Jennifer Lopez dumped A-Rod because she was miserable & he was unfaithful


Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez finally split for good last week, after having a “soft breakup” a month earlier. I feel like J.Lo has been at peace with the breakup? It’s seemed that way in the gossip press – not a lot of post-split drama, and Alex is so clearly pining for her. That’s the way Jen prefers to leave a relationship, with the guy understanding that he f–ked up and she won’t take him back. Those are her favorite exes. Now Jen’s team has gone to People Magazine to put a bow on the split and talk about how Alex made her miserable.

Jennifer dumped Alex: Multiple sources confirm in this week’s issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday, that it was Lopez, 51, who ultimately broke up with Rodriguez, 45. “She insisted on it. There are too many issues that are unresolved,” says a friend of Lopez, who has been filming her upcoming comedy Shotgun Wedding in the Dominican Republic over the past few months.

She didn’t trust him & she was miserable: In the end, the sources say, Lopez could no longer fully “trust” Rodriguez, who flew to visit her in the Dominican Republic days after they publicly acknowledged on March 15 they were working through long simmering issues. “She has been pretty miserable,” says the friend, “and didn’t think it was in her best interests to stay with Alex.”

The lockdown exacerbated their issues: “They both liked spending more time together as a family, but it was difficult to keep that special spark when they saw each other every day,” another insider says of the couple, who were forced to cancel two wedding ceremonies because of the ongoing pandemic.

Alex’s cheating: Then, when Lopez headed to the Dominican Republic for work, rumors Rodriguez had a wandering eye added strain. While sources say infidelity wasn’t the cause of their breakup, “whether or not he has cheated doesn’t matter,” says a music source. “She won’t tolerate the fear of it in the air between them.”

Separating their families & businesses: While the onetime power duo, dubbed J-Rod, also have several business ventures together and share properties in New York, Los Angeles and Miami, “they’re especially sad for the kids since they are all so close,” says the Lopez friend. “It’s not a good situation but inevitable.”

Teflon Jen will be fine: “Jennifer has been in these difficult situations before. She is not one to sit around and cry,” says the friend. “Her kids make her the happiest. She is doing well.” Though ending things with Rodriguez wasn’t easy, Lopez feels at peace with her decision. “They will try to be friends, and there is respect there,” says a Miami source. “But they are definitely going their separate ways.”

She’s hanging out with Marc Anthony: She’s also found support in Anthony, 52, who recently brought Max and Emme to the Dominican Republic to spend quality time with their mom. “Jennifer and Marc have a great relationship,” says the friend. “Having him around while she has had to work abroad has been very comforting.”

[From People]

I’m fine with all of this. I’m glad “sources” acknowledged Alex’s infidelity, and I tend to believe that is how Jennifer really feels too. She didn’t dump Alex *because* of the infidelities, but all of that got added to the pile of sh-t she hates about him. Plus, he was so indiscreet and gross. Anyway, I feel like Marc Anthony constantly boosts her ego. He’s been in love with her for decades, even when he’s been married to other women. Also: I appreciate the fact that Jennifer is now the kind of woman who dumps a guy because he makes her miserable, as opposed to staying with an unfaithful bastard just because she can’t be alone.

Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez Call it Quits!!! **FILE PHOTOS**

Jennifer Lopez steps out with Alex Rodriguez and her blinding engagement ring!

Photos courtesy of Backgrid and IG.

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  1. GrnieWnie says:

    I always wonder how people manage these breakups when it comes to their kids. Do you think they ever consider NOT mixing the kids together until the relationship has really withstood the test of time…just because it’s very difficult for kids to have their own close relationships dictated by forces they have no control over? I mean, I would.

    • Esmom says:

      It’s the logical thing to do, to be cautious. But I think some people are not able to think that logically or clearly, especially when they’re all excited about a new relationship.

    • Yup, Me says:

      The kids are teenagers (or close to). Who says they have to lose those relationships just because their parents break up? They all have phones they can remain as close as siblings. They are old enough that their relationships aren’t just based on what their parents are doing.

      • GrnieWnie says:

        well no, they can’t travel to see one another. It’s really the parent who facilitates this. Given that, I always wonder why celebrities go so hard with these relationships and basically introduce “my new blended family” like six months in. Especially since these wealthy celebrity couples who travel a lot for work never seem to see each other much.

        I also wonder how much time they spend with their kids, too.

      • MM2 says:

        I agree that the kids don’t have to sever ties & I bet everyone pushes for them to still have contact. Will it be different, yes, but will still be. If you’re famous & dating someone long enough to start businesses & buy houses together, your kids are probably going to find out about the relationship anyway, so you might as well have them meet.

  2. Izzy says:

    At least she dumped him instead of staying miserable. Unlike Jana Kramer, who FINALLY filed for divorce from her sleazeball husband.

  3. Becks1 says:

    Just reading the headline – she’s miserable and he was unfaithful – yup, those seem like good reasons to get out of a relationship. Sounds like made the right choice and glad she did it before there was a wedding.

    • Jayna says:

      There were a couple of other women who said he was hitting on them and/or they had an affair with him. She ignored it. This one was so public and in her face and didn’t go away that she had to break up with him. I guarantee if he had been discreet and it wasn’t completely in JLO’s face publically, JLO would still be there. She knew the score with him. She accepted it, but only so far. He, of course, went too far: a reality TV star and TV show that milked it, and the story picked up speed.

      • MaryContrary says:

        Yeah-I have to say, this could not have come as a surprise. The guy is a known cheater. I think she just didn’t want to be publicly humiliated. Once the story of the IG woman got out to the masses, that was it-she wasn’t going to stay with him.

    • Carol says:

      I didn’t get that he was unfaithful in the article. Just that he MIGHT be in the future. I get why Jlo doesn’t trust him given his track record with other girlfriends though.

  4. Juls says:

    Hey Jen! I hear Brad Pitt is single!!! Just kidding! Please don’t go there……but it would be gossip gold.

    • whatWHAT? says:

      better gossip gold would be the reunion with Affleck, but I think she knows not to touch that mess.

      and honestly, I hope for a reunion with Marc Anthony. I think they are so well-suited for each other.

      • Becks1 says:

        One of their early duets together is one of my all time favorite songs – No Me Ames. This was during the big Latin explosion in the US with Ricky Martin “crossing over” etc. (I think its on the same album as I Need to Know.)

      • Katherine says:

        Yeah, Marc Anthony was the best fit for Jen. He was in love with her for decades, and they were equals in terms of fame and success.

  5. Lucy2 says:

    Good thing they kept postponing their wedding through all of this. It would’ve been a much more expensive split.

    • Esmom says:

      Maybe Covid was a convenient excuse, too, for her at some point, if she was beginning to get uneasy about their relationship.

      • lucy2 says:

        I was thinking that as well. If they really wanted to be married, they could have done a little ceremony in their yard with their kids there, and done a big party later when it’s safe.

  6. Rose says:

    I’m confused. They broke up on a Friday then retracted it. Then they promoted one of the brands they created. Now a month or so later they broke up again. Something is off. Was it all for PR??

    • Katherine says:

      Damage control. They never got back together, I think Jen just wanted control over the narrative again.

  7. Jayna says:

    Doesn’t she always have soft breakups for publicity purposes? She never wants to look the complete fool so manages it in a way I guess that she thinks saves face. Ben was the runaway bride, so the wedding doesn’t go forward. But she made sure to keep up a photo-op or two for a couple of months of them together, until she finally gives up and officially ends it when it’s clear he is out.

    Caspar cheats on her and publically humiliates her. She tries to save face and say they were already broken up (which wasn’t true). After it dies down and time goes by, she starts reappearing with him like nothing ever happened.

    She wanted A-Rod to fly out to her and then the photos of them together on her social media to show at first, nah,we’re good. She didn’t want it to appear she was dumped by Alex. Then she rolled out the breakup her way. She does everything to save face, but it’s always so obvious.

    • Solace says:

      Jayna, I’m loving your observations. 😍

      • Lena says:

        Jayna’s got her number! Remember when they (finally,you know she wanted it sooner) got engaged someone came out of the woodwork and said ARod had been sexing her for the past six months and had receipts. When Jen ignored that and went on you know it would come up again. Guys that old don’t change.

      • CityGirl says:

        Add to Lena’s comment,
        Didn’t he come back from the engagement trip hiding the beginnings of a black eye/eye abrasion? Every pic of them was him hiding in his hoodie and her looking absolutely Livid. I thought it was about that woman’s confessional as that happened at engagement time too.

    • Jegede says:

      Spot on Jayna.👌👌

      Jose Canseco has being outing A-Rod’s cheating & sexting on Jennifer, far back as 2019.
      I find it hard to believe J-Lo was unaware.

      And it’s odd people lionise her Affleck relationship. That was no picnic.
      By the end, Ben made a point to be very publicly seen at strip clubs pre-wedding and was practically telepathically begging J-Lo to call it off, before he did.

      • Yup, Me says:

        I think that’s because for all her skills, talents and ambitions career-wise, Jen is a stage 5 clinger in relationships.

        I’m glad she’s at least managing the optics more skillfully, now.

        I have a friend who was deep in the LA scene back during JLo’s Diddy period (which was a contract showmance, but still) and she told me a story of Jennifer walking around a party asking folks “Have you seen Sean? Do you know where Sean is?” And he, meanwhile, had gone upstairs with someone else. This was a common occurrence.

      • Katherine says:

        THANK YOU. You hit the nail on the head about her relationship with Ben. I remember all that.

        @Yup, Me, what is with her and cheaters? Sean, Ben, Marc, Alex, etc. I actually like Marc Anthony. But still, she always attracts cheaters. The one good man she married, Cris Judd – she left for Ben Affleck.

    • lucy2 says:

      Maybe she likes those few weeks of “he’s desperate to keep her and will do anything”.

    • Katherine says:

      THIS. They never got back together. That was just an excuse for her to gain control of the narrative again.

  8. ThatgirlThere says:

    Didn’t Jennifer leave her former husband Chris the dancer for Ben Affleck? Alex is an awful, weird insecure cheat, but she has cheated in the past.

    • lucy2 says:

      I think so. I remember she was married, Ben took out huge NYT ads praising her, and then suddenly she wasn’t married anymore and with Ben.

    • Katherine says:

      Yup. Ben actually delivered roses to her right in front of her husband. Thankfully, Cris remarried and is really happy now.

  9. Solace says:

    Did anyone notice her interview where she said he got her involved in these business opportunities she hadn’t noticed before. Like buying the sports team. I found that shady.

    Some women think it’s love when partners involve them in business. It can be entrapment. She tends to overinvest in her relationships. JLo deserves so much better and that would take some humility in recognizing her flaws instead of eating up attention from lowlifes. Bottom line, this coupling never made sense to me :(

  10. Ana Maria says:

    I’d like to think she dumped him because she finally noticed the size of his ears

    • Julia says:

      HAHAHAHAHA, amazing comment Ana Maria. And knowing that ears keep growing until we die, it’s a good thing she dumped him now ;)

    • Frida_K says:

      I cannot unsee his ears now…ay, dios mío…too funny!

      They certainly are pendulous and sizable.

    • Dierski says:

      😂 LOL, too funny, Ana Maria! And so true.

  11. Kristen says:

    She obviously shouldn’t stay in a relationship that’s making her unhappy, but she also seems like someone who doesn’t want to deal with the inevitable hard stuff in long-term relationships. (Or maybe even the normal day-to-day stuff.)

    • outofthecloset says:

      I don’t think a wandering dong counts as “the inevitable hard stuff.” Hard, maybe, but inevitable, no.

      • Kristen says:

        I meant this type of thing (in this relationship and others of hers): “They both liked spending more time together as a family, but it was difficult to keep that special spark when they saw each other every day,”

      • AMA1977 says:

        That stood out to me too, like…part of getting married (for the overwhelming majority of people, I know there are some outliers) is that you see each other every day. If you don’t like each other enough to spend lots of time together, marriage may not be your best destination.

  12. Jules says:

    The photo of her with her tongue hanging out is beyond pathetic. Everything we need to know about her, right there.

    • Justme says:

      Well that’s a bit harsh..

    • whatWHAT? says:

      because you’ve never made a funny face or mugged a bit for the camera, right?

      • Jules says:

        I’m an adult and I act like one, in my private life and online. If I was a public figure, I would be even more aware of the image I put out there. This reeks of desperation. As does defending celebs when they act like asses.

      • whatWHAT? says:

        well, I guess I’m just more desperate and not quite as mature as you are. though I don’t really consider sticking your tongue out slightly for a fun picture to be acting like an ass. I reserve that characterization for people who yell at “the help” or cheat on their spouse.

        I’m also an adult, but I don’t always act like one. I mug and make a face sometimes for the camera, esp when I’m with friends and/or taking a silly pic with my nieces/nephews. It’s called “having fun”.

        as a public figure, one with TONS of fans and social media followers, ESPECIALLY a performer like Lopez, you’d need to show “the lighter side” of your life, or you don’t KEEP fans. Even the multi-Oscar nominee/winner Tom Hanks takes funny pictures. maybe lighten up a little? It does make life more enjoyable.

      • Jules says:

        Yea, I just can’t relate to Jlo fans or anyone who sticks their tongue out like a dog. But you do you!

      • Jessma says:

        Such a weird overreaction to a silly picture. Not everyone is super uptight. It is ok to goof around sometimes, even if you are an adult. I don’t Stan JLo, but I actually thought she looked pretty hot in that pic.

    • Monica says:

      I thought it was cute. Like, “look what you’re missing, a**hole.” She looks great.

  13. Gina says:

    Have to say the comment about it being hard to keep the spark alive while they saw each other every day during the pandemic, was a little funny to me. Welcome to real life JLo.

  14. Jaded says:

    For the life of me I can’t understand why she even got involved with him in the first place. He’s a gargantuan cheat professionally and personally, and she must have known about it or been warned. Guy has a terrible reputation that precedes him by a country mile.

  15. Mee yo says:

    I’ll direct anyone to the Vanity Fair article on ARod that detailed his cheating on Cameron Diaz. The doormen at his building were tempted to tell CD that ARod would be kicking women out, as CD was pulling up. Just Gross

    • Andrea says:

      I was just thinking about Cameron dating him and wondering what happened. I bet she feels she dodged a bullet!!

  16. Andrea says:

    When he was sliding into Madison on Southern Charm’s DMS is when she should have given him the heave ho. Poor Jlo. She really picks some winners! She is like that girlfriend who manages to find the biggest jerk in town everytime!!

  17. Sarcasm101 says:

    JLo is one of those “I can change him” dumb chicks. So over her and him and her years and years and years of relationships.

  18. Lauren R says:

    My Dad dated a women for 3 years back when I was in elementary school. Her name was Susan. They broke up when I was in 5th grade. She and I had remained really close despite my dad and her ending their relationship. Fast forward a few years later when I was 15 and struggling with some issues and a custody battle ensued I called Susan and she started waking up early and meeting me at 5:30 am and she and I would go on a 3 mile run a few times a week to help clear my head. Running was her idea. Fast forward to when I was 19 and I earned a D1 college scholarship for running! Fast forward 10 years after that Susan was at my wedding she also had my back when I got divorced and lived with her when I was in post divorce transition. Now I am 41 and Susan is still a part of my life.

    My point is that as adults get involved with people who have kids just because the parents relationship ended doesn’t mean that the adults have to stop caring for the kids who were involved. I consider myself so lucky to have Susan in my life especially when my actual mother died of cancer when I was 25. It has been really amazing to have a strong women as a sounding board and an advocate for me through out my years.

  19. MangoAngelesque says:

    Honestly, I don’t think she’s any better than he is. She’s cheated on partners, so has he. She’s desperately thirsty, always has been. And if there’s any doubt to her character, the fact that she took part in the whole “force a gym to open for us so we can get our sweat on during a pandemic when gyms are under mandatory shutdown orders” should tell anyone all they need to know. I just don’t think she’s a good person…and that’s why she picks guys who aren’t very good people to be with.

  20. Hello Dannie says:

    I know she’s had work done and I wasn’t always her biggest fan but HOT DAMN she looks good! I hope she finds peace and happiness.