Charlize Theron says having two kids lessened her anxiety


As Kaiser said, Charlize Theron is really earning her stripes for her The Fate of the Furious promotion. Wednesday she stopped by Ellen DeGeneres’ show and brought her two kids, Jackson, 5 and August, 1, to watch backstage. As some of you may know, Ellen has a long-standing war on glitter. So, as is often the case, she asked Charlize where she stood on glitter in her home. Charlize admitted that although she didn’t buy it, it was still all over her house. I can attest to this, apparently glitter is a by-product of children production. For people like me, this is an annoyance. For people like Charlize, who has OCD, it can become more of a challenge. Charlize said, though that having two kids has actually lessened her anxiety about some of her OCD issues.

“My kids are for more glitter,” Charlize, 41, told host Ellen DeGeneres. “There is way too much of it in the house. I don’t buy it, but it’s on those costume dresses. A lot of times I’m walking through my house thinking I’m going senile, because I have a little OCD thing. I’m like, ‘Where is this glitter coming from?’ And It’s those princess dresses.”

Since first becoming a mom in 2012, “I’ve gotten a little bit better,” Charlize continued. “My kids definitely help me be less anxious about a lot of that stuff. There are certain rooms that I let go and I’ve given up on, [but] they’re allowed everywhere! Really, I am very lucky to live in our house, and they are just very nice to have me there.” Realizing her kids were watching the show backstage, Charlize told Jackson and August, “You guys are very good, and I appreciate it.”

Though she’s a single mom, Charlize said she has “an incredible village” of people who help her raise “these two beautiful kids.” As most moms would agree, it “just takes a moment” to get things in order sometimes. “In the mornings I have them alone and they kind of work against each other sometimes. It’s like one decides to freak out and then both decide to freak out. I don’t know why they’d do that,” Charlize told Ellen. “You’d think they’d stand there and be considerate and go, ‘That one’s freaking out right now; I’m not going to freak out. I’m going to be nice. I’m just going to chill out and have my mom deal with that.’ But they don’t do that.”

Ellen joked, “You really don’t know anything about children.”

[From E! News]

Disclaimer: my son has recently been diagnosed with OCD and I am just beginning to learn about it, so I apologize for my rudimentary knowledge on the subject. When I watched the interview, I didn’t know if Charlize was using the term “OCD” just to mean she was a neat freak, because that was kind of how it read. But no, Charlize has spoken about her OCD often. Her specific anxiety is “hidden chaos,” such as messy closets that people just shove things in and close the doors. I find it fascinating, in a hopeful way, that having children has lessened her anxiousness. This probably wasn’t the venue for a full discourse on the topic but I would be interested to hear more on this from Charlize. According to this site, for those with extreme OCD becoming a parent can present problems. But for those who suffer from mild cases of OCD, like Charlize, it does in fact lessen the symptoms. It is believed that in these milder cases, the person’s focus is diverted from the symptoms to the children.

None of this, however, is an acceptable excuse for glitter toleration.

As for the part about thinking the kids should be considerate and sit out each other’s freak-out – I know it’s a joke on her part but I’ll be damned if I haven’t thought the exact same thing. Like my children weren’t old enough to figure out forks don’t belong in their eyes and I thought they should willfully choose not to melt-down simply because I’d had a rough morning. I don’t know how many hours I wasted asking a baby, “can you just not?!?” (BTW, the answer to that is almost exclusively “no.”)




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  1. K says:

    I have an anxious personality but also have OCD which developed into PPOCD (post partum OCD). I’d love to have more kids but have to cap it at two or else the anxiety and fears will eat me alive and I hate the mom I am when I’m acting under an impulse.

    Although we react differently, I love that she’s speaking about her OCD (and actual OCD, not just stereotypes) which is so important for allowing others to recongnize and accept their ownbehacior.

  2. detritus says:

    nice thought – im glad she talking about OCD, and i’m happy her children are providing balance.
    mean though – I’m surprised someone so very hampered by extreme beauty in their career would bother doing so much work to their face…

  3. SusanneToo says:

    She really resembles Katherine Heigl in those last two photos.

  4. Meaghan says:

    The glitter comment makes more sense seeing Jackson in his princess dress and braid extentions.

    • Lilly says:

      People get pretty salty about him dressing up as a princess, but I don’t see the problem.

      I was a tomboy who never wore a dress unless I was forced to, and it’s just a phase kids go through. And even if it’s not, who cares?

  5. Joannie says:

    She’s ridiculously beautiful.

  6. Jilly says:

    I’ve always been afraid my bad genes will pass my on my kids if I choose to have them biologically

  7. Mannori says:

    I know that it might sound polemic, but I think her son is having issues with not having a father figure. When she was dating Penn and he was a strong presence in the child’s life he dressed normally. I know that the definition of normalcy is rather subjective, specially when talking bout a kid’s choice of clothes. But now I see not just a playful dress up with his character of choice , but something that’s getting rather out of control. I don’t know if we should allow children to cross-dress as they want, is not like just letting them play with a Barbie.

    • Kezia says:

      Did you actually just type that out? A child is not “cross dressing” Jesus Christ!! He’s wearing a dress. Dresses are for girls pants are for boys is just a social construct along with gender. Anyone can’t wear anything they want- this is your problem not a child’s problem. Many people don’t have a father -doesn’t mean they don’t have a father figure among the “village” Charlize has to help her to raise the her children. I am done, cannot believe I am reading such nonsense.

      • MarcelMarcel says:

        Cosigning Kezias statement. My father left before I was born so I was brought up by my Mama, older sisters and their tribe of friends. It was really amazing because everyone balanced each other out ie my sisters taught me organisational skills, my mother made me very loved when I had medical issues and my godmother is a lawyer & highly rational so I could discuss my issues surrounding organised religion with her.

        In Roman Times men wore skirts and Henry Tudor loved a statement necklace. Clothes are just visual signifiers that protect us from the elements. All children can wear dresses or pants, it literally doesn’t matter.

    • Tashkent says:

      I agree with you. I certainly wouldn’t allow my son to do that.

  8. supposedtobeworking says:

    I have found that as the kiddos get older (preteen and new teen), they do buy into a more balanced and opportunistic approach to problematic behaviour. When one of my girls is being a turd, the other becomes an angel and so extra helpful. I recognize it is completely self-serving on their part, but I appreciate it. To the point where I may start setting up ‘meltdown’ role plays with one daughter just to get the other to do what I need her to, since it seems to be the most effective motivator ; )

  9. Dizzie says:

    I’m a former teacher with an “OCD” diagnosed daughter. It can take many forms, has different triggers and differing results, like anxiety. My daughter was misdiagnosed- only has the obsessive piece. Like many of my former students she had the drive to be perfect. That made her a poor test taker and late with work because things were never up to her standards for herself. She worked it out with a great therapist. I post this to help those with children who might struggle with school. The ‘habits of mind” can interfere with a terrific kid having a positive experience, but it is a workable situation.

    • Dizzie says:

      Hopefully, when we hear OCD, “off her meds”, and “on the spectrum” in everyday conversation we realize it might be insensitive to others. She was being humorous and may or may not be OCD. Not criticizing her knowing the context was to entertain, but rather making an effort in my own life to avoid using clinical terms in everyday speech and instead use other colorful adjectives.