Going ‘damp’ instead of dry is about ‘improving your relationship with alcohol’

Do any of you do Dry January? In case someone doesn’t know what that is, it’s a pledge to not drink alcohol for the entire month of January. It’s a good way to jump start New Year’s fitness and financial goals because it means not consuming empty calories or spending a fortune on booze. Apparently, few make it the full 31 days. So there’s a new trend this year: Damp January. Damp January asks folks to cut down on the amount of drinks they consume and incorporate some non-drinking days into their routine. The important part about Damp-ening is that it’s a lifestyle shift, not just a month challenge. Becoming a Damper means reexamining your relationship with alcohol. Here are the ways to Dampen your life:

Reflect on Your Why: Georgia Foster, a world-renowned clinical hypnotherapist and author of Drink Less in 7 Days, recommends tracking any negative emotions that come up for you before you drink. Maybe you’re feeling tired, angry, bored, restless, or lonely.

“Once you’ve noted the negative, you can bring in the positive — specifically, thoughts, feelings, or memories that make you feel good such as love, laughter, or something that makes you feel safe. “Keep bringing emotions that ignite the logical, intuitive you before you drink,” suggests Foster. You’ll find you’re calmer before you drink and you’re able to curb “fast and furious fearful-based drinking.”

Commit to Alcohol-Free Days: If you tend to drink socially throughout the week, Foster encourages committing to several alcohol-free days (AFDs) per week. “It’s a beautiful way to balance weekly drinking — and also good for healthy sober sleep too,” she notes. If you’re a less frequent drinker, maybe you do a certain number of AFDs per month.

Find Alternatives: Dr. Carnahan says switching up where you’re hanging with friends can make a world of a difference. “You may want to choose different environments, like a coffee shop instead of a nightclub or bar or different groups of friends doing something you enjoy — hiking, camping, skiing, cooking, book club, etc. — that involves other activities you find enjoyable besides just drinking alcohol,” she notes.

And if you feel like you need to have a drink in your hand at a party, find a mocktail you like or another alternative (Dr. Carnahan likes San Pellegrino in a martini glass with lime) that makes you feel like you’re still participating in the festivities even if you’re skipping alcohol that day or have reached your limit.

Be Compassionate With Yourself: If you’re struggling to cut back, acknowledge that there may be underlying pain, sadness, or trauma that’s driving your substance use, suggests Dr. Carnahan. “There are healthier ways to deal with pain, but we must be compassionate with ourselves in the process,” she points out, encouraging people who are going damp (or dry) to be gentle with themselves as they’ll feel previously-numbed, painful emotions creep back in.

In times like these, she says you might spend time in nature, play with your pets, connect with friends or loved ones, meditate or engage in another spiritual practice in an effort to get connected and comforted.

“Don’t be too hard on yourself if you fail to keep your commitment,” says Dr. Carnahan. “If you are creating a new habit, it may take an average of many tries to successfully ingrain the new habit into your subconscious.”

[From InStyle via Yahoo!]

I’m having a little fun playing with the name, but I see the value in making moderation trendy. The article starts off by saying the pandemic really messed us up, especially women, when it came to drinking. I know the whole “Wine Mom” thing went from an occasional joke to everywhere during the pandemic. Much of the advice above is solid. It’s true that having a glass of something in your hand really helps in social situations. Not just psychologically for you, but also keeps others from pushing drinks on you. My go-to is always a soda water with lime, but I suggest a highball with ice rather than a martini glass. It lasts longer.

And while giving it a trendy name like Damp January and making challenges like non-drinking days may seem like this is more clever than constructive, I think it’s a good start. Again, the article is coming at this as a reaction to pandemic behavior. During lockdown, most people who weren’t already alcoholics were given a lot of leeway because it was such a difficult time. No one knew how to cope properly. It doesn’t take much to establish a pattern when it comes to drinking. And the best thing to do is break that pattern to avoid dependency. So while this might seem a little too packaged and California Sober for some, I’ll bet this helps a lot of people pull back. Granted, much of the article talks about a subscription-based app called Sunnyside that promotes this Damp approach. But let’s face it, apps work. They have a 14-day free trial so if you’ve been at all concerned with your drinking, you can give it a try. Or, if you are just curious, start with the steps above.

I’m just worried that once we commit to a Damp Lifestyle, someone’s going to come along and suggest we now go for Moist Living. Maybe Dewy Weekday Challenges or Humid Party Nights. These names!

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  1. AB says:

    Hahaha it’s an actual thing? I just said to my mom last weekend that I had already failed at Dry Jan and she said let’s just call it Damp Jan and we had a little laugh … I am going to send her this article. She is very much not online so I know she didn’t read it anywhere 😂

    • HufflepuffLizLemon says:

      My life is “damp” apparently-I didn’t realize how common every day alcohol consumption is.
      We’re doing dry and healthy, whole food January (no pasta, no bread, no processed foods, etc) and honestly, I am feeling better, clearer, brighter, which is…annoying since all the advice is right lol.

      • Becks1 says:

        We’ve been following the whole 30 for dinners only (so I’m eating healthy otherwise, tracking calories, etc but our dinners are all Whole30 compliant, but obviously not doing the program since I’m having toast for bfast etc) and I honestly have been sleeping so much better. I said to my husband – I think not having huge servings of pasta or rice or bread at dinner really makes a difference. I’m a “pasta person” as I like to term it lol so I can and will eat a HUGE serving of pasta for dinner on a fairly regular basis. Or we have rice or another similar side. It’s been sort of interesting to piece together how much my diet has affected my sleep overall, even when I think I’m being relatively healthy.

      • AB says:

        Yeah I didn’t realize how set in my daily drinking had become since I only have one cocktail (it’s in a big glass lol) after the kids go to bed, but it has been hard to give up! I’ve had better luck with the healthy eating so far. My husband and I aren’t following a set plan but we’ve set little goals for ourselves, like takeout only once per week and no late night snacking. We ordered one of those meal plan services to get us used to cooking at home again, as we’ve been so lazy about it.

      • HufflepuffLizLemon says:

        So I don’t track calories or weigh myself ( thank you therapy looool) which is how I separate my mental health from my long-standing body issues, but the healthy eating is amazing in how SHARP my brain feels. It’s like I’m thinking faster after 10 days of no booze and healthy food. *grumbles*

    • TeamMeg says:

      I’m doing Dry January… 14 days in. Splurged on Reeds and Virgils sugar-free sodas (stevia-sweetened, fancier than Zevia) to enjoy before dinner—in a wine goblet with citrus wedge, to feel fancy! Have been eating sugar-free, very low-carb Paleo for years, so sugar, flour and grain were already off the menu, but alcohol could be several times a week. Dry Jan going well so far. Think I’ll follow with Damp Feb, and try not to get too wet in 2023.

  2. Danbury says:

    Hecate! HAHAHAHA

  3. Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

    I think these names are a sign that we’re trying to live in the ‘grey’ areas of life, which is fine especially after these last few years. No one is fully anything, we’re complicated and these names help in their little ways. My sister has my niece in a competitive dance company back in TX and the ‘wine mom’ culture IS STRONG there. She often feels pressured to drink and it’s the only thing they do together. My friend once tried going sober and she was surprised and upset that so many people didn’t support her. I am a big social drinker but since moving to a state with legal cannabis – I have absolutely switched wagons. Not saying it’s healthier because I have absolutely noticed my increased dependence and usage but that’s my journey. LOL

    • Jessica says:

      Im in Alabama and my daughter does competitive dance and it’s definitely a thing for moms to get shitfaced, when I go to the bathroom at these places the trash cans and tampon trash bins wine bottles! I don’t get it, I’m not a big drinker anymore and certainly not at a child’s function.

      • Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

        She says it’s their way of ‘getting through’ and if you have to drink to make it through a weekend — perhaps it’s not the best activity that serves YOU. Which is a whole other conversation because the owner of the dance company is CULT LIKE. Maybe she encourages it as a way to keep them distracted and happy?

      • lucy2 says:

        Wow I can’t imagine that. I hope they aren’t driving themselves and their children home afterwards.
        I only have the occasional drink, I can’t imagine feeling the need for alcohol to get through an event. Chocolate, on the other hand…

  4. Normades says:

    Unfortunately I’m an all or nothing kind of gal, damp would just end up wet for me.
    Having no problem doing my dry January and I feel great. I’m getting to bed earlier and sleeping better, I have more energy and my skin looks really good. I’m honestly contemplating just continuing this into a dry life.

    • Becks1 says:

      My FB is full of ads for all those non-alcohol cocktails like curious elixirs (which is funny to me bc I do not drink cocktails, so a mocktail isn’t that appealing, lol) and the ads are always about how these elixirs help your skin and sleep etc.

      One person commented on them – “maybe its less the elixirs and more the lack of alcohol?” lol.

      • Normades says:

        Yea there is a definite industry being built on the marketing of « Dry ».
        I don’t need ready made mocktails or non alcoholic beer. I’ve just been drinking a ton of water and herbal teas which in addition to no alcohol is doing wonders for my skin.

    • Jay says:

      I too am enjoying Dry January. I also do this for Lent every year. I feel and look amazing for summer.

  5. Becks1 says:

    *raises hand* me!

    Well not really. Kind of. LOL. About a year and a half ago (summer 2021) I actively committed to a “damp” lifestyle. Drinking every day had just become such a habit. I thought back to pre-pandemic and knew I did not drink every day before that and I didn’t even think about it (like I would drink maybe 3 days a week but I wasn’t actively avoiding alcohol the other days, it just wasn’t something I thought about.) The pandemic really messed up my habits because for that first month or so, first two months, where we weren’t going anywhere and were trying to support local restaurants by ordering to-go containers of sangria etc – drinking every day quickly became the norm. but I didn’t realize how it had crept up on me, you know?

    So last summer I made a conscious decision to scale back my drinking, mainly bc I wanted to see if I could. Like I wanted to see if I could have one glass of wine and be done for the night, or if I would go for that second or third glass. And I could. So by doing that I basically stopped drinking during the week and I only drank on weekends, and by doing THAT I was just naturally drinking less on weekends. So thats been my norm for about the past year and a half. Some weeks I do drink more than others, but for the most part I’ve broken the pandemic habit.

    But December and winter vacation were full of lots of festive cocktails and bottles of wine LOL so that’s why I say I’m back to a “damp” January. I’m drinking, but wayyyyyy less than I was even before xmas (I had a glass of wine last Sunday night at dinner and that’s been it.)

    It’s also because I’m back to using My Fitness Pal and I’d rather save those calories for something else, LOL.

    Also boxes of wine are the devil, LOL.

    • C-Shell says:

      *raises hand, too*

      I admire what you’ve been able to do!

      Last year, I did dry January, that went into dry February and March. I was also eating a healthy Mediterranean diet. I lost a lot of weight and felt/looked great. THEN my sister and best friend planned a long weekend in NYC with wonderful food, cocktails, theatre, museums, lots of walking. I started slipping martinis (my favorite) back into my lifestyle, and wasn’t as diligent at eating healthy. THEN a big milestone birthday and, again, my sister planned a wonderful long weekend trip to the Biltmore. Great food, wine, cocktails, tours, walking. After that, I lost my mission.

      Now, I’m back to dry January and eating healthy again. I love sleeping better and hope to keep on with it going forward. I maintain my martini ritual with non-alcoholic vodka, which is meh, but seriously, it’s the ending a day with a relaxing, quiet sit-down. A splash of pomegranate juice in sparkling water is very satisfying, too!

      • dlc says:

        Ooh, what kind of non alcoholic vodka are you using? I’m tempted to try to make myself AF cosmos

      • Becks1 says:

        oh vacations are a BIG trigger for me! I just have to consciously remind myself when I get back that “vacation is over.” It used to be too easy to think “well okay so we just got back from this trip but my bday is in 4 days and then its valentines day and then we’re going away again so whatever, wine every night.” I try not to fall into that trap anymore.

        Honestly what helps too is that I’m really busy with kids activities and volunteering at school. It’s hard to do some of the school activities I do if I’m even the slightest bit hungover, LOL.

      • C-Shell says:

        @dlc — sorry for the delay (had to take the dogs to the vet for vaxxing LOL) — the faux vodka I’ve settled on is Clean Co; it has a faint apple taste, which is a little odd in a dirty martini (I’ve acquired the taste), but would be great in other mocktails https://www.amazon.com/CleanCo-Clean-Non-Alcoholic-Alternative-Gluten-free/dp/B09FJYJ89R/ref=sr_1_1?crid=37FCQ578CII6&keywords=clean%2Bco%2Bvodka&qid=1673623771&sprefix=Clean%2Bco%2B%2Caps%2C85&sr=8-1&th=1

        @Becks1 — that’s the problem in a nutshell. I don’t have kids to give me structure and purpose, plus I’m retired, so I only have self-discipline to keep me on the right path … 🥴

      • AB says:

        Ooh I didn’t know non-alcoholic vodka was a thing, though it makes sense. I am going to try this!

      • Becks1 says:

        oh also I got some non-alcoholic wine from Thrive Market and I actually kind of like it? I got the rose and a “dry-secco” one and they aren’t bad. I like them for the nights when I don’t want to drink but want something different than water or a LaCroix.

        (also I love Clevr Blends sleepytime latte lolol.)

    • Lizzie Bathory says:

      I’ve done dry January before & Mr. Bathory is currently doing it, but I’ve found that “all or nothing” doesn’t work well for me. (I’d be more likely to get to February & give myself permission to jump back in.)

      So after the holidays, I’ve been “damp,” which is working well. I’ve cut back a lot but don’t feel pressured. And I’m sleeping better. It seems easier to continue a more gradual reset.

      • Becks1 says:

        Yeah that’s my concern with dry january lol. My bday is early February so its easy to go from being dry to “LETS PARTY!” very quickly.

        Can I just say too how much I appreciate all the conversations here? So often it feels like you have to be that “wine mom” or you’re sober and if you want to talk about being somewhere in between it automatically means you have a problem.

        I think its helpful sometimes to be able to say to a friend “hey I’ll meet you for a glass of wine but thats it” and for the friend to say “okay” and not try to badger you to have another or whatever. Or to just say “I’m not drinking tonight but I’ll meet you out” or something without someone saying “omg are you pregnant?” or “omg are you ever going to drink again?” Like I think we need to normalize that the last few years were rough in a lot of ways and even without the pandemic, there are some aspects of our culture that need to be adjusted. Like I don’t need a mimosa to go to my son’s soccer game, you know?

    • ConcernFae says:

      I’ve never been a big drinker and my late husband couldn’t drink because of medication issues, so we really didn’t keep it in the house.

      One thing that did make a difference for me was when I was out and wanted a drink, to always have a glass of water first if I was thirsty. I’d drink my water and then be able to sip on my alcoholic drink and actually enjoy it. Before, I’d be gulping one down and then having another. Then I’d feel groggy, because alcohol makes me sleepy. I know they say not to drink before bed, but an old school grandma juice glass of cider while watching TV always relaxed me just enough.

  6. Mcmmom says:

    I did dry January in 2021 and ended up giving up alcohol entirely. I lost weight, my heartburn improved, and my skin looked better. I occasionally miss the ritual of drinking, but I don’t miss the actual alcohol.

    • Normades says:

      I think this is where I’m heading too.

    • Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

      I got pregnant during the pandemic and since I couldn’t do alcoholic margs and FT with my best friend she sent me non alcoholic tequila and it was called Ritual for that exact reason. In a mixed cocktail it definitely gives you that warm ‘burn’ that alcohol does. Highly recommend if you’d like to give them a try!

    • Genevieve says:

      I did this, too, a few years ago – Dry January just extended the whole year because I really liked it. I did go back to drinking after that, though, and the pandemic made it clear to me that moderation is not my thing. It’s much easier to completely quit, though, so I did again, in February 2021.

      One of the things I actually have found helpful is de-alcoholized beer, for when I want to feel like I’m having a grown-up drink without the actual booze. It’s surprisingly good (although I would never claim to be a connoisseur of real beer, lol!)

      Also, if there’s anyone here who wants to re-evaluate their relationship with alcohol, there are a lot of good books out there that helped me when I was feeling anxious about stopping in 2021. Quit Like a Woman, Sober Curious, The Sober Diaries – all interesting reads, all helpful.

    • JC123 says:

      I was recently prescribed meds that you cannot mix with alcohol– these might end up being lifelong meds. Even though I’ve never been a big drinker (like with most people, the drinking did have an uptick during the pandemic), I did have that moment of feeling resentful that drinking was taken away from me.

      But I’ve found that what I miss the most is the ritual, not the taste or the buzz. So, I’ve gotten a few cocktail books and got the ingredients to make Shirley temples and other non-alcoholic drinks.

      I am intrigued by 0 proof “liquor.” A gin and tonic was my go-to cocktail (I liked gin-based cocktails generally). I saw that the brand Ritual makes a few 0 proof liquors, including gin. Do people have other brand recommendations for similar products?

  7. Ann says:

    The pandemic made me realize I was an alcoholic, although I suspected it for many years before I admitted I have a serious problem with alcohol. It’s taken a lot of work to get sober with some relapses along the way. Today I am 32 days sober. I am using an app along with therapy. They both help tremendously.

    I like this “damp” January for others. All this advise is good advise. Thinking back on my triggers I always went to drink to cope with negative stuff. It became a crutch real fast. If I had stopped to think before I drank I think my experience with booze would have been a lot better.

    To any of my fellow CBers who are sober or trying to get sober best of luck! Thank you for posting this. This is one of the few sites I frequent that discuss topics like this.

    • Normades says:

      Thanks for sharing your experience. Like I said up thread I wouldn’t be able to do damp but if other people can good on them.

    • Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

      good luck on your journey! noticing these triggers, naming them and letting them have their time is half the battle. Same for anything you’re trying to change, my husband is trying Noom and it’s very similar in the way of just talking about what you’re feeling as you’re about to binge, or thinking about binging.

    • Lola09 says:

      Same – had been drinking too much for years but only truly crossed over into alcoholic territory during the pandemic and did so horrifyingly fast and hard. I don’t believe I will ever be able to moderate ever again and it’s tough to come to terms with that! I recommend the app ‘I am sober’ as it offers motivation, workbook exercises and has a wonderful supportive community.

      • Ann says:

        @lol, I cannot self moderate at all. It was years and years of denial thinking I could. For me, and it seems others, it’s either abstinence or being drunk.

        I am using some free app because I really just wanted a counter for my days sober. I will look into other apps as well. Journaling has also been really helpful.

      • Twin Falls says:

        I think it’s so helpful when people share their stories especially about how the journey can be messy and that you don’t know until you know and different things work for different people. This site on this topic especially is very supportive of individual paths and I appreciate that.

    • Ang says:

      @Ann you’re doing a great job! 32 days is a huge deal when you’ve relied on something for so long. I’m 9 years sober next week and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for my health and life. You can do it!

      • Ann says:

        Thank you Ang, and everyone else for the support and for sharing your experiences. I prefer reading them on this cozy site over an AA meeting frankly.

        I won’t be able to make this 1st year without the medication Antabuse and I have no shame in admitting that. I hope to one day be so far into sobriety that it’s not so much of a burden, but for now I’m doing one day at a time, usually with you fine folks 😉

    • Lizzie Bathory says:

      Excellent work, Ann!

    • TeamMeg says:

      Congratulations on your 32 Days, @Ann. (That’s more than a month!!) Keep going, just for today…you got this. ❤️

    • lucy2 says:

      Congrats on your accomplishment!

    • Sass says:

      Congratulations on 32 days!! That’s awesome. Proud of you.

  8. jo73c says:

    Soda and lime in a high ball is my non-alcoholic drink of choice as well. Even if I am drinking alcohol at the start of the night, it’s not uncommon for me to switch to soda & lime later in the evening. I know I’ve had enough alcohol, but no one else really notices you’ve switched. Gets you hydrated before you sleep as well!

  9. Chaine says:

    I do dry January every year for the last four or five years. I’m not trying to quit drinking altogether, but I do find myself drinking more than usual during the holidays and the dry month is a good reset to healthier habits. Overall I would say it’s helped me stay healthier in that I don’t keep a lot of alcohol in my house any more. When dry January is over, I will have drinks if I’m out to dinner or at a social function but it’s rare that I’m by myself in the house with a glass of wine which is how it used to be every evening,

  10. Mair says:

    I’m using Sunnyside for a damp January, though I’ve been calling it dry-ish. The app hasn’t been terribly informative, but I haven’t reached out for extra intervention. I’m just the type that does better when I need to report to something like an app. All I need is the positive reinforcement of my growing number of dry days and how much money I’m saving. Between that and watching my resting heart rate decrease substantially on my dry days (thanks FitBit!), I see no need to go back to old habits.

  11. Aang says:

    I was never a big drinker but since starting an ssnri for anxiety in October I haven’t been able to drink at all. I have no desire and the few times I tried a drink it just tasted terrible. I’m interested to know why I’m having their reaction to alcohol but haven’t really seen any information. I do mocktails though when I want to feel fancy.

    • AB says:

      I had a similar experience when I started taking Lexapro. I didn’t drink for prob 6 mos after, had no desire or taste for alcohol. In my case it was because my drinking was so tied to my anxiety and depression, like I was just self-medicating and once I started actual medication I didn’t “need” the alcohol. Now I’m back to drinking (a little too often, as per my earlier post 😬) but it’s more of a relaxing nightcap situation instead of a drinking-away-my problems thing.

  12. Twin Falls says:

    As an aside:

    “And word aversion, or “logomisia,” is a very real phenomenon. “Moist,” for instance, is famously considered to be one of the most repulsive words in the English language” which is interesting because what other word would you use to describe a healthy vagina? What a coincidence.

  13. Emmi says:

    My alcohol consumption varies wildly. I usually don’t drink during the week. I also go weeks and months without and about twice a year I’ll accidentally party too hard with my sister. LOL And then there’s holidays like Easter and Christmas where you spend time with family. Those days and weeks are always a very wine-focused because everyone relaxes and enjoys it. I wanted to to Dry January but there’s a birthday party tomorrow so we’ll see. I don’t believe in not enjoying a glass of wine on these occasions just because you gave yourself a rule. It reminds me of when I used to do super strict diets and wouldn’t eat during inviations. I quit the diet a week later and had nothing to show for it but a ruined evening.

    I never know what to tell doctors when they ask about alcohol. I don’t know how much I consume on average. When I had surgery last year, I said I had no idea and the doc asked “Do you drink regularly?” – “Well, not every week if that’s …” – “Oh then you don’t drink-drink.” and put “No”. He really just wanted to know if there’s a chance I’d try to sneak a beer the day after surgery. I was suddenly very grateful that this isn’t an issue for me and doesn’t run in my family.

  14. LMB1013 says:

    I have been doing the Sunnyside app for two months now, and it has honestly helped me understand the difference between mindful drinking and habit drinking. And I have learned that I was pretty good at habit drinking. Now, my goal is to have a drink on special occasions, not a bottle of wine just because it’s 5:00 pm and a Tuesday. I like the check-ins on the app with counselors. My dry’ish January challenge is 5 dry days and I have done really good. I love the way I feel.

  15. Suze says:

    That’s basically what I’m doing, though I’ve been calling it a modified Dry January. No drinking on school nights, essentially. I have noticed that I’ve been sleeping better, and I lost three pounds the first week! I think I’ll likely keep it up through the year. Like so many others I started drinking too much during the pandemic, and need to rework my relationship with alcohol. We’ll see how it goes, but so far I’m happy with it.

  16. MissMarirose says:

    I love all these comments about people who saw improvements in their health after Dry January. I’ve tried it a couple of times and nothing changed. I think I slept better for a couple of days but then went right back to tossing and turning. I didn’t lose a single pound or have an improvement in my skin. I wish I had!!

  17. Zazzoo says:

    I’m doing dry Jan to lose the pandemic weight. I was 5 pounds down, but then had one cheat day and I’m back up two pounds. Alcohol is evil. But evil isn’t a deal breaker for me. Not switching to damp Jan, trynnna be good now, but damp Feb fersure.

    • C says:

      “Alcohol is evil. But evil isn’t a deal breaker for me.”

      LMAO. If this doesn’t just sum me up, lol.

  18. art maven says:

    Hope you post more Hecate!

    I’m wobbly with my intermittent fasting over since the holidays, but I’m cleaning up my act and back into yoga. Leaving holiday consumption behind is a relief.

  19. Kate says:

    I got stuck on “logical, intuitive you” and couldn’t take the rest of the article seriously. Aren’t logic and intuition polar opposites? I think they’re trying to say don’t emotional-drink, like emotional-eating. But if the suggestion is that you try to logic away your negative emotions (think happy thoughts! not sad thoughts!) that’s gonna fail miserably.
    – signed, a lifelong talker out of my own emotions

  20. H says:

    I like this concept and your write up. My life is basically damp except for holidays and vacations sometimes (depends on the kind of vacation). I never really got into Dry January and never attempted it bc complete prohibitions on anything (well most things lol) never really made sense to me. If I was that worried about alcohol and my usage of it that I needed to ban it for a month, that’s a deeper conversation for me to have with myself and maybe a trained professional about why it’s so much that I need to “dry out.” If it’s a tolerance thing I get it, but it’s still the same conversation. Any time I banned something it became more attractive to me (“dont imagine a pink elephant”) so there was no point. And when my drinking did get bad during the pandemic (I was having two beers a day which is not moderate, it was like 8-14 drinks a week for me, for a couple weeks) I just looked at why. I switched out one of the beers for sparkling water bc I realized I just liked the carbonation but didn’t want a lot of extra sugar like in soda. Then before long at all I was having a beer every other day and then twice a week. Dampness as a lifestyle move is great, adn those who feel inclined (like me, maybe) can graduate to a sprinkling where we only drink on holidays or special occasions (birthdays, promotions or new jobs which dont tend to be regularly repeating things, etc). I like this. Normalize it!

  21. HeyKay says:

    No liquor for me since I’m now on several different meds.
    I grew up with the bedtime snack habit, which I am now trying to turn into a “I will have a nice glass of seltzer water” habit. Zero calories but still a little treat.

    Try losing weight after 60. It is work, every carb or piece of chocolate in the house, seems to call my name. 🙂

    The rise in grocery prices has stopped me having potato chops and dip as a snack.
    I am not paying $6.49 for a bag of Lays potato chips, ever.
    Good Luck to us all on our quest for be healthier.

  22. Sass says:

    For a long long longggg time we were too poor to afford alcohol so when we finally were able to we actually put in a well stocked home bar because we were already too old to enjoy going to a bar or pub or club 🤣 but after a couple of years we began to cut back on our consumption – which wasn’t heavy to begin with, but more than we wanted to keep doing. I would go whole months not touching a thing and saving it only for special occasions. Then, this October, I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. The meds I take can exacerbate liver damage when drinking, so I’ve been mostly sober since the diagnosis. I’ve had some drinks on major holidays since, but I’m actually at the point where I’m not all that interested in alcohol anymore. I DO do Damp January but I don’t call it that because it’s not a “thing” for me. Last night I went to a bar with my husband and friends and drank water 🤣 but last week I had a glass or two of wine with dinner we had with friends at our place. I probably won’t have another drink until Valentine’s Day. There are some yummy nonalcoholic alternatives out there from brands like Seedlip and our city even has a couple of “sober bars” which even welcome kids since, you know, no booze. It’s pretty cool. Anyway I know not everyone can turn it off, but for me when I heard the medication that will save my life could also kill me if I drink regularly (which could kill me anyway without meds), the choice was easy.

    • Sass says:

      PS I also drink a gallon of water a day so that’s probably another reason why I’m not interested in drinking, I’m about to float away 🤣

  23. Eliza says:

    I’m an alcoholic that’s been sober for 15 years through AA and that’s worked for me. But one of the things about damp january that’s important is to check in on how hard (or easy) it is to cut down the number of drinks per week or day. A lot of alcoholics look back on their drinking days and remember justifying their drinking by being able to go a number of days or weeks without a drink. Like I can’t have a problem b/c I didn’t drink all last week. But most alcoholics I know would not have been able to moderate their drinking once they stated. In some ways that can be harder.