Angelina Jolie: ‘A man who mistreats women is not oversexed. He is abusive’

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Angelina Jolie was in Vancouver yesterday for the U.N. Peacekeeping Defense Ministerial Conference. Jolie was one of the keynote speakers, and her speech was about the subject she’s devoted so much of her time to in the past decade: sexual violence in conflict. Through her work with the UNHCR, she’s seen first hand how rape and sexual assault are used as weapons of war. She’s seen how women are chronically undervalued in societies around the world, and how that chronic undervaluation leads to systemic disenfranchisement, inequity and a cycle of abuse, violence, poverty and the collapse of countries. She addressed all of that and more in her speech, saying in part:

“Sexual violence is everywhere – in the industry where I work, in business, in universities, in politics, in the military, and across the world. All too often, these kinds of crimes against women are laughed off, depicted as a minor offense by someone who cannot control themselves, as an illness, or as some kind of exaggerated sexual need. But a man who mistreats women is not oversexed. He is abusive.”

Jolie called sexual violence “a critical obstacle to achieving women’s equality and our full human rights,” adding that it is often used as a weapon of war. “It is cheaper than a bullet, and it has lasting consequences that unfold with sickening predictability that make it so cruelly effective,” she explained.

Outside of Hollywood, the actress pointed to female Rohingya refugees seeking asylum in Bangladesh, saying that almost every woman there “is either a survivor of sexual violence or a witness to multiple incidences of sexual assault, rape or gang‑rape.”

She also noted the Democratic Republic of Congo, where she said last week a trial opened “for 46 alleged cases of the rape of children by militia fighters, who had been told that blood of virgins would grant them supernatural protection. Some of the victims were 18 months old.”

Jolie went on to say that recognizing sexual violence as a weapon of war is not enough. “Even if we accept that sexual violence has nothing to do with sex, that it is a crime, and that it is used as a weapon, many people still believe that it is simply not possible to do anything about it.”

Fighting against sexual violence is “hard, but it is not impossible,” she said. “We have the laws, the institutions, and the expertise in gathering evidence. We are able to identify perpetrators. What is missing is the political will.”

[From People]

I’m sure there will be some people who accuse Jolie of merely taking up this cause because of everything that’s happened in the past two months. Those people are idiots – she’s been working on this for years. That’s why she knows this is a unique moment to make this kind of speech – as a society, we’re now trending more towards “believing women” and “believing the victims” like never before. There is broad work (or, work on behalf of broads!) to be done at every level of society, from sexual abuse and exploitation in refugee camps to rape in war zones to sexual harassment in supposedly “first world” environments.

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  1. Maya says:

    Wonderful speech and there was a cute picture of Angelina and Justin Trudeau at the convention.

    Would call for Justelina if it weren’t for the fact he was married….

    https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DOuK-BgVwAAqcF0.jpg:large

    • Darla says:

      Oh but Maya, if he left his wife for her you’d have Sophie in your sights soon enough. I shudder on her behalf to think of it.

      • Maya says:

        Umm I haven’t attacked other women for a long time now. I stopped doing that when I realised I was being hypocrite by wanting men to stop attack women but I still did.

        And since you are obviously referring to my dislike of Jennifer Aniston, I havent commented on her threads for more than 2 years.

      • Kath says:

        Um, didn’t you suggest just a week ago that Jennifer Aniston was having an affair with Jason Bateman?

      • Maya says:

        Nope – I said there were rumours but that I didn’t believe them. Plus that was in a Jason thread not Aniston…

    • Darla says:

      Really Maya? I apologize then and I am sincerely very glad to hear that. Good for you!

    • Shambles says:

      Hugs to you Maya. I know people like to give you a lot of sh!t on this site, but you seem like a cool person.

      • Maya says:

        Thanks 😁

        I am used to the attacks on here. I don’t let it get to me because these people only attack Angelina fans and especially me (calling me mental, obsessive etc) and not others who write bad stuff about her (thin shaming, double mastectomy, her children etc).

        They are being hypocrites so their opinions of me don’t matter.

    • Erinn says:

      Don’t always agree with you on here, Maya – but you’re right. That’s a sweet photo. I’m pro-Sophie though, so we can settle for them becoming family friends, yes?

    • Citney anise says:

      Don’t give the lying tabloids any ideas. lol

      • Carmen says:

        You know if the tabloids see that photo they will pick it up and run with it and accuse Angie of busting up yet another marriage. It’s a great pic.

    • Cora says:

      That photo is lovely!

      • Suzanne says:

        Does anyone else wonder how her hair suddenly looks so thick at the part on her head? I mean…it looks like a wig…and quite possibly could be. They make them with very real looking parts…you can’t hardly tell it’s not the woman’s scalp!
        Yes, that’s all I basically took from this article. I could care less what she says or does…I’m just intrigued by her appearance. Shallow Hal. Sorry.

  2. Sayrah says:

    Preach!

    • whatWHAT? says:

      she is awesome with her humanitarian work. I’m not her biggest fan but this is something about her that I really admire and am so thankful that she brings attention to this.

      Amazing to me that people can find fault and accuse her of doing this for PR. “PR” is hosting a telethon and then going back to your daily life. she’s in this for real, and for the long haul and it’s obvious.

      • Milla says:

        I have nothing but respect for her.

        She was born to do humanitarian work. I liked her in some movies, but this is her true calling. Amazing woman, so full of compassion. And her Weinstein story is by far the best. She simply said no and didn’t care about her career. She knew what was the right thing even though she was a kid.

  3. SilverUnicorn says:

    I am no fan of Jolie or her movies, but her charity work has done a lot of good in terms of war rape and sexual violence awareness.

    So hat off to her for her work, speeches and engagement with the subject.
    From a rape survivor, thank you Ms Jolie.

    • whatWHAT? says:

      #metoo

    • lucy2 says:

      Same here – not a fan, but she has been a fighter for this cause and these victims for a long time, and it’s admirable.
      Also, it can’t be stated enough that it’s about power and abuse, not sex.

      • shlockOftheNEw says:

        Yeah the widow of the late and violent Hunter Thompson posted a meme on FB about a book called “The Problem With Testosterone” in response to all the assault allegations re men in power. I nearly sh#t myself- Hunter has so many fans, as carried on by his widow. There are many stories about his domestic violence- some women may come forward…”testosterone” indeed. STFU

  4. Maya says:

    Sweety you need a new line of attack – this is getting boring and predictable.

    She has been doing this for more than a decade and is not only talking the talk but actually walking the walk. Built schools for girls in Asia and Africa, sponsors free health clinics and much more.

    What have you been doing for others??

  5. Andrea1 says:

    A proud fan of the Jolie here!

  6. M Marie says:

    Great speech. On a side note: How could anyone hate this woman? She’s well spoken and devoted to aiding all women. I don’t understand all the Angelina hate I seem to constantly see.

    • jj says:

      I always enjoyed her speeches and articles on human rights, animal conservation, women’s health, etc. I can’t stand these articles with celebs on their beauty inspirations, products, exercise routines.
      There are more important things going on in the world and her speech really puts the focus on it.

    • Sal says:

      I don’t get it either. She’s never done anything to hurt anyone.

  7. Sullivan says:

    I admire her.

  8. Darla says:

    She’s doing good work on this, no doubt. Hats off.

  9. Odetta says:

    18 months old..this is horrifying

    • Slowsnow says:

      This shocking detail in a horrifying description of sex abuse hit me in the heart and made it explode a million times.

      • CityGirl says:

        Me too! In fact I had to read it several times (with my mouth hanging open) to make sure I had it right :'(

    • Artemis says:

      Damn that was tough to read.

      I do have to say, I’m one of those people Jolie refers to that don’t think you can do anything about these crimes. Once they’ve been committed, a life or lives have already been destroyed or caused severe trauma. The long and often unfair and emotionally taxing processes for women who do want to subject themselves to a court battle is just another form of abuse imo.

      It’s blatant activists or politicians cannot stop abuse with laws or call for change, that will never happen. As long as men are in power, the processes to punish these crimes are going to be biased to favour men’s accounts and letting them off the hook or with a minor sentence while battering the woman’s soul. There’s also too many people that don’t care about victims and people defending criminals. Some of the things that come out of court, it rips your heart out too, the obvious disdain for survivors of sexual assault who dare to speak up about their abuse is too rampant in the justice systems and court of public opinion.

      I mean Jolie just attended a Hollywood event (Governors Awards Ceremony) where nobody said anything about all the abuse as if the past weeks of shaming abusers didn’t happen. It’s business as usual and that’s usually the case in society and organisations when abuse comes to light. That’s not shading Jolie, it’s just reality. I understand she needs to bring a message of both cruel truths but also hope and positivity but like…I don’t believe it will ever get better?

    • Esmom says:

      I know, it’s unfathomable. Horrifying and heartbreaking.

    • NotSoSocialButterfly says:

      I gasped in horror and it scared my dogs. 🙁

    • Pandy says:

      Yeah. I feel sick. I can’t imagine … those men should be shot. There’s no hope for them.

      • Lady D says:

        They say the world needs all types of people, but there is truly no place for these sickening degenerates. 18 months old? Throw them in a fire.

    • tracking says:

      I feel sick, too. Animals.

    • Carmen says:

      18 months old. It makes one wish they would do field surgery on the rapist with no anesthesia and the top off a rusty tin can.

  10. Sparkly says:

    I sincerely hope that this new awareness we’re seeing leads to actual results and widespread change. Kudos to Jolie and everyone else who works so diligently on behalf of survivors.

    • Otaku Fairy says:

      Agreed. And it’s good- especially now, with everything that’s been happening over the past month or so- that she brought out the point that it’s about men being ABUSIVE, not about them being ‘oversexed’.

  11. Tania says:

    In all my years reading Celebitchy, I never thought I would see the day where the MP I helped work to elect while I lived in his riding would appear on here with Angelina Jolie (Harjit Sajjan, Canada’s Defense Minister).

    That’s all I got this morning.

  12. adastraperaspera says:

    Jolie is a voice of sanity in the current whirlwind. Comforts me to see institutions like the U.N. amplify the issue of sexual violence as a threat to human rights.

  13. Clare says:

    For anyone who wants to cry for the next 3 days, there is a devastating video about slavery in Libya on the CNN website.

    • Peeking in says:

      I saw them auctioning off someone, and when I heard “$400”, I stopped watching. I just can’t.

    • Frosty says:

      Mind boggling. For more background on the destruction of Libya I highly recommend Slouching toward Sirte by Maximillian Forte.

  14. Who ARE These People? says:

    “Fighting against sexual violence is “hard, but it is not impossible,” she said. “We have the laws, the institutions, and the expertise in gathering evidence. We are able to identify perpetrators. What is missing is the political will.”

    – Roy Moore
    – Donald Trump
    – Add names here

    • Citney anise says:

      Who ARE these People?

      Roy Moore
      Donald Trump
      Bill Clinton

      I know most do not want to clump Clinton in with this group, but facts are facts., and just because he’s a Democrat does not make him any less guilty.

  15. EOA says:

    She has been very consistent on this issue, back to the point of directing her first movie. I still think she is overly obsessed with suffering but I appreciate the fact that she has used her celebrity to shine a spotlight on systemic sexual assault.

  16. Joyce says:

    PR stunt

    • Lady D says:

      It is my heartfelt wish that more people would practice these so-called PR stunts.

    • Handwoven says:

      What a crafty woman she is, then. A decade-plus of human rights activism has all been a PR stunt, guys. Let’s all go home. Joyce figured it out.

    • Carmen says:

      *sighs and rolls eyes in disgust*

      There’s always gotta be one…

    • Curious says:

      I agree with Joyce and have elaborated it below.

      Right to free speech must allow divergent opinions. Rolling eyes and being disgusted is inappropriate… or is it censorship already?

      • LooseSeal says:

        Wait, so when you have a diverging opinion it’s free speech, but then when someone has an opinion diverging from yours it’s censorship? The logic here is so circular we’re creating a logic inception.

    • Sal says:

      You’re sad and pathetic, and clearly jealous.

  17. Savasana Lotus says:

    Great speech. Hope it’s repeated over and over through all media outlets. And may I add…she gets an A+ today for that dress.

    • Handwoven says:

      The dress is lovely, and for some reason I love that in the photo with JT you can see the creases in the front from when she was sitting down because that ALWAYS happens to my skirts, too.

  18. Valiantly Varnished says:

    And THIS is why I am an “Angelina stan” as I’ve been accused of being in the past. I AM. And it’s becauae of things like this that I am. Angelina has put her time and money where her mouth is time and again on these issues. She has been fighting for the tights of female refugess for well over a decade. I am always so puzzled by the amount of hate she gets.

    • Mermaid says:

      Totally agree with you. This work is so timely with everything coming out, but she has been working actively on these issues for at least a decade or more. I admire her dedication.

    • Curious says:

      She fights for refugees.
      But she doesn’t fight against those wars which produce refugees. Because she would have to name those who started the wars and she doesn’t dare. She is surely afraid that she would be treated like Jane Fonda aka “Hanoi Jane”.
      To make my point clearer: imagine there was a charity which said they fought against racially motivated police violence. But this charity said they only treated the victims and never mentioned the cause of the violence. It would be called an absurd approach.
      Jolie’s point of view is similar. She fights for refugees. But not against wars.

      • Peggy says:

        Jolie is going to put on her boots and tell the Warmongers, in Sudan, Angola, Chad, DRC, Congo, Pakistan, Ethopia, Uganda, Guinea, Liberia and Togo, ‘now look here put down your Macchettes and stop raping humans’.
        If you’re talking about Iraq, Afghanistan, what do you really expect her to say?
        You can’t have it both ways, she is doing it for PR, or she is not calling out Warmongers.

  19. word says:

    “for 46 alleged cases of the rape
    of children by militia fighters, who had been told that blood of
    virgins would grant them supernatural protection. Some of the
    victims were 18 months old.”

    No words

    • Citney anise says:

      @word

      There has to be a special hell for animals such as those so-called “men”. No person with human feelings could do that to a child, or anyone, but a child, I agree, “No words”.

  20. LittlefishMom says:

    Brilliant speech. Bravo!

  21. Curious says:

    As the UN ambassador for refugees and women and children in crisis situations you surely know where this mistreatment of women (and children) is rooted in.
    Patriarchy, machismo and chauvinist culture and as leftovers of colonialism and certain stone-age type of religions and more.

  22. serena says:

    18 months…?? Dear god.. that made me shiver so much.. Anyway Jolie is a QUEEN!

  23. Spritely says:

    “oversexed”? I think she means virile and masculine.

  24. Kath says:

    Good for her. Sexual violence as a weapon of war needs to be talked about (and prosecuted) more often.

  25. Areil says:

    As far as ftkmf, I’m sure Netflix would love for the academy to recognize it. I don’t know how much Netflix being the distributor will affect the academy’s thinking but I do think having a white American as the director/writer whether or not she really was, may effect their decision-making. Cambodia recognized it as their foreign film submission but that doesn’t mean the Academy actually agrees with that “foreign filmmakers” moniker. The film has been heavily touted as AN Angelina Jolie film in advertising and no matter her perception, she is an American with, at best, tenuous links to Cambodia.
    The film hasn’t blown anyone away critically either so that is strike two.
    The only way I see the film becoming Oscar nominated is if they want to use Jolies recognizability and publicity machine to potentially help with viewersip numbers. I really don’t put anything past these people.
    All in all, Hollywood as lost so much credibility and moral high ground it would seem to be a stupid move to promote nepotism, the HW p.r. machine, and someone with questionable ethics in an ill-fitting category right now. But money talks so we will see.
    BTW, I do not think FTKMF has been much of a hit with viewers. So if it doesn’t garner awards, I’m not sure where that leaves Jolie’ s directing career or relationship with Netflix in the long run.

  26. Sarah says:

    Have people forgotten that us weekly was sold to American Media inc? Since then, the whole format & writers & editors have changed & are from the same tabs as star magazine. There is zero credibility to Us weekly anymore. Brad didn’t say or release this statement. A source said, meaning tabloid intern.

  27. Marianne says:

    @

    Uhh no Carmen. Jen was the one to throw him out and file straight away for divorce when she found out he was cheating on her with Jolie. Brad was apparently angry about it and did that W magazine shoot to spite Jen. That was cruel and heartless I thought.

    • Sal says:

      Get your facts straight. There was no affair, it has been proven he didn’t cheat on her with Jolie. Even Aniston *herself* said this. As she said, Brad told her he was attracted to Angelina, she told him to go have an affair, get her “out of his system” and come back to her. But Brad was too honourable to do that, so he left her. Aniston HERSELF said he left her. So you are making up delusional lies. The W magazine shoot was pre-planned and to promote the movie.

      Ask Heidi Bivens about cruel and heartless. Not only did Aniston cheat on Brad with Matt LeBlanc, but she was screwing Theroux on the set and introducing him to her friends as her new beau, all the while Theroux was still living with Heidi. When news of their affair broke, poor Heidi fled their apartment. And less than one week after that, Theroux and Aniston released intimate photos (taken by sleaze Terry Richardson). TALK ABOUT CRUEL AND HEARTLESS. Aniston is trash for doing that.

  28. truth hurts says:

    “He really does seem to want this divorce over, but I wonder why this statement. My only guess is he is seeing someone else and wants to be public so is laying the groundwork.”

    I don’t think that is the case. There is no reason why he can’ t or wouldn’t go public if he wanted just look at Affleck. If he wanted this over it would have been weeks ago. There isn’t much for them to be fighting over. It is one or two things. The custody is going through a process in which he must pass to get joint custody or they are trying to reconcile. I believe it is the custody. All of that is his fault no matter how people hate Jolie. Again I don’t blame her lawyer or PR people for leaking stuff because she was again taking a hit for something he provoked per Lara Wasser.

  29. Spritely says:

    @Sal, their bodyguard on Mr and Mrs Smith came out last year and confirmed they started the relationship on set to US Magazine. I think it’s pretty much acknowledged by everyone but Angeloons at this stage, and no one is blaming them for it. They had kids and got married, for pete’s sake. His marriage to Aniston was effectively over at that stage.