Gwyneth Paltrow on her marriage: “Nothing is as good as it looks”

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We’re not huge fans of Gwyneth “The Goop” Paltrow here. We never were, but her whole Goop website nonsense (and ridiculous defense of it) didn’t exactly help. She’s so holier-than-thou, even though she’s bland as oatmeal. But Gwyneth has finally admitted that her life isn’t 100% perfect like she’s always trying to play it off to be. She was vague about it, but you can read all sorts of things into it if you try hard enough. And believe me, we’re trying.

Gwyneth Paltrow is finally opening up about her marriage to Coldplay singer Chris Martin. “It’s hard!” she said at the Bent on Learning gala she hosted in NYC on Feb. 25. “Nothing is as good as it looks. Life is complicated, and there are always issues to overcome. Yesterday, he went to Australia, and I came here; you have to accept that.”

The couple, who married in 2003 and have two children, Apple, 4, and Moses, 2, have been rumored to be on the brink of splitting for years. But Gwyneth, 36, maintains that she and Chris, 32, are “very good friends,” and that’s the glue that holds them together. “We’re brutally honest with each other,” she says. “Even if, God forbid, we weren’t together in 10 years or whatever, I think we’re like a family.” But there may be a big fight brewing because Chris is “going to kill me for talking about this,” says Gwyn.

[From Life & Style]

Wait, the possibility even exists that Gwyneth and Chris could be anything less than the marital ideal in ten years? That just blew my mind. I find them each insufferable in their own way, but I think what I most loathe is their whole, “We refuse to be photographed together” thing. You’re a damn married couple, it’s not like you’re hiding your relationship, right? So what’s the harm in walking a red carpet together once in a while? Their lives really must be complicated if the idea of being arm-in-arm for half an hour causes such anxiety.

Normally I’d say something about how I’m glad to hear their lives aren’t so perfect. But I don’t think anyone ever bought that charade from Gwyneth in the first place. Until this quote she’d gone so ridiculously out of her way to appear perfect and lecture others on how to live. It was too much. You knew she was overcompensating for some hole or defect in her life. Now we just have to get more specifics on exactly what that is.

Here’s Gwyneth braving the cold weather while out and about in London on February 5th. Images thanks to

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  1. lisa says:

    Every marriage has its ups and downs, but it has to be extra hard when everyone is constantly watching your every move. Maybe she is trying to tell us something. Chris Martin acts like a complete tool anyway.

  2. Lesley says:

    I hate hearing that a marriage is in trouble, especially if there are children involved. I do hope that they can find peace together.
    And uh…you have millions already. Take a few years off and stay in the same house together for a while!

  3. mel says:

    No marriage is perfect especially in Hollywood. I hope they can stay together and work it out.

  4. lio says:

    “Nothing is as good as it looks”. Poor thing…From where i stand nothing is looking good at all!

  5. Enonymous says:

    These whole “refuse to be photographed together” has not stopped the media from talking about them and the state of their marriage, so might as well walk the red carpet together anyway.

  6. Mo says:

    They’re both insufferable. Goop is ridiculous and totally out of touch with reality. He’s a total wanker and his music is a rip-off of U2. No wonder Bono is so ticked off with him.

  7. Emily says:

    I don’t like her but I feel the whole “we don’t want to be photographed together” and “we don’t talk about our marriage” things is mostly Chris’s doing. Before him, Gwyneth was totally fine walking the red carpet with Brad Pitt and Ben Affleck. And I feel like she’s already been quoted saying “Chris will kill me for saying this!” when she opens up about her personal life.

  8. luckystar says:

    Constant hating on her is meaningless. She is a woman with a husband and two kids living in the public eye – in front of newsy media like this – trying to keep it all together and even, gasp, enjoy her life normally. What’s the big deal about the photos on the red carpet? Who cares? Goop? Don’t like it? Then frikken don’t read it. Geez. Throw some positive energy out.

  9. Kelly says:

    It’s sad when people are happy about someone else not being “completely” happy. Everyone has their issues and I find plenty of people annoying but that is not a good enough reason to take joy in their family problems.

    Shame on the ones that do!

  10. Wench. says:

    The worst thing about the Union of the Dull here is that Simon Pegg is Moses Godfather.

    Quite how a man who was capable of the genius of ‘Spaced’ ended up making utter shit Hollywood movies and bonding with the Martin’s is beyond me.

  11. lrm says:

    not being photographed together or doing a red carpet,just makes her sound even more [if that’s possible] arrogant and clueless. Like they are SO important that seeing them in public together might somehow do what?
    Noone cares; we know you’re married and you’re both in the spotlight. Get over it. It’s like they are doing it as a PR stunt to stay relevant,and garner extra publicity-making a rebellious issue where there is none.
    Wow,taking a stand against red carpet couple-dom; now that shows great strength and conviction!

  12. Mairead says:

    Wasn’t looking brilliant before love.

    Although, being the insufferable pretentious type myself I didn’t mind whatever I read of Goop. The one thing I can say is that we should really root for them to stay together, not just for the kids, but also for the fact that at least they’re contained within one unit, without having to suffer through more gossip about them separately.

  13. geronimo says:

    How very Gwynnie that she thinks we think her life looks good….

  14. Giz says:

    Get over yourself!

    Secondly, I could care less about Paltrow, Martin and their kids. My concern is about families just making it in these hard times. The families who brought the hard times on themselves. THOSE people.

    Ms. Goop wants to air her laundry before the media does. Maybe she should take her own advice on marriage. The same advice she was so eager to offer everyone else. You know, the ones who weren’t asking for it.

  15. Lee says:

    if I were forced to make a judgment about the state of their marriage just on appearance.. I’d think that it was an unholy union between two miserable unhappy people. and Chris has an inferiority complex, that’s probably why they aren’t photographed together- he’d get all pissy when photographers tell him to step out of the shot.

    but I don’t want to judge or anything.

  16. sienna says:

    Funny how some folks hate Gwyneth for being holier-than-thou and acting like hr life is perfect when Angelina Jolie acts the same way and you all fawn all over her!

  17. Lois says:

    “We’re like a family” – is that a real quote. Newsflash, GP, a marriage, two children – you are a family. Here’s another newsflash – your marriage does not look all that perfect to me. In fact, I do believe the reason CM is not photographed with GP is because she is the a vapid, mindless woman.

  18. Ophelia says:

    Spaced is totally brilliant! There are so few people that have seen in, I try to make everyone watch it, lol. I didn’t know he even knew them, let alone was the godfather of their kid. Ugh. But honestly, I don’t wish them harm, I hope they are happy. I just wish Paltrow would shut up. How can she possibly be related to Kate Moennig?

  19. Ruffian9 says:

    Don’t know why, but my only response to this is: Hahahahahahahahahahaha

  20. KDRockstar says:

    As much as I dislike them individually (both as self-centered idiots), I’ve liked them as a couple. Their children are adorable, and I hope that they are getting the attention they deserve, goopy or not.

  21. Mairead says:

    @ Guz… err, no.

    Out of curiosity, how is my comment more offensive than yours?

  22. Lina says:

    Having your marriage out there in the spotlight for everyone to comment on and judge is hard. Which is probably why so many celebrity relationships fail.

  23. anastasiabeaverhausen says:

    Yeah, I wish she’d just STFU.

  24. TM says:

    She and Chris –perfect for each other,each being a pompous @ss I hope they stay in their marriage till death do them part.
    Though she does have that one little redeeming quality for the genius of calling the ‘rachel’ , ” that TV girl”. muaahahahahaha…..

  25. yasmin says:

    LoL. Well it must be pretty damn bad then, if its not as good as it looks… cos it doesn’t look like a very happy marriage… do they even spend any time together?

    Maybe gwen’s marriage is breaking down and consequently, she is too… inspiring her to make goop? Just a thought lol

  26. cara says:

    Wow! That top pic is the best pic I’ve ever seen of her. She looks, dare I say, good.

    (notice, it’s not of her dead on)

  27. Aspen says:

    Generally, in order for a marriage to succeed, both partners actually have to care for and BE WITH the other person.

    You can’t spend years away from one another…never creating a nuclear home unit…and expect everyone to stay lovey dovey.

    Humans don’t work that way.

  28. Cara says:

    Aspen, I so agree. I cannot understand why she does not travel with Chris or he travel with her. They are apart far more than they are together. She went to Spain alone and made a food travel show for months. She films in the US and they are apart for weeks and months, same when he tours all over the world. They have to money and the ability to coordinate their schedules and be together but have never done so. She will be back in the US soon to film Iron Man 2, and he will be in the UK, apart again. Can’t they see what a negative impact on a relationship not being together as much as possible is?

    Chris appears to not want her to say anything abut their life together ever, and she is lately blurting things calculated to anger him. They are both acting like 2 very unhappy people to me. I am sensing Madonna and Guy here.

  29. Howie says:

    I really hope they work it out- I love her and think he’s incredibly charming and funny.

  30. tigerlille says:

    Good God Almighty, WHY do “we just have to get more specifics on what ever it is” that is wrong with their marriage? Gwyneth, show some respect for your husband’s desire for privacy, and keep your mouth shut! I, for one, do NOT want to know what the matter is! It is none of our business!!! The mere thought of knowing makes me all itchy. Talk to your husband, and/or a therapist that the two of you trust. Do not invite the media in to share your intimate marital issues with…that is an action you would regret at your leisure.

  31. morgs says:

    I’m with Mairead.

    I still have a soft spot in my heart for Gwyneth. She was a cold fish in Great Expectations, but she looked amazing(horrible reason I know). I don’t wish divorce on anyone.

    Chris and Simon went to school together and knew each other long before Gwyneth came along. I remember reading an interview with him talking about it.

    Her talking about things that are sure to piss him off is completely passive-aggressive and won’t get either of them to a happier place. Good luck on that one.

  32. Carolyn says:

    Unpopular opinion, but I like her!

  33. MT says:

    No one ever thought she had a good married.
    Her husband didn’t even want to marry her, and she was 9 month pregnant when they did.

    Now they are always apart and he looks stoned all the time and make some odd comments about exploring your sexiality and how he feels about homosexuality (odd for a married man, not “odd” in general).

  34. mariah says:

    I think people are being way too hard on Gwyneth. Dare I say I do enjoy reading her GOOP. She’s opening herself up to lots of criticism by publishing things that she likes, and who is anyone to tell her what she should and shouldn’t say? We need to open our minds, even if we don’t agree.

  35. Nah, doubt the marriage is on the rocks. She’s just being philosophical.

  36. Mairead says:

    Thanks morgs 😉 Im not a fan at all though, but I thought what I read of Goop was grand, its only being slagged off because its her. And to be honest I thought I’d be right on that bandwagon. But it seems I’m mellowing a bit towards her.

    The whole “not being photographed together thing” just reeks of Cut-Price Sting not wanting to be known as Mr. Gwyneth Paltrow. Which in the early days i think was fair enough, although they could have gone about it in a less irritating way. CM is now becoming as well known as GP now, so what’s their excuse?

  37. lway says:

    @ Mairead – LOL!, “Cut Price Sting” – Good One!

  38. geronimo says:

    “…its only being slagged off because its her.”

    Bit of a generalisation there, Mairead. Think you’ve OD’d on the GOOP. Some of us dislike it because it’s highly derivative and relentlessly dreary. But, whatever floats your boat!

    @Ophelia & Wench – Yay! Another massive Spaced fan here!! Best thing ever, I’ve nearly worn out my dvds.

  39. Frenchie says:

    As much as I wouldn’t talk to Gweeny if I met her, I am team “woman power”.
    I dare Chris to kill you about talking of your mariage.
    What did he do in the “trouble” song : talking about being caught in spiderweb is a bad enough confession about the cleaniliness of your house.
    Be strong… Live strong.

  40. barneslr says:

    What? Miss Perfect doesn’t have a perfect marriage?


  41. Mairead says:

    Geronimo – visiting a website two-three times isn’t overdosing. As I said, what I read I thought was grand, not enough to make me punch the screen, but I’d never recommend anyone to read it. God, you people have me almost defending Paltrow here… oh dear!

    Now for real website overdosing, I think my icanhascheezburger-habit is going to need psychological intervention soon 😉

  42. sissoucat says:

    I’m worried about that part of Chris forbidding her to say anything negative about her marriage.

    Same as my abusing husband did.

    That’s controlling.

    Like other posters pointed out before, he’s probably the one refusing the pictures together. She sounds pretentious, but what if she was merely repeating her husband’s opinion ?

    We’re talking about a woman that Madonna publicly bosses around. And she still supports Madonna, instead of telling her off.. sounds a bit subservient, no ?

    I hear you, Tigerlille, she should respect her husband’s need for privacy. But does he respect her by saying he’s not getting any in the States or whatever was his comment ?

    This Gwyneth Story sounds fishy.

  43. Gemma says:

    “But does he respect her by saying he’s not getting any in the States or whatever was his comment ?”
    Come on, he was stating a fact which is :if he is not with his wife, he can’t get any.I mean that’s only expected from a married man.And the whole quote was about all the things he misses while in America,I thought he was being funny in Christ Martin fashion.
    I agree with Tigerlile, he is intitled to his privacy and his wife should respect that. If he wants to keep his marital problems in the secret of their home, Gwyneth shouldn’t be sharing it with the world. She knows he is going to be angry about that, still she opens her mouth. That tells you something about their relationship.

  44. the original kate says:

    for two people who claim to value privacy so much they talk alot about their private lives! and now with gwoopeth’s blog there is even more. i love johnny depp and vanessa paradis – they do not talk about their family life at all, ever. and they’ve been together for a while and have 2 or 3 kids – not even sure how many or what their names are… i think a girl named lily? in any case, i think the paltrow-martins love the publicity but they probably think it’s cooler to pretend not to want it.

  45. Carrie says:

    The refusal to be photographed together always struck me as highly dysfunctional. I don’t either love or hate Gwynnie, but I’d hazard a guess her marriage is about as mutually fulfilling as her mate Madge’s marriage to Guy.

  46. Obama Llama says:

    she’s a bigot. he’s a bigot. they have that in common. my proof? show me any african babies they’ve adopted! i’m waiting… case proven.

  47. Sakota says:

    Fishstick probably regrets not snagging a multi-billionaire tycoon that she must believe she deserves.

    Frankly though, she dated and married someone in her class.

    By class I mean someone in her career and actual social field, not the high society she believes she deserves.

  48. g says:

    if its not broke… their way works for them they dont bother anyone or slag people off. they are guilty of being private and being good parents to their kids….shoot them!