Wendy Williams got drunk, was hospitalized after her husband’s mistress gave birth

Wendy Williams spotted returning to the sober house after candid admission

I was a little bit surprised by all of the sad, tragic tea that was spilled in yesterday’s comment section about Wendy Williams. What was a story about Wendy’s husband Kevin Hunter possibly welcoming a baby with his mistress turned into a larger story about how Wendy needs to get the hell out of her toxic marriage. I did not realize that there were so many rumors of just how toxic and abusive Wendy’s marriage might be. Well, it definitely seems like Kevin Hunter’s mistress did give birth over the weekend. When Wendy found about it – through the media – she went missing from the sober house and was found drunk.

Devastated Wendy Williams is “not in a good way” after being rushed to the hospital — hours after her husband’s alleged mistress gave birth. The talk show host was found drunk on Monday, soon after Page Six reported that Sharina Hudson, the alleged longtime love of her husband Kevin Hunter, had given birth.

She was taken to the hospital where she was given IV fluids — however, she still showed to the set of her show and filmed on Tuesday.

The star had left the sober home in Queens where she has been staying, sparking a hunt for her before she was found. But she’s now back at the facility, we’re told.

It’s widely believed that Hunter is the father of Hudson’s baby. And a source said: “Wendy is not in a good way, everyone is so concerned for her. The sad thing is that she’s been working so hard to stay sober and she’s been so honest in her struggles with all her fans, and this just tipped her over the edge. But the fact she still came to the set just shows how strong she’s trying to be.”

We’re told it was Hunter who told her to go to a sober home with complete strangers.

[From Page Six]

I get that Wendy and Kevin probably have complicated financial and business entanglements. I get that if she ever divorced him, she would probably lose a significant chunk of her assets. But girl, it would be worth it just to be rid of him, just to get out of this toxic marriage. She needs to start rebuilding her life free of him, and hopefully she’ll get the support she needs to recover.

Wendy Williams spotted returning to the sober house after candid admission

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  1. Michael says:

    No amount of money is worth being miserable. Leave the marriage at all costs and rebuild if you have to. Look at Tina Turner’s example.

    • ByTheSea says:

      Someone bit my head off yesterday when I said it was likely Kevin who convinced her to go to the sober house (so she’d be out of his way while he spent time with the mistress and the new kid). At this point, it probably isn’t even about the money. I’m betting Kevin has convinced her that she’s nothing without him.

      • minx says:

        I wouldn’t have bitten your head off, that sounds plausible. Hope she can get a good lawyer and a skilled therapist to help her dump this creep.

      • brutalethyl says:

        It might have been me!

        I remember posting that I thought Wendy went where she knew she’d receive the treatment that would most help her

        I don’t remember jumping on anybody but if it was me I’m sorry

    • Lady2Lazy says:

      Exactly! Plus I read that the relapse at the end of the year was due to her hiring a PI and it proved that her leech of a husband was still with his mistress which sent her into a tail spin. As far as her marriage, I am having trouble understanding why she stays. She needs to sober up, start seeing a therapist, grow her strength and leave the slimy bastard. Her husband has also been supporting his mistress for the past 10 years and has bought her 2 lavish homes. I would imagine that she could also sue him for theft given the amount of money he has shelled out for her.

      • Mary says:

        I really find it hard to believe she didn’t know the mistress was pregnant this whole time. I feel like the reports of the mistress have been around for years and Kevin doesn’t seem to hide his relationship with her. Instead of letting go, she dug in her heels and held onto him for dear life. Not the right choice. She needs to start making better decisions for herself.

        I think Wendy is willfully ignorant in order to maintain the status quo. Burying her head in the sand because she does not want to face reality. Kevin is absolutely fine with this as he can continue to ride her gravy train while having a second family with his girlfriend of TEN years.

        Again, I’m not blaming Wendy- she has been wronged by so many people on so many levels and no one deserves this but she has also been complicit in her own toxic relationship, she has been in major denial. Only she can get out of this relationship and hopefully the baby is the catalyst for her to finally get MAD. Let that Anger be your rocketfuel to get out of that sham marriage Wendy!

    • Tami Sanchez says:

      Wendy Williams is the best woman Kevin Hunter or Kelvin will have. God shall not bless him, and Bad Karma might move slow at times, but he will be hit with it, and that begin by you getting him out of your life. He shall regret it, chica, hola.


      your husband is now going to try to paint you as unfit and crazy and not a great person. I see he now is speaking out about you and saying you two yes, did split up. I am getting an alert on my phone from PEOPLE magazine and DAILY MAIL U.K., so please rush and file divorce 1st. Don’t let this younger loser hurt you no more. You’re going to have much more support, by dumping him, and you’re so smart usually so get a great suburban rich smart tough cut-throat lawyer, and then? Make sure you’re making out with more riches cash then him and your beautiful suburban mansion, big nice comforting house in suburban south jersey near philly,pa., because you’re a great person and inspiration to my entire blk and hispanic brown family. You made his life “better” the best and now?he is going to make you look like the “bad one” to get more cash. #WENDYDUMPKEVINFIRST and FILE divorce. Trust me whether we love you or not, we will support you more if you are the one doing this to him… Let sharina tired busted looking brokie self, side piece chick, let her have him. He and she, them both will not be blessed, but you’re going to still be blessed. I love you chica.adios.

  2. Nev says:

    Sending strength and love to Wendy!!!

    • Stubbylove says:

      No doubt. This is very sad and she’s in a very dark place. I hope she has significant others – real family & friends – who can be with her at this time. She needs not just be in a sober living place but a rehabilitation center with professionals and her people around her as well – good, solid people. I just hope she has these type of people in her life. And kick that motha-f’cker POS husband to the curve soon. More-than-likely, she currently may not have the mental, emotional, or spiritual strength for that right now, but I hope she finds it soon. I hope this for any other person in the same situation. Believe me, I’ve been there and come out the other end. You can do it, but you must surround yourself with professionals & supportive, loving, solid people who have your best interests at heart. And it takes time. xxoo

    • Otaku fairy... says:

      +1. It’s scary and it’s really not a good situation for her mentally or physically to be in.

  3. Dttimes2 says:

    Co dependency is no joke. That person becomes your whole world cause only they “understand” you and your struggles. What most women dont realize is they are struggling because of the codependant.

    Sad she doesnt have people in her life to help her become aware that she would be better off without him.

    • Cdnkitty says:

      +1 to this. Life is so much better out of an abusive relationship.

    • Snowflake says:

      Where is her family? Where are her friends? I hope she has other people she can depend on but odds are that he probably isolated her from her family. But they need to step up and help her

  4. paranormalgirl says:

    She needs to walk away and pay him out. For her health and sanity. She can make back the money.

    • Perplexed says:

      Exactly. Her mental health and physical health are far more important than any money she may lose divorcing him, and she will make that money back.

      It’s incredibly upsetting to see someone in a vulnerable position, someone who has and is struggling with substance abuse, treated this way by the very person that’s supposed to be supporting them. Sober living can be incredibly helpful for those transitioning out of rehab and back into their “new normal”, but it’s pretty clear that he insisted that she go into sober living in order to keep her out of his way while his mistresses’ baby was born. And she has the means to have a live-in sober coach.

      I’ve watched some women struggling with addiction suffer through abusive relationships and gaslighting that keeps them “stuck”, but this might be the most disgusting example.

    • Milla says:

      Does she even realize he is killing her with his behaviour? I feel like so bad for her, but someone close needs to show her that nothing is worth more than her sanity. Really sad..

      • Perplexed says:

        @milla Sadly, she’s probably so stuck in the abusive cycles, in which he clearly gaslights her into believing she’s the problem, the crazy one, it’s all in her head, etc., that she cannot fully accept that HE is the problem. Which is his goal, as an abuser, and abusers tend to be extremely good at exerting this psychological control. The fact that he seems to be in charge of where she’s receiving treatment and what that treatment looks like (I.e., not right for her, not the best, nor cutting edge, with no focus on the trauma/abuse that’s gotten her to this place) indicates to me that he’s still in control, where he wants to be. This is the frightening thing about abuse; you cannot just snap someone who has been put through years of abuse out of it. Abuse is cyclical, and those cycles are what hold the people being abused back from leaving or even accepting what is being done to them. Abusers groom their victims from the start, and there is generally a honeymoon period before the abuse starts. Once that period is over, it’s a constant cycle of gaslighting, other verbal/physical/mental abuse (“no one else will ever want you; you need me or you’re nothing; this is all YOUR fault, because you did x, y, or z; I’ll kill you/myself if you leave me”, etc.), and then lovebombing in order to keep the victim psychologically trapped. These cycles are so intense that they not only leave incredible scars and damage to their victims, both figuratively and literally, they also create an intense bond for the victim to the abuser. I’ve heard from several women that escaped abusive relationships that the love they felt for their abuser was the most they’d ever felt in a relationship before or after. The lows are so, so low, that by the time the lovebombing piece comes into play, the oxytocin that is released makes victims feel like the highs are the absolute highest. Our brains can be manipulated quite easily, especially under such intense circumstances. It can feel frustrating to the outsider (“why don’t you just LEAVE?!?”), but abuse is so complex, it requires a complex response. She needs someone close to her to help her find the right treatment options without his knowledge or control, that way she can receive the appropriate counseling to help her recognize what he’s doing to her and to escape it before he hurts her further. Too often, victims don’t escape their abusers until their abusers are in prison, or until they are so badly physically injured that they require a long hospital stay, or until their abusers turn to their children. Or, until they are killed.

        I hope she has people around her who recognize what is happening, the level of control he’s still exerting over her head and over her life, and that they can help her into the right treatment for her, and support her while she fights for her life and to escape his grasp.

  5. TheHeat says:

    I immediately thought of Tina Turner when I read this (in NO WAY in terms of talent).
    WW has a couple of decades worth of gaslighting to overcome. When someone has been mentally conditioned to accept and even EXPECT their abuse, it’s not a cut-and-dried as “just leave”.
    I’m not a fan of hers, but I do hope that she gets the help that she needs to move on from this.

    • kodakay says:

      Very thoughtful answer. I agree with everything you said.

    • JadedBrit says:

      The “why did you stay/why didn’t you leave?” trope has to be one of the most insensitive, unthinking and frankly cruel of all time.
      I know a lot of fellow CBers have been in horrific relationships, and that we’ve suffered all sorts of traumas from domestic violence to emotional abuse and coercion. The idea that one can, as @TheHeat does indeed sensitively point out, simply walk away from a prolonged period of gaslighting is indeed beyond tonedeaf. When you have no self esteem because you have been eroded to the point that your concept of what “I” is is predicated entirely on the gaslighter decides it should be, it’s extraordinarily difficult to walk away. There’s self blame. There’s disassociation. There’s innate self distrust. Panic. Terror, even: since your self has been eroded, how can you function in the world? Small wonder that so many of the abused turn to means of numbing themselves. Anything not to feel.
      I wish WW all the best that I can – that she is capable of, and I hope to high heaven that she has a decent therapist. (I’ve finally found a good one after decades of searching, and they’re invaluable – but even then, there are so many layers of woundedness to peel away that it’s an enormous ordeal in itself.) I hope she one day will reach the stage where she realises she’s done Nothing to Deserve This. That it isn’t her fault. That the onus lies on him. That she can have some peace.
      (I’m sorry if I’m coming across as over-emotional, and am not trying to threadjack – just that this story really resonates with me: I have c-PTSD, partially as the result of similar treatment, so I’m empathising like crazy.)

      • osito says:

        Please don’t apologize. Your comment is thoughtful and insightful and eloquent. Asking others to be more compassionate and empathetic (especially when the recipient of said emotional behavior is difficult to like) should be the standard, and it’s unfortunate that it’s not anymore. You are so awesome for asking others to understand something that is not easy for everyone to understand.

    • Meg says:

      Wow, well put. I’m in the midst of this myself but abuse from a non romantic relationship starting from childhood so it’s my ‘normal’. Being treated with respect is so foreign to me

      • Perplexed says:

        I’m so sorry to hear that, @meg. I know that I can sit here and tell you that you deserve every ounce of respect out of every relationship that you’re in, but I also know too well that it’s a cycle that is extremely difficult to escape. You deserve the best from everyone in your life, *virtual hug* – I know you will find it.

  6. BlueSky says:

    Wendy is not a stupid woman. My guess is that she has known about this for a long time but has to deal with so publicly now that is out there. I think the side piece was also trying to force his hand. I think she’s tired of being number 2 which is why I believe she deliberately posted those pics of her and Kevin shortly after Wendy announcement about being at the sober house.

    I agree, in the long run she’s better off but I doubt she will leave him. She seems terrified of the prospect of being alone and “losing” to another woman.

    • pria says:

      @bluesky you nailed it. She doesn’t want to ‘lose,’ to HER, yet she has to realize she’s winning no prize with Kevin, ever.

      In my opinion she’s more devoted and into this battle with the other woman, than she is Kevin.

      She reminds me of those very old skool victims of infidelity, who accepted their partners were going to cheat throughout married life, but the object was to stay a ‘Sadie, Sadie, married lady.’

      The way she used to come out on stage after a brutal week of bloids, and flash her ring finger. As if to say the tired old trope, ‘….well you may have him on the weekends girl, but I’m still THE WIFE!’

      Ugh. So pathetic and humiliating. Wished she could just let him have half and gain some pride. She looks so terrible, no shade, she just looks incredibly unhealthy and tired. Poor Wendy. Doesn’t she have other family members that can wake her up.

  7. kodakay says:

    It has to be very difficult as she’s created her brand on talking about other people’s business and relationships. It can’t be easy being on the receiving end.

    • Jenni says:

      Exactly. She seems to be very judgemental. Say it like you mean it. Right?! So now watching how this story is unfolding I would say that she is a hipocrite. It looks like she has two sets of rules – one for the others and one for herself.

      • HK9 says:

        I don’t think she is-that’s her job. It’s like saying a lawyer is a hypocrite because she’s personally involved in litigation. She has to have an exit strategy and when your doing that you don’t sit on TV to tell the other side what you’re doing. You visit your own experts and devise and execute said plan. She’s financially connected with a man who by all accounts has abused her in many ways. If she’s going to get out, she’s talking to her legal team and will tell the rest of the world about that when the deal is done.

      • Perplexed says:

        @hk9 is right. It’s her job, her brand. I really, truly hope that she is preparing to legally jettison her abusive husband, but he seems to still have so much control (choosing her treatment facilities, which have both been, in their own ways, entirely inappropriate for her needs) in her life. Unfortunately, I get the feeling that if she were preparing to leave him, the first indication would be that she go back into an inpatient setting, one that’s best for her and focuses not only on addiction, but on trauma, recovery from abusive relationships, and codependency. And we wouldn’t hear about it. And then from there, everything would be incredibly privately orchestrated while she remained at home, possibly doing an outpatient program (IOP), or just with massive support from sober companions, counselors, therapists, and an excellent psychiatrist who is focused on cutting edge substance abuse treatment like medically-assisted treatment (MAT). Possibly with some very discreet group therapy sessions focused around trauma. So far, the small bits we’ve heard about her treatment indicate to me that she’s not even getting the best care (seemingly AA/12-Step based; no MAT; nothing about the Sinclair Method or SMART Recovery) available, which is disturbing.
        @kodakay, would you say that about Celebitchy or Kaiser or Hecate… ? This whole blog is about gossiping about other people’s business and other people’s relationships. And you’re doing it, as well. Would you imply that one of the writers here deserved to have her life on public display while in an abusive relationship that triggered her into active addiction, simply because of her job?
        @jenni, once again, her public persona for her TV show does not make her a “judgmental” person in real life. You don’t know WW personally. And having two different sets of rules? As in, she has a right to privacy while dealing with her abusive husband and her substance abuse issues? Because she does have a right to privacy, this is life and death. Addiction is a disease, and those struggling with it have every right to keep their struggles private. Especially when they’re smack-dab in the middle of the worst of active addiction. And guess what? Here we are, gossiping about it all. She was hounded by the Daily Fail after her husband insisted she go to that sober living facility while his mistress gave birth, until the DF forced her to come out with the details of her private hell and struggle. So where are those 2 different sets of rules at play? Because she has told it all, essentially, more than any of us need to or deserve to know.

        None of us know WW personally, and regardless of how you feel towards her because of her persona on her show/her public persona, she’s no hypocrite for getting trapped in an abusive marriage, and due to that abusive marriage, falling back into active addiction, and keeping her struggles private until she was outed by the stalkers at the DF – at which point she *did* tell it all. That doesn’t even make sense.

        I’m disgusted by the lack of simple human empathy towards a woman who is quite literally fighting for her life right now.

      • Snowflake says:

        @perplexed, I agree with you, well said.

  8. Zip says:

    “I get that if she ever divorced him, she would probably lose a significant chunk of her assets.”

    I guess after more than 20 years of marriage and him earning money as well, those assets would be “theirs” not hers alone. It does not matter if one of them is a lying POS, this is no gold digger situation.

    • ByTheSea says:

      It is though. she’s the talent. By all accounts, he’s added his name to her projects over the years, but he has no creative input. And the fact that he’s holding on by teeth and nail shows that, yeah, it’s her money.

  9. HK9 says:

    The best way to get her to leave is not to tell her to leave. She’s lived with this for years, and the problem with living in shit is that if you stay there too long it no longer stinks and you normalize the dysfunction. She needs to do whatever will sustain her sobriety, get her mind and body healthy so she can make good decisions for herself. It’s hard to grieve the loss of the life she thought she had in front of the whole world, go to work and try to keep your life together. I’ve lost one too many people to alcoholism. It seemed that once they were sober, their livers were too damaged to keep them alive, and they died. Addiction does not come to play, it comes to kill you and am I scared for her.

    • Perplexed says:

      And it’s not just as simple as “leaving”, either. She’s endured god knows how many years of abuse, cheating, gaslighting – she’s in an abusive relationship. Abusive relationships are cyclical and the patterns created by the abuser make it far more complicated than “just leaving” – especially when one is struggling with addiction. She needs to get good treatment, excellent therapists, a great psychiatrist, and hopefully she can find her way to the light in the darkness.

      I’m afraid for her physical safety, as well – although I don’t quite agree that once you’ve been an addict for a bit, that you “normalize” your own behavior – your brain certainly prioritizes your substance of choice over all your other physical needs, but I think every addict is well aware of what they’re doing – they keep using in order to *try* to suppress their thoughts about what they’re doing, to *try* to normalize it. But whether it’s getting so drunk you end up in the hospital, abusing painkillers, using heroin or cocaine – I don’t think anyone in active addiction is ever able to fully “normalize” that behavior – instead, they just hide behind their use to try to forget what they’re doing. I never truly believed what I was doing was “normal” when I was in my active addiction – I just got high to try to not think about how bad it had gotten instead.

      I’m frightened for her because not only is she in her active addiction and clearly not receiving the level of care she needs and deserves; she’s also in an abusive relationship where she’s constantly being gaslit and there is a clear correlation between her using and her relationship. It is so, so hard to escape these cycles of abuse – I would make a case that they can be more difficult to escape than getting help for addiction can be. Codependency and substance abuse often go hand-in-hand, and what WW is enduring is at the extreme end of that type of unhealthy relationship. I mean, your husband sends you to rehab in Florida and brings his pregnant mistress with him for a vacation? And posts pictures? And then demands that you go into a sober living facility while his mistress gives birth to “keep you out of the way”? When clearly, neither of these options is the best course for her treatment, and he’s just using them to keep her on a leash (and gaslighting her so that he has the excuse of “look what a mess she is”). I’m shocked no one else in her life has put their foot down over her husband’s bullshit. He is putting her in real physical danger. I truly, truly hope she finds a way out of her marriage before the repercussions of said relationship pulls her down too far into her addiction and kills her. Her life is quite literally on the line; addiction is a disease that takes and takes until you find the right treatment or it kills you. And it’s usually the latter. I’ve never been a huge WW fan, but addiction is hell and I don’t want to watch *any* person die in their fight against it. Her husband should be the focus of all of this drama, he’s the one forcing her into terrible treatment options while continuing this affair quite publicly. Sick.

  10. Valiantly Varnished says:

    I have mixed feelings about this. Wendy has made a career about talking about everybody else’s business. Her entire brand is built on being a mean girl. And I believe that what we put out in the universe is what we get back. So is there some karmic aspect to all of this? Maybe. But – I’ve heard rumors for awhile now that her husband is both emotionally AND physically abusive towards her. He is controlling of her career and her assets. Wendy needs to make some tough choices. She will never be able to stay sober with this man – which is what he wants. It makes her easier to manipulate and control.

    • Perplexed says:

      No one deserves to be abused, regardless of their profession or how you perceive of their personality or behavior. Please leave karma out of this! I’m not trying to jump on you, I just wanted to put this out there.

      We have no idea what goes on behind closed doors, or how long WW has been in what is obviously at least an emotionally abusive relationship (and, seemingly, physically abusive, as well). Being in an abusive relationship and enduring the trauma that it leaves behind can radically change a person’s behavior/actions, as can addiction. I write this not in defense of WW’s prior behavior (I am not a fan), but just to say that none of us know her or her life, we are seeing the fallout of a lot of horrifying behavior on the part of her husband only now, which is a clear driver of WW’s substance abuse. We also know that his abusive behavior dates back years, possibly a decade, or more. But the rest of it, what she went through and goes through on a daily basis – we don’t know, and thus I’d urge a more compassionate stance than “karma is a bitch”.

      Furthermore, WW is now being publicly humiliated due to her ongoing battle with substance abuse, while her husband continues to torment her and gaslight her. This much we know because we can see it playing out in the press – she found out through a PI that he was still cheating; she begins struggling with active addiction again. He insists that she go to rehab in Florida, where he quite publicly brings his pregnant mistress with him on a “vacation”; then he insists that she go into a sober living facility while his mistress gives birth, to keep her out of the way. This is all pretty disgustingly abusive crap – especially insisting that someone with that level of wealth and resources and fame go into a sober living facility where she is not protected from prying eyes and is stalked into opening up before she’s ready to/in a safe place to about her active addiction by such lovely publications as the Daily Fail. That’s not the work of someone who wants to protect and support his wife through her battle with substance abuse; that’s a recipe for disaster that will only harm WW. Which appears to be what her husband wants.

      Please don’t forget that this is so far beyond “Wendy Williams isn’t nice, so karma got her” – this is a woman fighting for her life while being constantly tortured and gaslit by her abusive husband. Addiction is a disease, and the stakes are life and death. Most addicts do not make it out of their active addictions alive. She’s a human being trapped in a cycle of abuse, trying to keep her head above water while her active addiction tries to pull her under. And many women in abusive relationships only make it out when their abuser is imprisoned, when they are severely injured enough that they end up in hospitals for long periods of time, or when their abuser begins to hurt their children, which is N/A here. Many do not make it out alive.

      She has all of my empathy and compassion. I hope she can escape this all with her life.

      • Mary says:

        I agree with all of this. We are witnessing narcissistic abuse at the highest levels.

        I’m sure she is self-medicating with drugs and alcohol to cope with the gaslighting, abuse and mistreatment by her husband / mistress but I’m not convinced she is an active ADDICT. I bet a million bucks if she can kick this loser to the curb and get him out of her life – she won’t have a reason to drink or drug anymore. The drink and drugs are a symptom of a bigger problem – the fact she is in a long term abusive relationship.

        We are watching her get pushed to the edge by her own evil husband. Her family or her coworkers or a friend needs to intervene.

        Personal story: I was in a 4 year abusive cheating relationship and turned to drinking to cope, I was a mess just like wendy. There was abuse and a secret child in my situation. Guess who convinced me I had a drinking problem and to go to AA? My abusive addict now-ex boyfriend. I was horrified in AA meetings, the men reminded me of my ex boyfriend.

        I got out of the relationship, ceased drinking and went into therapy. My therapist was horrified that I was in AA. She told me I was in the wrong room and should have been in a support group for family members of alcoholics. I attend al-anon now. Al anon resonates with me. I was codependent like Wendy. Gaslighting is a bitch.

      • Perplexed says:

        I’m so, so sorry you endured that level of hell.
        I cannot express how glad I am that you escaped with your life intact. You did not belong in AA (although, there are also people who are primarily struggling with substance abuse issues that don’t do well in AA, but that’s a separate issue), I’m shocked at how often AA is tossed at people without consideration for their personal experiences. I would also recommend Refuge Recovery groups (you can read the book to see if you’re interested; it’s based on Buddhism, and I found their meetings to be very centering and meditative, and for me, meditation has helped me process my own PTSD) and SMART Recovery Friends and Family groups. When I was younger, I fell into a relationship with a man who was almost a decade older than I was (I was 19 to his 28), and he began to become psychologically and verbally abusive, while cheating on me and gaslighting me about the cheating. He gave me the only STD I’ve ever had, then tried to blame me for “cheating on him”; he made it clear that my entire worth was based on shutting up and looking pretty next to him. I remember the physical toll it began to take, as I started to grind my teeth at night and my hair fell out. He became physically abusive after drinking, once chasing me into a bathroom and beating me as I cowered in the corner, and when I tried to leave him, he told me “no”. I had to bail him out of jail, and then keep my mouth shut while he lied about a prior arrest in court to get away with not having completed his community service years before (from breaking into a house drunk and passing out there in front of the family’s young daughter’s bedroom). Then I, too, began drinking to cope. I remember him insisting that he take me to an AA meeting, and how confused and ashamed and alone I felt as he pretended to “support” me. Finally, several weeks after the final time I tried to leave him, the day of our anniversary, he asked to meet me in a very, very public place an hour before I had class; a museum, actually, a fairly major one. And then and there, he left me. He wanted it to end on his terms, and he wanted to inflict the maximum psychological damage. He even slept with a close friend of mine that night and when he came to meet me the next morning to hand over one of my cameras, he had the hickeys on his neck on full display, so I’d know. He tried to keep me close and control me even after the breakup. Less than a month later, I had stopped drinking, and was in the beginning stages of a 3-year-long relationship that allowed me to heal and learn to trust again, one that gave me the time and the space to move forward at my own pace. And it completely pissed him off! Added bonus!

        I agree with you, I don’t believe Wendy’s in “active addiction” the same way as, well, most people in active addiction. I think this is quite clearly rooted in her abusive marriage. Like
        I said before – given that she began using after hiring the PI and discovering the affair was still going, struggled after inpatient rehab where her husband brought along his mistress as a vacation, and then fell apart after discovering that the mistress had given birth… I mean, there’s no denying that she’s using to cope with the constant gaslighting, the abusive behavior, and the public humiliation. I almost wonder how someone could manage to *not* start drinking and taking pills (that she’d been prescribed to, natch) in the face of all of this, as a public figure. I agree that if she escapes him, she will likely stop drinking. My fear for her is the same fear I have for every woman in an abusive relationship – what happens before she manages to get away?

        I hope the people around her that care are working their butts off to step in and support her and separate him from her, while getting her the counseling she needs and deserves. That relationship is just another reason I almost think she should go back to an inpatient facility, since she can afford it – it would separate them and allow her the chance to get therapy and get away from him for good.

      • Mary says:

        Perplexed, spoken like a true survivor. Wendy’s life will get 1,000,000 x better once she gets away from Kevin. I’m also shocked that no one has ran him off yet.

        Those of us who have been down the dark rabbit hole with an abusive partner, can see what Wendy is going through and understand how dangerous the situation is.

        I’d be concerned about suicide, overdose or a bad beating from Kevin. This could go wrong in a lot ways for Wendy and I’m not talking financially.

  11. Anastasia says:

    Oooof, that headline hit me right in the grief bone. I feel badly for her. But if she did relapse, she needs to go inpatient, and put the show on hold a bit (again). For her own health, for her own life.

    And yes, she needs to leave him, but she needs to get some good support and clarity first, e.g. inpatient care. Best wishes to her.

    • Perplexed says:

      It’s a horrible, terrifying situation. I feel very strongly for her, as well. I fully agree that she needs inpatient treatment right now. However, she did just go to inpatient care in Florida, her husband went down there to bring her to the rehab, and brought his pregnant mistress on a fairly public vacation (there are posted photos of the two together on a beach). Her husband is also the one who insisted that she go into a sober living facility following that trip to rehab, while his mistress gave birth. To me, her husband determining her care seems to be entirely toxic; she began using again after hiring a PI who found that her husband was still with his mistress, then the husband sends her to rehab while vacationing with his pregnant mistress, then the completely unnecessary/utterly ridiculous idea of putting her in a sober living facility while his mistress gives birth, when she has the means to stay at home with a sober companion and have all the best therapists, psychiatrists, counselors, etc., come to her (especially given her level of fame – the sober living facility was hardly private and allowed the Daily Fail to stalk her and force her to tell the world she was in her active addiction before she was even close to ready)… then she finds out about the mistress giving birth, and relapses again, hard.

      Her use is so closely tied to her abusive relationship with her husband, and since he is the one abusing her, I’m shocked that no one else around her has put their foot down about his involvement with her treatment. She clearly needs to go back to in-patient for now, like you said, but someone else needs to be guiding and supporting her decisions about where she goes and for how long, and also about the next steps. And she’s going to need a lot of support and counseling to get out of her relationship, since it directly correlates to her substance abuse and triggered her into active addiction.

      I just hope she can make it out of all of this alive. It’s dangerous to forget that addiction is a disease, it kills many of the people that struggle with it, in some cases, no matter how hard they fight. Adding in a triggering, abusive relationship… that’s a terrible battle for anyone to attempt to fight.

  12. London Lozza says:

    Goodness me.

    I don’t know anything about her, but from reading some of the other commenters she’s not always the nicest of people. However, I sincerely hope she can find someone to support her emotionally and mentally so that she can make decisions that are in her best interests and not be swayed by an enabler who is possible also abusive.

    I think even the best of us could fall of the wagon or be seriously tempted to given the circumstances she’s found herself in.

  13. Carol Savesky says:

    Wendy’s net worth is about $60M — even if she had to give her cheatin’ husband $25M, she’d still be left with $35M, and a comfortable lifestyle for years to come. Plus, she has a successful TV show & can do product endorsements, which will net her millions in the next 5-10 years if she can stay on track. I hope she divorces this disrespectful husband before he can spend more money on his mistress & other children — and hires herself a team of sober coaches, so she can get out of the sober house, and back to her life, albeit without alcohol or drugs.

  14. Rose says:

    As her manager, can he be fired? Maybe sort out the business end first. He’s with his side piece. He’s made his choice. She can work on herself while he is away. I’m not saying it’s easy. When there are so many factors maybe it’s best to tackle the least challenging one first.

    • Mary says:

      I agree. He is in love with someone else, Wendy needs to cut ties.

      She needs to stop trying to control Kevin as well. She has no power in their relationship so she keeps him around by being his “fixer”, financier and employer. She uses her money, his job as her manager as a way to manipulate him and keep him married to her. She also needs to stop covering up his lies and abuse and cleaning up his mess with the mistress. She is so codependent to this toxic relationship. She needs an intervention badly and needs to find her self, find what makes her happy and begin to live a real life – without Kevin. If Jennifer Garner can do it, so can Wendy.

      “Since everyone else’s behavior is a reflection on the codependent, it is important that the codependent feel in control. Lying to themselves and making excuses for others’ bad behavior. Because codependents do not deal directly with their feelings, they develop techniques to lie to themselves about others’ behaviors.”

      “Because codependents lack a sense of power in their lives, they try to manipulate and control others. Instead of taking responsibility for their own happiness, which would be empowering, codependents’ focus is external.”

  15. Mary says:

    She is very codependent and this is a very sad situation. Wendy obviously allows this to happen because she feels she is nothing without Kevin. He has beat her down so low it’s absolutely sickening to watch.

    It is time for Wendy to finally walk away. Sometimes it takes being strong armed by family, the authorities (if there is actual physical abuse) or an addiction intervention to finally get the codependent separated from the toxic person.

  16. Pandy says:

    Hoping she gets things straightened out. Life in the public eye is a shit show when things aren’t going well. Good luck to her.

  17. Dttimes2 says:

    I feel like she needs someone like Katie Holmes dad (lawyer) who helped orchestrate #FreeKatie

  18. jennifer says:

    This is why marriage scares the crap outta me. Granted he’s prob been always been shady, but you can marry a man and halfway through easily up start a new family with a younger woman

  19. Branvoyage says:

    I wonder if she’ll talk about this on her show. She’s a hot topic.

  20. Nicegirl says:

    You can do it, Wendy. GTFO. You in danger, girl. You worked all those years for this career, it’s not up to him how you lose it. You got the best part of him anyway with your son and let the other gal win those saggy man ballz. I bet there are loads of folks who would love to be with WW. There’s a ton of youngsters too who’d be stoked cougaring with a lady who can pay her way. She can get all Kourtney Kardashian Younes Young Stuff going on once she leaves KH by the curb. I’m convinced there’s more than one lid for every pot.

  21. Mary says:

    get rid of him

  22. Fred Watkins says:

    He’s so scary 😱😭. I think she should be careful about any food and drink he has access to. He might put something in to it. He might say well she’s an addict, she’s over dosed. And HIS mother says he’s choked her and pushed her down the stairs. She needs to grow a pair and hire people to support her during a transition in her life

  23. JANAK says:

    I’m thinking this isn’t going to end well for Wendy, as she’s been really “off” for about a year and a half. Her smug, entitled husband needs to be kicked to the curb for thinking he could have his cake and eat it too, all while spending his wife’s money.

  24. stinky says:

    What is with all the gushing love for this witch? Seriously asking. She is heinous.