Adam Levine won’t marry: ‘If you don’t get married, you can’t get divorced’

Is it just me or is Adam Levine’s face really weird on this cover of Nylon Guys? They Photoshopped him, for sure, but I don’t really understand why. It’s like they blended him with Zachary Quinto for no reason. Anyway, Levine is promoting The Voice and maybe Maroon 5 too. But really, Adam is just promoting Adam and if there’s one thing you should know about Adam Levine, it’s that he’s a modelizing d-bag who eschews condoms and hates marriage. Sounds like a winner, right?

He never wants to get married: ”I’m doing pretty well. If you don’t get married, you can’t get divorced. Why couldn’t we learn from the devastatingly low percentage of successful marriages that our last generation went through?”

He works a lot but doesn’t want to complain: ”It’s a lot. But it might not be a lot someday. I don’t like to complain. You have this moment. It doesn’t last forever. You should probably try and enjoy it.”

On the reports Shakira is making twice as much as him on The Voice: ”She’s Shakira dude! She’s a f***ing international superstar! I don’t care. It’s just money.”

On dealing with the paparazzi: “The more you make them look like f–king idiots, the better you are. It’s like intellectual warfare. Just don’t say anything.”

[From Global Grind & Contact Music]

Is Adam really that much of a paparazzi target? He got more attention when he was dating Anne V (until she dumped him!), but now that he’s with Behati Prinsloo, no one seems to give a crap. The only time I hear people talking about him is when they’re saying his music sucks and he’s not as likeable as Blake Shelton on The Voice. As for marriage… I kind of feel the same way. I’m not anti-marriage for everyone, I just don’t think it’s the right choice for me and it kills me a little that Adam and I are on the same page. If I agree with a d-bag on one issue, what does that mean?!

Photos courtesy of Nylon Guys, WENN.

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  1. bns says:

    His face is always weird. I find him so ugly.

    • Lipsy says:


      And that high singing voice! It’s like nails scratching blackboard for me.

      • bns says:

        Right? His singing voice is just awful.

      • only1shmoo says:

        You ladies have no idea of just how gratifying it is to know that there are other women out there who find Adam Levine to be an overrated slime bucket! I’d be generous if I said he’s mediocre in terms of looks and talent, but then I read quotes from him and think, “no, the term ‘mediocre’ is WAY too flattering!’

      • gg says:

        THANK YOU. Adam Ledouche is not my favorite.

  2. TheOriginalKitten says:

    Personally, marriage petrifies me.

    • paola says:

      Thanks for saying that! I always feel so weird when people ask me why i don’t want to get married! It’s like woman = wedding. Sometimes on tv i end up watching those programs about weddings and they just scare the hell out of me.

      • Lemony says:

        @ Paola: When I was single I hated how people treated me-if you weren’t getting married, having a baby, buying/decorating a house you were nothing. So if you were a happily single, focused on work/school & contentedly living in an apartment it was like you weren’t interesting, or worse, a woman.

      • paola says:

        I am 33, i’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 years.. i love him but wedding is just not for me. i think it’s because my parents are still married after 43 years and with such a great example i’m scared of not being able to have the same. a piece of paper doesn’t change my feelings towards my bf or my commitment.

      • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

        @ Lemony – Thank you so much for saying that! I am in the latter scenario you described, and living in the deep south, that’s exactly how I feel. The culture here is if you are not married by 25 and instead, focus on school and career etc for a while, there is something wrong with you! Ugh I have got to get away from the closed-mindedness. What’s sad is that it comes from a lot of family members too. Not cool.

      • Mr.Smurf says:

        What’s funny is my mom’s side of the family is kind of traditional when it comes to marriage and kids. I think it’s because they saw what happened when you don’t get married before kids. And I mean that by saying you need to be committed to each other before you have kids, and sometimes marriage is the best way to show that.

        Very few of my cousins got married before they had kids, and now very few of them are with the same person who they had the kid with-male and female.

        My mom never really wanted to ever get married, because she had never seen the point…she didn’t get married until she was thirty-four and already had three kids…I wonder how my dad changed her mind.

        But one thing she always told me was to only have as many kids as you can take care of/financially raise by yourself, in case something happens i.e. divorce, death. That’s advice she and her sisters had to follow. When I was young my mom was so poor that when we moved to D.C. we had mattresses on the floor for us to sleep, and my mom slept on her one couch. She had to go buy meat at a butcher’s where you could buy a huge case of chicken for twenty bucks, but had to tear out the feathers and everything else yourself.

        A lot of my aunts and second cousins had to raise their kids on their own, without any help. One of my aunts is still getting child support for one of my cousins who is 30 years old, because he never paid it.

        As for me, I don’t think I’ll ever get married or have kids. I don’t have a particular longing for either. I love being alone, so unlike a lot of my boy crazy peers, I don’t really care if I have a boyfriend or not. I love kids, have a lot of experience with them, so maybe I’ll adopt.

        What’s funny is I told my mom this, and she laughed and said “you never know, you might get married at nineteen”, which I thought was weird because she has always talked about how dumb kids/teenagers are for marrying so young, not knowing what they want in life, and potentially getting divorced soon because they didn’t know what they wanted out of life. I guess she thinks I’m mature enough? I don’t know, I think I’d be boring to live with. All I want to do when I get home is go on Celebitchy, read some fanfiction, and eat or watch a movie or read a book. And maybe moon over my celebrity boyfriends.

      • Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

        People do tend to think that you’re still a child or just can’t get a man. Whenever people ask me if I have a boyfriend I just tell them ‘I’m too real’ and the giggling that ensues is a good start to a better conversation.

    • Lemony says:

      Hello Kitten!
      I always felt that way too. Most of my friends got married a couple years out of high school, some had kids immediately too, and I was terrified by it. Even though I live in area where, culturally, that is the norm I just knew I wasn’t ready to be chained to someone for the rest of my life & be all “I love cooking for my man & picking up his socks for him!” I had never planned to get married, but when I met my husband I felt differently. I do like to cook, but I will always hate picking up socks (I make him pick them up) Anyway,my rambling point is that I don’t think a woman has to be married to have a fulfilling & successful life. I try to stick up for woman who say that they are not interested in getting married. The same goes for choosing not to have children. They’re not for everyone, so I don’t think anyone should do those things to give in to social pressures. I’m so glad we live at a time where we have so many options. Thankfully, our marriage, while requiring effort, has been awesome. ;)
      Coincidence: Today is our 8th wedding anniversary!

      • ZigZagZoey says:

        YAY! Happy Anniversary!! ♥ ♥ ♥

        I understand it definitely isn’t for everyone, but I am very happily married for 25 years. It is possible!

      • Val says:

        Happy anniversary! I never thought I’d get married either but this year will mark 3 years for my husband and I. To each their own!

    • marie says:

      until I met my fiancée, the longest relationship I had was 6 months. I was a complete commitment-phobe (petrified of marriage or any long term relationship) but this guy makes me different. not saying I don’t get itchy but the thought of being without him scares me more than being with him.

    • Clare says:

      It’s weird coz I never wanted to get married, then I got pregnant, never wanted to have kids either, moved in with the dad,love my daughter to death ( seriously, she is my pride and joy, but never want to have another one)and now I’m engaged. I thought that my mind would change, kind like how it did about kids, but it didn’t. Now I just keep on changing the date, putting it off, and really don’t want to push through all together.

      It’s weird coz when I wasn’t engaged, I was super in love, but when I got the ring, I would rather be a single mom. Am I insane?

      By the way– I am super in love with Adam- does that prove my insanity even more?

      • ZigZagZoey says:

        There is nothing wrong with you at all!♥
        (Well, except for being in love with this guy! But that’s okay too…You can have him!)

      • Yup, Me says:

        I have always been an advocate for living near your lover/fiance/husband but not in the same house. Living together will squeeze the love and appreciation out of any relationship.

        My guy and I live apart but spend a few days out of each week at each others’ homes and share childcare on our son (who lives with me most of the time.) It’s unusual but it works WAAAAY better when we were trying to live together. We’re trying to figure out how to add another kid to the mix, but I’m definitely in agreement with the advice from the mom above- not to have any more kids than I’m prepared to raise by myself.

    • Asiyah says:

      For real, OriginalKitten. It scares the crap out of me!

    • F5 says:

      Scaredy Kitteh!

    • Lishka says:

      I actually dont see anything douchey about what he has said. Its all matter of fact and he doesnt seem to feel the need to lie about what he thinks. Seems to me he is talented, has no problems with his high pitched singing voice (he has even mentioned it himself on The Voice) and he makes good money, is sexy, has a body to die for, and hot chicks are willing to date him even though he is pretty much anti marriage.

      Pff, I think he has a great life, if you ask me!

      And he’s right, if you don’t get married, you don’t have to worry about divorce. Why are people so offended by the anti-marriage types? Why does that somehow make them “selfish”? Its not the case, its just the way they view the world, and there is nothing wrong with it.

  3. hayley says:

    my friend got me tickets to see this guy and his band preform at the Verizon center the day after tomorrow. after reading all this…… lets just say I hope he isn’t the kind of guy that talks to the audience a lot in between songs.

    • ldub says:

      hello my fellow DC’er! lol

      the band is ok… concert…..only in concert…..when someone else has paid for the tickets.

      • hayley says:

        they opened for Train when I saw them a year or two ago and I skipped over most of their set in favor of the bar, but they sounded okay. and yes, I agree that it’s only worth it if someone else pays!

  4. Alexis says:

    Nobody wants to marry his douche azz, anyway.

    • Lulu.T.O. says:

      That was my first thought too.

      If he doesn’t want a family, fine by me. At least the women he dates will be informed.

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      I think JLH was up for it, until he shot her down real quick….then again, she is so desperate.

    • Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

      Why does anyone care if anyone gets married? I don’t give two damp shits about what people want to do with a ring.

      No one’s asking, Beta. And two heads, um–models are better than one, huh?

      However, fear of abandonment or getting your heart well and truly broken, etc,–however strange you find in that internal logic–can screw you up and put an ‘AVOID’ complex when it comes to romantic life and that’s not terribly uncommon, is it?

  5. Post-It's says:

    I agree with him on marriage. It’s not for me.

    • ol cranky says:

      then he should just say that marriage isn’t for him

      saying not to get married b/c that way you don’t get divorced is pretty idiotic. he can still have a serious and committed long term relationship break up – you don’t avoid a nasty split or failed relationships just because you don’t get married and the fact he’s never divorced won’t mean he’s somehow a better partner than someone who did get divorced.

      • Nina W says:

        I agree, Ol Cranky, he just sounds idiotic. Don’t get married, nobody really cares, but it’s impossible to avoid heartache just by dodging marriage.

      • Lishka says:

        Where did he say he’s better than those who have been divorced? Pfff.

        His parents are divorced and he probably has his own take on how his life would work out for him. People get so bent out of shape and take things celebrities say as some sort of affront on their own lifestyles, its just his opinion about his life, not a commentary about other peoples lives.

      • crtb says:

        I thought what he said sounded stupid also. If you don’t beleive in marriage that is fine but to say “If I don’t get married, I can’t get divorced” makes no sense. Whatever kind of relationship (regardless of what you call it) can come to an end. That is like saying, “If I don’t eat, then I can’t get fat.”

  6. aims says:

    Marriage is not for everyone. You can have a relationship, and all that it includes without marriage. I’d like to think that in this day and age, that more people would be open minded .

    • Lishka says:

      Amen! And lets not even go into the lack of respect for non-married folks “commitment” that they have to face from married folk.

      I have seen more 10+ year unhappy marriages that are somehow legally pleasing to society than their 10+ year non-married but happy counterparts.

      You can be with someone 30 years but as soon as you say, “my partner” or “my life mate” folks are like, oh, youre not married…so its like, not as important as being married 2 years. *SMH*

  7. mel says:

    I think he is hot..whooo…and I think he has a point…kids coming up are not going to want to get married…its not like there are lots and lots of great role models…I’ve been married 21 years…and lets just say its been trying…but really worth it.

    • V4Real says:

      I have no problem with Adam and I like some of his songs. He does have a girly voice but he has admitted to that. I don’t get why he’s a douche; he says what you basically hear a lot of celebs saying.

      On marriage he’s right; it’s not for everybody. Some people are happy being in a committed relationship without the ownership papers.

  8. Jane says:

    My friend is totally in love with this man and completely loses it every time one of his songs comes on the radio. I find him totally annoying with a whiney voice. Really, what DO women see in him? I simply do not get it.

    • bns says:

      Ugh, I hate his voice.

    • Lemony says:

      I don’t get it either. I was a big fan of their first album, so I used to listen to them all of the time. The guitarist for the band is much cuter & has a sexy, deep voice…I think his name is James?

  9. Lilo says:

    “If you don’t get married, you can’t get divorced”

    You don’t say! Genius…

    “Why couldn’t we learn from the devastatingly low percentage of successful marriages that our last generation went through?”

    Well, for one thing, the past generation learned not to fix thing but instead throw the towel and walk away. It’s not marriage that doesn’t work per se, it’s the effort people are willing to make. Douche.

    • maria says:

      Agree with all!!

    • Bijlee says:


    • The Original Tiffany says:

      Totally agreed! Hard work, but worth it says the lady celebrating 19 years married today!

    • Lulu.T.O. says:

      +1000! I suppose we shouldn’t be surprised that a musician lacks critical thinking.

      A marriage is a commitment between two people anyway. You can have one even if Uncle Sam hadn’t given his ‘blessing’.

      • TheOriginalTiffany says:

        Lemony, happy anniversary to you!

        Lulu, I am married to a musician! Lmao!

      • Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

        Why do musicians lack critical thinking skill?

      • Lulu.T.O. says:

        They don’t Jo Mama. The snark was running heavily through me this am. Probably the fault of this effin’ stomach bug I’ve been battling for the fifth day in a row…

    • Garvels says:

      I agree..I also think the legislation of the “no fault divorce”, made it much easier to throw in the towel when things get a little tough. Personally, I think it should be difficult to get married and to get divorced.

      • Nina W says:

        I recently read all about my great grand-parents divorce. They had to go to court and all their “dirty laundry” was aired for the public record and later published in the local news paper. I think “no-fault” is better, people deserve their privacy and the divorce is between those two people and not them and the State.

  10. bea says:

    Actually, this is a good thing to realize about yourself. If a person doesn’t actually want to get married, they shouldn’t. They’ll be miserable and so will the spouse.

    All his divorce talk is b.s. – just own it. You want to be a player forevah. Hopefully he’ll have the $ to continue attracting the ladies….bc I doubt they’re with him for his looks and/or talent.

    • Dutch says:

      A lesson Tiger Woods could have learned

    • Carolyn says:

      Agree. He’s never presented himself as someone wanting the wife, 2 kids, white house & picket fence and the obligatory SUV and big dog. If he wants to be a playa and not settle down, that’s OK. One of these days one of his women will do a Kristen Cavallari and oops…get pregnant. Being not married won’t save him from having to pay $$ child support!

    • Becky1 says:

      I’m not a fan of Adam Levine, but I think he knows himself well and realizes that marriage is most likely not for him. I give him credit for that.

      I’m married and happy to be married but it’s not for everyone. It took me a long time to feel comfortable with getting married (my husband and I were together for over 8 years before we married) and I got so tired of the judgement and the questions. It’s a shame that’s there’s so much societal pressure for people (particularly women) to get married once they reach a certain age. It’s funny, too, how that “certain age” varies depending on where you live. I grew up and went to college in central Pennsylvania and most college educated or professional women got married in their mid 20′s there(at least that’s how it was back in the 1990′s anyway). I live outside of Baltimore, MD now and it seems like the trend here is for college grads/professional women to get married in their late 20′s to very early 30′s.

      I get really annoyed when I hear people (more women than men, unfortunately) judge those who have chosen not to get married. It’s weird how threatened people can be when others don’t follow the life script.

  11. Anmelt says:

    He seems kind of ok to me and does not seem that egotistical like the Biebs. He is a modelizer sure but he is not homophobic (supportd lgbt rights) or racist (shares a place with a korean american). He has made some stupid statements but he seems fairly harmless.

  12. Helvetica says:

    Haha! I like this interview! His responses are so funny. Loved the comment about “intellectual warfare.” It’s so true!

    I also agree w/ him about marriage. As they say “the leading cause of divorce is marriage.” It’s good that he has figured out he doesn’t want to get married BEFORE getting married and makes no qualms about it. It would be much worse for him to have his partner(s) thinking he is someday going to marry them when he doesn’t consider it an option or something that he wants/needs.

    Good for him.

    He looks great on the cover.

  13. dina says:

    I’ve always found him so weird looking and annoying. ALSO: Anyone hear that he will be playing Opie’s brother on SOA??? NOT IMPRESSED!!!!! Ugh

    • Jenna says:

      OMG PLEASE tell me you’re joking!!! He CAN’T be Opie brother!!! :(

    • ZigZagZoey says:

      SHIT! I didn’t hear that. Bad enough he was on American Horror Story. Ew, now he has to invade another of my favorite shows?

    • Lolly says:

      What?! He resembles Opie like a worm resembles a St. Bernard! Just what informed this casting choice? Certainly not his stellar “acting” on American Horror Story. Good god.. I have to give Kurt Sutter a call..

  14. mia girl says:

    I know that Levine doesn’t get much love around these parts, but my teenage daughter and her friends, a lot of the ladies I work with, and many of my female friends LOVE Adam Levine.

    They think he is hot- and in fact, their love was born from or fueled by watching him on The Voice. Blake has a lot of fans, but clearly Adam does as well (those fans are not mutually exclusive).

    I’m pretty ambivalent about him, but I give him credit for not being a prima donna about Shakira… ”She’s Shakira dude! She’s a f***ing international superstar! I don’t care. It’s just money.”

    • MissM says:

      Totally agree. While I can see him being a bit of a famewhore, he comes off as pretty self-aware and in on the joke.

  15. Sirsnarksalot says:

    He’ll get married as soon as he no longer has the fame and good looks that allow him to have his pick of models.

    • fabgrrl says:

      ‘zactly. It is very easy to be anti-commitment when you are young and have non-stop ass. I’m sure he’ll change his tune in 10 years.

      • KK says:

        Pretty much. Then he’ll feel stupid for not sticking with one of them before he lost his popularity and looks. Dude is such a douche, it’s not like he has anything outside those two things.

  16. ZigZagZoey says:

    Translation ~
    I will never be able to keep it in my pants and will always screw someone who thinks I am fantastic.


    • RN says:

      I don’t have a problem with that. Two consenting adults making their own decisions – fine. I’d rather have that scenario that people who marry and divorce multiple times and keep dragging bewildered children through these unstable relationships.

  17. Miss M says:

    So far, I am not impressed with Shakira in the show.

    ps: The gravatar I chose is not working, :(

    • Mrs. Peacock says:

      What he said about her making more money (even if it wasn’t genuine) actually made me like him more. So now I just dislike him, as opposed to despise him.
      But true, doesn’t mean Shakira is any good!

      • Miss M says:

        @Mrs. Peacock: I really like him on the show, he makes a lot of good comments. I loved when he used to go head to head with Christina and always took her opinion really seriously.

        It also helps me like him because last night Shakira spoke in Portuguese with someone who got eliminated and Adam’s reaction was something like that: Can you really speak Portuguese? It sounds hot. :)

        Shakira seems insecure. She wants to pick someone, but she is not sure. Then, she regrets she didn’t push the button. She was a better tonight.

        ps: My favorite judge is Blake. I laugh so much with him!

  18. MonicaQ says:

    I got married but honestly, nothing changed. We’d been together for almost 10 years at that point. I still snore, he still can’t cook, and we both scream at our TVs on Sundays during football season. I (personally) don’t get why people lay it down as some ~*~gigantic marker of sorts.

  19. Helvetica says:

    Why do people have to assume he’s a player or can’t keep it in his pants cause he doesn’t want to get married? Not everyone wants to get married. It’s not the be-all-end all for every single person on the planet. Different strokes for different folks. It would be MUCH worse for him to get married knowing full well he doesn’t want to do it. The fact that he is owning it is very respectable. (Another fine example of owning it: George Clooney).

    • TheOriginalKitten says:


    • TheOriginalTiffany says:

      I don’t think he’s a douche for not wanting to be married. It isn’t for everyone, if all people were the same this would be a boring world.

      I was at a gig last year, talking to a back up singer and Adam came up. I told the guy I thought he was a douche. Guy turned out to be working with Adam and told me what a great guy he is.

      Who knows, maybe he is just douchey in interviews.

  20. bsnol8 says:

    Just because people get divorced doesn’t mean there is no point in getting married. Marriage is a commitment you make to someone that raises the level of the relationship. That is why people get married – because they love each other enough that at that moment they cannot imagine being with anyone else. That feeling may change over time, but the purpose of marriage is still something good. What Adam is saying is that 1. he has not found anyone he feels that strongly about and 2. he is scared of divorce and 3. he likes to have get it on with many women and doesn’t want to stop yet

    • Helvetica says:

      …or he’s just saying he doesn’t want to get married. It doesn’t have to be that deep. Some people just do NOT want to get married. I don’t understand why that concept seems inconceivable to some people.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Sometimes I feel like people who are married take it as a personal offense when others say they don’t want to be married or have no interest in marriage. I also see similar scenarios with people who have children vs. those that choose NOT to have kids. Why can’t we just be secure and ok with our choices and let others live their lives how they want? Why do we feel like we MUST sell our life-choices as the ‘superior’ way of living?

        Different strokes for different folks, guys. What works for you doesn’t always work for someone else. Your *ideal life* doesn’t have to be your neighbor’s *ideal life*.

      • The Original Tiffany says:

        Kitten, the truly happy and secure can and do celebrate other choices. :)

        The only superior way to live your life is the way that makes YOU happy. Husband or not, kids or not.

      • Diana says:

        Kitten, I agree on everything. People just can’t seem to avoid feeling threaten by different choices.

  21. quinn says:

    I’d rather he promise not to procreate instead.

  22. TeresaKansas says:

    He’s a douche-whistle (my original!), a dork and an attention ho. Did I leave anything out? :) :)

  23. ViktoryGin says:

    I am soooo ambivalent about this issue.

    I am usually the first one to take up arms in support of remaining single for a multitude of reasons. I have to respect him for his honesty rather than marrying some woman and subjecting her to his philandering, but types like him I find non-convincing. I think it’s because he generally
    turns me off as a person and I suspect his reasoning is superficial. Yet, at the same time the resdoning shouldn’t matter if one is living his own truth. I don’t know why I have a problem with him and not Michael Sheen. Maybe because Sheen can manage to date someone who isn’t a VS model.
    me off as a person and I susoect his reasons are quite superficial.

  24. janie says:

    I just love him & his voice! Cute as can be! Marriage is wonderful with the right person, but it’s not for the faint of heart! Ha!

  25. Rachel says:

    To avoid marriage for the sake of avoiding divorce is rather stupid. I understand the concept, but then it’s just messing with labels – the situations would still be the same. Like, he could be married to someone for a couple years then get divorced, but he could also be in a relationship with someone for a couple years and split up. It’s not like a relationship will magically last forever just because you don’t get married. Or that splitting up somehow won’t be awful just because it isn’t a divorce. It’s like if I were to have a rule about never gifting money, but give gift cards instead. The whole idea is the same, I’m just using the loophole because gift cards aren’t cash even though it’s still money.

    If he said he didn’t want to get married because he didn’t believe that relationships are meant to last, then I’d agree. People didn’t evolve to be lifelong monogamists. It’s only society that tells us we should pick a mate and stay with them for the rest of our lives. As it is, it seems like he just doesn’t want to get married because he’s afraid he’ll fail at it and get divorced… which he would. It’s Hollywood, after all.

  26. Lolly says:

    If his eyes were any closer together he’d be a cyclops. I’m sure no woman’s losing sleep over your decision Adam

  27. Sweet Dee says:

    I’m not a fan, but don’t think he’s that big of a douche. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a minimum level of douchiness one must achieve as a rock star as (in)famous as Adam, and he’s definitely got that. However, most of the BS that comes out of his mouth is indicative of someone who doesn’t think before he speaks, and I’ve been plenty guilty of that, so I know what it is to immediately regret my words. He does a lot of good work for the LGBT community and he defends his cast mates when someone is unfairly critical.

    That said, it’s his prerogative to not get married if he doesn’t want to, and regardless of what I think his real reason is (hint: agree with a lot of other posters), I’m not going to bash someone for making that decision.

    I’ve gotten a lot of heat from swearing off having babies from people who think they know I’ll change my mind. Maybe I will, but I don’t need their condescending opinion on the matter now or later, if that happens.

    I’m so sick of the high-and-mighty ripping on people for their life choices. How awful would the world be if we all made the same decisions?


    • anon33 says:

      OMG…the worst is when you say to someone honestly “I don’t want children, I never have, it’s just not for me,” and then they actually GASP OUT LOUD and say “That’s so horrible, don’t say that! How can you not want a kid? Don’t you want to give your parents grandchildren?”

      First of all, THIS IS MY LIFE, not my parents’ life.
      Second of all, my mom told me she has no interest in grandkids or dealing with them; she’s enjoying her life and doesn’t want them!!

      SO SICK of people judging me because of this issue. And especially when it comes from people who are in their thirties and haven’t been able to hold down ANY relationships EVER for longer than one year, yet they’re “praying for” me because I don’t want kids?? Go pray for yourself!!!!

      • Sweet Dee says:

        Oh, no kidding, anon. I feel you there. In fact, I was a very angry person for awhile because it felt like the judgment was never going to stop. How dare people try and guilt me into having children I don’t want by putting my parents unfairly in the middle. I’m sure you’ve been there.

        What’s it to anyone if you or I don’t have kids? If Levine doesn’t get married? Did anyone ask my parents or boyfriend what THEY think about my choice?

        When people discuss others’ life choices, from whether they marry to how they parent their children, it is nothing more than a way to validate their own choices. It’s just insecurity at it’s finest, that’s all. Problem is, it’s condescending and it’s not their business.

        As for the prayer thing, I like to tell such snobs that they could save their time talking to invisible men and use it to focus on their own life for a change.

      • Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

        In regards to my own life I’m not strongly in favour of, or opposed to getting married some day and I care even less if anyone else is.

        I just kind of cocked my head to the side with a gently creeped out expression on my face when I told about three weeks ago that people need spouses because we aren’t meant to through life alone.

        I have a really, really ‘driven snow’ lifestyle, partly by choice and partly by chance. When I was younger and stupider I would become incredibly sad and feel diminished because people would openly pity me for it.

        I never doubted that they were entirely sincere and wanted me to have the kind of happiness they’ve managed to have but it still backfired. I would feel as though I hadn’t hatched into a real life, that I didn’t have anything that’s desirable to men, that my life must be broken if so many people thought it was. At least other perpetually single people were looking for, wanting some changes and really complaining about their lot was a better sign than a person who appeared to them to be a latter day E. Dickinson.

        ‘Don’t you want to be happy? Don’t you think you deserve that?’ What in the bitchcakes?

        Good thing I grew up. People are going to ask and assume so I had to stop caring. I’m glad I did it. I am lucky though, in that no one in my family is obsessed with marriage and sees it as a part of life (or not) and don’t see it as life.

        I don’t know if I’ll ever feel like getting married or having children but if my mother wants more grandchildren they should just go buy some like everyone else.

        Don’t hold your breath on your child’s account.

      • Lemony says:

        I sincerely hope that all of you ladies can remain strong in all of this pressure that you’ve faced. For me it got worse after we got married. Because that’s the only point of marriage, right? To procreate. I don’t think so!
        Today we begin our 8th year of marriage and do not *gasp* have biological children. Freaks! Weirdos! Self-centered! No purpose in life!
        We have a 3yr old foster girl that we take care of, part-time. She is a doll & it’s been a great way to experience the ups & downs of parenting. It is likely in the next couple of years that’ll we try for a child of our own. Because that’s when we will be ready. I have such a hard time being forced to make decisions that I’m not ready for. When I’m a truly ready to do something then I commit 100%.
        Good evening to you all!

      • Lemony says:

        Sorry for hijacking this post & rambling on about myself…just wanted you all to know that there are lot of people, including married-&-hoping-for-child-type-couples like me, who support people who aren’t interested in marriage & all that “traditional stuff”. I always try to root for people to do what makes them happy.

      • Sweet Dee says:

        Ah, Lemony, that’s why I love it here. There are a lot of people who disagree with me, and often, but there are also a lot of people who agree with my opinions and support them even if they don’t. I mean, on any other site people are so aggressive and confrontational about these things, on both sides of any issue.

        There are a lot of people here who understand that no matter what is right for them, it’s not always right for someone else, and I appreciate that. Thank you for reminding me why I struggle to keep my jaded thoughts at bay ;)

        I saw your posts above and never got to congratulate you on your anniversary. That is awesome, congrats. I hope you two have a nice celebration, and I applaud your decision to make your choices at your own pace.

        Jo Mamma, “what the bitchcakes” is my new favorite thing to say, I’ve said it at work twice already. I completely agree with your post and I LOVE your style.

  28. Jayna says:

    Love him. This second wave of popularity for him and his band he is embracing and always humble about it, thankful. I love how he admits Shakira is paid more instead of pretending it’s not true. He’s a little douchey, but in an adorable, rockstar way. I love his and Blake’s bromance. At least, he isn’t married, off screwing a million groupies behind said wife’s back.

    • Beatriz says:

      I’m kind of indifferent towards him, but I too liked the comment on Shakira and that whole salary issue.

  29. lambchops says:

    Dunno, but seems like a line douchey dudes use who just want to chase an endless supply of undergrads.

  30. Zvonk says:

    Reading between the lines, he’s saying “you can’t be forced to pay a massive divorce settlement if you were never married in the first place”.

  31. David says:

    Given the sadistic financial risks any married man faces today, why would any sane dude sign such a contract? He’s opening himself up to decades, in some instances a lifetime of financial slavery.

    If Levine were to get divorced, he would probably have to end up forking over millions in alimony and lose half his stuff. That’s probably the real reason.

    • Lulu.T.O. says:

      WTF? Are you stuck in the 60′s? The financial risk is equal now between men and women. I lost my a$$ in my divorce.

      • Girlattorney says:

        Sing it, sister. I lost something far worse than $ in my divorce: I lost my first child. Because I lost my job around the same time, my only job offer was in another state, and the rule where I lived was essentially that unless the other parent was a heroin addict, if you moved out of state you lost custody. For the stability of the child.

        My son has now been in a different school every single year for the last five years (how’s that for stability?) and his father is raising him to hate me and to love his upcoming lifetime career at McDonald’s, pumped full of Ritalin.

        But women are just SOOOOOO coddled and catered to in divorce court. I swear, half the country thinks that Kramer v. Kramer was a d*mn documentary.

  32. Mew says:

    Woman = wedding, woman = children, woman = skinny stick thin hysteric helpless whatever… yeah, no thanks. I’m pro choice on this thing. If marriage works for some, good for them. I don’t see any need to get married. Or get kids. Or be stick thin. Or please guys.

  33. B says:

    This idiot needs to shut the hell up. Can’t stand when Dlisters act so smug & cocky.

  34. KellyinSeattle says:

    A relationship can falter whether married or not. I don’t think he meant any harm by saying it…just didn’t really think about it.

  35. Isabell says:

    Marriage is scary especially if you’re marrying Levine. Yuck, just yuck.

  36. Emma13 says:

    I like him. He says stupid things and may be a modelizer, but honestly it’s not like those girls don’t know what they’re getting into. I think he’s really hot because he reminds me of this guy I had a huge crush on in high school from his looks to some of his mannerisms.

  37. chrissy says:

    Slight sidebar: didn’t he and Behati break up?

  38. superfly says:

    that’s right, Adam, now take your shirt off.

  39. Barbara says:

    I just love him…ladies I have always had the best sex life with Jewish guys, they give it their all. He is Jewish, right??