Does Jake Pavelka have “gay tendencies?”

8 June 2010 - Beverly Hills, California - Jake Pavelka. Jake Pavelka Hollyscoop Interview Taping held at Anto Distinctive Shirtmaker Store. Photo Credit: Byron Purvis/AdMedia

It’s been a rumor for a while now, and it seems to be picking up some steam now that former “Bachelor” contestants Jake Pavelka and his fiancee Vienna Girardi have very publicly broken up. Sources are coming out of the woodwork to claim that Jake is gay – or, at the very least, has “gay tendencies.” Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

Paul Rosseau, who appeared on The Bachelorette, season four, didn’t mince words when he questioned Jake’s sexuality in an exclusive interview with

“I definitely think he has gay tendencies, not only because of the way he dresses but also because he didn’t want to have sex with a beautiful girl and never really tried with the other girls on the show.” Paul said, before adding a glib, “Nothing personal, Jake!”

A bachelorette from season 12 didn’t want her name used, but told about Jake: “I think he has gay potential and definitely gay tendencies.”

Jake has emphatically denied being gay, but Vienna’s bedroom revelations have kept the controversy flaming. She said in an interview that Jake said premarital sex was a sin, but that was after he abstained from sex to go on a religious fast and after they started their relationship with passion. Vienna detailed Jake’s series of excuses for avoiding intimacy for six months.

Richard Mathey from season four of the Bachelorette said about Jake: “I’m not sure if he is gay, but it seems he just has no experience with those types of women that are on the show.”

Jake is now on the ABC Bachelor Pad and says Vienna was jealous of his acting career. She says he hid his acting ambition from her and lied to her about their future.

One bachelor from Jake’s season didn’t want his name used but told that the real issue about Jake is not his sexuality but his personality. “I couldn’t tell you if the guy is gay but I do have one word for you — goober!” the contestant told

“Jake always struck me as a phony, he never was really himself. He always trying and trying and trying to impress.”

[From Radar]

What exactly does “gay tendencies” mean? Either you are or you aren’t. Right? I’m so confused. But I’m not sure I buy it. Why in the world would a gay man agree to appear on a dating show like “The Bachelor?” I know he is a wanna-be actor, but it doesn’t make any sense to me. He could have been on a lot of other types of reality shows – Survivor, The Amazing Race, Big Brother, to name a few – that don’t require you to date a bunch of women and pick one for a bride. I think this quote sums it up pretty well: “I’m not sure if he is gay, but it seems he just has no experience with those types of women that are on the show.” Yeah…’those types of women’ being “skanky fame whores.’ But then again, Jake’s a pretty big fame whore too. But is he a big gay fame whore?

8 June 2010 - Beverly Hills, California - Jake Pavelka (r). Jake Pavelka Hollyscoop Interview Taping held at Anto Distinctive Shirtmaker Store. Photo Credit: Byron Purvis/AdMedia

8 June 2010 - Beverly Hills, California - Jake Pavelka. Jake Pavelka Hollyscoop Interview Taping held at Anto Distinctive Shirtmaker Store. Photo Credit: Byron Purvis/AdMedia

Julien Hug, Jake Pavelka , Mathue the Habitat For Humanity San Fernando/Santa Clarita Valleys Women Empowerment build assisted by The Bachelor Gives Back .Habitat for Humanity build site, 12600 Carl St..Pacoima, CA.May 22, 2010.2010 Kathy Hutchins / Hutchins Photo.. Photo via Newscom

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  1. denise says:

    Maybe he was’nt interested in any of the girls on the show.

  2. oxa says:

    Is the Pope Catholic?

  3. denise says:

    @ oxa

  4. Caprice says:

    I’d rather be with a guy that doesn’t poke everything he sees just because its there.

    I don’t think Jake is gay. Vienna and those other women are just bitter.

  5. danielle says:

    Lol, I do think there is a such thing as bisexuality.

  6. Jeri says:

    Maybe he’s just naive. I don’t know but it could be he just realized he made a horrible mistake choosing Vienna.

  7. julie says:

    Oh please! I dont watch this vile show, and cant understand why so many people do, but every season when they show the new “bachelor” the first words out of my mouth are “so gay”. Any guy who looks like these guys and tries SO hard to show he’s around so many women, is either trying to fight the gay, or is so far in the closet he’s trying to prove it to other people. Wish they would get rid of all the “skanksonparade” shows. All these people are a waste of airtime.

  8. whatever says:

    please, just because he didn’t want to bone every chick there doesn’t mean anything… you’re just typical stereotyping fools!

  9. guesty says:

    imo…whatever religion he practices has messed up his sexuality in a major way.

  10. kelbear says:

    I don’t think he’s gay and I don’t understand the whole “gay tendencies” thing either.

  11. Iggles says:

    julie – Yea, I don’t think he is being true to himself. I think he’s in denial about his sexuality.

    Anyway, he does come off as fake and fame whore. I can’t tell if Vienna is bitter or is generally hurt. But he didn’t try to set the record straight about the sex details she leaked (pun intended, lol). Most straight guys would be fighting made if a girl negative critiqued his bedroom prowess. I think he has nothing to say because she’s telling the truth.

  12. bellaluna says:

    Yeah, he’s gay and very, very deeply immersed in denial. “big gay famewhore” – lmao @ that!

    He also has “poser douche-face” syndrome.

  13. Ron says:

    Is it better to be one of many on any of the other reality shows mentioned or to be THE Bachelor and have the whole show be about you to launch your “acting” career? Careerwise, even if he is gay, it was a smart move.

  14. susanne says:


    I can’t hear you over the clanging of my gaydar!

    i never saw the bachelor, but watched Jake on DWTS. He seems so sweet, and gay. Usually famewhorishness really turns me off, but he seems so innocent and naive.

    And gay.

  15. Hautie says:

    Right now he is probably mortified all his famewhoring is back firing.

    He will forever he label as having “gay tendencies”. And that sh*t is funny.

    The real question is, how long will it take him to find a new girl? He will need to find some d-list girl to still be able to walk the red carpets.

  16. Feebee says:

    He dresses well – that could be a manner of opinion and also a stereotype of gay men. They don’t all dress like Tim Gunn.

    He didn’t want to kiss Vienna off camera. That’s not a gay tendency, that self preservation.

    The only times I’ve given him the side eye is on DWTS, though mainly when he was being a pissy little bitch in rehearsals and being that isn’t the total domain of a gay man.

    Jury’s still out but evidence is mounting.

  17. Bonfire Beach says:

    I don’t watch these shows but my question has always been, if these people (both the Bachelor and Bachelorette) are supposedly so great and are supposed to be such great catches, why do they have to go on TV to find a mate? They should have no problem in real life, right?

    Maybe it’s just me but I would be very wary of a hot guy that can’t get a date in real life and needs to go on national TV to find a woman.

  18. Kitten says:

    If “GAY” is an acronym for “Goober And Yesterday’s news” then yes, he is GAY.

  19. LP says:

    As a gay man, I can tell you this…he’s definately a bottom.

  20. jane16 says:

    I’ve never watched any of the shows he’s on, but my industry friends & family say he’s gay.

  21. Joanna says:

    Just because you’re nice and respectful does not make you gay. Isn’t he Christian? That may explain why he wasn’t trying to get in all the girls’ pants. And kudos to him for not being a dog.

  22. Maritza says:

    I remember him from DWTS and I only noticed what small feet he had. He does give a gay vibe.

  23. mollination says:

    Wait, the second to last source doesn’t make any sense. “One bachelor” from JAKE’S season says “he” doesn’t want to be named? Jake had “bachelorETTES” on his season, not dudes. But maybe that just answers the whole question right there, huh? haha

  24. Cindy Kennedy Highland says:

    He’s fame-whorish, but accused Vienna of being this way. Total hypocrisy. He also expected Vienna to go to medical school, according to the People Magazine article. Does he really think she is cut out for this? Oh please. Then he boasts that he made her give his engagement ring back. OK, whatever. I think he was disappointed that Vienna wasn’t becoming as “successful” and famous as he is…oh but wait, his fame is only going to last 15 minutes.

  25. Cindy Kennedy Highland says:

    But no, I do not get any gay vibes from him.

  26. Nat says:

    Vienna is hideous, not “beautiful.” She looks like a TRANNY. Jake Pavelka is just picky. All this name calling because the guy is selective.

  27. Camille says:

    I buy it and I can see it.

  28. Westcoaster says:

    Straight or gay he is a famewhore along with all the other “reality stars”
    When will their fifteen minutes be up?

  29. B says:

    Team G.A.Y. Goober And Yesterday, lol @ Kitten. I don’t think he was ever “today” though. That fake, trying-so-hard to look unfake & faux likeable clown face, eww. Wanna-be actor. Bleh.

  30. TeeTee says:

    women get in a huff when things are said about Jake, it’ll all come out and VERY soon..

    He is a fake, he wanted a show where he was the star–not sharing the spotlight.

    Those guys don’t normally stay with those chicks–he gave it less than 6 months and it was all in his plan.

    sooo many women watch that fake reality
    love show–hoping that love will prevail etc.

    only in real life ladies not on tv.

    nothing wrong w/him being gay/bi or wanting to be an actor but he is a user.
    bottomline-and will do whatever he has to do to make it. love is no where in the recipe.

    the truth hurts…

  31. abby says:

    Mollination, I think it was one of the 25 (?) bachelors from the bachelorette show that Jake was on before he became the bachelor.

  32. nan says:

    Jake has morals and high standards for himself. I hope, if he is Christian, that his relationship with God strenghthens and I also hope Vienna finds God. I don’t believe Jake is gay; not every man is rough and tough looking and some men actually do have tenderness in their hearts. Jake is just a nice guy, maybe very ambitious, who really did want to find love.