Britney Spears ‘hasn’t grasped that the relationship with Jason is over’

These are photos of Britney Spears out wearing a “Love” sweatshirt and some Uggs yesterday in the wake of her split from fiance Jason Trawick. Britney and Jason were together for years, and it’s got to be hard on her to go through a split now, particularly when she’s just stepped away from the X Factor and doesn’t have firm plans for her next career move. Maybe Britney likes it that way, though. She looks like she’s very well put together here and doing fine, and communicating that to the public was probably the purpose of this little outing.

Radar has several insider-y stories that make it sound like Britney is not as together as she’s seemed lately, and that she’s still very much in need of both a conservatorship and being handled with kid gloves. The thing is, I lost faith in Radar’s sources when they ran that hoax story about Britney’s ex brother-in-law claiming he’s the father of Britney’s oldest son. It was all based on a fake lawsuit (US Weekly was also fooled by it) and it made me wonder how much information they have on Britney, and how much is conjecture. So with that caveat, here is some of Radar’s latest news. They claim that Britney is still holding out hope that Jason will be coming back, that she’s not entirely convinced that it’s over, and that the split was orchestrated by Britney’s dad and Jason. If this is true it makes me sad for her. Here’s more, and these are excerpts from a couple of different stories on Radar:

“It really wasn’t Britney’s decision to announce the split last week, it was Jamie who made the call,” a source tells exclusively.

“Jason wanted out, and in the fragile state that Britney is in, it’s not like he could have a rational conversation with her about it, so it was really between him and Jamie. They decided how the relationship needed to end and how to go about the technicalities, such as removing Jason from the conservatorship, when he would move out and how to announce the split. Britney was left out of everything and really didn’t even know what was going on.”

When it was finally time to break the news to Britney, the source says the two men did it in a controlled and safe environment and were very careful explaining the situation to her, because they were afraid she wouldn’t take it well.

“Jason and Jamie wanted to make sure that Britney didn’t lose it, so they had to water things down for her a bit,” the source says. “She knows that the engagement is off and that Jason has been removed from the conservatorship, but she still hasn’t exactly grasped yet that the relationship is totally over.”

“Jamie will be keeping a very close eye on Britney now she no longer has Jason in her life. He loved Jason like a son and trusted him to look after his daughter. Now that Jason is gone, Jamie is concerned that Britney doesn’t have any true friends to look out for her outside of her immediate family members, and he believes it is more important than ever right now to keep the conservatorship in place to protect her. As part of his conservatorship duties, Jamie controls who Britney interacts with, she isn’t free to go out and meet people on her own. It’s actually a really sad situation for Britney because she is extremely lonely, but Jamie wants to ensure there’s no repeat of the Sam Lutfi situation and that his daughter is not taken advantage of.”

“[The split] has really been in motion awhile. Jason has been very stressed and concerned for Britney and what she might do if he left,” an insider told FOX411′s Pop Tarts column. “He is worried about her and really loved her, but it started to take a real toll on him. The burden of taking care instead of a partnership where she also takes care.”

“Jason took on the role of ‘parent’ and Britney the role of ‘child’ when he agreed to conservatorship. This makes an uneven balance of power, typically kills intimacy and creates a dynamic of conflict in the relationship,” explained licensed psychotherapist, Stacy Kaiser.

[From two stories on Radar and Fox News]

These reports are similar to what Kaiser has been saying about this relationship – that it’s not fair to Britney to have her romantic partner be her co-conservator, and that it speaks to Britney’s fragile mental state. The thing that is starting to bring me over to that side of the story is that Jason broke up with Britney (if it went down that way) right when The X Factor was ending. It’s like he was acting more like a business manager than a boyfriend, and when that aspect was over he stepped aside. (Both as her fiance and as her co-conservator.) Or maybe it was all a coincidence. I don’t believe that he only had a business relationship with Britney, though. Do you remember that creepy video he made for her, in bed, in which he was encouraging her? He was her boyfriend, but he was also in control of her, and it was all quite strange. I’m just wondering what’s next for Britney, and if she’ll have to do another album and tour. She seems like she’s in a better place now, but like she’ll never be the one making decisions about her daily life.

Update: We may know what’s next for Britney. TMZ reports that she’s very close to signing an “astronomical” deal with an unnamed venue in Vegas that would earn her more than Celine Dion’s $100 million a year. It’s up in the air whether she will be performing or making appearances, or a combination of both. Maybe that’s why she looks so damn happy here.

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  1. TorontoE says:

    She really needs a friend in her life who encourages her to get out of the spotlight…everytime I see her in photos or on stage I just get the impression she is thinking “is it over yet?” She’s made enough money for herself and family for a lifetime, go back to the South, get a farm and live a quiet life Brit!

  2. B says:

    I’m curious as to what exactly happened to her mentally… is she bi-polar? Is it something she always had and or was it drugs? I feel bad for her and hope she finds some peace…

    • Eman says:

      Search (illuminta britney spears) on youtube and u will understand everything..

      • 'Sup? says:

        @Emam: you know, I googled Britney Spears illuminati and it makes sense that she has been broken psychologically through trauma and disociation (sp). My mom always talked about this MKUltra shiz. It seems very predominant within famous people nowadays, to be turned into Monarch sex slaves and that process is horrendous. How could a human being do such a thing to a fellow human being? It was too much for my mind, had to take a break. Brit has enough money to where maybe her dad could find a psychologist to deprogram her. Hopefully Brit can then retire and live a decent human life. It sure explains her break downs. It is not bipolar, it is MPD or multiple personality or disciative disorder.

      • Tiffany says:

        I did do the search, and I found the video to be very childish. I don’t think a woman making claims about mind control back in the 80s (based on the look of it) makes a solid case.

        Saying that Britney was under mind control because she had her song “rebellion” on her website makes a pretty weak case. Her whole career has been based on rebelling against her good-girl disney image.

        I think one of these two things (or a combination) are going on: 1. She has mental illness 2. She overly abused drugs and has damaged her brain severely. (A judge once called her a habitual abuser of drugs and alcohol, but also mentally ill can sometimes try to self medicate to resolve their problems).

    • Gloria says:

      The consensus I’ve read is Bipolar 1, the more severe kind, and manifestations typically surface in the teen years. The mania phases of bipolar can sometimes closely resemble narcissism. Bipolar is treated with a hefty cocktail of drugs – my sister in law takes five different medications and she has to be closely monitored because overdosing could kill her.
      If it were just drug abuse with Brit, she would not be so permanently damaged or disabled that she requires a long-term conservatorship. She clearly has a mental disability, probably Bipolar or Schizophrenia.

    • A says:

      I’ve heard ADHD rumors for ages. She was medicated during her youth but things went downhill when she got pregnant and went off the meds. Then the K-Fed cheating and stuff made everything worse.

  3. Little Darling says:

    Hmmm, this is the most relaxed looking we’ve seen her in awhile…she will land on her feet no matter what. She’s got such public support. On every website the comments all say, “I don’t know why but I’m rooting for her.” I think this is the case with her, she seems so defenseless, so robot like at times, so wounded, in need of love and care. She has a good team around her, and while she should rest, I don’t think she actually enjoys that. She’s said numerous times she feels better when she works. I don’t know the perfect job for her…

    I do miss the old Brit, she was funny and self deprecating.

  4. Lipsy says:

    I have a soft spot for her, I just want the best for Britney!

  5. MG says:

    God if this is all true then Britney’s mental state must be worse than we all think. Sad. Hopefully she’ll be okay.

  6. Ellie66 says:

    She looks good in the pics. Hasn’t she made enough money? That poor girl needs a more “normal” life her eyes continue to look dead.:(
    Let her retire and raise her boys. She is Stepford Brittany now.

  7. SleepyJane says:

    When you need your girlfriend’s dad to help you breakup with her…it wasn’t a relationship at all. Jason knew this. I just hope Britney did too.

  8. dorothy says:

    She’s such a sad case. I’m rooting for her. At least she has people that love her and look after her in her life. Unlike Lohan.

  9. Heylee says:

    She will never be the one making decisions about her daily life because of her earning potential right? Because please, I know a few people that struggle with mental illness (bipolar specifically) and they still are in the driver seat of their own lives. Even if they make bad decisions occasionally, as long as they are not a threat to themselves or anyone else, and pursing a proper treatment, they deserve to be in control of their lives.

    I know that children are involved and I am not talking about being irresponsible or putting them at risk – but is she really so bad that she cannot manage her daily life? Or does she have this conservatorship because she can earn millions in a single year?

    This situation makes me sick. Obviously, I have little idea of what the reality of her life is but freedom is one of the qualities of life that makes us all human

    • Nina W says:

      They don’t just hand out conservatorships in the court system. The fact that her father was legally able to prove the need speaks volumes about the poor girl’s state.

      • Heylee says:

        I am aware that the conservatorship is legal and has well vetted boundaries. But she can have a 15 million dollar contract to go on live TV and have a long-term boyfriend who she obviously consented to have sex with. Knowingly gave her consent…

        My point is more of disbelief over what she may or may not be “allowed” and not “allowed” to do.

      • Heylee says:

        “Adult onset Schizophrenia would pretty much explain everything.”

        Okay, this makes sense, I am amazed at all she is capable of doing given these circumstances.

        I will always love Britney and hope she is happy.

    • ZenB!tch says:

      I have friends that are bipolar but it’s the milder one – BP2? They are productive members of society. Yes, it’s hard. I have anxiety disorder and I would rather sit in my house by myself and never have to work. I totally get it, but I can’t do that.

      Britney must have a very, very extreme version of bipolar disorder or it may be schizophrenia or a combo of more than one thing.

  10. mel2 says:

    I feel sad for her too. I just wish she could make her demons go away… Who knew she would turn out this way.

  11. aims says:

    Is she really that unstable? When people talk about her , its like they have to walk on egg shells. She cant deal with any sort of stress at all, no bad newes ever. Is she really that weak that everyone around her was have things happy and stress free?

    • Anaya says:

      If that is the case then the first thing her dad should have done is remove from the entertainment lifestyle if stress is the true concern. Obviously that didn’t occur. There’s a reason for that I assume, yet I don’t think it’s a healthy, fair reason as far as Britney’s recovery is concerned.

      I think that the conservatorship comes down to a variety of issues such as preserving her image whether it’s an image that paints her as stable or unstable. Unstable personally but stable enough professionally so she can continue to bring in huge amounts of cash. In Britney’s case personal instability helps her handlers claims for there being an indefinite conservatorship. There’s the control over Britney the person in all capacities, controlling her access to her children, and finally financial control. It’s all about control.

  12. Sisi says:

    so Jamie doesn’t let her hang out with anyone, yet he is worried about Britney not having friends?

  13. New Spring says:

    I thinks it’s clear she’s much sicker than we think. You wouldn’t get a conservatorship just for being bi-polar. She might be shizophrenic. Watch this clip from an interview she did with Diane Sawyer.

    She seems to switch into another personality, then tries to switch back by calling for “strong Britney”. When she switches back, she breaks into tears saying she is embarrassed and would like to stop the interview.

    It’s just sad. My heart goes out to her.

    • Lulu says:

      Sorry to nit pick, but if she has other personalitirs that is called Dissociative Disorder. Schizophrenia is a completely different mental illness. If I recall, didn’t her grandmother suffer from schizophrenia? The kid gloves may be a result of the high risk of suicide in those who suffer from it. :(

      Adult onset Schizophrenia would pretty much explain everything.

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      I just watched the clip on that link – that is so sad and disturbing. :(

    • Malificent says:

      I’m thinking it could be either. I have a number of bi-poloar friends who lead productive, responsible lives. But for some of them, it was a long path to functionality — improper diagnoses, refusing to take meds, etc.

      Like any chronic illness, it requires monitoring and management, and people can suffer relapses. For some people, the available meds aren’t helpful, or stop working and need to be changed.

      To my mind, schizophrenia might be a real possibility. There is a family influence on schizophrenia — it appears to be a combination of genetics and environment that affect whether a person develops schizophrenia. And it typically sets in between the teens and early 30s, and in some cases it seems to be triggered by stress. My aunt didn’t develop schizophrenia until she was in her mid-20s, married with two kids. In her case, a family tragedy seems to have triggered it.

      The heavy medicating for Britney would make me think maybe schizophrenia. Most bi-polar folks I know aren’t so heavily medicated that you would be able to tell the difference.

    • Raye says:

      I don’t think another personality was coming out. I think she was trying to stop herself from crying but it didn’t work & she was embarrassed.

    • Gloria says:

      I don’t know. To me that video is Britney trying really hard not to break. Not sure it shows anything except that she’s not like a lot of celebrities in that she isn’t made of steel or playing a part. She’s a real person.

  14. Amory says:

    Not sure that a Vegas gig is the best choice for her. The schedules tend to be brutal.

    It doesn’t seem like this woman has ever had the time to raise her own kids and she’s very rarely seen with them.

    It’s too bad that no one is worrying about helping her becoming a mom — does she really need another dime???

    • Skipper says:

      It seems like a Vegas show would be way way too much pressure. They perform at least once a day don’t they?

      Anyone who wears the outfit she has on in the above pictures that is over the age of 14 is obviously off their rocker anyway.

      • improve2 says:

        Well I guess I have to check-in to some medical facility because I do wear an outfit like these when running errands and I am the same age as Britney. I mean, if you lack the intelligent to make a sound comment, why bother? I never knew someone’s state of mind can be determined by their outfit.

      • Skipper says:

        A. Victoria’s Secret pink collection is for sorority girls and slutty teenagers.

        B. Leggings are not pants unless being used for yoga/exercise purposes.

        C. I’m fine with Uggs, reluctantly, but her’s are really really really ugly. And they look like they’d attract dirt really easily.

        I found my comment to be witty and brilliant.

      • improve2 says:

        witty and brilliant? Well, with your above reasons, I guess there are no need to argue with you. You sir/ma, please carry on with your “brilliant” comments.

    • Wilma says:

      I think it depends on whether Britney really loves performing and how often she would have to do it. Celine Dion loved the stability doing Vegas shows gave her and the chance to have a normal family life while still being able to perform.

      • Skipper says:

        I haven’t seen Brit Brit perform since that VMAs disaster a few years ago. It made me so uncomfortable that I’ve not been willing to give her another chance. She didn’t look like she was enjoying it then, but hopefully things have improved since.

  15. Lulu says:

    She really must be quit ill. She’s not allowed to be alone with her own children, she cannot be trusted with any aspect of her life. The only thing keeping her out of a mental institution is her extreme wealth and the presence of her father. She will never get any better, nor is she capable of being more to her boys than a kind of loving friend. She can’t raise them, she can’t even take care of herself!

  16. truthful says:

    Britney is getting ready to sign a HUGE deal for shows in Vegas, she’ll be ok.
    Everyone keeps making a big deal about that X factor stuff, who needs that garbage..I wish it would go away.

    Jason was a user..

    Its unfortunate that her dad will not allow her to be around people her age that do not indulge in alcohol or drugs.

    Is Demi Lovato still in secret rehab??

  17. Tazina says:

    The write-up from Radar makes it sound like she’s barely functioning in the real world. I don’t believe it. They’ve made her out to sound like she’s one step away from insanity. If Vegas is willing to take a chance on her, surely with that kind of investment, they’ve done their homework and don’t have the same opinion. I’d say the Radar bit is mostly BS.

    • Lulu says:

      She’s not just one step away from it. She is insane.

      Websters says insanity is: such unsoundness of mind or lack of understanding as prevents one from having the mental capacity required by law to enter into a particular relationship, status, or transaction or as removes one from criminal or civil responsibility.

      Sadly, that does describe her, and is likely the reason why Jason didn’t go through with the marriage. He eventually could have been held liable for marrying a woman who is of unsound mind and as her conservator, that would have been a very dangerous liability for him.

      It is also the reason she will likely remain firmly under a conservatorship of some kind for the rest of her life.

  18. Raye says:

    Are those drinks both for her?

  19. Cecada says:

    OK I knew she was crazy but this sheds some troubling light on the situation. If she is THAT far gone, THAT childlike mentally, than she shouldn’t be made to work and earn money.

  20. gorda says:

    I was never a fan but I feel for her. I think the next person that she will date will probably be her new agent or someone near her. She seems to date people in close proximity. Unless that person is married.

    I hope she is taken care for if something happens to her dad. I didn’t know her mental issues were that bad. Sad!

    She should leave this business and try a normal life away from L.A., that place is toxic for everyone in the industry especially for someone like her.

    Good luck Britney.

  21. Holly says:

    I just watched the clip that someone posted. So very sad!! Bless her heart.

  22. Madriani's Girl says:

    NO way she’ll do a Vegas show. She isn’t mentally strong enough to do that night after night.

  23. IN THE KNOW says:

    There are blind items on the panache report about britney. It states that when she had that huge meltdown a few years ago (the shaving of the head, bat shit crazy antics) that she had learned she had contracted the hiv virus.

    Her family and handlers supposedly are doing everything in their power to keep it out of public knowledge, b/c in past years brit brit has been pretty promiscuous with so many industry white men, that it would rock hollywood to the core to know that she had contracted the virus. Allegedly the plan is that whenever it does come to light, to blame it “on the black guy.” meaning, b/c she secretly liked to date black men, that they would place the blame there, versus where she actually got it from.

    I truly hope that this is wrong. B/c if that’s the case it makes sense why she suddenly lost her damn mind and since, has looked so vacant and dead in the eyes. I feel sorry for her. I dont really like her parents. I think they’re money grubbers. If she were my friend, sister, but especially my DAUGHTER, LA, hollywood, and show business would be the LAST place she would be. How much money does a damn person really need? Get her help.

  24. KellyinSeattle says:

    Love her; she seems so down to earth and not stuck up at all. I hope she can take some time for herself and her boys, and just relax for awhile. If she wants to work, fine for her…but I hope she knows she has the option to disappear for awhile, too.

  25. improve2 says:

    I don’t believe these stories. Yes I know she is dealing with mental illness and will most certainly need a support system for a long time like most dealing with such issues and there is nothing wrong with that. I just think these gossip outlet write these stories to sensationalize the whole thing. For months, they’ve been writing stories about how Britney is unhappy with the relationship and they’ve been sleeping in different rooms, they said she has been stalling in making plans for the wedding. My question is this, if any of those stories were true, why will she not know that the relationship is over? Yes we get it, she has an illness and people around her might be careful about discussing certain issues, but the media is just hungry in making her crazy again or just wants to forever make her to be a victim of her illness. People struggles with different things in life but because she’s famous, it gets magnified for gossip. Good luck britney! don’t let anyone bring you down.

  26. Patrice says:

    I’m always blown away by the commenters on the Britney posts who allude to the fact-or even flat out say-that they think the conservatorship is just about Jaime “making her earn more money” (conservatorships cannot ‘force’ someone to sign contracts); all about control” (that is entirely the point when someone has been legally proven to be unable to care for themselves!); should be cancelled, and that she should be allowed to now “live independently”, etc.

    Britney Spears has a very well documented (publicly and privately), case of some form of mental illness that teams of doctors, judges, lawyers and her immediate family all came together and decided was serious enough that she was FULLY INCAPABLE of making any day to day decisions for herself, nevermind that of her children. As many other posters have pointed out, conservatorships are quite rare and are only granted in the most critical of cases when it can be proven that many other options have been attemptend and nothing else has worked. One does not just magically bounce back from being in such a state in months or years-if ever and the vast majority of people who suffer from mental illness ever come close to needing or having one.

    I mean, does it seriously never occur to some people that the only reason Britney is doing “so well” now is BEACUSE her dad stepped up and took the reigns of her life the way he did? (Where do the detractors think she would be right now if he hadn’t??) Britney may very well need strict supervision to do well for the rest of her life. The loneliness part sounds cery sad (and I don’t see why she shouldn’t be allowed to say, join a club for fun or something) but think of the (potential) alternative.

    The part that bothers me most is when it’s suggested that her boys should just be ripped away from the loving, stable home that their father has provided all these years and be “given back” to Britney. (Kevin still has full custody of Jaden and Sean; reportedly he’s granted Britney supervised visitation out of kindness and compassion. Not b/c the courts or anyone else has legally granted her back any custodial rights.) I mean, for what reason exactly? Just b/c she’s their mother?? That would potentially be an emotionally devastating move for the children, Kevin and Britney.

  27. Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

    How would marriage have made any of this better? And to one of her conservators?

  28. Holden says:

    I’m not really sure Vegas would be the best place for her, unless her dad is staying with her. I actually feel bad for Jason in this situation, because he probably had very good intentions and Britney is just too far gone. I’m starting to think that guy she married in Vegas may have been the one, she should have stuck it out.

  29. Rex says:

    Jason should have never been co-conservator in the first place and shame on Jamie for doing so. I’m starting to think this is more serious than bipilor/schizophrenia because rumours of her having these conditions have been around for a long, long time, yet they’re still trying to keep it underwraps in the courts? I’m starting to think she is mentally disabled, like to a point where she needs/should be in a mental institution

  30. grace says:

    I call BS. If she were so ill she wouldn’t be allowed alone with the boys much less allowed head to Vegas the home of illegal drugs and drama.
    I am beginning to think her father makes her out to be worse than she is in the press to keep his hands on her money.
    If she is truly schizophrenic then her Dad is guilty of mental cruelty by forcing her to perform and should be stripped of his conservatorship.
    The court needs to approve someone who is not family to help Britney.

  31. Tmi says:

    Poor Britney she suffers from mental illness and is on display for everyone to see. We have suffer from mental illness and no one sees.