It’s a baby – not a rent-a-car. Pretty sure you should expect a very thorough process. The regular social worker visits and the related stuff is par for the course in most places, and I’m sure ‘normal’ people would lose it if it seemed she was getting a free pass because she’s famous.
I’m not a Madonna fan, but she’s not really whining so much as she’s telling the truth. They DO ask invasive questions when you’re adopting – stuff about your childhood, your family, your sex life, etc. It IS traumatic, it IS difficult. I’m with Madonna on this one because you can’t do it as a fad or because Angelina did it. She broke the law and I think that was terrible of her, but still. Eighteen months of it would kill me too.
She’s a dumbass. If she had just done her homework, she would have known what to expect and/or could have picked a place to adopt from that had a less stringent, smoother adoption process.
Adoption is not a piece of cake. Everybody hates the prying and seemingly unecessary questions. I know that if I was to adopt my child out, I would want the prospective parents to have no secrets either. Madonna’s attitude seems pretty normal. Everyone put through the adoption wringer bitches about it; Madonna gets to do it on TV
My husband works in foster care and just to become a foster parent they ask you all sorts of personal questions about your sex life, finances, religion, your views on child rearing, your relationship with your parents and siblings. The come over and inspect your home to make sure it is clean and make you fix all kinds of shit ( like a water stain ceiling tile) All this just to become a foster parent and let us not forget about the social workers that unexpectantly come to check up on you after a child has been placed in your home. Madonna really needs to get over herself.
I agree, adoption is a very invasive process. Many people simply don’t understand this at all. And adoption agencies take a big chunk of your money, as well as invading your privacy. And yes, they do ask personal questions about your sex life, such as “are you using birth control?” and the adoption agency we went to, “forbid” us to have unprotected sex because they said it wouldn’t be fair for me to get pregnant if we had an adopted child coming into our home. That is where I drew the line and quit the adoption process. They have no business regulating peoples’ sex lives, for crying out loud. They also wanted us to pay them $35,000. That would mean a lot less money to spend on our child, once we brought him home. Adoption agencies are greedy, and a lot more people are Just Saying No to adoption.
well hell yeah…
“buying a child” SHOULD BE very invasive indeed
taking a lifetime responsability for a child that is not even yours SHOULD cost you a lot of money as well, people seem to forget that when they are adopting..they are just taking 1 child out of thousands and theres a whole system to be FED behind all that…
nevertheless if you are taking shit from your AGENCY believing that they can actually prohib you to have your own child, then you are just STUPID!
Theres no laws or whatsoever that prohib ANYONE of having their own child!
for crying out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now Madge is just a narcisistic bitch who thinks the world turns around her…
well this should do for a lesson!
Love her hair too!
Madge does come over as a Stewie (from Family Guy) regarding the social workers’ visit.
It is completely normal that your home and family life is inspected before they hand over the responsability of a child’s life.
Anytime I see her picture or read some of her quotes, I just want to vomit. She is the most annoying person alive. Doesnt she know how much people hate her? I hope she reads what people really think of her. Who the hell cares about what she went through to adopt her kid. She has no idea what real suffering is. She should just STFU cause whatever she says, just sounds so stupid!
I don’t really believe that she was complaining. She was just proving the fact that her family was adopting David for all of the right reasons.
My partner and I adopted and it is a difficult and emotional process – as it should be.
Good for you Madonna – although I would have liked it if she had adopted in the US – there are so many children in need of loving and stable homes right here at home.
I agree that she doesn’t sound like she’s complaining, just commenting. Repetitive bureaucratic processes are very frustrating. The hubby had to get fingerprinted three or four different times for his U.S. citizenship–they would say he wouldn’t need to do it again, and then call him back.
As a social worker (who has not worked in adoptions), and an adoptive parent, (having undergone an international adoption), I would say that yes, it is an invasive process to undergo an adoption. However, can you imagine the public outcry and lawsuits if the process were not followed, shortcuts were taken, and the child was endangered? There are reasons for these processes, but of course they aren’t perfect, and can seem like overkill.
It’s a baby – not a rent-a-car. Pretty sure you should expect a very thorough process. The regular social worker visits and the related stuff is par for the course in most places, and I’m sure ‘normal’ people would lose it if it seemed she was getting a free pass because she’s famous.
I really like her hamsa necklace & her hair does look great.
I think that everyone (famous or not) expects the social workers’ visits & the background checks & whatnot but don’t realize how intense it really is.
I don’t really know what I’m talking about though
I’m not a Madonna fan, but she’s not really whining so much as she’s telling the truth. They DO ask invasive questions when you’re adopting – stuff about your childhood, your family, your sex life, etc. It IS traumatic, it IS difficult. I’m with Madonna on this one because you can’t do it as a fad or because Angelina did it. She broke the law and I think that was terrible of her, but still. Eighteen months of it would kill me too.
She’s a dumbass. If she had just done her homework, she would have known what to expect and/or could have picked a place to adopt from that had a less stringent, smoother adoption process.
Adoption is not a piece of cake. Everybody hates the prying and seemingly unecessary questions. I know that if I was to adopt my child out, I would want the prospective parents to have no secrets either. Madonna’s attitude seems pretty normal. Everyone put through the adoption wringer bitches about it; Madonna gets to do it on TV
My husband works in foster care and just to become a foster parent they ask you all sorts of personal questions about your sex life, finances, religion, your views on child rearing, your relationship with your parents and siblings. The come over and inspect your home to make sure it is clean and make you fix all kinds of shit ( like a water stain ceiling tile) All this just to become a foster parent and let us not forget about the social workers that unexpectantly come to check up on you after a child has been placed in your home. Madonna really needs to get over herself.
I agree, adoption is a very invasive process. Many people simply don’t understand this at all. And adoption agencies take a big chunk of your money, as well as invading your privacy. And yes, they do ask personal questions about your sex life, such as “are you using birth control?” and the adoption agency we went to, “forbid” us to have unprotected sex because they said it wouldn’t be fair for me to get pregnant if we had an adopted child coming into our home. That is where I drew the line and quit the adoption process. They have no business regulating peoples’ sex lives, for crying out loud. They also wanted us to pay them $35,000. That would mean a lot less money to spend on our child, once we brought him home. Adoption agencies are greedy, and a lot more people are Just Saying No to adoption.
Bodhi….is that the real Bodhi?
well hell yeah…
“buying a child” SHOULD BE very invasive indeed
taking a lifetime responsability for a child that is not even yours SHOULD cost you a lot of money as well, people seem to forget that when they are adopting..they are just taking 1 child out of thousands and theres a whole system to be FED behind all that…
nevertheless if you are taking shit from your AGENCY believing that they can actually prohib you to have your own child, then you are just STUPID!
Theres no laws or whatsoever that prohib ANYONE of having their own child!
for crying out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now Madge is just a narcisistic bitch who thinks the world turns around her…
well this should do for a lesson!
Love her hair too!
Madge does come over as a Stewie (from Family Guy) regarding the social workers’ visit.
It is completely normal that your home and family life is inspected before they hand over the responsability of a child’s life.
real Bodhi? Is there another one? I’m the one that been here for a long time…
Bodhi….But didn’t you say your beloved dog was named Bodhi??
When I said ‘is that the real Bodhi’ I mean’t your avatar
Um, I think xiaoecho was joking cos you were saying nice things about Madge! Like the real Bodhi had been Kaballah’d!
LOL geronimo…I should have
😆 I’m a space cadet, what can I say? But not I don’t work for Xenu, don’t worry
Yup, thats from the day I got her. She is sitting under a rocking chair on my mom’s porch
She looks like a Bodhi….if you know what I mean… cute
😀 Thanks! I’ll tell her you say so. She is my little slice of nirvana :dork:
lol! My bad. Sorry to xiaoecho and the two bodhis!
😀
shut up, madge.
And we’re supposed to feel sorry for her why?
How about adopting a child from America that is in dire need? Oh that’s right, it wouldn’t be as chic and trendy.
Go away Madonna, you’re a has been
Anytime I see her picture or read some of her quotes, I just want to vomit. She is the most annoying person alive. Doesnt she know how much people hate her? I hope she reads what people really think of her. Who the hell cares about what she went through to adopt her kid. She has no idea what real suffering is. She should just STFU cause whatever she says, just sounds so stupid!
They might wander into one of her six her walk-in dildo closets or something.
I don’t really believe that she was complaining. She was just proving the fact that her family was adopting David for all of the right reasons.
My partner and I adopted and it is a difficult and emotional process – as it should be.
Good for you Madonna – although I would have liked it if she had adopted in the US – there are so many children in need of loving and stable homes right here at home.
I agree that she doesn’t sound like she’s complaining, just commenting. Repetitive bureaucratic processes are very frustrating. The hubby had to get fingerprinted three or four different times for his U.S. citizenship–they would say he wouldn’t need to do it again, and then call him back.
What happened to her face? Looks like a mask.
She’s such a phony. At least she isn’t pouring on the Brit accent as I’ve heard her do, although this isn’t how she used to enunciate either.
Cynical? Of course we are. You and your ilk from fantasy land in CA suddenly want to don the cloak of respectability and philanthropy.
Adopt from the U.S. first. Many wonderful children need homes.
As a social worker (who has not worked in adoptions), and an adoptive parent, (having undergone an international adoption), I would say that yes, it is an invasive process to undergo an adoption. However, can you imagine the public outcry and lawsuits if the process were not followed, shortcuts were taken, and the child was endangered? There are reasons for these processes, but of course they aren’t perfect, and can seem like overkill.