By her own admission, 2024 wasn’t Jennifer Lopez’s year. Her musical film, This Is Me…Now: A Love Story flopped and she had to cancel her subsequent tour because of low ticket sales. She also filed for divorce from Ben Affleck on their second wedding anniversary and spent the summer doing some soul searching in the Hamptons. It’s kind of crazy how much went wrong for her last year. She seems to be in a good place now, though, and is bouncing back in classic J.Lo fashion. Jennifer’s currently back on tour in Europe and in May, she announced a Vegas residency that begins on December 30. During a recent tour date in Spain, Jenny was interacting with fans from the stage when she read a “J.Lo, marry me?” sign. She had a hilarious response.
Jennifer Lopez has revealed that she’s not looking to say “I do” ever again after racking up four failed marriage under her belt.
The “On the Floor” hitmaker, 55, addressed her thoughts on marriage during a live performance for her “Up All Night” tour in Europe, where a fan held up that sign that read, “J Lo, marry me?”
“I think I’m done with that,” she quipped, per a fan video. “I’ve tried that a few times.”
While she didn’t divulge on why walking down the aisle no longer interests her, the singer has famously been unlucky in love to-date.
In August 2024, the “Selena” star pulled the plug on [her marriage to Ben Affleck] after they quietly parted ways earlier that year. The pair finalized their split in January 2025.
“I’m happier that I’m a step further along than I was a year ago, two years ago, three years ago… I’m proud of myself for that and I’m proud that I was able to navigate my children through difficult times, that they’re stronger and better because of it,” Lopez said in May. “So, it’s a great time to go out there and dance and sing and have a good time with everybody.”
It wasn’t the first time the Grammy nominee spoke candidly about their breakup. In October 2024, Lopez told Interview Magazine she has no regrets about their relationship.
“That doesn’t mean it didn’t almost take me out for good. It almost did,” she told the publication. “But now, on the other side of it, I think to myself, ‘F–k, that is exactly what I needed. Thank you, God. I’m sorry it took me so long. I’m sorry that you had to do this to me so many times.’”
You can watch the clip below. It’s pretty funny. I love that after everything she’s been through, J.Lo hasn’t lost her sense of humor. Good for her. I hope her self-deprecating joke means that she really is over Ben and on the other side of her bad year. In that interview she did last fall, it sounded like she was working on healing and being kinder to herself. She also mentioned that she wasn’t looking to jump into another relationship anytime soon. Which… could be the longest that we’ve known her to be single for. That feels like real growth. I really hope she’s still prioritizing her peace and mental health.
Jennifer Lopez reacts to a fan asking to marry her:
“I think I’m done with that. I’ve tried that a few times” 😂 pic.twitter.com/zoQqxse0Tl
— Jennifer Lopez Updates (@JLopezUpdate2) July 16, 2025
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- HOLLYWOOD, LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA, USA – FEBRUARY 13: Ben Affleck and wife Jennifer Lopez (JLo) wearing a Zuhair Murad Couture gown with Joseph Saidian and Sons vintage Van Cleef & Arpels diamond earrings and A.Jaffe diamond rings arrive at the Los Angeles Premiere Of Amazon MGM Studios’ ‘This Is Me…Now: A Love Story’ held at the Dolby Theatre on February 13, 2024 in Hollywood, Los Angeles, California, United States.,Image: 846504126, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, JLo, Credit line: Xavier Collin / Image Press Agency / Avalon
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I don’t think she’ll ever be over Affleck.😏😏
But good for her that she’s continuing the year about her movies and concerts- rather than that car crash relationship.
“That doesn’t mean it didn’t almost take me out for good. It almost did…”
— Is she saying she became suicidal? 😳
Maybe not suicidal but really really down on herself. I dont blame her.
She blewup 2 relationships to be with Affleck and he disappointed her both times. She dumped Cris Judd and A-Rod (through we can agree A-Rod was a horrible cheater thats loves blondes).
Affleck love bombed her 2x and then when he got her, suddenly “the relationship was too much for him”.
It must hurt for him to give her an engagement ring engraved with “never leaving” and then to hear him say 2.0 relationship was a fever dream. That is a real gut punch.
At least she tried again and now knows Affleck is not the one.
I took her statement as knocking the wind out of her/legs out from under her. I did not interpret any suicidal ideation.
I don’t believe this for a second. She will marry AT LEAST one more time.
She needs to stop with the ‘I’m in love with love’ nonsense that is an excuse for foolish and rushed decisions. No one who believes,understands and respects the institution of marriage gets married four times.
Didn’t Ben ask her to marry him ? This is come weird pearl clutching what about the ones that asked her to marry them ? She didn’t ask her self. Look at the divorce rate in general.
Slight derail: I could argue that someone who genuinely believes in marriage might have enough faith in the possibility of actually being in a partnership that lives up to the vows they each have pledged. The key though, is to find someone who shares those goals and has the capacity to work to achieve them with their partner.
IMO, one thing that’s rarely mentioned now is how much public hate Lopez got during her first go with Affleck because she wasn’t perceived as white enough. She was “too urban”. I actually give them both credit for trying again — to see what their relationship could be like with more maturity and less racism in the mix.
Another thing that’s rarely mentioned is that as hard as it is for anyone to find a good partner, suited for the long haul, it can be exponentially harder for women of color, for a variety of reasons. Maybe Lopez’s “picker” could use some maturity, tweaking, and support, but I don’t discount the very real possibility that she’s done the best that she could with the opportunities that have been open to her — both personally and professionally.
I’ve admired her work ethic and her commitment to her family since her days as a Fly Girl. It’s wonderful to see her happier and proud of her own growth and resilience.
Kindly explain why its harder for women of colour to fine a partner for the long haul? What reasons would those be?
Here’s just one example. Some time ago, a group of white friends convinced me to check out a dating site. Prospective dates indicated the qualities that they were —and were not — seeking in their dates. I scrolled through hundreds of posts from men who indicated that they would not be interested in matching with a Black woman. This included everything from men who only wanted to date women with demographics similar to their own, to men who were open to checking lots of boxes — except Black women, and, often, Latina women. So in this, and in real life, the pool of men interested in dating at least some women of color is smaller — and that’s before you get to personal compatibility, and whether or not someone is in it for the long haul.
tldr: There’s a smaller dating pool.
That “smaller” dating pool varies, so I don’t intend to imply that all women of color face the exact same options. I am asserting that demographic details matter — even before we get to what women themselves might be open to.
I’m happy to be proven wrong in this.
She should take a page from Jennifer Aniston and do the wedding without making it legal.
Oh please! She’s a narcissist. She must be exhausting to be around. No wonder Ben always looked over it. She’s Norma Desmond in the flesh.
I feel Ben and Jen let me down. I was so emotionally invested!! I kid of course I love her and know she is a strong lady. They will get back together in 20 years and play with our hearts all over again I feel lol. Ben I don’t mind him either she over did it with the documentary, musical and almost tour it was just to much desperation from Jlo and she seemed unhealed and being around him just made it worse and visa versa. Jen still went to Jen (over doing it) and Ben went full Ben (shuts down and leaves) and it didn’t work because of it.
I used to be in the “Jennifer is a fool for love” “At least she stays open to trying!” camp.
But I’ve heard too many stories of her treating people around her poorly (particularly people with less power than her) and then I saw that clip of her trying to force a PDA moment on Ben and him telling her “I don’t want to do this here while they (the paparazzi) are watching.” And she just continued on, kissing him and feeling him up, smiling up into his face, performing for the cameras while he couldn’t push her away. I really did not like that – she was being a creep to him and I feel about her the same way I’d feel about a man doing that to a woman.
Between that and her sharing his letters and openly mining their personal moments for her album, I can see why he decided to get away from her and basically moved out and ghosted her. (I still think Ben is an ass, with his own obvious issues, too. And I still think telling HER OWN STORY of being foolish in love was courageous.).
Jennifer is someone who constantly seeks external validation. No one person can do enough or be enough for someone like that.
She’s a talented producer and business woman and I like many of her film projects. She seems tedious and exhausting to deal with personally and the healthiest thing to do is to get away from someone like that and wish them well from as far away as you can manage.
I agree, she’s exhausting and self-obsessed on a Madonna-like level. Did you see the video of her spitting her gum into some gopher’s open hand? That’s her in a nutshell.
To me she’s too much of a diva it’s annoying. But also I kindve feel sorry for her, and the failed relationships she’s had. Hopefully it is a time for her to heal and reflect. This year is the year of the snake, which is also a year of reflection. And it’s been truly A year of reflection.