Jennifer Garner is pissed at Ben Affleck for flirting with Blake Lively

I know a lot of people don’t really care for, or have any kind of strong feelings about Blake Lively, star of Gossip Girl. She’s been growing on me the past few months, though. Not that I think she’s any kind of great actress – she’s not – but I’ve started to think she’s one of prettiest girls occupying the current Young Hollywood. Blake’s got fashion sense too – I love seeing her on the red carpet. Blake has been dating her Gossip Girl costar Penn Badgley for more than a year. There are the occasional engagement rumors about the two, but I tend to think they’re both too young – both are 22 years old.

With her hit television show, her red carpet prowess, and her beauty, Blake is branching out into films. Last month she was hired for a supporting part in the film The Town, shooting in Boston and starring Ben Affleck and Jon Hamm. It’s a film about a small crime team and the FBI, with a dash of betrayal or something. It’s based on Chuck Hogan’s novel Prince of Thieves. Affleck is the director too – and he cast Blake as his character’s “troubled ex-girlfriend”. Now both In Touch Weekly and Star Magazine are reporting that Affleck has great affection for his young costar – and it’s pissing off Affleck’s wife, Jennifer Garner.

Ben Affleck knew exactly who he wanted to get frisky with: Blake Lively! [Ben]… handpicked Blake “because he thinks she’s beautiful,” an insider tells Star. “Ben wanted Blake for the role, and he pushed for it.”

But not everyone’s happy with the choice. Ben’s wife of four years, Jennifer Garner, feels threatened by Blake, says the insider. “She’s truly worried.”

And she should be. After filming a steamy sex scene on Sept. 1, the way-too-friendly Ben and Blake went out to eat together.

“People on set are saying he’s acting like a lovesick teenager,” says the insider. “He just lights up whenever she’s around; he’s practically giddy. He’s certainly not acting like a married man.”

Ben had been looking forward to working with Blake, reveals a friend of the Affleck family. “One of the first things he told me was, ‘Blake Lively is so much fun!’ And when I asked about his family, he talked about missing the kids, but didn’t mention Jen at all, which was really unusual.”

Jen has been sensing a distance between her and Ben – and it’s not just because he’s been in Boston, 3,000 miles away from L.A. Ben feels Jen is more preoccupied with being a mom than a wife, says the insider.

“He’s been complaining that Jen isn’t the same sexy, fun girl he married. She’s always in mom mode, dressed in baggy clothes and a ponytail. He just wants her to dress up sexy sometimes and enjoy herself more.”

Jen, on the other hand, thinks Ben cares more about his career than family, says another insider. Jen let him know exactly how she felt before he left for Boston. “She’s sick and tired of being the only one invested in their marriage. He comes and goes as he pleases. Jen told Ben he needs to get more involved.”

Instead, he’s spending his free time with Blake – on set and off. “They go out a lot together and even meet up late at night to talk about scenes,” says the first insider.

But Ben and Blake’s flirtfest was broken up when Jen arrived in Boston with their two girls on Sept. 1. “Jen heard that Ben was getting too close to Blake and flipped out… She told him she was coming to keep an eye on him.”

An insider wonders if it’s too little, too late. “Ben has his priorities all mixed up. Sadly, his marriage is the last think on his mind.”

[From Star Magazine, print edition, September 21 2009]

Meh. I’ll buy that Ben and Blake were probably flirting, but that’s probably about it. I actually think it’s Blake who would know when to stop, not Ben. Blake seems really happy with Penn Badgley, while I still have a feeling Ben has that self-destructive streak in him, where he could easily get caught up and cross a line.

As for the Jennifer Garner part of the story, I was going to make the point that she and Affleck rarely seem to be in different cities very often, and perhaps she arrived in Boston because that’s the way they had scheduled it. But In Touch Weekly claims – in a very similar report to Star – that Jennifer had to take time off from filming in Los Angeles to visit Ben in Boston. That’s very interesting if it’s true – and it might signal that Garner really is worried, or that she simply missed her husband.

In Touch’s source also claims, “Jen trusts Ben, but there is a part of her that will always worry that he’ll fall back into his former playboy ways… especially when he’s working with a younger costar like Blake.” Yeah, that’s what I worry about too. Ben has a very self-defeating nature. The source also claims, “Jen is anything but fat, but she can’t seem to lost the last remaining pounds she gained while she was pregnant. She seems self-conscious.” Oh, for the love of God. She looks fine! Enough with this.

Ben Affleck and Blake Lively are shown on set on 9/1/09. Ben, Jen and their daughters are shown on 4/28/09 and Jen is shown out alone with little Serafina on 9/10/09. Credit: Fame Pictures

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  1. TwinkleToes says:

    Ya know, Kaiser that rug on his head is so obvious. Please do a piece (ha, get it) on balding celebs.

  2. Beth says:

    Blake seems very happy with Penn so I don’t believe the story. Cast and crew always talk and hangout together. I don’t know why tabloids always try to make something out nothing just because people hangout together.

  3. Firestarter says:

    Well if I were Jen Garner, I’d show up on set and flirt with the yummy Jon Hamm!

  4. Kaiser says:

    Haha, TwinkleToes! I don’t think he wears a rug, I think he got plugs a few years ago. His hairline is… sketchy.

  5. ash says:

    Firestarter – I like your style.

  6. random says:

    I think they’re just stirring the pot – Star is NEVER right. I love Ben and Jennifer – I hope they stay together!

  7. RobN says:

    They need to master the not working at the same time thing. Big chunks of time apart isn’t good for any couple; even the ones that are really trying.

  8. Firestarter says:

    Hee, hee! Thanks Ash! : )

  9. Leticia says:

    Team Jennifer Garner all the way. She is so beautiful and seems so nice. However, having kids triggered her dowdy switch and she looks dowdy unless she is being interviewed. She is so beautiful and I wish that she would just take 5 minutes to put lip gloss on and cuter jeans. She has a decent figure and it wouldn’t take extra time to put cute jeans on instead of those mom jeans. I also have small kids, I know what it is like to be in a hurry, etc. Personally I think she can do better than him, but if she wants to hold his interest, she may want to lose the mom jeans.

  10. Cinderella says:

    Those pictures would bug me, too. To make matters worse, Blake is wearing a Red Sox jacket. That in itself is an easy way into his drawers.

    Jen, you better get your man.

  11. Aviatrix says:

    Husband and I have a two year old and yes the majority of my attention goes towards our son. During the day I am a ponytail and jeans girl, but just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean you can’t balance both. I want my husband to find me sexy, so do whatever it takes to push the right buttons. Jen needs to get a sitter (her mom or her sister) and work her milf magic to wow Ben again.

  12. k says:

    i hope blake refuse ben just like natalie
    portman refuse sean penn. men can’t refuse young beautiful girls to look, and wants her body.just like balthazar getty humiliated his wife and dumped his children for sienna miller. brad pitt also. blake can refuse ben now, and had better to think about her carrier. if she make affair with ben, then her carrier will be over, just like sienna miller, and people say her homewrecker, slut.

  13. Heavenbound says:

    I think that she really needs to dress a little nicer, I know that she is a mom, but she always looks like she just rolled out of bed. Look at Reece Witherspoon she is a mom too but she always looks cute.

    The worst thing you can do is let your self go and forget that you are also a lover to your man, not just a mom to your kids and guys are visual always scanning other women.

    Get your sexy on Garner! With all the money she has there was no excuse for those “torn underwear” she was sporting a few months ago. What does she do with all that doe?

  14. Katie from Boston says:

    They filmed right outside my apartment last Friday. It was very exciting! I got to meet Ben because he used my roof for lighting. They were shooting all night long into the morning. I know this doesn’t have to do with this article but I just wanted to share.

  15. I doubt Blake would go for Ben. She should go for Jon Hamm.

  16. LiLu says:

    He looks like he wants to gobble her up. If I was Jen, I would be pissed if I saw these pics, he’s so obvious.

  17. e says:

    This report might be wrong but I have to admit that when I saw these pictures around a week ago of Blake and Ben the first thing I thought was “uh oh…this is not good”. Could be totally innocent but if he were my husband I would be nervous.

  18. Janice says:

    First of all ,this story is all crap.You know how many magazines they sold making stuff up about him since the Bennifer days .They should leave him and his family alone.He’s happy and doesn’t need to prove it to anyone.
    Second of all ,y’all need glasses.Any one with any sense can see that’s his hair is real.Hello! he has a buzz cut.It amazes me how crazy people are.

  19. M says:

    Something is sketchy about their marriage, but I think it has to do with them falling out of love but staying married for the sake of their kids whom they both truly love and adore.

    Jen basically dumped/divorced her hubby, immediately began a relationship with Michael Vartan, dumped him and started dating Ben, and had a shot-gun wedding when she got pregnant. She’s really no different from Jennifer Lopez or Kate Hudson jumping from relationship to relationship, and why no-one called her out for it is beyond me. And Ben’s never been good a picking the best partners either, imo.

    I remember seeing them on Dinner for Five with Jon Favreau years ago when Daredevil came out. Their chemistry was electric and I remember thinking then that something was going on with them. The interview was in 2003 and Daredevil was filmed in 2002, so Jen was either still married or dating Michael Vartan at the time…yet she was semi-openly flirting with Ben. It just rubs me the wrong way when I think back on it. It just shows a lack of respect and commitment on her part to her partners then, and I think she’s pulling a Gwyneth Paltrow by being doggedly determined to make her marriage work.

    I wish them the best though.

  20. Stephie says:

    Aw, I hope this isn’t another case of splitstville. I like Jen (Ben, ehhh)and hope she doesn’t have to go through that.

    Why anyone in Hollywood ever gets married is beyond me. Never seems to last. Poor kids.

  21. Joanne says:

    It’s common knowledge that he is balding.. and has always worn a rug.. perhaps he has had plugs now .. but it is not “crazy” It was only a matter of time… he is NOT husband material and never will be… bet they will anounce seperation w/ in 6-9 mo if that. New underwear is not gonna work I agree with the poster who said Jen is w/ o commitment in the past… I would also love a thing on balding celebs..

  22. Butch says:

    You have to be totally blind NOT to see how smitten this asshole is with his young co-star. What a complete idiot! Grow the F-up Ben. A true shame your wife had to up-root and drag the family to Boston as a reminder.

  23. Birdie says:

    Who knows what they are like behind closed doors….

    However, just from playing photo assumption… It looks to me that Ben is crushing hard. Look how he’s leaning in towards her. His body language is saying he wants her, badly.

    But I agree with the poster who says Jen Garner won’t let her marriage collapse. She’ll stick it out. Her whole image is based on the wholesome soccer mom thing. Divorce just doesn’t work very well with that image.

    Also, would it kill her to dress a little more stylish?? She’s in Hollywood for cripes sake. If this was a regular woman, her wardrobe would be fine, but in an industry where appearances are everything… Her style totally sucks and isn’t very attractive at all. Definately looks dowdy.

  24. nemesis says:

    Blake is kind of beige. She has thin lips and a big nose but is ok looking. I cannot stand Garner (seems like a bitchy soccer mom, and she acts so prissy in interviews. I think she acted a little over the top offended at Gary Busey’s hilarious red carpet fiasco – you tube it)
    and I always notice how dumpy she dresses. Wear flats not those chunky running shoes all the time. Wear something cute for YOURSELF, it does wonders. This coming from a mom. Added benefit your husband notices and also might take you less for granted- knowing you are still a hot piece and he better god d amend behave! Not saying she has to even come close to being fully ‘done’ when she goes out (she’s naturally pretty, way prettier than BLake- better features period.)
    but just pay attention to herself more.

    It seems Ben has cleaned up his act but yeah he’s a guy. They flirt sometimes. But if Jen IS in mom mode, as often happens esp. after more than one kid then some men crave attention and flirt more. Sucks but true. Hopefully they can find a balance. And Jen is older thank Blake but she is far from looking old. She should start pulling out the stops and remember some tricks from her Alias says and all will be wellP:)

  25. JOYCE says:

    Just an FYI, Jen had a movie that she filmed in boston in the spring, she and the entire fam stayed here and Ben kept the house and stayed through for his movie. She finished filming and is now out here. This is what they do, one films and one takes care of the kids…She also has family in Boston so it’s not to just follow him out here…they plan these trips out.

  26. megan says:

    If that was my husband I’d be pretty pissed. His expression towards Blake is SO a guy with a crush.

  27. Sharon says:

    Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner always seemed like a mismatched couple to me from the start. Ben was always attracted to the hot bombshell type of woman like Jennifer Lopez or Blake Lively yet he ended up with the homely girl next door. It was only a matter of time before he became bored with Jen Garner and the novelty of someone different wore off. Their marriage started off as a shotgun wedding and they are nearly always doomed. This is the first time Ben has looked alive and happy and it’s not with his wife.

  28. Mary says:

    “She’s sick and tired of being the only one invested in their marriage. He comes and goes as he pleases. Jen told Ben he needs to get more involved.”

    Ben was the perfect husband in Jennifer Garners eyes tall, handsome, rich, successful she finally got the prize she always wanted except she wasn’t the prize Ben always wanted. Jennifer Garner was the girl you settle for when she gets pregnant by accident and the girl you really love marries someone else.

  29. y says:

    maybe ben is not the type of husband, he must not have family just like clooney, and play everyday with younger girl, who make him funny. he is just a playboy, play old man type man, just like sean penn. their marriage seems over, he seems just hate her, so maybe divorce is a good decision for them, longtime involvement of children for difficulties, seems never solves problem between mom and dad is not good for children. jen must not meets your children with ben. he will have another baby boy for him with yappie. dump cheater. cheater is always cheater.

  30. jy says:

    y…..agree with you. hahahahaha~~~
    he hate his kids, too!!!!
    he always looks unhappy and miserable with his family.

  31. Alexa says:

    Hello!?!?? Jennifer Garner is doing the most important, BEAUTIFUL job in the world right now – and by the looks of it, doing it quite well! If Ben (or anyone else) can’t see that, well – that’s just sad. Jen’s beauty is burning brighter than any celluloid, hollow, movie-star beauties’ ever can or will. Perhaps Ben’s not quite the man he claimed to be. But please do NOT demean Jen while you’re in the process of figuring it all out!

  32. iris says:

    Jen got away with it for 4 years now…but dears, the end is near.

    Ben cannot care less! He likes WOMEN, he likes flirting, he likes all the attention, he is surrounded by beautiful girls all the time.

    He did the right thing by getting married to his pregnant girlfriend but he is a Hollywood star and he wants to take advantage of it.
    Who can blame him?

  33. Lisa says:

    The spelling on this site is appalling…that said, no one has mentioned that he is a director directing an actress…. He’s too smart to mess with his actress. This picture is of them discussing their scene (who are not involved in the film by the way, she is someone he is trying to get away from Rebecca Hall is the love interest)I doubt if any of this is true. Star is just blowing it out its ass like always…

  34. Lisa says:

    And you know what they say. “he’s married not dead” Give him a break

  35. Abs says:

    Ben Affleck is a total dullard and not attractive. He’s a joke, and has become the creepy old dude and he’s not even 40.

    It’s odd because when he married Jennifer Garner he was on the threshold of loserville and lucked out with Garner. It kind of seemed like they both needed someone so they got together out of convenience.

    How is it turned around now that she’s a ball and chain and he’s the big prize? His acting career is still a joke, he’s aging, he acts like a creep and is not half as clever or smart as he thinks he is.

    His buddy Matt Damon blew him away success wise because at least Matt Damon has some substance.

    Meanwhile, his adorable kid doesn’t seem happy around him so maybe he’s a big ole pain in the butt.

    Jennifer Garner gave up two really cute seemingly good guys for this dud.

    Also, Blake Lively is a dreadful actress. Why do they keep casting these terrible actors in films. That laugh makes you want to scream, and she is not attractive. Hulky thick body, generic face. At least she has good taste and judgment in guys as Penn Badgeley (sp?) seems decent. Why would she ever pick Affleck over him.

  36. twokids says:

    Why does Ben always has a long face whenever he is with Jennifer? It can’t be because he is mad at the pap’s as they are there when other pictures of him without her are taken and he doesn’t have that long face.

    Also, while I do like Jennifer she did dumped her husband for Michael Vartan and then dumped Mike for Ben, which in my opinion was a huge mistake, but that was her choice.

    There is also a rumor that Ben fathered a child at the beginning of his relationship with Jennifer and that he has been sending money to the mother of the child ever since. But, whenener the money is late, the “fling” threatens to tell Jen and he starts paying again. So maybe Jen just found out about this and that is why there are rumors of them splitting. Personally, I think she is better off without him. Besides, she is always alone with the kids. At least I never see Ben with them, only very seldom. For information about the paternity rumors check it out at

  37. jann says:

    i agree with abs, about Blake whats her name, not attractive at all, looks like a blond doofus air head, what happen to great actress, beauty in film, some intelligence, they let anyone in now, gosh!!! Jennifer has way more substance, acting skills,beauty, intellect than, the blond, at some point you have to grow up, Jennifer has taken on that role well, Ben would be smart to follow.

  38. yousillygoose says:

    Whoa, not to overanalyze, but look at that third picture. That’s “the look.” Then again, a few isolated photographs of two co-stars who might have become friends could very well look just like this. Probably just a good paparazzi who captured some convincing moments. Who would want to give up a beautiful family like he already has?

  39. eternalcanadian says:

    of course ben is gonna flirt. he’s a male. all males are like that when they come across a hot gal. it’s that old biological thing, must spread my seed as often and to as many places as i can. plus jennifer doesn’t help matters much when she always looks like she just woke up. spend a few extra minutes and make yourself look good! i’m not talking about the obligatory red-carpet glam-up, but look at what she’s wearing in that picture. she always looks like that, quite frumpy, her hair a mess, and just blah. i also wouldn’t be surprised if she isn’t giving ben a wild time in bed lately what with being tired looking after the kids and having her mum hanging around in the house (she moved in with them didn’t she?). fact is, when you got a hot and sexy guy for a spouse ya gotta make that extra effort even when you don’t feel like it in both the looks and bed departments.

  40. AnnaXt says:

    So sad to hear that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s marriage ended. Really thought it would last & was a much better & long-term match than his engagement with J.Lo. And if he wants to hook up with another woman, he’d better get someone close to his age, not Blake Lively, who’s young enough to be his daughter.

  41. 4Real says:

    Ben looks creepy with that hair or lack of. For me, they’re one of the least interesting Hollywood couples.

  42. jayjay says:

    what a lode of crap! These pictures were taken during filming on set: haven’t you all heard of “acting”. Until they actually announce that they are splitting it is all gossip. Jennifer Garner is a wonderful wife and mother and has a HOT body for someone who had a baby 8 months ago. As someone who knows Jen and some of her close friends, Jen and Ben have never been closer as a family and while they are working hard they both feel like their lives have never been better in terms of family and career success. Get your story straight before you write stuff like this!

  43. Familyfan says:

    JayJay – so happy to hear this. You know them? So things are ok with them?

    I love them together and hope it lasts. They have two adorable kids!

  44. sadie smith says:

    Actually, Jennifer Garner always had a crush on Ben Affleck and even when she was still married, she arranged for someone to introduce her to Ben but he apparently was not smitten with her.

    I’ve read stories that says Jennifer was the one that pursued Ben during their team-up with Daredevil. After they wrapped up the movie, Jennifer still kept in touch with Ben by calling him frequently.

    She obviously still had the hots for Ben after all those years. All this was going on while she was still engaged to Michael Vartan. She dumped Scott, her ex-husband for Michael Vartan because he was better known and dumps Michael as soon as she snared Ben Affleck, her ultimate dream husband.

  45. chick_tabu says:

    I’ve never seen flicks of Garner and Ben before they married or after. She’s always w/ the baby “alone” …therefore it was always obvious they didnt spend much social time 2gether. They defintely didnt have the same type of relationship he had w/ JLo, so I dont know how they even married, lol

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  47. jess says:

    “I actually think it’s Blake who would know when to stop, not Ben.” hahaha biting your tongue now? lol

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