Today, in “some men are still trash” news, Alex Pall, half of the EDM duo The Chainsmokers (responsible for that terrible song “#Selfie”, so that should be his strike one) got caught cheating on his girlfriend of almost four years.
Tori Woodward, a beautiful NYU grad (and, in my estimation, too good for the guy in the first place), caught her Grammy-winning beau kissing another woman, thanks to some grainy CCTV footage. Tori quickly shared the video to Instagram and let Alex (deservedly) have it. In posts which were deleted by Instagram because they allegedly did not “follow community guidelines” (really?), she accompanied the video with the caption, “They’ll look you in the eyes and tell you they love you. Then destroy you without a second thought.” She later posted a second clip, warning her followers that, “Men are trash. Don’t ever forget it.” She added, “Alex is disgusting.” Hell hath no fury.
But wait, she’s not done. She later shared more, elaborating, “After hours of begging him for scraps of honesty I chipped away just enough to confirm that this is not the first time he’s remorsely cheated on me.” This coming from a guy who told ABC in an October 2016 profile that Tori was with him “before all of this craziness happened” and that “it’s really hard to meet people who are compatible and to be supportive of our lifestyle.” I don’t think Tori was sold the “lifestyle” that included cheating. Of course, this is the same guy who bragged in a 2016 Billboard article, along with his bandmate Drew Taggart, that their penis sizes were 17.34 combined inches (ugh). Alex told Billboard “Even before success, pussy was number one. Like, ‘Why am I trying to make all this money?’ I wanted to hook up with hotter girls. I had to date a model.” What a troll.
Tori detailed how Alex lied to her face and then gradually admitted he had cheated. And, worst of all, Tori pointed out that “What’s perhaps most amazing is that he HASN’T EVEN APOLOGIZED.” What a douche.
I admire her for using her words effectively to send a clear message that this sort of behavior should not and cannot be tolerated – and her followers have been supportive. She thanked them and let them know that, “I’m moving on with my life with the satisfaction that I’m liberated from a horrible person.”
Not surprisingly, Alex’s people have kept hush-hush since Tori took to Instagram and shared her feelings. All I have to say is brava, Tori, hopefully your words and actions will encourage women who have been disrespected and treated wrongly to free themselves from losers like this guy.
Photos: Instagram, WENN.com. Thanks to Radar Online for the details for this story
YES Tori! Men lying and gaslighting is so destructive to women. Men, just be honest if you don’t want to be monogamous! It’s a health issue for your partner. Good for her 👏🏻
Go tori!! It’s a physical AND mental health issue. Sadly, some people just like the thrill of ‘getting away w it.’ Also, lol Corey @ selfie being strike one against this guy.
Shocking. Douchebro cheats on his hot and smart girlfriend. I refuse to support the chain smokers after a series of increasingly stupid and offensive interviews and comments.
But poor girl. Her words are quite eloquent and she will find someone better than this a-hole.
I mean, at this point I just assume if a man is famous/an athlete, he is cheating, and it’s just a nice surprise if he’s not.
Agreed. Don’t know how anyone handles being married to a famous person.
I agree. I have a friend married to someone sort of kind of famous (very well known/respected in his circle, less in others) and he’s one of the good ones (but in his younger years, before he was married, he was a bit of a douchebro. Getting older and maturing as human worked well for him). But still, I can’t imagine how difficult it must be, especially with the touring and women being all over the place…
The way she handled this is unique and perfect! Usually when people (all genders) strike back at cheating partners they look kind of trashy too…but in this case, I find myself super proud of her and I admire how classy and direct she was about this.
That guy is trash. Good riddance.
I came to say the same, it’s shockingly mature and she put some deep thought into it. I wasn’t expecting that when I saw the headline. Good for her, she’s obviously too good for him.
She is AWESOME. I love this.
Exactly. She really did a great job expressing her feelings and letting him have it. She put him on blast but in a classy way lol.
Get it, Tori.
his lack of apology, and trying to mansplain that the rules of their relationship changed, he just didn’t tell her before, oh my god. She has some extremely good control to keep going through that train wreck of a conversation. I hope she wins the lottery in her next partner, and he gets scabies.
How did he explain away the comments he made in that magazine article? It’s always been all about the pussy, I needed to beg famous so I could date hot, model chicks? He seems like such a douche-bro and his actions are sure matching his words.
They look like douchebags. Just quintessential a-holes. I remember that Billboard article and thought they were trolling. It was so awful. I can’t believe she lasted 4 years
LOLOLOL at the guy getting busted. Good for Tori for pulling through the pain with such strength and brava to all of her (very true) words.
I guess he meant that literally when he said baby pull me closer in the backseat of your rover. Never been a fan but I kind of like that song.
The posts are now deleted/ removed
I don’t know why!
Good for her. And she is lucky that she found out now and can get well rid of the douchebag.
Imagine not knowing and investing valuable years for this asshat?
I mean, enjoy all you want sleeping through half the world , break up with your partner before that.
It seems social media Terms of Service only apply to women and people of color 🤷🏻♀️
Annabelle,
You said it. It’s f*cked. One of my favorite spiritual WOC warriors to follow on Instagram keeps getting her posts taken down for calling out the white women nonsense she’s been subjected to in the past few days. It’s racist censorship.
SMDH Yet the racist, misogynistic POTUS continues to go unchecked.
There were articles in various places a few weeks ago about people being banned from several social media sites (facebook is the one I remember) because typing things like ‘men are trash’ broke terms of service. I hope this link is ok to post: https://www.avclub.com/warning-saying-that-men-are-trash-will-get-you-banned-1820991277
I guarantee it’s along those lines as to why her posts were removed.
Well at least she never married or had kids with this douche bag.
Small favors I guess.
Cheating on a partner should be attempted murder.
Yeah, the STD issue alone is enough to make him the scum of the earth.
Honesty is SO important, but it can’t exist without a foundation of respect. I know plenty of polyamorous couples, and STD
screenings and long, honest discussions don’t “kill the mood”, they put everyone on the same page and keep everyone safe.
Wait a minute. I resent her telling impressionable young men and women that men are trash. Irresponsible and hyperbolic. She can express her pain and betrayal without condemning an entire gender. Besides, this dude has always been problematic af but it’s time to burn it down because he hurt you, you, you? *eyeroll*
He’s a douche. It’s not that you didn’t think he would cheat. You didn’t think he would cheat on you.
Yeah I hate that narrative. There are plenty of women in the world who are ‘trash’ as much as men. I wish she’d gone with something more like “Guys like this are trash – they’re not worth a second of your time” instead. But I mean – she was hurt. She was angry, so here we are. Other than that though, I appreciate that she made a point to try to make an impact.
And the dude is a garbage person. He must have been laying it on thick with her- I hope she wasn’t seeing his “persona” in their private life and just being blind to it. I hate any man who pulls the “all men do it” card with cheating. They must have had some pretty shitty men in their life to look up to growing up for them to believe that it’s something everyone does. I get that they surround themselves with people like that now – birds of a feather and all that – but that kind of attempt to validate your shitty actions doesn’t just randomly jump up in adulthood.
Men and women cheat at roughly the same rates but somehow weak women have made it a feminist issue. Ridiculous and pathetic.
and, truthfully, women cheat on their partners too
All men are not trash. She will date a man again, and will probably marry one too down the road. She may even give birth to a male one day. She needs to change the way she thinks. She’ll meet someone better. Women cheat too…women abuse too…women do trashy things too.
I assume she is in her 20s and just had a horrible breakup with a cheating partner. I think this is her spur of the moment reaction.
It will take a few months and she will move on.
Its not always possible to have sane and composed thoughts and post them.
@ Tan
For her to say all men are trash makes me believe she’s been in a similar situation before. If this was her only experience dating a cheating piece of sh*t, I don’t think she would publicly cry about how all men are “trash”. I don’t know.
I had one very bad ex and after my very bad breakup and subsequent shitty treatment from male mutual friends I also did go through this men trash phase, even though I know quite a number of good one. And I was older then than she is now.
It depends on the person I guess. I can relate to it.I did not post all men are shit on social media but I voiced it strongly to anyone and everyone who cared to listen.
I truly believe its a phase and it will pass too.
Thanks for saying this! I actually think trashing/shaming people on social media is childish and really spinning out of control. Men and women are both capable of cheating & being douchey. As awful as it is, does it really require public shaming? You were in a toxic relationship – luckily you found out before things got even more serious.
I know this isn’t the point but how did she get the video? Is it from
Their house or a hotel? I guess he prob had cctv at his property? Also she’s way more composed with these messages than I think I would have been
THANK YOU. That’s all I can think about honestly. How did she have those images and how does she know it’s him? Is this her house (if so, he’s quite dim…)? Why did she believe this douche in the first place? Does she not read the press? So many questions…
It’s from their house. They have cameras around the property. He’s so stupid.
He probably thought she was too “dumb” to know how to review the security footage.
“Remorsely”? Gah. Are you sure she went to NYU?
@Meena lol I noticed that too. I call that emotional spelling.
The fact that these guys pretty much admitted they went into the business to get girls (and Pall was dating his now ex for a considerable amount of years at that point) shows a lack of (critical) thinking skills on her part.
They’re douchebags who proudly proclaimed to be douchebags. A lesson for her to believe when somebody is showing them who they are in public like a badge of honour.
And strike 1 would be his face actually!
That’s my only issue with all of what she said! What was she trying to say? Remorselessly? Is that a word? Remotely might have worked if she was trying to say it wasn’t even remotely the first time he cheated.
Oversharing. Millenials are indeed exhausting.
Yes, because millennials are the only people who are exhausting & overshare on social media… *eyeroll* I wish people would stop generalizing a whole generation. We’re not all the same.
yeah, i know some boomers who, because they didn’t grow up with the internet like millennials, have zero filter and boundaries on facebook. detailed descriptions of their private medical issues, malicious gossip shared publicly because they don’t know how to share to only friends, detailed descriptions of family or friends’ issues shared with everyone, etc.
there are people who don’t know boundaries on social media, and people who do. period.
While you aren’t the “only”, your generation is the most attention seeking.
Exactly Bethany!
What I find exhausting is the people who constantly look down on millennials. Were your parents’ generation ever so rude, condescending and judgmental about your generation?
Good for her, and she made a great statement. He and partner always seemed like a pair of typical little shits since that interview.
I’ve never heard of him, but he’s another example of a sleezy, horny guy who feels no guilt. Knowing there’s so many pigs like him out there is why it’s so hard for me to trust a guy. I hope Tori never looks at him again and never gives him another chance
That “combined penis size” comment was about the ones on their heads, right?
I agree, oversharing. Millennials, like little kids, love to be in the spotlight for any reason. Do we really need to know all of this? Say he is a cheater and move on.
BTW, I hate when women say all men are bad. I married a good one and this really offends me. There are plenty of great guys out there, but unfortunately we don’t hear as much from their happy partners. They aren’t bitching about them on social media!
It offends you???? It offends you that she made a statement during an emotional time that questioned the integrity of men? Just because YOU found a good one, doesn’t mean she will! Sorry that “offends” you
This thread is actual bullish!t??? Just because millennials have a more universal platform to seek attention does not mean they are the only generation who has ever sought attention. Have you ever heard of Madonna? Jesus, this sh!tty attitude about millennials all over this thread is unnecessary, smug, and mean.
And when women say “Men are trash,” the good ones know it doesn’t apply to them and move on. That simple.
Millennial here and never shared my personal life on soc media.
While some people overshare, it’s cos we can. You didn’t have social networks so don’t tell me your generation is better. Besides, look at the mess you left us. No idea what your generation was doing, but it wasn’t good for mankind.
Yikes, she got cheated on by the ugly one? Life is cruel.
Right? Not that looks are everything but dude is really not attractive enough for that kind of behavior. He’s got those “grateful just to get a date” kind of features.
Maybe it’s just me but there’s something about getting cheated on by an ugly dude when you KNOW you could’ve dated a better looking guy that just stings more. Truly.
what a jerk. ugh, i’ve hated the chainsmokers way before this, but i guess it’s possible to hate them even more. i hope she’s able to move on & realize she deserves so much better.
I’ve just only recently heard of these guys. That song. Sick boy. Ugh. Terrible.
Good for her exposing and leaving him.
The douche meter broke on this guy. How could she expect anything more from him. You can choose between fabulous red carpet photos or your dignity. Unfortunately, too many pick the former.
I was thinking the same thing. For a woman supposedly enrolled in or graduated from USC’s law school, she isn’t too good at reading people. She chose the red carpet lifestyle over common sense. Hopefully her picker will be better next time.
As for him, yup a total douche. He will have his pick of bimbos. Probably won’t have a shot at a woman of substance anymore but I doubt he cares.
I’d like to know where she found that video.
And finally, I’ve seen a lot of pics of them leaning away from each other. I’m no body language expert, but…
If they started dating before he got famous, (not sure how long they’ve been around but it feels like ages, ugh) I’d imagine he told her that all of his trashy behaviour and interviews were just for PR and part of his public persona.
Being cheated on is horrible, being lied to by the one who you think loves you most is horrible. I get it. I know it. But the speeches of those who have been cheated on always sound kind of sanctimonious to me. Men are dogs… blah blah blah… I would never… blah blah blah… strong woman… blah blah blah… evil person… blah blah blah. Stuff happens, especially when you’re with a douchebag. At least she knows he was batting way out of his league now.
100% agree. Girl should have known better after his words in that article, about getting hotter girls and sleeping with more women. She can finally move on now, but I won’t be surprised that after some ‘sex addiction therapy’ they will be loved up again on IG.
Exactly!
all i have to say is – these guys were smart to become famous b/c they look like busted ass hobbits and seem like they have horrible personalities to match
right?!?!!!
they always look dirty and grimey!!!
maybe we should start sending them lavender soap??
Captioning a photo of yourself and your SO as “Prize Pony” is disgusting. I would have broken up with him over that alone, not to mention that awful interview.
Why is it always the men with a face like a slapped arse who have the highest level of delusional entitlement re: dating models?
Seriously. Both of those guys have resting douche face.
I found out I had been cheated on this year. It truly sucks and very hard to comprehend when there is little remorse from the cheater. I feel her in that it does feel great to be liberated from an asshole. I thank her for sharing.
From the screen caps, it looks like she posted it to instagram story. Those only last 24 hours, unless you save them to your highlights.
The Chainsmokers are going to be hasbeens pretty soon. They have “One Hit Wonders” written all over them, so enjoy it while it lasts, I guess. I’ve met so many douchey musicians who legit think their crap makes them Elvis Presley. They really think they’re the sh*t, and they think their ~talent makes them extremely attractive and f*ckable. But they’re all geezers who walk all over the women who knew them before becoming successful, and when all of this is over they will be left middle aged and alone.
He’ll get his karma. So glad she exposed him. Enough of women staying quiet and putting up with abuse and humiliation.
He “remorsely” cheated on her? I’m not familiar with that word–does she mean “remorselessly” perhaps?
In any event, his band absolutely sucks imo and he sounds like a total douchebag. Go get yourself a nice BF who respects you, Tori.
Good for her! I’m glad she let everyone know he is a dog! And bragging in an interview about their combined penis sizes! That is like red flag number one through fifty! Run, Tori, Run. Go find a well endowed, nice, respectable, non-famous, smart man. You deserve it!
Sorry, but I am gonna go against the grain here. This is a bit psycho.
This thread is a hot mess of victim blaming and completely off-topic, unnecessary bitching about millennials. WTH?
I admire millenials way of thinking. I’m in my early 40s and was not brave in speaking out like you guys are. You guys don’t just take what people hand you and put up with it. You speak out, you march, I admire your spunk.
YES. Men benefit from the silence of women. Done with that phase of history.
Yes, Tori! Women have to stop letting other women getting involved with ‘rock stars’, I recently saw a documentary about a bandclose to making it big, but their singer refused the big record deal and destroyed an amazing future for four other people. He was above it, oh, so cool, so rebellious, smashing guitars on stage. He spent the next ten years doing drugs. All his ultra ‘cool’ rock star behavior was just being a jerk and being celebrated to it. We allowed men to develop a culture were they celebrate men for being jerks instead of being decent human beings.
She’s educated and cute and he’s gross and their music sucks {mic drop}
IG sucks and so does this douchebro. Last woman’s march I had a photo up of me and a few of my Native sisters, prior to holding our signs etc, but we did have Native clothing on, and IG censored it. After I wrote to them, a few days later they deigned it okay. Stop supporting the patriarchy and cheaters IG. But, I have to laugh in my head, because, of course they won’t. Good for this woman: see it, name it, get out.
I am just really grateful that the cover photo wasn’t a very different looking-in an entirely bad way-Chris Pine. My eyes played a trick on me and I was scared for a few seconds.
A face made for radio.