Madonna complains about social workers visiting her home during adoption


Madonna was interviewed by Ann Curry in a segment that aired on the Today Show this morning, and I tried to view it with an open mind since Madonna normally bugs the hell out of me. I came away from it thinking she’s the same stuck up narcissist she’s always been, but at least she’s doing something good in the world.

Madonna was promoting her documentary “I Am Because We Are,” which is about her “Raising Malawai” organization and includes footage about how she adopted baby David Banda in October, 2006. There was a lot of controversy over the adoption, because Madonna flouted Malawain law, which requires adoptive parents to spend a year in the country before they’re allowed to take a child home.

Madonna got a little indignant when she was talking about social workers visiting her home, and she clearly thought all the procedures and questions went overboard. I have no experience with this and she may have a point. Considering how she kind of broke the law to adopt David maybe she shouldn’t talk about the process to the press as if it’s so annoying to her. Here’s a transcript of most of the interview that I typed up in case you can’t watch the video below:

On starting “Raising Malawai”
“Having children and having a family forces you to think about people besides yourself…

“I got to a point where I thought ‘I have so much and it’s a great tragedy if I don’t use what I have to make the world a better place’… I know that sounds… like a cliche or whatever, but it’s the truth.”

On people being suspicious of her motives
“I appreciate and I understand how people people can be cynical… We live in a society where people are naturally suspicious of acts of altruism or generosity.”

Ann Curry: “Or maybe they might be suspicious, because they might think ‘Madonna changes all the time. Is a fad or trend?'”

[Madonna’s voice sounds a little nervous]: “My reinventions are part of my evolution, and my growth as a person. There are aspects of it that are frivolous and there are aspects of it that are real.”

On the difficult of adopting David
“I don’t think anyone who understands how complicated it is to adopt a child could say that someone chose to do that as a fad, it’s just too difficult… It’s too traumatic.”

On social workers bothering her
Ann Curry: “It’s been hard then to adopt David.”

“We have not even been granted the full adoption. It’s supposed to be happening in the next month. For the last 18 months I’ve been a foster parent. I’ve been visited every 6 weeks by social workers who come into the house and make sure that you’re being a good parent and that David’s health is thriving, and ask you all kinds of invasive questions. You have to put up with it and endure it, and I’ve been finger printed about 20 times, undergone psychological evaluations.

“I think everybody who goes through adoptions has to do this so I’m not alone, but you know I’d do it again.”

Ann Curry: “Why?”

“Because David is amazing. Because he’s brought so much joy to our lives. Well I love him. It was worth it. I think most people will suffer for the things they love.”

On her fame and spiritual quest
Ann Curry: “At this point in your life, there’s some part of you that’s softening. Something that’s looking for wisdom, usefulness.”

“Well thank God I’m searching for wisdom and usefulness. One hopes that one gets to that point in their lives sooner or later.”

Ann Curry: “Do you ever wish that you could just be anonymous?”

“No. I have moments of it, but I don’t want to wish I’m not me. I don’t wish I was someone else.”

Ann Curry: “What is is that you want to feel about your life?”

“That my soul reached its true potential and that I did everything that I was put on this earth to do.”

Ann Curry: “Which is?”

“Well who knows, we’re about to find out.”

Here’s the video of the interview:

Madonna is shown at the “I Am Because We Are” premiere at the Tribeca film festival yesterday, thanks to PRPhotos. I really love her hair.

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  1. Scott F. says:

    It’s a baby – not a rent-a-car. Pretty sure you should expect a very thorough process. The regular social worker visits and the related stuff is par for the course in most places, and I’m sure ‘normal’ people would lose it if it seemed she was getting a free pass because she’s famous.

  2. Bodhi says:

    I really like her hamsa necklace & her hair does look great.

    I think that everyone (famous or not) expects the social workers’ visits & the background checks & whatnot but don’t realize how intense it really is.

    I don’t really know what I’m talking about though

  3. Kait says:

    I’m not a Madonna fan, but she’s not really whining so much as she’s telling the truth. They DO ask invasive questions when you’re adopting – stuff about your childhood, your family, your sex life, etc. It IS traumatic, it IS difficult. I’m with Madonna on this one because you can’t do it as a fad or because Angelina did it. She broke the law and I think that was terrible of her, but still. Eighteen months of it would kill me too.

  4. headache says:

    She’s a dumbass. If she had just done her homework, she would have known what to expect and/or could have picked a place to adopt from that had a less stringent, smoother adoption process.

  5. xiaoecho says:

    Adoption is not a piece of cake. Everybody hates the prying and seemingly unecessary questions. I know that if I was to adopt my child out, I would want the prospective parents to have no secrets either. Madonna’s attitude seems pretty normal. Everyone put through the adoption wringer bitches about it; Madonna gets to do it on TV

  6. rose says:

    My husband works in foster care and just to become a foster parent they ask you all sorts of personal questions about your sex life, finances, religion, your views on child rearing, your relationship with your parents and siblings. The come over and inspect your home to make sure it is clean and make you fix all kinds of shit ( like a water stain ceiling tile) All this just to become a foster parent and let us not forget about the social workers that unexpectantly come to check up on you after a child has been placed in your home. Madonna really needs to get over herself.

  7. Cindy Kennedy says:

    I agree, adoption is a very invasive process. Many people simply don’t understand this at all. And adoption agencies take a big chunk of your money, as well as invading your privacy. And yes, they do ask personal questions about your sex life, such as “are you using birth control?” and the adoption agency we went to, “forbid” us to have unprotected sex because they said it wouldn’t be fair for me to get pregnant if we had an adopted child coming into our home. That is where I drew the line and quit the adoption process. They have no business regulating peoples’ sex lives, for crying out loud. They also wanted us to pay them $35,000. That would mean a lot less money to spend on our child, once we brought him home. Adoption agencies are greedy, and a lot more people are Just Saying No to adoption.

  8. xiaoecho says:

    Bodhi….is that the real Bodhi?

  9. L.A. says:

    well hell yeah…
    “buying a child” SHOULD BE very invasive indeed
    taking a lifetime responsability for a child that is not even yours SHOULD cost you a lot of money as well, people seem to forget that when they are adopting..they are just taking 1 child out of thousands and theres a whole system to be FED behind all that…
    nevertheless if you are taking shit from your AGENCY believing that they can actually prohib you to have your own child, then you are just STUPID!
    Theres no laws or whatsoever that prohib ANYONE of having their own child!
    for crying out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Now Madge is just a narcisistic bitch who thinks the world turns around her…
    well this should do for a lesson!
    Love her hair too!

  10. Bellatrix says:

    Madge does come over as a Stewie (from Family Guy) regarding the social workers’ visit.
    It is completely normal that your home and family life is inspected before they hand over the responsability of a child’s life.

  11. Bodhi says:

    real Bodhi? Is there another one? I’m the one that been here for a long time…

  12. xiaoecho says:

    Bodhi….But didn’t you say your beloved dog was named Bodhi??

    When I said ‘is that the real Bodhi’ I mean’t your avatar

  13. geronimo says:

    Um, I think xiaoecho was joking cos you were saying nice things about Madge! Like the real Bodhi had been Kaballah’d!

  14. xiaoecho says:

    LOL geronimo…I should have

  15. Bodhi says:

    😆 I’m a space cadet, what can I say? But not I don’t work for Xenu, don’t worry

    Yup, thats from the day I got her. She is sitting under a rocking chair on my mom’s porch

  16. xiaoecho says:

    She looks like a Bodhi….if you know what I mean… cute

  17. Bodhi says:

    😀 Thanks! I’ll tell her you say so. She is my little slice of nirvana :dork:

  18. geronimo says:

    lol! My bad. Sorry to xiaoecho and the two bodhis!

  19. Bodhi says:

    😀

  20. kate says:

    shut up, madge.

  21. stellapurdy says:

    And we’re supposed to feel sorry for her why?

    How about adopting a child from America that is in dire need? Oh that’s right, it wouldn’t be as chic and trendy.

    Go away Madonna, you’re a has been

  22. Sanj says:

    Anytime I see her picture or read some of her quotes, I just want to vomit. She is the most annoying person alive. Doesnt she know how much people hate her? I hope she reads what people really think of her. Who the hell cares about what she went through to adopt her kid. She has no idea what real suffering is. She should just STFU cause whatever she says, just sounds so stupid!

  23. Sasha says:

    They might wander into one of her six her walk-in dildo closets or something.

  24. SOCalidads says:

    I don’t really believe that she was complaining. She was just proving the fact that her family was adopting David for all of the right reasons.
    My partner and I adopted and it is a difficult and emotional process – as it should be.
    Good for you Madonna – although I would have liked it if she had adopted in the US – there are so many children in need of loving and stable homes right here at home.

  25. Other Karen says:

    I agree that she doesn’t sound like she’s complaining, just commenting. Repetitive bureaucratic processes are very frustrating. The hubby had to get fingerprinted three or four different times for his U.S. citizenship–they would say he wouldn’t need to do it again, and then call him back.

  26. whoever says:

    What happened to her face? Looks like a mask.

    She’s such a phony. At least she isn’t pouring on the Brit accent as I’ve heard her do, although this isn’t how she used to enunciate either.

    Cynical? Of course we are. You and your ilk from fantasy land in CA suddenly want to don the cloak of respectability and philanthropy.

    Adopt from the U.S. first. Many wonderful children need homes.

  27. Joanna says:

    As a social worker (who has not worked in adoptions), and an adoptive parent, (having undergone an international adoption), I would say that yes, it is an invasive process to undergo an adoption. However, can you imagine the public outcry and lawsuits if the process were not followed, shortcuts were taken, and the child was endangered? There are reasons for these processes, but of course they aren’t perfect, and can seem like overkill.