E!: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck ‘will continue to live in the house together’

Jennifer Garner at Miracles From Heaven Premiere in LA
These are photos of Jennifer Garner at the Miracles from Heaven premiere yesterday in LA. She’s in a bright pink strapless dress with black floral overlay that’s quite a departure from the black dresses and more conservative looks we’re used to seeing her on the red carpet. This isn’t her usual style and looks like something we’d see on Zooey Deschanel but I like it, it suits her. She lightened her hair and been wearing some obvious extensions lately but they look good, I like this younger look on her.

Remember how all the stories about Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck’s conscious uncoupling continued to emphasize that he was living in a guest house on the property? At some point he was renting Brooke Shields’ mansion down the street from his family’s estate, but then all the reports had him living in the guest house, a separate home entirely. Well there was a subtle shift in this narrative recently. An article in US Weekly’s print edition last week dropped the news, in a little sidebar story, that Ben was staying the room next door to Jen. Now there’s yet another “how they’re doing” story, this time in E! and it’s filled with all the platitudes we’ve come to expect about them, along with the important detail that they “will continue to live in the house together.” This is different and someone wants us to know about it. Here’s E!’s report:

“They will continue to live in the house together and have no plans to change that arrangement,” a source told E! News exclusively.

“They are in a really good place right now,” the source said. “A lot of the dust has settled and they have become accustomed to their new life, which is separate but together in a lot of ways. They continue to make the family their first priority and they have always been on the same page about that.”

A month after Affleck and Garner’s breakup announcement, the actor was linked to his children’s 28-year-old nanny. He has denied anything romantic went on between them. She no longer works for the family. Garner recently broke her silence on the split and the nanny in a bombshell interview with Vanity Fair.

“We had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny,” the actress said. “She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce.”

“Now that the Vanity Fair article is out, neither of them feel the need to talk about the past or the divorce,” the source told E! News. “They feel like everything has been answered and they just want to move forward. There is a lot of love between them. They don’t know exactly what it’s going to look like, but for now what they are doing is working for the family.”

[From E! Online]

If only all divorces could go so smoothly, but are they really going to divorce? Are they one of Lara Wasser’s March divorces or have they put a hold on it? E! goes on to report that Jennifer is off working, you can see some photos of her on the set of The Tribes of Palos Verdes below, and that these two are “trading off with the kids.” And in case you didn’t get the message that’s been hammered home the last few months the insider adds that “They have a good system in place. Everyone is happy right now.” Someone just needs to get Instagram and hire social media experts in their twenties to handle it because this PR is old school and it’s too much. Just post a cute family pic every few days and go easy on the hashtags. That would work so much better than sweater swapping for the paparazzi and giving insider quotes constantly.

These photos of Garner in the water are from the set of her film The Tribes of Palos Verdes, based on the novel of the same name. Other photos of Garner out with Affleck and their kid are from November. Credit: FameFlynet

Jennifer Garner at Miracles From Heaven Premiere in LA

Jennifer Garner at Miracles From Heaven Premiere in LA

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  1. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    God, I am so sick of this couple. You don’t stay in the same house unless one or both of you doesn’t want to pull the trigger. I couldn’t care less what the do, just wish they would do it.

    • tegteg says:

      Soooo true. They are really dragging this out. I think she’s willing to take him back, but he’s not sure if he wants to stick around.

    • Bearie says:

      They’re rich. It’s like living next door in that huge house. Also this is for the kids, why does it bother you if they want to give those kids two parents in the home?

      • paleokifaru says:

        Speaking from watching normal couples attempt this “nothing is really changing for you kids” divorce I’d say it’s because at some point the fallout is worse. One of the adults wants to or starts dating. Or one realizes this is never leading to reconciliation. And the blowout is epic and angrier because they spent months or longer thinking there was a path back or the fantasy of together but separate was feasible. And it’s not. People need time and space during a breakup. And your kids resent it more when you’ve spent months telling them this is their new normal and then you yank that away too.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        @Bearie

        I think it’s a terrible idea and a stupid way to handle it, for all of the reasons that paleokifaru states in her post. It’s a lie, and it will fail. it’s not fair to the children. And I’m just tired of hearing about it. You seem awfully invested in their perfection. Must be tough for right now.

    • Mimz says:

      I know! And If he’s sleeping next door to her, it’s like they are implying that they are consciously uncoupled but still banging on occasion.

    • thaisajs says:

      +100

      • Lauren II says:

        I have no desire to Bang Ben. He is repulsive and a Neverending nightmare. However, Matt Damon – Martian would be suitable. Ben seems very selfish, thus – terrible in bed.

    • Jwoolman says:

      I’ve known couples who did just this- each had their own room, they were separated maritally speaking but both were still there for the kids and no need for a dramatic exit or setting up separate homes. Not everybody hates their ex. Sometimes the marriage doesn’t work, but they still are friends. Many more people do this kind of informal “separated but not apart” thing than you might realize, even if mainly for economic reasons. But it makes dealing with children much easier also. A different arrangement becomes necessary only if one of them wants to marry someone else, then a formal divorce is needed. But not everyone needs to do that.

      • Calcifer says:

        My parents divorced when I was 12 and my dad moved to another town. For a few years I visited him on weekends and every time I had to say goodbye to him to go back to my mother and stepfather, it broke my heart. I wish I could have had him somewhere nearby, maybe not next door, but close. It was such a difficult time.

      • Kitten says:

        See? This sounds totally normal to me. Then again, I’m the type who makes it a point to stay friends with my exes so it’s natural that I would have a differing perspective.

      • Calcifer says:

        @Jwoolman After I just told my own story in reaction to your post, I guess I forgot to say that I agree with you. I really think it is in the children’s interest to have both their parents in close proximity.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I’m sure some people can make it work out, but it seems unhealthy to me. How can you move on if you still have one foot in the past. I say that, however, as someone who has divorced a very manipulative man. It was healthiest for me to make a complete break from him. So maybe I just can’t imagine a different scenario. If I had wanted to stay friends with him, I don’t think I would have wanted to live in the same house, but as I said, it’s hard for me to even imagine ever wanting to see him again.

      • paleokifaru says:

        I’ve stayed friends with exes too but I didn’t continue staying in their homes. That would have been too confusing for us as adults. And we didn’t have children! At least from what I’ve seen with friends and family, this type of situation becomes much more messy and volatile in the long run than just making the break. Stay friendly or at least courteous for the kids, try to stay nearby, but make it clear that there are changes and this is the new normal. It’s too confusing for everyone else otherwise and can end up more hurtful.

      • Calcifer says:

        @Goodnamesall taken and @paleokifaru Yes, I agree with you that, when their relationship has ended, parents should be absolutely clear about it to their children. And all of the family staying in one house after a divorce might be confusing for everyone. And it is certainly out of the question when one of the parents is abusive towards children or ex-partner.

  2. Sam says:

    I wonder how things would have turned out had Ben Affleck got what he wanted and ended up with Blake Lively. Like that’s a serious question. He could have had his slave plantation other half instead she’s off married to Deadpool and his name pops up everyday about whether he and Jen Garner will get back together. The what ifs and what could have beens.

    • lila fowler says:

      Was that a real thing or just a casting couch situation?

      • Sam says:

        I don’t think it was a casting couch situation. Blake was never involved in the casting couch. Those were all rumors that I refuse to believe because her family is or was in the industry at one point or another and that’s how she gets her roles…through all her connections. The thing with Ben though I think it was real. I don’t know how far it went but the guy was raving about her years after they worked together and just last year Blake was talking about getting her best advice from Ben.

    • Magnoliarose says:

      I agree with you about Blake. She seems more his type.

  3. Naya says:

    *sigh. As I have been saying, there will be no divorce for a few years. And no its not a Batman strategy, nobody who was going to see it would skip it over his marital status. It coz they like each other but also dont like each other – “its complicated”

  4. Unmade_bed says:

    I respect unconventional marriages and think it’s great she is getting press. We’re looking, aren’t we?

  5. Patricia says:

    I don’t like this for the kids. And let me be clear: it’s wonderful when parents who are divorced put the kids first, live nearby, keep life normal and are both involved on a daily basis.
    What I don’t like is when parents split up, can’t handle their shit, and then get back together. My husband’s parents did this repeatedly and I can tell you, by the time I met him as a teenager he wished they would just divorce and stop with the emotional roller coaster. I feel like Ben and Jen’s kids have just buckled their seat belts for years of the on-and-off-parents roller coaster ride. It’s better to just be adults and accept the end of the marriage, and start a new and stable life that involves two households and no more upheaval.

    • MrsBPitt says:

      Well, I have known a lot of couples who have weathered cheating issues, to get counseling, and end up in a great marriage. I’m not saying this is the case for everyone…I also know couples where cheating has devastated, DEVASTATED families…so everyone is different. I don’t care if they get back together or get divorced, but I’m glad they are focused on the kids. It sounds like, when Jen is working, Ben is there for the kids and when Ben is working, Jen will be in the house. I don’t think, they are spending massive amounts of time together. And, I’m sure, their home is big enough, that if they need a break from each other, they can go to another wing of the of the house, or to a hotel for a few days…or take off to an island vacation…God, it must be great to be rich!

    • L says:

      I agree. My brother and his wife are going through this, and they’ve seemed to create a new life that is basically the same as the old one except my brother doesn’t sleep at their house anymore. I feel like the parents think it’s great and putting the kids first. But I can tell you, their children look shell shocked half the time. They deserve to know what’s going on. And what happens when one of the people gets involved with someone else? I just don’t see how this is a sustainable model.

      • paleokifaru says:

        Yep. The kids don’t understand why their parents are still spending so much time together but aren’t staying married. And then they get false hope. I recognize some couples work through this stuff but I think those ones aren’t making big public separation announcements. They go to therapy, talk to close friends or family and leave the kids out of it.
        And yes it makes it really difficult to date. I don’t know anyone who wants to sign on to feel like a mistress as you play whole family with the ex. Just like the parents don’t want the new significant other to play replacement parent. There will always be gray areas in divorce and no two families will handle it exactly the same. But the parents and kids need to act like and accept that there are and will be changes and a break is needed.

  6. Dhavynia says:

    I bet even the kids are calling it BS. There’s only so much you can hide from kids, they’re not stupid. This BS wouldn’t be happening if the kids were older because they wouldn’t be able to use the excuse

  7. paolanqar says:

    She looks lovely in that pink dress.

    Their house is probably so big that they could not meet each other for days.
    It’s weird yes but maybe it’s a temporary situation to give the kids some time to accept the idea that their parents are separated

  8. Kate says:

    Jesus, just divorce or reunite. Dragging it out like this when they’ve got young kids is so messed up.

    This really makes me think the whole thing has been a stunt. There was no reason to announce a separation if they weren’t going to swiftly file for divorce. They were already leading pretty seperate lives, Ben’s acted like a single guy for most of their marriage…a separation would just look like business as usual for them, so why bring down all that press upon themselves if it wasn’t a pre-cursor to divorce proceedings?

    • Esmom says:

      Why rush to make a final decision? As I read this I was thinking a long separation isn’t necessarily a bad idea, as long as no one is too distressed about it. The kids have both parents and the parent(s) get the space they need.

      • Kitten says:

        ITA, Esmom.

      • anon33 says:

        Sure-if they’re normal people. But they’re celebs and saw fit to announce it, and none of it makes sense otherwise.

      • paleokifaru says:

        I agree anon33. That article last week from the divorce attorney pretty well confirmed that notion for me. If they’ve announced then this has been a long time coming and there’s already been several things hammered out and negotiations set in motion, You can be separated without doing so legally and filing and letting the world and your kids hear the word divorce. And aren’t they in the ideal situation for that if they wanted a trial run of it? One of them is gone for a long stretch on a film and they only communicate about the kids.

      • Pepper says:

        Long separations are never a good idea when you have young children. It’s just so confusing for them. I work with children having difficulties, and parents dragging these things out is the most common non-abuse scenario I see causing major issues. Assuming a non-abusive marriage where the parents are somewhat amicable (not at each others throats and trying to take each other to court every other week), the children whose parents get it over with quickly do really well and the children of parents who stay together despite not feeling it 100% are generally ok, not great but ok. The children whose parents drag it out for a couple of years or more, they’re the ones who can’t cope, who have extreme anxiety, who develop attachment disorders, who start self harming.

        Children like stability, they like clarity, they like to know what’s going on and why and if/when it will happen again. They don’t cope with the half in half out approach.

  9. Karen says:

    The divorce will come after the batman movie comes out. She’s a huge control freak. Hell maybe if a success the studio will throw a movie her way as a thank you for keeping his “good” image running up to the premiere.

  10. Maum says:

    The dress is cute but the shoes are way too harsh for it.

    This living in the same house is ridiculous. Are we supposed to root for them and hope they will re-unite? The whole thing must be so confusing for the children.

    • Ankhel says:

      She can never pick shoes. It’s amazing. Just imagine how much better this outfit would’ve looked with some pumps instead?

  11. Lucy2 says:

    She looks really pretty here and that dress is surprisingly cute.
    Whatever’s going on with them, I think it’s time to stop making it public.

  12. Nancy says:

    Sh!t or get off the pot. You’re married or divorced. WTH. Doe she really think this will help her children. These two have some screws loose. Screw….lol….appropriate word to describe Ben’s favorite hobby. Before or after, the nanny was another trophy. Tired of them….really tired

  13. Jayna says:

    They are barely living together.

    Think about it. They added on that wing for him. Sure. It looks big and spacious from the aerial. But I bet he still has his rental at the hotel. They have the rental down the street. Ben has his escapes.

    Now, let’s get to their time line since they separated in the spring. Jen was shooting a movie in Canada. Ben was in Canada back and forth also for the Justice League or whatever it was and back home with the kids (and nanny LOL). So not much time together under the same roof. Plus he had his hotel rental it appears for much of 2015 to escape to before they announced the separation. Now to the summer. After a short vacation, Jen was in Atlanta for the whole summer with a home rented. Ben for the most part was in LA working on the Denny Laine script and when in Atlanta was in a hotel most of that time.

    Comes the fall. Jen is home with the kids, and Ben is in parts of Georgia and then in Boston directing his movie until the end of 2015. He comes home for the weekends to see his kids or every other weekend.

    Now this year. Jen is working all day filming in LA and is also off now doing promotion work for her movie coming out. So Ben is around for his kids, but Jen is off on set. So not together much except weekends for kids stuff. Ben is also off doing promotion for Batman and will be for the next month very busy.

    They are not together much at all in the same home. And I’m sure this is all under Jen’s control, because she doesn’t want to be without her children. And Ben acquiesces because he owes her big time after nannygate. But it works for him anyway. Childcare is in place. The kids are set in their home. He’s busy anyway.

    It works, but they are not truly all living together day in and day out.

    • QQ says:

      Huh?1 hadn’t thought about this, it actually makes sense, the House is “for the Kids” and it really really works on LEVELS, now he can date or have sidepieces be more open as they are not “together”, she gets an image Bump, but everyone gets to live together, no pressure… this might actually be genius

      • Jwoolman says:

        I’ve heard of cases where the kids stay put and the divorced parents take turns living in the house. Their house is big enough that there is plenty of room for them to have separate spaces within it. I doubt that the kids are bothered by the arrangement.

      • paleokifaru says:

        I do understand this and I could see how this would work in a trial separation phase. But they’re going to hit a point where that just won’t work if they really want to move on in their lives and relationships. And kids don’t always understand those subtleties of differences between separation and divorce, living together but not being together if they’re not seeing major actions that match it.

        I also think it gets into a really tricky area of revolving EVERYTHING around your kids. Should kids be a very high priority? Yep. Should you be watching their emotional needs as you sort out yours? Yep. But should they have their own house with the parents revolving around them? Ehhhh. That’s where I wonder if that’s healthy. I understand wanting consistency for them but it is also important for them to see their parents have lives and to learn about them and eventually new family dynamics that come up with future marriages.

  14. Christin says:

    Will they share a bathroom? If so, will he keep the lid down or up?

    This seems to be one of the few unanswered questions about these two that has not been covered in the endless stream of information that will forever exist online, for their children to read.

  15. lila fowler says:

    That dress is something that her daughter would wear. Way too young for a woman her age and she looks ridiculous.

    • Esmom says:

      That’s kind of harsh, I think she looks great. Not at all juvenile, just fresh and pretty. This is not a little girl’s dress, even if it is pink.

      • lila fowler says:

        It is very juvenile. The whole look is very Toddlers and Tiaras.

      • Ankhel says:

        Esmom, agreed. The skirt isn’t too poofy or too short, and the pattern is interestingly busy. Not too young, IMO. It would’ve looked lovely with better shoes.

  16. Div says:

    I feel like they knew the nanny thing was going to come out and got ahead of it by “separating”…and then it just spiraled out of control with PR nit picking at one another. Also, would not be surprised if they had an open relationship and she was more pissed that he was so sloppy and obvious than the actual cheating.

    • lila fowler says:

      Oh I think if the nanny thing hadn’t seen the light of day, they would still be “together.” She will put up with anything as long as it doesn’t get too messy in public. I also don’t really believe her about the timeline. I think she’s straight up lying about when they separated. She doesn’t want the world knowing for a fact that she’s a doormat.

    • Brie says:

      They have been living like this for years. Same house separate private lives but “together” in public because it’s helps the fake hollywood image they have built up over the years. This is normal for them that’s why nothing is changing. If he hadn’t publicly embarrassed her with the nanny affair, none of this would be happening. I think he is ready to move on with someone else publicly and is sick of hiding behind closed doors.

  17. Daphne says:

    Desperate couple.

  18. Zaytabogota says:

    How masochistic if true and utterly bizarre that they would want people to believe this if not (which is likely given their obsession with presenting in a manner they imagine looks good). What are they trying to prove? Strange people.

  19. Joni says:

    Yawn. Just file already and move on, Jesus.
    She looks great for her age, though.

    • Ankhel says:

      She looks younger than she did two or three years ago. I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s used some of the people Kate Beckinsale or J-Lo uses.

  20. kri says:

    Nothing is happening until guy In Black Tights Vs. Guy In Blue Tights comes out. And I think it may bomb, so he’s gonna need her. I think she is loving this.

  21. Daphne says:

    If Jennifer Garner was unpopular I wonder if Ben Affleck will still be hanging on he left J Lo because of how unpopular they were together.

    • Jaana says:

      JLo sure dodged a bullet didn’t she.

      • Jayna says:

        How so? She rushed out and married Mark and seemed to have suffered through a bad marriage and broke up even sooner than Ben and Jen. Now she’s with a boy toy who cheated.

      • Kitten says:

        Yeah I don’t see how J Lo came out the winner, really.

    • als says:

      I think she came out the winner because right now she is a person that relies on her own work and abilities to sustain herself, does her thing and is not playing ridiculous PR games.
      JLo’s work allows her the freedom to be whatever with whomever.
      I know the dream is to find the Right Guy and if you don’t you’re considered a loser no matter what else you do. But maybe another dream could be to work so hard in life and enjoy how succesfull you are. JLo has a solid career that makes her a winner. Garner as a professional is bargaining for attention through her husband. She’s just not free. Is she a winner?
      Affleck is very good at what he does but his success was created with Garner’s PR help. He’s also trapped in a marriage that is convenient, not happy. Does that make him a winner?

      • Jayna says:

        Jennifer Lopez can’t be alone for a New York second. She is very successful and driven. But that’s not enough for her. That girl will never be alone on her own once in her life. She never even dumped the toy boy after he cheated, just pretended to out of humiliation.

      • Magnoliarose says:

        I agree with Jayna on this one. Jlo works her career well but she has the Madonna syndrome of choosing wrong types of men and not being able to be single no matter what.

  22. NeoCleo says:

    That dress is perfection on her. She looks wonderful.

  23. Jess says:

    She looks really pretty in that pink and black, the hair color and make up suit her as well, something just looks different and it works on her! I’m not so sure about that living arrangement though, eventually one of them will want to date and the other will flip out, seems like this is just pulling the band aid off super slow and trying to avoid the pain of a break up, just rip it and move on, but to each their own I suppose. It does seem like they put the kids first and are trying to not change too much at once.

  24. Ana says:

    , Ben is in China right now promoting his movie. He flew commercial this time. Imagine that! No private plane this time. Lol! One passenger even twitted that he was on her flight and looked like a homeless person.

    By April, he will start the second Batman movie. They are never together.

    JG looks pretty here. I like her dress, hair and shoes. Her other close up pictures show the lines on her face especially around her eyes.

    • Jayna says:

      That’s the thing. People are reacting like they are together under one roof a lot. They aren’t together much at all since the separation, and when they are, it’s with the kids doing kid functions or one or the other off doing their jobs..

      • paleokifaru says:

        I think that’s all fine and good for the trial separation that they probably had. But once you’ve told your kids you’re getting a divorce I think you should start making the changes. That way it’s BOTH of you making the changes and still focusing on them and begins to lay the groundwork for the all the differences in the future like having their parents date. From what I’ve seen it’s worse when that “we’re together but separate” blows up in one giant mess when someone gets into another relationship. It’s not fair to the kids and it’s not fair to the significant other who is blamed by the kids and usually the ex.

  25. Pickles says:

    They must be horrible at taking off band-aids.

  26. Tiffany says:

    Goodness gracious her shoe game is horrible. That’s it.

  27. jugil1 says:

    I love the dress! Do we know who the designer is? Not that I could afford it but just curious……

  28. maggie says:

    She looks really pretty. I think him sleeping in the house would be confusing to the children. They aren’t stupid. They may not understand but know something isn’t the same or is off.

  29. oliphant says:

    she looks insanely good there- giving me hayley atwell vibes too for some reason- is she wearing her hair different or something?

  30. HeyThere! says:

    I think it’s great they are willing to give the living arrangements a chance for the children only. Making it as easy on them as possible. I don’t know that I could do that if I was in JG shoes. If they book their work correct, they will not be in each other hair too much. It could really workout for them like this? Who knows. Since children are involved, I will wish them the best!!!

    Also, she looks gorgeous in this pink and black number. Just beautiful!

    • Jayna says:

      Jennifer Garner hates to be away from her children when she works. In town, to have Ben now taking them off to a different home, with her at home alone without her kids, I think she’s too much of a control freak and is a hard adjustment for her. She wants them in their home, in their routine, not to ever be apart from them at night unless she’s gone for work, and knowing they are safe and close by and she’s tucking them in at night.

      I think it’s Jen controlling this and has nothing to do with wanting Ben nearby, In fact, I think it’s hard for her even if he is in another wing of the house. No, he’s not by her bedroom. They added on a wing for him. It’s all about knowing at night when she goes to bed her little ones are in the house with her. If Ben has to be there at night at times or during the day when he’s not off on location or away working, so be it.

      I think she is going to have a hard time once the kids go live in another home part of the time, especially little Sam., for visitation time with Ben. Past loving Ben, I think the biggest reason she stayed too long in the marriage was having her kids full-time in her home and raising them, not off without her and eventually another woman with them.

      • ScotiaGirl says:

        Bang on Jayna!!! I think you hit the nail right on the head!! Keep this post to copy and paste whenever there is a new item about them cause this is soooo correct!!

      • paleokifaru says:

        This. This makes sense to me. But man do I think she’s going to make that adjustment so much harder from the way they’ve handled it.

      • Pepper says:

        Honestly I doubt Ben is going to want much in the way of physical custody, he himself has admitted day to day he was only tangentially involved in their family life and that that suits him. Having them by himself even for weekends, even with nannies, would be quite the lifestyle change for him. When he’s working, which is most of the time, I doubt he’ll take the kids with him for more than brief visits. At least while they’re young I don’t think Garner is going to have any trouble keeping them with her 90% of the time.

  31. Izzy says:

    Since she’s working so much right now, and he’s about to hit the promo circuit for the Batfleck disaster, living together likely isn’t that much of a hardship; they may not be home at the same time that much right now, so the kids have one parent in their home with them, giving the kids stability.

  32. frivolity says:

    That dress is horrid! NO human should wear that color pink.
    And I just have no more comments about or interest in all of the other phoniness, dysfunction, and PR games going on with the Affleck family …

  33. Gs says:

    She looks cute here. I think they are through and they are just selling the illusion of reconcile to sell the movies. On the other hand its hard to say cause she just doesn’t clean him up to give him to other woman whomever is that gonna be. Though she may have done that for her own dignity . She doesn’t want sound too much of a doormat and idiot too for doing all this with him etc.. Because he never really came with the husband catch on him.

  34. Don't kill me I'm French says:

    Just a question….does he bring a female friend to bang in their home also ?

  35. Magnoliarose says:

    My ex and his ex did this and it was a large home and he was absent for periods because of work. The children loved it but when we met, he put a stop to it because it was seriously awkward. Later, my step children and his ex said her family and their children had been hoping they would reconcile so it felt like a second divorce when he moved out.
    In the end it turned out good for her because she finally was able to move on and remarry a really nice man. But it took my step children forever to like their step father and stop comparing him to their faither who is more dazzling and youthful. Now they see his value but it took some time.
    Kids have a way of creating a truth that is often false because they can’t fully understand adult situations but see and hear enough to make something up. I made sure my ex left immediately so that both sets could start coping sooner rather than later.
    My stepson told me recently how jealous and hurt he had been when we had children and that just made me sad. He is afraid I’ll move on and forget him but no way I would do that.
    I just think it’s best to split before anyone else comes along so the new life doesn’t exacerbate an already painful situation.

  36. JoJo says:

    @Jayna – I always say this. I want to believe you! 😄 But why then are they going through the trouble of making sure they get this nugget of info. out there? What’s the end game? I agree with CB, this article and new piece of info. seems purposeful – “someone” clearly wants people to know they’re keeping things as they are and they’re not in any hurry to divorce. Why? I found this quote interesting “There’s a lot of love between them. They don’t know what that will look like, but it works for them now.” This sounds like they’re trying to officially put it out there that they might reconcile. I personally don’t believe it’s all PR for their movies. Maybe on Ben’s part – since it benefits him – but not Jen’s.

    Someone else above asked the question of whether Ben would want to stay if Jen weren’t as successful right now. I have always said the exact same thing. I think they would actually be divorced by now if Nannygate hadn’t gone public. I think that scared him back into “need” mode. Through all of this, Jen has gotten more popular and reached a new level of fame and public interest that she hasn’t had since Alias, and I wouldn’t doubt if that public “glow” around Jen makes him rethink the decision to divorce. She’s an especially safe haven for him right now and makes him look better given the image hit he’s taken, and I think he cares about that.

    As for Jen, I’ve always said it, I don’t think she wants to divorce him – never did, still doesn’t. More than just wanting the kids to be close to her, which I’m sure is true, I also think she uses them as a way to keep him close with the hope that they can eventually reconcile.

    And I’m sure this is an unpopular opinion, but to me, I thought at the Vanity Fair Oscar party, they seemed like two people who were trying to pretend they’re “not” together. Saying hello, talking casually throughout the night but making an effort not to stay too close and then leaving separately but within 15 minutes of each other.

    I don’t know – I see zero chemistry there as a couple. But they seem so incredibly dysfunctional and codependent, I’m really wondering if they’re laying the groundwork for getting back together. They’re going to look pretty silly though considering they’ve made this whole thing so public for so long.

    • lila fowler says:

      If they had any hope of reconciling, they would not have bothered to announce their divorce. They have been living like a separated couple for ages now, by their own admission. Jen stated that Ben has not even kissed her in months and months. That takes guts to admit. If they were going to work on their marriage they would continue to do so quietly and privately. They must have reached the point of no return if they announced it.

      • JoJo says:

        By all accounts, Jen did not want to file when they did. Stories at the time were saying she didn’t want to file, she wanted to continue to work on the marriage and would stay in it forever if she could. I know what she “said” about not being kissed in 8 months, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t still hold out hope to reconcile. i just don’t understand why they seem to be purposely putting info. out there that suggests they’re not in any hurry to finalize the split. If they’re not considering trying again – for the 100th time – why put that out there? Why do they need to let us know this small, seemingly insignificant piece of info.? There must be a rationale behind it.

      • lila fowler says:

        @Jojo Those tidbits come from “sources.” Who even knows how legit they are?

      • Loca says:

        Everytime Jennifer gives a PR quote she makes it sound so over the top and like she is desperately trying to keep Ben around at all costs. She is using her kids as an excuse to do everything together. She might as well get therapy for herself on letting go. Ben does not look at all to be in love with her and he will move on publicly eventually. She really needs to let go and they need to move out let Ben have his days and Jennifer have hers. I’ve personally seen women make excuses like this as a way to try to get the man back but after nanny gate I guess Ben just plays by her rules. Jennifer is controlling.

  37. LAK says:

    So what was the point of all that competitively passive aggressive PR pushing divorce from both of them?

  38. JoJo says:

    Yep, but let’s not pretend all of a sudden that they don’t have a very strong hand in controlling the narrative. For some reason, they want people to know – or think – they’re going to keep living together.

    • lila fowler says:

      I mean, they are talking about their marriage in the past tense. It’s over. LOL.

      • JoJo says:

        I don’t necessarily read it that way. Ben has said nothing at all. Jen gave the VF interview which I felt didn’t close the door completely, and they’re now pushing the idea that they’re going to continue living together for he foreseeable future and they don’t know what it means exactly but they’re happy. That’s kind of how I read it. That’s all.

  39. FWiW says:

    Jen looks very pretty. Love the dress, shoes, hair, makeup …. everything! She is glowing.

    The loser in their marriage will always be Ben. Any way you slice it he is a sorry excuse for a husband and a human being. Ugh. She deserves so much better.

  40. Tara says:

    Jen looks gorgeous here. LOVE the dress… Everything about it. Not loving the shoes, but oh well.

  41. MV says:

    She looks beautiful.
    Their forever drama is boring now. But their house is huge and they rarely are in the same town so not a big adjustment for them anyway!