Nicole Richie torn between partying and motherhood

According to Star magazine, Nicole Richie’s life is getting REALLY hard to balance. Before daughter Harlow was born, all Nicole had to balance was shopping and partying. I’m not being sarcastic, according to the mag, that really was about all she did. I guess she occasionally dodged Paris Hilton and randomly recorded a terrible pop song here and there, but that was about it. Now Nicole has a baby – but she still wants to have her old life too. And no matter where she is or what she’s doing, she feels like she should be doing something else. The life of a socialite is sooooooo hard.

Though she says life’s been “beyond amazing” since giving birth to her daughter in January, the diaper-duty demands of motherhood leave Nicole Richie pining for her old party days, according to Star magazine.

“Nicole is torn between being a mommy and being a party girl,” an insider told the publication. “She wants to go out and have fun, but when she does, she’s like, ‘Uh-oh, Harlow needs me.’”

The dramatic lifestyle change is catching to the new mom, said another source. “Nicole really misses her carefree life. Before Harlow came along, Nicole never had to worry about anything. All she did was party with her friends and go shopping. Now she’s totally overwhelmed by her new responsibility, even though she adores her daughter. Nicole still can’t figure out if she’s happier when she’s home with the baby or hitting the town with her friends!”

[From MSNBC]

Okay sarcasm aside, being a new mom is obviously incredibly overwhelming. I doubt anyone thinks, “Wow, I am really kicking ass at this.” But complaining because you have to stay home with your kid instead of going shopping and partying makes it pretty hard to be sympathetic. It doesn’t matter if Nicole can’t “figure out if she’s happier when she’s home with the baby or hitting the town with her friends!” (by the way, that quote makes me ill). When you’re debating over spending every night club hopping or staying home and taking care of your new baby now and then, there’s no debate. It isn’t about figuring out which one is more fun.

Every parent needs some time away, and deserves to go out and have some fun. But it needs to be a rational amount. Nicole is “totally overwhelmed by her new responsibility” because she’s never had any responsibilities before. So of course she doesn’t know how to handle it. If you haven’t learned how to juggle the different commitments in your life, it’s going to be hard to figure out how to prioritize. Now would be a great to figure that out.

Here’s Nicole Richie and Joel Madden outside their shop DCMA on Melrose Avenue on April 29th. Images thanks to WENN.

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  1. heehee says:

    Wow she looks amazing. Eh to be filthy rich from someone else’s money…. :?

  2. Loob says:

    “Though she says life’s been “beyond amazing” since giving birth to her daughter”

    Did Queen Xenu tell her to word it like that?

  3. Scott F. says:

    When you have a kid, your own happiness gets pushed down to about 35th place on the priorities list. That is, if you’re a good parent.

    Most people don’t have the luxury of putting themselves first with a baby in the house. It doesn’t matter how much you want to sleep, let alone party, when your child is screaming bloody murder from 2am – 6am every night with colic, and the only way to calm them down is to pace back and forth in the living room. It’s a little different when you can just have the nanny carry them for you though.

  4. Anni says:

    well, i do understand her. and i think the quotes are misguiding. i know not one single mother who does not occasionally has to “flee”. i believe she loves harlow to pieces but i can see why she wants a part of her old life back…mothers are not moms all the time, they are women too, humans. just because she wants to hang out with friends doesn´t mean shes neglecting the child. she´ll have harlow forever on her side so i guess its okay when she leaves her with her man and does girly stuff.

  5. Scooter says:

    This is why kids are not on my “things to do in my life” list. I totally agree that moms need “me time”; just because you have kids doesn’t mean you stop being you. However, you shouldn’t want to be out all the time partying.

  6. headache says:

    It’s difficult to go from having no responsibility at all to having a tiny life dependant on you. And I’m glad she is honest with herself about her feelings.

    Too many mothers feel it’s blasemphy to have such thoughts, then they feel guilty and take even less time for themselves which leads to all sorts of unhealthy thoughts and feelings.

  7. mamalicious says:

    What shall I do today? Um… it’s either go out and buy myself some overpriced clothes and shoes, or stay in and give my little darling some face time. Oh the little sweetheart won’t mind if I go out. She’s already attached to the nanny and so happy with her. She doesn’t recognise me any more, so the shops win hands down. Bye bye Mummy’s little angel. Anyway I didn’t get back into shape like this to carry a screaming, dribbling baby around. I’ve got myself to think of too you know.

  8. Kolby says:

    I thought they didn’t have a nanny?

    Anyway, I don’t buy this story – she hardly ever goes out compared to how her life was before, and when she does, it’s always with her boyfriend and they’re usually going to charity events. It’s not as though she’s clubbing every night. She even dresses more conservatively and it looks like she’s keeping herself healthy.

  9. momoftwins says:

    Maybe she should have waited to have a kid until she was done with the drinking and partying.

  10. Blondie says:

    First of all Nicole doesn’t live in the ‘real world’ so being a mother for her is completely different to ordinary working people who can’t afford nannies. She hasn’t stated that she isn’t happy with her baby, so she is not really doing anything wrong. She is def being honest and struggling with the balance between her old and new life. If I lived in LA and led the life of a ‘celeb’ I’m sure my views on motherhood would be very different to the general population.

    Although there is absolutely nothing wrong with having ‘me’ time, just because you have a child doesn’t mean you have to become a mum and nothing else. Thats what happens when people have kids, but when the kids leave home the parents have nothing left as they have given all to their kids, which is sad. There should be a balance of mothering and having your own life, and in this case if Nicole’s other interests seem frivolous to us, that is beacuse she has had no responsibility. I’m sure if i ever met her she would be really annoying as she is a ‘celeb’ and spoilt etc, but she has overcome a number of addictions and problems and seems to be making a good job of being a mum to her baby, so I think she is just fine.

  11. Nova says:

    Arrgh…this just made me groan. Yeah…having kids is a huge life change, but not the end of the world(or your social life). I agree that its not about deciding what is more fun…you make necessary changes in your life, and then put aside some time for yourself. After my twin boys were born…i maintained a small amount of time to go out with my girlfriends and they were always impressed that i could be so fully in charge of raising my sons and yet get out and about too. I would go insane if i didnt get out from time to time. :D

  12. neelyo says:

    This isn’t a shock. Airhead realizes that baby can’t be exchanged for quieter, less demanding one. And the next generation of spoiled celebutantes marches on…

  13. rAEjILLIAN says:


  14. didi says:

    Please don’t type in all caps– it’s the written version of screaming, and no one here needs that.

  15. velvet elvis says:

    Yea…it’s a dilemma I face every day too…

    My baby or a Coor’s Light?…hmmmm

  16. poky says:

    aw come on, it is a struggle especially in the beginning and learning to balance. i dont think she “said” anything wrong or different than what many of my friends have said at one point or another

  17. Blanche says:

    Nicole, just put on your big girl panties and do the right thing, FFS.

  18. kim says:

    another reason not to have kids until you are ready to be a parent. . .

    thanks for another life lesson Nic!

  19. headache says:

    On a side note, she really looks gorgeous in this shot.

  20. paris herpes says:

    I like the dress but why the shoes. Looks like she’s about to fall. Having a baby was the last thing she should have done, her life was barely together as is, doesn’t mean having a baby would improve everything. Maybe it’s the complete lack of maternal instincts, but the baby should be calling the nanny “mommy” by now…

  21. insidescoop says:

    it all seems a little made up to me. I think anyone would struggle a bit in the transition. it sounds like it is being stirred up to make for an interesting article. I wouldn’t read too much into it

  22. elle says:

    man that sucks shes still young, but maybe she can get some tips from kimora whos a mommy and mogul, and has time to manage it all!

  23. delilah says:

    I think she’s being honest. People are so self righteous about motherhood, like women should roll over and die (and for Gods sake don’t complain) For a lot of us it is hard – I actually did put myself last when I became a parent but I discovered ‘society’ is not always right. If the baby is ok and loved with lots of stimulation and smiles she will thrive.

  24. Greenpoop says:

    not necessarily Scott F.

    when we become parents in this world, we’ve been chosen to guide these little humans along in their lie, and we should be showing them by example how to be happy, meaningful, and how to enjoy life, what good is it to suffer yourself for their so-called benefit, they know when you’re unhappy and miserable and they respond by feeling miserable on the inside,

  25. gg says:

    She looks either pissed off or drugged in that photo.

  26. Bernie says:

    This is why it’s wise to wait and have children when one is ready. Ugh. I don’t have much sympathy.

  27. Nikki b says:

    Okay…I’ve seen many pics of Nicole out w/o her baby…even just getting coffee…I see her more often by herself than with the baby…Yes, you always need Mommy time but the majority of your childs time should be either spent with Mommy or Daddy…Nanny, never! So if Daddy is touring all the time then it leaves Nicole’s NEW JOB – which she should take with excitement jus like she did going out – of soley taking care of the baby…but that might not be too trendy..

  28. JoJoFreo says:

    porky porky joel!!! He is staying home and eating all the pies!

  29. laura says:

    Please don’t type in all caps– it’s the written version of screaming, and no one here needs that.

    – it is idiotic comments like that, that piss me off and show the ignorance of those who say comments like these.


  30. wandablen says:

    wow he’s really fat

  31. T says:

    Please don’t type in all caps– it’s the written version of screaming, and no one here needs that.

    – it is idiotic comments like that, that piss me off and show the ignorance of those who say comments like these.

    LOL!!!!!!! I agree. When people feel it’s their duty to “correct” someone, their insecurities show…LOL!

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