Charles Spencer on his 1997 eulogy for Diana: I realized I had ‘to speak for’ Diana

Before today, I’ve never searched out the video of Charles Spencer (the Earl of Spencer) eulogizing his late sister at her 1997 funeral. The eulogy is seared into the collective consciousness of my generation and the older generations – a young earl from one of the oldest noble families in England, telling the Windsors to their ugly faces that they mistreated his sister, Lady Diana Spencer, the Princess of Wales. He made it clear that Diana’s blood was on their hands, and on the hands of the British media. Obviously, the Windsors have quietly ensured, over the course of decades, that few clean copies of that video remain online. Here’s one I could find, which is pretty poor quality.

My favorite part is still: “Diana was the very essence of compassion, of duty, of style, of beauty. All over the world she was a symbol of selfless humanity. All over the world, a standard bearer for the rights of the truly downtrodden, a very British girl who transcended nationality. Someone with a natural nobility who was classless and who proved in the last year that she needed no royal title to continue to generate her particular brand of magic.”

Over the years, Charles Spencer has spoken about eulogizing Diana and acting as caretaker to her memory. Especially in the American media, people will always ask him about Diana and that eulogy. But before now, I’ve never heard him speak about how it was decided that he should speak, and how he decided what he would say. He spoke about it on Gyles Brandreth’s podcast:

Charles Spencer is revealing new details about his original eulogy for Princess Diana. The 9th Earl Spencer, 61, said that the eulogy he’d initially planned for his late sister’s funeral was “very different” from what he eventually read.

“I flew back [to the U.K.] – I was living in South Africa – I flew back from Cape Town overnight. [I had a] very sweet stewardess help me, because I was in bits,” Spencer said on the Oct. 24 episode of Gyles Brandreth’s Rosebud podcast. He further explained that he initially searched for someone else who could give the eulogy. “I had a big, thick address book, and I thought, ‘I want to find someone who’s going to make the speech for her.’ And I got to ‘Z’ and I hadn’t found anyone,” Spencer recalled.

“[I] got off the plane in Heathrow [Airport], called my mother, I said, ‘I can’t think who’s going to give the eulogy. And I’ve got an awful feeling it’s going to have to be me,’ ” he continued. “And she said, ‘Well, it is going to be you. Your sisters and I have decided it.’ ”

When he started putting together the tribute, Spencer said, “[It was a] very traditional eulogy, almost … ‘She was very good at this as a child’ and all that. And then I thought, ‘Well, this is ridiculous, that’s not who she was.’ ” He said he then “realized” his job in that moment wasn’t to speak about Diana, but to “speak for” his late sister, who died at age 36 after a car crash in Paris in August 1997.

“And I knew I’d been left at that stage – it had no legal standing – but I knew she’d left me as guardian of her sons,” he continued, referring to his nephews, Prince William and Prince Harry. “Obviously, the other parent being alive, that meant nothing, but it meant something to me,” said Spencer. “That sort of duty, I think. And then I wrote it in an hour and a half and, yeah, that was it, really.”

[From People]

“I knew she’d left me as guardian of her sons. Obviously, the other parent being alive, that meant nothing, but it meant something to me.” Referring to the current king as “the other parent” is amazing and Diana would laugh her ass off at that. Something which really struck me as I read Prince Harry’s Spare is how much it meant to him that the Spencers really did stick by him and they were always there for him in a way the Windsors probably weren’t. I really wish Meghan had worn the Spencer tiara for the wedding. She and Harry probably felt like they couldn’t say no to QEII, but they should have.

Charles Spencer speaks about how he approached his sister Diana’s eulogy – knowing it was his duty to speak for her and protect her boys. It’s a shame nothing could save Willy; he turned out a sociopath. The Spencers have certainly been Harry’s rock.😍

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— Zandi Sussex (@zandisussex.bsky.social) October 25, 2025 at 9:40 PM

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17 Responses to “Charles Spencer on his 1997 eulogy for Diana: I realized I had ‘to speak for’ Diana”

  1. Lorelei says:

    I know this guy sucks in myriad ways and should have treated his sister a lot better when she was actually still alive, but I remember watching that eulogy in real time, and gaping at the tv, wanting to literally cheer him on. And ITA that it’s lovely that all of the Spencers all seem to have been there for Harry through everything. (Did William even invite them to his wedding?)

    Lmao at his “other parent” comment. One thing this man sure knows how to do well is get under the Windsors’ skin!

    • Aiglentine says:

      Oh, that he does. He speaks from the the deep well of disdain of the established English aristocracy for the “Germans,” the Windsors. Nobody else can do that.

      Diana could land a zinger too. When Prince Phillip threatened to take away her HRH and titles, she reminded him that her titles were older than his. Absolutely brutal.

      • Lorelei says:

        @Aiglentine, I never knew that! I thought I couldn’t love Diana more. What an excellent response!

  2. Hypocrisy says:

    That eulogy will always bring tear to my eyes.. I’m glad Harry has the Spenser family.

    • ravensdaughter says:

      The eulogy was amazing…jaw dropping…an absolute slap in the face to Prince Charles and Her Majesty (her title I trot out with the utmost sarcasm) . It was exactly what so many of us…millions of us!…needed to hear as we felt the devastating, profound loss of Diana..

  3. jais says:

    Guardian of her sons. it’s interesting bc you never hear much about Charles Spencer and William. Are they close? Is William mad bc the Spencers have continued to support Harry? Is he close with any of the Spencers?

  4. Chanteloup says:

    wow, that was a really beautiful tribute! I’m so glad you attached that, thank you; I’d never seen it. I love the way he said he was trying to speak for her. I think that is what helped him really capture her essence and meaning where most eulogies end up centering the person speaking and their grief [understandably]. Really lovely.

  5. MaisiesMom says:

    I remember that. I remember watching it on the TV in a hotel room because we were away for the weekend for a family event. My daughter was about four months old.

    Earl Spencer is a bit of a puzzle but I read his memoir and it was very good. They had a rough childhood in a lot of ways, very privileged but with a lot of emotional neglect and turmoil. That school he was sent to was so abusive.

  6. Pam says:

    I saw it live on TV. I don’t think I’ve cried that hard at a relative’s funeral than I did that day. The thing that stood out was the crowd lining the streets—all you could hear was sobbing as the gun carriage went by. I remember his eulogy…he REALLY stuck it to them. It was shocking, but it was what everyone was feeling—he just put it into words.

    • Dara says:

      Same. I didn’t really know what to expect, but knew I had to get up in the middle of the night (time zone nonsense) to watch it all happen in real time. The stunned silence after his eulogy inside the church, and then you began to hear the crowd outside roar its support and approval. It was a haunting sound and one I still remember all these years later.

    • Blueskies says:

      I remember the sobbing, too, the gun carriage seemed quite close to the crowd from the perspective of seeing it on TV. Women were calling out her name in agony, it was just so heartbreaking and so unfathomable that Diana was gone.

  7. Laura says:

    There are a lot of rumors about who actually wrote the eulogy, with many thinking it was Edward St Aubyn, which I believe. And all the more power to him. It needed to be as beautiful and impactful as it was, and Charles Spencer should get some credit for its masterful delivery.

    • Libra says:

      St Aubyn denies this and so does Earl Spencer. The Telegram appologized for inaccurate reportjng.

      • Laura says:

        Well, of course they deny it. I don’t doubt Spencer influenced the content, but I also don’t believe he became brilliantly articulate overnight.

  8. bisynaptic says:

    Beautiful eulogy. Hadn’t heard it, til now.
    Agree about the tiara.
    I even think they should reconsider “Spencer” as the family last name.

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