Ben Affleck admits he still e-mails J.Lo, says he doesn’t have “a perfect marriage”


Ben Affleck has a new cover interview and profile in The Hollywood Reporter, all to promote Argo of course. (It’s out this weekend, yay!) The man gives some good quotes, he knows how to play the game. My favorite part was when he confirmed that Matt Damon has moved right down the street from him and admitted that he visits Matt’s house just about every night. That’s just me, I like picturing Ben and Matt as BFFs, hanging out, playing poker and making another incredible movie for us. In the article, Matt has some very complimentary things to say about Ben and how he’s turned his career around. That’s of course what everyone focuses on when they consider Affleck – how he became a respected director after starring in a bunch of subpar action movies and being known as half of Bennifer.

As for J.Lo, Ben admits that he still emails her and wishes her well. I guess this means that the tabloid stories were right. Many people have speculated that he must be hung up on Lopez, considering how much he brings her up. As an Affleck fangirl, I attribute that to Ben’s need to explain to us what happened, and why he so thoroughly fell from grace while dating her. He gets that question all the time and he answers it, but I understand the other side of it. I’ve seen people get fixated on the last person they dated just before they got married in a kind of “what if” scenario. Ben dodged that bullet at the last minute, he probably thinks about it. Here’s more, including some other choice quotes from Ben.

On hanging out with Damon
When he’s not with his family, he’s at home working in a “sort of little office hut” or developing material through Pearl Street Productions, the Warners-based company he runs with Damon, who has remained a lodestar throughout the ups and downs and who now lives down the street from him. “We see each other almost too often,” laughs Affleck. “I wonder if his wife is thinking, ‘Is he really going to come over every night?’ ”

On why he owns guns
He goes skeet shooting and admits to owning several guns — which he has embraced since his wife faced a stalker.

“The stalker had been to our house many times and ultimately came to my children’s school and was arrested,” notes Affleck of Steven Burky, who was deemed insane in 2010 then placed in a mental ward and ordered to stay away from the Affleck family for 10 years. “It gave me a stronger sense of feeling protective about my family. There’s a lot of crazy, weird people out there. It’s an ugly world.”

On how he still e-mails J.Lo, Goop and his high school girlfriend
He stays in touch with Lopez, just as he does Paltrow and his high school girlfriend, Cheyenne Rothman. “We don’t have the kind of relationship where she relies on me for advice,” he says of J.Lo, “but we do have the kind of relationship where there’ll be an e-mail saying, ‘Oh, your movie looks great.’ I remember when she got American Idol. I said: ‘This was really smart. Good luck.’ I touch base. I respect her. I like her. She’s put up with some stuff that was unfair in her life, and I’m really pleased to see her successful.”

On his marriage
“Jennifer played such a profound role in making me a better person,” says Affleck. “We don’t have a perfect marriage, but she inspired me; and finding myself in that marriage and having a child dovetailed with getting to be a little more mature.”

Asked what drew him to his wife, he considers. “She truly is kind,” he says. “She means no one any harm. She doesn’t have ill will for any person. She’s not competitive with other people. She’s not spiteful.” He laughs. “It’s one of those things where it becomes almost aggravating at times. Every time I go, ‘F– him!’ I see in her face that she just thinks that’s petty and small.”

His upcoming projects
Now Affleck is concentrating on the meaningful and large. He is developing a movie adaptation of Stephen King’s The Stand and plans to reteam with Damon on Whitey, the story of James Joseph “Whitey” Bulger Jr., a Boston crime figure who went on the run for 16 years before being captured outside his Santa Monica apartment in 2011. Affleck will direct, and Damon will star.

[From The Hollywood Reporter]

The article also goes into Ben’s charity work in The Congo, which has brought him awareness of how cruel the world can be and a sense of renewed purpose. I still remember his 2008 Nightline special on one of his visits to the area.

Getting back to what Ben said about e-mailing J.Lo and keeping in touch with his exes, I would be annoyed if I were Garner. We heard that she was trying to shut it down when her husband was communicating with Lopez in the wake of Lopez’s split with husband Marc Anthony. You can’t blame Garner. It’s like all Ben can offer his wife here is faint praise that she helped him turn his life around with the caveat that the thing he loves most about her also aggravates him. He also admits they don’t have the perfect marriage. Who does? It sounds like he’s still chasing that dream that somewhere there’s someone better for him. Garner should beware. She’s probably well aware of this though. It looks like they’re in a good place for now anyway.

Hollywood reporter photos credit: Frank W. Ockenfels 3. Other photos credit: FameFlynet and WENN.com

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  1. Brown says:

    The line “finding myself in this marriage” kind of rubs me the wrong way, like he just accidentally ended up there… dude, you didn’t have to get married if you didn’t want to.

    They seem happy and he is looking sexy these days, but I get wandering dong vibes for sure. I really doubt his emails to JLo start and end at “Smart move, good luck.”

    • Layale says:

      I know, right? And he doesn’t even say, “this” marriage; he says, “that marriage”, which, to me, distances himself even more!

      • Lulu says:

        Yeah. And why is he talking about it in the past tense? She WAS this, she WAS that. Poor Jennifer. If I were her this interview would hurt and upset me a great deal.

    • thyphoid mary says:

      You know, all relationships run it’s course…like one day you want the relationship really bad and after a while you really don’t give a shit…i think Garner is there, like “let him blab, he’s still the immature dick i married many years ago…oh i guess some things never change…whatever”.
      And I can relate bcs been there done that…my ex used to be in touch with some.of his exes, at firsf i waS Like WTF? but then it was a blessing in disguise because that drew his attention somewhere else and i could do my own thing, too. So, i guess Garner is busy with her kids, screw Ben, nobody can change a scewed up dick…too bad we learn it the hard way.
      Ben likes the status quo of being married like his sissi Damon, and it seems he enjoys Garner ‘s somewhat equilibrated temperament, which he desperately needed after being with Jell o’s drama and rollercoaster ups and downs.

    • hoya_chick says:

      @ Brown, I think they had a shot gun wedding when Jennifer was 5 months pregnant. They got married in June and their daughter was born in December. I always get a lukewarm feeling from him towards her, like they are friends, he likes having a wife and someone to take care of his kids but I wouldn’t say they look passionately in love. Look how he describes her?

      I don’t think she would ever leave him though, if they break up he’ll be the one who leaves. Being Ms. Affleck and the everyday mom is pretty much what her image is based on.

      I love that he and Matt are still so close after all these years. I am Matt-fan girl and this makes me like him even more.

      • mln76 says:

        I’ll add that Garner really chased Affleck right at the tail end of his relationship with JLo….she really seems to worship him and has always turned a blind eye to his dalliances. I totally buy Lainey’s take on their marraige.

      • Kasey says:

        I agree that Jen’s “image” is that of wife and mother but I don’t think she sought it out. I think she truly enjoys and prioritizes those roles in her life and the media harps on and highlights it.

      • Minty says:

        Well, maybe they’re both getting some kind of karma for past actions. The rumor is that Jennifer cheated on first husband Scott Foley with Michael Vartan, then cheated on Michael with Ben. Now she has a husband with a wandering eye. If Lainey is correct, that is one sad marriage.

        Does anybody remember how Ben openly pursued JLo while she was still married to Cris Judd? I remember Ben had his friend give her a bouquet of flowers at some public event they attended, right in front of her husband. It was on video and he was being showy about it. Ben was gushing about her to the press and his “admiration” was so obvious. It was sickening. The man has no moral boundaries. He got JLo and it backfired on him. Boo hoo.

        Meanwhile, I reserve my sympathy for their children. Adults run around like teenagers in heat and the innocent kids always get hurt.

    • The Original Victoria says:

      Maybe he got his Jen versions cofused. Maybe he meant Bennifer 1.0 and accidentlly said 2.0. I mean I actually liked the outrageousness of Bennifer and I was totally rooting for them to take over Hollywood even though I can’t stand J. Ho sometimes, I like her when she’s sleepign her way to the top. It made the tabloids pop!

  2. Kimlee says:

    He is so full of Sh@* with his Jennifer Lopez comment.

    ” I respect her. I like her. She’s put up with some stuff that was unfair in her life”

    Ya like him cheating on her. He respect her so much, that’s why two years ago he throw her under the bus blaming her for his own career slop, yet know he wants us to believe their emailing .

    The man is champaning hard for an Oscar this year, hell he even let Jen go to two premiers for the first time ever. Now I hate him more for me having to defend JLO.

    • Roxy says:

      I hope J-Lo denies their emails happen. That would be awesome. Like “Yea, he wishes!”. & the simple way he could only say his wife was a kind person, not that she’s beautiful and turns him on as well, but just…she’s a kind person. Well, so is my neighbor. Big deal! A kind person makes you soup when you are sick and sends you a get well card. A wife loves you and bears your children, which have been coming frequently from his wive’s belly! He nearly, almost disrespect’s her with his words. Maybe he does actually. Yes, he does. If he thinks he can do better or go back to J-Lo and maintain his career as it is now? Haha! Just let him try and see what happens. He would be so blackballed for bailing on his wife and small children. It sounds like he cheats or wants to but doesn’t. His wife needs to hit him in the head with a skillet! He is such a dick. This article will make women especially, hate him!

  3. Sarah says:

    Add to this his past interview where he said he thinks about work 24/7 and it is his wife that is raising the kids…what exactly does Jennifer Garner get from this marriage?

    • hoya_chick says:

      Lol, Sarah see my comment above. Since they have gotten together her career has really cooled down so being married to him is her image.

    • Jayna says:

      He said that in the context of when he was directing and acting in a movie. As a movie director, especially new one, the weight of the movie is on his shoulders. People are taking that remark out of context. During that period it is on his mind 24/7.

    • You says:

      Word up. And he did cheat on JLO so too bad all around. But he did get lucky with Garner. She seems like a loyal wife, devoted mother. Hope he can appreciate her and give back the same. Ugh.

    • Dusty says:

      She gets financially security being the mother of his three kids. The more kids she has the more secure she is, because when he leaves her(not if he leaves her) she will have the satisfaction of getting the custodial parent role and lots and lots of child support and alimony and real estate. She always came across as desperate to me. She is the most papped mom with her kids next to Kris Jenner and her kids. The wonder sperm comment only solidified my feelings on Jen…desperate.

  4. lulu says:

    If I were Jennifer Garner, he’d be sleeping on the couch. All he can say is his wife is kind?

    • Zelda says:

      In fairness, if you ask me to tell you about my fiancé, that’s the first statement I’ll make. It’s a quality he has to a degree that blows my mind.

      And I think everyone is being a little sensitive here. Interviews use excerpts of answers all the time. Maybe he went on and the writer selected the best blurb.

      And I really dislike Ben Affleck. Stop making me defend him.

    • Esmom says:

      I know, seriously. Faint praise indeed. You’d think he could put his acting skills to work and at least pretend like he thinks she’s more than just “kind.”

  5. Dani says:

    He definitely has a wandering eye but I don’t think he’d cheat. He seems to really adore his kids and I don’t think he’d do anything to jeopardize his relationship with them. He does seem a little neurotic though.

    • Kimlee says:

      His kids are what 6 ,4 and 7 months if he cheating on Jen that would not jeopardize his relationship with them.

    • diana says:

      I don’t know. Didn’t he say sometime something like he much prefers to work rather than spend a lot of time with his kids? But it would be mean of me to judge him as a bad dad without knowing him well. But Jen appears to be a reallu great mother though.
      Sadly morals and ethics have no place in HW. Many douche bags are adored by the industry and public, unless you abuse Jews, I think. It’s all perception and this guy is playing a really great game.

      • Roxy says:

        I am with you..didn’t Jen say recently that Ben has never changed a diaper? She’s 100% the mom, he’s barely around? It was something like that. Maybe that works for them, for now. He isn’t passionate about her, even a little. He seems to have a hard on for J-Lo still and he may be wandering. he’s a jerk. His wife is awesome, he will hate it when he loses her and he gets sh** thrown at him from all of Hollywood, even his buddy down the street would not want to sit next to him, lest it rubs off.

    • Dani says:

      Kimlee – Jeopardize like, they’re young enough for Jen to turn them against him or not let them see him, out of anger etc.

      Diana – Agreed. Jen is definitely the better parent but it’s obv he cares about his kids a lot. In that interview, he said something like it has to be a really great piece in order to get him away from his family.

    • stellalovejoydiver says:

      I think Jen really loves and adores him. He knows that she would never leave him and she turns a blind eye if he´s cheating, which I think he is.

    • bns says:

      He definitely cheats. He cheated on GOOP and J Lo, and I know that people can change, but he seems really selfish and full of himself.

  6. ladybert62 says:

    He should thank god he is not my husband! What a selfish self centered creep.

    • Starburst Candy says:

      agreed!!! I am fully of the belief that keeping exes in your life is nothing but a recipe for drama especially if you hit a rough patch in a current relationship.

      I had my husband change his number and delete all his exes/ex hookups off facebook when we got married because there is no way some girl who has seen him naked or still has a crush on him is going to be one click/text away especially since my husband is one of those guys who got a lot better looking with age and is a lot more successful than anyone ever thought he would be in life so he’s attracted quite a fan club in his graduating class. heaven help me at his reunion next year.

      Jennifer Garner seems to be the type that seems really sweet but she’s smarter than she lets on particularly with a husband like Ben.

      • Stellax2 says:

        I agree Starburst. I think Garner is much smarter and intuitive than she lets on, it’s never been a doubt in my mind.

        Perhaps Ben likes the Madonna stereotype of a wife who likes to stay home and take care of his kids.

        I think if Ben truly strayed and she had cold hard proof, she’d eventually kick him to the curb. She would get her ducks in a row so to speak and lower the boom. I realize he’s the big earner in the family but it’s a family he is 50% financially responsible for quite some time.

        I think they’ve been in a good place. I just wish he would talk a bit more effusively about his wife.

        I never got the whole J.Lo thing when they were together. I never felt like they were a good match.

      • Ange says:

        Wow that’s….. kind of crazy. Even of your husband morphed into a mega stud the onus should still be on him to respect your relationship. You guarding the borders like some jealous minute man isn’t going to change whether or not he cheats.

    • JD says:

      I feel that unless you have children with her, you really shouldn’t be communicating with an ex-girlfriend on FaceBook, Twitter, or anything else.

      Perhaps if you saw her in town, or something similar, you could say hello, but anything else is just opening up a can of worms.

      Just my opinion, but I really don’t want hubby talking to old flames on any media, and I don’t talk to my ex-boyfriends either.

  7. Layale says:

    I’m troubled with his statements about his wife. He refers to her in past tense, “Jennifer played…”. And he goes on to say his marriage is not perfect, and refers to it as, “that marriage” rather than, “my (or our) marriage”/ Methinks there’s truly trouble in paradise for real and not just in tabloid fodder.

    • LeslieM says:

      I’m with you. If my husband told the whole world our marriage wasn’t perfect that would be bad enough. It is a tremendous complement to describe her as such a kind and loving person, but I’m not feeling the kindness and love from him. He may have just gone on too much about Jennifer. It would have been better to simply say he is happy for her success and sent her an email or note to say so. I don’t think it’s wise to have exes in your email account. It’s pretty disrespectful to your spouce. His earlier comment about his relationship with his children is just hanging out there for them to read it one day. Your Dad is supposed to say he loves you with all his heart and can’t wait to be with you.

    • sharylmj says:

      that really bugged me too… he’s talking about his wife in the past tense, and his marriage like it’s not his… I hope they stay together.. but he seems like a HUGE douche bag!!!

  8. johnnybadboytapia says:

    “it sounds like he’s still chasing that dream that somewhere there’s someone better for him and that Garner should beware” i disagree, i think he is very self aware, and knows that no marriage is perfect, knowing that you have to constantly work at it to make it work is a big step in making a marriage work and IMO it sounds like he is ready and willing to so that.

    • Carol says:

      I agree. I thought his comments were thoughtful and what he said about Jennifer Garner was very sweet. And I don’t get all the fuss about a few emails with ex-girlfriends. It’s a small industry; I can fully see sending a quick email saying “Just heard the good news. Good luck” to an ex if we are in the same business, and I certainly wouldn’t begrudge my husband doing the same thing. I think JG and he are fine.

    • Kasey says:

      Agreed. A husband who is self-aware, sees the kinks in his wife and marriage, realizes marriage isn’t perfect and takes work and hangs in there nonetheless is half of a good, healthy working marriage, IMO. It looks to me that he lucked out by circumstances and timing working out when it did an his relationship with her being an impetus for growth and maturity. Growing in friendship and partnership through life’s changes, age and challenges is something I now most look forward to in marriage if I ever have it.

    • Maria says:

      I agree too!!! I’ve been with my husband for 11 years and no marriage is perfect… We still love each other and I think we have a pretty good relationship but if someone asks me to describe him, one of the first things I say is how kind he is. It doesn’t make me want him less or love him less, it’s just how my husband is. Thank God because he accepts me for who I am with all my flaws. I think Ben was being honest and people are reading too much into each sentence. And I still keep in touch through some occasional emails with some of my exes… What’s the big deal? As long as my husband and I feel secure in our marriage, I don’t see what the problem is. It’s not like they went out for dinner or they are constantly on the phone or something, just some emails once in a while…

  9. SmokeyBlues says:

    I am starting to feel like they should really only be talking to EACH OTHER about their marriage, as it doesn’t seem his feelings about it are entirely stable. They have three children, they should stop blabbing to the media about their marriage all the time.

  10. brin says:

    Note to Ben: please stop giving interviews like this one and stop emailing JLO.

    • eileen says:

      ITA Brin.

      And WHY WHY WHY do people insist on putting Stephen King’s books on screen? You can’t do it. You can’t recreate his genius writing onto a movie. I have never seen a movie based on his books that even came close.
      You’re playing with fire Ben!

      • lulu says:

        The Shining is a classic. Kubrick did just fine.

      • StaceyP says:

        Misery was just about perfect and though not books originally (I think) Shawshank Redemption and the Green Mile were excellent.

      • marie says:

        it’s the endings that turn out to be crap, no one know how to end it.

        However Misery and The Shining are good ones.

        And this interview is not helping his douche status.

      • CrreamSoda says:

        Agreed about Stephen King’s books onscreen; doesn’t always work.

        LuLu: Kubrick’s version of The Shining was excellent, but did not follow the book completely. Someone tried that years later (it was a 2-part TV miniseries I think) and it sucked.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        @Eileen-ITA about King’s books not translating well in screenplay format.

        You guys mentioned 4 pretty solid movies but I counted 85 here (which is crazy right?) so 4/85 ain’t that good.

        http://bestsellers.about.com/od/stephenking/a/king_films.htm

        I recently read “Full Dark, No Stars.”
        Sh*t was INTENSE!

      • eileen says:

        OrigKitten: Oh goodie! It was good!?? Do we have our original King back? The last decade has been pretty meh compared to all his other books. I wondered if he lost his touch when he got hit by that van. : /

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        @ Eileen-I thought Full Dark No Stars was awesome and I agree he has been lackluster for a while now.

        Do you watch “I Survived”?

        Basically it’s a collection of short stories that totally reminded me of “I Survived”. It’s soooo disturbing but (I thought) very well-written and a definite departure form his normal, more fantasy-type stuff.

        If you get it, let me know what you think! :)

      • Mayamae says:

        I loved the tv adaptation of The Stand, but it was a mini-series. I wonder how they could wrap up such a complex story in 2-3 hours.

      • Aotearovian says:

        I liked Full Dark, No Stars as well, along with 11/22/63 – the first King books I have read in a very long time.

        Did you know A Good Marriage, from FDNS, is in the works, with Joan Allen playing the wife? A lot of potential in that one.

  11. I Choose Me says:

    I’m trying not to read too much into his comments about his marriage but I kinda went “dude tsk, tsk” in my head.

  12. Gine says:

    You think he’d at least respect his wife enough not to mention his ex every five seconds.

  13. Sabrine says:

    His comments have set him up for a lot of negative speculation. TMI and next time maybe he’ll know better. But I get his comments about being married to a goody two shoes. You just wish sometimes they had a bit more edginess to them. Nicey nicey about everyone all the time can get dull and boring after a while which is what I think he is hinting at here.

    • Roxy says:

      Who recently said they don’t have a perfect marriage? Anyway, they are no longer married, I can’t remember who said it a while back… and thats a sure sign of a divorce looming. Maybe he’s hoping for Jen to leave him and he won’t be the bad guy? Like …maybe if she reads this she will leave me and I can get back with the other Jennifer!! Thats exactly what this sounds like and if he’s making this sh** up, it might a signal to j-Lo that he’s still interested. His wife just gave him a son, she might not be in the best shape of her life right now, but she is an awesome mom. He is surely a horrible husband. Gah! What a dick.

    • Kasey says:

      Makes me wonder if his frequent enough comments are his ammo for bringing out her bad side. I could totally see him bringing up an email from Goop / J-Lo and being giddy on the inside that he gets a slight less than goody response from her. Maybe a hint of jealousy.

      Other than that, what’s wrong with her kindness being the one thing that stood out and drew him to her? It’s a great quality and probably was and has been a solace after the life he had with J-Lo. As bored as he may try to come across I have no doubt that looking at JLo and thinking of what could have been, there must be some comfort in the stability he has w/ his wife.

      • Aubra says:

        This screams “we’re not even hanging by a thread “. I think the talking about her as kind and whatnot is a setup for her to come out lookong good, and he doesn’t mind being the bad guy. Plus he supposedly didn’t want a third child.

  14. Starlight says:

    I can’t believe this guy. I lost it.

  15. francesca1 says:

    Ewww. Sketchy stuff. Sounds like he married the “good girl” and he’s not sure that’s what he really wants.

    • SueD says:

      Exactly! That’s my impression too.

      • Roxy says:

        My daughter’s last ex, before she got married, told her last year, over 3 years since they last saw each other, in an online message that he wishes he had met her later in his life when he was ready for her. But he broke up with her and broke her heart as they had discussed marriage alot. She doesn’t want the dude back either, and I think she gets some satisfaction in knowing that he realizes now, that he blew it. This is a girl that dated pro baseball players and had NASCAR drivers chasing her. She was a total catch and her husband knows it, the last dude thought HE was the catch and now knows he wasn’t at all. My daughter traded Up, big time and she’s very happy, no regrets on her part.
        Sometimes there is regret in one party but not usually both. I doubt J-Lo is sad about him getting away. It doesn’t always flow both ways. They kind of ruined each other while together anyway. Bad ju-ju between them. Its better as is. Leave it alone dude. Move on, get over it. You are MARRIED! Jeesh!

    • stellalovejoydiver says:

      Exactly. I think, he was at a point of his life, where he wanted to settle down, have a family and went for the first woman who was “wife material”. He seems to have a lot of affection for his wife, but I don´t think she´s the love his life, which is probably an euphemism. He is obsessed with Jlo because she is the complete opposite of his wife. I really don´t want to be in Garner´s position, she clearly loves and adores and therefore ignores his crap. If my husband was asked what he drew him to me and the only thing he could come up with is that I am kind, I would be really hurt and start questioning my marriage.

  16. dooliloo says:

    …still e-mailing his ex, his marriage life isn’t perfect, his wife is kind, means no harm, Congo was a “life changing” experience…

    Well… I think the Oscar campaign for Argo is going very well Ben very well!

    • V4Real says:

      No he’s killing me; WTF Ben? He still emails JLo and his wife is okay with that. The article said he must still be hung up on her. So I guess we have another Boston boy who has a thing for girls with big asses.

      • dooliloo says:

        Well he is truly one Daredevil eh… married and yet talking about his ex…

        As for Captain America… he’s a traitor to the taste-in-woman nation!

    • MrsBPitt says:

      I don’t know why everyone keeps saying he is on an Oscar campaign…only members of the Academy vote for Oscars, not the public, and I’m sure the Academy could care less if his wife is kind, etc…and if he said his marriage was perfect EVERYONE would be calling bullshit…the guy can’t win…

      • dooliloo says:

        His Oscar campaign started probably by the end of summer. Ben has been presenting his film in all festivals possible, from Venice to Toronto, from San Sebastian to most recently London film festival. It’s not just another film with a random red carpet premiere; he’s creating a massive buzz around it.
        He’s already frontrunner for Best Director in the polls.

  17. MoxyLady007 says:

    I love Jen Garner. And I dislike him intensely. He takes himself so seriously.

  18. pixiestyx says:

    It kind of seems like the guy can’t win. If he talks about how much he loves his wife and how great she is then it would be over the top. Maybe faint praise is a lesson he learned from his relationship with JLo.

  19. Toot says:

    Good old self centered Ben. I guess Ben misses his exes who we know have no problem talking shit about people.

    Ben also loves talking about Jlo. Every interview he says something about her. He could always tell the interviewer that subject is really old and focus on the now.

  20. Chatcat says:

    Alarm going off for me “Tool Tool Tool!”

    Yeah, so apparently Ben has a woody for all of his ex’s to some degree (i.e. ego), which for me is not as troublesome as the “She’s not competitive with other people” ref about Jennifer…or that she’s so nice and kind…blah blah blah.

    Oh Jennifer, take it from a woman with 3 kids, whose under 50 and has been married a very long time, he needs a serious wake up call from you honey after THAT interview! You can be secure in yourself and your relationship and not get all bent out of shape because he has occasional contact with the women in his past, HOWEVER, if my husband, basically in the same breath, referred to me as “not competitive with other people” while referring to the ex like “We don’t have the kind of relationship where she relies on me for advice” we’d be having a conversation (well I’d be speaking) out in public, say at dinner, where his ass is going to sit across from me and he is not likely to make a scene or get up and leave, and let him know EXACTLY how competitive little wifey can be when it comes to speaking of me and ex’s in the same dialog! And if he was a smart man, and not a total tool, in the very next interview any reference of any ex would be missing or the question ignored, and when/if asked about his relationship with wifey poo he’d say “it is a complex relationship, my wife keeps me on my toes…she is nice and kind, but when backed up against the wall she is a tigress…and I find that hot!”. If it didn’t go down something like that, well then all bets are off.

    • You says:

      Word up.

    • Kasey says:

      Seriously, I think little bit about her being kind, not competitive and annoyingly goody along with his communication w/his ex is the only thing that probably gets a rise out of her. I truly believe 1-she is smart snd will fight for her family and 2-he likes to drop stuff like that publicly b/c it’s probably the one thing that gets her attention enough to lose composition. He’s probably working her up to tackle him and show him just how competitive she is and pour some “loving” on him to try to make him forget about those exes. He seems like the type.

    • Iggles says:

      I agree! I wouldn’t be cool with my guy talking to his Ex! Luckily it’s not an issue (I’m his first gf in 5 years), but I would shut that down, real quick!!

  21. Jess says:

    I think he’s comfortable in his marriage. He talks about how they came together and he became a better person in the past tense, because that was the past. Now he is a better person, a husband, father, and a friend. He’s a grownup, and he thinks his wife is a good person. If he gushed about her endlessly, then you wonder if there’s trouble in paradise. When they have three kids and have been married for a while, what is he supposed to say? They have sex like marathon runners? That’s an overshare.

    • Esmom says:

      I hear you…but I do think he could have mustered up more enthusiasm for her without oversharing. Even to add the word “smart” to “kind” would be better, lol.

      • jd says:

        Do you really think Jennifer Garner is smart? Kind I get. Sweet, generous, loving, warm. All of those I’d believe. But smart? Nope.

      • Esmom says:

        I don’t know. She is conniving to a degree, as she seems to have uptraded twice before landing Ben. Is that the same as smart? Not that he’d be complimenting that quality about her.

  22. Jackie O says:

    i don’t think this is going to turn out well for jennifer garner. she should have stayed with noel!

    • Toot says:

      Maybe, but Jennifer dumped him for her co-star who she then dumped for Ben, so Noel lucked out in the end.

      And I don’t believe Jen is as sweet as she puts out to the public.

      • Kimlee says:

        ^This

        She very shady but the public give her a passes, she is one of the best players in the Hollywood game. I mean really what other celebrity can’t be photograph by the paparazzi one an almost daily bases and be call a great mother and not a attentionwhore who is pimping out their kids.

      • LizEJ says:

        Yes. Didn’t she cheat on her ex-husband for her co-star or someting like that? or got involved with someone married? I remember seeing something sketchy before she got married to Ben Affleck.
        Jennifer Garner seems to be very good at “trading-up.”

      • dooliloo says:

        Yes but her current husband is still talking about his famous ex constantly. Her punishment or else well she’s probably pissed :-D
        I can almost hear the “Daddy who is this JLo?” lines when his girls grow up…

  23. flourpot says:

    Look at those little black boots his girl is wearing! D’awe! It’s like she’s playing dressup. … lets hope she’s playing dress up because little girls and black clothes/boots is like wearing white heels after labor day. A no-no. (:

    • Pamela says:

      “because little girls and black clothes/boots is like wearing white heels after labor day. A no-no”

      Says…you? Is this a “thing”? Or is it a personal opinion of yours?

    • Cazzie says:

      Are you kidding? I love her outfit — those black boots are the greatest! Totally adorable.

  24. Black Pearl says:

    I dont really see anything wrong with this interview but maybe that’s because I love Ben. I think he knows that no marriage is perfect and his is as close to perfect as he’ll ever get so he’s not going to do anything to ruin it.. I wouldn’t like it if my BF was in contact with his Ex but I hope it means there are no hard or unresolved feelings between them that could come around to hurt their relationship.. Jen Garner is a very patient wife, more power to her..

  25. Suga says:

    This dude is ALWAYS talking about Jlo. I am not a fan of Jlo but she hardly ever talks about this guy in interviews as much as he talks about her. If I was Garner, I would be mad as hell that my husband is constantly talking about an ex because it seems like he is not over Jenny from the Block. Her names stays on his mouth. He always looks bored when he is with Garner.

    • Toot says:

      Yep, I don’t think Jlo ever talks about Ben in interviews.

    • itsa says:

      I think he always talks about JLo in interviews because he’s always being asked about her.

      • jd says:

        But JLo must be asked about Ben all the time, too. Yet we don’t hear nearly as much from her about their relationship as we do from Ben. It’s strange, especially from someone like Ben who tries to project an “above it all” vibe like Affleck.

        I used to like him so much but I’m cooling toward him now.

      • Suga says:

        I agree jd.He can decline to answer or just give a brief but simple reply. I am sure Jlo has been asked about him too but she doesn’t go yapping about him in every interview even though she has had many opportunities to do especially after the divorce with Mark. I remember watching a TV show recently where they asked her about Ben and she gave a simple, vague but polite answer and kept it moving. She didn’t go on and on about it. Why cant he?

  26. Tiffany27 says:

    I”m not understanding all the hate about his comments? He seems very honest and I think he takes his marriage very seriously. He talks about JLO because he use to be a part of Bennifer. He will always have to answer questions about her. I think everyone might be reading TOO much into his comments.

    • dooliloo says:

      Well that is why there is a publicist and other PR. The questions are picked before and if the journalist crosses the line well he could chose not to answer it, no gun is held over his head. And not chosing to talk about it doesn’t mean that one is uncomfortable with it, it’s because it belongs to the past, there’s no interest for bringing it up… Yet Ben does.

      Now of course Ben has the absolute right to still be friends with J. Lopez and his other exes, that’s not the issue, as many other couples definitely keep in touch with exes. However I believe it is one thing to be comfortable to talk about your past, and it is another to talk about it almost endlessly, especially when you are married. Of course he mentions his wife but the fact is he mentions his ex even more. It’s a bit like his past relationship with Lopez, he values it much to the same level of his marriage that he feels the need to mention it. That is the impression I get, not that is speaks for eveyone. He could do it in silence.

      Now if it was my husband would I be pleased? If he talks about a random anecdote that happened in the past now it’s fine, but if he talks about her as some sort of “irreplaceable” person I the wife would definitely draw a line.

      Marriage is not perfect indeed as Ben says, and bringing up an ex bazillion more famous than his wife is not exactly helpful nor considerate of her. He may be comfortable with it, good on him but I doubt his wife is.

      And it’s not even like he’s some washed up actor, he’s got a decent career, he’s a brilliant director, a wife who thinks he’s got a wonder sperm, 3 kids… now what does J. Lopez has to do with the equation? That is my question.

  27. JPC says:

    Like Garner a lot. Don’t like him. He is tolerable because of her. If he divorces her and starts catting around, and he’ll be a total douchebag.

  28. judyjudy says:

    I hope his vagina doesn’t die.

  29. L says:

    To me those emails to his ex’s are a sign of maturity. Who wants to be with someone that hates all the exes as evil bitches? They don’t sound like long missives, but more of the short kind you’d normally see on facebook. Eg. “I heard you had a kid! Congrats” or ‘good luck on the new job!’ or ‘the sorry to hear about your mom’ variety.

    I think people are reading way to much into it.

    Now remaking the Stand? NO. The 6 hour version with Gary Sinise was perfect. Leave it alone.

    • ella says:

      Thank you for being the voice of reason in this thread full of jealous crazies!

      I don’t see anything suspicious about staying friendly with exes and I would lose all interest if a guy was insecure enough to tell me I can’t occasionally keep in touch with someone who used to be a big part of my life.

      • sputnikbaby says:

        i completely agree. there’s absolutely nothing wrong with keeping in touch with your ex, especially if they were a big part of your life. men who trash talk or have nothing to do with all their ex-girlfriends are usually immature at the very least, and at worst have a problem with women. it’s a big red flag for me.
        if a partner is so insecure that you can’t email an ex from time to time then you probably have a much bigger problem in your relationship.

  30. Michelle says:

    Am I the only one who doesn’t see the big deal about him emailing his exes? My husband and I are friendly still with most of ours, several of them were even at our wedding!

    • sputnikbaby says:

      no, i feel exactly the same. i’m friendly with a couple of my exes. same with my partner. i don’t understand all the hysteria about this.

    • dooliloo says:

      Because 9 times out of 10 he brings that ex into the marriage equation that is why! That he keeps in touch with her is fine *but* that a husband brings an ex in almost every single conversation, it will start to raise eyebrows don’t you think?.?

      • Michelle says:

        It depends, my husband’s ex is one of his best friend’s (and a good friend of mine). My ex is his best friend. We see them all the time, talk about them all the time.

        Besides, Ben is trying to sell the idea that he has grown so much, so bringing up Bennifer, reminding people of that life, plays into that. I think it’s a very calculated press move.

      • dooliloo says:

        Yes *but* all knowing each other is different from you knowing he’s keeping in touch with an ex you don’t really know and yet he talks about her a lot, so you can’t put both on the “no big deal” same level can you?

        To me it’s not just about this interview, calculated or else he’s been doing that for ages now, and there are other ways to draw attention.. Sounds like JLo is the main card? :-D

      • sputnikbaby says:

        the article brings up jennifer lopez a couple of times, it seems clear that the journalist probably asked about it. i mean, this is not some random ex girlfriend, the relationship nearly completely destroyed his credibility, and it altered how people saw him for a long time. yeah, he could have avoided commenting on it, but by ignoring it he gives it more power. and what he said was perfectly reasonable.

  31. tmbg says:

    Maybe he’s just a typical guy who has trouble expressing emotion. A lot of guys do and for some, gushing isn’t in their vocabulary.

    Then again, I also wouldn’t be thrilled if my husband kept in touch with his exes. Only Jennifer knows what really goes on. He could be a very different person in private.

  32. Jayna says:

    He is so not hung up on JLO. He knows he dodged a bullet with her and her over-the-top life. He dumped JLO. Her baby photos in People said it all. If anything, he had the hots for Jen Garner back from when they did Daredevil. He pursued her later when he was free and Vartran hated him when Ben finally got her.

    • Koko says:

      I would believe this if he wasn’t constantly talking about Jlo, running around town with rumors about allegedly cheating on Jennifer Garner and whining about how boring it is being a father is. This man seems miserable to me. He always seems like he wants out of the marriage.

    • eileen says:

      I gotta agree with Jayna on this. When people have the hots for someone, the last thing you do is talk about them publicly. You are paranoid that it would be obvious you like them. When I hear someone gushing and going nuts over someone they are married to (aka Leann Rimes) it warning bells go off that its clearly not grand and they are overcompensating.
      I think he loves Jenn and she his “ol’ ball n chain” endearment and he doesn’t talk about her a ton because he doesn’t have to.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        +1, Jayna & Eileen.

      • Koko says:

        Nope, to me he strikes me a dude who doesn’t give a F*ck. He seems bored and lacks respect towards his wife/family and seems not to care what she or other people think. I wouldn’t be surprised if he wants out and this is a way for him to irritate her by bringing up Jlo and Blake Lively in every damn interview.

      • eileen says:

        To me there’s a BIG difference in someone talking constantly about someone and then someone answering questions in an interview. He’s not bringing them up randomly, the interviewers are asking him point blank.
        Just like Brad gets asked about Jennifer Aniston and vice versa. You can be rude as hell and tell them you’re not going to answer or just answer it and move on with the interview.

      • dooliloo says:

        So the BIG difference would be that, at home he doesn’t bring up the JLo subject but in interviews he’s looking forward to the interviewer to ask questions about her and “unleash” himself? Not putting words in your mouth here, that’s how I’m picturing it.

        Brad doesn’t talk about Jen because clearly for him there is no interest of bringing her up in the interview per se. No matter how shady the circumstances he and Angie got together, the fact of the matter is he’d rather leave it in the past and seems like a happy man who wants to talk about his *present* happy life. He focuses on that, family like work.

        Ben on the other hand chose to talk rather a lot regarding the past! He seems not to be tired of being asked about her (despite let’s not forget their rather disastrous relationship). And in interviews some questions are picked in advance so clearly he gives the green light on the JLo subject. He seems to put his ex on the same level of consideration as his marriage.

        Point is, he could simply politely turn down the question, and turning down a question doesn’t mean necessarily uncomfortable nor rude (now if the interviewer thinks so that’s his/her issue), but rather see no interest of bringing up an ex in the equation in almost every interview… Which clearly Ben is choosing not to do.

        Now, what does it say?

  33. abby says:

    get over yourself, Ben! Jen is putting up with this because he can put it down in the bedroom and she has 3 gorgeous children by him. otherwise, there’s no way she would put up with this half hearted relationship. he’s not in it all the way and it’s so obvious. I respect that he’s turned his career around and The Town was proof positive. I’m looking forward to Argo as well!

  34. DB says:

    I wonder why people just can’t edit themselves and not bother replying to some of these questions.

    To put it out there that you stay in touch with your ex, and give indications that while you respect your new wife, that something is missing and using buzz phrases like “not a perfect marriage” – that can just get people all riled up with speculation.

    Sometimes simply declining to discuss your personal life seems like the smart thing to do.

    But I suppose many people in Hollywood aren’t in the business to stay humble and keep a low profile. Feeding the ego is part of the game.

  35. Paloma says:

    Why even bring JLo into the equation at all? I, as a wife, would not like it.

  36. lucy2 says:

    I think he’s become a very good director, but he does not come off well in this interview.
    If all parties are friends and the relationship ended ages ago, I don’t see a big deal in keeping in touch with an ex, but that doesn’t seem to be the case here. I don’t think the two Jens hang out, and Garner came right on the heels of Lopez.
    He should really stop mention Lopez in interviews too – in the previous one where he kind of bashed her, I could see it as him wanting to get his image past that (thought it already is) but this one, saying he keeps in touch and saying nice things about her? Not the best move when married to someone else.

  37. PrettyTarheel says:

    Some of that is really normal marriage stuff. I adore my husband, but he is one of those people who just always does the right thing, and never gets lazy, or tired, or crabby about it. It’s sometimes a little hard to live with someone who honestly makes all his decisions based on how they will impact his family, and who always sets a good example, and always has time for everyone. When I want to celebrate because I kicked his ass at Trivial Pursuit, and he says, “Good job, babe,” I feel so small and petty for wanting to celebrate my win.

    Now, I’m saying this on an anonymous forum, although my husband knows my handle and could probably read all my comments if he really felt the need. Ben Affleck saying it in the SAME interview where he discusses emailing his exes…perhaps less wise?

  38. Madhubala says:

    Sorry to say but I don’t think he’s ever been IN LOVE with his wife. It’s a good life they have, but I always get the feeling it’s not particularly the life he wanted. As for JLo, I think he talks about her way too often for comfort. Sure he gets asked about her and their relationship (or does he?) but no one is forcing him to answer. I don’t know how I’d feel if my husband was constantly talking about his ex, in any capacity, each time he has an interview. Is he pining? I actually think so.

  39. HadleyB says:

    Maybe the media should stop asking him about JLO? That would end it. Blame them.

    If he said no comment every time she was brought up by the media then we would be saying hes got something to hid or he’s a dick for not answering.

    I don’t think he was ever in love with Jlo. Massively in lust at the time, yes.

    If anything, Jen G was the one that got away and he wised up, dumped Jlo at the alter and went back for who he was really in love with. Jlo even tried to “change” to a more casual girl after he called off the wedding, didn’t work he saw right through her. Thank God.

  40. g says:

    This sounds to me like someone grooming the press in case some of those marital imperfections surface in the future?

  41. Xogami says:

    Jlo is hotter and not boring like Snooze-garner.

    • Aubra says:

      YES!!! This screams “we’re not even hanging by a thread “. I think the talking about her as kind and whatnot is a setup for her to come out lookong good, and he doesn’t mind being the bad guy. Plus he supposedly didn’t want a third child.

      • Jayna says:

        Didn’t want a third child? Hell,yes, he did. He wanted a boy. I thought having the boy he would be fine at three kids. But he has recently stated he pretty much would like a fourth child, but that it’s up to Jen. Jen is the one that is stopping at three, it appears, unless he talks her into a fourth one down the road.

  42. Liza Jane says:

    Don’t forget that he had a rep for excessive gambling and drinking and I think it was people of the rules that Jen laid down to him when they were first married,that he get a grip and give it up…now that’s an addictive pastime and by all accounts he loved it, so there has to be a bit of resentment there even though his smart side tells him she is right and that he has this potential to be a Great Director and that his life is so much better doing good work and staying on the straight and narrow…but deep down I bet he feels like he has to obey ‘Mummy’ and that must rankle. So he knows intellectually that his life with Jen is stable and productive,but sometimes I think he gets restless! I don’t actually think he misses JLo, per se but maybe the out of control moments he had during that relationship? That doesn’t make him a dick,just a human being! I thought it was a very honest interview,that in itself is a rarity in Hollywood and therefore he has opened himself up to conjecture!

  43. Nan209 says:

    He’s a mid-life crisis waiting to happen if it hasn’t already.

    He’s not all grown up yet. “That marriage” -as if he had no say in how got to this place. That is something a child thinks – Mom and Dad told me to…

    Do you think JG was just a rebound relationship or that is how he sees it?

    Whatever. He needs to own his choices.

  44. Dirtnap says:

    Too bad Matt Damon isn’t a woman, or that neither one of them seems to want to publicly pursue a homosexual relationship. That’s who Ben should be with. Those two seem well matched. Soul mates!

  45. Christine says:

    He’s just campaigning for an Oscar. They’ll be divorced by 2014 if he wins it.

  46. Jaycee says:

    He’s too good for J Lo.

  47. Jaycee says:

    Also, any person who has been divorced three times (as J Lo) has, is not marriage material or even relationship material.

  48. Jayna says:

    I like the interview. They have a career and three small ones. He says his marriage isn’t perfect. How refreshing compared to the jumping on couches? But he praises Jennifer as being a tremendous partner to him and making him a better person. He obviously is very happy in his marriage.

    He said he is friendly enough with his exes to where they drop the occasional email, great movie, good job. Seriously? That is barely any contact with them. Even I dropped my ex an email over his job promotion and even his new marriage once because we are on friendly enough terms when we run into each other. Believe me, I have zero desire to ever have a relationship with him and dumped him, but wish him well.

    The guy is a director/screewriter/actor and during making a movie, he is consumed with the production of the movie and his mind on it 24/7. People read too much into someone who gives honest answers. When my husband is in a huge trial, his mind is on it the whole time. He barely comes up for air.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Yay. So this is like the third pro-Ben comment out of like 100 anti-Ben comments.

      *sigh*
      I’m not a Ben stan (I’m a stan of no one) but I really like him and wish he would just refuse to talk about his personal life. But you know, once he starts doing that, then no one will want to interview him and he won’t be able to do all the promotional crap he has to do to sell a movie.

      I know everyone thinks he’s a conniving creep but honestly, it’s at the point where people dissect/extrapolate everything he says to suit a pre-defined notion of him being a massive jerk.

      I know that’s the nature of celeb gossip but it bums me out sometimes.

  49. Scarlett says:

    Sorry but I just don’t see any passion whatsoever in this marriage. It seems more for convenience’s sake. I think he respects her as the mother of his children but I don’t get the vibe that he is in love with her. We all know people who stay together for the sake of the kids and because it would cause too much drama it they were to split. He is gunning for an Oscar and he knows how to play the game.

  50. dh says:

    the emails wouldnt bother me, but randomly adding that the marriage isnt perfect and “that” marriage was dovetailed with a child- would piss me off. Kind is nice, but Id prefer my husband say how hot and perfect I am and that he couldnt do any of it without me. Ben shouldve said the kind of things Jen says. He shouldve said she had a wonder vag.
    And.. all of a sudden she is at his premiers? Multiple? Kissing? months go by without seeing them together, they rarely smile and he certainly hasnt been to any of her premiers..and she couldve used the help.. Interesting.

    • Jayna says:

      I thought he said that the combination of marriage and also having his first child is what dovetailed with his maturity, not that his marriage dovetailed with having a baby.

      • dh says:

        I see your point, maybe thats how I shouldve read that line… but still. the baby literally did dovetail with the marriage..(not that there is anything wrong with that. I did it the same way..)

  51. skuddles says:

    I think it’s disrespectful of him to talk about his ex’s… can’t imagine Jennifer appreciates that. Schmuck.

  52. Mira says:

    I like the director in Ben. I love Gone Baby Gone. I try not to perceive about the off-screen personalities of celebrities. It’s only Ben that bothers me, however. I don’t know what about him, he comes across as a major major douche to me. The smugness on his face perhaps.

  53. Aubra says:

    Hmmm…I wonder if him and Bradley Cooper compared notes when they had lunch together a few months back…lol

  54. Ginger says:

    Wow he is gorgeous… I’m looking forward to his adaptation of the Stand…the tv version was lacking

  55. Huh says:

    I think Ben Affleck is a surprisingly smart, deep guy, and pretty self-aware. He says jackassed things but he’s certainly conscious of how much his marriage and fatherhood have helped his public image – arguably nearly as much as his excellent work over the past 5 or 6 years. I think he’s somewhat compulsively honest about himself and his flaws, and unfortunately, I think that extends to how he describes his home life. And I like the guy – I’ve always been tickled by his friendship with Damon, his apparent extreme generosity as a tipper, his ability to laugh at himself.

    This isn’t Garner’s fault – not even a little bit – but I’ve *never* thought he was in love with her, not even at the beginning. And I don’t mean solely a passionate, fucking-’til-you’re-bruised kind of lust-love. I see it from her to him, and not one drop of it in reverse in interviews or photographs. It’s not his fault either – it’s unfortunate that the comments he makes sound so cloddish (and who knows the intent – and obviously, who knows what he feels? Maybe he is nuts about her, but I doubt it 100%). To me this seems clear, totally apart from whether it’s a good idea for him to reference J.Lo, Paltrow, etc.

    Life is fucking scary, and even good marriages are quite hard at moments, even many moments. I know MANY people who aren’t cheating (…and a couple who are), with very nice/kind spouses, where everything looks pretty good to third parties, but there’s nothing erotic between the couple. That is a freaking death-blow to a marriage unless you ride it out, truth. (Unless there’s a *reason* to ride it out – you take more time together, you see a counselor, you experiment, etc.) It’s such a shitty reality but…yeah. I think Garner doesn’t do it for him in any real man-woman way, and that’s a crap position for her to be in, and has *nothing* to do with how pretty/sexy/cute she is. And honestly, if your partner has *never* really wanted to consume you in that CrazySexyLove kind of way…it’s incredibly unlikely s/he’ll want to do it when you’re both 64.

  56. Cidee says:

    Let’s face it – he misses his drinking, gambling, carousing days and Jennifer G., sweet and “kind” though she is is also a bit boring. He’ll stay in the marriage for a few more years but this one isn’t for keeps, unfortunately. He can’t keep down the wanderlust forever….no one can.

  57. Kelly says:

    Doesn’t bother me what he said. I think Jennifer Garner is pathetic though. Just seems like she follows him like a puppy and he is like whatever about her. I’m sure he loves her or whatever as the mom of his kids but probably wishes he was with someone more exciting. And I used to be a big fan of hers, thought she had a promising career and was really cool. Not anymore.

  58. Christina says:

    I don’t get why people are mad that he called his wife kind. If he said she was hot then people would say he’s superficial. I thought the way he described her kindness was sweet. As if the world is full of hateful people, himself included, and he has this wife whose good heart almost makes her superhuman.

    • Fudge you, I'm going to Guam! says:

      He could have said: I love the way her eyes twinkle, the way she cares for our children, how she makes me a better man each day with her loving steadfast devotion to our family.
      She is a kind, giving and generous woman who exudes warmth.
      I love her smile, her dimples and her laughter is like a hummingbird to my ears….yaddi yaddi ya, english is not my first language but something like that.

      Instead of: She is truly kind.Pause.

      Ummmkaaay….

  59. Fudge you, I'm going to Guam! says:

    Dude is clearly still in love with The JLO :O

    • Fudge you, I'm going to Guam! says:

      ….you’re supposed to read “the jlo” in Cillian Murphys scarecrow voice when he says “the batman”.
      Very important. For effect.

  60. MrsBPitt says:

    Reading these threads, I really think people are making more of his statements than they should. I don’t think Ben comes off well in interviews. And I am gonna get blasted for this, and just keep in mind that I am a full on Brangeloonie…but why does Brad always get a pass on leaving JA, but Ben is a douche for leaving JL…they weren’t even married and there is just as much evidence for and against cheating in both relationships…yes, Ben went to a strip club when he was engaged to JL, but I don’t remember any hardcore evidence of cheating…please correct me if I am wrong…and with the Blake Lively pics, well, if I was accused of cheating every time I had a picture of myself laughing with a co-worker, then I would be in big trouble…I’m just saying, I don’t believe there is enough evidence for so many people to be hating on a guy who has turned his life around in so many good ways…

    • Mayamae says:

      I hated the whole Bennifer period and ignored it as much as I could. What I remember was the impression of JLo being a bit of a soul-suck and being very unaccepting of who he was. Publicly she was humiliated by how fast and hard he ran from her and subsequent interviews where he didn’t hide his relief at dodging the bullet. I don’t think he misses that time in his life. She doesn’t comment on him because she was the one embarassed.

  61. Camille (TheOriginal) says:

    I’ve tried in the past, but he’s just never done anything for me. I think it is the smug/smirking expression.

  62. emu says:

    eh, he’s presenting their emails as quick little niceties. It’s not like they’re steamy messages or even long personal messages, just quick messages between friends. I think it’s great that Ben has kept up a good relationship with his ex romances, it’s a testament to friendship. It seems they got along as friends and as lovers. And when the lovers part ended, the friendship continued.

  63. iseepinkelefants says:

    I took it another way. Garner is probably too perfect and Affleck feels inadequate so he reaches out to his exes. I mean no one can live with a saint.

  64. Ranunculus says:

    Ben Affleck is probably one of the worst actors out there. As for his talents as a director – The Town was not a bad movie but a bit too immature in terms of it being too cliché and pretentious. Jeremy Renner was the most interesting character and the female characters were very 2 dimensional and gratuitous, Yeah Affleck is a bit too much of a dumb boy for me.

  65. khaveman says:

    What a tool. Just lost all respect for him. I hate how he speaks about the mother of his children and then gushes about exes. And Jenn is insanely gorgeous.

  66. Aotearovian says:

    Think about these two (Affleck and Garner) for a minute. They have both, if rumors are to be believed, cheated on previous partners. She has been divorced – he is a child of divorce, and has ended an engagement (JLo).

    Three small children and all the stress that brings to a relationship, even if you can buy all the help you need yada yada. Having careers that entail long periods of separation.

    Being around good-looking people that aren’t your spouse. Having to spend a lot of time with those people, often in very intimate settings, because that’s your job.

    Then you’ve got the Hollywood thing. Being famous lowers the odds of a marriage lasting. Giving interviews, talking about your wife and previous girlfriends – thousands and thousands (millions?) of people reading them and basing their opinion of you on them. What a totally unnatural way for any person to live.

    If any marriage endured under these conditions, it would be a miracle. Frankly I applaud them for having the optimism to have a crack at it in the first place.

  67. truetalk says:

    What I get from the interview is that he wishes his ex no ill-luck. He loves his wife and the quality he admires most about her is her sometimes extreme kindness,which can also be aggravating to a person who was probably raised differently like a New York type of “everybody for himself” upbringing. People forget that kindness is becoming rare these days especially in Hollywood.
    Saying “that marriage” probably alludes to a type of marriage you dream of but didn’t know you could possibly have or don’t even think you deserve.
    I think this guy knows and appreciates what he has.

  68. Seekay says:

    ben is not the father of her first born. The old dude on Alias went to her gyno apts with her. You can google him and see her first born has his eyes. thats probably an issue in the marriage for Ben.