Prince Harry sabotages his relationships, he’s ‘a rudderless commitment phobe’


Here are some photos of Prince Harry in Bath, England on Friday, attending the first day of “selection” for the British Invictus Games team. I was going to write about these photos on Friday, but I couldn’t find any decent gossip about Harry, so I just waited. And sure enough, there was a slew of gossip about Harry over the weekend!

First off, The Sun (via The Daily Mail) claims that Harry has been dating an American! If you believe that… well… no. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure Harry has hooked up with many, many American ladies. But making an American his official? Probably not. Anyway, The Sun claims he’s been seeing an LA-based PR assistant for Dior. Her name is Juliette Labelle and she’s 22 years old. A source claims they met in LA, during Harry’s last trip there and he was attracted to her cool, boho vibe, also she’s blonde and has a great body. Except that at the end of this story, someone actually contacted miss Labelle and she said, “I don’t know Prince Harry.” So once again, Harry is the Bridget Jones of the royal family. When will he ever settle down? Thankfully, there was another Daily Mail story about just that, and so much more. Some highlights:

Harry was seen with Suki Waterhouse recently. He came to one of her parties and people thought maybe she would be prince-bait, but it doesn’t sound like much happened. She’s 24 years old, posh, and a former flame of Bradley Cooper, as many of you know.

Harry is a self-saboteur. The Mail refers to Harry as “a rudderless commitment phobe, prone to periods of gloom which go against his cheeky chappie image, Harry has been left wary of marriage by his parents’ acrimonious divorce…Indeed, some suggest he may sub-consciously sabotage relationships to avoid greater pain — and greater loss — later on.”

Is he really looking for a wife? A source says probably not: “Like most commitment phobes, what he says, or even thinks he wants, and how he behaves are quite different things.”

Harry is untethered. The Mail writes: “Most men don’t want to marry until they know what they are going to do in life, and Harry has never been so untethered. According to one in his circle, he misses the Army, which he left last June.” A source claims, “Harry is not by nature a loner; he functions best as part of the team, whether it’s polo, charity work or the Army. He loved his Army chums and misses the adrenaline rush of frontline manoeuvres, the joshing and support from his regiment comrades.”

Harry is leaning on Charles? A source insists, “Harry leant heavily on William as comforter, and Charles seems to have grown into that role now that William has his own family. He is eager to try everything, as he knows life can be snatched away so quickly. He empathises with children who have suffered the early loss of a parent and is genuinely moved to tears.”

Harry in relationships: A source says, “He holds something back. He has never given 100 per cent commitment. Sometimes he is lonely — texting 15 times a day — but he is not always consistent. He will then go quiet. This is classic commitment phobia. Sometimes needy, sometimes aloof; neither deliberately. Naturally flirty and distracted by other women, and funny and jokey, he can also be a little bit spoiled and moany about the Press and privacy, just like his brother. But he doesn’t have William’s sense of duty or, indeed, the defined pathway of being in line for the top job. He has his mother’s charisma, some of his father’s self-pity, but also the good intentions of both. Brilliant with strangers and charity work, but tricky with women; he won’t negotiate with them or put them first. That’s why they leave him.”

Harry genuinely wants kids. Sources claim that while Harry runs hot and cold of the idea of settling down with a wife, he’s definitely “properly broody” and he’s “brilliant with children… He gets on with children because he has a short attention span like them, and he’s childish. He likes to encourage Prince George to be as naughty as possible — he’s the self-styled naughty uncle.”

[From The Daily Mail]

There’s a lot of stuff in this piece that I flat-out don’t believe and stuff that seems like it comes from Team Cambridge, designed to flatter William and make Harry look messy. The Mail’s sources insist that Harry is secretly close to Camilla and she’s his biggest cheerleader… um, doubtful. I also doubt that when it comes to “sense of duty,” William is the brother to go to. Yeah, as we’ve seen time and time again, Harry is the one throwing himself into royal work while William faffs around pretending to be “normal.” But I do agree with the larger point of this piece, which is that Harry is self-defeating, and he doesn’t want the ladies who throw themselves at him, nor does he want the Middleton-esque ladies who just want The Ring.



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  1. Crumpet says:

    “He has his mother’s charisma, some of his father’s self-pity, but also the good intentions of both.” That sounds about right.

    Sometimes commitment phobes are afraid of relationships until they meet the right person, and then they aren’t. I hope that is true of Harry.

  2. COSquared says:

    “Doesn’t have William’s sense of duty”. * chokes and nearly dies*

    • Melly says:

      That sentence stopped me in my tracks! I now think the whole peice is nonsense. Just because he’s not married doesn’t mean he’s a “commitment phobe”

    • Deedee says:

      So, is this saying that he’s not a slacker like William? Because that’s a good thing.

      • LAK says:

        The reverse. They are saying he is a slacker compared to William….0_o!!

      • Melly says:

        Exactly what @LAK said. This article is trying to say that WILLIAM has a sense of duty, and Harry lacks that sense. Bunch of rubbish

      • Deedee says:

        I was being snarky. William is throwing Good King Harry under the bus. Yet again. I think it’s time for the peasants to unleash some Normal Bill Backlash.

  3. Betti says:

    Hi #poorjason we see your hand in this Bucket fluff piece. I particularly love this bit: ‘Harry’s doesn’t have his brothers sense of duty’, I almost fell off my chair when i read that whopper. Another Harry hatchet job to make the Cambridges, particularly Katie Bucket, look good.

    For the record i don’t think he’s a commitment phobe; the kind of woman he likes seems to be the independent type with their own careers/lives that they are unwilling to give up for the life that comes with him. He should go for an older lady who has/had a successful career – I’m single and like ginger beards! Call me ;)

    • Esther says:

      while i think that most women wouldnt want to life in the cage that comes with being married to a prince his ladies werent exaclty self made career women.

      • perplexed says:

        They might not be self-made (I doubt most people that get to move in royal circles truly are), but they seemed to aspire to having careers. Doesn’t one of the blondes have a law degree, and the other blonde want an acting career? Clearly, they want some level of independence and a job that evolves into a career.

  4. vauvert says:

    So much bull. This is Will’s PR at work trying to throw shade at Harry who is well liked, actually throws himself wholeheartedly in his patronages and comes across as caring, sincere and devoted to the causes he is a patron of.
    I don’t believe for one second that he leans on Will, whose marriage is many things but not a model of a good, solid relationship. Nor is Will any model in terms of work or career.
    But nice try Will, trying to portray your younger brother in a negative light to distract attention from your lack of maturity or work ethic.

    • wow says:

      There’s nothing to suggest it’s coming from William’s camp (or Carole’s camp). More than likely it’s just made up straight from the press themselves. It wouldn’t be the first time. Definitely won’t be the last.

    • ladysussex says:

      Why is there always this suggestion that Will (or his wife) is making up negative things about his own brother who, by all accounts, he’s always been very close to?

  5. COSquared says:

    Why are there commitmentphobe/looks up to big “dutiful” bro/party prince articles every other time Harry has an engagement?

    • Melly says:

      Curious, isn’t it? It’s almost like someone **cough William cough* doesn’t want Harry to get good press.

  6. kri says:

    I will steer his rudder.

  7. Bettyrose says:

    So, Harry wants to marry for love? He’s seeking a life mate who will continue to challenge him and keep life interesting throughout the years? Wait, where’s the problem?

    • wow says:


      Exactly! The only thing “wrong” is that timeline apparently isn’t working quick enough for some of The British Press who seems to want another royal wedding yesterday already. It seems as if they are chomping at the bit to compare whoever she will be to Kate, and compare their clothing choices and how the two marriages measure up against each other etc… You know all of those type headlines that sell papers/magazines. *side eye*

    • Susan says:

      I personally find people that are comfortable waiting for the right person–and being gasp! alone–to be far more confident than those people who need a security blanket partner that doesn’t challenge them. Cough cough WILLIAM

  8. Jayna says:

    He’s 30 years old. There’s plenty of guys who didn’t settle down until after being in their 30s. I know quite a few, and at least they didn’t have a divorce under their belt by the time of 30, like so many do.

  9. Jessica says:


    • wolfie says:

      Adding additional – HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I’m curious about all the photos where he is looking at Kate like he is wondering what planet she could have come from. The warmth he seemed to have for her at the wedding is gone.

  10. Pinky says:

    Is that what happens with gingers? As they age they redden–in the face?

    Also, I don’t understand his hair. Haven’t a clue what’s happening there. And it’s been going on a long time.


    • Citresse says:

      I noted the different/unusual hair during the interview with Ant and Dec. The texture has really changed since he was a boy- remember the funeral of Diana- his hair was quite straight, flyaway. Now it’s rather coarse and he seems to put some kind of product in it to create pointy ends. He seems to fidget somewhat (from the Ant and Dec interview) so if he has ADHD it certainly would affect romantic relationships.

    • cr says:

      The redness in the face is probably rosacea. He’s probably not particularly attentive to wearing sunblock or sunhats.
      I can assure you it’s not just with gingers.

  11. wow says:

    Hmm…so basically they know nothing more than any of us do about Harry’s love life and will keep making up stuff until something sticks? I guess that will work.

    I wonder who they will pair him with next since actresses, Americans,Vegas strippers, Pippa, charity workers, wounded service women, aristocrats, Kate’s advice (lol) and fellow royal princesses haven’t worked in their stories? Who will they create a faux relationship with next? A nun? A priest? A school teacher? A nanny who will outshine Mary Poppins? Decisions…decisions…

    • suze says:

      They keep throwing women up against the wall – someone will stick.

      I do like the dizzying speed with which he has gone from secretly reuniting with Chelsy *and* Watercress, to hooking up with his very younger fourth cousin, to dating actresses, to Pippa, back to society women, to older women, to picking up aid workers….

  12. littlemissnaughty says:

    Sure, whatever. Maybe some of it is true, who knows. Actually, chances are some of it IS true because basically, they covered everything and threw in ever contradiction possible so that they most likely hit on part of the truth somewhere. That doesn’t mean they know or have a source at all. This whole thing reads like a hack-y intern came up with it.

    I believe Harry does not, in fact, want someone who would “marry up” so to speak. He goes for the ones with an independent streak, doesn’t he? That could be the problem because how the hell do these women fit into The Firm? I think the Queen should take away the pressure and let him know that his future wife doesn’t have to participate. No title, no official role no money. It would still be awful enough to marry into this.

  13. shw says:

    I was wondering if you’d pick this up – he was at the Uni where I work. No salacious gossip, but I did walk past him, and he’s shorter than I imagined.
    (And no, I didn’t get photos. I’m a life long Republican, so it would have felt a bit odd asking a Royal for a selfie!)

    • Ollie says:

      celebs and co are always shorter than imagined.
      Even if you know they are short… i once walked past Kylie Minogue. I always knew she is little and so around 5ft, but damn she was tiny! Really really tiny! I´m short myself and i felt like godzilla next to her. She is definitely shorter than 5ft

      • Betti says:

        ITA – I walked past Kit Harrington and even thou i knew he wasn’t a tall fellow, i was still surprised with how short he was. I’m 5’5′ and he seemed to be a similar height. He’s also of a rather slender build.

  14. trillian says:

    Getting on with children doesn’t mean you’re ready to have them … in fact, a short attention span and being childish yourself are not the best qualifications.

  15. ell says:

    i still don’t know why anyone finds him attractive. he looks like his father.

    • Citresse says:

      He does look like Charles- the eyes, shape of head, hairline, the nose. William, even though he looks much like his uncle Edward, is so much more like Diana.

    • Hannah says:

      Yeah he pretty much looks like a slightly better looking ( taller and thinner) ed sheran.

      They like him becayse he’s a prince. i have seen pictures from when Charles was young and ( believe it or not) women were creaming themselves at him too. It’s disneys fault…. 😂

      • Betti says:

        Charles wasn’t that bad when he was a young man, he got better as he got older.

      • ell says:

        “i have seen pictures from when Charles was young and ( believe it or not) women were creaming themselves at him too.”

        hahaha, ew charles always looked terrible.

      • Holmes says:

        Uh, women were throwing themselves at princes hundreds of years before Disney existed.

    • Farhi says:

      I don’t like him because he seems to lack a purpose in life and the sense of self, of who he is. Most of our power and attraction as individuals comes from our purpose and our sense of selves.

  16. Talie says:

    I don’t think it would be crazy for him to end up with a non-Brit, but I do think some of this story is true. That he probably runs hot and cold with women he dates, and at his age, most of those women want to know the relationship will progress to the altar.

    • Holmes says:

      A non-Brit, sure, but an American? I’d put higher odds on HM abdicating than on that ever happening. All other reasons aside, I’m sure they remember what happened the last time a prince wanted to marry an American…

  17. Hannah says:

    All I get from Harry posts is that he has a lot of stans, and they always think it’s Williams fault if Harry isn’t presented in the best light. As if the uk gutter press needs Williams help…

  18. anne_000 says:

    Well, good for Harry that he doesn’t just keep a ‘Mattress’ on the side to be his beck-and-call girl whenever he’s not pursuing someone else and good for him that he’s not willing to marry a thirsty, airhead girl like that just because people around him are telling him to get married.

    I do hope he’s choosy. And all these girls the tabloids are trying to connect to him, the early 20-something years old ones… eh? What’s the point? He needs a mature woman. Not someone he has to teach how to be an adult. Maybe he’s aware of how this type of situation is not working out so well for his brother. Why be stuck with someone you have to drag around like an anchor around your neck?

    If anything, I hope he finds someone in her 30s. Even if she already has a kid or two, it can be a Morganatic marriage, right?

    • Betti says:

      From what i recall the people (friends and family) around Normal Bill were telling him NOT to marry Katie Bucket and end it for good – after they got ‘back together’ after the 2007 breakup his father asked him if he intended to marry her, he said no but Willy is a man who brags and prides himself on being someone who does the opposite of what is expected of him and what people advise him to do.

      • anne_000 says:

        I have a feeling that it got embarrassing for him when people started figuring out that nobody more suitable wanted to marry him. Also, I think he’s the kind of guy that likes a doormat for a wife. And the Midds basically let him know that he can do whatever he wants because they’re in it for the celebrity factor, not for faithfulness in the marriage.

  19. Maggie says:

    He appears to be morphing into Charles unfortunately. He’s still very handsome.

  20. Meemoo says:

    ‘Rudderless commitment phobe’ is a phrase I will be adopting to describe the idiotic men-children I routinely come across in my dating life. I think this is the first time I’ve ever been positive about anything I’ve read in the Daily Mail. #wowsers

  21. :) says:

    He doesn’t need to marry so he won’t until he’s older.

  22. Anne says:

    “Rudderless commitment phobe” interesting phrasing, but I don’t believe it. I suspect many people expect someone in H’s position to be a stereotypical playboy. he seems more like someone who commits fully to long term relationships, to me. i wish him well in finding love with someone willing to take on his position.

  23. What's inside says:

    It is the matter of meeting the right woman — she has not appeared yet. He needs someone who can keep up with his interests, be a life-long companion. Also she needs to be tall, blonde, gorgeous, rich, well-mannered, intelligent, educated….

  24. Jwoolman says:

    They just need to get rid of the twofer idea for politicians and royalty. The spouse shouldn’t really have to have anything to do with his job. It’s too limiting.

  25. mkyarwood says:

    He’s going to sabotage every relationship until he meets someone with the strength of character and social empathy his mom had.

  26. AnotherDirtyMartini says:

    Suki is posh? I’ll take that with a grain of salt.