Ben Affleck complains about the Bennifer 1.0 ‘soap opera’ to the NYT


Ben Affleck has a new interview with the New York Times to promote Gone Girl, which is easily one of the most-anticipated films of the year. Every time a new trailer comes out, I’m hunting for clues to see what was changed and what wasn’t. I personally wish that Rosamund Pike was front-and-center during the early promotion, but I guess there’s a concern that Rosamund won’t get people into the theater, so they’ve got to lead with Affleck. That concerns me, honestly. Gone Girl isn’t a good read because of Nick Dunne: it’s a good read because of Amy. Putting Affleck out there to do the promotional heavy lifting gives me the impression that Amy’s character has been diminished. We’ll see. As for this Affleck interview… he’s sort of grim and serious and we get it, dude. You’re Mr. Dramatic Actor now and you still feel deep shame about dating J.Lo. Sigh. You can read the full piece here. Some highlights:

An oblique reference to Bennifer 1.0: “There’s nothing really about this guy or character that I feel connected to personally. Except that I have definitely felt as though I was looking at a version of my life that I didn’t recognize through the prism of the media.”

His evolution as an actor/celebrity: “I think for me there’s the idea that ‘Oh, he was callow and foolish in his youth and has sort of learned the error of his ways and has redeemed himself and is now like, maybe, a person of substance.’ But it wasn’t that I was lost and now I’m found. It was because we grow up. We kind of evolve.”

Another Bennifer 1.0 reference: “[I was] cast in a soap opera where I had no control over the lines I was saying or the story line.” His recurring thought then was: “This bears no resemblance to me, and I really wish they would write me a better part. Because I don’t want to be this guy.”

The process of doing “grueling” work with David Fincher: “It was music to my ears. I love that idea of almost a hair shirt of a movie, when’re you just working very hard, all day every day. The feeling of risk has to do with: ‘Is this person going to do something with my humiliation, or with my honesty and with my nakedness and the degree to which I’m exposing myself in a real way? Or are they just going to humiliate me and butcher it?’”

Playing The Batfleck: “I’m having a blast… [the film] is really unique to the genre and really smart.”

The ebbs and flows of making movies: “The world is more naturally full of nos than they are with yeses. And, in fact, the yeses are so rare. I have to make peace with it. I don’t always succeed. All these phases of life I’ve found are challenging in their own way. You keep running into new versions of yourself, and having to acclimate to that.”

[From The NY Times]

I was thinking throughout this interview… how often does Affleck bring up Jennifer Lopez or the Bennifer 1.0 years? How often is he the one bringing it up rather than the interviewer? Because it feels like a lot. It feels like most journalists are pretty much “over” asking him about that time in his life and he’s the one obsessed with talking about it.

One slightly interesting sidenote – David Fincher told the NYT that his version of Amy is “partly based on Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy.” Huh. That’s interesting.

Oh, and the NYT puts this as a sidenote too: “Mr. Fincher granted The New York Times a private screening at his office. Contrary to early speculation, the film hews closely to the book.” Gillian Flynn had said in interviews that she changed the ending when she adapted her book for the screenplay, so I don’t know what any of this means.



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  1. krastins says:

    ugh he’s always so whiny

    • denisemich says:


      Why does he talk so badly about JLo? Just shut the f*up. Although he never looked as good as when he was with Jlo.

      Good Director… but horrible actor. He will ruin Gone Girl. Also pissed they changed the ending for the movie.

      • Nedsdag says:

        I like him, but not in the lead role in Gone Girl. I also read the book and he is so wrong for the part plus the ending change killed my interest in seeing the movie.

      • A says:

        He has NEVER spoken badly about Jennifer. He always speaks really highly of her (and she of him) and has specifically said that he resents the notion that he should apologize for their relationship, and that he doesn’t regret it.

  2. eowyn says:

    I think he still thinks of her. I believe he hold some feelings for her. That is just obvious now. The funny thing is no matter what we say about Jennifer Lopez she isn’t talking about the past. She is beyond that.

    • Pager90 says:

      She talks about her past too.
      She brings up her marriages, relationships in her way.
      IMO if Ben wanted Jen L. Right now, she’d go right back. I would bet.
      I always felt he was the one who got away for her. The one she wanted to get to the alter but couldn’t.

      • don't kill me i'm french says:

        With 3 kids and a lovely wife ,he can’t divorce without to break his family man image.See Johnny Depp

      • Pager90 says:

        Johnny Depp was NEVER married.

      • Jayna says:

        Of course he was. That’s why she latched on to Mark so quick and got married in record speed. Rebound from the breakup.

      • Pager90 says:

        When was Johnny Depp married?
        I believe there was never a marriage., they were common law living together ..she’s the mother of his children but Depp never married her. Unless I missed the wedding?

      • bettyrose says:

        Johnny Depp shared a life, home, and children with a woman. How is that different than marriage?

      • Pager90 says:

        OK so Depp didn’t go through a divorce, since there was no legal marriage.
        Not that he didn’t break his home, he did, but she was not technically his wife even though they were together all those years. I thought I had missed a wedding somehow.

        JLO has no trouble breaking her marriages, that’s for sure.

        Ben would be crazy to go back with her. JLO although stunning,is not a great bet in marriage. IMO

      • Chinoiserie says:

        BettyRose I never will understand that kind of opinion about marriage. There is difference between being legally married and just living together with children.

      • don't kill me i'm french says:

        I know Depp never was married with Vanessa Paradis.He just broke his family man imageand his family to date a starlet

      • janeFR says:

        Not if you’re french or living in France, no.
        I for one, do not understand the big diffrence.
        You have a family and responsabilities to that family with or without a piece of paper.

      • Pager90 says:

        I agree with Chinoiserie,if it’s not done legally then they Depp and his partner were not married.

        If legal marriage didn’t mean anything then why are people making such a big deal over Clooney marrying? He’s had long term relationships w women for years , would people call them his wife? No. And one does not need children to be legally married or a legal wife.

        Brad and Angelina marrying, legally , meant something more than living together with children. Marriage makes one a legal wife or husband, living together for the most part doesn’t.

      • bettyrose says:

        Pager90 & chino- I guess the philosophical question is this: what does “legal husband/wife” mean that chosen life partner does not? Keeping in mind that a shared mortgage creates a pretty binding legal contract, so marriage does not have a copyright on legal commitment, love, fidelity, or responsibility. I respect the decision to get married, but other than personal lifestyle preference, I don’t understand the difference.

      • Lady Macbeth says:

        There is no difference between marriage and living together, especially in France or UK. You do it because you like it as an idea, not because it ‘changes’ things.

        Many celebrities also do it because in the eyes of many people it is different, it is regarded as more serious. But no difference for people involved in it, children together are the same, feelings are the same. I don’t remember any difference between me living with my partner and then after marrying him. Sorry, it is just a paper and a ring (which I don’t even wear currectly because it became too big!).

      • Delilah says:

        Marriage is treated as a human right. It denotes legality of partnership where the law must then grant your spouse the same rights as family. In the unfortunate event of death your spouse is looked upon as your kin and therefore lays claim to shared property and other benefits such as social security and your estate. Not to mention the power to make life and death decisions concerning your medical condition. I always told myself it was a big shame that two people who obviously share a deep bond and life more than “family” but not blood relatives have to validate their relationship legally so that the surviving partner is not at the risk of losing rights to shared assets. Also, the right to visit a spouse in critical condition at a hospital should not be restricted to non family.

    • beatrix says:

      @Chinoiserie – I agree with @bettyrose, as marriage is mostly a social construct that we are guilty of perpetuating as validating something that isn’t our own. If a couple has been together as domestic partners for 5 years and is unmarried, children or no, and another couple becomes engaged after 6 months and has only been together for two, is the married couple’s partnership more valid than the former? I think not.

      • anon33 says:

        ^^THIS. My husband and I were together for nine years before getting married, and the only thing that’s changed between us is that now we legally own property together. The end.

      • Lady Macbeth says:


      • Argirl says:

        When I got married, I felt different. To me it changed things…more special, more important, more validated. I love being married.

      • solanaceae (Nighty) says:

        In Portugal, even living together without being married, you can own properties and pay taxes as a married couple after x years of living together. To the law, you have the exact same rights and obligations as any married couple , joint bank accounts, joint mortgage on the house, etc… You just don’t have a ring and a piece of paper- it’s called, in portuguese, união de facto, the expression means literally “an actual marriage” though it’s an illegitimate one, but still actual, real… união – union, marriage
        de facto – actual but not legitimate,

        Hope it makes sense

      • Pager90 says:

        I helped a friend with her step fathers services, he was with her mom for 20yrs, but they never married, so when writing the obits and handling legal documents the state and city only recognized a legal husband or wife in documented legal marriage, even though they shared property together. The city clerk said that made them business partners and life partners but she could legally not put Husband or Wife on the legal death notices. It made my friend sad, because her mums partner,boyfriend was like a father to her. On none of the legal papers, was he written as husband, it was sad for her..

      • bettyrose says:

        Pager90 – You’ve described a form of semantic discrimination (i.e. when “husband/wife” are the only terms provided to describe a relationship) but the existence of discrimination does not mean the relationship itself was any less strong/committed/meaningful than one including legal document.

      • Anne tommy says:

        Many people are deluded about the legal rights they have in, or after, an unmarried relationship. Be careful. It’s not just the financial stuff, though that’s important, but the surviving partner of an unmarried couple can for instance find their wishes re burial etc overridden by blood relations. It varies from country to country but don’t makes assumptions.

      • MCraw says:

        Marriage IS different and IS special. Someone is making a public and legal and spiritual stand to say “THIS is the only person I belong with.” And the other reciprocates.

        It’s this kind of thinking that has a generation of kids feeling entitled to things they haven’t earned. Where everyone is special in their mediocrity. Living with your girl/boyfriend and father/mother of children is fine, but to say that it is the same as marriage is deluded and an excuse. It is not. Stop diminishing the definition of things to make you feel better about your individual situation.

        And Johnny Depp never had a family image.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      I don’t know if he thinks of her regularly, but I think there are some ties to the storyline of THIS movie and his relationship with her…that is why it keeps reoccurring recently. That was the biggest “media firestorm” that he has ever been a part of, and that is a big component of Gone Girl.

  3. PunkyMomma says:

    Methinks he doth protest too much.

  4. K says:

    “[I was] cast in a soap opera where I had no control over the lines I was saying or the story line.”

    I seem to recall he took out a full page advertisement (In the NYT, I believe) professing his love/admiration for JLo, so, of course he had control over the lines he was saying.

    • Marty says:

      Not to mention that special they both did for NBC. I guess he didn’t have control over that either.

      • lucy2 says:

        Both excellent points. He needs to stop talking about it to begin with, but if he must, at least own his part in it.
        Didn’t he also appear in one of her “music” videos? I didn’t realize the media had a gun to his head for all that time.

      • Delilah says:

        @ Lucy 2:

        He’s soooooooo hot in it too. Of course so is she but for him this was exceptional. Waterfalls.

    • chick b. says:

      Yeah, he started his public courting of Lopez by sneaking through a crowd of paparazzi at her restaurant opening to present her with a bouquet IN FRONT OF HER THEN-HUSBAND. Affleck looked like the cat who ate the canary and Chris Judd looked like Joe Thousandaire thinking ‘I can’t with this’.

      I never understood why Jennifer Garner was so smitten with him for so long. She’d just gush about him long before they were officially a couple. I loved her as Sydney Bristow (and, full disclosure, I think Foley and Vartan are so much more appealing than Affleck).

      • zut alors! says:

        That was a lowdown and dirty move on Ben’s part. I think he got a friend to hand the flowers to Jennifer and he stood on the sidelines watching the whole thing go down. Interesting that he never got tagged with the homewrecker moniker.

    • A says:

      They weren’t dating then – he’d just met her and dozens of other industry people took out adverts too to congratulate her for winning some Woman of the Year award. Rumors about them didn’t start up until months later.

  5. LadyJane says:

    My guess is that Ben isn’t over J-Lo in the sense that she is smoking hot. Jennifer Garner is nice, and I am sure she is a good mother etc, but J-Lo is seriously just so…. hot. STILL hot – maybe better than ever? Ben was the one who was all too happy to rub J-lo’s bum on a yacht in her ‘Jenny From The Block’ video. A part of Ben is still there – on that yacht.

    • don't kill me i'm french says:

      “A part of Ben is still there -on that yacht” +1,000

      • Pager90 says:

        On the yacht , only now sober and Jennifer Garner joins him with the kids.

        IMO ,JLO was a scorching hot, love, but more of a hot relationship which couldn’t get him to the alter. He started having misgivings and he ended it. She was devastated
        He broke off the wedding. He is the one who wanted out. JLO would have married him,if he wanted her.

      • don't kill me i'm french says:

        The part of him is still in the yatch and the same part who goes to the casino (several times per week) or the same part who drives a showy Vintage car ( why do you believe the paps recognize him so easily?)

        Maybe JLo wanted to marry him but it’s her who broke and who was married with another guy 2 months later

        He’s like Jennifer Aniston.I don’t know if it’s him or the journalists who can’t forget he dated JLo 10 years ago ( like Aniston and Pitt)

    • Ava says:

      What?? Ah ok , this is a guy who works and his at the top of the food chain in a industry that is surrounded daily by smoking hot chicks and chicks that’s aren’t 45 , 3 time divorced single mothers either…

      Really you don’t think he feels sorry for JLO and is embarrassed , she still doing the same music , look that she has been doing for 15 years, hasn’t evolved at all and sorry looks desperate especially her last album.. Case in point her just released booty song …and the best she can do is 24 year douchey barley attractive back up dancer , who she dumped because he cheated with a transvestite.

      Once JLO takes out the her wig and weaves, make up and isn’t glamed , she’s average looking and Jennifer Gardner has a beauty that doesn’t need the self tanner, clothes, fake eyelashes make up and weaves to look good.

      The reason he and actually the reporter bring up Bennifer is because it was a time in his life he was pursued relentlessly by the media and feels wrongly represented ..which is what in some ways his character in the movies has to deal with and why David Flincher said he hired Affleck… You know he’s doing these interviews to promote said movie.

      • don't kill me i'm french says:

        Please don’t bash Jennifer Lopez because Affleck isn’t able not to talk about their relation 10 years later

      • Pager90 says:

        +1000 Ava…

        Although, I think Jen L is still a beauty even w/o weave. But she is still doing the same things she did almost 20yrs. ago.

        I think JenG. Is pretty too.

      • Anne tommy says:

        Amen with the Jen G looks and the back up dancer Ava. I just can’t with this famous middle aged women shagging toy boy hanger on stuff, a la Madonna and Jlo. Proof that rich middle aged women can be just as shallow as rich middle aged men I suppose.

    • LouLou says:

      That video! I remember seeing it and thinking: He is going to cringe big time about this later. He was in a full-on sex haze and was a willing participant.

  6. Jess says:

    I was an early affleck fan (I love chasing Amy) but the more he talks then more I dislike him. Ugh.

    • Bob Loblaw says:

      He has never appealed to me, I don’t know why. I’ve only liked a couple of his movies but I haven’t seen most of them.

  7. Pager90 says:

    Ben is looking hot again.

    I believe he was drunk a lot during the a Bennifer episode.

  8. don't kill me i'm french says:

    Everyone knows that JL forced to appear in THE clip ( roll yes) or to pay a page in Variety( or same publication) to praise her ( big eyes)
    Guy,you were a big part in the crazyness of Bennifer 1.0

    • T.C. says:

      @Don’t kill me French


      Talk about selective memory with Affleck apologists. JLo was hot when Affleck went after her. He was crazy in love with her and did the chasing. If he is so happy and on top of his world why does he keep bringing up that time in his life every time he has a movie to promote or an Oscar campaign to run? This and the family pap work seems like he is trying too hard.

      • AM says:

        Didn’t Ben break up her marriage with Cris Judd, chasing her? And Garner was still with Vartan when she and Ben started. Maybe it’s a pattern on HIS part.

      • Pager90 says:

        Not true, about Vartan and JenG. Were separated way before Ben , they just hadn’t made it public.

  9. AlmondJoy says:

    Goodness. Why so grumpy? He strikes me as very unhappy.

  10. Jayna says:

    He doesn’t badmouth her. He fell in love and showed it and then they kind of turned into a joke. He has taken the blame for part of it, but never to the degree in which he was treated as time went on did he deserve it. I remember it and felt bad for him. His career was almost destroyed with a couple of bad movies and their love affair. He talks about how the media defined that relationship and the onslaught, making him a joke, a caricature of himself with the rag mags hounding them. Matt has talked about it too and that he felt bad for Ben. The comments relate to his character and how he can connect with the character. I thought it was a nice interview.

    • Pager90 says:


    • Candy Love says:

      But he has and blamed her for his career slop ,their relationship bing so public and more many times in the past; he only said something nice about JLO once ( sorry I can’t remember which magazine it was in).

      • Tiffany :) says:

        Has he blamed her? I only remember him saying things like it spiraled out of control in the media.

      • A says:

        That’s 100% untrue. He has praised her in so many interviews (Larry King and Hollywood Reporter, to name two). He has explicitly refused to apologise for their relationship and said he didn’t regret it.

    • MrsBPitt says:

      I agree…I think their relationship WAS destroyed by the publicity…I know at first they didn’t mind all the press, but then it got extremely intrusive and I don’t think they knew how to turn it off, once it was in full swing. I think Ben and JLO truly loved each other and def were hot for each other. Maybe, if they had met when each was a little older and wiser, things would have been different. I never hear Ben say he was sorry about the relationship…just what the press did while they were in the relationship. And as Ben says in ther article…he grew up! I think people are way too hard on him!

      • Delilah says:

        @ MrsPitt, not sure where but Ben said his relationship with JLO was a time where he felt trapped and gross. Also in another source there was a very substantive discussion of their incompatibility based on ambition, drive, worth ethic, discipline – where these things were JLO’s credo impacting lifestyle choices like constantly working out, refraining from drug or alcohol abuse, not partying, going to bed early and waking up early. All things contrary to Ben’s style – gambling, clubbing, strippers, drinking, etc…

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Yeah, I’ll just +1 all of Jayna’s posts on this thread.
      Just can’t get my hate-on for this guy like everyone else.

      • Bob Loblaw says:

        I don’t hate him but his career problems came from making movies like Gigli and Pearl Harbor, not from JLo and the media feeding frenzy.

  11. kennedy says:

    Pike is on the cover of Vogue UK and she got the cover of W Mag back in May (?). She’s definitely doing some publicity but I think she will be more “in our face” closer to the release date. I can’t wait for Pikeamania!!!!!!!!

  12. Candy Love says:

    “[I was] cast in a soap opera where I had no control over the lines I was saying or the story line.”

    If he is in fact talking about his past relationship JLO then dude needs to shut up. No one but a gun to his head and made him date JLO, be in her video, take out a full page advertisement professing his love/admiration to her or proposed to her that was all him. Unless he trying to say he was just a helpless man and JLO is and evil woman who forced him to play her evil media games.

    • I am meh on Affleck, but I don’t think he’s saying he was helpless. He did some things for a relationship that spiralled out of control. He then had a “How did I get here?” moment — probably when he was rubbing sunscreen on his girlfriend’s butt for a video.

    • A says:

      He didn’t profess his love for her in Variety. They weren’t even dating at the time. Lots of her co-stars and other industry people took out adverts to congratulate Lopez for winning some award.

  13. smcollins says:

    He definitely played into the whole “soap opera” that was his & JLo’s relationship, but that was so long ago. Like he said, we grow up. And I don’t doubt that he learned a lot from that experience which might explain why he still references it. But I don’t think he still harbors any feeling for her though. I’m sure he still cares about her as a friend, but to assume anything more than that diminishes the life & marriage he shares with Jennifer Garner. IMO, anyway. :)

  14. bettyrose says:

    Was Bennifer ever a real thing? I always thought it was a ruse to make JLo appealing to the Abercrombie crowd and give Ben more name recognition or something. In any case, they both got what they needed, right?

    • Pager90 says:

      The thing is JLO is still basically doing the same things with her relationships.
      She puts them out there for big showy displays and splashes her new love or current love all over the redcarpet and press with her as the one. She makes sure to make some public display with the partner at an awards show.

      JLO is still playing almost the same theme, with her current love life , when it’s on, it’s just her men don’t garner the INK that Ben Affleck did.

      • Bob Loblaw says:

        I don’t think she is any different than any other star, male or female, they all like to turn up with nice arm candy.

  15. scooter says:

    The ending made me literally throw my book across the room. I wonder what the new ending will be – really looking forward to this movie and hoping Batfleck won’t ruin it!

    • Lydia says:

      The book ending was a little silly. It required a lot of suspension of disbelief. Then again, Dark Places was the same way–a dubious ending.

      • bettyrose says:

        Yeah, Dark Places really cheated us on the ending, but Sharp Objects took the cheapest path of all. Gonna continue reading her books as they come out though. Still gripping.

    • CG says:

      I had massive problems with the entire second half. The Ozarks robbery was my book-throwing moment. I won’t be seeing the movie (unless it’s on HBO at 3 am and I can’t sleep and I don’t have anything DVR’d — and even then maybe I’ll just watch the Brazil Butt Lift infomercial!).

    • bettyrose says:

      I dunno, I found the ending satisfying. No spoilers just I thought all the characters were jackasses and they pretty much all met with poetic justice.

  16. Luciana says:

    Every time he opens his mouth my dislike for him grows bigger. It’s not nice to badmouth your former girlfriend.

  17. Talie says:

    The look that David gave Rosamund is very Carolyn Bessette… I like that. There’s a pic of her hanging with other suburbanites from the movie she sticks out like a sore thumb.

  18. Hissyfit says:

    Ben is a terrific director but sucks as an actor. I hope his acting in this movie would be decent.

    • Tifygodess24 says:

      Oh I agree , in college I had to watch Gone baby gone for a class and I was really impressed with him. I normally would never watch a movie like that but it still pulled me in. It was gritty and intense and he did a wonderful job with such a dark movie.

    • MrsBPitt says:

      I trust David Fincher…I love his movies and he wouldn’t have put Ben in the movie, if he didn’t think he was good for the role. Plus, Ben and the convicted wife murderer Scott Peterson, share a similar look (of course, Ben is way better looking)…I wonder if that was part of the reason Fincher cast Ben…

  19. Angie says:

    I guess I see his constant references to the J-Lo era differently from other commentators. To me his bitterness is more related to the media than to J-Lo herself. Remember his Oscar speech? He said he learned to not hold grudges. Well I think he still DOES harbor grudges against the media and industry people that portrayed him as a joke and how that affected his career. I think he’s still bitter and angry about it. But I don’t think he’s putting down J-Lo.

  20. Lydia says:

    I can’t wait for this movie. I wonder if Ben is getting all of the press because most people don’t know Rosamund from anything?

    • Brionne says:

      Wasn’t she in hbo’ s BIG LOVE? I loved that show and wish it would be made into a movie!

    • T.C. says:


      I think you are right. She is not well known in America and she has a very common blonde look. The film will get more attention with Affleck promoting it.

    • Delilah says:

      What? “Don’t know Rosamund”???? She’s not a household name but has done a lot of support work with other highly recognizable actors. And many different genres. I find her very stunning.

  21. Tifygodess24 says:

    It’s probably weird but I actually liked Ben and Jen together , it made for good gossip – actually during that time frame all celeb gossip was pretty good ;) I will forever love that sea foam (?) green dress she wore to the Oscars when she was with him. Drama or not I thought they looked good together.

    • Pager90 says:

      They did look great together, but AI personally think they had too many other issues going on which made it impossible.

  22. Brionne says:

    I think is weird the way people talk about his bennifer years as if she tainted him somehow. She was the hottest entertainer with hit records (despite her nasal singing voice) and a decent string of movies, perfumes, and appearances. She was a match for him. He did not go slumming. He was a gambling immature booze hound. He wasn’t the best catch.

    Why does he get any sort of “sympathy” for those years? Who the flick is Ben Affleck that dating a hot actress/ singer is seen as his lost years? Why does he feed into that? He ain’t all that!

    • don't kill me i'm french says:

      It’s what i complain about He always is “it’s not my fault” on Bennifer 1.0

    • The Original Mia says:

      Preach it!

    • A says:

      He was an Oscar winner and clearly very intelligent. People don’t think he slummed by dating Jennifer, but by allowing himself to become overexposed and be perceived as a total idiot

    • Delilah says:

      @ Brionne. It’s simple really. If a White man hooks up with a woman of color she better be an A+ in all departments, yet the same expectation is not there for him (as the White part of the equation). Pure racism and classism. It’s the covert way people express their disapproval of interracial pairings – trying to justify why the attractive or well to do White counterpart would deign to choose a woman of color for something other than just sex. Pay attention to reactions of other interracial pairing comments. My favorite is the phenomenon that is Michael Fassbender with his known affinity to women of color. The public goes nuts with their insidious comments.

  23. Arya Martell says:

    This just makes Ben seem petty. I always got that vibe from him like he will always blame everyone else but himself for anything that goes wrong in his life and that he holds a grudge over the person he percieves should be blamed. For all I know Ben’s a nice guy and je’s just painted to be atotal ass in the media but this interview personifies all the reasons why I can’t bring myself to respect him.

    • A says:

      Expect he has taken total responsibility for the mistakes he made during that time period – become too available, thinking he didn’t need to change his lifestyle to avoid paparazzi, the music video, certain photoshoots. He is so open about his faults and responsibility for it. You obviously haven’t read many of his interviews.

  24. Pager90 says:

    I lost a lot of respect for JLO when she trotted out Casper again.
    And also when she said I don’t Wh…re around on tv. Talking like that is just low class. She doesn’t need to use such words to explain herself.,it lowers her.

  25. Tig says:

    I don’t see his comments as bashing JLo- their relationship did turn into a circus, and pretty cruelly the media portrayed Ben as this doofus that JLo with her magical powers turned into the metrosexual ideal- no wonder he doesn’t look back on those years fondly. Totally OT- who knows whatever happened to that gorgeous engagement ring? Pretty sure JLo gave it back.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      “the media portrayed Ben as this doofus that JLo with her magical powers turned into the metrosexual ideal- no wonder he doesn’t look back on those years fondly.”

      Exactly! It was embarrassing to watch, I can only imagine how embarrassing it was to experience.

      I don’t really blame J. Lo for that, but I don’t think they were ever a good match.

    • Bridget says:

      The ring went back to Harry Winston.

      He actively helped create that narrative with the big public displays of affection – tje Variety ad, the restaurant opening, the music video, the red carpets, the pink diamond, the Bentley – all of that was his own doing. Bennifer became a thing because they made it one.

      • Pager90 says:

        He didn’t take out an ad in variety according to some posts.
        Her friends took out the ad.

        The problem was in the end BEN didn’t want to marry her and JLO was humiliated and rebounded with Marc Anthony who was married to Daniela the beauty Queen and going through the end of his marriage.

  26. LAK says:


    He needs to!!!

    • Pager90 says:

      He did, the press keeps asking him about it.

      Also JL o and her mum still email him or were until recently. He only answered back sporadically, to be polite.

  27. original kay says:

    I love Rosamund Pike. I first saw her in an episode of Foyle’s War and she was so perfectly beautiful, it was an instant girl crush.

    I won’t see this movie though, can’t stand Ben.

  28. L says:

    As Elsa from Frozen put it: Let it goooo…..let it goooo!

  29. St says:

    Ending in book was horrible. I really hope that they will change it. I regreted that I read it after ending.

  30. JoJo says:

    He needs to put this tired story to bed. I like Ben and think he’s very intelligent, but there’s clearly a deep-rooted insecurity there regarding his career.

    • Pager90 says:

      Two Oscars and top of the AList in His. Industry. I doubt he insecure about his career NOW.
      I think he only answers questions about the JLO era when he’s asked and it was a big thing for entertainment outlets so they will always ask him about it.

    • Arya Martell says:

      I couldn’t agree more JoJo. +1

      @Pager90 The thing is a simple comment such as “I don’t want to think about the past, I am happy with my wife and kids and I’m tired of being asked questions about a relationship from 10+ years ago…” If he said that I think people would understand. Anytime he is asked questions on this subject he comes off as a petty immature jerk who can’t be bothered to be responsible for his behaviour. I have no doubt that he is prodded by the media but just don’t answer. You will be less of a jerk for not answering the questions than an actual jerk for the answers he gives. The media needs to come off of it and that’s a good way to do it.

  31. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    Size 10 feet ?

  32. Quincy says:

    I blame Boston. I think he is torn between his urban bad boy side and preppy prodigy side.
    He’s got city boys demons – drinking, gambling, girls from the block – but landed a good girl and craves prestige and security. Thus, he is compelled to apologize for his J.Lo years. The whole “they can’t mock you if you mock yourself first” bit. It’s unnecessary at this point, but he still thinks it’s the elephant in the room.

    Me thinks what he has in common with Nick isn’t media attention, but the fear of being exposed for who he really is.

    • Sam says:

      Great analysis, often thought the same thing myself about Ben. You must be from Beantown I take it :) Spot on.

  33. Dalovelee says:

    I don’t think for the life of me he would ever go back to JLo she’s as desperate to stay vital as she was in her early days. It’s possible that as he gets older he too is reflecting on his younger youthful choices and that period definitely was a defining moment. He’s not a complete idiot he’d never leave Jennifer Garner for JLo but I definitely think the lovely Jennifer Garner should think about dumping him. Ben may not leave Garner but there’s something about all Hollywood husbands who say when my wife hits past 50 she’s got to be traded in for something younger and I would hate for her to be kicked to the curb by this guy after she stood by him so long.

  34. raincoaster says:

    More Rosamund Pike, please. I love her so much I’m even going to watch that horrible Johnny English movie again, that’s how desperate I am to see more of her.

    She was phenomenal in An Education. It’s hard to play a stupid, worldly person in a non-condescending way.