Angelina Jolie: ‘A man who mistreats women is not oversexed. He is abusive’

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Angelina Jolie was in Vancouver yesterday for the U.N. Peacekeeping Defense Ministerial Conference. Jolie was one of the keynote speakers, and her speech was about the subject she’s devoted so much of her time to in the past decade: sexual violence in conflict. Through her work with the UNHCR, she’s seen first hand how rape and sexual assault are used as weapons of war. She’s seen how women are chronically undervalued in societies around the world, and how that chronic undervaluation leads to systemic disenfranchisement, inequity and a cycle of abuse, violence, poverty and the collapse of countries. She addressed all of that and more in her speech, saying in part:

“Sexual violence is everywhere – in the industry where I work, in business, in universities, in politics, in the military, and across the world. All too often, these kinds of crimes against women are laughed off, depicted as a minor offense by someone who cannot control themselves, as an illness, or as some kind of exaggerated sexual need. But a man who mistreats women is not oversexed. He is abusive.”

Jolie called sexual violence “a critical obstacle to achieving women’s equality and our full human rights,” adding that it is often used as a weapon of war. “It is cheaper than a bullet, and it has lasting consequences that unfold with sickening predictability that make it so cruelly effective,” she explained.

Outside of Hollywood, the actress pointed to female Rohingya refugees seeking asylum in Bangladesh, saying that almost every woman there “is either a survivor of sexual violence or a witness to multiple incidences of sexual assault, rape or gang‑rape.”

She also noted the Democratic Republic of Congo, where she said last week a trial opened “for 46 alleged cases of the rape of children by militia fighters, who had been told that blood of virgins would grant them supernatural protection. Some of the victims were 18 months old.”

Jolie went on to say that recognizing sexual violence as a weapon of war is not enough. “Even if we accept that sexual violence has nothing to do with sex, that it is a crime, and that it is used as a weapon, many people still believe that it is simply not possible to do anything about it.”

Fighting against sexual violence is “hard, but it is not impossible,” she said. “We have the laws, the institutions, and the expertise in gathering evidence. We are able to identify perpetrators. What is missing is the political will.”

[From People]

I’m sure there will be some people who accuse Jolie of merely taking up this cause because of everything that’s happened in the past two months. Those people are idiots – she’s been working on this for years. That’s why she knows this is a unique moment to make this kind of speech – as a society, we’re now trending more towards “believing women” and “believing the victims” like never before. There is broad work (or, work on behalf of broads!) to be done at every level of society, from sexual abuse and exploitation in refugee camps to rape in war zones to sexual harassment in supposedly “first world” environments.

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  1. Maya says:

    Wonderful speech and there was a cute picture of Angelina and Justin Trudeau at the convention.

    Would call for Justelina if it weren’t for the fact he was married….

    https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DOuK-BgVwAAqcF0.jpg:large

    • whatWHAT? says:

      she is awesome with her humanitarian work. I’m not her biggest fan but this is something about her that I really admire and am so thankful that she brings attention to this.

      Amazing to me that people can find fault and accuse her of doing this for PR. “PR” is hosting a telethon and then going back to your daily life. she’s in this for real, and for the long haul and it’s obvious.

      • Milla says:

        I have nothing but respect for her.

        She was born to do humanitarian work. I liked her in some movies, but this is her true calling. Amazing woman, so full of compassion. And her Weinstein story is by far the best. She simply said no and didn’t care about her career. She knew what was the right thing even though she was a kid.

  2. SilverUnicorn says:

    I am no fan of Jolie or her movies, but her charity work has done a lot of good in terms of war rape and sexual violence awareness.

    So hat off to her for her work, speeches and engagement with the subject.
    From a rape survivor, thank you Ms Jolie.

  3. Maya says:

    Sweety you need a new line of attack – this is getting boring and predictable.

    She has been doing this for more than a decade and is not only talking the talk but actually walking the walk. Built schools for girls in Asia and Africa, sponsors free health clinics and much more.

    What have you been doing for others??

  4. Andrea1 says:

    A proud fan of the Jolie here!

  5. M Marie says:

    Great speech. On a side note: How could anyone hate this woman? She’s well spoken and devoted to aiding all women. I don’t understand all the Angelina hate I seem to constantly see.

  6. Darla says:

    She’s doing good work on this, no doubt. Hats off.

  7. Odetta says:

    18 months old..this is horrifying

    • Slowsnow says:

      This shocking detail in a horrifying description of sex abuse hit me in the heart and made it explode a million times.

    • Artemis says:

      Damn that was tough to read.

      I do have to say, I’m one of those people Jolie refers to that don’t think you can do anything about these crimes. Once they’ve been committed, a life or lives have already been destroyed or caused severe trauma. The long and often unfair and emotionally taxing processes for women who do want to subject themselves to a court battle is just another form of abuse imo.

      It’s blatant activists or politicians cannot stop abuse with laws or call for change, that will never happen. As long as men are in power, the processes to punish these crimes are going to be biased to favour men’s accounts and letting them off the hook or with a minor sentence while battering the woman’s soul. There’s also too many people that don’t care about victims and people defending criminals. Some of the things that come out of court, it rips your heart out too, the obvious disdain for survivors of sexual assault who dare to speak up about their abuse is too rampant in the justice systems and court of public opinion.

      I mean Jolie just attended a Hollywood event (Governors Awards Ceremony) where nobody said anything about all the abuse as if the past weeks of shaming abusers didn’t happen. It’s business as usual and that’s usually the case in society and organisations when abuse comes to light. That’s not shading Jolie, it’s just reality. I understand she needs to bring a message of both cruel truths but also hope and positivity but like…I don’t believe it will ever get better?

    • Esmom says:

      I know, it’s unfathomable. Horrifying and heartbreaking.

    • NotSoSocialButterfly says:

      I gasped in horror and it scared my dogs. :(

    • Pandy says:

      Yeah. I feel sick. I can’t imagine … those men should be shot. There’s no hope for them.

    • tracking says:

      I feel sick, too. Animals.

    • Carmen says:

      18 months old. It makes one wish they would do field surgery on the rapist with no anesthesia and the top off a rusty tin can.

  8. Sparkly says:

    I sincerely hope that this new awareness we’re seeing leads to actual results and widespread change. Kudos to Jolie and everyone else who works so diligently on behalf of survivors.

  9. Tania says:

    In all my years reading Celebitchy, I never thought I would see the day where the MP I helped work to elect while I lived in his riding would appear on here with Angelina Jolie (Harjit Sajjan, Canada’s Defense Minister).

    That’s all I got this morning.

  10. adastraperaspera says:

    Jolie is a voice of sanity in the current whirlwind. Comforts me to see institutions like the U.N. amplify the issue of sexual violence as a threat to human rights.

  11. Clare says:

    For anyone who wants to cry for the next 3 days, there is a devastating video about slavery in Libya on the CNN website.

  12. Who ARE These People? says:

    “Fighting against sexual violence is “hard, but it is not impossible,” she said. “We have the laws, the institutions, and the expertise in gathering evidence. We are able to identify perpetrators. What is missing is the political will.”

    - Roy Moore
    - Donald Trump
    - Add names here

  13. EOA says:

    She has been very consistent on this issue, back to the point of directing her first movie. I still think she is overly obsessed with suffering but I appreciate the fact that she has used her celebrity to shine a spotlight on systemic sexual assault.

  14. Savasana Lotus says:

    Great speech. Hope it’s repeated over and over through all media outlets. And may I add…she gets an A+ today for that dress.

  15. Valiantly Varnished says:

    And THIS is why I am an “Angelina stan” as I’ve been accused of being in the past. I AM. And it’s becauae of things like this that I am. Angelina has put her time and money where her mouth is time and again on these issues. She has been fighting for the tights of female refugess for well over a decade. I am always so puzzled by the amount of hate she gets.

    • Mermaid says:

      Totally agree with you. This work is so timely with everything coming out, but she has been working actively on these issues for at least a decade or more. I admire her dedication.

    • Curious says:

      She fights for refugees.
      But she doesn’t fight against those wars which produce refugees. Because she would have to name those who started the wars and she doesn’t dare. She is surely afraid that she would be treated like Jane Fonda aka “Hanoi Jane”.
      To make my point clearer: imagine there was a charity which said they fought against racially motivated police violence. But this charity said they only treated the victims and never mentioned the cause of the violence. It would be called an absurd approach.
      Jolie’s point of view is similar. She fights for refugees. But not against wars.

      • Peggy says:

        Jolie is going to put on her boots and tell the Warmongers, in Sudan, Angola, Chad, DRC, Congo, Pakistan, Ethopia, Uganda, Guinea, Liberia and Togo, ‘now look here put down your Macchettes and stop raping humans’.
        If you’re talking about Iraq, Afghanistan, what do you really expect her to say?
        You can’t have it both ways, she is doing it for PR, or she is not calling out Warmongers.

  16. word says:

    “for 46 alleged cases of the rape
    of children by militia fighters, who had been told that blood of
    virgins would grant them supernatural protection. Some of the
    victims were 18 months old.”

    No words

  17. LittlefishMom says:

    Brilliant speech. Bravo!

  18. Curious says:

    As the UN ambassador for refugees and women and children in crisis situations you surely know where this mistreatment of women (and children) is rooted in.
    Patriarchy, machismo and chauvinist culture and as leftovers of colonialism and certain stone-age type of religions and more.

  19. serena says:

    18 months…?? Dear god.. that made me shiver so much.. Anyway Jolie is a QUEEN!

  20. Spritely says:

    “oversexed”? I think she means virile and masculine.

  21. Kath says:

    Good for her. Sexual violence as a weapon of war needs to be talked about (and prosecuted) more often.

  22. Areil says:

    As far as ftkmf, I’m sure Netflix would love for the academy to recognize it. I don’t know how much Netflix being the distributor will affect the academy’s thinking but I do think having a white American as the director/writer whether or not she really was, may effect their decision-making. Cambodia recognized it as their foreign film submission but that doesn’t mean the Academy actually agrees with that “foreign filmmakers” moniker. The film has been heavily touted as AN Angelina Jolie film in advertising and no matter her perception, she is an American with, at best, tenuous links to Cambodia.
    The film hasn’t blown anyone away critically either so that is strike two.
    The only way I see the film becoming Oscar nominated is if they want to use Jolies recognizability and publicity machine to potentially help with viewersip numbers. I really don’t put anything past these people.
    All in all, Hollywood as lost so much credibility and moral high ground it would seem to be a stupid move to promote nepotism, the HW p.r. machine, and someone with questionable ethics in an ill-fitting category right now. But money talks so we will see.
    BTW, I do not think FTKMF has been much of a hit with viewers. So if it doesn’t garner awards, I’m not sure where that leaves Jolie’ s directing career or relationship with Netflix in the long run.

  23. Sarah says:

    Have people forgotten that us weekly was sold to American Media inc? Since then, the whole format & writers & editors have changed & are from the same tabs as star magazine. There is zero credibility to Us weekly anymore. Brad didn’t say or release this statement. A source said, meaning tabloid intern.

  24. Marianne says:

    @

    Uhh no Carmen. Jen was the one to throw him out and file straight away for divorce when she found out he was cheating on her with Jolie. Brad was apparently angry about it and did that W magazine shoot to spite Jen. That was cruel and heartless I thought.

    • Sal says:

      Get your facts straight. There was no affair, it has been proven he didn’t cheat on her with Jolie. Even Aniston *herself* said this. As she said, Brad told her he was attracted to Angelina, she told him to go have an affair, get her “out of his system” and come back to her. But Brad was too honourable to do that, so he left her. Aniston HERSELF said he left her. So you are making up delusional lies. The W magazine shoot was pre-planned and to promote the movie.

      Ask Heidi Bivens about cruel and heartless. Not only did Aniston cheat on Brad with Matt LeBlanc, but she was screwing Theroux on the set and introducing him to her friends as her new beau, all the while Theroux was still living with Heidi. When news of their affair broke, poor Heidi fled their apartment. And less than one week after that, Theroux and Aniston released intimate photos (taken by sleaze Terry Richardson). TALK ABOUT CRUEL AND HEARTLESS. Aniston is trash for doing that.

  25. truth hurts says:

    “He really does seem to want this divorce over, but I wonder why this statement. My only guess is he is seeing someone else and wants to be public so is laying the groundwork.”

    I don’t think that is the case. There is no reason why he can’ t or wouldn’t go public if he wanted just look at Affleck. If he wanted this over it would have been weeks ago. There isn’t much for them to be fighting over. It is one or two things. The custody is going through a process in which he must pass to get joint custody or they are trying to reconcile. I believe it is the custody. All of that is his fault no matter how people hate Jolie. Again I don’t blame her lawyer or PR people for leaking stuff because she was again taking a hit for something he provoked per Lara Wasser.

  26. Spritely says:

    @Sal, their bodyguard on Mr and Mrs Smith came out last year and confirmed they started the relationship on set to US Magazine. I think it’s pretty much acknowledged by everyone but Angeloons at this stage, and no one is blaming them for it. They had kids and got married, for pete’s sake. His marriage to Aniston was effectively over at that stage.

  27. Kate says:

    What hurts the Jolie-Pitt kids is the private behavior of their dad. Pretending that this is normal is damaging, just like pretending screwing nannies who work for you is damaging, just like letting your abuser of an ex use your kids as pr shield is damaging.

  28. Maya says:

    Jennifer Garner didn’t have to dealt with her husband being an abusive alcoholic.

    Angelina not only had to protect her children against Brad’s alcoholism but also his verbal and even physical attack (Brad himself admitted to crossing the line with Maddox).

    And also – those children all needed therapy and the boys even refused to meet with Brad for months.

    Ben as far as we know – is an alcoholic and drug user but he never misbehaved with Jennifer nor the children.

  29. Peeking in says:

    Vicious in her attacks against her husband? Just stop. Please.

  30. Luca76 says:

    She never made public attacks. It was a court battle of which details became public and apparently it was serious enough that he still appears to have limited visitation.He admitted to at least some alcohol abuse. We see what men get away with in Hollywood why do we expect women to coddle grown ass men as Jen Garner did in the past?

  31. magnoliarose says:

    You take away from her powerful message by bringing up her divorce. This is her moment to bring much-needed attention to a serious issue. She has done a great job and has been consistent in her work and is using this moment to shine a light on horrific crimes. You can’t compare her divorce with what the women she is talking about, and I highly doubt she would either.

  32. Andrea1 says:

    Kate your comment is everything! Couldn’t have said it better than you did. Jolie left and never looked back she wasn’t prepared to be a door mat to any man and I say good for her! She handled it the best way she could and her children know the truth which is what matters and not what outsiders think.

  33. CityGirl says:

    Exactly Kate!! And Andrea 1, the fact that the kids are with her and even photographed with her smiling and doing seemingly every day things together, speaks volumes about all of that, in my opinion.
    Besides, we all know Brad Pitt is going to be unscathed from all of this – he will still make a kajillion dollars in movies, real estate, investments, etc. and women will still fall all over him. All he has to do is keep himself in check and Angelina becomes the unreasonable, slanderous one, the one keeping him from his kids. It happens every day to people with a lot less money and a lot less pretty.

  34. Savasana Lotus says:

    Wait, so you’re saying Jolie and not Garner had to protect her kids from alcoholism? Ben hasn’t discussed it publicly as Pitt has, but somehow I doubt that.

  35. CityGirl says:

    No Savasana Lotus, Garner by all public counts didn’t have to protect her kids from an ABUSIVE alcoholic. Big difference.

  36. magnoliarose says:

    There were rumors about her screaming at the kids and giving them silent treatments when she didn’t approve of them. The same type of rumor but the truth is that divorce brings out all sorts of stories and it helps no one by perpetuating falsehoods like that. Rumors she was on drugs on and off, and they persist, but I would bet you wouldn’t believe them.
    You should stop saying something like that. Domestic Violence is very serious and an accusation that should not be thrown at someone because you no longer like them.

  37. Tito says:

    @citygirl, how do we know from what garner had to protect her children? Just because we have no information, doesn’t make it less worse. They keept it more private in any case then Angelina and Brad. And this i say as a decade long brangelina fan. But that doesnt make me naive. Im a disappointed brangeloonie.

  38. Citney anise says:

    @magnoliarose

    Stay away from DM and FF, the crazies there are the same people. Certifiably crazy, all of them, they believe anything written by the tabs against Angie and refuse to even believe Brad Pitt when he says he was a distant father and an alcoholic.
    Wonder if Brad is getting nervous, remember he did have a habit of dating underage teens when he was in his mid and late twenties.

  39. Yup, Me says:

    Maybe she does but a lot of times, people also conflate class with secrecy. Jennifer has been good at appearing to keep the things going on in her family/marriage a secret. Anyone who has studied or experienced how family dynamics work when someone is an addict can tell you that Jennifer Garner’s brand of class looks a lot like family/spouse of an addict behavior.

    She might have class. She might have fucked up dependency and image issues. She might have both.

  40. Citney anise says:

    I have no ax to grind against Jennifer Garner, actually have liked a few of her films, but the fact she refused to walk away from Affleck while he was constantly cheating, drinking, gambling and generally being a disgusting pig is disturbing. I could never have exposed my children to that, even if it meant keeping them away from their father till he straightened his life out.

    I applaud Angie for walking away from the man she called the “love of her life” for the sake of THEIR children. I believe Angie is Brad’s one great love, which could be the reason he looks so haggard and sad.

    Maybe he thought because they still loved each other she’d never leave, if so, he soon found out different, which is why he claimed he was “blindsided”. No one has ever left Brad before, he’s always been the one to leave…..until Angie.

  41. Neil says:

    Not manipulative enough….. Otherwise she wouldn’t need to do speeches and other forms of polite cajoling to urge and/or shame the world community to do something about this generational nightmare we accept as normal. She could do it all behind the scenes pressuring this person here, promising that person there, etc.

  42. Citney anise says:

    @Hyenna

    “blah, blah, blah”, same old FF mantra.

  43. Lori says:

    Jennifer Aniston was the one file for divorce and threw him out of their house when he cheated on her with Gollum.

  44. Spritely says:

    @Maya above, leaks to TMZ etc and also directly through her lawyers. Maybe not attacks but simply leaving Pitt out there to be attacked.

  45. Carmen says:

    Brad was nice about it and let Aniston be the one to file. Do you seriously believe he didn’t want out of that marriage?

  46. Citney anise says:

    @Lori

    Brad let her file, did she really have a choice? Brad was gone, he never grieved a day after the end of the marriage to Jennifer Aniston.

  47. Sal says:

    @ Lori. No she didn’t.Get your facts straight. There was no affair, it has been proven he didn’t cheat on her with Jolie. Even Aniston *herself* said this. As she said, Brad told her he was attracted to Angelina, she told him to go have an affair, get her “out of his system” and come back to her. But Brad was too honourable to do that, so he left her. Aniston HERSELF said he left her. So you are making up delusional lies. The W magazine shoot was pre-planned and to promote the movie.

    Ask Heidi Bivens about cruel and heartless. Not only did Aniston cheat on Brad with Matt LeBlanc, but she was screwing Theroux on the set and introducing him to her friends as her new beau, all the while Theroux was still living with Heidi. When news of their affair broke, poor Heidi fled their apartment. And less than one week after that, Theroux and Aniston released intimate photos (taken by sleaze Terry Richardson). TALK ABOUT CRUEL AND HEARTLESS. Aniston is trash for doing that.

  48. Carmen says:

    @Spritely: Most of the attacks were initiated by Pitt and his lawyers. Every week his story changed. Bottom line, I don’t think he ever wanted custody of the kids. He doesn’t want the responsibility. All he wanted was public sympathy, and he got it.

  49. Lady D says:

    @ Spritely, “leaving Pitt out there to be attacked” LOL. Like he’s just a little boy tossed to the wolves of Hollywood. Ha ha

  50. Spritely says:

    @Carmen, I think your take is wrong. I followed this story, as a keen gossip reader with too much time on my hands, and she cast the first stone. He took a long time, in celeb pr terms, to formulate a statement in response. She did leak after leak after leak about how he was damaging the family and being abusive. Not a Pitt fan at all but I’d say most people who followed this story would agree with my take.

  51. magnoliarose says:

    @Citney anise
    I don’t believe anything in the DM. I just peek at the photos if there is an interesting story as for Female First I had never heard of it until a few months ago. I looked, and I was shocked that the site was called Female First. Yikes. Very strange how much they hate AJ.

    I like Angelina, but I am not one to worship her because what I like most about her is her survival instincts. She has overcome a lot, and I love that about her. I think she has struggled and is imperfect, but she doesn’t deserve the venom and outlandish accusations that are thrown at her all the time.
    I like Brad, but again I think he is flawed. He is not as passive as some believe and not nearly as weak as her fans want to imagine or some guy who doesn’t see or love his kids or is evil.
    Their relationship was done long before it ended and he wasn’t pining for her but his kids. She wanted a different life. All that fighting and time spent with others took its toll.
    He really does seem to want this divorce over, but I wonder why this statement. My only guess is he is seeing someone else and wants to be public so is laying the groundwork.

  52. Citney anise says:

    @magnoliarose

    I like the fact Angie is honest (sometimes too honest), even if it comes back to bite her. I like the fact she cares so much for others, a rare quality in narcissistic Hollywood. She’s not perfect, she has flaws, she’s human.

    I have been through the surgeries Angie has had, a few years before Angie, and everything she has said about a preventive mastectomy and oophorectomy is true. Also being thin I can relate as to how hard it is to gain weight, especially if that is your normal body type.

    As for Brad, it’s been a disappointment to see how his image seems more important to him than his children.