Every so often, the tabloids start a round a rumors about the state of Gavin Rossdale and Gwen Stefani’s marriage. The last time it happened (to my memory) was back in January – there were several reports indicating that Gavin’s past (with a drag queen, with his daughter Daisy Lowe, and with Courtney Love, for example) was coming back to haunt him, and Gwen was not happy. Days after the rumors, Gwen and Gavin seemed to be photographed constantly. This is their M.O. Whenever there’s bad gossip about them, they are magically photographed in lots of family-oriented photo ops.
Well, I noticed that we seemed to have a lot of photos of Gwen and Gavin over the holiday weekend, and I wondered what was up. It seems like the British tabloids are beginning a new round, and this week’s American tabloids are picking up the rumors this week. The British tabloid Closer has a source claiming: “Things have gone from bad to worse and they don’t know how to fix it. They’ve been through a lot and while Gwen’s putting on a brave face for the sake of the kids, she’s not sure she can save their marriage.” Here’s more:
Gwen Stefani is reportedly “putting on a brave face” about her marriage in front of her children. The songstress and Gavin Rossdale got together in 1995 and married in 2002. They have sons Kingston and Zuma together.
Their relationship was rocked when a paternity test revealed Gavin had previously fathered Daisy Lowe with ex-girlfriend Pearl. Courtney Love also claimed that she’d had an affair with him. Gwen is said to be doubting her long-time partner.
“Things have gone from bad to worse and they don’t know how to fix it. They’ve been through a lot and while Gwen’s putting on a brave face for the sake of the kids, she’s not sure she can save their marriage,” a source told British magazine Closer.
Gwen has reportedly suggested a temporary break from each other.
“Gwen isn’t sure she can trust Gavin any more. They need time to figure things out, but he’s now on a six-month world tour with Bush until the end of June – although he tries to come back when he can to see the kids,” the insider added.
“Rather than trying to have a long-distance relationship, Gwen suggested a trial separation to see if a break would prompt him to show her how much she means to him.”
Star Magazine picked up the story in this week’s issue, claiming that Gwen and Gavin are in a “marriage crisis” and they’re still deciding if they’ll split. My take? I don’t even know. Considering they still care enough to do happy-family paparazzi photo-ops, I’d say they’re still committed to their marriage. But I’ll buy that they’re having problems – everybody has problems. It happens. They fight, they work it out. Hopefully, it’s nothing.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
Maybe it is time for Gwen to move on – she could do so much better.
Im going through a divorce now too. Just found out my husband is shacked up with his girlfriend since February. Been coming to me and our children playing happy father and husband the entire time. sometimes its so hard to move on. I dont know how to do it?
That is truly awful. I can’t imagine how that would feel. People need to remember things aren’t so black and white when it comes to love and marriage. I hope you find peace with your situation and have people around you to support you in this difficult time. The only thing I can say is that this situation reflects poorly on your ex, and not on you.
Jessica ~ That SUCKS, and I wish you strength and to be much happier very soon.
Jessica, I agree with MJ – don’t own an ounce of blame or guilt for this situation. It has NOTHING to do with you. It is not a reflection of you as a person, or your looks, or about you being a good wife or mother. This is about your husband’s lack of character and self control. DON’T OWN ANY OF IT. Make that your mantra and believe it in your heart. You deserve a great partner. He failed you and his children, you guys didn’t fail him. I’m Sending positivity and hugs your way. From someone who has been there.
Jessica,
I left my philandering SOB of a husband 6 years ago, and his infidelity still pisses me off. I don’t want him – no part of it – but it still makes me mad, and it used to confuse me until I read this (I hope it helps you):
“[G]oing outside the marriage reflects deep-seated anger at one’s partner and is a tactic in the power struggles that characterizes so many relationships, especially those in which gender-roles are blurred and the partners are expected to be on equal footing. The betrayal that infidelity represents is a profoundly hostile act that permanently alters relationships whether or not reconciliation and “forgiveness” allows them to continue. If the choice is to reconstitute the marriage, both people live with the knowledge that, whatever they meant when they promised their love and imagined that their hearts would be safe with the chosen other, that person intentionally hurt them in the most profound way. This is more than a violation of a promise (“forsaking all others”) it is an unmistakable indicator of selfishness, even hostility, on the part of someone in whom we have reposed our best hopes.” Gordon Livingston
It’s the first description of infidelity that rang true for me: it felt hostile, angry, and like a part of the unending power struggle he was engaged with (no matter what I did). I hope you heal quickly.
OMG!! I can feel the hugs!! Thank you so much and I hope I can be strong through this. We have an 8 year old son and a 4 year old daughter I have to keep happy and safe from all his mess. Thank you so much again!! All of you!! : )
Oh Jessica. I wish I had words that could take the pain away. Your husband has behaved like an ass. Like the others said, it’s no reflection on you at all. Something is wrong with him. I know you’ll find a way to heal. It just takes time – which sucks! Just be super easy on yourself right now, let yourself feel whatever you need to feel. And it sounds like you have your priorities straight – focus on those kiddos and the joy they bring. All three of you will get through this.
HUGS!
More hugs more hugs more hugs. You will find happiness. I am sure of it! Men lack something – kinda like how Aniston called out Brad Pitt. How can they not? Women give birth to children! You can’t get more powerful than that. Shame on him. It has nothing to do with you but more his immaturity. Consider it a blessing that you found out when you did. Best of luck.
Hi Jessica,
Although I’m knew here I still wanted to say that I’m sorry to hear you are going through that. I’m sure it is little comfort now but you will be the better for it in the end. Here’s to your future. Sx
Oh, some people’s kids. Just by leaving him, you’re trading up. I acknowledge that that’s a cold comfort, but it’s a truthful one.
yes, and a change of wardrobe choices would be a good start
THANK you. Gwen is stuck in an identity model that is sooooo over. she might be pretty, she might not, but she is maintaining her IMAGE at a huge cost. her hair is starting to thin (i can’t imagine how she has any LEFT with all the bleaching) and the fact that she has been dying her KID’S hair to make it blond just drives me insane.
also, i am just curious-all this stuff that Gavin did seems very much in the past. i understand infidelity is an issue-and i like the quote about it a lot. but for goodness’ sake-HE’S A ROCK STAR! and much of the revelations are about long ago. HE WAS A ROCK STAR!
i am not a proponent of ‘oh, just get over it’ or anything, but seriously, has he done anything lately besides be whatever kind of husband he can be?
i said some vows 13 years ago, and although my husband and i have gone through many challenges and changes, i promised to love him no matter what.
and although the last year or two has been really trying (on many levels) and i’ve wanted to leave b/c our communication just FAILED for a while, and i even made plans to bolt, i just kept breathing. and things are better now. every day is a new day, and i have to remember that my husband is who he is and becomes who he becomes DAILY, hourly, minutely, and part of the joy of marriage is walking beside a constantly changing, transforming person.
i am different too-a much better person because of my husband. we married later in life and do not share the bond of children-but Gwen & Gavin do have young children. i have NOTHING to say about whether or not they SHOULD stay together, but i do hope they figure out how to work it out.
marriage today is such a different proposition than in the 50s/60s/70s. the 80s saw new configurations, new agreements, new ways to be married.
to be stuck in the old paradigm, ESPECIALLY when you are successful, fabulously wealthy musicians/artists, just screams small minded thinking to me. and that’s one thing that really surprises me about Gwen. she’s been around. i would have thought she’d have known what she was marrying, loooonnnnngggg ago.
if she wasn’t smart enough to figure out the truth about who he was and is (they were together SEVEN YEARS before getting married, right?) then it’s predictable that she doesn’t have the flexibility and strength to deal with the past in the context of NOW.
sad.
yes. she seems to have to swallow alot to keep the marriage going.
Didn’t he consistently cheat on her since day 1?
I don’t see the point in leaving now.
AND DON’T BELIEVE ANYTHING HO-UURTNEY LOVE SAYS…. EVER!
Oh Gavin – you are gorgeous, and charming I’m sure. But you’re an idiot. You have an amazing woman – she’s gorgeous, generous, and a terrific mom to your kids. She’s the whole package. What exactly are you looking for?
WHAT YOU SAID both times!!
Jessica, don’t know if you can get strength from strangers commenting on gossip on the internet, but just the same, people are sending you their strength and you should pick it up and cherish it.
I was married once to a serial philanderer. Sometimes, it’s not anger that drives them to it, it’s more of a deep-seated insecurity and need for new attention. Either way, it’s NO GOOD and DO NOT ACCEPT SECONDS. It’s never worth it. Don’t ever settle – you deserve somebody who values you, is safe to give your heart to, and worships the ground you walk on.
Rooting for you. Be strong hon.
A man.
They have been together for over 15 years. And like any couple, they go through rough patches.
Hope they work it out, they are so good together, just read their body language when they sit together on a bench watching the kids play. Those two love each other and like being physically close.
Have to agree that they don’t look fake in photos, it looks real. Best of luck to them.
I agree…I’m rooting for them, I like them together.
+1 I really like Gwen and I like that little family together. I hope they make it.
Another story created from a CDAN blind item. Enty should get paid for these….
Yep, he’s having too much “fun” with the boys these days…
If he’s actually doing that, he’s a complete cad. I’m thinking that once word gets out a famous male likes men, it’s like people come out of the woodwork to check for themselves – like giving an addict drugs and seeing if he’ll take it, just for the adventure. If he’s addicted to his own fame and is flattered by male attention, this marriage will not last. Which sucks because little children are involved.
He’s still hot to me. I hope these rumors aren’t true because I’ve always thought they were a cute family.
Same here. They are one of the few music couples where both are around the same age, they’re attractive and famous in there own right. So Gavin has a colorful past even if some details like male lover and love child are shocking, that was another lifetime ago. I think Gwen can look past that and recognize what they have. I hope they are in it for the long haul.
The affair news was ages ago. Dredging that up as a reason for problems is desperate for a filler story.
She’s loyal support.. he’s just take.. um?
if i got married and later found out they were gay, i’d be pissed-off to.
I thought it was well known that if he was not gay, then he was a hard leaning bisexual. Isn’t he the one who kept getting caught?
I couldn’t be married to a bisexual.
I hope they can make it work.
His slicked back, greasy hair bothers me.
She seems like such a sweet person, but I’m sure she has her hands full with Gavin. Ugh, Scorpio men!
I’m a huge No Doubt/Gwen Stefani fan. They’ve had a tumultuous relationship. Most of her music is very autobiographical and her songs highlight their past struggles. Honestly, I’m surprised they made it this long.
Then you oughta know that tony kanal wrote most of no doubts lyrics.
Tony and Gwen co-wrote A LOT of songs together based on HER relationship with Gavin for “Return of Saturn” album. She wrote “Don’t Speak” (in the Tragic Kingdom CD) with Tom Dumont about her relationship with Tony.
I see what Launicaangelina is saying and she is not entirely wrong, a lot of No Doubt’s music (but especially their last two or three albums) were MAJORLY about Gwen’s relationships. So very autobiographical. IF you want insight into her relationships, especially with Gavin you just have to listed to “Return of Saturn” and “Rock Steady.”
The song “Ex-Girlfriend” even borrowed (quoted) a lyric from Bush (Gavin’s band) and Gwen says “You say you’re going to burn before you mellow/I’ll be the one to burn you/why’d you have to go and pick me?/When you know that we were different completely.
Some fans like that and others don’t and some don’t care because the lyrics aren’t that blatant and it’s all about the music anyway. I just remember that a few people thought “Rock Steady” was the most pop of their albums and blamed Gwen’s songwriting for that…that also had quite a few songs about Gavin right before she married him.
She did not write dont speak, I believe her brother did. I didnt mean to sound like a b-otch, I know songs like a simple kind of life def ARE autobiographical to Gwen.
That’s not entirely true. In the early days Eric was the main songwriter, but after he left Gwen took over. I think she comes up with the idea/concept for a song and then works with Tony and Tom on the lyrics. They are a team. Oh and Don’t Speak was rewritten by her after the breakup and Eric wrote the music.
Their music is very auto-biographical especially Return of Saturn. So many of the songs from that have this sad uncertain undertone in them. That was releases 2 years before they married so maybe she was grappling with a lot before they decided to make it official.
I should have been specific. Tragic Kingdom = pre Gavin days. Return of Saturn = Gavin days.
Their body language seems too relaxed, I don’t beleive this rumor is true
I know Courtney Love is a complete windbag, but if I found out my man even had an inkling of diddling her, it would be OVER.
Same here. Must be hard having famous skeezers after your husband. uck.
+2
her hair looks like it could cut glass.
I don’t see them splitting; they’ve been together for almost 17 years. Every couple has issues and every person has a past. They are clearly very much in love and seem solid.
Bet he’s back on with dudes again.
They are fine. If they can make it through surprise daughters, possible gay relationships and Courtney Love, I think they can make it through anything.
Rumor has it that he’s been cheating since day one, but Gwen turns a blind eye. It could be that she’s starting to have second thoughts about that now that her kids are getting older, making it harder to keep them in the dark about their father’s lifestyle.
I’m personally not a fan of open relationships, but to each their own.
I love her and she’s one of the few celebrities that I feel kind of protective over and hate when people say mean things about her. Probably because Tragic Kingdom was the first cd I ever owned lol. I feel like they probably have an open relationship but he’s the one who is really taking advantage of it. No Doubt does have a new album coming out soon so maybe that’s why the tabs are on their asses. All I can say is that I saw ND in concert a couple years ago and they were amazing. They all looked great, the place was sold out, and everyone there was so psyched to be there and she sings great live.
What’s she supposed to do? Gavin likes strange and boys too? Move on, Gwen.
I don’t buy this rumor for 1 hot minute. Gwen ain’t never, ever leaving Gavin. If anyone leaves, it’ll be him. She knew his past before they got married or even engaged (like with Marilyn the cross dresser) because those photos have been online for years and Boy George wrote about it in his book. She’s known about all the women, etc. If she overlooked all that, it’s not changing now.
Also, the thing about Gavin’s love child? Gwen knew about a year before her first solo album came out, but someone (her publicist?) Sat on the story
Oops, it didn’t post the rest of my comment. Anyway, I think Gwen’s publicist sat on the lovechild story until Gwen’s album release. Total publicity stunt. And now, notice how they slip in the stuff about Bush’s tour? And No Doubt’s coming out with an album too, soon.
If I recall, the last time these rumors came up in January, Gavin’s side band Institute was touring. Please. These 2 know how to play the press.
For what it’s worth, I do love Gwen. I love her style and how painfully honest her lyrics are. (I do hate how she bleaches her kids’ hair, though.)
Their marriage started off on a bad foot with him not telling her about his secret child. Now it is going to end on a bad foot. Not surprised. I love Gwen. She can do so much better. Her children are beautiful, though.
Daisy Lowe’s mother just gave an interview this week, saying he threatened never to speak to her again if Daisy did a paternity test, and he followed through on that, even though he has a relationship with Daisy now.
He sounds like a selfish jerk, but no doubt he is a good husband to his meal ticket.
Wasn’t Pearl Lowe passing Daisy off as her wealthy Pakistani ex-husband’s child? I think it was after the bitter divorce when Pearl let the paternity secret slip and started sniffing around the Stefani-Rossdale bank account. Besides isn’t Daisy doing “work” for Mark Ronson?
Wasn’t Gavin rumored to have had affairs with Sadie Frost and Shirley Manson too?
I’m not sure about Shirley Manson, as I know that she and Gwen are friends and have been since the 90s.
Don’t understand why people are believing these dumb rag stories.