The Queen trusts the Countess of Wessex more than Kate or Camilla

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For years now, we’ve heard that the Countess of Wessex is “like another daughter” to Queen Elizabeth II. I remember writing up stories about Sophie’s closeness to the Queen years ago, and the stories have probably been around even longer than that. Sophie had a rocky start when she first married Prince Edward, but she stuck around and ended up developing a close and genuine bond with the Queen. So why are we hearing about it again? I don’t know. I think it’s a little bit of everything – royal courtiers are eager to change the subject away from Prince Andrew, plus there’s some shade to the duchesses too – Camilla, Kate and Meghan don’t share the kind of warm relationship with the Queen that Sophie has. Here are some highlights from this story from The Sun:

Sophie always gets to ride to church with the Queen: Nine times out of 10, the footmen and pages on the weekend roster know exactly who will be in prime position in the cream leather comfort of the Rolls back seat at Sandringham- Sophie Wessex. “If Sophie Wessex is staying at Sandringham then you can pretty much guarantee the Queen will ask her – usually last thing on a Saturday night – if she would like ‘a lift’ to the church,” reveals a former royal equerry. “And the same happens at Balmoral. The Queen likes to be completely calm before church and she finds Sophie’s presence soothing. Who gets the backseat is also one of those quirky royal ways that signals who is in favour – for example Princess Anne may be staying at the same time, but how often do you see her in the Rolls?”

The favorite daughter-in-law: The car-sharing rigmarole – when the journey starts with Sophie helping to smooth a Tartan blanket over the Queen’s lap – is indeed a subtle pointer to the place that Sophie, 54, now occupies as the monarch’s favourite daughter-in-law. “She is trusted and relied on by the Queen in a way I couldn’t say applied to the Duchess of Cambridge or the Duchess of Cornwall,” says a senior royal aide. “She is like another daughter to Her Majesty, they are that close. The Queen is also mindful that Sophie’s marriage has survived where her other children’s relationships have failed – and she knows that is in no small way down to Sophie’s dedication – she is aware, as his Edward’s mother, what a tricky creature he can be. And not only has Sophie flourished as a dedicated, albeit still relatively junior member of the Royal family, she has brought up two teenagers who are well-balanced, sporty, amusing and delightful.”

Sophie worked hard at learning about royal pursuits: “In her early days of marriage Sophie set herself a series of tasks – she’s quite driven and focused like that – of learning how to ride properly, how to fish, how to shoot game and, more recently carriage driving,” observes one friend who knew her before, and after her royal marriage. “She was not a natural rider – she’s had lots of lessons from the grooms at Windsor – but she’s certainly assured enough to accompany the Queen in gentle hacks around the Balmoral estate or Windsor Great Park.

[From The Sun]

There’s more in that article about how Sophie loves history, and especially loves military history. I remember that from previous stories too – Sophie often gets sent around Europe to mark World War I or WWII memorial occasions, and when she returns, she’ll sit with the Queen and they’ll talk about the memorial and what battle was being honored and what was done in that war. I think Sophie just has a good sense of history and the Queen loves that about her. Plus, Sophie just doesn’t have the same kind of nature as her blood children – Sophie is largely self-made, goal-oriented, driven, intelligent and she’s lived and worked in the real world. Plus, she does seem very calm and collected. Anne seems the same way – I wonder what Anne thinks about all of this. In some ways, though, I could see Anne and Sophie treating each other like sisters too though. As for “She is trusted and relied on by the Queen in a way I couldn’t say applied to the Duchess of Cambridge or the Duchess of Cornwall…” Well, yeah.

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  1. Rapunzel says:

    Well, Camilla’s too busy drinking gin, Kate’s too busy making Chutney, and Meghan is too busy assuring that avocado toast destroys the world, so…..

  2. M. says:

    It’s no secret that Sophie has always been the favorite in law. She is also loved dearly by Prince Philip. I need to find it, but there was an article about how Diana was b*tchy towards Sophie during the first meeting because she thought the Queen and Queen Mum were trying to replace her with Sophie.

  3. Mignionette says:

    I’ve heard this said many times and it honestly surprises me. The other two never sold out the Queen in the way Sophie has.

    My guess is that it’s their husbands she doesn’t trust and not Camilla and Kate themselves.

    • Whatnow says:

      I hadn’t heard so exactly how did she sell out the queen?

      • Carol says:

        I’m assuming they are discussing when she first got married and wanted to keep working. A tabloid journalist pretended to be a client and taped her talking about the royal family. She didn’t say much that was inflammatory, but the tabloids had a field day and she resigned from her position shortly thereafter. If there is another story, I don’t know that one.

        Not shocking that she is closer to the spouse of a child than to the spouse of a grandchild.

      • duchess of hazard says:

        @Whatnow – herself and Edward had a PR firm, iirc. They were always in scrapes, and then they sold out Prince William. Long story short, when Prince William went to scotland for Uni, supposedly the entire press agreed to give him some space – only for Edward and Sophie to sell him out. Prince Charles was livid, and that was the straw that broke the camel’s back re: their firm, and they wound it up and became working royals. I think Sophie just fell in and became a devoted companion to the Queen.

      • Tourmaline says:

        @Carol–as you said “Not shocking that she is closer to the spouse of a child than to the spouse of a grandchild” – I totally agree, plus the fact that Sophie’s kids are the queen’s youngest grandchildren by far, also explain why they spend a lot of time together.

  4. ELLA says:

    Hmmmmm she does sound interesting! But Anne might be a bit peeved now…

  5. Lightpurple says:

    Sophie was put in charge of Nagini at the state dinner and did her job well because there are no photographs of Nagini anywhere near the Queen, Charles, William or Kate. Stealth Sophie!

  6. Immy says:

    Sophie seems like a “steady” sort of person, and at this point has been part of the royal family for quite some time. Between all of the divorce turmoil with Diana and Fergie, and crazy past with Camilla, I’m sure she’s glad to just have Sophie around and not causing problems.

    • himmiefan says:

      I think given time Meghan will fit this role too.

      • Lady D says:

        “is largely self-made, goal-oriented, driven, intelligent and she’s lived and worked in the real world. Plus, she does seem very calm and collected. ”
        This could be said about Meghan as well.

      • Immy says:

        Isn’t the Queen currently refusing to even speak about Harry and Meghan? If this is true (who knows?) I don’t think it’s a good sign.
        The real question is will the Queen live long enough for Meghan to get to this point?

        Will also add that there is probably a huge difference in terms of relationships between closeness with a daughter-in-law, as opposed to a granddaughter-in-law…

      • Megbot2000 says:

        Pretty obviously not true, IMMY. Where on earth did you read that, Skippy’s Tumblr?

        The Queen rarely if ever speaks publicly about her family. Unless you meant speaks about them privately, which is clearly nonsense.

  7. DS9 says:

    Sorry, queen lady but one bad pedophile does actually spoil the bunch, particularly when you don’t get rid of it.

  8. Maxie says:

    Camilla, sure, but bringing Kate into this is a bit of a stretch. The British Royal Family isn’t a normal family but how many 37 years old women are close with their grandmother-in-law?

  9. Jb says:

    In defense of both duchesses hasn’t Sophie been around for a helluva lot longer? Sophie probably knows exactly how to treat the Queen/mother in law…don’t envy navigating that relationship at all

  10. JAC says:

    I still really like Camilla.

    • Lady D says:

      Me too. I used to intensely dislike her being a hard-core Diana fan, but I’ve matured plus someone here posted a comment about bread being thrown at her in the streets, which really p’d me off and put me on Camilla’s side. That’s just bullying. No one deserves to be treated like that.
      When Diana said, “there were three of us in this marriage” I was outraged on her behalf, but now I think about how she must have known what kind of reaction Camilla would receive from it. I wonder if the reaction was everything Diana wanted? Charles got off easy, he’s the one that should have been wearing bread in the streets.

    • BayTampaBay says:

      Me too.

      Camilla does not seem to me to be someone who would enjoy hanging out with QEII the Fergie did and Sophie does.

    • Immy says:

      This history of all of it is pretty messy – but it was a long time ago, and honestly Camilla seems pretty harmless.
      I think the tragedy of it all is how much sadness could have been avoided if Charles and Camilla had just married each other the first time around.

  11. Becks1 says:

    Sophie, at this point, comes across as confident, engaging, and intelligent, and she pulls her weight within the royal family. I can see the Queen respecting those qualities, and then if she gets along well with her besides, I can see that being the cherry on top.

    I don’t think Anne cares who rides in the car with the queen to church. She knows she’s the daughter, she’s the Princess Royal, and the queen knows what Anne does for the family too, so I doubt there is competition between Anne and Sophie.

    I also am not surprised that the Queen doesn’t really trust or “rely on” Kate. I mean, she may trust that Kate isn’t going to sell out the family, but Kate is obviously decades younger than the Queen and I wouldn’t be surprised if the queen doesn’t really respect her (since she does not have the work ethic of Anne or Sophie, which seems important to HM.)

    And I get the impression that there is no love lost between the queen and Camilla, probably for a variety of reasons.

    • Original Jenns says:

      “Who gets the backseat is also one of those quirky royal ways that signals who is in favour – for example Princess Anne may be staying at the same time, but how often do you see her in the Rolls?”
      You’re right – I doubt Anne cares who rides with who to church. She’s the Princess Royal, she’s her mother’s daughter. I think if she did care, we would see more evidence of it in other areas. I do think this quote is shading Anne, but I think they’re wrong in using her as an example.

      • ArtHistorian says:

        Lately Andrew has gotten that seat – and, frankly, it is not a good look for the Queen, especially since riding with her signals who’s in favour and signalling that your son, who’s entangled in the worst scandal to date, is in favour is just such a blunder.

    • Immy says:

      I think Kate is still very much “learning the ropes” and is busy with three kids and trying to carve out her present and future role.
      If anything I would imagine Kate (and the newer royal spouses) leaning on the Queen in terms of guidelines and support rather than the other way around.

      • Megbot2000 says:

        It’s pretty embarrassing if Kate is still “learning the ropes” after 18 years of being William’s partner.

        Don’t they have three nannies?

      • Kris says:

        Yeah seriously, how may more decades does Kate really need to “learn the ropes”? Maybe if she’d do more than a few engagements every month or so she’d pick up on things a bit faster. That woman seems to have been given one hell of a learning curve!

  12. VS says:

    Who really cares about whom the Queen likes more? After her behavior with her own son PA, she is no different from anyone covering a potential pedophile; She is not some harmless old lady who has lost her way; she perfectly knows what she is going on with PA and has decided to cover for him

    That being said, Sophie seems like a nice lady and is doing a pretty good job; unfortunately she is not covered as much as the some other royals

    I highly doubt Camilla care; the women definitely has a strong character!

  13. Fluffy Princess says:

    Plus, Sophie’s press for ages has been positive. That article about how Kate has “never put a foot out of line” (coughcough), really should be about Sophie. After that mess up in the beginning, she’s never really gotten any bad press, has she?

    She is always portrayed as hard working, loyal, a good sport about getting in there with her charities, and her long marriage to Edward, always gets her the gold star in the press. The Queen has to be happy about that as well.

  14. Lady D says:

    The Queen’s happiness might matter to me again, after she does something about the #pedointhepalace.

  15. pleaseicu says:

    Sophie seems to be a fabulous working royal. She seems like a very smart, classy woman who’s engaged with her patronages and truly enjoys getting out and speaking with those she meets at events. She reliably kills at those bread and butter events the younger royals seem to poo poo doing. Her kids seem refreshingly normal and I think she and Edward have done a good job balancing between exposing the kids to royal life/duties and allowing them to just be kids.

    That said, is being the Queen’s favorite or most trusted family member really a good thing publicly for anyone in the family but Andrew? 6 months ago that probably would’ve been great PR for anyone in the family. But then this summer at Balmoral happened.

  16. Le4Frimaire says:

    Maybe to shift the focus to some of the other Royals not Kate and Meghan because this smear Meghan to make Kate look good narrative is just tiresome and getting backlash. They don’t want any focus on Andrew, who should seriously just go away, and what else is there to talk about. They’ve basically stopped focusing on the baby boomer Royals who are alive and well, older so less controversial ( except vile Andrew)and doing all the bread and butter, show up for the people appearances. No one questions their spending, big houses, patriotism,or private jet travel.

  17. StellainNH says:

    It takes years to cultivate a close relationship like that. Megan has been in the picture for a little more than a year and well, Kate doesn’t seem too keen to work at it.

  18. Lowrider says:

    PR piece from the Wessex office.

    Sophie has an upcoming tour to Kenya.

  19. notasugarhere says:

    Sophie has been around for over two decades and she’s no dummy. They live at Windsor (Bagshot) and she has the kids out riding with the Queen frequently. She has an interest in military history because the Queen has an interest in it. Louise is learning carriage driving because it is something Philip is heavily-involved in. Sophie has a race horse, or had one until it had to be put down, because of the Queen’s interest in racing. She knows which side her bread is buttered on. Show up, do the job, be interested in her in-laws pet projects and interests.

    She and Edward are the only ones (sans Charles) who do not have a large private property gifted by HM. Is that something HM will give them when she passes, either millions to purchase a property or the Kentucky horse operation?

  20. Meg says:

    Love her earrings

  21. Mego says:

    Kate is a granddaughter in law where Sophie is a daughter in law so Kate would be more distant. Plus Sophie is horsey and Kate is not.

  22. Rae says:

    I like Sophie, but I’m struggling to care who the Queen’s favourite is when she is coddling Pedo Andy and the recent confirmation she is happy to stick her oar in politics when it suits her…

    Right now, if you’re not a favourite of the Queen, I would say that reflects better on you.