Tommy Lee ratchets up the drama with son Brandon, reveals cost of his rehab

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The beef between Tommy Lee and his son, model Brandon Lee rages on. Despite the fact that 22-year-old Brandon captioned a post requesting that his Dad keeps their fight off social media, “Sorry for the noise everyone. Hopefully this is the End.”, it’s not. In fact this has gotten even uglier.

Tommy took to Twitter on Tuesday, spitting out more vitriol addressed at his son. In a tweet echoing the old Mastercard “priceless” ad campaign, he called out his son for “acting like a victim” on social media. He also outed him about his previous substance abuse issues. Way to Dad, Tommy.

Brandon responded to his father, again on social media (will he ever learn?), sincerely thanking his dad for paying for his rehab, and then volunteering to return the favor. In case the IG post gets taken down (as Brandon has been doing lately), he wrote:

I thank my Dad for paying for my treatment. It’s the best thing he has ever done for me. Today I am almost two years sober. Every day that goes by I feel ever more grateful. My clear mind has allowed me to do a lot with this time. So much so that I would like to offer to pay for his treatment.


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You might be wondering, what does Brandon’s mother, Pamela Anderson, think of all of this? While she hasn’t commented to the press or on social media, she did post a comment on an IG post from The National Domestic Violence Hotline celebrating Father’s Day. In what I’m reading as a thinly veiled sentiment, she shared:

I feel for all the children today who have suffered a non existent or toxic parent… Stay strong – you can create your own family and holidays like these can be painful and confusing – it can stir up painful memories or feelings of abandonment — Je pense à toi [I think of you].

Back in March, when Brandon punched his dad in the face, Pamela stood up for her son, telling TMZ that “He [Brandon] punched him in the nose for all of us who he has hurt. Now Tommy feels humiliated – and is attempting to destroy his own son. This is the Devil – This is the disease of alcoholism.” Wow. This sure is a hot mess of a story. I’m sure this is far from over, but does anyone (besides me) hope they’ll take this discussion offline?

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  1. Chef Grace says:

    They need to take it to family counciling ASAP.

    • Cherry says:

      No kidding. Also: I believe miss Pamela A. should be given more credit for acting like a class act and a responsible adult in this messy situation, resisting the urge to clap back at her abusive ex and standing up for her kids, but not on social media. Who would have thought, you know?

      • Wren says:

        Honestly I’m not surprised. I’ve read interviews with her over the years and she has always come across as a kind, compassionate person. She’s tackled difficult subjects with grace, even when she has every reason for rancor. It’s definitely not the image she projects but if you just take her words and leave aside assumptions based on her appearance, there’s a very generous, kindhearted woman there.

      • KathNitenDay says:

        Agreed. I honestly liked her book a lot too. She was the victim of sexual abuse of a child. That’s tough. She donates and does a ton for PETA/animal rights.. Seems very kind hearted.

      • Ozogirl says:

        Class act? I think you need to reread her comments and beliefs on TimesUp to remember what an ass she is.

    • Esmom says:

      I hear you but something tells me Tommy wouldn’t go in a million years. I think the family needs to find a way to be healthy and happy without him. Sounds like that’s what they have been trying to do until he showed up to troll them on IG.

      Sad when the twenty something sound sounds more mature than his dad.

      • lucy2 says:

        That’s what I think. The kids are in their 20s now, so they can choose to not have contact with him. Unless he gets clean and healthy, they should just keep their distance, for their own sake, and seek therapy to help deal with the pain.

    • Geekychick says:

      ai think they just need to cut Tommy out of their loces, completely.
      he is obviously toxic and sometimes, to get real closire and be really done with toxic person, you have to clap back in the only way they understand. Why? For me personally, it empowers me. It makes me close that chapter and realize that I do have the strength to stand up for myself and to state wrong has been done to me. (disclaimer: I haven’t been in this parent-child position).
      and then move on.
      Brandon is only 22 and we all have our ways of dealing with the past, he doesn’t own anything to his POS of a father, so I don’t see anything wrong in his social media posting.
      He disn’t instigate all pf this, which tells me that he is moving on and trying to live his life without all his toxicity.

      • Geekychick says:

        jesus, my spelling is atrocious-please forgive me, I’m stuck in overcrowded bus and trying to type on my iphone!

    • GaveItAll says:

      Two of the hardest partying sexualized couples of the 90s raise a rehab kid & air toxic drama on public forums. Shocker!

    • magnoliarose says:

      They should just cut Tommy Lee out of their lives and move on. I would bet they already tried counseling several times.

  2. aang says:

    Spending money does not equal good parenting so I don’t care how much he spent on his kid. The kid should not have started this in public to begin with. They both need to stop.

    • Renee2 says:


      The kid didn’t start it, his dad did.

      • aang says:

        I didn’t know that. Thought the kid called him out first. I apologize. It should still not be hashed out in public.

    • Purplehazeforever says:

      It shouldn’t be hashed out in public and it wouldn’t have been if a fight between the two hadn’t been leaked to TMZ back in March. My suspicion is that it’s exactly what Brandon says it’s about: alcoholism and he was trying to help his father back in March but in ended with Brandon knocking him out, the footage leaked to TMZ and now Tommy Lee is embarrassed. He’s taking shots at Brandon & Pamela instead of looking at himself. Just yesterday he said he hopes his son attends his wedding set for February 14, 2019. Tommy Lee is just ridiculous.

    • Trillion says:

      Ugh. When people “announce” their “mic drop”.

  3. Millennial says:

    Tommy’s new fiancé needs to take a long hard look at her life choices and decide if this is the dude she wants to marry.

    • Gisele says:

      I think she has had a good hard look at his wallet and the fact she can manipulate him by enabling his alcoholism. Both Pamela and Brandon have said that she’s part of the problem.

    • Isabelle says:

      He has been acting this way since hooking up with her, she is probably a big part of the problem. Watched a few of her youtube videos and the girl…there is something way off with her.

  4. Runcmc says:

    Yesterday I said I believed both but the more I hear about this story the more Tommy is clearly a toxic, awful father. He doesn’t even deserve to be in his sons life if he throws paying for his rehab in his face like that (publicly, no less!) I have friends that have had to cut off family members for their own health…Tommy’s children should consider that.

    • Eleonor says:

      In the previous post someone linked an article about when Tommy Lee was sentenced some jail time for assaulting his wife, Pamela, who was holding their son.
      Brandon is young an probably still angry , and can’t hold himself. I cannot blame him. And if he has been sober for 2 years kudos to him .
      That’ll all I have to say.

    • Wren says:

      I still believe both, and by that I mean that I believe that Tommy truly thinks he’s the injured party here while I believe that Brandon is more credible about what actually happened.

      Toxic people almost invariably believe their own horse shit. That’s what makes them so toxic, and also what makes change so very difficult. Narcissists genuinely believe their “poor me” narratives; it’s what justifies their appalling treatment of other people. Abusers really do think their victim(s) “made them do it” because the alternative is admitting to themselves and others that they are bad people and next to nobody is willing to do that.

      Tommy is a toxic, narcissistic person with a history of violence, all things that most people agree are “bad”. How do you think he frames all that to himself? That he was justified, he had no choice, he was made to act that way and no other option was available. I believe he loves his sons, but his self-narrative is so vital that it has to be maintained at all costs. Hence the “I let my son knock me out” line of BS and the plaintive whining about how he wishes he could have instilled better values in his children while still managing to take a swipe at their mother. See? He’s a good guy, he’s made some mistakes but deep down he’s just a regular dad doing his best.

      I don’t blame Brandon for being angry. While it would obviously have made more sense to keep this all private, I understand why it’s going back and forth over social media. Sometimes when you’re in a lot of pain, you don’t mind if the world hears you scream, and when you’re in the impossible position of listening to a parent cry “woe is me” while knowing how different things really are, you want other people to know it too. It’s beyond maddening.

      • Daniell says:

        Bringing up the fact he played for his sons rehab is low his dysfunctional parenting probably played a part in his sons alcoholism in the first place I’m so tired of these toxic parents bringing children into the world and destroying them only to play the victim

      • magnoliarose says:

        I agree. I see Tommy Lee like you do.

  5. kNY says:

    Why does that kid look like he should be Sean Penn’s son?

  6. Mego says:

    You mean Tommy Lee is not a nice person?! Never saw that coming…

  7. minx says:

    Tommy has set the tone from the beginning. He’s such a mess.

  8. JustBitchy says:

    Did anyone think that this family would turn out any different than this?

    • Cherry says:

      Hey, no need to drag the entire family into this. Pamela seems like a great mom.

    • Mia C says:

      I remember when the kids were babies. The sex tape, domestic violence, mom always posing nude, dad moving on to multiple other affairs, Pamela’s long history of dating even worse men than Tommy Lee. She was on Donny Deutsche and he asked if she was concerned about her kids being exposed to the sex tape someday and she said “we all end up with the parents we have for a reason.” So yeah, it didn’t seem likely the kids would be unscathed.

  9. Lizzie says:

    the kid had a mature response. also – who has 10k worth of medical bills from getting punched? give me a break.

    • gatorbait says:

      He probably hired a plastic surgeon to make sure he didn’t look bad when it was over. Spoiler alert, he was hideous before the punch and he’ll continue to be hideous after. In every way a person can be hideous.

    • Chaine says:

      If he was knocked unconscious, perhaps he had to have an MRI or other type of scan to ensure there was no brain injury. Those can be really pricy. Or if it caused tooth break/loss he may have had some expensive dental procedures.

      • maxine ducamp says:

        But surely he has health insurance? If he has a high deductible he might have to pay a few hundred as a co-pay, but not the full price. And if he doesn’t, shame on him. I have real sympathy for those who can’t afford it and feel that US should be on a single payer system but that’s another post. On the other hand, I have very little sympathy for those that should be able to afford health insurance but prefer to spend their money trying to cling on to some sort of rock and roll lifestyle when they’ve been over for years.

    • Wren says:

      I’ve always been impressed by what a big heart Pamela has, and it appears that her son takes after her. She’s endured a lot, but speaks with compassion and grace about many difficult subjects. I think she taught her kids something after all. Remember, narcissists try their damnedest to bring others down to their level so that they can cry foul.

  10. Eva says:

    Classic narcissistic parenting. Whenever I confront my father about some of the awful crap he’s pulled, he just mentions things he has paid for me. Money doesn’t substitute love or support and it definitely doesn’t make up for being an a-hole.

    Not to even mention Brandon’s alcoholism probably had a lot to do with having this douchebag for a father.

    • Save Mueller says:

      My mom does the same thing. In a way, it’s kind of admitting that they know money was the only thing a narcissistic parent could give their child. Sorry you know this pain too Eva.

      • Iamnobody says:

        Long time reader, first time commenter.

        Both my parents do the same thing. I confront them on their behavior and the first thing they mention is the money. Over and over again. My mom was berating people for being depressed/suicidal after the news from the last few weeks. She believes that it’s ‘their fault and they should just get over it.’ I told her that I was suicidal as a teenager and then as after an accident as an adult, and she told me I was faking for attention. After that she paused. I thought MAYBE she would say something nice. Nope. Instead she told me that she always thought I was crazy and that me being committed was something THEY would pay for. I gave up after that.

        It was/is always about the money. If I bring up anything else, I’m entitled and spoiled.

        I feel for Brandon. It’s hard reconciling that no matter what you do, you parents just won’t care. Just won’t take an interest. And everything that they do will be in their own self-interest.

        Eva and Save Mueller, I’m sorry you’ve experienced this. I really am. Both of you deserve so much better.

      • Eva says:

        Save Mueller & Iamnobody, sorry to hear you’ve been through this too. It took me a long time to understand that my childhood was very unstable and unsafe even though we always had food, a nice house, clean clothes etc. It’s not just about the material things.

        I hope all of us find that support & love we need and deserve now. ❤️

  11. gatorbait says:

    He’s such a garbage father. Money won’t buy your child’s love and respect. It will make them spoiled but still think you’re a crap parent. But sure, Tommy, keep humble bragging about how much you’ve spent on your son. That’ll teach him.

  12. Mrs.K says:

    Brats. All of them.

  13. Electric Tuba says:

    This couple should have never had children. They are both crazy unstable morons.

    • A says:

      That’s not fair to Pam – she definitely has a bad picker when it comes to men, and as a result, she had to raise her kids alone and deal with this kind of garbage. But she seems to be a good Mom and to love her kids.

      • Electric Tuba says:

        A bad picker is an indication of underlying cray.

      • Lady D says:

        …or underlying depression, where’s the compassion?

      • Jaded1014 says:

        How cruel. A bad picker can be a sign of low self-esteem which Pam has struggled with all her life. She was sexually abused several times as a young girl and that kind of horror stays with you. You tend to blame yourself for not being able to see it coming or enduring it. At heart she is a kind person and a good mother who has not sunk to the level of spiteful public finger-pointing.

      • Bea(trice) says:

        There’s been no real indication that Pamela has been a bad parent. Most stories paint her as a dedicated mother to her sons. Now I do agree she should have never had children with Tommy, but he’s still the a hole here.

      • Mia C says:

        She’s too crazy to be a good mom. Sorry but I think both Pamela and Tommy Lee had a boatload of issues that have now become their children’s burden. It’s hard to break the cycle so these kids are really in trouble. At least they have money. Some people have terrible parenting with poverty issues to boot so there are people who have it worse. But I honestly feel sorry for their kids.

    • Anika says:

      Electric Tuba: “A bad picker is an indication of underlying cray?” Is “cray” a catchall diagnosis for *all* people w mood disorders and other mental illnesses? I don’t think so, it’s just a sham word to suggest a diagnosis of “crazy”—a word which can mean any number of things and is shockingly ignorant and disrespectful to those who do have mental disorders. The stigma around mental illness remains, and it is people like you–who mock and dismiss and even condemn it–who are a huge part of that problem. Just a little sensitivity and compassion can actually go a long way.

  14. KBeth says:

    They both need to shut up & grow up. Keep it private, we already think you’re trash Tommy.

  15. Renee says:

    Tommy is the problem here. He is the parent. He should set the example. No wonder his son has issues.

    • Olive says:

      exactly. Tommy thinks this makes his son look bad? nah. you’re the parent. Do better. Stop arguing with your son on social media.

  16. Ms says:

    I don’t take any glee in this at all. Families can be horribly affected by alcoholism, especially in areas of communication and problem solving. Social media just gives people one more Outlet to hurt each other in and makes it even harder to cut toxic people out of your life. It’s never too late to learn, though. I hope Brandon stays sober. Tommy is a horrible person, and that’s not the alcoholism, but it no doubt contributes to his s#!tty-mouth syndrome.

  17. EMau says:

    Unfortunately neither parent sets a good example. Tommy Lee doesn’t have to tweet. Meanwhile, there is Pamela and her hook ups with Julian Assange in the UK. Both are bad examples.

    • Olive says:

      Those don’t even compare. One parent’s behavior directly impacts the kids and negatively, and one is the other parent’s private life that doesn’t involve the kids – they’re not going to the UK with her. Let her hook up with Assange, she can have a sex life and still be a good mom.

    • Lady D says:

      If she was dating dictators or international terrorists then maybe she’d be setting a bad example. Violent abuse of wife and children does not equal dating repulsive slime.

    • K.T says:

      Pam had been see trying to defend Assange – and he seems to be a smart, manipulative and piece of cotrollling misogynistic alt-techbro. Alleged sexual assaaulter.
      – Tommy, the ex husband, seems a narcissistic, assaulter and substance addled music-bro.
      Pan has made quite a few weird statements over last few years and seems v.self-involved though she appears to love kids and animals.
      Yeah, good luck to the adult kids!!! This is like a bad circus.

  18. Bridget says:

    My heart goes out to Brandon and his brother. Tommy is just the worst, and he’s held a huge grudge for Pam leaving him and having the gall to press charges, and for publicly stating that he have her Hep C.

    • Lady D says:

      Getting really sick of men who think women need to pay for leaving them, really sick of them. Seriously, how often do you hear of or see women ‘getting even’ for being dumped compared to men? Today on this site there are 3 men who feel they deserve to get even with women, Trump, Pitt and Tommy Lee. There will probably be 3 more tomorrow.

  19. Aren says:

    I’ve been team no one, but I’m team Brandon with this.
    Kudos to him for remaining sober for two years.

  20. HK9 says:

    Tommy is a POS. His son seems to have a clear grasp of what is going on and he doesn’t have to accept bad treatment from anyone. Any father who would do that to their child on social media is neither a father or a man.

    • mela says:

      tommy is an emotional and physical abuser

      this young man displays the damage of growing up with an abusive absentee addict father

      hopefully he can heal and break the cycle of violence he was born into

      that being said, he is sinking to his fathers lows and needs to get out before his father drags him down to the basement

  21. Eileen says:

    Brandon was working hard on an intervention for Daddy dearest and then Tommy bad mouthed his mom on social media and Brandon also read the police report of his Dad’s abuse on his Mom and thus led to the physical confrontation. When you come from a DV filled background with emotional abuse against the kids by one or both parents it causes so much inner pain and instability. I think it’s a low blow to mention Brandon’s time in alcohol rehab but there is no self control for Tommy. I admire Pam as a mother. I am a Crue fan but I am disgusted by this supposed man.

  22. mela says:

    trash – all of them

  23. CK3 says:

    I’m Team Brandon all the way. It’s nice and all that Tommy paid for his rehab, and I normally don’t blame the parent when the kid succumbs to addiction, but I don’t think it’s a stretch to think that Tommy’s “parenting” or lack of it contributed heavily to Brandon’s problems.

    • Daniell says:

      Im so tired of shitty parents ruining there children and taking no responsibilty Addiction is often self medicating trauma from childhood can increase likelihood most kids of addicts don’t have a hope in he’ll they are products of their environment the son seems to be trying to break the cycle good luck to him I think Tommy paying for rehab is the least he owes him

  24. Gray says:

    How is this guy a model??? There’s btter looking guys working at the gas stati0on.

  25. LittlefishMom says:

    Tommy Lee is almost 100 and he’s fighting like a teenage girl. Grow up man and get your sh*t together. What an embarrassing piece of garbage he is. Talk about anger issues. Everything he does just confirms what his son says.

  26. Detriotgirl says:

    I just stopped by to say that I’ve always really liked Pam. And, as a sexual abuse survivor myself, I can completely understand the type of emotional damage and self esteem issues that lead her to men like Tommy Lee. In her heart though, I really think Pam is kind and probably a very caring mother. I’m sorry she and her son have to deal with Tommy. I hope in the future, they just ignore him and cut him out completely.

  27. Slacker says:

    Tommy Lee is garbage, he’s trash and he’s a violent addict. Unbelievable what he’s doing to his kid on social media

  28. Mia C says:

    Wow. This is as bad as 50 Cent and his kid. Tommy Lee was always a horror show. I wish women would get smarter. Never, ever, ever have kids with or marry a “bad boy.” This kind of ending is inevitable. I’m sure she’d never want other kids than the ones she was blessed with though. But life really is a million times easier if you know marriage-material when you see it.

  29. hey-ya says:

    …surely Tommy is under no obligation to pay amything to his kids seeing they are over 18…the fact that he does says something good about him…their mom by all acounts has been cash strapped for years…remember all those nightclub tours she did…so just cos shes quiet doesnt mean there aint 3 of them in this fight…and yes they should all go to family therapy…

    • minx says:

      If my math is correct Brandon was about 19 when he was in rehab. That’s still
      pretty young. How many families these days cut their kids off financially at 18? Tommy doesn’t deserve a medal for paying for rehab, and it sounds like his son wants to return the favor.

      • Shannon says:

        Agreed. Why WOULDN’T you pay for your child’s rehab if you had the means to do it? That doesn’t make you some kind of hero, it makes you a parent.

  30. Jag says:

    Brandon and Pamela need to block Tommy on all social media and let him implode on his own. End of story.