Duchess Meghan: ‘If you listen to what I actually say, it’s not controversial’

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The Duchess of Sussex appeared at Fortune Magazine’s Most Powerful Women Summit, which is being held virtually, as most summits are these days. Meghan Zoomed in from Montecito spoke about the theme, ‘Rising to the New Reality.’ One of the most powerful moments – in my opinion – was when Fortune editor Ellen McGirt asked Meghan about her graduation speech (which was about Black Lives Matter) and about the unhinged reactions to any and all of what Meghan says publicly, even by the white supremacist in the White House. The way McGirt framed the question made me pause and really think about how ballsy Meghan really is for continuing to speak up. But, as Meghan says in her answer, what’s she’s *actually* saying isn’t that controversial at all:

Meghan says, ″If you look back at anything I’ve said, what ends up being inflammatory is people’s interpretation of it. But if you listen to what I actually say it’s not controversial. And actually some of it is reacting to things that haven’t happened, which is, in some ways, I think, you have to have a sense of humor about it, even though there is quite a bit of gravity.” She’s calling the British tabloids a bunch hysterical drama queens who overreact to every little thing she says. She’s not wrong. She also quotes Georgia O’Keefe: ″I have already settled it for myself so flattery and criticism go down the same drain and I am quite free.″

In addition to that, Meghan spoke about “humane tech” and reliable media, saying:

″We have got to all put our stock in something that is true, and we need to have reliable media and news sources that are telling us the truth…when you know something is wrong, report it, talk about it. It’s like we live in the future when you’re talking about bots and trolls and all of these things. It seems so fantastical, but that’s actually the current state of affairs and that is shaping how we interact with each other online and off — and that’s the piece that’s important. It is not just an isolated experience. It transcends into how you interact with anyone around you and certainly your own relationship with yourself.”

[From People]

Yeah. It’s mind-numbing to go onto a Twitter thread and find 50 identical comments from TrumperMAGA638893 and MuricaFreedomPickUp9272 all saying the exact same Russian talking point.

Meghan also spoke about the pandemic and said the whole world is going through a “reset” and “a moment of reckoning, and probably a reevaluation of what really matters.” As for what she’s been up to? “For me, it’s been amazing to spend time with my husband and watch our little one grow and that’s where our attention has been.”

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  1. S808 says:

    She’s right. People’s interpretation her words and parroting it as what she said is what is controversial and the UK press deliberately does this to manipulate their readers. And their readers fall for it hook, line and sinker. Every. Time. All the hoopla about voting is the most recent and obvious example.

    Side note: I’m so glad she never gave a sit down interview with RRs and I’m even more glad she’s out of the royal sphere. These kinds of conversations, conversations of actual substance are outside of their realm of capability.

    • VS says:

      “These kinds of conversations, conversations of actual substance are outside of their realm of capability.” ………………. BRAVO BRAVO BRAVO; this exactly!!!

      royal gossipers gossip; that’s their job; there is no substance to it! can you imagine a Wolf Blitzer or Bob Woodward or Dana Bash, etc….. covering the royals? they will expose their mediocrity so quickly.
      royal gossipers can only talk about hair, clothes, smiles,….to be honest, that’s all some royalists expect; so mediocrity covered by mediocrity

      • Nic919 says:

        Maggie Haberman has gotten close to being a RR with her access journalism and reporting nagini and others as if they have a legitimate position and aren’t nepotism gone wild. Sometimes she redeems herself with a real story but so often she is a mouthpiece for those fools.

    • February-Pisces says:

      When people will look back at her graduation speech about BLM, they’re not going to remember the media’s ‘reaction’ to it, they are going to see HER words, not theirs. The same goes for everything she’s doing.

    • 809Matriarch says:

      I’m so glad that her sit down chats are with reputable, grass roots news organizations. We can see her being treated with respect and admiration by people without an agenda except for the issues they are promoting and allowing Meghan to use the voice the RF and the UK press tried to squelch. We are getting to see the woman Harry fell in love with and she gives him more reasons to adore her everyday. I remember the engagement interview where he was bursting with pride and saying “She is capable of anything”. Shortly after that, the Murky Markles began circling the couple like sharks in the water. Every positive thing about Meghan & Harry was like them being on a boat with a menacing shark fin circling the vessel spewing lies and ill will. But they didn’t get consumed by the shark, they finally escaped to the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave. And here they come with their menacing shark’s fins infiltrating Presidential press conferences. But the little elfin dentist from the Island of Misfit Toys is on the boat with H&M and he pulled the teeth out of the nasty sharks in the UK press.

    • Rae says:

      That’s the most frustrating thing for me; the fact the British public so eagerly eat it up. As a Brit, it is embarrassing and so disappointing. I intentionally go and post a positive comment on threads where I see it has become a pile on, just to show we’re not all alike.

      • bloemheks says:

        @Rae The old mantra, “Don’t Feed the Trolls” didn’t work out so well in 2016. The trolls won. I also leave comments here and there on very negative threads and boards. Maybe it won’t help, but it certainly couldn’t hurt.

  2. Emily says:

    She’s so right. Telling people to vote isn’t controversial. Saying the lives of Black people matter isn’t controversial. These are facts. It’s the racists who attach their own meaning who find it many controversy.

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      They find her words offensive because they are offenders of decency feels like they are being called out whenever someone says things like avoid negativity, stop parroting lies, speak up when you encounter false narrative. These comments scares those who partake of this and so they lash out by ascribing false meaning to her comments.

      • Emily says:

        Exactly. It’s like when anyone makes a comment about racism and then right wing commentators immediately say someone attacked Trump. No, you just associate Trump with racism and feel attacked because you’re racist.

      • Tealie says:

        @Emily 100% they get embarrassed and angry because they don’t like being caught red handed!

  3. Valiantly Varnished says:

    She’s absolutely right. And I think the outsized response to literally EVERYTHING she says proves this. I personally am glad that she is shutting out that noise and not censoring or silencing herself. Because ultimately it wont matter anyway. These same people were criticizing her when she was quiet. You cant win so it’s better to not play the game and just live your truth.

  4. Becks1 says:

    She’s 100% right – its the interpretation of her words and intentions that sets people off, not what she actually says and does. And while it is infuriating and predictable at this point, as far as the british media goes, I think its starting to work against them. They just come across as unhinged every time they insist “Meghan is disrespecting the queen!!!!!!!” because she said “people should vote” when the queen has said similar things.

    • BayTampaBay says:

      I still do not understand where this “disrespecting The Queen” comes from but it is out their hot, heavy and smelly.

      I have not had one person, who truly dislikes Meghan, be able to give me a legitimate example of “disrespecting The Queen”.

      • February-Pisces says:

        I once argued with an old lady in a shop who said she ‘disrespected the queen’ and when I asked for one example she couldn’t think of any, other than ‘she didn’t show us her baby’. Oh how I wished I grabbed my phone out and showed her a screen grab of Kate’s bare ass blowing in the wind.

      • Love says:

        They don’t know why they don’t like her… it’s really like Inception. I had a whole convo with a friend of mine who said “I don’t trust her. She was only ever on suits”… ok. But she’s independently wealthy, how much is Catherine worth? … **crickets**

      • VS says:

        @February-Pisces — my goodness, it must have taken you a lot to show restrain

        This is why the monarchy will continue to survive “she didn’t show us her baby” ; why do they need to see those kids? are they people to be used for the pleasure of some people?

        the weird is they did see Archie! how different would it be to see him a few hours after his birth vs a few days after? this is stupid! this is just plain old stupidity and idiocy coupled with ignorance!

      • VS says:

        @Love — so the work she did with the Hubb ladies, with SmartWorks, with Luminary Bakery or Vogue; all of that don’t matter!

        Meghan got this wrong; Kate actually understands the british public much better; Kate’s mediocrity is exactly what the uk deserves

        Just like in the US we deserve orange man if we don’t vote him out on Nov 3rd

      • Tealie says:

        @February oh my God February I absolutely love you! You so should have stuck the bare arse in her face 😂😂!

      • Tealie says:

        @ VS I live in the UK and I agree British people don’t like exceptionalism, they love and indulge in media Chrissy in their prime ministers in the MPs, in their celebrities (hence why most British actors/actresses Musicians etc move to America when they get famous) If you don’t present as a mediocre and mute they get enveloped in jealousy and try to destroy you e.g Lewis Hamilton, Jeremy Corbyn. Hard work isn’t praised, new earned money isn’t praised, nepotism is, and don’t let them try and fool you otherwise. It’s the same people that cry about Harry using his ‘royal connections’ and about being ‘white working class’ *eyeroll* that voted for Boris Johnson, Lord so-and-so and the last 20 Elton aristocracy born PMs.

  5. Nancy says:

    Okay…I know this sounds totally frivolous but I want her to show up on one these videos with her nails painted or something! Just so the BM can have a meltdown about it.

    • fluffy_bunny says:

      Are nail salons open in CA?

      • BnLurkN4eva says:

        I’m sure Meghan can do her own nails. If I can manage it, she sure can having spent so many years in show business. I would be curious to know what angle their melt down would take given she’s no longer a working royal.

    • equality says:

      I think she tries to keep her appearance simple so that more attention is paid to the platform.

    • clomo says:

      She is so tasteful but that made me remember Lindsay Lohan’s little courtroom manicure. Imagine the codes, maybe done in Latin she could do to really mess with people’s heads.

  6. Amy Bee says:

    I just love that she refuses to remain silent which is what the British press and the Royal Family wants her to do.

    • lanne says:

      Yep.. what they always care about is control. The thing that chaps their asses is that they can’t control her. They control William with their knowledge of his peccadillos, they control Kate because she’s an utter nonentity, and they know they will get their pictures. They will get kiddy pics, they will get invited to their events, they get their quid pro quo. The rota were the gatekeepers to the royals public esteem.

      The ironic thing is that they could have been that with Meghan as well. Had they played fair, they likely would have had the sit-down interviews in Frogmore with Archie toddling in. The Sussexes took things into their own hands when they saw the rota wouldn’t look past their own racism.

      Basically, they are screaming, “let us control you, damnit!” and Meghan is saying, uh, no thanks. She’s no Kate. She doesn’t give a shit about what some group of turnips think of her, and they have no coin with which to buy her. Therefore, tantrums.

      • 809Matriarch says:

        And they really misjudged her if they expected access after using her father and half siblings to drag her name through the mud. I remember getting a Twitter account just to defend Meghan against that awful Samantha Grant. The way the tabloid rags pretty much made that harpy a minor celebrity by turning her disgusting tweets into headlines. Day after day after day. The tabloids took a chance with Scammy and now they have killed the golden goose.

        And Junior was DOA after he penned that horrid “open letter” to Harry shortly before Meghan’s wedding. They really did everything they could to humiliate her. They misjudged Harry’s love for her.

    • BayTampaBay says:

      @Amy Bee – I think the British Royal Family really want her to remain silent but I doubt the British Tabloid Media want her to be silent as they have no fodder for online click bait.

  7. beacker says:

    When has she been accused of saying something controversial? I thought most criticism of her was the opposite -that she says things that are common knowledge and topical (ex. “voting is good”) as if she’s the first person to come up with the idea.

    • Edna says:

      You’re trolling. She does not say things as if she’s the first person to come up with the idea.

    • Faye says:

      No,there were people having hissy fits just for her saying to vote.

    • Becks1 says:

      LOL, look back at some of the Meghan posts over the past few weeks/months. “Voting is good,” “stop online hate” etc are all interpreted as “Meghan campaigns for Biden! she’s POLITICAL!!! The Queen is appalled! she is destroying the royal family from California!!!!!”

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      I’m glad you brought that example up. She said voting is good. They said she told people to vote for Biden. They said she told people not to vote for Trump. They said she was interfering in the US democratic process despite HM the Queen saying something similar to the people of Wales and Scotland. So my question is, if what she is saying is common knowledge and others have said the same thing, how come she gets so much flak???

    • S808 says:

      We just all witnessed the UK debate if her and Harry should lose their titles for telling people to vote?? And Trump coming at her on national television?

    • Tanguerita says:

      Try harder, troll.

    • AMM says:

      Oh look, a perfect example of what she means. She says fairly common things for a kind celebrity to say – be nice, vote, reject misinformation- acknowledges that what she says isn’t unique or controversial and you still interpret it wrong. It’s your biased interpretation that reads it as she thinks she’s being ground breaking (despite her acknowledging that it’s not) and the tabloids hyping everything she says as scandalous and brand new.

      Meanwhile you have the royals in England actually acting like their family discovered climate change. A duchess releasing a handful of basic Family Psychology 101 questions as groundbreaking work that’s gonna fix broken Britain. Calling a prize that isn’t even completed or in circulation yet as “the most prestigious” and “world changing”. When has Meghan hyped up anything she said like the royals do?

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      If that were the case, then why the melt down that she has no right to say xyz. She’s never claimed to be the architect of anything she’s ever said, but you would think she was by the reaction from the BM. I think you know this and are being disingenuous here.

    • Jezebel's Lacefront says:

      Yeah. No. It becomes controversial when SHE says it. If someone, particularly of white complexion, said what she said, they’re lauded.

      That’s the problem.

    • Tealie says:

      Get a brain and learn how to use google x

  8. Edna says:

    She speaks the truth. Nothing she says is controversial and in fact makes perfect senses. Encouraging people to vote…rejecting hate…being kind and respectful. It goes to show how messed up media sources are when common sense words are twisted into something nefarious and used to malign and attack someone for saying them.

  9. Elizabeth Regina says:

    It does not matter what she says. It will be distorted, twisted or the British media will even manufacture outright lies. For me the most important thing is that she keeps going. Nothing burns her haters than seeing her thrive despite their many pathetic attempts to paint her badly.

  10. CindyP says:

    Wow, she is so wise & genuine. So impressed with her. Very obvious why the RF had to muzzle her. It just brings to light how superficial & vapid most of them are
    Can you image Kate speaking off the cuff like Meghan did? She can barely string 2 sentences together. All you get from her are ugly dresses & maniacal facial expressions.
    Meghan was a child when the LA riots happened; obviously her mother raised her to have a moral compass.

    • JT says:

      @Cindy The difference in Kate and Meghan is so striking in instances like this. Meghan is so articulate and effortless in her speaking. She was clear, concise, and thoughtful in all of her responses and off the cuff no less. You can feel the conviction in her words partly because she has experience to back them up. Kate is incurious and you get the sense that she’s hardly lived in contrast to Meghan, which is why Kate’s words are so hollow. People listen to what Meghan has to say and only comment on Kate’s looks. It dawned on me quite recently that both women are the same age. 39. I had never put 2 and 2 together before, but wow. Kate seems like a child in comparison to Meg, and that is why the RF, and KP in particular, were so scared. Meghan is a grown ass woman her knows her worth and will not be silenced. Kate has no sense of self, no personality that is her own, which is why she single white females any woman in her orbit.

      • LOL (Lez O Likes) says:

        @JT 1000000% Agree

      • Nyro says:

        JT, Kate is indeed childlike. She comes off very stunted to me. I bet she’s stuck at the age she was when her mom started to groom her to hook William. But yeah, at 39 and a mother, Kate seems no more mature than 19 year old Diana Spencer. She’s everything the royals thought they’d gotten with Diana. Silent and compliant. Suffering silently, starving herself rather than “bother” her dear husband and embarrassment the queen. A doormat. It never occurred to them that young Diana would grow into a woman with expectations, desires, boundaries, the ability to express herself. Stunted Kate is everything they’d ever hoped for.

      • JT says:

        I always thought this site was exaggerating when it says that how Kate can barely be understood, so I finally saw some clips and wow. She is unintelligible at times. I can’t believe the RR hype her up so much. The fact that Kate cannot articulate a single thought clearly is a shame, as well as the fact that everything she says is meaningless. Meghan was gods gift to that family and the RR but they are all idiots.

      • Nic919 says:

        Excellent comment.

    • Tealie says:

      @jt oh my God JT same, then I looked up some clips to and I was flabbergasted. No wonder they barely publicise her or ask her to speak the whole facade would crumble, her vocabulary is truly 39 going 12.

  11. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    I absolutely love how unruffled she remains.

  12. Nev says:


  13. Tiffany says:

    We know.

    -signed, Grown Ass People

  14. Myra says:

    She is absolutely right. I have been using Meghan as a litmus test to identify racists or people with unconscious biases. The over-the-top reaction to a simple statement she makes or the efforts they go through to twist whatever she says into something negative, lets me know the type of person I’m dealing with.

    • tolly says:

      So much this. Several online forums that I used to enjoy have shocked the hell out of me. Meghan hit a deep nerve with some people, and they react with endless paragraphs of veiled (or open) hostility. Even suggest that they’re bringing a lot of energy to a chat about books or clothes, and you get more long paragraphs about why they are completely justified in their feelings and it has nothing to do with race. The intensity is itself proof of prejudice, even though everyone claims to be very tolerant.

      • ABritGuest says:

        I know what you mean. A lot of liberal forums I used to look at have shown so much misogynoir to Meghan and some left leaning papers have shown real blind spots on race.

        Has been really eye opening how much people of all shades& political persuasions are very hostile to a biracial woman in a certain white space especially if they don’t feel you are grateful enough to be there. White supremacy has really done a number.

      • Myra says:

        I don’t visit other forums other than this one, but some left-leaning papers and magazines I used to enjoy have been so disappointing in their coverage on Meghan. It’s been quite a revelation and definitely piqued my interest on studying white feminism a little more closely.

      • Nyro says:

        A lot of “not racist” people jump at the chance to racially abuse her because she’s biracial. That way they can say “but she not even really black!!” or outright lie and say that they didn’t know she was mixed. If she were two shades darker, they’d think twice for fear if the community coming at them like we do for other high profile Black American women. A lot of Black British commentary also centered around her biracial and American identity as an excuse for them to not speak up against the misogynoir against her in the BM. It wasn’t until it was clear that her being half white and American afforded her zero privilege in that family and the media, that you saw a handful Black British commentators halfway speak up. I’m just glad she’s back because no one on that little island had her back.

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      I’ve done that with Black woman celebrities for years. Any successful, extremely beautiful unapologetically black woman in the public eye brings out the, “there’s just something about her, I can’t put my finger on it.” That usually gives me pause to look more closely at the individual making these observations and invariable they will reveal themselves to be problematic.

      • Gingerbee says:

        @BNLURK4EVA, absolutely correct.

      • Myra says:

        That’s very true. Show them a beautiful and confident black woman and its like kryptonite to these people. The dissertations they would come up with just to avoid saying ‘I hate her cause she’s black and successful’.

      • Tealie says:

        @ Myra LOL honestly! the way they’ll write three pages based on why them itching their eye was wrong and a sign of her being uppity and having a mental disorder and every angry black female Jezebel trope they can muster in a sentence and then claim not to be racist is hilarious to me!

    • Otaku fairy says:

      +1. It’s clear what kind of things are behind most of the vitriol, but it’s still so strange to see, even knowing that. I just don’t get how people on other sites have constructed this thirsty villain narrative around Meghan Markle and overreact to everything she does. She’s so uncontroversial* the reactions to her can’t really be played off as a ‘healthy amount of cynicism around celebrity culture’ or whatever. Some liberals will say their aggression is about ‘not giving her a pass b/c of her race or her gender’. But a pass for what, exactly? For some liberal white mothers (and a few who aren’t white), going out of their way to prove they aren’t overwoke or giving someone a ‘pass’ for their race and gender becomes an unhealthy obsession. They seem to build their whole sense of self-worth around it for some unknown reason.

      *Even if she were controversial, that wouldn’t excuse the way she’s been treated. It’s just- she really hasn’t done anything offensive. The bar is just too high.

      • BnLurkN4eva says:

        I am waiting for someone with real credibility and some power in media to take this on because surely someone needs to. This highly visible woman has been bullied and harassed since she arrived and it has gone beyond sexism, or even anything Diana experienced imo. This is a story for a brave journalist wit hthe clout to tell it honestly and with integrity.

        Meghan literally can’t say anything without it being twisted into something awful and this has been since the beginning. The RR claimed to want access, but when they had some access to Meghan as a working royal everything she did was criticized beyond anything that could be considered reasonable. Every single outing was blown up into some next level destructive act on her part. All of her projects were pan as though she had done whatever it was worse than anyone ever had. Just cast your mind back to the vogue project and recall the vitriol that greeted the announcement of that project and it’s launch. She could do absolutely nothing right in their eyes, nothing and that’s before even comparing her treatment to the opposite reactions that greeted her sister and brother in laws every outing to merely standing and greeting people.

      • Kalana says:

        She said no to white power and set boundaries. The BRF is emblematic of white supremacy and a lot of royal watchers who are white feminists haven’t been able to admit to themselves that they find comfort in that. The BRF is their symbol of “good neighborhoods” and “good schools,” white control and a closed white heritage that was never supposed to change.

        Take Meghan out of the picture and already people are more open to criticizing the other members of the family. They circled the wagons to protect their own rather than admit what was happening to Meghan and Harry got gaslighted about his mental health because he stood by his wife.

        I saw this phrase on Twitter: Pet or threat. These women will allow black people that they feel they can control to share their space but Meghan wouldn’t play along.

      • Nic919 says:

        Can you truly be a feminist and support the royals? The inherent concept of that system is that males are more important along with birth order. Everything about them is sexist and women have always been treated worse than men. It is irrelevant that the monarch is currently a woman, because male primogeniture is still running most of the show. And they want their women to be silent doormats. Diana tried to be different and they attacked her. Meghan is still being attacked. Kate is seen as fitting in because she has no opinions and she is being praised for being thin and tall and getting her hair blown out. How can any feminist be anything but repulsed by a system that inherently hates women and only values them for their womb?

        The princess fantasy is a dangerous one and Diana proved that the real life version was a nightmare. Had Meghan been accepted perhaps she would have been able to rewrite the image, but as it stands, it’s patriarchal and toxic to any woman who values herself beyond her ability to attract a man and make babies.

      • Tealie says:

        What’s funny is if you scroll through their feet you’ll find the same people shedding a tear for Andrew and saying he didn’t know what was going on or another white female celebrity after crying because they got caught cheating on their husband and abusing their children.

      • Anna says:

        omg @Kalana agreed on all fronts and that phrase “pet or threat”–whew! Aint that the truth

    • Tealie says:

      @myr Me too I dropped some friends because of some stuff they said about her, it’s stunk of the highest misogynoir 🤢🤢 she is SUCH a good blacklight for covert racists!

  15. ABritGuest says:

    Those who pushed her out did her a favour as nice she can have a conversation with journalists on topics of substance. And seen many reports focus on what she said rather than just her outfit & hair etc like is standard with royal reporting. Can see why that was challenging to the basic royal reporters

    And she’s right particularly that point about outrage based on things she hasn’t even said or that hasn’t happened eg full day of moaning, debates, calls to strip of titles because of a random Sun report about a reality tv series that was duplicated in other tabloids, broadsheets and discussed on news channels like Sky.

  16. I am a Nigerian and I discovered Celebitchy 2012 or there about. I will say it is the best American gossip site that I stumbled upon. it is my guilty pleasures; I have been mocked for not skipping a day especially when I am out of data, I will make sure I still check through one means or the other. long story short, dis site is the only Meghan friendly gossip site while others are filled to the brim with so much vitriol, hate, untrue and bias update on any Harry/Meghan topics.

    • Sarah says:

      I am with you! I’m British and haven’t been coming here for quite as long but if I absolutely can’t check in for some reason one day I always catch up later. I love the content and the community here and that things are discussed in a much fairer and more balanced way. Everywhere else I avoid comments sections at all costs, it upsets me too much!

      I call it my ‘guilty hobby’.

      • mytwocents says:

        Miss Attitude and Sarah, me too! I have to avoid other sites because the negativity really drags me down. I felt forced to defend Meghan and would also start to comment, but it’s really like getting into the mud with the pigs (like the Trump /Biden debate… eyeroll). I actually liked the DM for it’s British coverage, but I’ll forgo that and go somewhere else because I won’t support them and give them any more clicks and money!

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      And believe me those people who visits those other sites to spew their hatred for Meghan especially, really hate that this one site exist. It’s not enough to spread their bile everywhere else, it seems to keep them up at night knowing there exist one place where she isn’t shredded continuously.

      • Gingerbee says:

        I agree with you all. This is the only Meghan site I visit, beside the IG pages. Yet, those bridge dwellers still find they way to those pages.

      • Nyro says:

        Exactly. It’s not enough that they hate her and drag her, the entire world must hate her and drag her too. They can’t stand for her to have a word of kindness thrown her way. They want her to have nothing. Not support, not good wishes. Nothing. That’s why I’m so glad she’s out here winning and not hiding. She’s living her best life and they all know it. I hope they buy a winter home in Aspen for 20 million and drop that info too.

      • Kalana says:

        How weird is that? How insecure are you about your opinions that it angers you that people like Meghan and Harry? It’s fear of being called out for their own racism and hypocrisy. They can’t stand by their opinions.

    • Yup, Me says:

      Interestingly, I’ve been reading for about the same amount of time. And I started reading because of the Kate articles. I have been fascinated, for years, by the culture (both visible and hidden) of (primarily) women who use “soft power” around politics and business. How they dress beautifully and speak eloquently to redirect public attention toward good causes and inspiring works (and what that activity hides, as well).

      When I first started reading, Kate was still a new bride and people were so excited about what she might do as a new Princess/Duchess after her “princess lessons” and then she ….. reemerged with a fake posh accent and did fuckall for months and years on end.

      The most valuable contribution “Catherine” has made is making me a Celebitchy reader.

      • BnLurkN4eva says:

        I literally didn’t pay attention to any of them until Meghan came on the scene. I knew nothing about any of the others just what was generally known by everyone not living under a rock – they were the BRF.

        Diana, Charles the affair with Camilla, Diana being chased to death in a Paris tunnel, her sons Harry and William, something something Harry in Vegas, Harry not liking reporters, something something William and Kate. Honestly, that was really all I knew about the present day BRF and then came Meghan. Her marriage to Harry was my first royal wedding, I still haven’t seen W/K, Eugenie and whatshisname. Still not interested in knowing anything about any of the others.

        Now if they had embraced Meghan I have no doubt I would be curious about the rest of them, but her treatment just resulted in my being satisfied that there’s nothing to see with any of the others.

      • Glorificus says:

        Oof this is brilliant turn of phrase :
        “The most valuable contribution “Catherine” has made is making me a Celebitchy reader.”

        Bless you!

      • RoyalBlue says:

        true story, i found this site some time during the year of harry and meghan’s marriage. I think it was around the time of the pregnancy announcement and the south pacific tour. There was just so much negative and unjustified press out there, that I told myself there had to be another side to this story in the digital world. So I googled blogs on why kate middleton is lazy and bitchy, and here I am.

    • Tealie says:

      Omg hi! Another Nigerian sister here 🙋🏾‍♀️ (Although living in Britan)

  17. Harla says:

    You just keep being you Meghan and the rest of us will keep being inspired to do the same.

  18. Nuks says:

    I love Meghan so much. I wish there were more ways to support she and H right now. I really see them rising to the highest levels of regard and influence.

  19. Sarah says:

    Who is monitoring the countdown to the press doing exactly what she describes and completely twisting these words?

    Meg calls press LIARS, Harry distraught, Will incandescent, Queen angry.

  20. Vanessa says:

    At the end of the day everyone black person knows that it’s one rule for us and other for white people . When William says he fed up with racism is praised to high heaven for saying basically nothing at all but when Meghan who has been a victim of racist abuse since she started dating Harry anything about how hard she has had the racist royal reporters come for her head . We all know that Meghan is not allowed to say anything without it becoming headlines news where her attacker’s become unhinged it really is sick to witness the way British tabloids are allowed to continue to abuse and dehumanizing her still .

    • lanne says:

      What I find interesting is that these tabloid reporters come after her like she’s the spawn of Satan, but when we see her interacting with actual journalists, industry leaders, and icons, she’s thoughtful, intelligent, engaging, and makes a sane person wonder, “why doesn’t the rf see what an asset she is? Any company, organization, or advocacy group would clearly see that. Any successful company would want someone like her representing their firm. Face it, if you ran a business, and needed someone to engage with the public related to your business, would you want Kate to rep it, or Meghan? Which one of them could handle off-the-cuff questions? Which one of them could meet with journalists, or give a speech at a conference, or hold a press conference? Can you imagine Kate trying to hold a press conference?

      Some time from now, whether its months, years, or even decades if we are truly entering the dark ages, history will look askance at the royal family and the british media. If it happens soon, (some rota person “comes to Jesus” and says, oh, perhaps we were too mean. Oopsies!), Meghan will have to smile and be gracious. She won’t be able to give them all the big FU they deserve. Because we all have to be gracious when white people say “oopsies! sorry I was such a racist! boo hoo I feel so bad, please comfort me!”

      New Celebitches who are white who read this, know that your black colleagues, friends, and neighbors go through some version of what Meghan’s going through. One reason I post on this site is that the white regulars show a lot of caring and willingness to step outside of their own experiences to see the realities of others who don’t look like them, and the nonwhite Celebitches can have a sense of community with others who understand. We’re all going to need support, all of us regardless of background, in these next few months.

      • Vanessa says:

        It’s sad to say but I don’t believe anyone in the Royal Family or The Royal Reports will ever have a come to Jesus moment when it comes to their hateful behavior towards Meghan . The sad part of all the damage that they did to Meghan reputation with lies is that their are section of people who believe anything negative that these British tabloids say about Meghan you have people that work in media who actually believe what the daily mail says about Meghan like Abby from the View actually said on aired she reads the daily mail and can’t believe how Meghan can’t get along with Kate . You have a charity that Meghan volunteers with where one of the people actually said that the way the press described Meghan that they though she would be a diva and difficult and they were surprised how nice and down to earth she is . The mess up things that it’s william and Kate who are the diva the narcissist ones their the snobbish couple who have behaved badly for years kate behavior at the church service show her truly personality for the world to witness and yet their are people still giving her the benefit of the doubt and willing to excuses anything William and Kate say or do .

      • bamaborn says:

        Well said, Lanne.

      • CC says:

        @lanne I agree with everything you said. I found this site by accident, and was so happy, I’m sticking with it until I see different.

        I was on another site and the people there were so rascist, it made me sick. I never knew they were like that until Meghan came onto the picture.

      • BnLurkN4eva says:

        I agree with the frustration of having to play nice and be forgiving when people decide to say oopsies. It’s what awful men have been doing to women for centuries and it’s what White people do to POC especially Black people constantly.

      • Andrew’s Nemesis says:

        @Lanne We’ll be here. With you all the way.

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  21. Mtec says:

    I love that Georgia O’Keefe quote she gave. I want it up in my room now.

  22. bamaborn says:

    Go on and live your life, Duchess!

  23. Marivic says:

    Meghan has depth and intellect that scares William, Kate, the courtiers, British whites, and the Royal Rota. She’s intelligent, beautiful, articulate, brave and courageous to stand up to them. Most importantly, she has the love of her husband who’s got her back. The latter is what makes all of them triggered and riled up. The blood prince of the realm left them for her.

  24. Mariane says:

    I’m so proud of this women. Her intelligence and articulate manner were on full d7splay. Goes to show why the firm was scared or her. Unlike Diana, Meghan came into the RF as an established women and the fact that they tried to vilify her using her work ethic (5am email) shows how this ancient institution is on its last legs. They are NOT GOING BACK.

    I loved reading the positive feedback. People love rooting for the underdog and reading the comments on this has been proof that the majority are in support on what they’re doing. Let the incompetent MAGA/tory loving keenbridges have that little island. The sussexs appeal to the whole world

    • CoffeeNYC says:

      This whole story about emailing at 5am I always felt it was the other royal senior or royal relatives accusing her of things because from what I hear staffs there are asked to sign contact for not to give information outside. So when the gossip goes out they quietly blame the staffs. I’m so glad people are pointing the fingers at royal themselves! At the end of the day the peace she has found right now after the whole situation she wouldn’t change it for anything. I am very happy for them.

  25. Jaded says:

    Many people get stuck in the status quo, they’re have a kind of intellectual inertia and refuse to budge out of their comfort zone. I think that’s why Meghan has so many detractors because she is so articulate, well-read, and willing to speak her truth that it makes people jealous. What do kids to when they’re jealous? They look to find things in the other person to pick apart, to complain about, to diminish their light. She shines a bright light on some ugly things but does it in such a sensitive, compassionate manner that when someone like Trump calls her a nasty woman she can say ″I have already settled it for myself so flattery and criticism go down the same drain and I am quite free.″ I love that quote…it kinda says it all about her strength of character.

  26. BnLurkN4eva says:

    Honestly the royal post have been getting me through this pandemic. I de-lurked during this awful time because it takes me out of the reality of our present condition for a little while. I only care about M/H and scroll past the others most of the time because they don’t interest me. I rarely go into the post of people I don’t care about, but I think there’s plenty of topics here to satisfy everyone. Just scroll on by any post that doesn’t interest you and you will no doubt come across one that interests.

    • Tealie says:

      Me too! I am so glad I found this site and Kaisers hilarious reads! They are the highlight to my day!

    • bloemheks says:

      Same here. There’s nothing more I can do about the threats that face us at this point except donate and vote. I’d stopped being angry and upset and just felt depressed and despondent following the latest news. Turning my attention away and focusing on H&M and the RF is an escape from all of that. Not a full escape, because what’s going on with H&M and the RF is a reflection of what’s happening in society at large. It’s a way to discuss those themes without constantly having to confront the reality we’re facing and how detrimental and tragic it is for average people, the worst of which may be yet to come.

  27. Le4Frimaire says:

    She is right. They don’t really listen because they already have their story written and minds made up. Most of this controversy is manufactured and amplified by the UK press and tabloids. Their goal is for them to be invisible and silent, then complain when they are not “private” the way they think they should be. At this stage with their constant sniping, I’m really not clear on what the royalists want from the Sussexes now. Is it really the titles, because not really sure they want to go there. It’s not like Meghan and Harry can unsee and unlive everything they experienced in England. Do they really want them back as full time royals on the taxpayers dole, because that is impossible. When they were full time working royals, they weren’t happy with how they were working and used taxpayer money as leverage and a stick, including telling them to give it up and get a real job if they didn’t like it, and pay back Frogmore. It’s all so confusing and the only thing consistent is the continued interest in every little thing they do, every expression and comment. That’s not going to stop with relinquished titles.

  28. Molly says:

    I love Meghan more than the Duchess of Sussex…..more Meghan please!! I hope she gives up that title and all of it’s trappings. The title suffocates Meghan.

  29. Julia K. says:

    Prince Philip was today reported saying that he was upset that Meghan left the U.K. instead of showing support and loyalty for the monarchy. They just don’t get it! The monarchy did not support her! They let her out there alone to deal with the horrid, hateful comments without one word of support.

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      I would be willing to bet a large sum of money that Phillip hasn’t said a word to anyone about anything resembling Meghan and Harry. The man is probably surprise to be alive each morning and doubts he has the faculties to even understand what is going on around him. This is just another fan fiction in an attempt to rile up the British public against Meghan, let’s hope people are more sensible than to fall for this.