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Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson are engaged after a whole month of dating and we just learned that they moved in together too. They’re not being circumspect or careful about the fact that they were both on the rebound or that they’re famous and the world is watching. However it might not be a bad move for either of their careers. Pete is getting a lot more buzz, he’s the face on the cover of the Netflix romcom Set it Up when he’s just a supporting character as the gay roommate of one of the leads. Ariana has a new album, Sweetener, coming out in two days. I do think this is real for them and that they’re both capitalizing on it. Speaking of that, one of Ariana’s upcoming songs is called “Pete” *headdesk* She posted this segment below, it starts out slow and soulful, and then later revealed the title.
After news came out about the song, People on Twitter were calling Ariana dumb in love, which she is. She responded that she’s not and that her philosophy is just to lay it all out there. Here are her tweets on that [via Huffpo]
I will give it to Ariana, she’s really sweet to her fans. I’m referring to this thread on Twitter, where she confirmed the tracklist for Sweetener but not the order. She also wrote that her new apartment with Pete is “so sick. progress is being made. adulting is lit.” Apparently the song “Pete” is an interlude. That’s telling. How long do you guys give it? I’m thinking end of August, but only because it will take them a while to admit it’s over.
Look at Pete’s face on the cover art for Set it Up on Netflix. Again, he’s a side player on this show. Sidenote: 100% Hotter is AWFUL.
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He has recently revealed that he has Borderline Personality Disorder. People with BPD are often impulsive and are overly familiar with people they have only recently met. Engaged after one month sounds like a symptom or BPD, not love.
I came to comment similarly. I have BPD and I really have to keep myself in check. When I was younger, I “fell in love” so easily. With counseling and meds, I’m a much different person.
Samigirl, I don’t have BPD, per say, but was raised by mother with severe BPD, so I exhibit a lot of similar behavior patterns that I was taught. I agree with you 100%. I have to really keep myself reigned in at the beginning of relationships. In my early twenties, every other guy I went on a date with was “definitely the guy” and I would just “know” we were destined to be married. After a lot of therapy and time to mature, I’m much different in my thirties. I have been living with my boyfriend for two years and I am in no rush to the altar. When and if it happens, great. We like one another and get on well.
Good for you for knowing yourself well, getting the help you need and taking the time to grow and work on yourself. Too many people in comment threads on this couple say that no one should ever date someone with BPD, but you are proof that it is a struggle, but it is manageable with self-awareness and willingness to work on it. Cheers to you!
Nice insightful comments. I have been a bit shocked by the comments saying no one should date someone with BPD. It’s like saying people with certain mental illnesses don’t deserve love.
Ariana must have BPD too then, I guess. She’s also in love. But I guess we reserve the real judgement for people with mental illness, who we never allow to experience the full range of human emotion without boiling them down to their pathology.
She survived Manchester attack. It gives you a whole different perspective on life.
I love that movie with James Mardsen, almost innocent, i think it’s called. it’s bdp love story
great comment “j”.
I think Ariana’s behavior is likely the result of her own trauma. Total keyboard diagnosis but I imagine it’s perfectly reasonable to assume that she has PTSD from the Manchester attacks at her concert a year ago.
It isn’t that people with BPD shouldn’t get married, but I don’t think people without firsthand experience – living with the condition or a family member – can fully understand how untreated BPD can influence you.
Just like I wouldn’t want me or my good friend with depression to date someone who is dismissive of mental illness. Can you develop that understanding in 1 month? Probably not.
people are speculating this is pr because well their clearly being stupid. is it? who knows.
The only reason I think they might be serious about getting married rather than it being PR – though I am not excluding plain dumb love- is because I took a look at Pete’s instagram out of curiosity and see that he hangs out with sebastian bear, emily ratajowski’s questionable new husband. You see it all the time where marriages happen all at once in friend groups. Maybe this is the year of super quick marriages where we wonder what role mental illness and/or drugs play, but maybe it’s just “beautiful” love? I actually (surprising even to me) have grown to find them both likeable after manchester, Pete’s openness about mental health issues, etc., so hope they come out of this one way or another without any lasting damage.
I’m trying to figure out if 100% Hotter is a knock off of that solo Stacy London show from a few years ago or the other way around. The hairdresser is a miracle worker though. I’ve only watched maybe two episodes and some of those women came in with two strands of their own hair fighting to remain on their heads and he left them looking better.
I just watched “set it up” the other day and didn’t even notice him. LOL
Fun movie, by the way.
Gah, I can’t decide if this is a PR stunt to bolster their respective projects, a relapse on Pete Davidson’s part, or something in-between. Regardless, this seems like bad news. Or I am being too cold-hearted about this?
She’s not wrong. With Trump at the helm, I do not blame her for grabbing love.
This. This generation knows that today is all we have. Boomers have left us nothing, X-ers are in-debt beyond imagine, and it’s just now a waiting game til Social Security is completely gone (basically right after Boomer generation is all gone). Tomorrow is not promised. Let them be. “Impulsive” or not, what right do we have to speculate on how his past illness affects this? I guess since it’s a gossip site that’s what we do here but I just feel like the world is going to hell rapidly and if you can find love you should hold onto it with all you have. What are they gonna do? Wait for this place to become Walking Dead (already is for many) and then decide enough time has passed and get married? Let them be in love and do what makes them happy.
Yes I remember jlo doing this for Ben affleck all those years ago. Her song was called dear ben. Look how that turned out. Anyway I agree life is too short but I still don’t think this is going to last. The way it’s coming across they’re not thinking clearly. Lainey put it best. Flames that flame fast don’t last. Or something like that.
I heard that Sweetner is coming out either July 20 or August 20.
Well at least he’s better than Mac Miller.
It’s so crazy to me how quickly people with BPD are written off. They can have real feelings too. Not every human experience has to be boiled down to mental illness ffs.
I agree but also… BPD left untreated is a nightmare.
My mother has BPD and has always refused treatment. It was ROUGH being raised by someone with this disorder. My siblings and I all have major damage. Honestly I don’t want much of anything to do with anyone who has untreated BPD. I just can’t deal with it. I have to deal with my mom because I love and care about her, but it’s a huge effort to keep up boundaries and protect myself at all times.
If someone is treated I know they can be a great person. It is my biggest wish that my mom will get real treatment.
Maybe a lot of people are justs scared off due to things like what I’ve lived with.
my uncle has it. I am sorry your mom has BPD. Hugs.
She has been through a traumatic experience in Manchester and maybe wants to live life to the fullest….I hope they both are good to each other. Even if it doesn’t work out, it’s not necessarily a waste of time. I’ve had great past relationships that lived their course teaching me a lot and bringing me a lot of joy. Life IS short, so I hope all you guys have a wonderful week and enjoy the hell out of what you can enjoy.
I fell madly in love at 19 and we moved in together after 1 month. I would have married him right away. Instead we waited to show everyone that we weren’t rash & crazy. If I could go back in time I would tell myself to ride that wave. Enjoy the rush because that’s what life and love are all about. If you aren’t hurting anyone then why not? We will be married 15 years in October. Could be 20 if we went & got married like the lunatics we truly are.
THIS IS BEAUTIFUL!
Happy early 15th/20th to you two!
My grandmother has BPD and relationships seem to be super hot or super cold…there is little inbetween. 🙁
I hope they proceed cautiously before procreating…right now, they aren’t hurting anybody but themselves.
He has BPD and we know that causes spontaneous decision-making. I think that Ari is also still dealing with a lot of trauma after Manchester. It doesn’t make their decisions sound or solid, but I understand the context.
I’m so over Ariana’s big fake ponytail. Her entire look is so tired. No way her “marriage” will last longer than that awful hairstyle she’s been trying to make happen for ages.
Agree 100%!!!
I feel like she’s always cos-playing a teenager. It’s creepy.
I don’t blame her (or him) for being open to love, but holy hell, they are rushing everything and seem kind of manic. I don’t think he is well right now, and she seems blind to it.
Yes, so creepy!
I just feel like dude has major issues and she does not GET IT!!!!
She sounds like an idiot “adulting is lit”; the apartment is “sic”. Does she not know how to speak freaking English because I’m pretty sure she’s always come across as fairly articulate.
I do not find Pete Davidson physically attractive AT ALL.
I can’t remember the last time I saw a photo of him with his mouth closed. It’s disgusting.
I think it’s pretty clear now this relationship started before they broke up with their SO’s. I just think they are both in for a rough ride, but I worry most for Pete. Good luck to them though.
I think the shared experience of trauma stokes the situation. With his father passing on 9/11 and her experiences with the Manchester attack, they have both experienced trauma in a very high profile way. Having someone who can understand that can be powerful. The crash is going to suck though.