As I’ve mentioned before, I think I’m more sympathetic than most people when it comes to Rihanna. I’ve noticed that I’m more sympathetic than most of the commenters too, it seems. I can’t help – I give the girl the benefit of the doubt. While it seems likely that Chris Brown and Rihanna were or are hooking up again, I tend to think this whole situation is a lot more complicated than simply an abuse victim getting back with her abuser. I don’t know all of the specifics of the situation, and neither do you, and my default assumptions are along the lines of, “Chris is probably wrong in whatever he does, and Rihanna is probably too baked to care about any of it.” Anyway, Rihanna was in London all of last week, thank God. I hope she stays there for a while and finds a new dude with an accent. While in the UK, Rihanna made an appearance on The Jonathan Ross Show, and now people are talking about her comments. They’re trying to bill this as “Rihanna disrespects Adele,” but if you read all of her comments, she’s not.
In the wake of spending time with her ex, Chris Brown, in recent months, Rihanna has admitted that she’s not a fan of flying solo.
“Single life is so overrated,” Rihanna, 24, said on Britain’s The Jonathan Ross Show. “It sucks. I have such incredible experiences in my life. You don’t want to live your life and then meet someone. You want to share your life with someone. That’s what I’m missing right now.”
Though she insisted that she’s “not looking,” the “We Found Love” singer said she’d “love to date somebody cool, fun, funny.”
She’ll likely have a number of suitors to choose from. Rihanna had to fight off all sorts of male attention during a recent trip to London, where she partied for four days straight.
A source inside the Aura nightclub in London’s Mayfair tells PEOPLE: “Rihanna came into the club last Sunday and a stockbroker spent [$105,000] on champagne, just so he could meet her.”
“It worked too, as he went over and said hello soon after,” the source added. “But I don’t think he’ll be getting any friendship from Rihanna out of it, put it that way. She politely spoke to him but that was about it.”
While unattached, Rihanna said she found solace in another woman who’s been unlucky in love: Adele. She even confessed to attending the Brit Awards “just to stalk” the six-time Grammy winner.
“I saw her at the Grammys and I love her,” Rihanna told Ross about the British superstar. “I’m a big fan. … Her last album, 21, spoke to me so much. It was so personal to her, but I feel like everyone in the world identified with it, to the point that I had to stop listening because it was depressing me so much. If you identify with it, sometimes you don’t want to hear about it.”
[From People]
OK, first, let’s talk about the stuff she said about being single – I’ve been saying this over and over, and I think Rihanna is trying to confirm it. Whatever is going down between Rihanna and Chris is a casual sex thing. Her emotions are not involved. Hopefully. I don’t think, in Rihanna’s mind, that she’s “back” with Chris or that they’re dating or anything. They might have just slept together a few times, and she considers herself a single girl. Is it dumb? Sure. But let Rihanna figure it out, you know?
As her comments about Adele – I think she just being honest. 21 is a depressing album. It’s beautiful and Adele is awesome, but I reached a point where I had to put it away too.
Photos courtesy of WENN, Fame/Flynet.
You are overrated too!
I know right. And more, insecure people get on my nerves, if you can’t be happy alone you won’t be happy together. This is a clear J-lo case.
It’s true and I mostly agree with you. Being alone can be fine, but being able to share your life with someone is a different kind of gratifying.
And getting rid of toxic people is preferable to being in a relationship.
But Rihanna can do whatever she wants. It doesn’t mean she should expect to get abused again.
I do like me some Riri but her decisions concerning Chris have baffled me to say the least. And what signal it sends out to young girl’s is just beyond terrible. I agree, Kaiser the two of them have deffo shagged since that 2009 Grammy night. They are not in a relationship per se but I think they may have disturbingly romanticized what happened that night. Kinda like they think they are the only ones that ‘get’ one another. Chris being a violent animal aside, I also really think he is a closet case.
I agree- I think CB is a closet case too and that is why he beats women-he hates them because he has forced himself to sleep with them for fear of being called out as gay. Which is so sad-for him and any women he is with.
@NYCGAL, oooooohhh, I really liked reading your opinion of Chris B.’s actions and the possible motivation of such. I’ve wondered about his orientation sometimes, and what you’ve proposed is brilliant.
If it’s true (and how will we EVER KNOW, unless he’s possibly moved to out himself?…which I REALLY doubt), but anyway, just wanted to point out I appreciated your thoughts on this!
I think she’s allowed to live her life, even if she’s making a mistake. She can’t live her life worrying what her young fans will think of her. Maybe she’ll end up as a cautionary tale. She’s allowed to make her own mistakes. It’s her life.
And as I said before, if she ends up being abused again, it doesn’t make it a “she should have known better” situation. No one should be abusive, period, whether they’ve done it in the past or not.
cosign
I agree about Chris being a closet case – there’s been way too many stories about him getting with other men (him being the catcher, not the pitcher) for there not to be something to it. Rihanna may have greater worries to contend with besides being beaten… like AIDS.
even if he is gay (and this speculation is ridiculous to say the least) that doesnt mean he has AIDS or would be any more likely to give her HIV than a straight man. That is such an ignorant 1980s stereotype that is destructive and insulting
I’m afraid your ignorance is what’s destructive and insulting:
http://www.aidsmap.com/Rates-of-new-HIV-diagnoses-amongst-US-gay-men-44-times-greater-than-those-in-other-populations/page/1438113/
And no, it’s not ridiculous to speculate that CB is gay or bi – there are plenty of stories out there, check it out.
I think she never properly dealt with the CB situation and just threw herself back into work rather than going to therapy. Also, i think she’s struggling with Jay-z’s shift of attention from her to making Rita Ora the next big thing. Rita even thinks Riri is copying her…she posted something to that effect on her twitter (“guess everyone wants to be blonde now.”) This would also explain the weird fashion choices…
Rihanna is morphing into Rita..
I agree. I don’t think it is a coincident that right when Jay starts to push his new artist, Rihanna decides to dye her hair blond(the same color as Rita’s.) Rihanna doesn’t even know who Rihanna is which is why she is constantly morphing into people around her.
Rihanna was blonde two years ago and wore a blonde wig during her Loud tour last year. Just because two female artists have blonde does not mean they are morphing into one another.
I can understand that Rih-Rih is crying out for attention from Jay-Z and feeling jealous b/c he has moved to promoting Rita as the next big thing. I don’t think she had a great relationship with her father and Jay probably filled some of that role for her. I can sympathize, but at the same time, Rihanna, girl, you’re an adult now, start acting like one. She’s not Rock n Roll and acting as if she is, is just silly. She’s a pop star and sometimes gets credit in RnB (which personally I think is undeserved w/ the songs she’s had on her last 2 albums). There’s nothing wrong w/ being a pop star. Learn to like yourself.
He did not want her to have anything to do with CB anymore and was clearly the wise one.
She did not listen and now starts realizing that it was mostly he and his resources that made her so successful. It is clearly not her voice.
Go Rita, I’d say.
I find it sad that she seems to be afraid of being single/alone, even for a while. Being alone is not a personal failure, Riri, really.
Cosign. Nobody is ‘overrating’ single life. Quite the opposite, in fact. I see so many women devoting themselves to guys who are clearly wrong for them just for the sake of being in a relationship. It’s just so stupid. OF COURSE it’s great if you can share your life, and new experiences, with someone. But if I had to choose between being single and being in a relationship with an abusive a-hole of a man? I’ll take single-dom, thank you very much.
EXACTLY. This world-wise woman who’s barely out of her teens would have us believe that singlehood is overrated and unnatural. I hear the voice of a girl whose self-esteem is dependent on having a man in her life. Sad.
Part this is probably her personality, but I wonder how much of it is culture as well. I remember growing up-back in the days when we rode dinosaurs to school-we’d have social studies class and the teacher would bring up the average age of marriage and the percentage of people who got marriage, and then you have the cultural influence outside of school: You’re supposed to be in a relationship.
But, what if you’re not meant to be in a relationship, or it doesn’t happen all the time? I think some people (men and women) have problems with accepting the fact that sometimes there is no relationship to be had and to be ok with that.
I’ve not read this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Going-Solo-Extraordinary-Surprising-Appeal/dp/1594203229/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_1
but I’m very interested it.
She wants what she can’t have, must fight for it.. and if she gets it, so far.. she loses interest, abuses and tosses it away.. Faithful and loyal trust in anything or one.. seems to make her feel insecure..If you don’t have inner peace and happiness, you can never be confident enough to openly love, have security and lose the jealousy.
This girl and I are the same age. It just kills me when I hear young women talking about how they “need” to be with somebody and really can’t be alone for very long.
She needs to clean up (she looks like she’s in desperate need of a shower all the time) and build up her own sense of self-worth not based on relationships with others.
“This girl and I are the same age. It just kills me when I hear young women talking about how they “need” to be with somebody and really can’t be alone for very long.”
These are the type of women that attract physically and/or emotionally abusive men.
Real man wouldn’t get it going with these kinds of girls, they don’t need a clingy, whiny, obsessed thing to deal with, seriously.
One of my best friends from high school spent nearly five hours straight going through the history of her relationships (and the multitude of problems IN the relationships, which do in fact include multiple instances of verbal/emotional abuse, stalkers and egocentric douchebags) the last time we met up, which these days isn’t very often. Her current boyfriend apparently controls her sexuality to such a degree that any type of sex toy is banned from their house, and he routinely searches through her things to make sure she didn’t buy another vibrator. He deliberately broke the last one she purchased.
While admittedly bored out of my mind as she whined on and on, because I simply don’t care about Jeffy/Terry/Brian/Ed/Zac/Jack/and-so-on, I was really disturbed that a 26 year old woman was so dependent on being in a relationship that she’s essentially dumbed herself down, puts up with never having an orgasm and makes no efforts to live independently. Unreal, man.
@some bitch: “puts up with never having an orgasm …” no no no no no! She should probably dump the men and keep the vibrators, at least that way she’d get an orgasm once in a while. And the vibrators are less controlling.
But sadly, how does do an intervention for this type of person? It’s not good to be so unhappy, just for the sake of being in a relationship.
When wanting a man turns to NEEDING a man, you need to seek help and figure out why you can’t feel complete unless you are in a relationship. I think Rihanna has issues and need to sort those out. Also, she should speak for herself b/c I absolutely love being single.
And, whoever said she never dealt w/that CB situation, is correct. She immediately got into making another album after it happened. This is right around the time she started w/this whole ‘bad girl’ image. It’s like she feels she has something to prove. When my bf died in a car crash, I did the same thing. I threw myself into school and work because it was easier than having to deal w/my grief. A whole year passed before my mom convinced me to go to therapy. It helped…a lot.
Who doesn’t know scads of girls with that attitude? Who hasn’t seen a bunch of Judge Judy episodes where one party’s argument basically devolves into, ‘Well, you know she’s not right in her life because she can’t keep a man. That’s why I win.’ Okay, take your Rhodes Scholarship and go, then.
Man, does that complicit bitching ever set my teeth on edge. ‘And this is my hubby (bleh), Means To An End O’Halloran. It’s love. Who says on her deathbed, ‘My only regret is that I didn’t get banged (in every sense) by more amoral dimwits…and that I missed the Valtrex Dip deadline’?
First of all, she needs to clean up her slutty “f*ck-me” image. Secondly, she needs to distance herself from Chris Brown and his ilk as soon as possible. She’s acting out some weird stuff and should get some professional guidance on how to deal with fame and fortune at such a young age, rather than party and screw her brains out with a succession of bad men.
This chick clearly has emotional issues. I hope people don’t shame her too much about feeling she wants to be with CB or some other man — that stuff will, if anything, just push her more towards CB. She’s not stupid or self-indulgent, imo, she’s hurting. She needs a therapist, not a man.
Unfortunately, I wouldn’t be surprised if people in her life didn’t think of therapy as legitimate, given her cultural background. I’m also West Indian, and my family struggled a lot with dealing with my depression as a real thing. They came around, but it took a couple years (and my seeking help and getting a lot better on my own).
Meh. Her prerogative.
I think it’s so cute that she admitted to “stalking” Adele. Cause I would totally stalk both of them.
Let her do what she wants. She obviously likes the thrill of being with Brown, even if things get physical sometimes. I wouldn’t choose that life, but I can’t worry about adults who make those choices.
So it’s better to return to an abusive partner than remain single? What a nice message to send to your young female fans… What exactly are you going to tell them when Brown beats your face in again?
I agree wholeheartedly w/what you’ve stated. She needs to realize that although she’s “realized” her dream of becoming a star, there are certain responsibilites, LIKE IT OR NOT, that come w/such.
If she wants to see him still, and that is her prerogative…ok, then SEE him, BE w/him…but good God almighty..does she REALLY HAVE TO RUB IT IN OUR FACES?! What I’m saying, they’ve released songs recently that they’ve done duets w/each other…is that really necessary? Hell no, it’s NOT. Don’t rub it in our faces…I just can’t say that enough!
Yeah, she may be rebellious, but I find she’s carrying it a bit too far by this “in your face w/it” attitude. Does she really want it on her conscience that she’s aided and abetted EVEN ONE YOUNG GIRL/WOMAN to go back to her abuser?
I really don’t like sounding like a “moral highgrounder,” but she does bear a certain responsibility…she really, really does. The way she’s been carrying on w/Chris B. publicly…is not right at all.
She does not take responsibility, which is why I’m glad Jay Z is swinging his resources away from her and to other artists. I can understand it if he’s sick of her and her teenage rebellion.
She started believing her own hype, but she’s nothing more than the machine behind her, which gave her all those catchy songs.
Without them she is nothing.
Anyone who thinks they have to be in a relationship all the time has major insecurity issues.
A lot of women seem to think anybody is better than nobody when actually, the reverse is true.
She annoys me, but what she said about Adele was actually quite a compliment.
Hopefully, she will develop more emotional maturity and self-esteem. If you respect yourself enough, you won’t let your boyfriend (and other people) treat you like a doormat or a punching bag.
Those who are secure with themselves can handle being single because they like their own company. They can sleep alone at night. Rihanna may realize one day that she doesn’t need someone to “complete” her because she’s already a whole person, not half a person searching for her missing half. And maybe after that she can tone down her raunchy image, because that’s annoyingly desperate.
I never felt so alone as when I was married. Committed relationships are only good if both are committed and we don’t see that often in the show business community.
Ri grew up seeing her father beating her mom regularly. Ri’s dad broke her mom’s nose once, and her mom didn’t go to the hospital because she was too embarrassed. That’s a lot to absorb as a child, and then think it’s NOT normal. Hopefully she’ll get help at some point. If not, it’s likely she’ll keep going back to CB, or pick another abuser.
On another note, Ri and CB are NOT role models, why are parents allowing their kids to listen to their music? Monitoring computer use, TV watching, and music, is a parent’s job. Since when do we allow media to teach our children? I don’t, and I’m sure a lot of others don’t either.
Women need to appreciate being single. There are pros and cons to anything. Being single, you get the whole bed, can decorate as you want, you can wear your ugly sweat pants, do as you please. Relationships ARE work….eventually things get mundane and boring (yes, it does…after 50 years most women look back and realize life as a single woman wasn’t that bad). I guess we need to appreciate what we have at the moment and stop wanting something you don’t have.
Did anybody see what Rihanna twittered about CB gf? at mediatakeout. It was definately an insult. I doubt it is just sex if she were to twitter that.
Well, Ririrara, if you just have to be in a relationship, make it anybody but CB.
Woa, just read Rihanna twittered a pic of CB’s gf and then a ricecake with the same sunglasses etc.
CB’s new girlfriend is vietnamese.
If it’s true then it’s official: Rihanna is the most annoying celebrity out there. What a piece of trash.
http://www.ibtimes.com/articles/308556/20120303/chris-brown-rihanna-karrueche-racist-rice-cakes.htm
@Flan, thanks for providing that link. Wow, seems like she is referring to Karreuche. Not good at all. Agree w/you.
Oh lovely. So, having been beaten by Brown, she now feels just fine and dandy about posting a racist “joke” about his girlfriend, with a misogynist threat for good measure (“Ima make u my bitch” – what the hell is that if not a threat?).
Honestly, I never thought I’d say this, but lately it really seems like Rihanna and Brown are made for each other.
OJ Simpson once said of Nicole, “If I did do this thing, it would have to be because I loved her very much, right?” Clearly this is Rihanna’s attitude too: never mind support, mutual respect, caring – what matters in a relationship is that you feel strongly enough to threaten his other girlfriend, and that he feels strongly enough to put you in the hospital; if there’s no jealousy and violence, it ain’t love.
Maybe after the seventh or eighth trip to the ER, or that first magical time they have to resuscitate her, she’ll think differently. The girl needs help.
Rihanna’s twitpic of the ricecake wearing sunglasses was definitely a racial slur towards Karrueche. Chris Brown needs to step up and defend his Vietnamese girlfriend.
She can’t sing.
I would say the girl has a mixture of borderline dependency personality disorder combined with a histrionic twinge.
She is rude, crass, ill-mannered, overtly sexual and shows poor impulse control.
Let’s more her on. She won’t accept responsibility for the image she portrays to teens as a gun-toting oversexualised nymphomaniac, and she has the attitude of a street fighting cowboy.
Yes, there is a lot to say for real ladies in this day and age.
It’s sad that she can’t realize that being with someone is good so long as they respect and care about you. Otherwise, you’re better off on your own.
She seems to have no class or self respect.
So much so that she’ll be with a man who beats her (Chris Brown). Shes a sad case.
There is no way you can be this forgiving about Rihanna’s stupid antics…and yet still rip Jennifer Aniston apart…
Everyone is missing the point. The media is making a fuss that Rihanna is setting a bad example by getting back with her abusive boyfriend. That isn’t true. Rihanna and Chris were NEVER in a romantic relationship. They were a couple for the sake of publicity. That’s why she has no problems working with him. She pushed his buttons that night and naturally he reacted the way he did on a woman that he was never in love with. She destroyed his career and now wants to to help him because she knows she was wrong. It’s so simple that I can’t believe people are so naive about this.