Dean McDermott’s ex wife Mary Jo Eustace publishes “Cougar” cookbook

Here’s a weird story. The last I heard of Dean McDermott’s ex wife, Mary Jo Eustace, she was telling the story of how Dean, her then-husband of over 12 years, had heartlessly dumped her for his “soul mate” Tori Spelling, just three weeks after meeting Tori and right after they’d adopted a baby girl. Things seem to be looking up for Mary at this point, despite the prospect of having to see Dean and his sour-faced wife on television for years to come. Mary, who hosts a cooking show on Canadian television, has penned a cookbook in conjunction with dating website* called Cooking for Your Cub.

Eustace instead sought revenge of a different kind, penning multiple books including the controversial “Divorce Sucks.” And now her latest culinary venture “Cooking For Your Cub!” is ready for release – a “cougar cookbook” peppered with gourmet recipes, food aphrodisiacs and tips for “being saucy.”

“I wanted to do something really fun and an anecdote to the whole divorce saga. This is for women who are in their 30s and 40s and are starting again, making a great living and don’t necessarily need men financially,” Eustace told FOX411’s Pop Tarts column. “The whole idea of the book is to have a woman who is secure, dating a younger man, and cooking for romance and fun.”

In keeping with her own Hollywood experience, Eustace has named each of the 24 recipes after famous females who have been through a marriage break down. There’s everything from Jennifer Asparagus Soup, Courteney Coconut Lemongrass Soup and Oysters A La Madonna, to Mariah Bananas Brandy, Proscuitto Halle Basil Sandwich, Roasted Leg of Lamb (Demi Glace) and Beef Tenderloin with Sarandon Shallots Over Blue Cheese Mash.

“The concept of being a cougar is becoming a lot more mainstream, we’ve got people like Demi Moore who is beautifully preserved and at the top of her game choosing to be with a much younger man, and it is becoming really acceptable that you can have that choice,” Eustace continued. “Then there is the likes of Kim Cattrall who was on ‘Sex and the City’ and obviously with a younger man during the series so we are playing on that, and now Susan Sarandon has a young boyfriend. These women look fantastic. I think it just shows that women have more control and more choice and don’t have to be obligated to a certain type of man.”

Another concept behind the book, which was co-conceived by Claudia Opdenkelder, the CEO – a niche dating website that caters to professional women seeking younger men – is for older women to help their significant other develop more “mature” tastes.

“I thought it would be funny to introduce them to adult food – introducing them to coffee lobster, maybe a liqueur, you’re trying to sophisticate their palate,” Eustace said. “I also want it to be fun and sexy but do-able. It’s got to be fun and it can’t be taxing to do.”

Eustace also hopes the marriage-rocked celebrities honored by recipes in “Cooking For Your Cub!” which includes the likes of Jennifer Aniston, Olivia Newton-John, Madonna and Halle Berry, are flattered by the inclusion and intends to send them each a copy.

“It’s a compliment – a cookbook with good recipes,” she said. “It is a testament to older women who look fantastic and are choosing how they live their life. I think that’s a good message for women.”

[From Fox News]

Look, I get the urge to date younger guys after a divorce. More of them are single without ex wives, kids and the baggage that comes along with age. They’re probably more willing to please and less set in their ways. Good for Eustace for getting hers and moving on. For the love of God, though, why is she calling the guys she dates “cubs” and talking about introducing them to new flavors and “adult food” as if they’re toddlers? It’s creepy and it sounds like she’s talking about a son, not a boyfriend.

To be fair, the book jacket says that Eustace was approached by the CougarLife ceo about cooking for her cub, so maybe she’s just on board for this idea and it wasn’t something she came up with on her own.

The CougarLife lady probably has to cook for her “cubs” at home because it’s embarrassing to take them out. You have the “he looks like your son” comments, along with the sticky issue of who is going to pay for dinner when your date is scraping by and you’ve got a lucrative career. May as well make some coffee flavored lobster and have sex at your place, that way you won’t have to face the reality that your boyfriend is living with roommates in an apartment that needs fumigation. I remember the guys I dated in college and I remember scrubbing some nasty tubs before I was able to take a shower. Some of those guys were really hot, looking back, but life at that time was much less convenient on so many levels.

I guess it seems inevitable that someone has put out a “Cougar” cookbook, because a lot of those young dudes can’t cook anything other than Ramen and it’s not like they can pick up the check on a night out. Ultimately it’s a marketing gimmick, just like the famous women that Eustace uses to name each recipe.

*Note: dating site spammers are the scourge of bloggers. I checked and no spammers from cougarlife have bothered us or I would not have reported this.



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  1. Jackson says:

    This whole ‘cougar’ thing gives me the creeps – and ‘cubs’ is even worse. Any time I hear the word ‘cougar’ the only thing that comes to mind is ‘old barfly with a shiny new name.’ Date whoever you want, but why does it have to be some kind of a ‘movement’ or something?

  2. azurea says:

    Doesn’t she mean “antidote” to the whole divorce drama? An embarrassing slip for a published author. Ugh. I’m in Canada, & I’ve never been able to watch her…she’s silly & irritating…a flipperty-gibbit.

  3. Rita says:

    In a cogar’s cookbook I assume she talks about aged meat that’s been hand rubbed to seal in the juices (Heat to 350 F for 2 hours and generously baste every 15 min.).

  4. fancyamazon says:

    As a 38 (39 this month) woman who has two long term relationships behind me, and a daughter and granddaughter, and who looks damn good for 38/9, I think this whole “movement” reeks too. It is fine to date younger, if that is your thing, but why make it this goal to attain? We look down on men with much younger women, and sometimes the women who are with them, so I don’t see why this is any less a power-play/money grab. Just because we’ve tacked on this “cute” title doesn’t make it anything more than it was before.

    And the “cub” references make me gag.

  5. Justaposter says:

    Well said Jackson, very well said.

  6. Cidee says:

    Agreed, @Jackson. I cringe at the very term, “cougar”. Ugh. It conjures up images of a pathetic, lonely divorcee who dresses too young and drinks too much. The fact that there is now a cougar “life” is depressing.

  7. EdithP says:


  8. Hakura says:

    @Kaiser“For the love of God, though, why is she calling the guys she dates “cubs” and talking about introducing them to new flavors and “adult food” as if they’re toddlers? It’s creepy and it sounds like she’s talking about a son, not a boyfriend.”

    That’s exactly the vibe I got too. The word ‘cub’ was a very bad choice, as it implies the woman is dating someone who is still … a child. As opposed to a grown man who’s just quite a bit younger than she is. It puts an automatic ‘mother to child’ spin on it, which is gross.

  9. Hakura says:

    ****Oops! I mean to say “@CB*, sorry about that!

    (I’m still not able to edit my comments, all the sudden. Is there some sort of setting that could be interfering with that? It’s driving me nuts.)

  10. Jacq says:

    Dean sure likes his women ugly!

  11. Marjalane says:

    O.K., this dumb cookbook for cougers thing is totally out of the really low-end “chick lit” book selections! If you had the inclination to search through the Amazon archives, I bet you’de find at least one. It’d feature a “used to be pudgy, dumped by her asshole lawyer husband, soon to be transformed into a hot cougar, out for revenge” heroine with a stupid, contrived name. I’m embarrassed for this woman. First, Tori Spelling, now this? Sad.

  12. Ashley says:

    I think she is famous enought(in Canada at least) by her own name and doesn’t need her ex’s name to be the first word of the title of this post. Second, I agree with Jackson, this cougar thing and cub thing makes me feel like some is molesting someone else…this is so creepy to me. The shoes on the first picture are ugly they should have been a high heel stiletto….
    By the way isn’t it your cub(slash slave) who has to cook for you???

  13. fabgrrl says:

    I sign on with everyone else. I wish they (publishers, writers, talk show hosts) would stop trying to make this cougar thing happen. It is sad and demeaning. Older, single women who want to look good and live a little are suddenly “cougars”. If you’re over 40 and not a cookie baking granny type, then your are a maneater on the prowl for young studs, right?

  14. Adnovitam says:


    The “anecdote” could be the writer in a hurry and getting that wrong, not her. Also, I assume the interview was transcribed, so, spellcheck would miss it if a human also missed it. But I agree, it’s wrong. Embarrassing too.

    Yes, this is very *predatory* not fun. Ew and yuck.

  15. smith says:

    @azurea – nice catch. Bad form for a “writer.” She’s an idiot. A creepy idiot.

  16. Relli says:

    Well Dean certainly has a thing for strong facial structures doesn’t he.

  17. guesty says:

    This screams of desperation. She’s trying way too hard to prove she’s over it.

  18. maggiegrace says:

    Yeah, I thought it interesting how alike Tori and this woman look.

  19. Maritan says:

    Mary Jo Eustace is not famous in Canada, believe me. This is ridiculous, but I guess she does have to find a way to feed her kids.
    Good luck and move on! Stop having your story tied to Dean or the whole bitter ex-wife persona. He’s the one who has to live with Tori and whore himself and his children to make money. Don’t you do it, too!

  20. LindaR says:

    I am adding my name to the list of people that think the term “cougar” is offensive and gross. I qualify for cougar status except for the fact that a) I am happily married (lucky me) and b) if I wasn’t, I would prefer to be with a man that has been around the block a few times and doesn’t need me to be the smart one in the relationship. Just as men choose younger women because it makes them feel better about themselves, so too do older women choose younger men. It’s rather pathetic, actually.

  21. TQB says:

    I guess we can stop with the outpouring of sympathy for this poor woman who got dumped for horseface famewhore Spelling. I for one feel better, anyway.

    Seriously, “cubs”? Can we, as women, just make a universal decision that we will demonstrate better respect for our mates than we are often treated? Live by example? Just because middle-aged dudes are disrespectful to their 24 year old GFs, must we sink to that level?

  22. DGO says:

    @Maritan – I respectfully disagree with how well known Mary Jo is in Canada. She’s not only a popular celebrity, but Canadians booed Tori Spelling on Mary Jo’s behalf at the MuchMusic video awards. That said, I think this cookbook is tacky (albeit kind of funny because I think it’s all tongue-in-cheek).

  23. MSMLNP says:

    That’s what I’m wondering DGO…is this kind of a joke-cookbook like Amy Sedaris’? The silly cover and recipe names makes me think it is all in fun.

  24. original kate says:

    best cookbook cover ever. i cannot stop laughing at the unbridled cheesiness of it.

  25. Bill Hicks is God says:

    On TV she looks like an 8-foot tall Tranny; and she’s goofy. Not funny goofy, immature goofy.

  26. devilgirl says:

    Good God!

  27. Johnny Depp's Girl says:

    wow! That’s just creepy..

  28. KimiErin says:

    Prior to Tori Spelling stealing Dean from her, I had never heard of this woman.

  29. Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

    They’ve been doing the dance for a good fifteen years now and I think it’s time to stop the waiting and make it legal with Ken Kostic.

  30. Ari says:

    She can teach her cub this syllabic term: Pa-the-tic

  31. Delta Juliet says:

    Add me to the list who finds the word “cub” concerning. And a little gross.

    I too could qualify for “cougar” status, I guess. Except I am married and have two little ones. My co-worker (8 years younger) loves to tease me about getting all cougar on him. But it’s just a joke 🙂

    Also, if I was single…I would be going older, not younger 😉

  32. DGO says:

    @Jo ‘Mama’ Besser: Ken’s gay. They are best friends though.

  33. TQB says:

    @Bill Hicks – I guess we know what Dean’s type is… 8 ft goofy tranny.

  34. dada says:

    reaaly? a typo on the back sleeve? whats cornty?!

  35. Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

    @DGO: I know about Ken Kostic, I was just being kind of lame for kicks. I don’t even remember the circumstances, but I met his mother once eons ago. She was a hoot, reminded me of Shelley Winters for some reason.

  36. Emily says:

    1. Those recipes names are trashy and embarrassing.

    2. Using the word “cub” is really freaking creepy.

    3. Why has the word “cougar” been capitalised on the back cover?

    4. I LOVE that she described Demi Moore as “beautifully preserved”, like she sleeps in a jar of formaldehyde!

  37. Sue says:

    My age is in the “couger” territory. The funny thing is, I have always dated younger guys (older as well). Never gave it a second thought until this whole cougar word. Hate the word and that it has been turned into a movement. I think men are attracted to women full of life & confidence, regardless of age. “cougar” shines a big spotlight on these romances, when before they were just underneath cultural norms. Men now are leery of older women because they don’t want to fall into the cougar trap. It feels more awkward to see the younger man and older woman. Once again we have given men the permission to treat women like a piece of meat with no respect. This whole cougar thing is a mockery of couples who want real relationships and romance.

  38. LittleDeadGirl says:

    I love the one picture that says ‘I didn’t have time to cook for myself or my younger man’ and it sounds exactly like she is talking about a toddler that needs to be fed. I think you should date whoever you want (willing adult of course) but I don’t get the cougar cub thing. Cougar is fine but Cub honestly sounds like you are dating someone that still watches MTV and need to date someone who’s food you don’t need to cut up …

  39. Sue says:

    btw…it’s completely disrespectful to call a man a cub. He’s a person and not a a zoo animal.

  40. Kloops says:

    She’s annoying and moderately well known in Canada – if you have the misfortune of watching local daytime tv. Ken’s cute though, so she can’t be without any redeeming qualities. However, this book is a terrible idea. Count me among those who hate everything about it.

  41. eternalcanadian says:

    Just one word here. TACKY!

    I see her on that cooking show with her little sidekick Kenny. ANNOYING!

    While I don’t approve of Dean’s tactics, at least he moved on while Mary-Jo continues her rants and raves.

  42. poodlemom says:

    What is it exactly that Dean “does” for a living?? Coattail riding??

  43. bored says:

    Meh. Good for her.

  44. DGO says:

    @Jo ‘Mama’ Besser – That must have been a hoot. Do you think she really can’t stand Mary Jo or is that for show?

  45. Larissa says:

    Cougars – please. She looks and acts like an old slapper. She is not famous here in canada and I doubt elsewhere for anything but being the ex-wife! Actually take away the hair colour and she has a very strong resemblance to Dean’s wife, Tori Spelling!

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