Tiffany Haddish: Women should go on a sex strike to solve racism

Actress Tiffany Haddish arrives at the 2020 Vanity Fair Oscar Party held at the Wallis Annenberg Cen...

I’m sure when Aristophanes wrote Lysistrata, he thought he did something special. He thought he made some kind of point. Lysistrata is a play about how the women of Greece were sick and tired of all of the fighting, warring and violence between the dudes during the Peloponnesian War, so the women came together to find a way to end it: a sex strike. No dude gets the cookies until they give up fighting and warring. When a society’s rise or downfall is placed on the sexuality of women – or the withholding of sex, because apparently only men “want” sex – well, it’s problematic. Which is why Aristophanes can eat it. It was a comedy, but people are still playing around with the fundamental concept within Lysistrata, that women are the sexual gatekeepers, that women refusing men’s access to their bodies could stop a war. Spike Lee recently played around with that idea in his 2015 film Chi-Raq. And now Tiffany Haddish is saying that a sex strike could heal racism.

Tiffany Haddish has a solution to help rid the world of racism — and it involves abstaining from sex. During a roundtable video discussion for The Hollywood Reporter, Haddish was asked by the moderator how, as the self-proclaimed “administrator of joy,” she could be funny during this difficult moment in American history.

The 40-year-old comedian responded, “I’d just talk my truth. Like, people have asked me, ‘Tiffany, how can we solve this? What do you think we could do?’ To be honest… I don’t know. But I know when I have problems and I want them solved, I just stop having sex and everything’s solved. So, if everybody just stopped having sex, especially if you are in an interracial relationship and your man is white, stop having sex with your white man. Things will change.”

Haddish also had advice for white women. “If you are a white woman and you’ve got a white man, stop having sex with that white man. When a white man ain’t gettin’ no sex, things change, that I know.”

When roundtable participant Jameela Jamil stated she thought the problem was that people weren’t having enough sex, Haddish replied, “Sex is power.”

“If a black man ain’t gettin’ no sex,” she said, “he’s going to team up with the white man, ‘Look, brother, we’ve got to figure this out. OK? The women ain’t having sex with us and I don’t want to have sex with a man. So we’ve got to figure this out. We’ve got to make it right.’”

[From Page Six]

I’m sure that, much like Aristophanes, Tiffany thought she was being funny! But please, can we just take sex and women’s bodies out of this conversation? And honestly, nothing will be solved if white women suddenly stop sleeping with their white husbands and boyfriends. Nothing! “Celibacy to end racism” isn’t a thing.

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  1. RedSoleSista says:

    Whaaaa? SMH Heavy Sigh.

  2. Mohbard says:

    If this isn’t the dumbest thing I have ever heard then I don’t know what is 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

  3. GR says:

    Yeah, not crazy about this idea. But she seems like a good person, and pretty smart – she also wants to open a grocery store in her neighborhood, which seems like a much better plan.

  4. mara says:

    Tiffany is a good woman, but it’s not a good theory.
    Completely off topic, I see that Common marched with her. Maybe they really are a couple.

  5. Sam the Pink says:

    Doesn’t some celebrity float this idea ever couple of years and they always wind up getting dragging for it? It just seems like the idea that won’t stay dead.

  6. Enormous Coat says:

    Yeah, she’s said some wacky/objectionable stuff before, including praising defending a dictator (Eritrea). I’m now convinced that she may have some legit wacky ideas.

  7. MissF says:

    Are women’s bodies now bargaining chips? Is sex all we have?

  8. bettyrose says:

    Kaiser – Thank you so much for this post. I have heard people joke about this so many times, and I have that same reaction: “withholding” sex is just as much of a punishment for women. Our bodies aren’t luxuries for men to enjoy when they’ve been good.

    And on the note of white women doing it to “teach” white men . . . sadly as we’ve all seen recently, there are plenty of white women who need that lesson themselves. Maybe it’s their male partners who need to start withholding the goods till Karens check their privilege.

  9. Slowdown says:

    Proof number 567 that Haddish is overrated and gets away with a lot because she is ‘quirky’.

  10. Lindy says:

    That’s some serious homophobia garbage on there, too, even just aside from the women as sexual gatekeepers problem.

    “I don’t wanna have to have sex with another man” ooookay.

    This is a big nope. I actually love the original play, because I love Aristophanes’ writing, ancient Greek is my favorite language, the comedy is pretty great, and also: it was written 2400 years ago, so the fact that we’re still making the same joke is really interesting from the perspective of teaching undergrads (which is what I used to do for a living).

    • Otaku fairy says:

      Good point. Consistency matters with this issue too. It is harmful when a society’s rise or downfall is placed on the sexuality of women, whether we like every woman or not. That’s one of the areas where we fuck up today-being unable to handle, or in some cases, delibetately using positions of power to prevent this from being criticized when women we don’t care for are the targets, and downplaying the harm done to women and girls as a group.

  11. LunaSF says:

    Alyssa Milano said this exact same thing during the Me Too movement. It’s not original or funny or clever. Women’s bodies aren’t bargaining chips as others have stated. Just no.

  12. frenchtoast says:

    lol it needs to hurt to matter.

  13. Flffgrrrlr says:

    What about women? Don’t we enjoy sex too? What about our needs? Why is it just candy to be handed out? I get that this is said in a jokey way, but hmmmm I don’t like what this implies either.

  14. Soupie says:

    Yeah… in order to have any kind of effect they’d actually have to remove the 4 things that matter most to males: food, sex, money and war/aggression/blowing and/or shooting things up.

  15. bosandi says:

    Please make her go away. Please and thank you.

  16. CuriousCole says:

    Basically everything bites this year and now she wants to take away sex? That’s a hard no, sex is awesome.

  17. Marigold says:

    The very notion that women are withholders…
    The very notion that women don’t want sex…
    The very notion that women are not equally harmed by a withholding partner…
    The very notion that women only “use” sex to manipulate…
    The very notion that men always want sex…
    The very notion that men can be led by the nose through sexual withholding…
    The very notion that men are stupid and women are conniving in sex…

    These things offend me deeply and make me very angry. It isn’t funny because this has been used as a weapon against women since the dawn of humanity. It’s also so false that it would be comical if the consequences weren’t so serious.

    It’s an ugly, ignorant mindset, and nothing about it is okay.