Selena Gomez covers Vogue, ‘can’t wait for people to forget about me’

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Selena Gomez is the April cover girl for Vogue (US). This is her first Vogue cover and… I don’t hate it? The photos are pretty. The styling is pretty. She looks fresh-faced. Sometimes Vogue takes pretty young women and tries to make them look “hard” or avant-garde and it just falls flat. I’m glad that didn’t happen here. The Vogue interview is pretty standard, at least in the scope of Selena’s previous interviews. She’s very “real.” She eats real food. She has a lot of Instagram followers (which is noted by Vogue all the time these days). She’s confessional. You can read the full Vogue piece here. Some highlights:

She’s real: “People so badly wanted me to be authentic and when that happened, finally, it was a huge release. I’m not different from what I put out there. I’ve been very vulnerable with my fans, and sometimes I say things I shouldn’t. But I have to be honest with them. I feel that’s a huge part of why I’m where I am.”

She always gives time to her youngest fans: “Somebody I used to hang out with would always get very frustrated with me,” she says, presumably referring to Bieber, whose name she will not utter. “But I have a hard time saying no to children.”

Being a Disney kid actor: “I worked with Disney for four years. It’s a very controlled machine. They know what they represent, and there was, 100 percent, a way to go about things.”

Moving past child stardom: “For a guy there’s a way to rebel that can work for you. But for a woman, that can backfire. It’s hard not to be a cliché, the child star gone wrong. I did respect my fans and what I had, but I was also figuring out what I was passionate about and how far I was willing to go.”

She’s off the grid a little bit: Gomez currently lives in an Airbnb in the Valley and honestly doesn’t get out much, except for long drives with her girlfriends: a realtor, a techie, some folks from church. “I think seventeen people have my phone number right now,” she says. “Maybe two are famous.” She is taking Spanish, which she spoke fluently as a little girl but lost, in the hope of recording some Spanish-language music in the future. She sees her shrink five days a week and has become a passionate advocate of Dialectical Behavior Therapy, a technique developed to treat borderline personality disorder that is now used more broadly, with its emphasis on improving communication, regulating emotions, and incorporating mindfulness practices. “DBT has completely changed my life,” she says. “I wish more people would talk about therapy. We girls, we’re taught to be almost too resilient, to be strong and sexy and cool and laid-back, the girl who’s down. We also need to feel allowed to fall apart.”

She rarely uses Instagram anymore: “As soon as I became the most followed person on Instagram, I sort of freaked out. It had become so consuming to me. It’s what I woke up to and went to sleep to. I was an addict, and it felt like I was seeing things I didn’t want to see, like it was putting things in my head that I didn’t want to care about. I always end up feeling like sh-t when I look at Instagram. Which is why I’m kind of under the radar, ghosting it a bit.”

What she says about The Weeknd: When I ask Gomez about the romance, she tells me that everything she has said about her relationships in the past has come back to bite her, and that she will never do it again. “Look, I love what I do, and I’m aware of how lucky I am, but—how can I say this without sounding weird? I just really can’t wait for people to forget about me.”

[From Vogue]

There’s a big part of the interview devoted to her three months “away,” which is where she sought treatment for “burning out” (her words) after her last tour. She was exhausted and overwrought and she basically says she needed to have intensive therapy to decompress and learn how to not take sh-t so seriously all the time. I feel like this is cognitive dissonance though: “I just really can’t wait for people to forget about me.” Yeah, that’s why you’re on the cover of Vogue. That’s why you’re doing a big splashy romance with The Weeknd?


Photos courtesy of Mert Alas and Marcus Piggott/Vogue.

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  1. Lalu says:

    She looks great here. She’s a pretty girl. I don’t really think she wants to be forgotten though. Honestly, she could just drop out and live a pretty normal life, I would think.

  2. littlemissnaughty says:

    She doesn’t want people to forget about her. She wants to be able to use fame like a lightswitch, to be able to turn it on and off. So many of them do and think they’re actually entitled to that and call it “privacy”. That’s not how it works. Never has, never will.

    • Elle says:

      The light switch will be turning 30.

    • minx says:

      Well, exactly. Posing for Vogue won’t make people forget about her.

    • WeAreAllMadeofStars says:

      You know, that’s a really great analogy. I feel icky saying that it’s true, but it’s true.

    • Nicole says:

      THIS. She peddles her place in the squad. She is doing a big PR romance with The Weeknd. And yes its PR because no one with her past should be with an addict nor would they be going to paris & italy within the first month. She defs wants the fame when she wants and no other time.

  3. perplexed says:

    I don’t think I remembered her until I saw this Vogue cover…

  4. QueenB says:

    Ugh- I cant with so many celebs now doing the “I want to quit acting” “I want to disappear” NO, you want attention and getting told that the world will stop spinning without your brilliant art.

    • me says:

      I mean would they rather work for minimum wage at a grocery store doing 12 hour shifts? They act like “normal” people don’t have problems.

  5. astrid says:

    can’t have it both ways

  6. Elle says:

    Selena my dear, I can’t wait too!

  7. Nico says:

    The cover gives me Eva Mendes vibes.

  8. Alleycat says:

    I know she’s not popular around here, but I like Selena. She has issues, but she keeps trying. I don’t think her and The Weeknd are being splashy, I rarely see pictures of them? I think she wants a career and realizes that she’s needs to be in the public eye, but also cannot wait to give it all up.

    • WeAreAllMadeofStars says:

      Yeah, I think she’s alright too. This is the first Vogue issue in I don’t know how long that really makes me want to buy it. Hope the rest of you out there aren’t freezing to death in the US!

  9. sage says:

    “No apologies”…thank goodness Anna did not put Sharapova on the cover.

  10. Jess says:

    Good interview overall, social media is definitely addicting. Im hoping it dies down soon, I miss being able to talk with people without them constantly checking the phone or taking pictures because they feel the need to post every moment in life. It brings out the narcissistic side in all of us for sure! I deactivated or deleted everything about 8 weeks ago, it started as me needing a month long break from all the political arguments I found myself getting into, but now I just feel so much better I don’t want to go back. I miss how it was in the 90’s, little bit of technology but not overloaded!

    As for Selena wanting to be forgotten…..not so smart to say as you pose for a magazine cover. Just made her sound ridiculous, but other than that it was a decent article.

  11. Skins says:

    Don’t worry Selena, they will soon enough

  12. Beth says:

    If you want to be forgotten, go away. Stay off magazine covers, quit being a singer,don’t date other famous people, and don’t do any interviews. Your fans might never completely forget you, but won’t be looking for you after a while.

  13. kate says:

    Why is she doing a Vogue cover? Is she that popular in her own rights in the US? Because in France, she’s just a forgotten Disney child star, Terror Swift’s bff and Douchebag Biebs’ex

  14. Pumpkin Pie says:

    I forgot about her until I came here today.

  15. Goldie says:

    I usually get annoyed when celebrities complain about their fame, but I kind of give child stars a break. Selena has been work since she was about 7 years old. It’s not as if she chose to be famous. I realize that she’s an adult now and could do something else if she wanted, but I also understand that it’s hard to walk away from the only life you’ve ever known.
    At least she’s kind to her fans, unlike her ex.

    • perplexed says:

      Even though she was a child star, I don’t think she’s famous enough to say she wishes she could be forgotten. Like, yeah, she’s sort of famous, but not like what Tom Cruise was back when everyone thought he was normal.

  16. JA says:

    The thirst is REAL with this one!! I really want people to forget about me whilst shouting LOOK AT ME!!! IM SPECIAL!! Btw they filtered the F out of the cover. Saw the vogue insta video she was on [because she wants ppl to just forget about her] And she looked much paler than that. Blah with her fake realness.

  17. Bucketbot says:

    I don’t get such celebs. She wants people to forget abput her yet she is on the cover of a magazine. Can’t she tell her PR people “NO” when they tell her to do interviews. Saves everyone the ordeal.

  18. Monsy says:

    If she can’t wait people to forget about her, maybe, just maybe a good start could be turning down the cover of Vogue . Don’t get me wrong , she’s very pretty, but i think the world can go on without “Selena Gomez famous person”.

  19. Linabear says:

    I don’t believe for one second that she wants to be forgotten about; just the opposite actually. But DBT is interesting given its use in psychology.

  20. bogos says:

    She probably wants to keep doing what she is doing without all the scrutiny and pressure that comes along with it. There could be a lot of people fluttering around her wanting her to be their meal ticket that she is sick of too.

    • Lucy2 says:

      She sounds like someone trying to figure out the right balance of it all in her life. As she is dealing with a lot of issues, I’m not going to snark on her for that, but I think she needs to reconsider some of what she says to the media.

  21. phlyfiremama says:

    Believe me, I’m TRYING to forget about you. You make it so hard though, with your cat and mouse media manipulation and MAGAZINE COVERS that I can’t avoid having to see in the checkout line. You want me to forget about you? Than just go away~fade into obscurity.

  22. Jerkface says:

    Go sit in the corner and be quiet dumb kid

  23. QQ says:

    Im experience some uncanny valley situation with her is like things that made her fae softer got erased or tweaked.. or IDK if its losing baby fat whatever it is it like “a Person that vaguely looks like Selena??” (That said I side eye wholesome living mixed with Abel Tesfaye- and yet i significantly hate that situationship less than her with Bieber or him with the more blank canvas Hadid)

    • Bootsie says:

      I wondered if she’d had some of the baby fat sucked out of her face…she’s suddenly a lot less chubby-cheeked than she used to be.

  24. perplexed says:

    I feel this kind of quote sounds incredibly strange coming from someone like Selena Gomez who has to actively solicit fans on Instagram. If Julia Roberts at the height of her fame had said it, it might have sounded conceited, but it would have made more sense coming from her.

  25. Pandy says:

    Consider it done Selena!!

  26. whatever says:

    I’m more interested in the ‘No Apologies’ headline on the Maria Sharadopa article. Don’t tell me she’s still not taking responsibility for her own negligence?