We haven’t paid attention to the Usher custody drama yet, because to be honest the stories broke late in the day yesterday. This Usher story is juicy gossip-wise, but there are kids involved so that makes it more sad than salacious. As background, Usher and Tameka Foster divorced in the summer of 2009. They have two boys together: Usher Raymond V, four and a half, and Naviyd, three and a half. It’s been about three years since Usher filed for divorce and they are still fighting over custody issues. It may have to do with the on-off nature of their relationship, at least toward the end of their marriage, (Usher’s song “Papers” is said to be about Tameka) but it sounds more like petty fighting. If Usher’s testimony is to be believed, it’s all Tameka’s fault.
As background, Usher, 33, has a history of dating older women and letting them take over as managers of his career. He did this with Tameka, pushing his mom out as manager, and he did this about a year ago with his current girlfriend, 44 year-old music executive Grace Miguel. Usher testified in court that during a routine hand-of of Usher, Jr., Tameka spit on Grace, took a swing at her, and threw a plate of food at their car. According to Usher, Grace was back in the car at the end of the driveway. Tameka got so mad at him for daring to bring him with her that she trounced down to the car and started screaming at Grace, saying things like “I’m going to kick your ass,” and “Bitch get out of the car.” When Usher tried to block Tameka from attacking Grace, she hit him instead.
Usher blasted his ex-wife in court today — testifying that Tameka Foster flew into a jealous rage, hitting him, throwing food, and worst of all … spitting on his girlfriend.
Usher took the stand in his ongoing child custody trial with his ex, and under questioning by his attorney, revealed how Tameka once went ballistic and “wanted to fight” … when he showed up at her house with his new sidepiece.
Ush testified Tameka walked to his car and said, “I’m gonna kick your ass. Bitch get out of the car. How dare you bring this woman into my subdivision in my house?”
He added, “She continued to spit. At this point she pulled the door open, tried to swing at her.”
Usher claims he had to get out of the car and block Tameka … who then hit him. Usher said he pleaded with Tameka to calm down, but claims “she threw a plate of food at the car” … as he fled the situation.
You gotta hear Usher describe the intense showdown — and remember, Tameka previously testified she once told the gf, “I will f**k you up.”
[From TMZ]
Usher seemed really earnest, and honest, when he was recalling this. (Video is below and available on TMZ) Either he’s an excellent actor, which is possible since he’s a celebrity and an entertainer, or he’s telling the truth as he saw it. We’ve heard all sorts of stories about what a whack job Tameka is, so I believe it. Usher married her, though, and he knew what he was getting into, considering that he backed out of the first marriage ceremony at Clive Davis’ house at the last minute. He probably realized within a few months that he never should have gone back and made it official.
TMZ has another clip from Usher’s testimony, in which he cries over allegations that he’s a bad dad and parties in front of his boys. He denied that, and it was hard to hear but I think they showed a photo of him smoking pot. He countered that he was in Holland at the time. This whole thing really made me feel sorry for Usher.
Usher is shown at the BMAs over the weekend. I actually like his blue suit. Credit: WENN.com. Tameka is shown in 2008
Those poor boys.
Women like her, give women everywhere a bad name. How do you sink so low and spit on another woman because she is with your EX-HUSBAND? How do you become so vicious, so hateful, and simply so vengeful.
I don’t know if Usher was ever under the influence around his children, hope the courts prove it definitely to be true or false. No fluid allegations.
Dosn’t she also have children from previous relationships? Does she have time to take care of all these children while being so hatefully vengeful?
Sorry, but reading the details pi**ed me off. His mother WAS right, he should have stayed away from her.
I just remembered why the first wedding was postponed: Tameka was refusing to sign a prenup.
Wasn’t there an interview on TMZ where Usher had finally admitted that there will be no prenup, and that is why his mother did not show up for his wedding?
To believe tomeka foster still love her exhusband
I don’t know what to think about this at all. I believe him but like you said he knew what he was getting into before they got married, so no need to play the violins for him too hard. I just feel sorry for the children.
He did look nice in the suit. The shoes are awful though.
As crazy as Tameka may be… Usher is no innocent baby in this mess. And they are both guilty of bad behavior.
Taking your new girlfriend over to her house was just dumb. Usher knew Tameka would freak the hell out. And he was hoping she would, so he could use it against her.
And Tameka needs to realize that she is just as simple acting, for trying to use the kids as a weapon against him.
Usher is never coming back. He is going to marry another female. Buy her a bigger ring than you got. Buy a bigger house. And most likely rub your nose in it daily. Because he is an ass.
Get yourself a decent cash payout. Let him have the kids every other week. And move on.
I think its absolutely crazy how a woman can focus on the female that her ex0husbnd hooked up with after their divorce, and show her a** over it. Its not even about the kids which is so sad. My exes new chick and i would be just tight enough that we have respect for each other, but she knows that i would bury her in the backyard if something happened to my kids as a result of her. Acting foolish does nothing for anyone but herself.
and i dont blame Usher at all. Who wants their kids to see their mother behave that way?
Agree! Both Usher and Tameka are guilty on different levels. The only victims here are the kids.
Right. If she was so bad why the second child and the drawn out drama? If he was so bad, why didn’t she take the high road and get out before being dumped? They are both guilty of being self-centered.
I wish the best for their children.
I feel sorry for the kids, because chances are-this will be their life from now on, their parents constantly fighting over custody issues and using them to gt at each other. It’s a shame..
I think Usher is willing to work with her but Tameka is the one turning it into a huge battle.
Once again, there are no innocents in this situation. Usher did cheat on her… A LOT towards the end of the marriage. I think it was doomed from the start and he realized it from the day they were married. He still should have kept it in his pants at least until they were separated. In regards to the pot smoking, he admitted he never smoked pot around the kids, he wasn’t convincing when he said he was never stoned around the kids though. Still if pot is the worst of Usher’s troubles then I don’t see the problem.
Tameka is violent and not mentally well. Unfortantely, when it comes to parenting Usher is the lesser of two evils. She is using her children as an ATM which is despicable. Let’s remember the reason she filed for full custody was because Usher canceled her Saks 5th Avenue charge card. I really hope the judge sees throughthis bitch. Ugh! She makes me so angry!!!!
All I have to say is mama maybe wrong sometimes but on this one she knew something wasn’t right. Should’ve listened to mama Usher.
Usher has some type of mommy thing issue where he gets with these older chicks so they can basically run his life or career rather for him.
don’t cheat.
There are a lot of typos in the second paragraph that impede the clarity of this post.
And I have had the distinct displeasure of meeting Tameka in ATL. She’s as shady as you would imagine, and thinks she is some sort of royalty because she’s Usher’s ex.
I kinda appreciate that he likes older women, though.
Take note mommas this is what happens when you raise a co-dependant momma’s boy. He gets tired of it and when he should listen to you he doesn’t and marries an old she-man and has kids with her back-to-back. Can’t stand momma’s boys. Just really can’t stand them and this woman is gross beyond measure. Both of them should lose custody for stupidity.
Infidelity usually destroys any chance of an amicable divorce, and Usher openly and repeatedly cheated on Tameka.
I’m not saying it’s okay for her to spit on his latest side piece, but Usher should’ve known that bringing her onto Tameka’s property uninvited would cause conflict.
Both of them should go to counseling so they can learn to keep their exchanges civil for the sake of their children.
Sorry… don’t feel sorry for Usher.
He rubs me the wrong way, especially when he did that Essence photo shoot/cover story with Usher V. The whole tone of that story was all about Usher and his son… meanwhile, he had three stepsons at home. They mattered, and yet, nary an acknowledgement of them.
Tameka may not be a prize, but then again, maybe that’s why he got with her. Tameka is a ready-made scapegoat who is incapable of doing herself any favors – perfect for a mama’s boy who has been pampered and shielded his whole life.
They were married for like to years and half way throw it they were already having problems and not really together. So I don’t think their was a real connection between Usher and his stepsons.
He married her because he got her pregnant, he was dating chilli when he was sleeping with Tameka and she got knock up so she knew what she was getting into and she wasen’t thinking about her other 3 kids just a pay day.
If I remember right Tameka was Usher stlyelist and he would talk to her about his relationship problems with Chilli so girlfriend seemed to have this all planed out from the beginning. She was looking for a high roller and he was just a dumb ass that fall for it.
So… you don’t have a problem with him not ‘connecting’ with his stepsons, because I do. You don’t get involved with a single mother without considering your role with her children.
And sorry… marrying someone just because she was pregnant seems kinda stupid, especially when the two people involved had a combined age of 60.
Don’t feel too sorry for him, either. Didn’t he sleep with one of the bridesmaids from his wedding to Tameka?
This is just sad all around FOR THE KIDS.
Tameka is disgusting because it seems like all she saw were $ signs when she got pregnant. Very selfish.
And he’s a dummy for having gotten with her if he saw the crazy in her and he’s also a dummy for getting her pregnant!
It’s so simple! Just uuuuuse protection! Sheeesh
Meh. When Usher showed up wearing fake hipster glasses to make himself look like a pseudointellectual, it made me really, really wonder about him. Why would you wear fake glasses to a child custody trial? It didn’t make him look smart, he looked like a poser. Bad move for him. Child custody is serious business. It sort of seemed like he was making a mockery of it. At the very least, trying to garner sympathy points..which begs the question as to WHY he would need sympathy points. He has admitted to drug use, so maybe he was trying to look respectable in the face of all that. Smoke/Fire. He’s hiding something if he needs props.
http://www.tmz.com/2012/05/01/usher-tameka-child-custody-court-settlement/
Why would he bring his new girlfriend to his exes house? To piss her off obviously.
Once you are no longer together… move on, get past your ex. Set up the visitation fairly, both people are the parents of these children and it’s about the children not the parents. As long as there is no abuse going on it should be split evenly. I don’t understand women having babies to make a living and then withholding the children as punishment to the spouse. It’s cruel to the kids and other parent.
There is no need to drag the new person into the situation. It just creates more tension for the children. They don’t know who they can and cannot like if the mother/father poisons their minds against the new person.
It’s about the kids, grow up!