Cameron Diaz: ‘We girls sometimes pick the same guy over & over again’

Cameron Diaz

Cameron Diaz covers the January issue of Cosmo to promote her role as Miss Hannigan in the Annie remake. I find that a little bit funny (demographic wise), but Cameron has been on Cosmo’s cover more times than I can count. This is a regular pit stop for her. The shoot is typical Cameron. The interview is … different. Thanks to nice guy Benji Madden, we can witness a kinder, gentler Cam. That’s not very good for gossip, is it? Her answers come from a place that says, “Finally, I can relax in a relationship without worrying about the guy screwing me over.” On the other hand, she’s totally a relationship expert now:

On making a romance work: “You have to find someone in the same place as you are. Timing is everything. If you get into a relationship where you want something the guy doesn’t want, it’s never gonna work. You’re never going to get him to be in that place. No matter how old you are, finding the guy who’s in the same place as you are and wants to show up is the only way a relationship works, period.”

Lessons from past relationships: “Here’s the thing. You make the same mistake over and over again until you learn your lesson. We girls sometimes do the thing where we pick the same person over and over again — they look and seem different, but deep down, they’re the same. And that’s on us.”

Her singing in Annie: “It was the most terrifying thing I’ve ever done in a movie. I cried a lot. [Miss Hannigan is] bitter because her chance at fame was stolen, and all she can taste is that taste, which is very much in line with this day and age. People determine your value by how many friends you have on Facebook or if you’re Instagram famous.”

[From Cosmopolitan]

Yeah, Cameron is completely happy with Benji. It shows. She’s looking back at her romantic past with a new perspective. Girlfriend realizes that she wasted too many years on a bunch of tools (Timberlake, Leto, A-Rod, and P. Diddy). Earlier this year, Cam ranted about how everyone cheats in relationships, and women should examine why they are being cheated on. Now she’s more at peace, as if she realizes Benji wouldn’t do that to her. It’s kind of awesome. I mean, Cameron is still a rude pill in other ways, but I’m happy she and Benji found each other.

Cameron Diaz

Photos courtesy of Matthias Vriens-McGrath/Cosmopolitan & WENN

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  1. I thought of Leo D., when I read the title. Which is SAD, because he’ll never give an interview like this. He’ll just continue on, once or twice a year, reiterating that he wants to get married and make babies…all the while rotating his 18-21 year old model girlfriends out every six months or so (after he dumped Bar, he seems to have regressed from his serial monogamist-like ways)…..

    • minime says:

      Yep, all of that. I think in fact it was already when he broke up with Bünchen (or she broke up with him). It looks to me that she was the only one with whom he was actually a “monogamist” (kinda)…and I think there was a glimpse again with Blake Lively but she was too cleaver for him and soon realized that he would never change his ways (or maybe it was all an act, who knows)…but no, he will never give this kind of interview and it’s getting a bit creepy that he gets older and the girlfriends get more and more in the “barely legal” zone.

      • Well, funnily enough, they’ve actually ‘aged’ a few years. Like he got with Gisele and Bar when they were 19, and dated for about 6 years. Now his girlfriends are, for the most part, 21/22 when they start. Of course some of them still look younger than that–I remember when he was with Erin Heatherton–who has a ‘farm girl’ look, beyond looking like she’s 12 years old in the face. At least Toni Garn looks older (at least to me, I wouldn’t have been surprised if she was actually 30–well, if she hadn’t been with Leo).

      • minime says:

        LOL Good to know that at least his tendency is not developing to even younger than before. So he is getting very slowly away from the barely legal. To me Toni Garn looks freaking young but maybe it’s just by comparison side by side with him. But you’re right, Erin Heatherton looked even younger, although in the end they all look very interchangeable. I don’t know…if these girls would be my friends I would be a bit concern about how much they value themselves, but if they are happy with whatever arrangement they get, fine. He is the one that looks like a perv unable to have a relationship with a peer.

      • Kitten says:

        BINGO! So much word to what you said here, VC.

    • Jegede says:

      Leo was NEVER a serial monogamist.
      He was just lucky social media and blogosphere was not there to record his behaviour the way it does now.

      He was cheating and clubbing the same way when dating Bar before he dumped her in 2008, 2009 and finally 2011

    • perplexed says:

      I always thought Leo D expressed a cynicism about marriage like George Clooney before he met Amal. I never got the impression that Leo D was faking that he wanted to get married. He seemed upfront about not wanting to do it and noted how everybody gets divorced so what’s the point (for him, I mean)? Not that I approve of him running around with 18 year olds, but the marriage thing has always seemed like something he was publicly against. Therefore, it’s a bit harder to get at him on the issue.

  2. Kdlaf says:

    Yeah this actually seems like a genuine interview. I think theres a lot of truth to what shes saying, and its a lesson everyone has to learn themselves. I learned this my last year of college and a lightbulb kind of went off. She always seemed like a cool lady, glad shes finding her happiness!

    • Gea says:

      Cameron always gives big statements about relationships. Praising guys that she is with and then when things deosnt goes the way she planed, gives her worlds of wisdom. I remember watching her on late show, she was giving her advices on how to keep man happy when she was dating ARod. I was thinking watching, how old she think she is? I don’t now how serious she is about any of them, really.

  3. Jegede says:

    It sort of contradicts what she had always insisted was the case, vis a vis relationships, in her earlier interviews (and I never bought the line she fed then) but good for her

  4. Kiddo says:

    Those are two separate issues, I think. Some men and women (are just assholes, if they) are conning belief in a relationship with substance, for a trade off of end game, or some may be upfront about being perpetually relationship-unencumbered, and they will likely remain that way, and treat interactions with sexual partners like take-out orders. Other men and women may be in varying stages of development with other elements of life that might take priority over being ‘present’ in a relationship. For the aforementioned, to be in the same place, would require a laissez-faire acceptance of casual sex and a superficial emotional arrangement; Which isn’t a problem if that is what you are up for. But the first group may never evolve to the second group of right time/right place person, so you have to be able to recognize the difference. From this interview, I’m not sure if that is articulated, but at least she acknowledges picking the same type and knowing that it didn’t work for her.

    On a completely superficial level, these asymmetrical side strap dresses take on the effect of a uniboob.

    • Kitten says:

      For some reason, I was having trouble absorbing everything you wrote here. I’m not hungover either, so maybe I’m just dumb.

      I’ll just say this: pretty much everyone I know, including all my friends who were single well into their late-thirties/early-forties, who claimed they would NEVER be in a relationship, much less get married, ended up in a serious relationship or married.

      I’m not sure you can break it down to just one factor but as trite as it sounds, I do think it’s so much about finding the right person, and also the right timing for both people involved. Good communication, being on the same page and in the same stage in life are also paramount.

      That being said, monogamy and serious relationships aren’t for everyone, but I think that’s more the exception than the rule.

      • Kiddo says:

        What I was getting at was the confirmed bachelor/bachelorette types, who will never be monogamous but also never relate above superficiality, and on the nefarious-end, users, (as to my description of the first group). Cami isn’t just talking about her 20’s, KWIM?

  5. Hautie says:

    “We girls sometimes do the thing where we pick the same person over and over again — they look and seem different, but deep down, they’re the same….”

    I have pointed this same issue out to numerous friends through the years. We tend to keep dating the same exact (jackass) man… over and over.

    I swear that is what our 20’s were all about. Then it does dawn on you, that is the problem. It is not so much that you are the crazy one… as much as you keep picking out the same jackass type of man. Who makes you end up acting crazy, second guessing everything. Ugh.

    I am so glad that I lived through that phase. And got a lot better determining which men are worth the effort.

    Plus I can spot a legit jackass, without hesitation.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Agree and think that’s another reason to not marry too early. Some people get lucky, but a lot of people who marry before the jackass is out of their system wind up miserable.

  6. Rhiley says:

    She has pretty crappy taste in men, but at least she doesn’t try to front. She likes a little skeeze.

  7. Lahdidahbaby says:

    Yes indeed, we do fall for the same man again and again…and then one day we wake up and realize the man is our father, who never paid a moment’s attention to us and rarely at any given time even knew how old we were. Oh. Oops. Excuse the little outburst. I’ll be incorporating it into my memoir, HOW I GOT THIS WAY.

  8. lucy2 says:

    Between the pose and that dress, the cover photo looks very awkward and uncomfortable.

  9. Alexis says:

    It irritates me how she tends to generalize her personal experience to all women….

  10. Leah says:

    So basically; She used to go for hot guys with a wandering eye. Now she is with a homely looking guy who can’t believe his luck and would never do that!

  11. TTMuch says:

    I can’t be the only one who gritted her teeth over a 40s woman referring to herself as a “girl”, can I? Maybe? Okay.

    • Linn says:

      You beat me to it. I was just writing the exact same thing when I read your post.

      I was less generous than you though and wrote women over 30. I’m not even 30 and in most situations I find it weird when people call me a girl.

      • TTMuch says:

        @Linn and Santia: it’s just creeeepy and a little eye-rolly imo. Makes me think of someone’s delusional elderly auntie sitting around with a bunch of 20 year olds talking about”us girls!”. Herk. You’re in your 40s, Cam! You’re a woman now!

    • Santia says:

      I clicked on the link JUST to say that. 😀 Unless you’re 13 years old, you’re not a girl. You’re a young lady, and then a woman. Period.

    • Lucky Charm says:

      I don’t see what the big deal is about her saying “girls”. We have girls weekend once a year with all the female coworkers, and no one seems to have a problem calling it that. It doesn’t mean that any of us consider ourselves a girl instead of a woman, but it’s a just a generic reference to gender.

  12. Sara says:

    Timberlake, Leto, A-Rod, and P. Diddy

    ah the gallery of shame. but its a very good example. those men all look very different, but its all just on the outside.

    on the other hand its not like no one knows about these guys and the way they act. if you want to date a douchebag, go ahead, there is no law against it, but never complain about it and certainly dont put your poor choices on an entire gender. at least Cameron realizes that its a problem of choice.

  13. FingerBinger says:

    You forgot she also dated Matt Dillon.

  14. Sumodo1 says:

    Yep, she’s into a bit of skeeze, Matt Dillon et al. And, she’s starting to look like Magda (TSAM) and should lay off the sun forever!,

  15. Ciria says:

    She is right. Many times people fall for the same type of person again and again.

  16. I'm With The Band says:

    Good God, I’m getting sick of Cameron speaking on behalf of all women. Since when did she become the spokeswoman/lifestyle guru for the female population? Just speak for yourself.