I’ve been making an effort to NOT cover Kim Kardashian so much over the past week. Can you tell? Probably not. I’m getting a weird feeling though… like maybe tomorrow’s People Magazine cover will be the debut of little Knorth Kardashian West. My gossip sixth sense isn’t that refined about baby photos, so maybe I’m wrong. Just something to keep in mind though.
According to Us Weekly, Kim, Kanye and Knorth were out and about on Independence Day in Malibu – this was Knorth’s “first outing” apparently. There are no photos, so who knows? And Radar claims that Kim is adjusting to motherhood just fine because Kim gets plenty of sleep – she’s letting her night-nurse do all of the late night feedings.
After enduring a difficult pregnancy, Kim Kardashian is enjoying motherhood and isn’t losing any sleep because she has the best help money can buy! The reality star is getting plenty of beauty sleep because baby North West‘s night nurse takes care of Kanye West’s daughter if she needs a diaper change, or feeding, RadarOnline.com is exclusively reporting.
Kim “has been breast feeding Nori, and she always pumps before she goes to bed, in case the newborn wakes up in the middle of the night,” a family source tells Radar. “Kim and Kanye’s night nurse sleeps in the nursery with Nori, and if she needs a diaper change, a feeding, or just be soothed, it’s the hired help that is taking care of the baby.
“Kim wants to be well rested so she can be the best possible mom to Nori, and feels if she is sleep deprived, that isn’t going to happen. Kim is treasuring the time of being a new mom, and wants to enjoy it as much as possible, without being sleep deprived. Sleep is very, very important to Kim, without 8 to 10 hours, she just can’t function.”
New parents Kim and Kanye took their daughter North to Bruce Jenner‘s Malibu, Calif. beach house to celebrate Independence Day.
North was not photographed on the outing, as speculation swirls Kim’s “Momager,” Kris Jenner, is strategizing a way to maximize profit potential for the coveted first pictures of the A-list tot.
While Kanye has yet to change North’s diapers, Kim isn’t exactly doing a lot of that herself!
“She prefers to have the daytime nanny change North’s diaper,” the insider revealed. “Kim is absolutely stunned at how many diapers North goes through in just one day! There were concerns that the baby was getting a diaper rash, which is very normal, but it has disappeared.
“Kim does love to burp Nori after feedings, and adores the sound the baby makes. North’s yawns illicit ooh’s and ahh’s from her proud parents!”
So, Kim breastfeeds during the day, she pumps in the evening and then she goes to sleep. She doesn’t change Knorth’s diapers at night (because Kim is asleep), nor during the day (because Kim doesn’t want to), and other than that… Kim just likes to burp the baby? Sure. Okay. I won’t get all judgy about it. I’m not a mother, and I’m sure there are so many mothers of newborns who wish they had a good night nurse to do all of the work while they slept.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
Shocking.
It is shocking that she doesn’t even TRY.
I’m sure she could manage a few months without her beauty sleep.
And the fact that neither her nor Kanye is changing diapers during the day? I don’t even have words for that.
The part about not changing diapers at night isn’t that offensive to me. I think if she has the means to have a competent person care for the baby while she gets some rest, that’s fine. But during the day? You as a parent need to learn ALL about how to care for your baby, the “fun, cute” stuff like playing and burping, and also the messy, crazy, tough stuff, of which diaper changing is the LEAST difficult. How will you know if your baby is coming down with something, is too hot or too cold, or just visibly uncomfortable (which can mask serious issues like ear infections, etc) if you are only around to burp the baby and gush over her yawns? That’s just irresponsible and already creating disconnects for the future of their relationship with that baby.
I’m 35 weeks pregnant and therefore stabby about this. I’m tired, feel like a menopausal whale and seemingly throw out my back every time I lift my toddler.
When my daughter was born in 2011, we kept her in our bedroom so I could nurse her at night. If she’s serious about breastfeeding, introducing a bottle at night THIS EARLY could be harmful for the bonding process (unless medically necessary because of preterm birth). She’s also missing out on a serious opportunity to bond with her daughter. I mean, it’s totally her call, and I’m not trying to play the role of a sanctimommy, but her choices seem so typically self-indulgent – which isn’t unexpected. It’s just disappointing, because we all like to think people will change when they have a child.
I didn’t sleep more than 2 hours at a time until my daughter was 4 months old, and I accepted that fully (albeit tiredly) as just a part of my choice to become a parent.
I’d kill for 10 hours of sleep. KILL. FOR. IT.
I’m waiting for the sister wars. Courtney seems like a really good mother. She’s also opinionated, and I can’t see her staying quiet for long!
TEN hours a night? She probably couldn’t pick her baby out of a line up. So much for bonding.
LOL–you hit the nail on the head.
Neither my daughter nor I slept for the entire first year of her life…never was a more colicky baby.
But, that’s part of the bonding. Have a feeling Nori is going to be an accessory (when it’s convenient) much like that unfortunate little kitten was.
Get your ten (10) hours Kim, you entitled, self-absorbed, shallow POS. Poor Nori.
My sister’s mother-in-law offered to hire a night nanny for her, and it made my sister sob!
She told me, “When my little girl wakes up at 3:00am, I WANT to be the one that comforts her. There are moments I have had with her in the middle of the night that I would not trade for ANYTHING.”
My sis was a bit emotional when she said this, of course, but I could see her reasoning.
BWAH. Why is anyone surprised by this? She only had that kid for the attention (and to give Pimp Grandma Kris another child to put on the ho stroll).
Well, she def. needs 8-10 hours of sleep at night. Burping a baby is EXHAUSTING!
The title should be
“Kim K is letting the nurses do all of the work”
or
“Its breast feeding and burping only for Kim K”
or
“Kim K’s life hasn’t changed much since North West’s birth”
Or “Becoming Parents Did Not Change Kanye or Kim for the better”
Or “Brand New Parents but Still Busted Ass Busters”
Nah. The title is what it is for most Hollywood parents: “Accessory Baby”.
Do you know her personally? How do you know what she’s doing with her baby, you can’t believe all this stuff you read online and if you do, I feel sorry for you and the others who are judging.
I thought the quiet night time breast feedings were so special. It is the middle of the night, it’s quiet, and your baby is looking up at you and you are falling more and more in love with your child by the day. I don’t think Kim has much maternal instinct.
Of kourse she is!
You know what? I really was rooting for her to be a good mom for the least since she is typically not a good person… she is a failure
“Kim wants to be well rested so she can be the best possible mom to Nori, and feels if she is sleep deprived, that isn’t going to happen.”
I’m not a mom yet, but I find this statement insulting to all of the moms out there who DID do a good job despite their lack of sleep. As in, most of them. Plus she clearly has no problem admitting that sleep is more important than her child, otherwise she would be determined to be the best mom regardless of how much sleep she got.
Totally agree, please let’s not let night nurse be the new way to mom shame other moms!!!
All my children slept through the night by their fourth birthdays (I am not kidding). I would have jumped at hired help at night if we could have could afforded it. As it was, with Baby #2, I was so thrashed that I didn’t even hear her sometimes. My husband would wake up and fetch her for me so I could feed her at night.
Happy to report that everyone survived that time period, and all three offspring made it to adulthood.
Upsides:
1. Thank goodness my husband was around at night to fetch babies;
2. All three offspring made it to adulthood.
PS All the people trashing K&K because the nannys/nurses might end up raising the kid: From where I sit, that might be a good thing.
Is this really a shock? She won’t be a mom to this child. The nanny will raise her. So sad when celebrities use children as accessories. Some people shouldn’t reproduce.
Remember that poor little cat, Mercy? (RIP little guy). Yup… need I say more.
Don’t get all the Mercy hate. She gave the cat to her assistant and it died of cancer. Kim didn’t kill it.
Not having to get up for night feedings is a great reason to co-sleep! As a mother, I found it very uncomfortable to leave my baby in another room from me for much more than an hour at a time. But I was probably a nervous mother.
Before she gave the cat to her assistant she would just leave it around the place. Kourtney would ask “where the cat” and Kim wouldn’t know. She keep losing it and seemed not to really care about at all.
Um, I don’t know where my cat is, right now, either. He’s around here somewhere.
That cat looked absolutely miserable in every photo, and she carried that poor thing around like it was a purse.
I always believed Kim was responsible for the cat’s death!! Then after it died they got another white kitten to film the “giving it to the assistant” bull s*h*i*t.
Iwanttolive- Why, I always know where my cat is! Wait a minute while I find the Loc8tor unit for the pager on her collar. There we go, beep. Beep beep beep. Beep beep beep beepbeepbeeepbeep. She’s somewhere on the roof. No, now she’s in the front yard. Wait, now she’s in the back yard. Oh, you want to know where the other cat is, the one who gets his collar off and buries it so I gave up years ago? We’ll have to wait a couple of hours until he gets hungry. But he’s somewhere in the house or yard, he’s not an escape artist like his foster daughter and stays inside the cat proof fence….
It’s too late for poor Mercy, but once little Ka-Ching! Kardashian North ByNorth West starts crawling, I highly recommend a fashionable pager necklace. Or maybe they can microchip her with a GPS signal generator.
How do we know this is true? Who is in the house with them that runs back and report to Radar what goes on in their house in the middle of the night.
Oh and Kim out and about and not being papped; I find that hard to believe. If she was out with the baby I’m sure paps would have been everywhere; especially on a holiday in Malibu.
If I could afford it I would not only have a night nurse but a nanny and live in maid.
@ V4Real, they’re filming The Judge up the street from me.
If I see RDJ on my walk home today, I’ll tell him you said hi.
After I have sex with him.
Over and over again.
Nah, I wouldn’t do that but ONLY because he’s married.
TOK No joke I almost drove to Boston yesterday to see the filming. I have a friend that lives in Franklin and she was going to meet me there but im prearing to leave for DR so I didn’t go.o.
You better not have sewith my hubby. I will hunt you down; I’m only four houtrrs away. If you see him ask him if he remembers his one night stand from 2002; nooooooo don’t do that. LOL
TOK ignore the typos trying to type from my phone while hiding what im saying from my friends. Im on my fourth margarita; but im on vacation so its ok.
@ dorothy,
True. I wouldn’t worry about Kim being able to “bond with the baby.” She is not psychologically or emotionally capable of bonding with a….kitten.
I keep wondering how her pediatrician appts will go. Dr’s ask how many diapers a day the baby is going through. If they’re eliminating properly, etc. How will she be able to answer any of these questions if she’s handing off the baby to someone else for every little thing. Maybe she won’t go to dr’s appts either though. Maybe that’ll be another duty for the nanny.
Look no judgement but is anyone surprised by the fact that two of the worlds biggest narcissists would do this? That poor baby.
My baby was born 2 weeks after hers and I can’t judge…I would kill for a night nurse.
Yes!
Some mothers love that bon they get from caring for their baby every moment day or night. Some can’t bond unless they get sleep. Some just hire nannies. There’s nothing wrong here.
If someone is complaining that Kim should be the one getting up instead of the hired nanny they pay for out of their own pockets then it might be jealousy or being too judgy because it’s a way to attack.
And honestly. The way some people have criticized her lack of maternal instincts (myself included) can’t criticize her for hiring someone to properly take care of the baby
I agree totally. Kim is breast feeding and bonding with the baby plenty. If I had their money why would I change diapers and wake up during the night if I could afford a night nurse? I would definitely get one for the first months, no problem whatsoever with doing that…yeah like the people griping about her doing that wouldn’t get a nurse themeslves if they could afford it…LOL.
I agree. If you can afford it, why not? She still bonds with the baby during the day.
Do what you want, but assuming that everyone who could afford a night nurse would want one is ridiculous. You don’t need to make things up to justify yourself.
I have never met a new mother who turned down the offer of help. I was a pediatric nurse for years and I could not drag these mothers out of bed to feed/comfort/or change their own baby’s diaper. And if you think these kids wanted comfort from the nurse over mommy you’re wrong. I can’t stand Kim, but there are MANY new parents who would hire help.
I hate feeling the need to defend this cow, but if this was sweet dumb little Jessica Simpson, everyone would be talking about how the poor dumb thing needs her rest at night.
The issue is not so much, should she be losing sleep now, but that if she can’t commit to something so basic as feeding and changing her baby, how much will she even be able to give of herself to this child when she is older and really needs her time and attention? Fine, you get help with your baby. But if the baby only functions as a toy or accessory for you, for God’s sake don’t have one. Go buy another kitten. Or a doll, at least you can’t hurt that.
Agreed! I have a 8 month old who has been sleeping through the night for a while but I can remember many times in the first few months saying how great it would be to have a night nanny so I could get more than 2 or 3 hours of sleep at a time! In fact, I still think that most mornings when my early riser wakes up for the day at 5:30 or 6:00!
I remember those nights… I would be soo exhausted a couple of times I fell asleep nursing… And then I got so lazy about going into the nursery every 3 hours I started co-sleeping with my son he’s 16 months now and I can’t get him out of my bed…
Don’t worry. They will get older and it will get better.
And they will know, deep down in their bones, that you really love them. That’s the most basic thing you can do for your child’s psyche.
I can say that there are nights I wish I had a night nurse buuuuttt…especially in the beginning, I needed to see that she was okay. My husband would get up and give her a pumped bottle just fine but I inevitably would get up 10 times to check if she was breathing, rolled a weird way, whatever. I’m not saying Kim isn’t doing that but I really can’t imagine just sleeping through every night so early on without a care in the world.
Which reminds me – Kanye can’t get up to bond with the baby at night? He can sleep whenever he wants, he’s not on the clock. Neither is she.
Aw, best to you!! It’s tough all right!
My baby is due in a month, I don’t have money like KK but I do have the money to hire a night nanny if I’d like and my husband insists I do but I refuse. I would understand more if she had another child that contributed to her exhaustion, but she doesn’t technically have a job, so basically her whole day is free to take care of her FIRST child, yet she still can’t change a diaper? I understand the sleeping thing but plenty of moms with or without money with more than one child still get sleep whenever their kids are asleep and can take care of them…why can’t she? Because she doesn’t want to. I have no sympathy for her, especially when she brought this child into the world knowingly by getting off her birth control. Children aren’t accessories. I’d sympathize with her more if she worked an actual full time job like the rest of us, and now a reality TV show and whoring out cheap products isn’t a job.
+1,000,000,000
Isn’t this kind of thing the convention in celebrities world ? I can’t see Beyonce, victoria Beckham or Goop to name a few get up in the middle of the night to take care of their baby.
I agree with the exception of Victoria Beckham. Say what you will about her but she comes across as a very devoted mother. She even had the bags under her eyes after her daughter was born.
Lol no, she had a dislocated disc shortly after her daughter birth, she couldn’t even carry her daughter at that time.
Agreed, but I can see Victoria Beckham getting up. Maybe not all the time, but a lot. She comes across as a hands on Mom to me. 🙂
I can’t she’s way too vain for that, rumour as it she got back problems because she kept wearing high heels during her whole pregnancy.
@Lovegossip, that’s what I attempted to convey, thank you.
@Bubulle, I was referring to this article http://www.celebitchy.com/209418/victoria_beckham_explains_her_appearance_im_tired_harpers_not_sleeping_great/
Give the woman the benefit of the doubt.
And the article stated too she was stress because she was working on her new collection, but of course she said it was because Harper had sleepless nights. Remember how she paraded around newborn Harper during Ny fashion week 2011 like a goddamn accessory, what was the point, a caring mom would have let her baby at home.
I wasn’t trying to start a debate if whether this person neither of us personally know truly is an adequate mother because I think merely asking that question even towards a narcissistic individual like Kim Kardashian or Victoria Beckham is judgmental and unfair.
I wouldn’t have even bothered responding to you but your ”Lol” reply tug a nerve. The way you casually dismissed my opinion over yours. Unless you know VB, a person you blindly dislike, personally then your gossip isn’t superior to mine. That is all, carry on.
Johanna I wasn’t trying to start a debate either. I’m entitled to my opinion regarding VB or any other celebs for that matter the same way you are, feel free to disagree. I only gave concrete arguments to justify my opinion and I’m really sorry if you found my answer dismissive that really wasn’t my intention. That being said I found your answer extremely condescending and unnecessary aggressive. I feel the need to remind you that this website is full of people who just like me blindly dislike certain celebrities, I assume this is not you first post here, you should get use to it. No hard feelings.
I can’t fault her for any of that.
For some reason I find fault with her not changing diaper’s during the day. So she calls the nanny over every time the baby needs a new diaper? Or is the nanny with the baby all of the time and Kim only pops in to breast feed?
I’m not a mom, so I may very well be wrong about this, but I think if I had a baby and had the luxury of having someone else take on diaper duty, I would totally take advantage of it. Why deal with poopy diapers if you don’t have to?
If this baby is truly breastfed(doubt it), poopy diapers aren’t even bad to deal with. It looks like mustard and doesn’t even stink like formula-fed. Sorry to be so graphic.
Changing diapers is a huge bonding time.
there is lots of touch and play.
I would have loved a nurse, but she should at least be changing the pee diapers or she will be missing out.
So true on the poopy diapers of breastfed babies – no smell and no big deal either. I would sing to my daughter when I would change her and so would my husband. You marvel at their sweet little bodies and hold them and touch them. You start looking into their eyes. It’s not like with an adult diaper! 🙂
I’m a mum and I don’t mind judging the hell outta this one. Sure, you’d like some more sleep but (and this is just my opinion) night-time stuff and diaper changing is part of caring for your newborn. I know the ‘what if’ situation doesn’t apply, as in what if your nurse gets hit by a bus because the answer would be she’d just call the agency for another nurse.
Not saying I didn’t accept three nights of sleeping through the night when grandma offered to feed baby at 2am but every night? C’mon woman!
And some people have to wash their clothes by beating them against rock in a river. You wash yours in a washing machine because you have the money to buy one. Should I judge you for that? No, of course not. You do the easiest thing that your socio-economic situation lets you do. So, Kim has the money to avoid the most unpleasant aspects of caring for a newborn, so what?? Bonding doesn’t have to do with the daipers, but the time you spend doing all kinds of other things. Chill out.
Are you really likening breastfeeding and bonding with your precious newborn baby to laundry? Those months of constant care and absolutely no sleep were certainly hard for me, but I wouldn’t trade that time for anything in the world. Kim is missing out, and more importantly, so is her baby.
If changing your childs diaper is unpleasant then maybe you shouldn’t have kids? It’s common knowledge that babies poop and pee and need to be cared for. If you can’t handle it or dislike it, you’re probably not ready for a baby.
For god’s sake there is absolutely no comparison between giving loving personal care to someone and doing the laundry, on a rock or otherwise. Yes, diapers are unpleasant but easily handled by any competent adult. She just wants to be a teenager forever and her mother wants that too. It’s self-indulgent, as per usual, and she’s a twit.
I’m basically with FeeBee on this one although sure- some help would be great (like a few of the nights). It’s hard to get up, but I tell you- some of my most precious memories were nursing in the middle of the night, staring at this beautiful new little life. There’s something about the still of the night and being all alone with the baby that is just wonderful.
i was so batshit paranoid during the evenings when mine was a newborn…constantly checking if she was breathing (finger under the nose, finger under the nose!) scared shitless of SIDS then trying not to roll over & crush her after 2am breastfeedings!!!
simply too spastic in the evenings… a complete worrywart. 😕
Stuff like this isn’t that weird – it’s just that in many countries, the family does it. When I had my baby, my husband’s large Syrian family actually tried to move in with us (his mother and sisters actually did). They actually explained to me that in many cultures, it is expected that other people will help out with the baby and help let the mother sleep and have time for herself. Personally, the American model seems so…unsustainable to me. Constantly having no sleep, having no time for yourself – how does that create a happy or balanced family? It doesn’t. I don’t take issue with the night nurse or anything like that. Though I do have to wonder why people with aversions to diapers have kids. That’s sort of the package deal with them.
I don’t believe no one is knocking having help. If you can have family or afford some type of help, hell yeah we would go for it. But considering the subjects of this story, it is not all that surprising. Nothing is going to change in their life and an innocent newborn can pay the price.
I don’t think it’s very fair to say that lives don’t change. trust me, after you give birth, a lot changes whether you like it or not. The article isn’t saying that Kim has nothing to do with her baby – just that she uses a nurse at night and to change the diapers. People read too much into this stuff. I have a ton of help – it was awesome. I don’t think this stuff alone makes Kim K a lousy mom. I’ve reserve my judgment on that until we’re able to see more of her child-rearing skills.
It’s not saying that having help is bad. What’s wrong is having a COMPLETE and TOTAL stranger in your house holding and caring for the most precious thing in the world.
It’s not Grandma or Auntie staying and helping it’s a STRANGER!!!
Is this person taking good care of the baby? Who knows? Kim and Kanye are asleep in another room, more than likely with no baby monitor.
I have to disagree about the “how does this create a happy balanced family part” there are plenty of families that are just that having been through the whole sleep deprivation can’t use the bathroom by yourself thing mine included but I will say a support system is always welcome.
But just because you did okay doesn’t mean the system is good. There is actually research that says that American kids are far more likely than their counterparts to die via child abuse (especially shaken baby syndrome). Part of this, the research finds, is because parents in America are often expected to do it on their own – and that leads to parents who are angry, frustrated and they snap. Nothing you said really disproves that the current way of doing things is not sustainable or really that good.
My mom makes the same argument. I was also saying to her how strsnge our systsm of rearing has become. There are fewer multi-generational households. People live far distances from their families. It used to be that while mom claned she would send her kids to play in the neighborhood with cousins and other children. Now American parents have to responsible virtually for every single minute of their kd’s time, it seems like.
In my culture it’s the same. Having nannies are a luxury that people think you’d be dumb or poor to go without. And family members help because having kids is a lot of work. I think mommies with newborns should definitely do some of the work (because come on its like the group project that you just end up taking credit for), but all on your own is just crazy IMO especially if you’re working. It’s not fair to the mom or the child. The American system is batshit crazy. People have a suck it up attitude when the reality is, the system at present just sucks.
I just don’t agree that the American system is bat crazy. I had four kids, two years apart. While the first few months are hard and some help is appreciated, I actually didn’t like it when my mother stayed longer than a week. I love being in charge of my own family and I find other people sort of add to the stress. It’s hard having a baby. It’s also great. It’s hard having children, but it’s in the mundane tasks of parenting that you bond and fall in love. I love the American hands on way of parenting and I see it in lots of other cultures too.
I am an American, only child, and all my mother does is complain on how little sleep she got after she had me. I am 32 years old and she has nothing pleasant to say about the first 4 years of my life because they were so stressful for her. I am now living in Canada where women take 1 year maternity leave and encouraged to breastfeed for a year as well. I feel there is more family closeness up here, particularly with the mother-daughter bond which I never had with my own mother. Women in the US are expected to “have it all” and they are very stressed out and exhausted when they have kids and expected to go back to work after 6 weeks, barely any time at all to bond with one’s child. My question is how well do their children really know them when they spend most of their young lives in a daycare?
@Andrea That’s exactly what I’m talking about. The American system does not work in anyone’s favor. My cousin is pregnant and she’ll have 6 weeks unpaid maternity leave. She also has a 4 year old currently. It’s not like they can’t afford to have kids, the system just sucks for them. She’s already tired and exhausted despite her mother helping her out ALL the time.
@AmyLynne There’s nothing wrong with being a hands on parent. My father could learn from your example. That’s a GOOD thing. Loving your child, feeding your child, diapering your child, speaking with your child, listening to them, etc are ALL good things. And yes, I do include the mind-numbing grunt work that can come with children. I think it builds character. But I’m not of the opinion that you absolutely need to do this all the time at the detriment of your own health.
Most women here with nannies or without are hands on parents. I don’t feel anything for Kanye or Kim who can’t change their child’s diapers. I do judge them for that, especially since their “work” isn’t really that strenuous. As a parent you should be able to handle your child for a day or two without outside help. My dad couldn’t handle it, nor did he have any sort of child-rearing involvement. He’s just the sperm donor, nothing more and there’s not much he can do to ever not be that. But my mother did all that and much much much more. She will always have my undying respect for it. But my point is you shouldn’t have to do it every single day because it’s somehow good for you or because you have no other option to. There needs to be balance for new moms, old moms, young (I DON’T MEAN TEENS!!!) moms, whatever. Your emotional and mental health is important.
You absolutely as a mother deserve enough sleep, food, and someone to care for you. You shouldn’t have to worry about work, health insurance, or any of that other crap. And THIS is my problem with the American system. Mothers are already put in such an uneven keel with the majority of the work put on their backs. Maternity leave, health insurance, daycare, none of that guaranteed at an affordable cost for them either. It’s not fair and it shouldn’t be that way.
I’m not really interested on being either side of this debate. I’m a little tired of the crowd that gets super defensive about their choice to have a nanny to the point of being incredibly rude. I’m not interested in the crowd that giving all your time and devotion to your child is the only way to be a parent either again to the point of being rude. All of the advice and/or criticism is well meaning and I think most parents can find a balance that works for them. No one has the right way to parent, but there should be options for people out there that allows for parents to maintain a level of flexibility, happiness, and a career if they so choose.
But I’m from a lower socio-economic class than most folks. Been poor practically my entire life and it infuriates me that women on my end have to suffer with the constant mental and emotional strain of being pregnant or having kids while bozos like the Kardashians can just make money off of having a baby.
People judge these working class parents anytime they their child isn’t a perfect angel, so it does not bother me that KK gets her fair share of criticism. She has enough Yes men in her life to stroke her ego anyways. And you can bet your left big toe she’s going to find a way to cash in even more on this child. At the very least at least she cares enough about her child (or her image) to get her baby a nanny.
I should also say I’m not married, I have no kids, am not 100% sure I want them, and in my early twenties. So you can tell me to shut up anytime.
I would have died for help! I had zero help when my son was born & I ended up with severe depression & daily panic attacks. The current American system may well work for some families, but I bet a lot would benefit greatly from some in-home help
Thanks for pointing this out – it makes the situation look different seeing it from this angle.
In my opinion the the huge difference here is family vs. paid help. I can accept extended family helping because they love the baby and want to bond with the baby vs. paying someone to do the things you don’t want to do with your baby.
This is EXACTLY what the issue is.
It works on a metaphoric level. I don’t want to deal with your “#@8!” so I’ll pay someone else to deal with your “#@8!”. When it’s your child, this route means you aren’t connected, grounded or real.
Thank you for saying it! My mom was a stay-at-home-mother and when my two siblings and I were born my grandma stayed for a couple of weeks, even though my parents had hired a nanny. And you know what? My siblings and I had no problem bonding with our parents. While I was at university in the UK, I (and usually others south americans) was the one of the few ones who talked with my parents almost at a daily basis via skype! I’m always surprised of how judgmental we women tend to be when it comes to maternity…
Yeah it would be nice to have staff for everything but here’s my take. I would bet you my paycheck (small as it is) that the nurses are doin at least 75% of the labor. And Kim only does the breast feeding and holding her when it pleases her. Also, she needs to get on with it and show pix if she’s going to because let’s be real, the royal baby will eclipse her.
Oooh, you are right about getting eclipsed! I hadn’t thought of that. I’ll bet they have, though. Come on, Kate! Have that baby already!!
@Joy – That was my feeling, regarding the attention on the baby. I said in another thread more than a week ago that I believed she & Kanye were ‘over-playing’ their hand, waiting so long to go ahead with release the name, then pics… because Will & Kate’s baby was going to come soon, & then no one will be paying them any attention at all.
If you could, why wouldn’t you hire someone to change diapers and stuff? I’m sure there are a lot of women who if they had the money would hire night nurses and nannies. Doesn’t mean they love their kids any less. How many times you change a nasty diaper shouldn’t equate to how much you love the child.
I had the money and there was no effing way I was letting someone else take care of my newborn. You’re the mom, be the mom. Occasional help from family? Sure. The late nights were tough, but looking back I realize they were some of the most special times. Just you and your baby while the rest of the world sleeps — it’s such an important bonding time. If this is true she’s just doing what we all knew she would, I’m not surprised in the least.
^ ALL OF THAT!!! Totally agree. It’s bonding and your job as a mom. Those long ass sleepless nights are part of the deal. …8 to 10 hours of beauty sleep *smdh*
Exactly! Those moments are irreplaceable in my opinion. And if you can’t handle the basic responsibilities that come with having a baby, like changing a diaper that takes, oh, all of one minute of your day, why have a baby?
I feel like this baby is a thing to her. And if she’s not into diapers, who will potty train the kid? Snotty noses and what not. I mean the caring for the child is part of loving it. But did any of us REALLY think she would change?
I agree with Me2. I just spent the entire night/morning nursing my one month old every hour. Am I tired? Yeah. But, I don’t care. I love every second of it. I expected this when I decided to become a mother. Your body adjusts to the sleepless nights, too… In most cases.
Agree!!! Best parts about being a mom is raising them.
I think it is insulting to assume that everyone who can afford help wants it. Like assuming that everyone would have a mansion and a fleet of cars “if they could afford it” and the only reason anyone does anything humble is because they don’t have the money. Some people are happy living and actually doing things themselves.
I so agree Pia, things and money can be so empty and meaningless.
FWIW, I (being the dad) was the “night nurse” for our kids. My wife breastfed and changed them for the day, and then she pumped and I did it at night.
You’re a real man and a great dad I’m betting. I think that’s the key – teamwork. Having/raising a child is messy, exhausting, chaos for a MINIMUM 18 years. Diapers are rough, yes, but it’s always demanding and dirty work to be an involved parent (I am admittedly leaving out all the obviously amazing perks here) If you aren’t willing to get your hands dirty, you’re going to miss out on so much. I love and respect those who have sacrificed for me, and I make sacrifices for others, not bc of any obligation but bc I love them and that’s what you do. Dirty diapers are a small sacrifice of time and effort compared to what will be needed when they’re older. If mom AND dad bust their butts raising a kid – it is sustainable. A rough ride to be sure, but possible and completely worth it.
Because I didn’t have a dad, I always find devoted fathers amazing. Like even just seeing them in the park makes me tear up not in jealousy but in happiness.
Me too. I think a good dad is the sexiest thing on earth.
I thought I was the only one. Good dads (ones that hold themselves to high standards) seem to exist in the minority.
completely agree with you guys
@MonicaQ – I am so sorry you didn’t have a father =( Hearing stories like these… Make me realize how incredibly lucky I’ve been. Somehow, I managed to have *2* loving dads… My 1st (an awesome, hands-on father) passed in a car accident when I was 2. But then at 4, my step father (my dad’s best friend since elementary school all the way to adulthood), who *always* treated me like I was his own.
Sometimes you just have to stop & realize how fortunate you really are.
I agree with the others. =) I know you didn’t say it for the purpose of getting praise, but, your wife is a lucky lady, & your child a very lucky kid.
Meh… It would have been nice to have a night of relief once a week or so but I just breastfed and went back to sleep.
You get into a routine and honestly I would want to breastfeed in the middle of the night to relieve my engorged boobs! I highly doubt she is breastfeeding. And that is fine if she isn’t.. just don’t lie about it.
If she isn’t doing much for the kid and Kanye can’t be bothered to change a diaper then that is their loss in the end.
If she is, she will do it 6 weeks, fein “supply issues” and stop so she can get her body back. Annoying.
I agree. You can’t go 8-10 hours without nursing or pumping and keep up your supply.
I have friends who used a night nurse for the first month when they had twins but this just sounds ridiculous. I’m glad she can find the time to ooh and aah at the baby during her waking hours. She really needs a pat on the back for burping her too!!
I don’t believe for one second she is breastfeeding, no way. If I ever slept for 6 hrs, my family would call paramedics. Who sleeps that much? What does she have to be so tired from. Good grief.
Agree. Highly doubt she is exclusively BF, no way a woman can go 10 hours without relieving the boobies when the baby is this young.
Agree sometimes u become so engorged u beg for the baby so u can feed.its excruciating!!!and in the beginning u fill up constantly no way 8-10 straight hours is possible
Yeah, she’s a while away from her supply being regulated if she’s exclusively breastfeeding. That, in and of itself, makes this a fishy story.
I came here to write the same thing. I doubt she’s breastfeeding at all. You can’t pump once before bedtime for a newborn and then sleep for 8 to 10 hours. Any woman who has breastfed understands what I’m saying.
So she likes the cute parts of the baby. She can’t function on less than 10 hours of sleep, but she doesn’t do more than burp the baby and admire her yawning. This is who is allowed to procreate?
I can’t imagine anybody expected differently. Of course Kim and Kanye weren’t going to be doing the bulk of the work. Nothing shocking here.
I’m reading this on my iPad as I breastfeed my daughter at 12.35am. Yes, I am sleep deprived. Yes, I would love 8-10 hours of unbroken sleep. Yes, it would be nice not to change every dirty diaper. However, I wouldn’t change a thing. I love this time with my daughter, sleep deprivation and all! It’s Kim’s loss.
I was going to say te same thing — I actually feel sorry for her that she’s missing that time. But she could care less I’m sure. (If this is true.)
“I am reading this on my IPad while breastfeeding my kid. I love this time with my daughter. “ARE YOU BEING SERIOUS? How are you actually WITH your daughter if you’re focused on reading gossip?
Dana, you can’t multitask? The iPad is standing up on a side table next to the glider that I breastfeed in. My daughter is lying on a breast feeding pillow allowing my hands to free. The middle of the night feed she “sleep eats” so there’s not much interaction. It’s really not that difficult. My primary focus is on her, not the gossip site. I don’t know about you, but I don’t have to focus so much when I read,
Wow Jenn — For a sleep-deprived new mother you were certainly waaaay more kind and civil to Dana’s comment than I would have been!
Is it possible to continue to breastfeed if you sleep for 10 hours, even if you pump right before bed? Would your body make enough milk during the daytime? That wasn’t my experience, but every one is different I guess.
I doubt she’s really breastfeeding or doing much of the work, but hopefully there is quality time and forming a bond nonetheless.
Not my experience either. See my comment above
Yeah, this all sounds suspect to me. And I would be amazed and impressed if she were able to exclusively breast-feed during the day and still pump enough extra milk to feed a baby overnight. This baby is so small, she has to still wake up every couple of hours.
Your body works on a supply and demand system for breastmilk production – if you consistently don’t feed overnight, after about a week your body will adjust to produce less milk at a slower rate. She’ll probably still wake up with tits like boulders, but it is possible for supply to adjust itself like that.
Supply and demand *typically* takes longer than this. I doubt she is one of the exceptions to that rule. And you know damn well we’d hear engorgement pain stories from her if he was going some 8-10 hours in between relieving herself. Please. I’m not buying this story. Don’t know what the truth is but this isn’t it.
This is true for an older baby, not a newborn. Newborns need to eat roughly every two hours around the clock. Someone who has just given birth is not making enough milk to store enough for multiple overnight feedings.
Yes it’s possible. I pumped or fed every 3 hours for the first 2 weeks or so. Then I started pumping before bed to get enough for a middle of the night bottle. My husband fed him at 11:00 and 4:30 and I did a feeding at 1:30. So I was going around 6 hours between night feeds by 3 weeks and then he dropped the 1:30 feed by 6 weeks so I would pump before bed and then not feed again until around 7. I always had enough milk to feed my baby plus pump 2 bottles a day. I’m still nursing now at 8 months so it never caused my supply to dip.
yeah this story is total BS (as per usual with KK). One, you would be in total pain after that many hours of not breastfeeding, plus who would want to breastfeed, THEN pump right away? You would be so sore!
Anyway, if she has a night nurse AND a day nanny for diapers… what does she actually do? All newborns do is eat, poop and sleep.
So yeah, sounds like the nannies are raising it. Which is a good deal for the baby, actually.
I’m not hating on her… I would do the same thing. I need my sleep, too.
“Sleep is very, very important to Kim, without 8 to 10 hours, she just can’t function”
Seriously? Who, mother or not, gets 8 to 10 hours of sleep a night?
I do. And I have a 7 year old and a 2 year old and a demanding career (that i should get back to rather than read this site!)
Because I love my kids and my family, I put sleep above other things, like staying up to unwind, to watch tv, to have some wine, even sometimes to do the laundry (and I try to get laundry etc. done in the evening between dinner and baths.) My husband is a full partner. Key, I know. But not my fault if you didn’t find one. I sleep 8 hours, going to sleep right after kids do, and still find time to exercise most days.
If I could afford a nanny, I would totally get one, especially for the first 6 months.
Being a mom is effing hard work. Y’all should be getting your zzzs, and don’t blame others who figure out how to do it.
Good for you. I go to sleep after the kid is in bed too. Better than staying up until midnight eating popcorn and watching movies, like my husband does. Helps keep the weight off – chronic lack of sleep is a huge stresser in our lives.
I wonder if chronic sleep deprivation is a major part of the reason so many women gave trouble losing the “baby weight”. Lack of enough sleep actually interferes with normal fat use/storage processes (we seem to hang on to the fat more readily when sleep deprived).
I think between being pregnant, school, 40-hr a week work-week, and moving I get about 4-5hrs. It’s exhausting but sadly after my first degree, I’m used to it. I just crash for 10-12 hrs on Saturday and then I’m fine.
I can’t fault Kim for this. I don’t think my mother ever got up in the night for me or my siblings. In her culture family comes and supports the woman for a long time after birth, doing the cooking, looking after baby so she can sleep uninterrupted and so on. IMO it’s nice, and it’s how things used to be for most people.
A lot of my friends have their husbands on night duty, or their mothers in the early days. It’s not that unusual.
I don’t see the point in being a martyr. If you are offered help or are able to pay for it, why not? Long-term sleep deprivation isn’t good for anyone.
I am absolutely useless in the middle of the night. After I actually fell asleep trying to feed my son when he was a few days old, my husband and I decided that he would take the night shift, and I would get up with the baby in the morning while my husband slept in for an hour or so. I don’t feel guilty that I didn’t get up with him at night. It wasn’t good for me, and it was dangerous for him.
I think a lot of people consider there to be a huge difference between getting help from family members who also want to bond with your baby, than paying a stranger to do the job for you every single night.
Babies bond to the person who cares for them.
Well, Kim never claimed she was going to be mother of the year and take care of the baby herself like other celebs have. It was always going to be this way. There was always going to be nannies and nurses.
At least she is pumping and hired someone competent enough to care for the baby. There’s no neglect and the baby is comforted by someone.
I remember getting up in the middle of the night with my daughter. At the time, it was completely exhausting and I’m sure I wished I had someone to help me out other than my husband. But when I think about it now, those were really sweet moments with my baby. I now look at it as precious bonding time. I’m sure the only thing Kim wants to bond with is a big bag of money, though.
I wish I could’ve afforded a night nurse
This bitch.
Ok.. I’ll be the bad guy and I’m a mom. Wtf does she do? Ohh, right.. she burps her. This is the most ridiculous line of BS. She needs to be well rested to be a ‘good’ mom? Is this a pilot for another Kk reality series. I’m sure she just following in Kourtney’s footsteps…. Not. It is crystal clear that she really did accidentally get pregnant. I know she moaned & complained during the pregnancy, but I really thought some part of her was happy & excited to be a mom. God help this precious baby.
There are plenty of people here to attack her. You didn’t need to be the bad guy. You wanted to be.
As i said above. Kim was never going to get that maternal instinct kick so she hired people so that the baby is cared for. And she is pumping. Some moms choose not to breast feed or pump.
So, either people were going to complain at how she cares for her child or complain about how she hired someone to competently care for the child. Many kids are much worse off. Where is this outrage for them?
Yeah this article isn’t about “them”, is it? It’s about Kim.
I said no thanks to my mother who wanted to come to my home for a couple of weeks after I got home from the hospital with my son. I didn’t expect it, but I went full tiger mom mode after the birth, and I wanted to do it all myself, sleep deprivation and all. I was just happy to do it myself.
Still, I won’t judge about the night nurse.
The diaper change thing, instead, it’s very sad. Children should not be commodities to hold just when you are in the mood.
And no, I’m not one of those mother goddesses, my son is almost 5 and still an only child, and I doubt I’ll ever give him a sibling.
I doubt she is breast feeding. I can’t help but to think she is lying about it. I bet she’s recovering from post baby plastic surgery / tummy tuck. Kim will deny surgery and say the breast feeding caused her to lose all the weight so quickly.
I don’t get why most people think she’s lying about breastfeeding. I think she heard you lose weight faster that way and went for it without hesitation.
You know I am not a fan of any of this family at all. I won’t judge on the nite nurse either. I’m not sure that I would use a nite nurse every nite and if I had a fussy baby with days and nights screwed up then a few breaks to get a full nites sleep would be awesome. I think many here would agree with that many wealthy do it and others not as wealthy get help. It doesn’t take away from the bond now if its nanny day and nite then I wonder why have a baby ..the problem with believing much about Kim is that she never ever looked maternal or remotely into her pregnancy. So she never bonded in the first place nanny or not.
I don’t. Think People or any tab has any pics I do believe they outpriced there pics and now will be on Kris show like it was all the plan in the first place.
I’ve never been a mother so maybe I’ve got no place to speak here but oh well….I simply do not appreciate the bit about Kim not being able to be the best mother ever unless she gets a full night’s sleep. Excuse me? Congrats for being rich and being able to afford people to take care of the more unpleasant (to her) parts of motherhood but some of the best mothers I have ever known in my life have had babies, gotten up with babies and worked full time outside of the home….too. Choices are a wonderful thing. A lot of moms don’t have any and I don’t appreciate the subtle (?) implication that those mothers aren’t as good because they don’t get their beauty rest. Sleepy moms kick a$$ in my book and I tip my St. Louis Cardinals baseball cap to each and every one of them!
Good perspective. I am currently killing it as a mom on 4.5 hours of sleep right now.
A lack of sleep led to my post partum depression, which was incredibly awful and made me a horrible mom. I doubt this is Kims case but I think its important to realize every mom is different.
The point is Kim is focused on her self unlike all the other sleepy moms out there. Sure there are legitimate situations that call for regular sleep or a night nurse or whatever but we all know, with Kim, this is pure self-indulgence. She doesn’t want to be bothered by her only child because she needs her beauty sleep. I feel no shame in judging her to be selfish and vain, as usual. Yes, real Moms probably could use help because they work hard, Kim just works hard at getting enough sleep.
It’s not a huge surprise and yes I would believe it. Kim isn’t a get your hands dirty kind of gal. And I think we will get baby pictures soon cause once Kate’s baby is here it will be North who?
KK simply nauseates me, on a base level as a human. Her child will be an accessory when she’s young and a rival when she’s older. That child will have a difficult life…her mother needed a boy, if not a sterilization.
I don’t believe this. Anyone who had breast fed knows you can not go 8-10 hours without nursing or pumping. Your breasts would be engorged and leak all over the place!
I imagine she has help, but not to the extent this column is saying.
Absolutely. I love the line ‘she pumps before bed *in case* the baby wakes up at night. In case?????
Mine were good and slept 12-5. I remember once I got 11-6 and I was literally in pain my boobs hurt so much. I had to (TMI) milk myself.
Ug, totally! Especially not at first. I had to take a business trip when my daughter was still nursing. I wasn’t able to pump for about 7 hours and my God! did my breasts hurt! solid as rocks! No way I could have slept!
I’m going to go out on a limb here and say i don’t think she is breastfeeding. I have no evidence, of course. I just can’t see her hanging around and being available to her baby every few hours–or pumping at night. Sounds waaaaayyyyy too inconvenient for someone who can’t even be bothered to take two minutes to change a diaper (if, in fact, that is true, which I can believe based on the persona she puts out there).
I have three kids and would’ve loved more sleep. But really, all that stuff you do with and for the baby is part of building a connection. You talk to her when you’re changing her. You talk to her when she wakes up in the night. YOUR voice or your husband’s voice are the voices she connects with being made to feel comfortable, safe, and secure. Sure, others can help and God bless ’em if and when they do. But I just wonder how my kids would relate to me if every time they had a need I found distasteful, i just handed them off, or if every night, all night, they heard some other woman’s voice soothing them. It makes me sad to think about it.
up all night feeding is part and parcel of having a baby. so is changing diapers. this is what you sign on for when you choose to have a baby. suck it up. the sleeplessness generally only lasts a few months anyway.
i am judging: if you chose to have a baby then paid someone else to look after it, your motives for having a baby are very suspect.
kim k wanted an accessory. she got one.
I’m wondering whether the delay in the publishing of the baby photos tells us that the tabs aren’t as excited about them as PMK thought they’d be?
As for the rest of the story, meh. I don’t believe a thing this woman says. She’s all about weaving an image of herself that suits heself. Whatever.
I think the delay is b/c the baby was born early and probably isn’t “pretty” enough in their eyes. Many celebs wait for the chubby, pretty baby stage, and these two are incapable of showing the world anything less. Poor child.
I read on RO or DM that KK was nursing to lose the baby weight more swiftly, on the advice of her sister. Ie, not for the baby, but for her “work” such as it is.
So, it may be that KK is waiting until KK feels she looks better, in order to be photographed with the baby. Because she’s still the main product, not the baby.
That’s what a night nurse does! Stupidheads. Every new Mom should have ALL of the help that they can afford.
My husband and I used to take turns w each of our kids, 1 night I’d get up for feedings and diaper, next night was his turn but even then I would still wake up because you always sleep w 1 ear nd eye open when you have a newborn. There were lots of nights(all the nights it was my turn) that I wished for a night nurse to save me but I wouldn’t trade that time alone when they’re at their most cuddly, vulnerable and loving. I think it’s essential for bonding and having your baby know that you will take care of him or her. I think it’s strange and really sad when a child falls down or gets hurt and cries for the nanny. I want my children to want me if omething goes wrong and I want to be in their childhood memories of the fun times…not the nanny
You are so right about the one-eye-open thing. I was always waking up to make sure my babies were still breathing!
My husband and I did the same thing. Can you see Kanye taking turns to get up with the baby? This whole thing is such a mess!
Oh please! I would have happily paid for a night nurse if I could have afforded it! Why is trying to make life a bit easier such a sin? Babies are hard work and if you can lighten the load then why not? These days it seems your worth as a parent is defined by how much you sacrifice and struggle, which is completely ridiculous!
My son is the first and only grandchild (until December when this new one gets here) and I have to say I cherished the night feedings with him even when I was tired, it was that special time where it was just he and I uninterrupted. And now that he’s no longer nursing I miss that soo much somebody always has to have him now, his dad ,his grandparents, or he’s always running around lol. Those are some of my sweetest memories and I think KK is missing out in a lot if she passes up those moments for a few extra hours of beauty sleep :'(
I call bs on this story — at this early stage, I seriously doubt that she can pump enough to feed that baby through the night. I also doubt that she’s breast-feeding. It can be hard going and I don’t see her inconveniencing herself in the least. I believe there is a night nurse, but that’s about it.
And per an earlier comment about family help, where is that help exactly? She lives with her flippin mom for Heaven’s sake. And the baby daddy is where in all this? Sounds like a bunch of losers who hire out even the care of an infant. I think it’s sad that they have no idea how to enjoy this amazing time that passes much too quickly. Losing sleep for a few months is not a big deal. And she better get used to it unless she plans to keep on full time night help – kids get up at times for many years – those blissful days of sleep never really come back.
That whole thing just outrages me. Hello, part of being a mother is beling sleep-deprived, you stupid b*tch. It is also getting up with the child and changing diapers. God, I hate this useless entitled POS.
WTF?
Raise the glorious martyrdom flag for this lady who didn’t sleep because there was no one in the world to help her with a baby, thus she is +1,000,000 times more natural woman than those who had someone to help them.
Now to work on that potty mouth…..
Thanks for playing but I did have help if I wanted it. Silly me just thought I should be an actual mother to my child with EVERYTHING that entails. Either you don’t have kids at all or you are as entitled as Kim K. Nice try, though.
So I take it you’re a SAHM?
i actually hope so because its YEARS before the whole totally needing care and bonding thing is past.
My issue is people wanting to rag on a night nurse, but dump off their infants at 6 weeks, 8 weeks, 3 months etc with a daycare or sitter.
Girl I took all the help I could get because raggedy, worn out, tired and sleepy is NOT a good mom.
Puhleeze. Spare us the sanctimonious BS. I have been an SAHM for 11 years with kids 17 mos. apart. I was up 3-4 times a night for years and I did it mostly on my own because we lived in the middle of BFE. I also have a chronic illness that made me sick most of the time. But I didn’t ask for more help because of this kind of judgement that left me believing I was failing as a mother if I didn’t do it ALL. I wasn’t a better mother. I was an idiot.
I couldn’t give a rat’s ass about KK but I do care about women who feel the need to tear other women down. This idea that we should do it by ourselves or our children will suffer is completely misguided and leads to neurotic parents and children. For God’s sake. Ask for help when you need it and even better, offer it when you can. In the meantime, shut up.
Thank you Lucinda!
My point exactly, stop the ragging on the new mom! If she needs help she should have it if at all possible. All this judgement seems more concerned about proving “I’m super – Mommy” than what’s better for the child or (gasp) the mother at this newborn point.
I’m reassured by Kim’s lack of quality time with the child. Let’s face it – Kim and Kanye (and Kris) are the wolves in that whole “raised by” scenario, and this night nurse (who probably has actual nurse training) actually cares about the child as a human being and not as an accessory.
Kim will claim post-partum depression in a few weeks and everyone will sympathize with her.
“After enduring a difficult pregnancy…” What??? I’m sorry – why was it a difficult pregnancy? Because she couldn’t fit her fat feet into six inch stilettos? Give me a break!
10 hours??? WTF??? So basically she is handing off her kid to someone else because it is all about her still????
She is a joke
I can understand having a night nurse, I know that I would have if I could have afforded one. However, this woman is so self-absorbed that she will be like one of the old time aristocracy, only seeing the baby at bed time etc – or photo ops. She is no Kourtney when it comes to being a mum.
Ok;
Someone explain to me how this is all that different from having your mom, MIL, sister or whomever come and stay 6 weeks or so and ooh and aah over the baby, change diapers and bottle feed them while you get some sleep.
Why do people get off on “I doubt she’s doing a,b,c – that making you sancti-mommies feel better?
In reality MOST mothers would give their right arm for a nap and a shower at any given time. So the woman gets her sleep, so what? she still has plenty of bonding time.
Jeez, the baby will call the nanny when it falls down.
REALLY, who do all those babies in daycare call when they fall down – it’s not mommy or daddy now is it? Don’t hate on a woman who can simply afford the best help…
JL, mad respect for you for sticking to your principles, regardless of celebrity. Was just thinking that it is crap that Kim is getting dumped on for virtually the same thing that Victoria Beckham was being vehemently defended yesterday, all in the name of feminism. It’s interesting to me how people will defend one celeb and trash another over the very same issues.
You know, I raised both of my children in their younger years in a foreign country, largely alone – oceans away from any family, while my husband was away with his work. Quite often out of the country we were in. Very little support network. I most certainly would’ve used a nanny then if I could’ve afforded one, but we were so young and just starting out. Thankfully, by the time my 2nd was born, we could afford a housekeeper, and she helped immensely at a time when I truly had no help whatsoever. God love that woman. No one gets hate from me on getting help if they can afford it. I think if given an unlimited supply of money, most people would. The difference for me yesterday is that VBs situation sounded more like a PR spin, which to me, is an endlessly fascinating facet of celebrity culture. I don’t think I worded my thoughts very well yesterday as I was sans coffee.
Just Me – it’s all good. I enjoy the discourse, and it is interesting to see the tide shift according to the “subject”.
Here’s my absolute bottom line. YES, PLEASE be the best mom you can be.
If that means 24/7, never sleeping helicopter mom for 24 years – do it.
If you know that no sleep makes you a raging bitch, get yourself a night nurse if you can; before you start crying endlessly, snapping at your mate or screaming STFU at a little baby.
If you get depressed staying home, go to work and provide an excellent sitter then come home and enjoy your little #1 and skip the tears, depression and disinterest in everything including the baby etc…..
If you recoil in horror at poopy diapers and gag each time maybe it’s better to let grandma or the nanny change them rather than have a baby see an expression of disgust on your face 20 times a day.
Just do your best, if you don’t “F” up in one area you probably will in another area. It’s hard enough to get it perfectly right all the time for each individual child without everyone criticizing and disdaining your every move.
Have some compassion people, and don’t dare tell me you haven’t burst into tears over what to do and is it the RIGHT thing to do with a new baby. Don’t dare tell me you never thought – Oh that didn’t work as planned, should I have done THAT…….
And Kanye does… nothing. But it’s Kim who gets all the criticism?
There’s nothing wrong with having a night nurse and actually getting sleep, if you’ve got the money for it. There is something very wrong with a father not ever changing his baby’s diaper.
Thank you!
+1
Lazy, self-indulgent biatch
I don’t judge her at all for this. I would do the same if I were rich.
I have a 2 year old and an 8 week old at home and I pretty much wanted to die these past 2 months. Why shouldn’t she get help if she can afford it? It doesn’t make her any less of a mother.
Are you ok? Postpartum depression is a real thing. Please reach out for help if you need it.
it pains me to see that the normal one of the bunch, khloe, is having issues with trying to get pregnant. kourtneys a good mom and kim?? look at the name of the baby!!! she is absolutely ridiculous!!! i hope khloe has a baby soon. putting up with her crazy ass mom as long as she does, and having kim as her sister, khloe deserves her dream of having a baby come true. i know that when i get pregnant and have a baby, i will stay up all night to take care of it.
You shouldn’t need a “night nurse” if you have a thoughtful partner helping while you get some sleep. I don’t think I know a mother let alone a NEW one that gets 8-10hrs of sleep. Bless her heart the poor thing.
My mother moved in with me for a good two weeks after my son was born, I don’t think I could’ve made it without her help. So is Kris moving in to offer any grandmotherly help? I’m thinking no on that one lol. Kim gets no judgement from me about hiring a baby nurse. After my daughter was born I had no help and I’m sorry, but it just plain sucked! Kanye on the other hand, needs to drop the “delicate genius” act and change a damn diaper!
I’d let the night nurse do all the work *at night* if I had one too… Kim’s no dummy.
wow, i wish i had made it on my back and could afford all the help i wanted so i could continue to shop and go on vacation. i was watching the show and kim was telling her sister how she needed her sleep so she could be a good gf. this hoe is so lazy and it annoys the h*ll out of me that she seems to get whatever she wants, without lifting a finger. i think that’s why people are giving her a hard time for a night nurse. it’s just further evidence of how easy she has it, while other people struggle. so yeah, there is some jealousy, i admit on my part as well. must be nice, to have that easy life.
I’d have killed to have a night nurse when my baby was younger. It was a good night if I only got up 3 times. So good for her that she can afford one. But man, does she spend any time with that kid? Doesn’t sound like it. Being a mom isn’t glamorous and it doesn’t sound like she wants to do the hard work.
I have a friend who uses a night nurse and another couple who has twins so they bring in help a couple of times a week so I get that, but not changing diapers is pathetic. I was so worried about that before my son was born and then you realize it is no big deal, come on.
LMAO.
I was watching Access. They interviewed Kris. She said her ring tone on her phone is… yep
Gold digger.. make of that what you will.
maybe due to her surgeries she can’t lift the baby LOL
I doubt she’s even breastfeeding, I can’t imagine her w/cracked nips–and still forging on.
(my friends have told me stories)
she’s probably all like:
Hattie can you bring me me Nori, Hattie can you take her now.
Boy, I would have liked a night nurse for the first few months!
One way I can look at this: many of us had a husband to *sometimes* change or hold the baby in the middle of the night. We all know Kanye wouldn’t do that. So, perhaps she really does “need” a nurse, a second set of hands.
Good for her. As a diabetic and working full time I
had a really hard time with the every two hour thing. Its rough and we do all need sleep. Not judging her. If you are able to, then why not.
I had a night nurse for my twins and I loved them all the more for it – I was functional during the day, reasonably cheerful and proactive – which is to say I wasn’t so tired that I parked them in front of the TV. Oddly, I still don’t remember their first year clearly because I was still so exhausted.
Now, I also had the benefit of living overseas where it is affordable. I always wonder how people in the USA (my home) do it with minimal community, detached from their family and no real support. Being home alone with children is the most challenging, draining – and maybe even isolating – job that there is. Take all of the help you can get.
Maybe (probably?) Kim is an entitled, lazy, demanding, narcissistic, rich bitch. But when you come down to it, all a child really needs to make it in this world is love and nurturing. Northie will have this despite the circus sham around her. I know many horrific child abuse stories but the adults who came through with their self-esteem and confidence intact had loving arms around them as a baby. This transference is the most vital ingredient, I believe, in anyone’s life. This newborn child is definitely overindulged with love. That trumps all.
I was that nanny. All day. All night. The parents didn’t know their children and it was really sad. When I stopped being the live-in, the family thought they wouldn’t need anyone. LOTS of late night phone calls kept me from getting an uninterrupted night’s sleep even when I wasn’t there! Raising children is tiring, but it’s fun too. The kids turn 16 this year (yup, twins), and I’m the one teaching them to drive. I haven’t been the nanny in a long time, but I’m still The One. It’s a beautiful relationship, but I still feel sad for their parents. They’ve missed a lot.
Wow. It sounds like you’re practically those kids mother. At least they have someone who cares.
…now watch her compare herself to “working moms” or (when Kanye inevitably gets bored again) “single moms” on magazine covers later this year. I don’t fault her for the money or how she spends it, but rather for her complete lack of perspective. It doesn’t sound like motherhood’s bringing her any closer to reality, either.
She’ll say she was/is just like us normal people. Pffft. Hate this family so much.
Some of the most precious moments with my two babies happened when I was so tired, I could have screamed! But they got me up in the night, and the experience was so special! I’m sad that she will miss it.
I’m so not surprised that this kid is going to be brought up by nannies and money. Not by mother.
My sentiments exactly. Not at all surprised.
i would have given anything for a night nurse. i need my sleep. if i had been getting better sleep i probably would have bonded better with my baby. i didn’t realize how much sleep i needed until i had my baby. i would have also loved to have a cook and a housekeeper. if i was rich like kim i would have all of the above.
as for kanye not being hands on, there are thousands or even millions of men in this world that are not. if you have one that is ladies you are lucky!
Exactly!
Sigh. Those first few weeks of my sons life, I actually looked forward to the next 3 hour increment ending, cause it meant I’d get to wake up and feed/snuggle with him again. I couldn’t imagine going a full night without seeing/nurturing him in those precious early days!! He’s 1 now and has been sleeping all night since he was 2 mo old (my husband and I got so lucky) but I still look back on those first weeks with such fondness, it was such a special time. She’s totally missing out, but it’s not surprising, she’s one of the most self absorbed people I’ve ever seen.
she ‘cannot function without 8-10 hours of sleep a night’ what a rough life for her. why on earth did she think becoming a mom would work for her?
you bond with your child when you’re there for them when they’re sick, scared in the middle of the night after a nightmare, etc. this is a big reason why older children resent their parents.
I’m not judging at all because if I could afford a night nurse, I probably would have done that too! That sounds heavenly. And getting up in the middle of the night is not the only way to bond with your child. Nor is nursing. And if I could pay someone else to change the diapers during the day? Hell, yes! Again, there is a lot more to mothering a baby than changing diapers. A rested, calm mama is a great thing for a baby.
Do I think Kim is spending a lot of time with her baby? Probably not. But I’m not judging based on the evidence in this article.
Big surprise! Bitch couldn’t wait to birth out that baby so she could be done with it. Can’t be bothered to disrupt her beauty sleep, is too high and mighty to change a diaper. She’s probably spending little if any time with the baby and this is crucial bonding time. That baby’s first full sentence is going to be looking at Kim and saying “who the f**k are you?”
So what is shocking here? She has proven over and over again that she is a narcissist at best and sociopath at worse. What is shocking to me is that anyone thought for one minute either one of these two mental and emotional giants in any way want to do the work it takes to parent. That is why for months everyone said we can only hope this poor child will have wonderful nannies because her parents simply can’t take the time to care for her.
As much as I dislike this family, if I had the money, I would have hired a night nurse – during that first month especially. I got about 2 hours sleep total.
What a dumb kow. Part of being a mother is waking up during night time feedings and changing diapers. It’s like she’s just messing with her kid when it’s convenient to her. The nurse should charge Kimye for the time they spend with their kid cause you know that nurse is the full time mother in that house.
But I am being biased. I have no family around and from the time I had my daughter to now (she’s two 😀 ) it’s been me constantly running around and being the one she depends on. I wouldn’t trade it for the world but I hate how this family spins everything. She’ll say that she got to be normal and just like us for a change which is funnier than Kevin Hart- and that little guy is HILARIOUS.
Even if I had the money for a night nurse, I couldn’t have done it, not at first. I had to be the one to make sure she was ok in the middle of the night, not some hired help.
Or my husband. He took alternate nights from me (we both worked full-time).
Which reminds me, what does Kimmy do with her other precious 14 hours a day? Sit around not changing diapers?
And didn’t an earlier article mention Kanye changing diapers? Now he doesn’t?
UG with all of these people.
If she keeps going so long between breast feedings, even with pumping before bed, her milk supply is going to dry up. That poor baby…
I’m sure that’s what she’s aiming for.
That’s just what I was going to say. I have a hard time believing this because you can’t go 8-10 hours at night when you first start breastfeeding if you’re going to keep up your milk supply. So either she’s pumping once in the middle of the night, or she’s not breastfeeding.
This is like when kids get a new puppy, and they’re all gooey and love ‘taking care’ of their new pet, but really it’s their parents doing all the real work of having to take care of doggy.
I stayed with my mama the first week or so, and she helped me because she’s my mama. My daughter is due in October, I’m going to her house to do the same. She slept through the night at two weeks though so a nanny would’ve been wasted on her.
I would do the same if I can afford it when I have kids! lol Nothing wrong with that in my book. Also who knows if its true this is from radar people!
“Kim “has been breast feeding Nori, and she always pumps before she goes to bed, in case the newborn wakes up in the middle of the night,” a family source tells Radar” This bothers me because it makes it seem like Kim has no idea what having a baby means. IN CASE THE NEWBORN WAKES UP – really? The day I brought each one of my children home from the hospital they slept 7 hours but that only lasted one night. My children slept through the night at 3 months of age (I was SO lucky) but until then it was every 3 or 4 hours that I got up. Being sleep deprived doesn’t stop as the child gets older. There have been many a night (even now and my girls have families of their own) that when they are upset or not feeling they call me just to talk (I have even been “drunk called” from college because my daughter had no one else to call). If she wants a night nurse, that’s what she wants but I can’t help but think she is missing out on some wonderful “alone” time with her little girl. Also, I wonder how she feels about North spitting up on her?
The Us Weekly staff member who wrote this article obviously doesn’t have a clue about newborns – “she always pumps before she goes to bed, in case the newborn wakes up in the middle of the night.” WTF?!?!? Newborns need to eat every 2-3 hours day and night to grow at a healthy rate. If Kim is sleeping for 8-10 hours she is missing 4-5 feedings and one pump session before bed isn’t going to cover that. She’s either supplementing with formula, buying donor milk, or maybe Kourtney is lending a hand. Articles like this make me fume, not because of her choice not to care for her child, but because they perpetuate ignorance about just how hard it is to care for a newborn.
My mom was with us for a week after our son was born. She was a great help during the day. Helping me with the house, and yes, some baby related duties like giving her grandson a bath…not because I could not, but because she wanted. We live in different continents so it was an important thing for her, to bond with him. So she spent a lot of time cuddiling and making him sleep. But during the night I must say my dear husband did help a lot. But him, the daddy. And after my mom left we never had problems, I woke several times a night but would always go back to sleep. I have never been sleep deprived, obviously it was my first child and I did not have to get out of bed before 10am. I work as a nanny and I specialise in infant care, however I have never met parents that were not willing to care for their own newborns during the night. I would refuse to work for such people.
She makes me stabby! All I can hope for with this child is that the night and day nurses are hers until she’s 18 and moves out. North (still a boy’s name) needs to stay with the ones she bonds with, which absolutely are not her sperm donor and incubator. They need to save up now for therapy or she’ll be writing a tell-all that will rock PMK and all of their worlds! The only good thing I can say about Kim is that she’s breastfeeding and pumping – IF it’s true.
Let’s get real here. Radar “reports”. Really? They are speculating like the rest of us, but how does anyone really know?
From her history I would say this is likely true, but isn’t it also true for most celebrity moms? I think a lot of non-celebrity moms would opt for it as well if they could afford it. My daughter will have me as the night nanny at least for the first week but I can’t see mama Kris doing the same.
I can sympathize with high sleep requirements- I need 12 hours in bed this time of year to have a chance at a few hours real sleep due to bronchitis and pollen/mold season… I finally got about 7 hours last night and am still exhausted even after a dose of caffeine-laden excedrin. But she doesn’t have to work or clean her house or make her meals or shop for groceries or anything really. And she’s paying somebody to change diapers 24/7?!? She also has the father hanging around or so we’re told. He can’t change diapers or bottle feed at night?!? She also has plenty of room for family to stay and help. The advantage of family helping is that they (her sisters and brother and the baby’s grandparents ) all have a permanent connection with the baby. I can see having an experienced person around for safety’s sake especially with an alleged preemie and to cover gaps. But paying a stranger to bond with your baby when the stranger is just on the payroll and not a permanent part of baby’s life, under her amazingly favorable circumstances- just seems like a missed opportunity to make a real family with her daughter and does raise questions about her ability to sustain long-term interest in her new toy. Most people would be tripping over family members staying with them, but she lives in mansions. Not intrusive at all to have lots of family helpers around at various times. Poor baby Ka-Ching! Kardashian North ByNorth West.
What a damn lazy mother she turned out to be! I’m sure her baby will resent her for this when she grows up.
Good for Kim, she carried the baby for eight months. she had it tough, swollen legs and a huge belly. Yes.. she has the money to have that type of help. Good for her to sleep while Kanye sleeps. He did not suffer for months like she did. Let her rest and get her beauty sleep.
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