Emily Ratajkowski loves casual sex, won’t use handcuffs for first-time sex


Emily Ratajkowski covered the November issue of Cosmopolitan, which we covered about a month ago. The cover was super-cleavagey and the quotes were pretty vapid. I mean, Emily self-identifies as a feminist, which is good, but her feminism involves non sequiturs like “I feel lucky that I can wear what I want, sleep with who I want and dance how I want, all while still being a feminist.” I can walk my dog while still being a feminist! I have her beat. In that Cosmo interview, she also confirmed (?) that her boobs are real, which I questioned. We had a debate about it and I still don’t know where most of you came down. Anyway, there are seemingly more quotes from that Cosmo interview. That’s how the UK papers are attributing it, but God knows. Here are the new quotes:

The London-born Blurred Lines babe has revealed she is desperate for casual sex. And the beauty, 23, is so keen on 50 Shades Of Grey-style sessions, she insists any lovers follow her raunchy directions between the sheets.

Emily said: “If I want to have casual sex, I’ll do it. I have a friend who sleeps with a different guy every week. Another friend is the opposite. She gets drunk, and she’s like: ‘If I go home with somebody, I’m validated.’”

She also told US Cosmopolitan: “Sometimes you want to be in charge, sometimes you don’t. My moods change. I’m not the girl who will handcuff someone the first time I sleep with him. But I’m also not going to cry during sex because I think it’s so romantic. What I want at any given moment is different.”

[From The Daily Star]

Wait, “validated” or “violated”? I’m trying to understand the structure of that sentence. As for Emily being okay with casual sex… okay. That’s fine with me. She’s not married, she’s a free agent, she’s young. Why wouldn’t she be having casual sex? Aren’t most young women having casual sex? Why is this even a thing that needs to be declared in a magazine? As for the handcuffs and pillow-weepers… that should be the title of my memoir. Handcuffs & Pillow-weepers: A Gossip Guide.

Emily in Dublin a few weeks ago:



Photos courtesy of Twitter, WENN.

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  1. Luciana says:

    I think I have a CVA by reading her quotes.

  2. doofus says:

    her mouth is so weird. pretty eyes but those lips freak me out every time. the upper one is reminiscent of Nicole Kidman’s…


    • Abbott says:

      I hadn’t noticed how *odd* her lips were until I saw Gone Girl. We have not had such uncomfortable sloppy flopping in film since Lohan’s Canyons.

      • Jaderu says:

        Isn’t Lohan’s Canyons in Arizona?
        I think my family and I went there when I was 10. We saw The Worlds Largest Ball of Coke Snot down the road a piece.

    • pookah says:

      She looks like if Kendall Jenner and Penelope Cruz had a baby….and IMO, the results are not as wonderful as one would think. Also the lips are off. What is that? They look like tiny inflatable balloons. I think the fuss is about her body, which mirrors Barbie’s.

    • Chammy says:

      I think that both her lips and her balcony were created by the artistry of a rather mortal plastic surgeon.

      Whenever I see fake balconys I think of Marilyn Monroe’s “Diamonds are a girls best friend”, for example
      “men grow cold as we (women) grow old”
      and especially that line
      “these rocks don’t lose their shape”.
      Precisely. Silicone doesn’t lose its shape.

  3. Eleonor says:

    She should stop giving interviews, everytime it gets worst.

  4. OriginalTessa says:

    Desperate for casual sex? I doubt she’s desperate for sex. Every guy I know would line up freely.

    Yeah, when I was her age, sometimes I just wanted an attraction and a roll in the sheets, and not have to get all involved and relationship-y. I get it. It’s sometimes just better to be casual.

    • Kitten says:

      But women can’t like casual sex because all women have an emotional attachment to sex. Men use us for sex and we get attached and then feel burned when they move on, don’tcha know.

      ^^^ is the tired-ass narrative that is consistently perpetuated by our society.

      • Frida_K says:

        Yes, and men are hard-wired to spread their seed and they are uncontrollably drawn to nubile, fertile partners with a certain hip to waist ratio, while women, on the other hand, are desperate for monogamy and frantic to latch onto older, powerful, wealthy (think silverback gorilla) men because we are hard-wired to be completely driven by the need to not only tend and befriend but also to breed.

        This is why all men should have multiple young partners, while us hens need to latch on to elderly but wealthy men and fulfill our womanly destiny to be faithful mothers of children and be women who don’t complain when the man follows his biological imperative to cheat with young women. And then once we are no longer nubile and fertile, and the old waist-hip ratio ain’t what it used to be, well, off to the farm with the other gray old mares to be put out to pasture.

        Hard-wiring. That’s right.


      • Kitten says:

        Oh my god, I think I love you Frida.

      • Frida_K says:

        Kitten, I felt the same way about you when I read your comment here and felt compelled to chime in about our communal biological imperatives.

    • laura says:

      This is the Daily Star to be fair, I wouldn’t even call it a “news”paper

    • Denise says:

      I live in the UK and they use ‘desperate’ quite regularly. The other day my daughter told me she was desperate for a cookie. As for Emily’s quotes, geez. I guess she knows her brand but she can aim a little higher.

  5. Kitten says:

    Sexy girl is into sex.

    • Kiddo says:

      HAHA, I said so below, but not nearly as entertaining as you did.

    • Kosmos says:

      I know….okay, we get it, you like to be sexy, you can do whatever you want…..boring boring boring talk we’ve all heard it before, so tell us something interesting about yourself?

  6. aims says:

    She’s young, beautiful and single, so how she lives her life is her business. I just strongly believe in some discretion. Maybe it’s me getting older, I just think I would play it a little closer to my chest about my personal life.

    • don't kill me i'm french says:


    • Felice says:

      No I agree. It’s slut shaming to shame her for having casual sex. It’s not slut-shaming to want her to simmer down with telling everyone about it.

      • HoolooPie says:

        What is it called to wish people would show more intelligence in acknowledging there’s no such thing as safe sex, just SAFER sex and that by having multiple partners she’s exposing herself to all sorts of vile consequences?

    • Merritt says:

      Exactly. Keep personal things private.

    • MountainRunner says:

      There’s no way a woman who looks like her is not going to be attractive to males. Why does she have to pander to their fantasies? The fact that you’re sexy is apparent; we assume you like sex unless you say otherwise. Tell us something about yourself that’s interesting and perhaps unique or unexpected that shows that you have a brain and some CHARACTER. A feminist knows that she’s way more than a sex goddess.

      • Charlie says:

        This has PR written all over it. She’s going for the care free, cool sexy girl, and so far it’s working like a charm.

      • Tilly says:

        Agreed, Charlie, which has a certain amount of irony considering the disdain for the ‘cool girl’ in Gone Girl!

      • Likey says:

        Charlie: +1

        My only question is whether she drafted it with Gone Girl’s marketing people or her own. See Lana Del Rey (‘slept my way to the top’) and Miranda Kerr (‘I did it in a plane’), recent examples of fairly similar PR strategies.

    • Ginger says:

      Agreed 100%. I’m not a kiss and tell kind of girl unless you are my closest and best girl friend. And that spot is taken by my bestie of the last 20 years.

  7. Steph says:

    *Sigh* I have a girl crush on her. I just want her to stand there and look pretty. Is that wrong?

  8. Kiddo says:

    Nothing against anyone’s sexual experiences or preferences, no shade, but this chick is a one trick pony.
    Subtext: I am sexy sexy sexy sexy, I wear clothes well, my boobs are real, and they are fabulous.
    Did I tell you I was sexy? Well I am sexy.

    • LonnieTinks says:

      Yup, she is playing up the sexy sexy sexy thing to her detriment. She is going to turn out like Megan Fox. If you pigeon hole yourself into only being sexy, fun and vapid, then your career isn’t going to go anywhere good.

      • Kiddo says:

        It sets you up for disappointment in relationships too. I would think there are times when casual sex fits in and other times when you might want to be invested emotionally. Making a blanket statement of fun/sex girl sort of narrows the field of interest, KWIM?

      • danielle says:

        Lol! Was reading the threads to see if anyone compared her to meghan fox! I read the title and thought “hello meghan fox Jr.!”

    • Delta Juliet says:

      And I loooooooove sex. I’m sexy and I love sex. And I love casual sex so , you know, if we were ever in the same place at the same time there is TOTALLY a chance that we could hook up. Are you fantasizing about me yet?

    • littlestar says:

      Yup. Give it a few months and she won’t be around anymore. She’s pretty much a flash in the pan.

    • mernymerlyn says:

      I love writing LOL and meaning it!

    • Maria says:

      In her fifteen minutes of fame, she’s got about five left. She has no charisma whatsoever. And no mystery either if she’s going to broadcast how accessible she can be. Not slut shaming, but you know, discretion can help create a sense of challenge,that you’re worth the trouble to get to know, as opposed to “Hey there, I’m sexy. You want to hit it? then let’s hit it.”
      Very boring in the long run.

  9. db says:

    Yeah. I have a more cynical take. As long as it’s consenting, an adult is free to conduct their sex life as they see fit — so why is she making such a point of the casual sex angle? I think she’s setting up to earn “extra cash”

    • Maria says:

      What are the odds that she’s going to turn up in CDAN blind about just such an arrangement?

  10. Really says:

    I don’t know why but she gives me the vibe of a woman who wants to look cool to men and be approved by them as the non-girly girl that totally fits into their fantasy. Sex but no emotions that could be understood as romantic because that’s what clingy woman want.

    If this is all her and not something she says just to appeal to man then fine but I don’t think it is.

  11. kri says:

    Fourteen minutes and counting. “I’mmmmmmm to sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my shirt, so oooo sexy it hurts”. I hope this future Academy award winner knows she is one sexy “feminist”.

    • Jayna says:

      Yeah, her career is going no where. She was beautiful in the Blurred Lines video. It must have been the lighting. Because I find her face average and odd-looking in photos of her now, and her personality is becoming a bore. She’s not the hot next thing like she thinks she is. She’s on her 15 minutes of fame and counting down. She just doesn’t know it yet.

      • Etheldreda says:

        I have to say this girl makes me laugh. You’d swear nobody had ever seen a decent pair of boobs until she came bouncing into that sleazy video. She’s not the first hot girl around, and she won’t be the last. A year from now, the boys will have moved onto the next naked chick, and she’ll be yesterday’s news.

        She has a great publicist though, I’ll give her that.

  12. QQ says:

    Sweet child .. ANY good Dom,Sub, freak and Kink card Carrying member with some sense worth his/her salt KNOWS you DONT do any risky sex play with an untested partner, is basic stuff, what I fail to understand is why us randos needed to know that

    That Said

    PSA: girls, Please, I don’t care if you like dominant sex or decided to vet for casual sex partners, NO MATTER WHAT you do you TOP FROM THE BOTTOM aka:

    -Ask all the questions: any guy that doesn’t have patience for this doesn’t get to see you naked

    -Get proof of Identity

    -Meet in a public place, never his or your place

    -State your Limits CLEARLY

    -Do NOT engage in any serious play until a few regular encounters have ensued

    -Don’t Go on a Date with Jian Ghomeshi

    • AlexandriaTheGreat says:


      the last one tho *tears*

    • Abbott says:

      QQ will you accept the other half of my BFF necklace? You’re too good to us.

      • Kiddo says:

        Will that make you ‘Surgical sisters’? lol

      • QQ says:

        Alexandria: But no lies tho…..

        In my hand , I have only One Scalpel, and that represents the one of you who will continue on to become QQ’s Next Top Surgical Sister Biffle!


        *serious Face*

        ABBOTT You Are Still one the Running To Becoming QQ’s Next Top Surgical Sister Biffle!

        Kiddo, you must go back to the Apartment, pack your bags and leave

      • Kiddo says:

        Oh sh!t, I’ve been voted off the forum. And so early in the game.

        I’ll state the obligatory reality tripe: “Well, this has been a good experience. I learned a lot”

        * but back at the apartment, secretly steals silverware, jewelry, whips and chains; packs them in bags*

    • littlestar says:

      Bahahahaha! Love you QQ.

      Off topic here, but is Celebitchy going to cover the Jian Ghomeshi scandal??? It’s interesting and something I think Celebitches would enjoy discussing. I know it’s a Canadian “celebrity” and he’s probably not really known too well outside of our boarders, but it’s a pretty big scandal up here right now!

      • sienna says:

        I emailed asking them to… I am dying to discuss that piece of Canadian scandal!!

        What are your thoughts Littlestar?

        Also, I would like to pre-buy a copy of Handcuffs & Pillow-weepers: A Gossip Guide!!

      • littlestar says:

        sienna, I wake up every Sunday morning, have my cup of coffee and read the news online. When I saw that Ghomeshi had been let go from the CBC I thought “what the hell, he’s a big name at the CBC”. Then when he released his statement Sunday night, my husband and I read it together. I told him that I found it unnecessarily wordy and like Ghomeshi was trying to over-explain, if that makes any kind of sense. My husband agreed with me and said it was definitely fishy. Then when the Start report came out that same night, we both said yep, he’s guilty of something. I know I should have probably waited til we heard everything, but I chose to believe the three anonymous women. It really disgusted me to see all the comments on Facebook supporting Ghomeshi on Sunday.

        And now today, with a known Canadian actress coming forward, naming herself, and saying she experienced the same thing – so 8 women now – and I listened to that anonymous caller on CBC the Current yesterday… Ghomeshi is an abuser of women, plain and simple. And he sadly used BDSM as a coverup, that it was all “consensual” and that the women were “liars” out to get payback, it just really angers me that he is so smug and narcissistic and ARROGANT about it all, especially suing the CBC for $55 million! Like wtf!

        What are your thoughts on it???

      • sienna says:

        I watched coverage on CTV that said he can sue for whatever he wants but he can’t actually get a cent because he is a union employee and his use of collective bargaining means he cannot sue. The take from the lawyer was that he is just trying to play a PR game and the big lawsuit makes him look innocent.

        I think he is very arrogant as well and used his fame to get himself laid and when that didn’t work he resorted to violence.

    • I Choose Me says:

      *takes notes* 😀

  13. Merritt says:

    Can she just go away now? Why do some people feel the need to tell everyone about their sex life? I get that the only thing she has going for her is her body. But enough is enough. Every interview with her is just one big eyeroll. Gone Girl proved she couldn’t act. She just needs to go away.

    • bondbabe says:

      ^^^Yes, yes, and YES!!!^^^

      I really don’t give a flying puck about her dating habits, or what she thinks about casual sex, or if she’ll have casual sex, or if she’ll have casual sex on the first date or not, or if bondage or toys or whatever is involved.

      Please take your big rack and fade out (and/or go have some casual sex)….

  14. FingerBinger says:

    I guess she’s trying to be edgy by talking about her sex life. That’s cute.

  15. AlexandriaTheGreat says:

    That face and those LIPS are NOT going to age well. I’d almost feel sorry for her but…nah…I’ll save my compassion for something else.

  16. Jill says:

    I initially thought she was quite cool, but her interviews are not good – she sounds like she’s trying too hard. And, having seen her in Gone Girl, if I was a young female actress in my twenties who could act a little, I would be very pissed off with Ben Affleck’s cock-casting.

  17. aenflex says:

    Her current breasts look much larger than they did in the unrated blurred lines video.

  18. Lau says:

    Well, from experience I can say that – unfortunately – having casual sex is not something very common and – at least here in Germany – it is rarely seen as something good. If you are the type to have casual sex (which I think is totally fine and should be a free choice for everybody to do it or NOT to do it) people here tend to be judgmental and/or ashamed about it (in both cases, btw).

    Go for it , girls.

    Btw, I really wanted to say: She sucked in “Gone Girl” and I noticed that she’s really only “good” for photos/pictures and whatever and not necessarily for the “moving screen”.

    • Claudia says:

      Come on, where in Germany do you live? I live in Austria and who cares who are you sleeping with? No one baits an eyelid here.

  19. Crystal says:

    I just saw gone girl last night- yes, she was terrible. She is the epitome of the “cool girl” from the book. After seeing them in the movie, her boobs are definitely real. she looked beautiful in any still photos that I had seen of her previously, but she looks just awful on camera- she has a very weak chin.

  20. Reece says:

    Who cares? Honestly. Is she really a thing because all I see is Robin Thicke video girl. Since when do video girls get interviews?

  21. Gina says:

    She’s cute but obviously the phrase too much information doesn’t phase her. Does anyone care if she handcuffs her fellas or doesn’t cry during sex. Generally speaking, those who talk about it the most, don’t do it much.

  22. frivolity says:

    Do you think she’s not-so-subtly telling Jennifer Garner, “Don’t worry, honey – it was nothing but casual sex”?

  23. Sara says:

    ok now its countdown to the moment she tells us she is only reduced to her sex appeal. she doesnt get that she reduces herself to that.

  24. Nene says:

    Not everyone in their 20s are into casual sex, it’s a matter of choice.i mean,it’s your body and your life.
    I’m still a virgin at 24 by personal choice, no religious,psychological or emotional reason behind it.
    I don’t know what this says about me but am very picky when it comes to dating and men. This is TMI but I just don’t want red-hot passion but also intellectual stimulation,great sense of humour,confidence and knowing exactly what one wants which is quite rare among men my age.
    Imho nothing beats being completely comfortable around someone and intellectually connected to him and can discuss any topic on the planet.
    And yes am very well-versed in all things sexual, the good and the not so good but i decide not to get involved till i meet that very special man.
    I have girlfriends who are into casual sex and having good times but at the end of the day human nature can’t be changed cos everyone wants to be loved and sex isn’t all that. Most of them are always complaining about men being jerks but the truth of the matter is that sex will always complicate things, casual sex or not.
    I believe the major reason for heartbreak in a broken relationships especially on our part as women is because of sex. For a woman to tango with a guy there must be an attraction no matter how fibble cos unlike men we aren’t made to seperate sex and emotion no matter how much we try. A guy can sleep with a girl without feeling an iota of attraction to her. It’s the hard truth.

    Emily tries so hard to be cool. Ugh!
    If her boobs are real then she is quite lucky. But these days it’s hard to know cos comestic surgery has greatly improved and can be made to look quite natural.

    • noway says:

      I agree with you for the most part, and more power to you to sticking with your ideals when the world around you is so over sexualized. I think women should be allowed to be a virgin or have casual sex or many things in between and not be judged so harshly either way. Still I get the feeling she is over sharing her casual sex outlook to look cool. Which really isn’t cool at all. She just sounds vapid.

      My only disagreement with you is I think there are women out there who can have casual sex without any attachment or feelings what so ever. Definitely more men than women, but trust me there are some. Sex even casual does complicate things even for men. They usually don’t realize till it is over and something happens though. I am debating her boobs too, mainly cause she looks so different in the Blurred Lines video, Gone Girl and pictures above.

      • Felice says:

        it only bothers me when one of the people is in a relationship already. I can’t stand when women or men openly pursue people in relationships (knowingly)

    • Anna says:

      Nene, get out of my head! In the same way at 25. I find sex interesting, but I need to be challenged and I need there to be a mental attraction. I haven’t yet found the guy who makes my brain and my heart light up, so I’m a virgin at 25. You do you and live whatever life is right for you.

      • Wilma says:

        My husband did this for the same reason. It really was something that fitted the way he lived his life and he has no regrets. I went the casual route and sometimes do feel regret.

    • Claudia says:

      Puuuuhlease. For one girl, you have no idea what sex is. I am a girl (woman) in a 8 year long monogamic relationship, but between 19-22 I had sexually the best years of my life. I COMPLETELY separated it, I had a guys to cuddle and to talk and I had guys to sleep with. I was never attached to guys I just slept with, and one of them I met for 2 years 2 times a month. The D was just that good. Sometimes I had one night stands. My current bf is the only one where I found both-sex and love, but actually I like sex without love more. Good for you if you try to find love and trust and sex and intellectual stimulation all in one, but please don’t project it on every other woman.

  25. yoyogabba123 says:

    I would be too worried about the possible std risk (even with protection) to have casual sex with someone. Anyone else?

    • noway says:

      I am a bit older and I remember coming of age in the 80’s at the height of the AIDS crisis, and a lot of us were very scared. So yes all STD’s scare me with casual sex. My advice to anyone younger is okay be careful, but it is probably not worth it. Just saying.

      • HoolooPie says:

        I agree. These days it seems any sort of precaution or general distaste expressed against casual sex is interpreted as “slut-shaming”, as if it’s really something to be proud of (or aspire to) to sleep around. All morals, religious tenets, etc., aside, it simply is LUDICROUS to take that kind of risk with one’s health and shaming casual sexual behavior has NOTHING to do with judging someone’s character on the basis of whom/how many/how often. People act like STIs, HIV, unwanted pregnancy are not still on the table as real possibilities and somehow see promiscuity as some sort of badge of honor, like women are reclaiming womanhood, or owning their sexuality by being so wanton with their own health. Is there really no safer or more honorable way to do so?

      • Gina says:

        Noway: I was there right with you. AIDS scared the hell out of everyone and the Mr. Right Now days were over. That was truly the end of the hippie/love generation…changed everything. The nutballs back then said AIDS was here to kill gay men like they’re now saying Ebola is here to kill the West Africans. The world is as nuts now as it was then.

  26. laura says:

    The worst thing about this interview is that the typical Daily Star reader will see this and go “this woman wants to have sex therefore all women must want to have sex!” Not shading her for enjoying sex but the way this is written really annoys me

  27. Leslie says:

    This girl, like Shailene Woodley, should keep some of that personal stuff personal. When Shailene first came on the scene after doing The Descendants, I thought she was a neat person, but the more she opened her mouth and revealed personal information about sunning her VJ and all kinds of crazy stuff, I wanted to tell her to shut her trap. Same with this Emily person. I thought she had star power, but the more she opens her mouth, the more I realize she needs a really good PR person so she doesn’t become a laughing stock. I’m guessing a PR person coached her in this line of discourse in order to make her seem edge.

  28. GeeMoney says:

    Can’t get mad at her for saying that she likes casual sex… she’s 23 years old, and is trying to make her way in the world. I’m pretty sure I said things like that at that age, either to fit in better, to make guys dig me more and/or to sound really cool.

    Give her 3-10 years and she’ll wise up and start talking about how much she wants to be a wife and mom b/c she’s realized that sleeping around isn’t all what it’s cracked up to be.

  29. Chammy says:

    “these rocks don’t lose their shape”

    from: “Diamonds are a girls best friend”, M. Monroe

  30. Ginger says:

    Is this girls fifteen minutes over yet?

  31. Hypocrisy says:

    Kendall Jenner with Kylie Jenner lips & bigger b00bs.

  32. Kristen says:

    Why do stars always wear shoes that are too big? I mean, look at those heels. Those must have been slipping off all night.

  33. BlackBetty says:


  34. taxi says:

    Right. Never do handcuffs on a first date. Stephen King wrote a book many years ago in which a woman was stranded in cuffs.

  35. Fwozbo says:

    She sounds like a man who isn’t getting any. It’s known that the more a man brags about sex and stuff the less he is getting.