Is Meghan Markle’s American-ness influencing Prince Harry’s sudden openness?

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Prince Harry has been talking about mental health a lot lately. It’s all part of the Heads Together campaign, with William and Kate, but Harry has been taking it next-level. He even did a sit-down podcast interview about his own struggles with grief, his fight-or-flight instinct and dealing with anxiety well into his adult years. Harry came across very well and… shall I say it? Un-British. British people are known for their attitude of “one must have a stiff upper lip,” meaning… don’t talk about what’s bothering you. Dignity is important, remaining calm is important, etc. Those characteristics go doubly for the royal family. So why is Harry so in touch with his feelings these days? And why does he generally seem happier and less angsty about dealing with the press? Why, it must be his American girlfriend’s influence!

Prince Harry won the courage to speak out about the impact on his mental health of the death of his mother, Diana, Princess of Wales, thanks to the encouragement and support of his new girlfriend Meghan Markle, according to insiders quoted by U.S. magazine Closer.

A source told Closer magazine: “Harry fell for Meghan partly because she’s so open, and has that American attitude of saying, ‘Let’s talk about our feelings.’ He comes from such a stiff-upper-lip culture, but Meghan helped him open up. Meghan encouraged Harry to see that, by speaking publicly about his difficult experience, he would really help others, and how being honest might even be a relief. No other woman has helped Harry so much emotionally.”

The source also told Closer that Suits star Meghan, who has been staying with Harry at his London home this year, has also helped Harry feel at ease in front of cameras for the first time and made him ‘a different person.’

[From The Daily Beast]

While the Daily Beast is just quoting from a lower-tier tabloid, Closer, I sort of believe this because… it’s very believable. Harry genuinely seems more relaxed these days. He really is opening up more and being more in-touch-with-his-emotions. Is that an American trait? Is that a typically American influence? I don’t know. But Meghan’s Americanness does seem to be rubbing off on him, at least from what I can see. We’ll get you, old empire. THE BLOODY YANKS ARE COMING. And we’re going to make you talk about your feelings!

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  1. Stacy Dresden says:


    • Isobel says:

      I don’t think it’s so cute. I think this desire on the part of the younger royals to look ‘normal’ is going to backfire. Why would British taxpayers fork out 40 million a year to someone if they are ‘normal’? Second, they seem to show a complete lack of awareness of their own privilege. William and Kate have not noted all the help they have. While Harry mentioned he got loads of therapy and recommended it for others. The NHS is in crisis you cannot get multiple therapy sessions for as long as you need them. There is a massive waiting list. Private therapy is far too exspensive.

  2. Kristen says:

    Yeah, I buy this.

  3. Sixer says:

    Can I tell you my feelings about Mrs Lunchclub and the community library bookshelves? They would be sweary feelings even though I know Mrs Lunchclub means well. I was very British with Mrs Lunchclub earlier. Or is American openness with the feels only for the GOOD feels?

    • Kaiser says:

      You can tell us your angry feels. Americans are cool with angry-feels. We love feeling angry and ensconced in victimhood.

      • Sixer says:

        LOL! Here they are:



        There. I feel better now.

      • Snazzy says:

        Lol Sixer. Don’t you feel better now?

      • Maria says:

        Honk for victimhood!
        And of course Honk for Harry!
        Double Honk for Megan!

      • Emily says:

        I’d say that screed was very American. I’m glad we could help you. 🙂

    • notasugarhere says:

      Did you pat her hand and say, “Yes, dear” while screaming obscenities inside?

      • Sixer says:

        I was thinking the above. What came out of my mouth was, “Oh dear. Shall I make you a cup of tea?”

      • Digital Unicorn (aka Betti) says:

        @Sixer – did you give her a biscuit for dunking?

      • Sixer says:

        I did not. I put the kettle on and then some other poor sap arrived and Mrs Lunchclub shouted at them too, so I made my escape!

        (She is the unofficial librarian who keeps everything tidy and in order, so I do feel her pain at being a bookcase short. But it would be nice to be asked to help rather than be bullied into it. Mrs Lunchclub is the village’s charitable bully.)

      • graymatters says:

        Bookshelves are a basic woodworking project. Perhaps Mrs. Lunchclub could approach the local teens about creating/donating some shelves for points towards a DoE award or something.

  4. QueenB says:

    Wasnt Harry always laid back? Talking about feelings in public also isnt the norm in america. Certainly not for powerful men. Talking about mental illness and going to therapy just happened very recently.

    They are just trying to spin this into something about their relationship.

    • Lady D says:

      You’re right, Harry has never been interested in helping anybody, so it couldn’t possibly have something to do with wanting to help others, could it? Nope, no way, no how, nothing authentic about him or her, it’s only publicity to make her look good to the British.

      • Peeking in says:

        Peak Sarcasm. Like.

      • Ravine says:

        I think QueenB’s comment about how “they are spinning this” was referring to the tabloid, not Harry and Meghan. I.e. the tabloid is trying to connect Harry’s mental health openness to Meghan in order to get clicks.

  5. Nicole says:

    I rolled my eyes so hard at this. Since when is it American to talk about their feelings? Because let me tell you I’m a counselor and that is just not the case for any of the men and boys that see me. Getting them to talk is much more difficult. So yea nice try.

    • NtSoSclBtrfly says:

      My 16 year old twin sons talk to me about their teen angst on the daily. Mr ‘Fly is also very open.

      Most of the people I interact with are, as well. My hairstylist burst into tears and shared some difficulties regarding her toddler at her place of work yesterday, and I jumped out of her chair to immediately give her a strong hug, then she let it all out. Her co-workers are also very supportive. Primary schools teach programs about talking feelings out. I find people will just open up to me often, unexpectedly. I guess it just happens whenever and wherever people are ready.

      Sounds like you counsel some folks having difficulty coming to terms with being ready. Best of luck to you.

      • suze says:

        You might be a good listener who people who people open up to. Which is a fine quality.

        The idea that Americans are all super open and all Brits are closed off is a dodgy one. That Markle is influencing Harry in this way is possible, but purely speculation, like all the crazy fantasy and rumors that float around them.

      • WTW says:

        @Suze, yes, I agree this is a dodgy and stereotypical portrayal of Brits and Americans. I am American who studied abroad in England and dated a Brit while I was there (and had other Brit acquaintances). I don’t recall any differences in how open I was compared to the Brits in my life. That said, I am an introvert, and I do find Americans can be very rude and intrusive. Often, they’ll start off asking a harmless enough question: Are you married? Do you have kids? But then it becomes, why aren’t you married, why don’t you have a boyfriend, you should have kids. From strangers! Someone I just met asked me if I had siblings, which seemed harmless at first. Then, I answered that I grew up as an only child but have paternal half-siblings. The person said, “So, that means you don’t talk to them?” WTH I don’t have to explain my family relationships to a stranger.
        I don’t think Americans discuss “feelings” but feel entitled to pry to learn the very personal details about the lives of people they don’t know at all. And I don’t think Americans always behaved this way. I just think each generation has become more obnoxious, pushy, nosy. And that oversharing has become a way of life.

      • Sarah says:

        Wow!!! Why so nasty to someone who has a different experience than you do? Maybe people where you live are more open? There are regional difference, too, you know?
        Sheesh. Obviously, you have no trouble sharing your feelings.

    • Sarah says:

      I know, right??? I am a counselor in addition to being a teacher and men in America do NOT talk about their feelings. Many women don’t either. Some groups might, like my Italian family, but my father’s Irish American family are very closed down, as are my English/Scottish/German friends’ families. There is NO sharing of angst in those families.

  6. rachel says:

    It’s pretty adorable if true and it’s actually an helpfull advice. A public figure attitude towards the press should always be about mutual benefits and profesionalism. Still I don’t think it has anything to do with being American, more like knowing your audience.

  7. anniefannie says:

    I totally buy this. When you find your soulmate you open up and reveal feelings that you otherwise suppress. For me it was a exhilarating experience and you want to share it & express it. Love this match…

  8. Lascivious says:

    Can I digress for a moment to bitch about that heads together logo? It looks like the first sketch from a beginners’ design class. First, it’s a single head, so not portraying the theme. Second, the type treatment is awful–like they just used whatever default font was already in use. And finally, maybe it’s just me, but the silhouette and colour of the head makes it looks awfully caucasian. So it’s a single white head whose face looks like one of those optical illusions–is it a face or staircase?
    Thank you for letting me vent. 😊 We now return to regular programming.

    • notasugarhere says:

      It looks like a ready-made “thinking” gif from early versions of PowerPoint or Word from the 90s. Amateur hour.

    • Dlo says:

      I had to scroll back up to look. Omg you would think something better would be done for the logo, you are so right!

    • Deedee says:

      Apparently, no one bothered to check if “Heads Together” trademark either, and now the woman who had it first is fighting to keep it. You would think their staff would learn to research and get a good graphic designer both.

  9. Who ARE These People? says:

    It’s probably more that he’s involved with an emotionally healthy woman, no matter her nationality. And he chose to be involved with her, which involved him maturing to some degree before they got together. I really like the way he’s talking about dealing with difficult feelings.

    • Mousyb says:


    • Sarah says:

      Here is the nonsense about this story:
      1. We don’t know if Meghan is open or not. She didn’t go to her coworker’s wedding, did she? That doesn’t sound like someone who has a good relationship with those she works with every day. So she may be open and friendly and lovely, or a total bi**h, we have no idea. None. At. All. The papers are making this up and people are eating it like it’s gilded ice cream.
      2. We don’t have any idea if Meghan is emotionally healthy or not. None. We don’t know if she is happy, sad, has anxiety, depression, is bipolar or bulimic, like Diana was. Again, the media makes this nonsense all up, and people just eat it up.
      After reading all the stories and the fans here telling me that Angelina and Brad were the happiest Forever Couple in the world and that anyone who didn’t believe that is a dumb, jealous hater, I read everything, here and otherwise, for amusement. But I don’t believe any of it.

      • notasugarhere says:

        2. we don’t know, but we know the media seem desperate to make up anything since neither of the two people in this relationship are spilling. No matter what the tumblr crew might think.

        1. many of the actor’s co-workers (actors, directors, crew) did not attend the wedding. I don’t think it is “wrong” to separate your personal and professional life, and have no problem with people who choose not to have friendships with their co-workers.

      • Merritt says:

        1. A lot of people don’t go to co-workers weddings. It is unclear how close she is with that couple. Meghan not going to that wedding doesn’t mean anything. Not going to a wedding has nothing to do with having or not having good working relationships with people. Some people prefer not to socialize with co-workers.

        2. True we don’t know this.

  10. cindy says:

    I have never shipped anyone, ever. But I do now! They seem so natural together, I love that picture with her arm on his back. Also, he is suddenly very attractive.

    “The bloody yanks are coming and we will make you talk about your feelings”!!!! Lololol!!!

  11. Magdalene says:

    Can she still wear adorable little dresses like this when she marries Harry or will she have to dress like Kate, enquiring fashion minds want to know.

  12. PettyRiperton says:

    We Americans have always been on the touchy-feely side. Harry’s family always seemed cold, they’re more of a business than a family. I doubt there were a lot hugs and sharing of feelings after his mom passed. Meghan may have gotten him to open up and share his feelings. He realized how much better he feels after sharing them.

    • Maria says:

      Diana was good about expressing her feelings. Remember the Panorama interview? I think that was one of the reasons people loved her. They felt they knew her, she was much more open that the royals. Harry takes after her, I think William takes after Charles. Both very wooden.

      • notasugarhere says:

        The Panorama interview wasn’t Diana expressing her feelings. It was Diana’s passive-aggressive, media-spinning hatchet job on her husband. One she was later said to regret as one of the biggest mistakes of her life.

      • Maria says:

        Nota, yes she regretted it, but she was open about how she was treated. It was manipulation to the nth degree, but a lot of it was spilling her guts.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Diana showed overt emotion in her work, which was unusual for a royal at the time. To me that is what helped people connect with her, not her media games and Panorama disaster.

  13. Luca76 says:

    Funny because Diana was so open about her feelings and that’s part of what made her ‘ the people’s princess’.

  14. suze says:

    Have people entirely forgotten about the teary confessional tell-the-whole-world your troubles Diana? Not all Brits share the stiff upper lip tradition. Harry might take a bit after his mother.

    No doubt Sparkle and Prince Hal influence each other, but I think this campaign is Harry being Harry.

  15. wow says:

    The Markle PR is really working overtime. She is the darling of Toronto, after all!

    • suze says:

      I like our future Sparkle Duchess, and I solidly approve of her relationship with Harry. I hope it ends up in marriage.

      But the US media reports on her are hysterical. She is the sparkly unicorn who is adored by all and who is responsible for putting the good in good Prince Harry. Righto, then.

  16. Carey says:

    I never realized how much Meghan looks like Pippa until I saw the thumbnail photos side by side on the site today. It’s freakish how much they resemble each other.

    • Maria says:

      I agree. I also think Waity looks a bit like Princess Mary.

    • suze says:

      The resemble nice definitely gives me pause. I would be surprised if no one within the family has noticed it.

    • lara says:

      Meghan Looks like the more natural and beautiful version of what Pippa is trying to achieve with her fake tan.

  17. Ozzy says:

    I think it’s more of a generational difference than her influence. It’s currently quite trendy to talk about this subject. Her obvious PR makes me dislike her more and more though.

    • Olenna says:

      I don’t believe Meghan has a independent PR strategy that includes feeding stuff like this to the media. At this point in the MM-PH relationship, I believe they are working together on PR releases with a common goal of less is more, quality over quantity. This article sounds like the typical made-up story used by the media to keep the relationship in the news and attract hits on the tabloid websites. But, of course, for some people it is always Meghan’s fault when a so-called leak is made or a fluff piece like this gets published.

      • Starryfish says:

        To hear some folks tell it Meghan who is aa c-list celebrity at best, controls the entire entertainment media at will lol.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Seems that way to me too, Olenna. And yes, Starryfish. The idea that a moderately successful television actress controls global media is the anti-fan fiction of tumblr teenagers.

      • perplexed says:

        I don’t think she controls the entertainment media, but everyone else leaks (including the Middletons despite whatever William thinks) so I wouldnt be surprised if she did too. I wouldn’t be surprised if she didn’t either. I just think neither is out of the realm of possibility, and wouldn’t shock me.

    • perplexed says:

      Diana talked about her eating disorders. Maybe the next generation is trying to make it seem like it’s being innovative.


    Pssh, the Brits have got nothing on my people when it comes to emotional constipation. A few years ago, my aunt got scolded (by her own family) for crying at her 23 year old son’s funeral. Being emotional over the death of her son was considered not just inappropriate but self-indulgent.

  19. NtSoSclBtrfly says:

    Ah, another Merry post to brighten the day! Thanks! 😀

  20. homeslice says:

    I don’t know about this article…but I really like these two together!

  21. Andrea says:

    At this point Meghan does not need PR leaks, they just make stuff up. She’s a smart
    girl shes almost a year into s relationship with Harry I don’t see her plying stupid games, also why does he have to make her look good to the British people? he didn’t pick her up working a stripper pole. I’m so over people ignoring the fact that this girl is educated, and have her shit together. She is the catch

  22. Jessica says:

    I doubt this is true but good for Meghan if she has this much influence over someone she’s been dating for barely a year. I think partners should always make each better; he gave her a higher profile and she’s helping him with the media.

  23. perplexed says:

    I don’t see being closed off as a British thing. I see it as a “royal” thing. His mom was open, and no one was more English/British than her (literally).

  24. PrincessK says:

    Rubbish! The reason why William and Harry have spoken out is because this is the 20th anniversary of the passing of their mother and they wish to uphold her Legacy and remind people of all the things she stood for. Stop blaming Meghan she has nothing to do with Harry being more open, he has never been shy like William and has always been at ease with the public.

  25. cate says:

    except the openness is not sudden – he has been talking about his mother in exactly this way since 2015 – long before he got exposed to MM “Americanness”. He with his brother and sister in law founded the mental health initiative also long before Meghaness.