Eva Mendes: ‘Instead of hitting the red carpet, I’d rather be with our girls’

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I genuinely missed seeing Eva Mendes on the awards show red carpets this year. Her man Ryan Gosling was nominated for Best Actor awards across the board, and he showed up to almost every major awards show. But Eva was never his date. And here’s my humble opinion: I think if Eva had come out a few times and helped Ryan campaign a little bit, Ryan would have had a decent shot at winning more than just the Golden Globe. People were looking for a reason to NOT vote for Casey Affleck and Gosling could have presented them with an alternative. That being said, many have wondered if Eva’s absence from the spotlight these days is not just be design, but by Gosling’s preference. As in, he likes that he’s with a woman who stays at home and takes care of their babies. But to hear Eva tell it in the April cover story of Shape Magazine, that’s her choice and her preference too. You can read the full Shape piece here. Some highlights:

She’d rather be home: “What people don’t know about me is that I love being home. Instead of hitting the red carpet, I’d rather be with our girls.”

On getting back in shape post-pregnancy: “In some ways, it’s been more challenging to get back in shape after my second daughter. Yet it’s not as hard as I thought it would be, because I’m always running around with the kids. I never sit down – I’m on the move all day. And I don’t keep junk food at home anymore, because I’m trying to set a good example. So there are no more Krispy Kremes for me to grab. But there is this app called Postmates that delivers whatever you want in minutes. It’s almost as bad as having the food in your kitchen. Don’t laugh, but they’re on the way here right now!”

On finding the workout that works: “Working out allows me to spend time on myself. Knowing that I have an hour to dedicate to my wellness is a priority for me now…I love doing intervals, like running and sprinting, and I see great results with that versus the 30 or 45 minutes of steady cardio I used to do on the treadmill. Between intervals, I lift weights. Right now I’m sticking to light weights because I have a herniated disc in my lower back. I’m off-season right now, so I work out three days a week. But when I’m getting ready for an event or in the summer, it’s five days a week. I don’t exercise more than that though, because I see better results when my body has a rest period.”

On her daily eats: “I usually start my day with eggs. I think they’re like magic – you can do so much with them. I mostly keep it simple and have scrambled eggs and a piece of Ezekiel toast for breakfast … I grew up eating rice and beans, so I want some kind of grain in every meal. For lunch, I usually have salmon and rice or quinoa, and I try to include a salad. I’ll eat the same thing for dinner. I’m a creature of habit in that way. I don’t get bored with food. I try to think about it as fuel for my body. But what I am looking forward to is the time when dinner becomes a sit-down situation again. Right now I’m in survival mode with two babies, eating on the go.”

On her beauty routine: “I wear makeup every day. Typically, it’s minimal – a little eyeliner, lip liner and balm, and some concealer. It takes me about five minutes to apply it. But when I get ready for an event or a dinner, I do like to take my time putting my makeup on. To me, the process of getting ready can be really, really romantic. It takes me probably 45 minutes because I go very slow.

[From Shape]

She did this interview to promote the Eva Mendes Collection at New York & Company, which is basically the only reason she leaves her house these days, or at least that’s how it feels. Do you believe her when she says she’d rather be at home? Because that wasn’t the case before she had babies, although I can see how motherhood has changed her. She seems different, she seems like she has less to “prove,” you know? As for her ability to eat the same thing for lunch and dinner… I’m like that too, to a certain extent. I’ll go through stages where I love a certain dish or meal for like five months and I eat it all the time and then I burn out on it.


Photos courtesy of Arthur Belebeau/SHAPE Magazine.

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  1. Nacho_friend says:

    Ugh then it takes 5 min washing it off at the end of the day so why bother. I am soo lazy

    • Katie says:

      I think what some people forget is that they live iin New York. Most of the Award Shows are in LA so it’s more than just getting dressed and going across town to a Red Carpet. They have two kids and flying to LA for an Awards Show is a big disruption.

  2. Clare says:

    I totally believe her – I’d rather be at home with my pups. True story.

    Besides, she’s not intimating that she never wants to leave the house – just that she would rather hang out with her kids than be on a red carpet schmoozing. Let’s be honest, it’s not like she has anything to promote on the rest carpet, anyway. And, didn’t she recently lose her brother to cancer? Yeah, I believe her.

    • Craven says:

      I believe her too. As for the award season, Ryan didnt seem to want to win very much either. Like Casey, he has long been an “actors actor”. A guy who makes interesting acting choices and can deliver really intense work (Drive, Place Beyond the Pines, Blue Valentine). If anything he had an advantage over Casey because he has shown a versatility through out his career. The voters merely needed him to show that he really wanted. That pic of Ryan on stage chuckling at the Best Picture mix up while everyone else acts like the world just collapsed tells you everything you need to know about his attitude to award season. Or maybe like the rest of us, he didn’t believe this was the movie he should win for.

      I was a little worried that maybe she was in PPD or struggling with her brothers death but she sounds like she made a choice for her life and thats cool. Also, omg this woman is stunning!

  3. nemera34 says:

    I completely understand putting “family” or “kids” first. But why do they make it seem like going out one night on a RC is so difficult. I doubt their kids are going to be mentally damaged or something. Besides she says it takes her 45 minutes to just put on makeup. She gives that a lot of importance. So is that time away from her kids too. I don’t mean to really hit at her. It’s just weird to me.

    Let me say I do think she is extremely beautiful. One of the most beautiful women in HW to me.

    • Maria says:

      and once you have to ‘sell’ something on the red carpet you are suddenly out and everybody has to care. Do not like that double standard.

      Also, why does it have to be one or the other…. That is the part that always annoys me about these interviews. Once you have kids, suddenly your entire life has to change?

      • Clare says:

        I guess I read it differently – it’s not a case of going out being difficult, but more that she doesn’t want to – that she’d rather hang out with her kids.

        As far as being on the red carpet when you have something to ‘sell’…that makes complete sense to me – if you don’t like doing it, why would you, unless it is required for your job at the time? I mean…a personal example would be – I don’t like staff meetings, but I go when I have to, but when I am on sabbatical (i.e not working on Uni stuff that term) there is no way I am turning up for meetings I have 0 desire to attend.

        I guess I am being a bit of an apologist – but the stuff she says here really resonated with me.

      • Craven says:

        I agree Clare. There are people who genuinely love the red carpet and the cameras flashing. They’ll show up to every premiere and every award ceremony, and aim to score as much fashion discussion as possible. Jlo quickly comes to mind. Evas personality is just different. I think we are so accustomed to celebrities on the showboaty extrovert end of the spectrum that people like Eva standout.

    • Kat says:

      I also have always thought she was extremely beautiful.
      Before I had kids going out was a top priority for me. And that included getting ready. After I had my boys I still enjoy going out , but it is no longer a priority. I feel like that is what she is saying.

    • Zuzus Girl says:

      ” But why do they make it seem like going out one night on a RC is so difficult.” I think that is just your interpretation. I took it as she just prefers staying home now that has a reason to. On a side note, I think she is gorgeous.

  4. Juniper says:

    I know that Ryan is everyone’s golden boy but I have always found him 1. unattractive and 2. slightly sinisterly serious at times. In certain interviews where people are obviously just joking or having fun, he sometimes is sitting there with a look on his face like a Dad that is going to whoop you once once the cameras are gone. So I do genuinely hope her staying home with the kids is really her own choice.

    • Ash says:

      this this this

      • smcollins says:

        And yet she has her own line with NY&Co. (has for years), which she also promotes and models for. She has her own business interests beyond being an actress that he obviously must support. Maybe she’s just not a fan of red carpets. I just don’t buy the whole kept-woman-controlled-by-Ryan narrative. Not everything has to be something seedy.

    • ell says:


    • minx says:

      Yeah, I don’t know what to think about this. I hope it’s her choice, too.

    • QueenB says:

      “2. slightly sinisterly serious at times. In certain interviews where people are obviously just joking or having fun, he sometimes is sitting there with a look on his face like a Dad that is going to whoop you once once the cameras are gone. ”

      Now I am sinisterly curious. Do you have a link showing that?

    • Sam says:

      Well if the rumors are true, it’s not just her choice to stay at home with the kids.

      • ell says:

        what rumours?

      • Clare says:

        @ell the same kind of rumours that start with intimation that he ‘whoops’ his kids when the cameras aren’t around. Jeeeeeez

      • Abby says:

        what? Have not heard that at all. Where did you hear that.

      • Bridget says:

        The rumors that get started by random people on internet boards.

        Again, everyone forgets that Eva just lost her brother after his battle with cancer, and not to mention she’s had issues with substance abuse in the past and I’m guessing is in a much better, sober place. Is it really that crazy to think she’d decide for herself that she doesn’t want to do the whole red carpet dog and pony show?

      • Sam says:

        Yikes. I probably should have specified that I was kidding and making fun of the posters who come on here talking about things as if they know the whole story.

        I wasn’t trying to start anything but I apologize for not being more clear.

      • Bridget says:

        Lol, sorry about that :).

    • Zuzus Girl says:

      Here we go, gossip not facts.

      • Coop says:

        So much gossip, so much bullshit. Ryan pulls a serious face and suddenly he’s a woman beater? Nice one internet.

    • Aren says:

      She does talk like the wife of any controlling husband. Always saying “my family is the most important”, “being a mom is better than any other job”, “I’d rather be at home with my children”, like they wouldn’t be able to drop the “role” for a few hours.

    • Ash (The Other One) says:

      I’ve never liked Ryan. And I’m not entirely convinced Eva never showing up with him places is entirely her decision (ignoring the kids and dead brother angles for a moment).

      To me, it always feels like he’s hiding her.

      I like Eva and think she’s gorgeous, BTW. I’ve never understood the hate against her.

      • TheOtherSam says:

        I thought it odd that he would appear at one of the biggest nights of his career – the Oscars, with a lead Actor nom – with his sister, when his longterm partner and mother of his children was probably just two miles away at home watching on tv. And a partner who is usually very comfortable with cameras and has had a major public acting career of her own.

        To me, single men bring their sisters to major awards. A partnered person brings their mate unless they’re sick, taking care of the sick or away working.

        I mean it’s only a three hour show, with some time to travel there and back – they can skip the after-parties. She couldn’t take that time for the Oscars?

    • Zucchini says:

      His “weirdness” is not creepy to me; I interpret it as like Keanu chill with a bit of shyness tossed in. Never got the creepy vibes from him.

  5. Margo S. says:

    I’m a stay at home mother to three under 4 1/2 and at this time, yes, if rather stay home too. It’s such a precious time when they are this young. My husband works and when the kids get older I will go back to work too. I think Eva is going to do the same thing. She’ll be back at acting once her girl are older and I bet she kicks major butt at it too! Parenthood teaches you so much!

    • Esmom says:

      I was the same way when my kids were little. Enjoy every precious minute! My boys are nearing the end of high school, which goes by in a blink. This weekend I was out with friends to my old neighborhood from when my kids were little and I was almost overcome with melancholy. I’m so proud of the young men they are but those early years were magic and I really miss them.

  6. ElleBee says:

    I own a dress from her line and it’s quite nice actually. I’m in my 20’s and it looks good on me but my aunt in her 50’s borrows it all the time and it looks good on her too. She could stick to just clothes if she wants to, she has good taste.

    As for the RC thing…she hasn’t really been movie hot recently so there really hasn’t been a need for her to be seen unless she were helping her husband campaign. I think she’s gorgeous but something about her isn’t memorable to me but I guess because she isn’t super thirsty

  7. Shambles says:

    I go through food stages too, Kaiser. Except mine usually aren’t that healthy. Oops. I’m in a Ramen phase right now.

    I think she’s very beautiful. I’ve always liked her, ever since she was in The Other Guys. Sexy and funny. And I like what she says about the romance of getting ready. Sure, none of us have time to do that every day. But on the days where I do have an extra minute to highlight my cheeks and draw on some eyeliner, it does feel “romantic” as she says. Self love comes in all forms.

    • ElleBee says:

      I went through a Ramen phase too. Now the mere thought make me ill but at that time I could eat it all day long for weeks on end. I think it was more laziness that anything else though

  8. OTHER RENEE says:

    Who wouldn’t want to walk the red carpet then sit through a boring awards show? Then the following day read all about whether your outfit was a hit or miss?

  9. Abby says:

    I don’t know how old her kids are, but I have two (3 and 17 months) and the littlest is still breastfeeding some. It takes a really big thing to tear me away from that sweet evening routine with them. They are only little for a short time. I was the one that always wanted to socialize and never miss an event… right now my husband and I really like being with our kids.

    I relate a lot to this interview. I don’t ever have these awards shows to go to, but she’s been in the business a long time. Maybe it’s not as important as her kids. I dunno!

    No shade for Ryan over here. I like him a lot. Always loved the gosling/mcadams relationship but that chapter is closed and he and Eva seem to have a happy family. I appreciate that he didn’t cumberbatch / Hathaway all over the oscar race.

  10. Barrett says:

    That photo w the TASSEL in her mouth looks really stupid and gross.

    Oh women of the world, stop!

  11. Mara says:

    I absolutely believe her. Besides Gosling has always struck me as liking confident independent women – Eva, Rachel McAdams, Sandra Bullock.

    • Zucchini says:

      I agree. I don’t think he’s hiding her. I think it’s entirely her choice to be low key and he respects that.

  12. Sam says:

    Ehh it’s a little bit from both of them. I’m sure she loves to be at home with her kids but what happens when its one of your significant others biggest nights? You don’t go out to support him because of the kids? I’m skeptical it’s all her decision especially because before she had kids, she loved to be on the red carpet. Yes having kids can change you extremely but like I said, I find it odd that on one of Ryan’s biggest nights she’s not by his side. Or maybe I’m weird which is also a possibility lol

    • Pat says:

      totes agree. they might not “trust” sitters? having a kid can make you a little worrisome (if you already have that disposition). she might be feeling schlubby too?

  13. Almondjoy says:

    Love her so much and never understood the reasoning behind all the extreme dislike. She’s such a beauty!

    As for preferring to stay home… same here and I don’t even have kids lol. I’m a homebody. And I’m sure Eva’s been on the red carpet enough, the novelty has probably worn off.

    • QQ says:

      HEY HEY HEY IS YOU ME?!? I Like her too, I Like her pics here and also what she said about staying home ( My and my bff call it “Hunchbacking” from “staying home like a Hunchback which is our shared Love Language) and wearing makeup every day, which If, lemme tell you besides the Korean Skincare thing which im feeling my whole thing is : If i’m going outside I WILL DO A MAKEUP! Cause I love it im vain IDC IDC YOLO- plus there is all types of levels one can do, no?! I’m at primer cc cream with spf, concealer, powder (blush and highlighter if im doing THE MOST) a lip (No liner, i’m too good for that LOL) something for the eyes ( this can be just mascara or a crease a blended thing and liner -depends- I look bomb today!)

      • Almondjoy says:

        of courssseee we’re sisters! you know this! Adding Hunchbacking to my vocab. I don’t like going out with at least mascara, eyeliner and something on my dry lips. send me pics of today’s look! or I will stalk you on ig

  14. Don't kill me I'm French says:

    I still think it is weird that she was not with him at Oscars show this year.
    I still think he locks up her in their home or they are not really together.

  15. HeidiM says:

    Its not as if going on a red carpet is as easy as 45 minutes of makeup and a nice dress. There’s the kiss assing while you’re there and the dissection of the whole thing by the Press for days or weeks after its done. Maybe that’s the part she’s not up for at this point in her life, when she’d rather be home with her kids. Not to mention the fact that its been apparent that his fan base has never accepted her. Half of them don’t believe they are even together. I’d want to stay the F home out of it too!

  16. perplexed says:

    I believe her. When you see a red carpet up close (at least at a film festival), it does look kind of boring. These movie stars are dressed up whereas everyone else isn’t — and oddly enough, the movie stars look overdressed. I’ve wondered if they feel a little stupid. Basically, the red carpet is an opportunity to promote yourself, schmooze, and get people to like you and your product, and even the most extroverted personality must find it a little weird.

    Maybe the Oscars are different though since Ryan Seacrest is probably kissing up to you.

  17. Happy21 says:

    I get where she is coming from BUT at the same time, her husband was up for a major award (an Oscar!) and she was nowhere to be seen. I could see if she picked either the Globes or the Oscars but she didn’t go to either of those. To me it seemed a little unsupportive. That’s all.

    • Peeking in says:

      Hard to leave 2 small kids in NYC and fly all the way out to LA. It’s their family, and their choice. I see nothing wrong with it. Red carpets are a huge ordeal; hours of hair, makeup and wardrobe prep, doing the press line, then sitting for hours through a boring show whilst hungry. Forget it. I’d stay in New York with my babies too.

  18. Bridget says:

    It’s pretty hard to compare how Eva was before with how she is now, when you consider that not only has she had a major life change with the children, but I’m also guessing that she’s sober. Red Carpets and awards shows are work events but also have booze (and who knows what else) flowing. And of course she lost her brother not that long ago. This year was never going to be Ryan’s year for the Oscars.

    I guess I just don’t understand why people assume that Eva couldn’t have possibly decided for herself that she wasn’t up for the red carpet go round.

    • Jeesie says:

      Exactly. She first started taking a big step back after she left rehab. Also, her career had ebbed and flowed a lot, and she’d been in an ebb for quite a while. It’s not like she took a break at her peak.

      So she has kids and starts a sideline business. Not exactly an unusual move for an actress at her level. Then her brother gets sick and passes away, so obviously she’s not looking to make a comeback right now.

  19. kay says:

    while i could genuinely do without that tassle dangling from her mouth, i would very much like to know more about that dress. is it from her collection? what other colours does it come in? it looks really really appealing.

  20. I Choose Me says:

    Beautiful woman, is my only 2 cents.

  21. Mikeyangel says:

    I like Eva. She is beautiful! She is my ultimate woman crush. I have almost the same routine as far as beauty, I am a homebody, and it is hard having kids so close so little, they really do keep one on their toes (mon to a 6, 4, and 2 year old). She has her man, her babes, her work. Can’t hate on her one bit.

  22. Leah says:

    I never understood why people didn’t think she’s good enough for him. And i am a much bigger fan of his work than hers, obviously as he is much more talented.
    She’s a stunning beauty and seems to have her head screwed on right. I adore Ryan as an actor but hes actually not that super attractive if you just look at still photos. Its his charm and talent that makes him attractive. The fact that he is so overrated physically seems kinda typical (white male privilege?) where a stunning latina woman somehow isn’t good enough for the (white) golden boy.

    • ... says:

      oh yes, that’s so sad.
      i’ve always thought he was so below her league, you know? i still do.
      by the way, her ex george augusto, was very handsome.

  23. Erica_V says:

    I’m a homebody too but I honestly can’t imagine not accompanying my partner on one of the biggest nights of his career.

    I really hope the blinds that he’s hooking up with Emma Stone are not true.

    • Ash (The Other One) says:

      I don’t understand it either. And I hope he hasn’t cheated on Eva.

    • Bridget says:

      You guys remember that Ryan has been nominated for a ton of awards over the years? And that this wasn’t his first Oscar nomination? And that pretty much everyone knew the whole time he was never going to win?

  24. Natalia says:

    I hope Eva reads this thread and sees all the wonderful support here. Totally get where she’s at…. been there.

  25. Jude says:

    She mentions that she has a herniated disc. I’m just getting over mine. I suspect she didn’t attend all those events because she couldn’t sit comfortably (or at all) for that long.

  26. sunshine gold says:

    These pics look very 90s!

  27. Luci Lu says:

    Get married