Andrew Morton: ‘The Spare’ will always have a ‘primal jealousy’ towards the Heir

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Andrew Morton recently gave an interesting interview to Vogue to promote his latest book, Elizabeth & Margaret: the Intimate World of the Windsor Sisters. It’s obviously about the Queen’s relationship with her only sibling, Princess Margaret, who passed away in 2002. I was curious as to why – of all the royal stories – Morton would do a book about Margaret at this very moment. That question was sort of answered with this Vogue piece – Morton is drawing a comparison between Liz and Margaret’s sisterly rivalry and Prince William and Harry’s brotherly rivalry. There are comparisons to be made, and that’s worth discussing, of course. But I do think Morton sort of misses the mark – while the Queen was extremely jealous of Margo, the Queen never gleefully fed the press daily propaganda about Margaret bullying staffers or whatever. Anyway, I did find this Vogue piece interesting. Some highlights from Morton:

Whether there’s always tension between heir & spare: “There’s always tension, because the heir gets the final say, and the spare, however good, however brilliant, however dynamic, however charismatic they are, is always second in command, the wingman. Forever playing No. 2 on the bill. That’s been the case for centuries, and, in a funny kind of way, Diana recognized that. When I interviewed her, she recalled that she wanted Harry to be William’s backup in the nicest possible way. And, in a way, Margaret was Elizabeth’s backup in the nicest possible way.

The jealousy between heir & spare: “There’s an awful lot of jealousy because Margaret was the one who commanded attention and she loved the spotlight. It’s a complex relationship; it’s one of loyalty and support, but also primal jealousy. On one occasion Margaret slams into the Queen’s drawing room at Windsor Castle whilst the Prime Minister was there; she walks in and, in addressing her, says, “If you weren’t Queen, nobody would talk to you.” That is to say she wasn’t that interesting. You see this jealousy and you also see this loyalty that Margaret had towards Elizabeth.

The royal shadow: “Elizabeth was dutiful, stoical, an introvert; Margaret was extrovert, quixotic, emotional. They were the yin and the yang, and, in a way, every royal has a shadow self; Margaret was the shadow of Elizabeth, Harry is the shadow of William. And they’re different personalities but yoked by blood. It’s the same as Diana and Fergie—Fergie was kind of the shadow character, and Diana was the one who was illuminated. It’s the same with Meghan and Catherine—endless compare and contrast.

The Queen’s relationship with Margaret towards the end of M’s life: “As it was throughout their life—fractious. Margaret was tiresome and solicitous, but they were both very loving. It’s interesting that the Queen Mother died just a few months after Princess Margaret. The Queen made a public address—one of the few she’s made—thanking the 300,000 people that came out onto the streets and walked by her [the Queen Mother’s] coffin at Westminster Hall in London. She said privately if she had to speak as well about her sister Margaret, she would have broken down and wept—which, you can count the number of times the Queen has cried in public on the fingers of half of one hand. It was quite a remarkable admission. Initially, when Margaret was ill the Queen said “get on with it,” because Margaret always tended to be more theatrical about her illnesses—she didn’t have a cold, she had double pneumonia. So, people were a little bit exasperated by her. But when she genuinely had a stroke, in the royal family, you don’t “do ill,” you just get on with it. Margaret was keen to just get on with it and obscure any kind of illness. Towards the end, she really was in a poor state.

What kind of queen Margo would have made: “Some of her childhood friends thought it would have been more fun for Margaret to have been born first, to be born queen, because she was more extroverted, more extravagant, more theatrical. You would have seen a more metropolitan type of monarchy, with the arts, ballet—which she loved—theater, poetry. You wouldn’t have seen so much of the hunting and shooting and fishing and the horse racing; Margaret was a good rider, but she was far more a townie. You’d have seen Queen Margaret not spending the winter at Sandringham, freezing at the best of times; she would have been on a plane to the Caribbean.

What Diana would think about the state of the Windsors today: “She had fallen out with the family back in 1996, 1997 with the divorce. She would be, I think, very understanding of Meghan walking out on the family and she’d be arguing that “this is a girl from America who has a degree, spoken at the United Nations, is a social media maven, and she couldn’t take it for more than a year. It reinforces my own case.” That is definitely what she would be saying, because towards the end, if you recall, she was talking about getting a place in Malibu. She would have been sympathetic towards Meghan because of her own experience.

[From Vogue]

Can you imagine what a sixty-year reign of Queen Margaret would look like? The family would be a mess of course, and Philip wouldn’t be around, but there genuinely would have been so much sparkle and fun to the Crown. I know people are always like “Liz’s strength is how boring and stable she is,” but… is it really a strength? To just exist and be really bitter about it for decades? Of course these what-if games don’t really work when you think about the nature vs. nurture arguments of royalty. Liz was dull because that’s what she was taught as the future queen. Margo was allowed to be the social butterfly because no one cared what she did. You can’t tell me that William being raised to believe that he was the special one, the future king, didn’t warp him dramatically. Oh, and Morton is right about Diana, but that’s another impossible what-if as well.

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  1. Rapunzel says:

    Harry is not jealous of William. Full stop.

    • Frida_K says:

      And Will is simply incandescent with jealousy of Harry. Full stop.

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      Harry is actually relieved he is not the first born and has said so on many occasions. In fact the more children Kate have the better he felt that it put a distance between him and the throne. Good luck to the eternally trapped incandescent one.

    • PEARL GREY says:

      Harry has made it clear, countless times, that he does not want the throne, and with each Cambridge child pushing him further down the line of succession, he was thrilled. He has no reason to be jealous of William, who is forever trapped in a role he didn’t choose and can’t see his way out of, married to a woman he begrudgingly settled for and with more children than he really wanted. Harry has the wife he waited for, the children he dreamed of and the life he created with the partner of his choice. The only thing Harry would have resented about being the “spare” is the idea that his existence is to solely be thrown under the bus to let his brother and father look better by comparison, and being constantly stifled by having others try to take credit for his projects or sabotage them because he risked outshining his incompetent brother. William can have the crown and the burden that comes with it. Harry chose freedom, and his brother will continue to stew in jealousy that he never can.

    • Amy Bee says:

      Yeah, the jealousy between Harry and William doesn’t come from Harry.

    • Bibi says:

      I think the spare aere always be jealous of the heir unfortunately. That’s why spares are more full of life, more charming, more adorable – because they thrive for attention and they know there’s probably not too many consequences to their fckups. In Harry’s case, he found out on his own that he doesnt have to lead a life in the shadow of the heir. He is is own king. That f*cks up everything lol and it’s great because that’s how life and the world changes: with the black sheeps, and the Davids (vs Goliath) and the Rocky Balboas, and the Harrys and Meghans that end up making it on top of the world.

      • Isabella says:

        Charisma cannot be created. You either have it or you don’t. Some really bad people have charisma, as do some really good people.

      • BothSidesNow says:

        No, Harry has never been jeolous of Wilileaks, but Wilileaks is extremely jeolous of Harry. Harry has compassion, empathy, drive and is dearly loved by those in the military that he stood beside and those that he has helped over the decades with Invictus and supporting his buddies that he served with. The only jealousy is Wilileaks, with is due to his own unwillingness to become a better person.

      • Saucy&Sassy says:

        Bibi, I’ve read that Harry would have preferred to do the work without the ceremony attached to it. He would have been quite happy doing what he is now–just doing the work. I think the Army was a real eye opener to him for more than one reason. He gained a certain amount of anonymity–and he had to give that up when he left the service. I think if he hadn’t married Meghan he would have continued on with “duty” IF they had allowed him to pursue the projects that he wanted to. Big if in my opinion.

  2. Cee says:

    The problem with the Windsors is that the Heir is treated like a God while everyone else is treated like knock offs.
    If everyone got treated fairly and decently then perhaps they would be a functional family and BUSINESS.

    • STRIPE says:

      Exactly. I believe there is jealousy in that the heir is treated better than the spare. So of course there’s jealousy! But it also seems to me that there is some relief in not having to be the monarch- less pressure on the spare and all that. But they also have less of a clear role and life path which I imagine is difficult

    • notasugarhere says:

      That isn’t always the case. Charles wasn’t treated better than Andrew, still isn’t.

      • Becks1 says:

        I actually believe that was part of the issue with Andrew – he was treated better than Charles and it fed his ego right from the beginning.

  3. Nic919 says:

    Harry is actually breaking the spare mould but no UK “expert” will have the guts to say that. There is a clear difference between his actions and those of Margaret and Andrew, both of whom were / are jealous of the attention the heir got and it fueled their actions in their lives. Harry has openly stated he never wanted to be king and instead what we have is William who has been jealous of Harry’s ease with people and his ability to leave the restricted role. Harry carved a different path and is much happier for it.

    • lucky says:

      I agree totally about the ‘breaking of the mould,” but see it as more of a, he didn’t agree to exist in a shadow his entire life and truly just exist to support, bolster, and reflect light towards someone else, which is a terrible life for anyone! Nw, my deepest understanding of Margaret comes from watching The Crown (which isn’t real life!! they said with gusto), but it is lonely and terrible to not have true agency over ones life and she was dragged down by it. Harry stood up and decided to live his life, and it i working for him!

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      Yup! I think the main issue for Harry was he looked at the future and didn’t want to become another Andrew and be reliant on someone else’s good graces for everything. Having been scapegoated all his life, he knew if he didn’t leave the same intergenerational trauma would be inflicted on Archie and his siblings.

      • North of Boston says:

        I think Harry would have stayed with it, and *tried* to figure out a way to carve out a role for himself and Meghan, for example, doing the Commonwealth tours, public engagements, foundation work/organizing/fundraising that William has shown little interest in.

        But William and the rest of the RF, RR wouldn’t *allow* him to do that, wouldn’t *allow* him to have his chosen wife by his side while he did. Instead they ramped up endless attacks on Meghan, refused to defend her when the press was publishing lies about her … putting Meghan AND Harry’s child at risk.

        It’s like he wouldn’t have had the self-importance to break out of the mold *for himself* as much as he might have dreamt of a life with more autonomy, where he could follow his own initiative. But when his family was threatened and he could see that there was no way they could survive in the that toxic environment, it gave him the impetus to break away … he was not willing to stand by business as normal and let Meghan be torn apart on his watch. And he also realized that with her by his side, he wouldn’t be alone in the great wide world; they would be out there together, figuring out their future, together and caring for Archie.

        If you don’t give your brother, or son, or grandson a safe place to stand, a way to carve out ANY semblance of a safe life for himself with his wife and children according to your guidelines (which, I think, was what the initial ‘stepping back’ was intended to do) you shouldn’t be surprised when they decide to pack up the Rambler and get out of Dodge.

  4. Cecilia says:

    Harry quite literally said on tape that nobody wants the job of being monarch and when charlotte was born and a reporter said that he is now further down the line of succession he laughed in his face and said: “Good”. The suggestion that harry is jealous of william because william is the heir is just stupid. And tbh. I think Margaret was never jealous of her sister either. She was quite comfortable with her glam lifestyle. The only thing that she had difficulty with is that she had to give certain things up. Like the love of her life.

    • notasugarhere says:

      Margaret chose to give up Townsend. She could have married him AND kept her royal life. Letters in the Royal Archive reveal the Queen made a huge deal for Margaret. She’d keep her title, Apartment 1A, royal stipend, royal duties.

      The only difference was her children wouldn’t be in the line of succession, because Townsend was divorced with a living spouse. Therefore, the children would be considered illegitimate to the Church. Not the Queen, but the people who actually RUN the Church of England. No, the Queen couldn’t override them because she’s only the figurehead head of the CoE, like she’s the figurehead head of the UK.

    • Tessa says:

      Rather oddly, Margaret thought after she turned down Townsend that he would not marry again and she would not either. She was horrified when Townsend called and said he was getting married to a much younger woman (the marriage was a success) and she was upset because he thought he’d never marry again. So she more or less decided that she would want Armstrong Jones to be her husband although that turned out to be a disaster.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Also oddly, one of his kids ended up marrying into Belgian aristocracy and sideways the Lux royal family (son in law of Alix de Ligne, one of Grand Duke Henri’s sisters). So some of Townsend’s grandchildren ended up princes and princesses.

      • Elizabeth says:

        They don’t have the princely titles, as far as I know Hugo’s children are untitled.

    • equality says:

      The anecdote quoted about Margaret telling Elizabeth “nobody would speak to you if you weren’t Queen” is probably just the truth. But is it jealousy? I can see getting upset with a sibling who thinks they are God’s appointed when you know the truth that they are simply human and flawed just like everybody else. That’s not jealousy though, it’s realism. I think in the position I wouldn’t be jealous that the other sibling was higher up in rank but it would annoy me that it was based on birth order and not merit and that the sibling expected everybody to bow down before her.

  5. Lauren says:

    Margo would have been such a fun source of gossip, but at last, we got Betty. Harry is everything Bill wishes he could be and has everything Bill wishes he could have. Harry has the freedom, the wealth, zero expectations, zero duty, the beautiful wife, the beautiful baby boy (with a little girl in arrival) and Harry still has hair. Bill is bitter and it shows in a way that Margo never was even in her 60′s.

    • Eve says:

      If you have seen recent pics of Harry he has lost a lot of his hair. He has that friar tuck look.

      • Lauren says:

        Harry has had that bald patch for years! Keep in mind that Bill has been balding for at least 12 years, Edward is pretty bald (like Bill), Pedo Andy’s hair is pretty thin like Chuck and both have that friar tuck. Harry still has a LOT of hair for a Windsor man in his 30′s.

      • Snuffles says:

        Depending on the lighting, that bald patch can look vastly different. I’ve come to the conclusion, that yes, there is a huge patch in the back where his hair is very thin, but there is hair still there.

  6. Myra says:

    I think they’ve got that the other way around. There is a reason one is called ‘The Other Brother’ and ‘I am also Diana’s son’. Also, Meghan alone overshadows the entire family as an ensemble group. For an example of the impact of Meghan, see The Atlantic’s article comparing Meghan to the queen. Any comparison against Kate is unfair to Kate.

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      You are right. The only person I see on a constant PR offensive is Baldingham. He’ also spent the last years briefing the press against his brother and his sister in law. So much embiggening and propping up because deep down they know that the Sussexes’ natural charisma and hard work put the rest of them to shame.

      • Isabella says:

        It’s weird because William is not the heir right now. Charles, his father, is. Probably William and Kate will be in their 70s before he ever becomes king.

        If I were Charles, I would hate having my son constantly push forward like that. It’s like, look at me. look at me.

  7. Becks1 says:

    There is a primal jealousy towards the heir because that’s what the family dynamic nurtures and encourages. (and I dont think that Harry was “jealous” of William in a “I want to be king” kind of way, but I’m sure there was a feeling of “why is he always protected while I’m thrown to the wolves”.) It doesn’t have to be that way. We don’t see that dynamic in other monarchies. The fact that the spare is supposed to play second fiddle to the heir for their entire life and be HAPPY about it is very disturbing.

    We talked about this some a few weeks ago, but I have to wonder how much Margaret’s life influenced Harry’s decision to leave. I know its not pure historical fact, but I can imagine him and Meghan watching maybe season 3 of the Crown, when Margaret wants to do more work for the royals, and she is told no, and repeatedly sidelined (but can never fully leave either) – I can see Harry and Meghan watching that and thinking “oh hell no.” It had to hit a nerve for him.

    • Cecilia says:

      I don’t think it was ever actually in harry’s plans to leave the firm until meghan became pregnant with archie and it became blatantly clear the firm wasn’t going to do anything to protect them. I don’t think Margaret influenced harry’s decision much tbh. I do think he was frustrated with the whole institution in the sense of them protecting the heir while the spare was thrown to the wolves. But i think he wanted to change that dynamic from within and i also think he believed he could count on his brother for that. That maybe they could do it together. After all you don’t have to throw one under the bus to protect the other. I think harry wanted to start working more like a united family. While everyone else was fine with the way things were. However once his wife became the victim of that dynamic, he decided it was time to bounce.

      • Becks1 says:

        I don’t think Margaret was the sole influence, but I can see him looking at her life and realizing that things were never going to change, not for him, not for his son, unless he got out of there. Like it was more realizing that the dynamic was bigger than just him and that he could not change it from within like you said.

        So along those lines I do think that William was the biggest factor. Harry can’t change the “heir and the spare” dynamic from within if William refuses to let it change, you know? And we all know that William was doing the complete opposite of “supporting his brother” – he was spearheading a smear campaign against him and Meghan.

        It’s clear that at some point Harry realized it was never going to stop and never going to change and they needed to get the eff out of there.

        I wonder if someone like Louis is going to look at Uncle Harry and want to do the same.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Louis might, Becks1, because he’ll be the likely scapegoat for PGTips. William will protect Charlotte while Kate/Carole throw her under the bus.

    • notasugarhere says:

      Looking back, it is enormous that Harry created Sentebale at 19. Charles advised against it, but didn’t stop him (or allow courtiers to stop him) from creating his own non-profit outside of royal control. Harry’s been building a way out for half his life.

    • Cecilia says:

      @becks1i think both charlotte and louis are going to follow into their uncle’s footsteps eventually. And at the rate it’s going i will most likely be after they turn 18.

    • (The OG) Jan90067 says:

      There was an interview with Harry, 10-12 yrs ago, right after he left the army, where he said he wanted to leave the RF and set out on his own, but he’d do “his duty” to his Grandmother.

      Another interview with Meghan and Harry said that leaving the RF was something THEY DISCUSSED BEFORE GETTING MARRIED…that this was on the table. They knew they’d have to depend on Charles and TOB for financing and such, as well as being their support, but I think they decided to *try* to make it work, as a team. BUT…as we’ve seen, TOB and Keen Guevera made it impossible to do so. Harry finally had the impetus to leave: to protect *his* family.

  8. Dee says:

    The problem is William doesn’t want the responsibilities of being king either. He wants to hang out with his buddies and live the aristo life without the duties. Elizabeth didn’t need Margaret and Charles doesn’t need Andrew. The only reason Will needs Harry is his own lack of motivation and responsibility.

  9. Pétulia says:

    I don’t think it’s jealousy it’s just with the Windsors everything is done to accommodate the heir and at the expense of every one else especially the spare.
    Harry has no problem playing 2nd fiddle, and he would have never left if the palace in their quest to prop up William didn’t throw Meghan under the bus

    • Snuffles says:

      I kind of agree. I think if the Cambridges didn’t go absolutely berserk, the Queen and Charles might have been able to finesse the situation. Harry and Meghan were willing to try.

    • North of Boston says:

      Pétulia

      I agree. You’ve hit the nail on the head. Harry would have been happy to defer to William on protocol things, entering and exiting order, letting William and Kate be embiggened. But the fact that RF/RR didn’t just want him and Meghan to defer and dim their light, they wanted them to be willing to be ripped to everloving shreds if need be, for no go reason, and were willing to do serious damage to Meghan and Archie in the process. It was inhumane, and I think Harry realized it.

      Also, as he said in that interview, he could see history repeating itself … not RE Margo, but RE his own mother. He could see the writing on the wall – TPTB were never going to ‘call off the dogs’

  10. JaneDoe says:

    Margaret was probably drunk when she slammed into the queen’s parlor or whatever. Margo was a NOTORIOUS drunk.

    • Sandra says:

      Yep, Margaret partied hard her whole life. Hence her health problems and early (by today’s standards) death.

  11. JaneDoe says:

    And she was also a notorious TWAT. She wouldnt allow ANY of her staff to watch tv (even though she did) even when she wasnt home! And when she would get home, she would feel the tv to see if it was warm, to make sure NO ONE but her got to watch it. TWAT.

    • Lyds says:

      Came here just to say this. Margo was notoriously nasty and relished in being far more “grand” and flashy than the Queen. Way more of an Andrew than a Harry, but armed to the gills with charisma, wit and absolutely zero filter. People snickered behind her back as she considered herself a real thespian/show-tunes singer. She was pretty much a modern day Marie Antoinette so there is just no way the Monarchy would achieve any form of longevity under her rule.

      Source: a highly entertaining article in the Vanity Fair archives

  12. Nina says:

    I don’t believe for a second that Diana ever wanted Harry to have Margaret’s sad life .

    • notasugarhere says:

      Diana was the one who stressed to Harry that 1) William’s job was going to be much harder and 2) Harry needed to always support him. She allowed her own twisted relationship with her horrible younger brother to influence her parenting. She tried to guilt Harry into supporting William because her own brother failed to support her.

      • Tessa says:

        Diana may have had a rude awakening if she saw how the first son is playing head of the family. I think she expected it to be a reciprocal arrangement where they helped each other not one trying to ride roughshod over his younger brother.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Safe to say, if Diana was still with us many things would be different. Charles and Camilla would still be married, because Diana made peace with them before she died. But we’d never have heard of the Middletons.

  13. Kalana says:

    The “Spare” doesn’t want to be controlled and used by the Heir. That’s not jealousy.

    I think all the refusals to pay for expenses and security while the Sussexes were still working royals were partly attempts to drain Harry’s bank accounts so he would be even more dependent on his family.

    Charles is a terrible parent so he stood by and watched William use Harry and Charles also used Harry. Andrew and Margaret at least had some protection. Charles and William don’t want Harry to have any independence.

    • notasugarhere says:

      Charles didn’t stop Harry from founding Sentebale. He advised against it, but he didn’t stop him or get the courtiers to stop him. That’s important. Charles knows what William is, even had a part in making as awful as he is (royals and Diana did their fair share too). He knew Harry might need something else, a possible escape, and Sentebale was the first of those efforts.

      • Amy Bee says:

        Word is Charles wasn’t too keen about the Invictus Games either. Apparently Harry was only allowed to do it if he promised to leave the Army and become a full-time working royal.

      • notasugarhere says:

        If true, sounds like a deal struck to make sure Harry never outranked his petulant brother. William pulling the heir card and making demands. In the end, Harry has been allowed to found multiple non-profits outside royal influence, and not required to let William be part of any of them.

  14. Teebee says:

    It’s obvious, sad and pathetic that the RF are dragging “Margo” out of her resting place just to emphasize their mantra of loyalty and decorum. There’s an insipid doc on Netflix now about Marg and Liz that exists solely so some snippy Royalist can make a passive aggressive snark about how Harry didn’t stand up for the family and how he’ll regret it.

    Sadly the RF are too up their asses to be able to read the room, and any and all efforts to portray these fractures in the family as mere malcontent and disloyalty instead of progressive attitude shifts in a modern world, only serve to reinforce the growing belief the monarchy has to go.

    It’s amazing that everyday normal people, with everyday normal struggles, especially in a country as troubled as the UK, works so hard to maintain an institution of such excess, ill-gotten wealth, pomp and frills. The royals prance around living large on the public’s dime, essentially beauty queens cutting ribbons at supermarket openings, and their pitiful efforts are celebrated like they cure disease and poverty with a mere wave. I DO NOT GET IT…

    • Carmen-JamRock says:

      Its the typical bread-and-circuses phenom. The more of a struggle that daily life for the masses becomes, the more the powers that be offer them escapisms…..so the monarchy, for example, britain’s biggest source of circuses, puts on their spectaculars.

      Thats why the CarnivalOfSo-CalledExperts are running around like headless chickens, trying to hang on to the last event of the year (Diana’s statue unveiling) that theyre praying H will attend. They lost out on “the one year review” lmao…rmbr how they were salivating about that? They also lost out on betty’s birthday bash….thats been postponed. So they were looking forward (and still are!) with bated breath for the statue ceremony. I dont expect that event to be held. And even if it did, H wont be there. The best they can hope for is a zoom msg.

  15. Gk says:

    It is an unfair artificial construct for both the second born and all the plebes who are not royals but have to be peons/subjects. Why bow to someone just because of their birth and not accomplishments?

  16. Tessa says:

    Meghan is the one “illuminated” not Kate. Kate is bland and boring.

  17. Tessa says:

    And Meghan AND Harry walked away not just Meghan.

  18. Chill says:

    I think it is important to remember that the Royals are just that, Royal. They believe that they are our (and everyone’s) NATURAL SUPERIORS. God made them that way. That is why everyone must curtsy or bow to the Queen whenever in her presence. They are God’s gift to us. Never forget that they believe that. This influences all of their behavior. William is RIGHT BECAUSE HE IS HARRY’S NATURAL SUPERIOR. They all believe in this pecking order because God made it that way.

  19. Over it says:

    Harry doesn’t want any part of William life, Harry wanted william to be a real brother to him, kind , loving and supportive. William is incapable of that. He was raised to be all about me . But I bet william wishes he could have Harry life, too bad he is dull, boring and bland. And way too lazy to work for anything. And for the last time. Megs stands in her own box. She is no fergie or Diana. Megs is woman who had a life and a career and goals before all the royal bs .

  20. serena says:

    It’s actually the opposite, lol, the heir knows he’s incompetent compared to the ‘spare’ and so he seethes.

  21. Mina_Esq says:

    Except that Elizabeth wasn’t the heir presumptive until she was ten and after her personality had already formed. They always talk about Edward’s abdication being so selfish and a complete surprise, and how his brother didn’t want or expect to be king. Elizabeth is just dull. She isn’t dull because she was groomed to be queen. In general, I agree with what this guy is saying here. I get how there would be tension, but I don’t think it’s jealousy. It’s just that feeling when you are annoyed to see someone get praise for nothing in particular, and you want to roll your eyes and tell them to not get a big head.

    • Kalana says:

      I think it was Crawfie the nanny who wrote about how Elizabeth would keep getting out of bed to rearrange her things until everything was just so. Elizabeth has always been very focused on rules and order.

  22. DS9 says:

    The entire problem with the Windsors is that they make the entire royal such a sacrificial lamb sort of endeavor that it fosters the complete opposite, a deep seated resentment of those in their orbit who aren’t the heir.

    There seems to be this attitude that if the heir and/or reigning Monarch can’t be happy, no one else can be either. And they actively resent and sabotage the efforts of their siblings and younger children to work within what they were born to be happy.

    Royal life need not be a burden. Neither should those who are unlikely to succeed be forced to live some unrealistic life of self sacrifice and begrudging, surface level service.

    No other royal house lives this way.

    If you hate the monarchy so much, Betty, Charles, and Will, give it the hell up and stop using it to heap miseries upon the rest of your family. Lord knows you have the personal fortune to leave it all behind.

    • DS9 says:

      It’s also interesting to me how the British royals have very little power and yet raise their children as if they hold the divine right of kings in an absolute monarchy.

      These might be the least educated, least experienced, most useless crop of royals in the last 100 years.

      A few weeks ago I was looking at other royals from various houses both in Europe and around the world and the lack of education and expectations of the British royal family is staggering.

    • betsyh says:

      You are too sensible DS9 ;-)

  23. Ann says:

    Interesting that he didn’t talk about Charles and Andrew. From what I understand, Andrew was/is happy not to have to be King. He didn’t like Charles having any control over him but he didn’t want the job for himself, and was happy after Charles married and had two sons. He was his mother’s favorite, the more charismatic and outgoing one. Sure, he’s a creepy pedo NOW, but back in the day he was considered the best-looking and most dashing in a lot of ways.

    And that’s true of Harry too. He’s not jealous of William and he doesn’t want to be King. But he DOES resent being controlled. And he’s also the better-looking one (now, he wasn’t always), and the more charismatic one, and probably would have made a better King, but oh well, we must follow the rules!

    As for Elizabeth and Margo, Mina is right. It was said the Elizabeth was her father’s pride and Margo was his joy, and that was true before the abdication. Liz is a bore.

  24. Lizzie says:

    Morton is a hack who got extrememly luck when Diana gave him tapes for his biography. The whole rift is because Harry overshadows the other brother. That is the source of jealousy and backstabbing. Morton intentionally has it backwards. Also he skipped a few genterations. David was much more outgoing than his spare, and Bertie was shy and stuttered and thrilled not to be the heir. Also skipped Charles and Anne/Andrew.

  25. Veronica S. says:

    I dunno, I would think being the spare is GREAT. All of the money and prestige, none of the stress to inherit title.

    • Saucy&Sassy says:

      Veronica, the spare is just the scapegoat for the rest of his life. What’s stressful about that.

  26. Holland S says:

    I don’t get it. Harry and Meghan left. Will and Kate are popular in the UK, which is what they wanted. Everyone got what they wanted. Why keep beating a dead horse? This is a clumsy happy ending, but this is real life. In real life happy endings aren’t perfect, just satisfactory.

    • Catherine says:

      Because they ( the family and the media) didnt really want them to leave. They wanted them to stay so they could be used and abused. They were jealous of the Sussexes popularity but they wanted to benefit from it. They realize that the Cambridge’s are lacking in work ethic and charisma. They wanted the Sussexes around to make up for that. They wanted them to stay but be under their complete control to use as they saw fit. That’s why they can’t let go.

  27. Isabella says:

    I don’t see the “loyalty” in this. Simply bitchy and also rather delightful

    On one occasion Margaret slams into the Queen’s drawing room at Windsor Castle whilst the Prime Minister was there; she walks in and, in addressing her, says, “If you weren’t Queen, nobody would talk to you.” That is to say she wasn’t that interesting. You see this jealousy and you also see this loyalty that Margaret had towards Elizabeth.

  28. Grant says:

    I find the “heir” and “spare” terminology so condescending and patronizing. I just don’t give a rats’ @$$ about any of these people who think they are SO important. Here’s a hot-take. Every one of the Windsors eats, sleeps, and sh!ts just like the rest of us.

  29. Catherine says:

    Morton stating that Diana wanted Harry to be William back up is BS. There are tapes ( from when she was working on improving her public speaking) where Diana talks about how she wanted to protect Harry from being trapped in that spare role. She talked about how she knew she had to protect him because no one in the institution would. They only cared about William. She talked about how she felt she had to lavish Harry with more love and attention because of the way the family paid so much attention to Just William. There are numerous stories about how she angered the courtiers because she insisted Harry be treated the same as William. Yes. She recognized that William had a difficult path ahead of him and that he needed to be trained for his role of king but from her perspective that didn’t have to include sacrificing Harry. Also remember she was close friends to Andrew ( there was speculation that they would be the ones to marry when they got older) and particularly David (Margaret’s Son) when she was younger so she was very much aware of the difficulties of being a spare and did not want Harry to suffer in that role. If Diana had lived no way would she have allowed Harry to be used and abused as William’s and Charles’s scapegoat. The idea that Harry might be jealous of William is ridiculous. Harry has made it clear on numerous occasions that not only had no interest being King but that he on multiple occasions wanted to leave royal life all together.

  30. jferber says:

    Of course this is a trivial point, but Harry is in California where the best specialists exist to enhance the appearance. In other words, why doesn’t he get hair plugs like every other balding man in California? He’s only 36. He deserves a head of beautiful hair (and, of course, the life he chooses with Meghan).

  31. zinjazin says:

    So their whole life is guided by relentless jealosy towards their closest family??

  32. Margaret says:

    Every one of these “compare and contrast” articles and books about the BRF heir and spare relationship highlights for me the fact that the whole system of hereditary monarchy/head of state as practised in the UK and the realms is totally inappropriate in the 21st Century. The person who is the country’s head of state and represents the country and its people on the world stage should be someone who has a suitable personality and demeanour, and has had relevant training and experience and has independently achieved success and distinction in their career or profession, and, having reached that level is deemed suitable to hold the position for a period of time. This “heir and spare” conflict should not arise because no single family should be the source of the country’s head of state. The Windsors are not special or inherently suited to be the country’s CEO, and they should not be treated as though they are.

    • FicklePickle says:

      Agreed, though I usually frame it as ‘exhibiting a minimum level of competency in not pissing off foreign dignitaries and the allies of one’s nation’. Hereditary ANYTHING usually can’t meet that bar.