Taylor Swift spent the three-day Memorial Day holiday in Europe, doing promotional work for her new album. While in London, she did radio interviews, print interviews and she appeared on the Graham Norton Show, which is always a good choice for her – Graham treats her well and she’s very good off-the-cuff, interacting with people. In addition to the promo work, she was seen out and about with Joe Alwyn in Paris on Friday – you can see the photos here. I wondered where Joe was during her promotion and here he is. It was just a few months ago that People Magazine and Us Weekly were running endless stories about how Taylor really, really wants to marry Joe and that he is THE ONE. But don’t you dare ask Taylor about it!
During a recent interview with Deutsche Presse-Agentur, Swift was asked if turning 30 is a “turning point” in her life and if she’s ready for her next step in her relationship with boyfriend Joe Alwyn.
“I really do not think men are asked that question when they turn 30. So I’m not going to answer that question now,” Swift candidly replied, according to fan sites who translated quotes.
While she may have passed on the question, she did reflect on the big age milestone that is coming up for her.
“I hear others say that one in his thirties no longer has as much stress and anxiety in life as in my twenties,” she noted. “And I can join in the observation that we are in our twenties looking to gain experience, try things out, fail, make mistakes.”
I mean, she has a point. Male celebrities aren’t asked if they’re ready to get hitched around their 30th birthdays, although… to be fair, I have noticed that men are getting similar-ish questions about their futures. Like, Michael B. Jordan (32) gets questions about settling down and dating someone seriously. Miles Teller (32) is always talking about his fiancee and their wedding plans. Chris Evans (37) dedicates space in each one of his interviews to talk about his yearning for a wife and babies. Asking male and female celebrities the same kinds of personal relationship questions hasn’t reached Peak Equality, but things are changing. Props to Taylor for refusing to engage with that question, I guess. Also: to all the women and men out there, don’t put an arbitrary date on “when I need to be married.” Prioritizing marriage by a certain age is how Kim Kardashian ended up married to Kris Humphries. *shiver*
Photos courtesy of Backgrid.
I love the top part of her dress in these photos! However the bottom part is going to make people start the bump watch.. terrible design.
I came here to say the same thing! That ruffle is in the wrong spot unless she wants people to start making bets on her uterus.
I see filler face.
Before we use the weight gain argument – I call no
Meh. I think that the short list, in show-biz-land, are the people who DON’T use fillers.
There’s also a video floating around twitter if Taylor signing autographs in the street, and politely refusing to sign one from her Diet Coke campaign.
So the snake fam (proud member) is wildly speculating that she might be a contender for Super Bowl halftime show.
That would make sense. It’s always surprised me that she hasn’t done it yet, but I think she had to build a catalogue of songs that would work – like We Are Never Getting Back Together, Shake It Off, ME!, etc.
She hasn’t done it yet because it’s the Pepsi Halftime Show and she has a contract with Coke
She wasn’t able to while she had a Coke contract because the Halftime Show is sponsored by Pepsi. No idea how long she has been released from that contract, but she’d be a good pick!
Getting married isn’t really an accomplishment, in my book.
I agree. If someone wants to get married, fine. If they don’t, fine too. It’s not something we women all need to strive for…though with how society is we are seen as failures if we don’t get married. God forbid a woman make an active choice to stay single and childless. How dare she !!!
Childless, single woman about to turn 40 at the end of the year here: Can confirm the fabulousness of not having a man/tiny human to answer to.
@Rapunzel: 38 yo, same here! In this moment of my life I am exploring my “singleness”: I like to travel alone, I was scared at the beginning, I have discovered it’s FABOULOUS: you don’t depend to anyone, you do what the hell you want to do.
I have friends, I see them, but I LOVE being in my own apartment with only my cat. Doing everything in my own term. It’s called freedom, and once you understand how it works, and stop paying attention to all of that voices (husband! Marriage! Family! You are going to be a sad spinster!) it is amazing.
Sometimes people wonder why it’s so difficult to see me because I don’t have a husband, a boyfriend, they think I am sitting crying on the couch, while I am travelling, reading, doing sports etc. etc.
Yup. People seeing “marriage in itself” as a landmark/ goal/ accomplishment/ indicator of social status or achievement are generally the ones who end up wallowing in premature, suck-ass marriages.
Exactly. I’m in my early fifties and I love my single childless life. I sometimes mentally survey the relationships of my friends/family and rarely find myself envious. We are all born to follow different paths. Shrugs shoulders.
A wedding isn’t an accomplishment for anyone but the event planner and the caterer. Staying married for decades and being happy is the accomplishment.
As a 40 year old who recently got engaged for the first time, i find i’m embarrassed by all the congratulations i am receiving – i feel like it isn’t an achievement worth praising, all i did was get lucky enough to find someone i like that much and who likes me that much back,…
It is weird. What was weirder was when my husband retired and people congratulated ME.
She should have just said “I reject your hypothesis” hahaha.
I think people should just stop asking the question, just like asking about when people are going to have kids. They’ll let you know when it’s gonna happen, you don’t need to ask.
I do remember an interview Kim did around when she turned 30, saying how she thought she’d be married, etc, etc, etc. And I remember it was VERY shortly afterwards that she was engaged to Kris, because I remember saying how convenient it was that she was just talking about how she wished she was married lol.
I’m 31, and I get asked if I’m married/have kids pretty often (I have neither). I’m not a celeb, and I’m still feeling the pressure. I have a career I like, and still feel like I’m achieving things aside from my love life, but a small part of me feels inadequate bc I’m still single. Anyways, I love that mustard yellow is really having a moment this spring/summer.
‘Prioritizing marriage by a certain age is how Kim Kardashian ended up married to Kris Humphries. *shiver*’
I wouldn’t say ending up marrying Kim k is too great either
Exactly
Yes, thank you CB!
This is something I haven’t seen in my country so much as I’ve seen in american series and when I was in US, like “I’m at the stage of my life when I’m ready for marriage.” and similar…
I have to admit, that seemed so strange to me, even as a teenager watching american series: don’t you marry when you meet someone you love so much that you want to marry him/her? I remember scratching my head and thinking: how does one do that? You basically decide you’re looking for engagement and just write off all the people who don’t have marriage for their top priority in 2020? 😀
Now, in my 30ies, I know that both of those are crucial: you should find the right person and you should both be ready for settling down, but this concept, as opposed to finding who you love and being together until you’re both ready (which is usually, how it goes where I live, except shotgun weddings and such), still seems a little bit off to me. Like, you can’t plan your love life. IDK. 😮 Just, total cultural difference, I think, although the end result, it seems, is not different at all. 😀
I think a lot of that mindset is a remnant of the notion that women should not have sex before marriage that still prevails in quite a few pockets of the American population.
Okay, but a German news outlet asked her this question, so not sure what the US has to do with it?
Maybe it’s because she’s always presented herself as “the marrying kind” and she seems to be in a good place with Joe. I think it’s reasonable that people would start to ring watch, if that’s a thing.
Good for her. Men talk about it in interviews, yes, but surely women are asked much more frequently and at a much younger age. I don’t think asking her if she’s settling down soon when she’s clearly about to embark on a new album cycle and tour seems like a relevant question.
haha, always leave it to German journalists to ask super direct and akward about private matters
she looks so twee in that outfit and matching shoes.
I do think that more men are getting asked this question though. Ellen DeGeneres is always asking her male guests who they are dating and if they’re getting ready to be in a “serious” relationship where they’d settle down. I know they always kept asking George Clooney when he was going to settle down, have kids, etc…Also, Leo DiCaprio gets asked about it a lot since he’s always dating so many different models lol.
Say what you will about him, but Humphries was sane, at least.