I have spoken of my adoration for John Krasinski before. And it’s awful because I find him really hot but I equally love his wife, Emily Blunt. So I want them together forever but then I can’t have him. All lustful thoughts aside, I always feel like I could have a beer and hang with John. Maybe it’s the Boston bro in him but he really has that Everyman thing down. John recently directed and starred in The Hollars with Anna Kendrick, out now on DVD and Amazon. In it, John plays an expectant father dealing with his sick mother. Appearing on Today, John said he was given the script to read several years ago but is glad the movie wasn’t made until after he had kids. The reason, he said, is because becoming father to Hazel, two and Violet, six months, changed his entire approach to the film. However, the point John wanted to make was not how his life is rainbows and unicorns now that he has kids but rather, why nobody talks about how truly difficult parenting can be.
John Krasinski knows you can’t totally prepare for parenthood.
“You can read all the books you want ― I certainly thought I was prepared because I had such amazing parents growing up,” Krasinski recalled. “I just figured, I’ll just do exactly what they did. And then you realize that moment-to- moment, you don’t know what they did because there is no manual. There’s no exact way to go about things.”
He added, “You’re just trying. There’s no perfection. There’s no school. There’s no defined way to go about it. You’re just learning.”
Krasinski said fatherhood has given him a newfound appreciation for his own parents and their dedication to raising him well. He said having kids has also given him a different perspective on his pre-child life.
“I think the biggest question I have is: what did I do with my life before this?” the actor said. “What did I do with all the time that I had on my hands? I think it’s certainly a full-on job, and something that I enjoy so much, but I really do look back and think, ‘Was I just the dude who ate potato chips and movies all day?’”
Now that he’s in the throes of parenting, Krasinski said he believes it’s important to be honest about the good, bad and ugly sides of taking care of kids.
“I’m a big fan of being open about the truth and how you really feel, and not putting on a pretty face for everybody,” he explained. “No one really tells you that it’s hard and there are sleepless nights. Kids get sick, kids fall down and get hurt, and all these things are really intense and really emotionally difficult ― and you hurt for them more than you hurt for yourself.”
I can’t add anything to this other than to say THIS^^^!!! It’s not just that parenting is hard, but it seems like everyone candy-coats it. For example, when people mention sleepless nights, it sounds like the all-nighters one pulls for finals but it isn’t. Think more along the lines of sleep-deprivation torture to coerce information from the enemy. But as physically demanding as it is, it’s the emotional involvement that truly takes its toll. And for reasons I cannot understand, no one really talks about that part. As if admitting that raising your kid is really f**king challenging is somehow admitting you don’t like them or something. John also said, “I think there’s a sense of relief hearing that it’s hard for other people because you’re all in this fight together.” Again, yes. Anyone who has ever confided about struggling with parenting knows it opens a floodgate to most of the people they talk to.
Fortunately John has found a true partner to raise his kids. He said what works for him and Emily has been support, “…I think there’s no one I trust more than her, and I think it’s vice versa for her.” Please, please, please 2016 – leave John and Emily alone!
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