Idris Elba: ‘Am I ever gonna get remarried? I don’t think so.’

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Bless Essence Magazine for their cover with Idris Elba. This is beautiful. Not only do I want to own the exact outfit Idris is wearing, but I want to bring Idris to my house so he can model for me personally. He’s so beautiful. Sigh…

Idris is supposed to be promoting The Dark Tower, but in the excerpts I’m seeing from the interview, he doesn’t discuss that film at all. Instead, he talks about his directorial debut, Yardie. And he talks about how he never wants to get married again. Which is fine.

“Yardie is quite a semi-famous bit of English literature about a small-time pastor who comes from Jamaica and ends up embroiled in [avenging his brother's death],” he shares about his directorial debut film. “It’s set in the late seventies, early eighties, a hotbed of Jamaican culture in London, but then crack cocaine arrives.”

When discussing the main character D (played by Aml Ameen), he relates him to his Sierra Leon-Ghanaian upbringing in London.

“He’s a fish out of water and finds himself becoming a gangster really quickly. It’s not really his life. For me, I’m making that story because A, it’s a part of the reason I became a man. I was born in 1972, and that’s just my era. And B, there’s a big, big music component. I love music and I love film. This is my chance to marry the two.”

Work aside, when asked about finding love in the midst of raising two kids and filming so much, he was honest.

“Am I ever gonna get remarried? I don’t think so. Yeah, I don’t think so,” he says. “Marriage is an institution of sorts. And I’ve done it. It’s not for everybody. It’s not my life’s calling.”

[From Essence]

I like the way he talks about marriage and how he knows from experience that it’s not for him. His personal life has been notoriously messy and I can understand how he would be jaded about the institution of marriage. And that’s fine – we don’t have to get married, Idris. I don’t really want to get married either. We can live in sin for the rest of our lives.

Please enjoy Essence’s behind-the-scenes video and interview. This video includes A) Idris’s beautiful voice, B) Idris shirtless and C) Idris looking DTF. Essence is truly doing the lord’s work with this video.

And here’s the shirtless photo. So veiny. Mm.

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Photos courtesy of Essence.

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  1. grabbyhands says:

    This goes some way to taking off the edge for all the other horrible news today. Bless you.

    • blogdis says:

      Meh . He is now on probation with me after being an executive producer on that Gueriila show about Black Panther movement in UK , where black women were basically. erased from thier own history
      But thats Essence for you , black women stay forgiving and promoting of men who will sh1t on us in a heart beat

  2. Megan says:

    I don’t care what he says, he is still my imaginary husband.

  3. Nicole says:

    Please he’s another one that “traded up” so he doesn’t get a pass here. Marriage isn’t for you but you probably should’ve told your wife that before being a messy a$$
    He’s is beautiful af tho I just wouldn’t date him

    • Sixer says:

      He’s completely terrible on all things women. Plus there was that cringe-making nonsense about a man not being a real man until he has a son to embody him. You’re not Henry VIII, dear Idris. And he had more than a hand in the fist they made of Guerrilla. And, of course, Idris Elba: Fighter, in which he took three hours of television to say LOOK AT MY GIGANTIC WILLY.

      Luckily for me, in the Sixer universe he exists solely for the purpose of my objectifying him. Which I fully intend to continue to do. ;)

      • third ginger says:

        Brutally honest, as always, Sixer. The reality is that if someone is any way well known, he has likely said or done something idiotic that we know all about. But is Idris ever gorgeous!! Nicole, I also would not date him because I am 64. LOL

      • Nicole says:

        Agreed Sixer. He’s there for me to look at nothing more

      • detritus says:

        Hmm. I think I will have to watch Idris Elba: Fighter.

      • Sixer says:

        I actually don’t think he’s all bad. I think he can act (even if not all his performances are of equal quality). He’s done some good representing for youth, and class, and race.

        But anything to do with women or masculinity, he’s an utter disaster. And so oblivious of the disaster that it’s funny.

      • Nicole says:

        Still agree Sixer

  4. Coconut says:

    Excellent! Thank you Kaiser!

  5. Sonia says:

    I’m not really impressed by him. He was good in The Wire but pretty forgettable in everything else I’ve seen, especially Pacific Rim where he was downright awful (I have never seen Luther). I’m also really turned off by his messy personal life and his attempts to be a “rapper”

    He’s good looking yeah but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    • Ramona says:

      Really? Forgettable isnt a word I would use on Idris. I recognised him on the Wire instantly from a bit part on AbFab years prior. Even if you dont like his performances, his physicality alone marks him out. No scratch that. He isnt physically present in Zootopia or Jungle Book and yet I still remember both those parts well. Whatever IT is, he just has it.

      • third ginger says:

        Our SAG awards were pretty impressed with him. He won two in one night several years ago.

    • Wilma says:

      He’s not my type (my type is too weird and specific to admit to on the internet 😉), but this man is charming and has charisma in spades. We watched him in an interview and my husband, who knows nothing about gossip and showbiz, was entranced and said ‘now this man would be able to play James Bond the way Bond was intended’. I then had to explain him that that ship had sailed.

  6. Slowsnow says:

    I’m not a photo person but that video… Damn! What a fine man.
    That said what caught my eye too was the second film about the ‘black desk’ in England’s Scotland Yard. Shocking, important history to put out there.

  7. Lou says:

    Shut up and take my money . Sighhhhh

    • Carrie says:

      Lol the comments on this man are making for a good day. He’s beautiful in looks too but that’s it for me.

  8. Kate says:

    We don’t need to get married in order to do what I have in mind, beautiful man.

  9. mogul says:

    Please, he’s talking to a black publication and what he really means is that he doesn’t think he will marry a black girl again. No hate but it is a reality. He probably feels secure enough in his career and success that he knows his fanbase has enlarged itself to more than black people. So his next wife will be anything but a black woman, hopefully he won’t start slandering black women reputation and mocking them.

    • Livealot says:

      I’m sorry I didn’t get any of that from the above or his reputation. He did note that he prefers “natural” (black/African) women in the past, but honestly I just get a whore vibe from him, similar to Michael B Jordan and that has nothing to do with race.

      Do you know something we don’t ??

    • Cherise says:

      Oh stop it. We have justification to be cynical but its still a trait to be resisted. Idris has been in the mainstream for awhile now and has still consistently dated or been linked with chocolate girls. He was even dating that K Michelle girl right around the time he was in all those big budget films that reminded the mainstream who he was. It doesnt get more cultural than that. The mans a ho anyway. I would climb that in a heartbeat but wouldnt wish a relationship with him on any girl whatever her race.

    • Honey says:

      Really? I must have missed that! He was married and now knows marriage isn’t what he wants. Plenty of people, no matter what color, don’t ever marry. ScarJo is someone who shows marriage isn’t right for her. I’m black, my husband is black. Not everyone doesn’t want a black lady.

      • mogul says:

        You guys may doubt me but he will proof me right. My people knowledge is always correct, I don’t even need to know someone or even exchange words with that person to know if his a good person or should cancel them. And what concerns relationships I just need a
        brief description of their dynamic and see them together to know if they will last or not. Julliane Hough for example she will end up in a divorce.

      • Honey says:

        @mogul, that’s kind of racist and unfair to jump to a conclusion like that. You don’t personally know him. Knock it off

      • Martina says:

        @ mogul – how very modest of you.

    • BJ says:

      Big reach, Boo.
      Stop projecting

    • MellyMel says:

      Just stop.

    • Beth says:

      Seriously? When did he say that? He’s so handsome, but he seems like a pig. Love shouldn’t have to do with race. No woman, no matter what color, shape, or size wants a pig. Better for him to never marry again since he admits it’s not right for him

    • ash says:

      hey mogul… you’re prob right… o well

  10. Anitas says:

    He’s very good looking but I never took to him – he just seems like a bit of a douche tbh, and full of himself. He’s not as irresistible as he plays it out.

    • Sonia says:

      Yeah he definitely seems very full of himself and egotistical. Some people will say “so what?? I would be too if I was him!” But no. There are plenty of talented beautiful people out there who are also not full of themselves.

    • Skylark says:

      Yep, agree. I really like him as an actor and love that he’s gotten to where he is on the international stage through sheer talent, hard work and determination but, somewhere along the way, the gritty, no-time-for-bullshit Idris bought into the hype and it’s really diluted his attractiveness as a person.

      There’s a thin line between confidence and cockiness and he crossed it a while back.

      • frisbee says:

        ‘There’s a thin line between confidence and cockiness and he crossed it a while back’ This, it’s all personal taste but he’s a long way off being a beautiful man to me.

    • zan says:

      + 1000!

    • kibbles says:

      This. All of this fawning only feeds his ego. Yes, I judge an actor by his personal life and I hate arrogance, which is why I never was into Ben Affleck, Johnny Depp, Jesse Williams, etc. Just list any other guy in Hollywood who is a philanderer and/or abuser. Hugh Jackman – that is a guy who has it all looks and personality wise. They are actually few and far between in Hollywood. Idris is good looking but it means little to me when a handsome man ruins everything by opening his mouth.

  11. Zuzus Girl says:

    He is one gorgeous man and a good actor. Don’t lose any more weight Idris.

  12. Singtress says:

    There is something with him. I always think I am not attracted to him. Then I imagine him looking just at ME, and suddenly I and I just and well I want and I think and uh I can I ….
    …and then I pee.

  13. nemera34 says:

    He is an attractive man. But I have never gotten into him for some reason. I did enjoy Luther. The only superficial thing about him that I don’t like.. and it is the way he walks. I don’t find his walk sexy. A man walk is something that is one of my things. And he just doesn’t have a good gait. Standing still yes.. but moving no.

  14. lightpurple says:

    Thanks to what Sixer has told me about Idris Elba: Fighter, I just want to throw objects at is stomach. He can be shirtless during this. That’s fine.

    • Sixer says:

      It was a little man, a big man and a medicine ball. We could probably just throw ourselves.

      I remember every scene of that show. Best worst tellyboxing EVER.

  15. Lalu says:

    I know nothing about his personal life… But on a superficial level… I think he’s one if the hottest actors out there at the moment.

  16. Yeahright says:

    Why are all the most attractive men the messiest?
    Please Idris get a vasectomy and keep doing what you do best.
    Servicing ALL the women you can.

  17. CeeCee says:

    *drool drool drool* That’s all I got. :)

  18. PettyRiperton says:

    He’s a hoe, he cheated on his babymama with other women so yeah. Idris is the type of guy you keep as a f**kbuddy not a guy you fall in love with. With all that being said he can definitely get it.

  19. Abbess Tansy says:

    He’s a hit it and quit it guy for me. I’ll hit it once for the experience, then I’m out the door saying thanks. No walk of shame.

  20. babu says:

    And a collective sigh of pleasure rose from the Internet …

  21. spidey says:

    Idris, aren’t you a bit old to be showing your knickers above the top of your jeans?

  22. Cel2495 says:

    In my grandma voice: lord have mercy! He is fineeeee :)

  23. YvetteW says:

    I need him to stop talking. Just take off his clothes and follow directions. OK I’ll allow an Oooh and AAhhhhhh…

  24. Sage says:

    He is hot af in that video! I love his voice.