Drew Barrymore: “We don’t have a babysitter. It’s just us.” [Evil Beet]
Victoria Beckham celebrated her 40th b-day with the Spice Girls? [LaineyGossip]
Kim Kardashian participated in the LA Mud Run. [Dlisted]
Yes, who was the mysterious blonde in Mad Men? [Pajiba]
Princess Charlene wore a surprisingly smart pantsuit. [Go Fug Yourself]
Vintage Teen Beat Leonardo DiCaprio. [Buzzfeed]
Josh Duhamel’s son Axl is a cutie. [Celebrity Baby Scoop]
Michael Buble is good at Instagram. [A Socialite Life]
I don’t think you should be able to sue people for this. [Bitten & Bound]
None of the news people knew how to pronounce Lupita Nyong’o. [The Blemish]
Amanda Bynes is driving again. Just FYI. [Celebslam]
Mila Kunis & Ashton Kutcher took their douche to a music festival. [Starcasm]
Is Hilary Duff wearing jeans from the 1980s? [Popoholic]
Kim Zolciak’s daughter spent Saturday in the ER. [Reality Tea]
Ava Sambora looks a lot like her mom here. [Moe Jackson]
Of course she doesn’t have babysitters. She has nannies. Poor people have babysitters, rich people have nannies.
God I hate the ” I do it all myself” trope. It’s stupid and dangerous. Women need more resources. here is a woman with all the resources in the world saying she does it all herself ( I call bullshit) so what does that mean to a woman living paycheck to paycheck? When I hear crap like this all I can think of it Andres Yates. The expectation of her husband and their support system of church and family was that she should be able to handle it all her self because she was a woman. If she had had more support in the actual care of her children, if she had the medical care she so desperately needed…..
As a society we exalt motherhood do nothing to support mothers. In America we have no subsidized childcare, no paid maternity leave at least now women can have access to insurance so that is one step forward. I just don’t understand exalting motherhood but having few resources for the Mothers who need them most.
We don’t have a babysitter, either, but I don’t consider that a point of pride.
This
Actually to both comments.
Bc my daughter just turned 2 and I don’t have a babysitter either.
Bc I agree we exalt motherhood yet it’s a hollow gesture – women need more resources and mothers need support…etc
Truth is I love that Drew said this and at the same time I’m rolling my eyes (from annoyance bc. come on AND from shock and disbelief bc I so woulda figured it out if I had her resources right?).
She is the same Drew she’s always been and she’s not unaware of her privelage…I consider her a peer and inspiration as a woman and mother in this world bc we are contemporaries…
Anyway didn’t intend ramble…
I tried a babysitter a few times, and I was appalled they would get on their cell phones and or try to feed my tiny kiddo sugar. Sugar is inevitable when they are older, but if they can’t ask for it, and actually prefer fresh garden peas? So I tried but couldn’t find someone with my commitment. The best thing I ever did was make mommy friends with my similar philosophies to keep us company and now that my kiddo has gotten older we do “trades”. I did daycare/play groups that my kid loved, but if he didn’t want to go I took it as a sign of some problem and didn’t force it. Oh, and I consider nanny and babysitter the same thing, so in essence I tried both. My braIn says, if you have a kid, raise your kid as much and as often as possible. I did work part time for sanity and cash, but most jobs cancel out day cares costs, so my philosophy was kids more work less live simply.
I remember to write a paper on Andres Yates for school. That was such a heart-breaking story. You are so right, a lot of people devalue what is maternity and the outcomes of postpartum depression. A stable support system is very important and in some cases just crucial. These celebrities should just shut up…For the matter, I think that what she meant was just that they spend the “weekend” without a babysitter, not really the all time. Still, sounds a bit silly worded, and I do have my doubts.
You are right, minime. It’s about the weekend. She has a nanny, she said it some days ago.
@Abbicci: I love how you articulated this. The problem of access to childcare in the U.S. needs more attention, not less. So when women with demanding and remunerative careers pretend that they are also full-time caregivers, it hurts all of of us, I think, by minimizing a huge and difficult issue.
That said, if you click through to the full quote, Drew is saying that she doesn’t have a babysitter on the WEEKEND. She makes no mention of her weekday childcare arrangements.
I agree on most of your points and wish our country did more for mothers and babies but many people in the US get at least 6 weeks off and if both spouses work you get to take out up to $5,000 pre-tax for child care. I know that isn’t much considering daycare costs more than three times that amount in many places. Also, I could be wrong but I think poor people can qualify for subsidized daycare. It is the middle class that gets screwed out of everything.
Why is it that every time Drew or Cameron Diaz open their mouth they annoy me? They used to be dependable celebs who didn’t take themselves too seriously now Cammie with her stupid body advice and Drew and her annoying perfect parenting bullsh*t.
I completely agree with most of y’all, but babysitters aren’t for everyone. My sister has 4 children, all under the age of 7, and she gets by just fine. Yes, there are days where everything is just impossible and a babysitter would help, but that’s when family and friends step in.
I understand many people don’t have that kind of help or support, I guess I’m just saying every mother is in a different situation through different walks of life. Some don’t realize how priveledged they are, some don’t realize that others NEED a babysitter’s help, and some don’t realize that they DONT need a babysitter and should start caring more for their kids and worry less about their personal life (I’m mainly talking about my neighbor who drops off her kid at daycare so she can work out all day, tan, get facials, go to a social event every day, etc, and then yells at her husband when he gets home from hard work at a shipyard because he won’t ‘feed the damn baby’. I hate my neighbor lol.)
THIS.
I can see her being the kind of mom who wants to do it all herself, and enjoying the little things like making breakfast and giving baths.
But it’s not very good for her relationship to not have a sitter so that she and her husband can spend time just the two of them. The relationship between husband and wife needs care and attention, too.
I just love Drew and I think she’s a genuine person who is honest and open about her life.
I think you’re right. She missed that in her own childhood, so I can believe that she wants to be the everyday sort of mom she wishes she had. She might not feel the need for a regular sitter/nanny right now, that’s probably what she means. She can make her own schedule and do what she wants, and she wants to take care of her kids. Why not? They’ll be teenagers and running away from her in a few short years…
Or she has a post partum doula. Or a personal assistant. Or some friend of a friend who is lending a hand. You can still be a “hands on parent” and a fantastic mom with some help.
She had one child, has not worked full time since Olive was born and she has a husband.Why would she even need a full time babysitter or nanny?
My daughter just turned two and we don’t have a regular sitter. I have family who watch her and cousins who babysit but I also don’t take pride in it. I don’t care either way, if we didn’t have ample family nearby, we’d have a sitter. Why is it something anyone needs to broadcast?
Ugh, Drew I always liked you. Why does every actress whose career stalls (I don’t count Adam Sandler movies) have to go the mommy/lifestyle pimp route? You don’t have a sitter? Wow. Congrats. Here’s a cookie.
My mother watches my children while I work full time. I am fortunate to have a supportive and caring grandmother in my children’s life. I would love to have a career that would allow me to see my kids more but that’s just not in the cards. I don’t consider myself less of a mother because I am not as hands on. I like Drew, though. But these people are so sheltered and privileged. They just don’t understand.
She may not have a babysitter but I would bet my life she has a housekeeper/personal chef. If we women didn’t have to cook or clean or work their would be no need for babysitters or nannies!!! That said, I still love Drew always:)
Correction: She says that they don’t have a babysitter or nanny on WEEKENDS: “We spend every weekend together. We don’t even have a babysitter. It’s just us.” Of course she has nannies! There have been pictures of her out with them walking with baby Olive together.
That said (in regards to her comment), it really cracks me up to no end when mothers brag about taking care of their OWN child(ren) for any particular short amount of time. Maybe my own mother/grandmother/aunts and their friends were just of a different sort altogether…
+ 1
I like to look at it in comparison to what Drew’s own life was like. To her, being able to spend a full weekend with her child is probably a bigger deal than those with more ‘normal’ childhoods.
Another correction… The quote I read was:
“We spend every weekend together. We don’t have a babysitter. It’s just us. I can’t wait to see how that’s going to work out with the second one!”
The word ‘even’ wasn’t in the quote. I only point this out because adding the word ‘even’ to the statement really makes it sound like bragging…. and IMO, she wasn’t doing that. She was simply gushing about her family time on the weekends as if she just really enjoys that time with her husband and children.
Me neither. Wish I did!
So the quote was incomplete and out of context.If Drew was not well liked I would hate to see all the negative comments she would have received.Much ado about nothing.
She said they spend weekends together with no sitters, just them. She never said she didn’t have help during the week.
23 comments. No one cares about Drew Barrymore.
This is bullsh#t. My friend is in a baby yoga class with her nannies. Plural. As in, she has multiple people helping her. She’s never met Drew, but her kids spend an awful lot of time with the help.
Does anyone know if Drew has been able to breast feed after her breast reduction? Very curious about that. thanks.