Jeff Lewis & his partner sued for making misogynistic comments about their surrogate

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I watch a lot of those house-flipping and home-improvement shows on HGTV. I’ve never gotten into Bravo’s Flipping Out though, mostly because the show is mostly about the “star” Jeff Lewis and his life, rather than the details of his actual house-flipping business. And let me tell you, Jeff Lewis is an absolute a–hole. He’s OCD and extremely anal retentive, but that’s no excuse when he’s treating everyone in his life like they’re all there to serve him. He’s a bitchy drama queen of the highest order. Well, anyway, a few years ago, Jeff and his partner Gage Edward hired a woman to be their surrogate and carry their daughter Monroe. Everything worked out and they got a perfectly healthy baby. Except now the surrogate is suing Jeff and Gage, and wooo, does she have a good case.

The relationship between Jeff Lewis and the surrogate who carried his 19-month-old daughter Monroe Christine began to deteriorate when the Flipping Out star made an off-color joke about her vagina as she gave birth to his first child with partner Gage Edward. Alexandra Trent was seen on multiple episodes over two seasons of Flipping Out, after Lewis and Edward hired her to carry Monroe. A season 10 episode (filmed on Oct. 25, 2016 and aired Aug. 31, 2017) documented Trent’s delivery, with Lewis and Edward — and the Flipping Out cameras — in the hospital room as it happened.

The show even captured the first moments Monroe was placed in Lewis and Edward’s arms, for skin-to-skin contact, seconds after her birth. But as sweet and emotional as Monroe’s delivery was, Lewis made a Joke afterwards that Trent found offensive and embarrassing.

During interview setups filmed later and spliced into the episode, Lewis said, “If I was a surrogate, and I had known there was going to be an audience, I probably would have waxed. And that was the shocking part for Gage. I don’t think Gage had ever seen a vagina, let alone one that big.”

On Tuesday, Alexandra Trent filed a lawsuit claiming that Lewis and Edward had personally humiliated her and left her “deeply damaged” by making the “disgusting” comment on the show about her, according to the complaint obtained by PEOPLE. She’s also accused Bravo and Flipping Out producers Authentic Entertainment of filming her vagina without permission, claiming that she had never given consent to have her delivery filmed and that it “caused incredible anguish, self-loathing, contempt and depression.”

[From People]

The rest of People Magazine’s coverage features exclusive statements from Jeff Lewis, wherein he acts like he’s the victim and he’s completely “devastated” that this poor woman is suing them for very good reason. Jeff also went on and on about how the lawsuit has brought he and Gage closer together, like anyone gives a sh-t. Let me be clear: if you are hiring a woman to be your surrogate and carry your child for nine months, you DO NOT say one f–king word about the poor woman’s vagina or the state of her bush. You do not make “jokes” to camera. You do not film the birth without her permission and you sure as hell don’t air the birth on national television. There was such a deep-seated misogyny to those comments too, and I cannot believe these men have a daughter now.

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  1. ohwowow says:

    I remember those comments and thought they were offensive. Really below the belt and pardon the pun… However, I would have thought a surrogate would have done her hwk about Jeff Lewis. He isn’t nice and his humor is usually below the belt… He should have gone on an apology tour honestly

    • BJ says:

      Exactly
      When people show you who they are believe them.Personally I wouldn’t be a surrogate for that guy,he is a mean,cruel insensitive, jerk.

      • Jan90067(aka imqrious2) says:

        Yes, JL is a jerk, and yes, he can be a mean spirited SOB. I’ve watched the show all 10 seasons, and I enjoy it (It used to be all about decorating and flipping, but in the last few seasons got way into his personal life. I liked it better before! lol).

        I think everyone needs to stop all the pearl clutching and outrage. The is NO WAY Alexandra didn’t know she was being filmed. There were shots framed from all around the room, getting all the people talking and going in and out of the room. I also don’t remember seeing ANY vag shots of the baby coming out (though I wouldn’t swear to it, but it is Bravo; the bleep language, so I don’t think they’d do a vag shot) Jeff’s remark was intended to be a joke, though it was not considerate or nice. I think this is a money grab honestly.

        As for Monroe crying the first few mos. That poor child had the *worst* case of colic I’ve see outside of my older nephew, who cried for 8 mos.! NOTHING worked, but time, for him). I’ve seen JL’s instagram (from another article that referenced this), and she seems to be a happy, thriving, smiley baby. If genes play into it, Monroe will give it back to Jeff just as good as he gives lol

      • DearWhitePeople says:

        I just did a term paper in a college level Human Sexuality course. Commercial Gestational Surrogates (CGSs) may be the handmaiden in the global room. It’s a process that can damage an human either through death, sterility, and here through verbal abuse. Do the fertility issues of the wealthy outweigh human dignity? Is surrogacy the “new adoption” or the new “baby mill”? For every one couple that is conscious and grateful, there are hundreds who abuse. I hope this one CGS gets her day in court, but many other CGS’s don’t have the means for proper litigation..

    • Abby says:

      She did not know she was answering an ad for Jeff Lewis or that TV was involved. She showed up to the meeting and was given something to sign for permission to film, eight on the spot. They got along and wanted to move forward quickly. I don’t think there was a lot of time to discover if Jeff Lewis is a misogynistic asshole.

    • Lonnie Tinks says:

      Thanks for the healthy dose of victim blaming Ohwowow! So refreshing!

    • Jess says:

      My thoughts exactly, the jokes were in poor taste and although it is shocking how large the vagina gets during delivery I wouldn’t have said that on camera, buuuuut Jeff is known for that type of behavior and she shouldn’t be surprised. I don’t even watch the show regularly and I’m not shocked. I

      • ClaraBelle says:

        I DO (did) watch the show regularly, it is (one of) my guilty pleasures. And, although he is horrible to most everybody, this episode did truly shock and outrage me and I will not watch again.

        It’s one thing to be mean to everyone who works for him, but to display such callous disregard for someone who is enabling his “miracle” was too low to forgive. I don’t think she should have “expected it”. Like I said, I watched all his previous shows, and I didn’t expect the remarks he made.

      • CatFoodJunkie says:

        I recall a tweet by him that was re-posted somewhere, to the effect of “…guess we won’t be hiring her again.” Showcasing every ounce of kindness and self-reflection he does not have. What a colossal dick.

      • Rita says:

        Vulva. Only your gynecologist sees your vagina. (Am I wrong?? So confused by current usage.) But, yes, I wish the surrogate could mutilate these “dads” who are too prissy for reality.

    • cd3 says:

      Huh. Really? So, it’s the Surrogate’s fault that Lewis is a misogynistic assh@t. Got it. Cool cool cool.

  2. minx says:

    Smug botoxed creep. He has a very punchable face.

    • Margo S. says:

      Agree!!! He looks like such a pompous narcissist.

    • Esmom says:

      I haven’t watched the show since the early seasons and even then it was obvious he was a huge a$%hole. And even then whatever he was doing to his face was distracting and disconcerting.

    • Neelyo says:

      His lips have always creeped me out.

    • Lela says:

      This irks me so much! My doctor said absolutely no shaving before delivery because the chance of cuts are no good and like f-ck anyone was going near my vag with wax when i was that heavily pregnant. Bending over to trim or use the removal cream was hard enough. What a stupid nasty little man, I hope his balls and a*shole are smooth as hell.

      • Bridget says:

        Waxing while pregnant is a terrible idea. It isn’t that it’s unsafe, but because of all of the extra circulation, your bikini area is extremely sensitive and it’s extremely painful. I did it once when I was pregnant (it seemed like a good idea at the time because I was going to be in a bathing suit for a week and shaving was so hard) and it hurt so badly and left my entire bikini line covered in huge bruises. The waxer felt so bad that she called the next day to make sure I was okay.

      • K-Peace says:

        Reading this upset me so, so much. I mean, I’m seriously enraged, very sad, and I hope this woman wins many millions from this disgusting, creepy, plastic-surgery-disfigured asshole. I’m currently almost 7 months pregnant and I’ve recently found that I have trouble, um, reaching that area to trim/shave due to my large protruding belly. I’ve never in my life gone to a professional to have anything done to that area because I’m just not comfortable with having a stranger do anything to that part of my body. So I decided I will probably just let things go natural for the next 2 months. F*ck this horrible man for making me feel bad about that decision! And if it makes ME feel bad, I can just imagine how this poor surrogate feels!! And making a joke about the size of her vagina as a baby (HIS baby) is coming out of it?!? He is a vile, evil, disgusting piece of sh*t!!!!

      • Bridget says:

        You’re not the only one. It infuriates me that he feels so comfortable making any commentary about her vaginal region. It’s none of his goddamn business. And frankly, it’s NO ONE’s business whether you choose to shave or not. During pregnancy or ever.

      • Scal says:

        THIS. I was told by the doc no waxing/shaving X number of weeks before my due date in case you had to do a emergency c-section. Reduce the chances for infections from microcuts if possible.

      • Wendy says:

        Super happy for anyone that can even see their pubic area after the fifth or sixth month of gestation, much less be dexterous enough to groom that area, but I think those people are the rare exceptions. I’m glad these two assholes had a girl. Can you imagine how much misogynistic bullshit they’d perpetuate into a boy? It always makes me laugh when a gay man recoils at a vagina. Bitch, how do you think you got here?

      • minx says:

        Wendy, yes! I couldn’t see anything “down there”and didn’t care.

    • whatWHAT? says:

      not just botox.

      he reminds me of that guy who wants to be “the human Ken doll”.

      this dude should NOT be making shady comments about ANYONE’S body parts considering his face looks like it belongs on “Botched”.

      • Patty R. says:

        I watched an episode earlier of Flipping Out which I never do because the show tends to cause me to look away. However, while channel surfing, I caught sight of Jeff and Gage with their new little girl. I was aghast when I saw that Jeff actually has a child, as I find him unrepentantly abusive. Indeed, he said something to the following effect, and it’s not word for word, so bear with me. It was something like, he’ll provide his daughter money and Gage will care for the baby, something like that. Clearly, Jeff Lewis has nothing to offer this pretty little girl other than money. There was a scene in this episode I just saw, where Jeff and Gage are having their little girl baptized. Their eyes were cutting around as if it was a joke, as the priest, or whoever that was, quoted what sounded like scripture. Awkward and pathetic. Take Jeff Lewis’ parental rights away! I had a dad who thought money would suffice and I often felt unloved!

    • tw says:

      Punchable face is right. I hope she gets a massive settlement and that this story gets bigger and bigger and it hurts him professionally. Why are assholes so overrepresented on television? I would so much rather watch someone shower their hardworking assistants with appreciation and bonuses and watch relationships grow, than to see some drama queen on a power trip treating people like crap and demeaning his surrogate.

  3. Lady D says:

    No idea who this asshole is, but I hope his comments cost him large, and by large I mean I hope women refuse to be a surrogate for him ever again. What a loser. Maybe he’s afraid of vaginas?

  4. Svea says:

    Misogyny is a worldwide virus among men. And not for a minute are gay men immune.

  5. the_blonde_on says:

    The first time I read what they did/said it took my breath away and actually made me cry. A woman doing such a beautiful thing for them that they LITERALLY can not do for themselves. A woman in such a vulnerable position both figuratively and literally. And they do that. They are vile. I am sad that they have a daughter and I hope that they restrain from commenting on her genitals when she is being diaper changed.

  6. Tiffany says:

    I remember watching this show years ago ( I really liked his assistant Jenni and the housekeeper) and there was a scene where one of the lower tier assistants went to get everyone lunch and Jeff has requested I think extra salsa, pico, something along those lines. Everyone’s order was correct and there was extra salsa/pico in there but Jeff did not think it was enough and he was just ragging on this assistant for the entire time and even threatened to have him go back and get more because he felt that it was not his definition of extra. It was awkward, rude and everyone at the table was just silent. The assistant did quit towards to end of the season and so did I.

    It does not surprise me at all this has happened and it does not surprise me that he is surprised that this happened.

    • anna222 says:

      I love watching trashy hgtv stuff but I only watched one episode of his show and it was horrifying. He bullied one of his staff to the point that she locked herself in the bathroom for most of the episode and it actually really upset me. Even if they were manufacturing drama for the camera, it read as an indturctional video for HR to show what workplace bullying looks like. What a pig.

  7. ellieohara says:

    Many gay are more misogynistic than straight men. They think they have a pass to speak down to and insult women and, scarily, some women let them do it.

  8. Muprhy says:

    His comments about her body were absolutely unforgiveable.
    No amount of apology bouquets can ever take those words away.
    And you know what, Jeff–Monroe is a woman too and she will read those words some day.

    • minx says:

      Even these cretins can become enslaved by that powerful daddy/daughter thing, and become wrapped around her little finger. They probably think their daughter will be a certain way, and nope…it doesn’t work like that. I hope she schools THEM.

  9. Holly says:

    I don’t know, I totally think that’s an asshole comment because it’s coming from an asshole guy, but my sister was my Lamaze coach when I had my first and remarked how huge my vag looked giving birth then made it a running joke for the next 3 children I birthed. She didn’t know how odd the vulva can look in that position (feet in stirrups, pelvis tilted back, with a whole damn baby coming out. It did bother me a bit and my second OB was my friend – so I ended up asking her if I did in fact have a large vagina/vulva (in front of my sister). I do not. Actually now that I write this out my sister’s ignorance is annoying, but not lawsuit annoying. I hope my sister hears about this and regrets her remarks. Lol – she won’t, but I hope she does.

  10. lucy2 says:

    I don’t know these people, but that’s awful. WTF is wrong with people.

  11. Chaine says:

    I watched the first couple of seasons of his show. He didn’t seem to have much capital, as he would live in the house he had just flipped while trying to sell it to get money to buy another house to flip. And all of the flips were the same very stark, depressing modern style where you feel that if you came home to that house at the end of a long day you would just sit down and cry bitterly that this was your home. Anyway, in addition to having unappealing flips, he came across as a truly horrible person. Everything was about him and he had tantrums and treated his staff dreadfully. I can’t imagine why anyone would think it was a good idea for this man to have a child.

  12. Elena says:

    My god, I cannot imagine. I have always thought he comes across as cruel and I can see now I wasn’t wrong. Everything about me was huge by the time I gave birth. I would have burst into tears had I read something like this about me. And that’w without any of the emotions involved in surrogacy.

  13. littlemissnaughty says:

    I feel like that jacked face shouldn’t talk about other people’s body parts. It also shouldn’t raise a child. Disgusting. I hope she cleans them out.

  14. Veronica S. says:

    Not surprising, given most of my experience with a shocking amount of gay men. When they don’t even have to pretend to like or respect you for sex, any reason to mask the misogyny goes out the window.

  15. Annie says:

    I watched this show years ago and his raising a daughter horrifies me. It is vile and utterly disrespectful what he said and I hope the woman wins her law suit.

  16. BJ says:

    Yes SOME gay men are misogynistic just like SOME straight women are homophobic.Let’s not act like any group is immune to having ignorant jerks.

    • wendywoo says:

      No, yet here we are.
      One day these jerks will have to guide a girl through puberty and periods and more. Does this bode well for them respecting and helping her if they can’t even show a modicum of decorum for the woman who has graciously helped them become parents when they otherwise most likely would not have? I worry for Monroe.

    • Veronica S. says:

      Homophobia and misogyny are systemic social prejudices. I am a woman of the LGBT+ persuasion. I catch myself thinking problematic thoughts, sometimes. When something is woven into the fabric of the society, it’s impossible to not be affected by it on some level. I would go so far as to say not a single person living in our culture isn’t to some level sexist or heterosexist, subconscious or otherwise. We can talk about how there are good apples in every group, but it’s a lot more productive for all of us to examine how our own privileges may allow us oversight of our own internalized prejudices.

  17. wendywoo says:

    No way people like this should be parents of a girl or parents full stop.
    If you hate women so f&cking much, don’t have a child that might be one.

  18. df says:

    I would sue their b-tch ass too. What horrible, horrible people.

  19. me says:

    Is that child biologically hers then? Or did they use the “egg” of another woman? Can’t believe this f*cker is raising a daughter. There goes her self-esteem !

    • AnneC says:

      They used someone else’s egg.

      Some of this is typical Bravo bs. Everyone has to play a part and say and do outrageous things to keep the viewers happy. This stuff was all spliced in later. The show was slightly interesting in the first few years when it was more about the houses and fixing them up but then it became all about personalities and Jeff Lewis had to play his part. I’m sure he’s an asshole some of time and a nice guy some of the time, we just don’t see the nice guy part on reality tv. Anyway Bravo should help pay her a settlement and Gage should be in charge of child rearing.

  20. BobaFelty says:

    Surrogates give a family the gift of life. That deserves a lot of respect, and they mocked her on national tv instead. I actually watched this episode when it aired, and I don’t think Jeff’s comments were meant to hurt her. Jeff seemed to be trying to make fun of his husband (he puts him down a lot) for never seeing a woman’s genitals, and now his first exposure was during a birth. However, Jeff completely missed his intended target and he should have known better.

    Jeff and Gage both acted like they expected the baby to just pop out from a hipster curated vagina, wearing pink bows and looking like a doll. They wanted a baby accessory. Instead, they got the realities of childbirth, which is a messy bodily function. And they both talked about how disgusting they found the process…on national tv. Later in the episode, they basically panicked because they were not expecting the baby to cry so much. They spent so much time fixing the perfect nursery and stroller, it’s like they forgot to research what actually giving birth to and raising a baby requires. They seemed super clueless.

  21. brutalethyl says:

    The surrogate has some valid points BUT… There’s no way she didn’t know in advance that she would be filmed during the delivery. I didn’t watch but I assume the birth was at a hospital. Something like filming a birth would have to be arranged in advance, with the mother’s approval. If she was in labor and saw all those cameras come into her room, she should have sent them out immediately if she didn’t want them there. The hospital staff would have run every single one of them out if she had just said “no.”

    • km says:

      I agree brutalethyl. I don’t believe she didn’t know she was being filmed since they make you sign waivers ahead of time and she also appeared in a few other episodes. This in no way negates the fact that Jeff Lewis is an a$$hole for saying those things and his past behavior with everyone on the show has been appalling. I actually watched the episode and was horrified by the comment. Hope she makes a lot of $$$ off of this.

  22. Laura says:

    This loser should NOT be raising children because it is clear that he has ZERO respect, compassion or love for others 😡

  23. AnotherDirtyMartini says:

    I have not read any of the article or comments yet. I just had to say that I find Jeff Lewis to be a despicable human. He’s so effing mean. Inside matches his outside – ugly through and through.

    This world depresses me. 😣

  24. ISSAQUEEN says:

    Ah man and to think that people that have these type of hatred in their hearts are raising girls. Terrifying. I hope their daughter doesn’t suffer because of her parents obvious disdain for women.

  25. ISSAQUEEN says:

    Ah man and to think that people that have these type of hatred in their hearts are raising girls. Terrifying. I hope their daughter doesn’t suffer because of her parents obvious disdain for women.

  26. Little Monroe is in for a world of hurt at the hands of these self-satisfied, smug and ignorant ‘daddies’.

  27. Katarina says:

    Off topic : why are you bringing OCD into this? I don’t watch the show, don’t know if he has OCD. His ocd does not excuse his behaviour if he has it- but please- ocd does not make people jerks. They are jerks that have ocd. In fact- a lot of people with ocd are really nice because it can be a common worry they’ve offended someone or said something offensive.

    I however have OCD and anxiety. OCD does not turn it you into a giant a-hole nor does it make everyone anal retentive. It can in some- but it’s a complex mental illness and can vary widely. I suggest you do some reading on it before you wisely label it as such.

    I lost all last summer, missed 2 months of work, had to move back home with my parents at 36 years old because of an OCD relapse. I cannot stand it when people say I’m so ocd today. You have no idea. It crippled me.

  28. CairinaCat says:

    With his lips maybe he was just jealous of her vulva.. :D

  29. courtney says:

    this is beyond disgusting and cruel. this poor woman and the poor baby? to be raised by a judgmental, cruel, misogynist? yikes. he’s awful. hope she wins big. teach him a lesson he deserves.

  30. Deborah says:

    He later tweeted that they won’t be “using her again”. USING her. That’s some Handmaid’s Tale shit right there.

    A human being gave birth to their child and this is how they talked about her. It’s shameful.

  31. Hollygo says:

    The more I read about this, I just feel sick. These guys should not have this child. They are going to psychologically abuse this child if they haven’t done so already.

  32. K says:

    He’s so slimy. She shouldn’t have gotten involved with a creep like that because it takes very little research on Jeff to see that he’s quite superficial and cruel, though of course no one should expect to be demoralized for giving birth or you know, simply having female anatomy that two gay men find unappealing. There are plenty of other gay couples who would honor and respect a surrogate for helping them become parents.

  33. habo says:

    I Think the egg was taken from someone else…not hers…

  34. Deanne says:

    He and his partner are clearly misogynist POS individuals. You’re not even supposed to shave or wax close to delivery, but it shouldn’t have mattered to them anyway. The woman was birthing their child and they felt it necessary to critique her pubic area. I feel very sorry for their daughter and any other child they “use” another surrogate for. Perhaps they can demand that she groom her vaginal area to their specifications in the surrogate contract, since that seems to be very important to both of them. They strike me as the type of people who have children as accessories rather than people who actually want to parent. I’ve never like Jeff Lewis and clearly my low opinion of him was right.