Mariah Carey: ‘I f—ing am high-maintenance because I deserve to be at this point’

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I actually think everything worked out perfectly for Mariah Carey for her book promotion. Her memoir, The Meaning of Mariah Carey, is already out. People really enjoy it! Most of the people interviewing her got advanced copies and all of them say that it’s very readable and enjoyable, which is what we should expect from a celebrity memoir. And now Mariah gets to promote the book from the comfort of her home, with the lighting of her choosing, on blurry-ass Zoom. She must be so happy. That’s how this Guardian interview happened – via Zoom, at 6 am EST, with Mariah complaining the entire time. Mariah chats about her racial identity, Tommy Mottola (her first husband) and why certain people didn’t even get name-checked in the book. She’s hysterical. Some highlights:

She loves lockdown: “Honestly, I don’t miss anyone outside, so I don’t care about lockdown. But it’s difficult for the kids, because they’re used to three-times-a-year Disney World moments and stuff like that, and that’s just not the current state of affairs.”

On doing press for the book: “No offence to doing interviews, but what would be the point? I can’t articulate it better than I already have [in the book]. From now on, I’m like, ‘Please refer to page 29,’ you know what I mean?”

On Jennifer Lopez: Mariah famous said “I don’t know her”, when asked almost two decades ago about Jennifer Lopez… Speaking of Lopez, her name is notably not in Carey’s memoir. Instead, when recalling the hoo-hah that led to their fallout, when a sample Carey had planned to use on her single, Loverboy, appeared on Lopez’s I’m Real, Carey refers to her as a “female entertainer (whom I don’t know).” So is her official position still that she has never heard of Lopez? There is a pause, then stifled laughter. “Oh my gosh, can you hear that music in the background? It’s Sam Cooke! It’s fantastic!” she giggles. Not only has Carey not heard of Lopez, she cannot even hear questions about her, it seems.

On Tommy Mottola’s controlling ways: “In my opinion there was a lot of other stuff going on there… Yes it was traumatic [to revisit], but was it harder than some of the other things I’ve gone through? Maybe yeah, actually. I don’t know if I’ll ever fully recover from the damage of that emotional abuse. But in my school of thought, you have to be a forgiving person.”

She doesn’t even mention James Packer in the book: A lot of attention has focused on her confirmation that she did, as long rumoured, have a fling with the former baseball star Derek Jeter (“I’m not being shady, but he had on pointy shoes,” she recalls a little shadily of their first meeting.) But there is no mention of other boyfriends, such as her former fiancé, the Australian billionaire James Packer. “If it was a relationship that mattered, it’s in the book. If not, it didn’t occur,” she says. But you were engaged to Packer, I say. “We didn’t have a physical relationship, to be honest with you,” she says. And that is that.

Whether she considers herself high-maintenance: “You know what? I don’t give a sh-t. I f–king am high-maintenance because I deserve to be at this point. That may sound arrogant, but I hope you frame it within the context of coming from nothing. If I can’t be high-maintenance after working my ass off my entire life, oh, I’m sorry – I didn’t realise we all had to be low-maintenance. Hell, no! I was always high-maintenance, it’s just I didn’t have anyone to do the maintenance when I was growing up!”

Whether she minds being called a diva: “No! Who the f-ck cares? Honestly! ‘Oh my God, they’re calling me a diva – I think I’m going to cry!’ You think in the grand scheme of things in my life that really matters to me, being called a diva? I am, bitches, that’s right!”

[From The Guardian]

RIP James Packer, OMG. I can’t believe how she destroyed him! Well… thinking back, I’m pretty sure that he was tired of her drama and he split. She must have been like “good riddance.” But there’s a confirmation that they didn’t have a physical relationship. Not like her thing with Jeter. And yes, Mariah is a high-maintenance diva and so be it. She’s actually one of the last real divas. #SaveTheDivas. SHE STILL DOESN’T KNOW JENNIFER LOPEZ TOO.

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Photos courtesy of WENN, Mariah’s IG.

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  1. Suze says:

    I picked up her memoir on audiobook and I cannot wait to dive in to this treat.

  2. Chris says:

    This interview makes me like her, it’s pretty funny. She’s not wrong about the high maintenance thing, it’s been an accusation lobbed against women, but never men. I honestly cannot think of one man who gets accused of being high maintenance. Maybe we’re in the era of moving away from the male “cool girl” fantasy and accepting that maybe by high maintenance we mean “woman who doesn’t compromise on what she wants.” With Mariah it’s open to interpretation.

    All that being said, no one throws shade like Mariah Carey.

    • Seraphina says:

      I agree with you.
      I am not a huge fan of hers, but she does amuse me. I too am told I am high maintenance and I tell people, there are different types of HM, BUT they don’t pay my bills nor are they my SO, so I could care less. Life is too short.

    • TaraBest says:

      How she embraces being “high maintenance” is one of the things I love most about her! I dream to one day be as confident and sure of myself and what I want that I can be more high maintenance. Your definition of “woman who doesn’t compromise on what she wants” is exactly how I view it and I think in that way it can be something to aspire to.

  3. Annaloo. says:

    YES YOU DO!!

    But I won’t be around you, that is fer shure 🙂

  4. Tiffany says:

    In 2020, would I have been looking forward to a Mariah Carey memoir?

    HELL YEAH !!!

  5. Franklymydear... says:

    I love it when women get to a certain age, usually the 40s, and we just don’t care anymore what ppl think. It’s so wonderful!!! I wish I had felt like this in my 20s. Go Mariah! Enjoy yourself and get what you want. We all deserve that!

    • Yup, Me says:

      When my mother turned 40, she told me she finally gave herself permission to “be an adult” the way she wanted and do whatever the f*ck she wanted. Fortunately for me, she shared this with me at the time. I was 15 and I immediately thought, “Well shit, I’m not waiting until I’m 40. I’m getting started right now!” I will always be grateful to her for that honesty and transparency. Because I’m now 40, and I’ve been living my life the way I want to and I’m really really good with my boundaries. I think that’s the biggest thing we need as girls- the ability to exert and enforce our own boundaries.

      I love Mariah Carey – have done since she first came on the scene when she was 20. I think I will start dressing as Mariah for Halloween every year (and sometimes on Tuesdays).

  6. Solace says:

    Oooooo the queen hath spoken!🤩

    Ladies, please be high maintenance. Hypergamy can be our friend.

  7. Watson says:

    I am forever a Mariah fan. She def deserves to be high maintenance. Love her for it!!!

  8. Katherine says:

    I’m on board with all of this haha

  9. Joanna says:

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong w being “high maintenance.” I feel like Mariah. We all work our butts off, nothing wrong with pampering yourself.

  10. TyrantDestroyed says:

    I’m currently reading it and I’m really enjoying it. She is honest and has a light vibe to recount her past. Some part of it especially her childhood are heartbreaking as I didn’t have an idea she had so many family issues. Now I have a soft spot for her. She went from a disfunctional family life to a disfunctional married life with Mottola.
    She’s right about the relationships and the most important ones have a chapter or more.

  11. Em says:

    This is awesome. I respect her a lot for everything she’s risen above. She’s hilarious.