grieves differently. Shame on anyone that is giving this girl a hard time. Leave her the f*ck alone. I lost my dad years ago and it’s still so painful.

  24. Marty says:

    She is in shock. It will fullly hit her later this year. Hopefully she will get support from family and friends. I lost my mom at 21.

  25. LondonLozza says:

    Annnnnd this is why I no longer have Facebook, Instagram or Twitter accounts.
    I literally come to a handful of sights for news, info, gossip and insightful thought and conversation.
    The internet is an insidious place these days.

  26. Lizzie says:

    i don’t understand people. i really don’t.

  27. Insomniac says:

    I lost my father at the same age Sophie is now. I can’t imagine how much harder that would have been if he’d been a public figure and people were waiting to pounce on me if I didn’t grieve “correctly.” The people attacking her can burn in Hell.

  28. S says:

    I lost my dad when I was 18 too and it was very sudden. I was a sophomore at an out of town college and I had to go back and go to classes like my entire world hadn’t just shattered the week before. Grief is so complex. Like Sophie said, it’s not just shutting yourself in a room and crying until someone deems its an acceptable amount of time and you can come out now. You still have to learn how to go on and live your life without your loved one. She’s only 18. It’s going to be a very long road of ups and downs for her and her brother and I feel for them. Trolls are disgusting for coming after her.

  29. mara says:

    My husband dropped dead at age 45. All of us reacted in our own way. His son was 16 when his Dad died, and he was acting like he was at a party instead of a funeral. We knew that he was in shock, but other people judged. I tend to be brave and stoic in public, and shed my tears in private. My husband’s wake was attended by over 700 people because he was involved in government and veteran causes. Some people said that they were surprised that I wasn’t crying. How the hell was I supposed to stand next to his casket for 9 hours, greet and thank hundreds of mourners, all while bawling my eyes out? People who judge how a person handles grief truly SUCK. My heart goes out to Sophie Perry and the rest of her family.

  30. Case says:

    My grandmother was one of the closest people to me in my life. No one has ever known or understood me the way she did — we were absolutely the best of friends and had an amazing relationship. And I didn’t cry at her funeral. Or after her funeral. Or anywhere except when I knew I was alone. I did not share my grief with my friends, either. I’m a private person and quite stoic in the face of personal issues. I’d hate to think people would think I loved my grandmother less because of my reaction to her death. How terrible.

  31. Parigo says:

    She’s adorable and seems like a really cool person. Her brother too.

  32. Lyla says:

    Recently at my grandma’s funeral, one of my grandma’s distant relatives was bawling her eyes out, while my aunts, uncle, and mom didn’t shed a tear. Now was that distant relative more sad than my grandma’s kids, grandkids, greatgrandkids? Doubtful. Grief shouldn’t be performative. Everyone grieves in their own way. Just because someone doesn’t cry doesn’t mean they aren’t hurting.

  33. Dizzy says:

    My mom died on My Christmas break from University. Boy was I messed up. Worst time of my life, glad I didn’t have to deal with strangers criticizing me. People were so kind, people I didn’t even really know.

  34. JRenee says:

    Leave her alone. The last thing she needs 8s measurement of her grief!

  35. Blocked Cause I am says:

    Celebrities don’t owe us anything. We don’t get to intrude upon their grief. We don’t get to demand they tell us how they are feeling about their friend dying. We certainly don’t get to tell a young woman how she should grieve her father. People are the worst sometimes. Celebrities and their families DON’T OWE US ANYTHING.

  36. Lana234 says:

    Good for her she has every right to grieve the loss of her father any way she feels like. I find it strange that people want to tell anyone let alone a complete stranger how to grieve.

  37. SixxKitty says:

    Grief is hard enough, without all the negativity, she has every right to grieve her father, without having to defend anything.