‘Spare’: Prince William always blamed Meghan for KP staff strife

I finished Prince Harry’s Spare last Friday and I’ve been stewing on it ever since, going back to different chapters, thinking about how carefully Harry chose his words in certain situations, and what he chose not to say. While Spare is an incredible historical document, I do feel like it’s incomplete. As Harry told Bryony Gordon, he cut about 400 pages from the first drafts, enough for a whole other memoir. There’s also a sense that he didn’t want to “get into the weeds” of who said what to whom, especially when it came to staff issues within Kensington Palace. I’m left feeling like… wow, I hope Meghan writes her memoir, because she’s going to provide us with more of those kinds of details. In any case, Harry does describe in general terms how everything fell apart within the Kensington Palace office during and after the Sussexes’ wedding.

Our staff sensed the friction, read the press, and thus there was frequent bickering around the office. Sides were taken. Team Cambridge versus Team Sussex. Rivalry, jealousy, competing agendas—it all poisoned the atmosphere.

It didn’t help that everyone was working around the clock. There were so many demands from the press, such a constant stream of errors that needed clearing up, and we didn’t have nearly enough people or resources. At best we were able to address 10 percent of what was out there. Nerves were shattering, people were sniping. In such a climate there was no such thing as constructive criticism. All feedback was seen as an affront, an insult. More than once a staff member slumped across their desk and wept.

For all this, every bit of it, Willy blamed one person. Meg. He told me so several times, and he got cross when I told him he was out of line. He was just repeating the press narrative, spouting fake stories he’d read or been told. The great irony, I told him, was that the real villains were the people he’d imported into the office, people from government, who didn’t seem impervious to this kind of strife—but addicted to it. They had a knack for backstabbing, a talent for intrigue, and they were constantly setting our two groups of staff against each other.

[From Spare by Prince Harry]

After this, Harry explains how Meghan “remained calm” and made efforts to spread kindness, from handwritten thank-you notes to baskets of food and flowers. She hosted tea parties and ice-cream socials for staff and “shared all the freebies she received, clothes and perfumes and makeup, with all the women in the office.” Meghan also bought “new lamps and space heaters, all bought with her personal credit card” for office staff. Not only was Meghan buying furniture for that dilapidated shack, Nottingham Cottage, she was also buying sh-t for the people working in KP’s offices? Jesus.

As for Harry’s explanation that William had brought in Tory political operatives who thrived on conflict, that’s definitely interesting. But I also think Harry has it the wrong way around when he writes “Willy blamed one person. Meg. He told me so several times, and he got cross when I told him he was out of line. He was just repeating the press narrative, spouting fake stories he’d read or been told.” William wasn’t just “repeating” what he’d been told or what he read – William, Kate and their staff were the sources. Once again, I was saying this before Harry and Meghan even got married – there was always a clear and obvious need for the brothers to have separate offices. It was shocking incompetence from Clarence House and Buckingham Palace to not realize that months or even years before the Sussex wedding.

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  1. Abby says:

    Yeah this shows Harry’s heart and wanting to think the best of his family.

    William wasn’t “repeating” stuff the media said. His staff was SENDING it to the media.

    • Brassy Rebel says:

      With William’s blessing.

    • K says:

      This is why it makes no sense for Harry to keep saying “Meg and I never said my family is racist. The British media is racist.”

    • Becks1 says:

      Exactly. Harry is acting like these tabloid headlines came out of nowhere, but there was a source for them, including the 5 am emails (which Harry refers to in the book.) It seems like even here though Harry is blaming the staff for leaking and feeding off the tension etc, and still not fully acknowledging at this time that the leaks were with William’s full approval/authorization.

      I wonder if he did not fully accept that until Jason Knauf went to the MoS?

      • Jais says:

        This is a really good question and I wonder if you’re right. Until Jason offered evidence for the MOS, was he still wondering? The bullying emails released right before the Oprah interview would also have been confronting but the MOS was even worse. Really do wonder when the it clicked bc it’s unclear from reading the book.

  2. equality says:

    BP kept PH under KP with Will because PH was the source of any good ideas they had and brought more popularity to them. And to keep selling the fiction of Di’s boys being close. That’s why there was so much whining and wanting him to forever be the third wheel in their relationship.

    • Naomi says:

      great point!

      • Well Wsher says:

        Since PH could not trust KP nor BP they should have had their own smaller office.

        But inevitably, the attitude towards the Sussexes, was not conductive to a healthy working relationship.
        The environment was toxic, full of envy and fear.
        Meghan’s competence did not fit the stereotypical expectations, it did not centre the Cambridge’s especially Kate.

    • Soapboxpudding says:

      100% this

    • Deedlebug says:

      BP never had any control over KP. KP was funded entirely by Charles not the Queen. Charles knew that William and Harry could never trust his staff because they had been constantly leaking to the tabloids about them. So, rather than fire the untrustworthy staff, he gave William and Harry their own independent office. The mistake BP made was allowing Charles to have his office run completely independently in the first place.

  3. Moderatelywealthy says:

    “The great irony, I told him, was that the real villains were the people he’d imported into the office, people from government, who didn’t seem impervious to this kind of strife—but addicted to it”

    Harry does not say it, but he blames the Tories and what he does not realize because he seems to believe William is just brainwashed by the media, which implies that William was being misguided, but acting in bad faith, is that William is a Tory through and through, and feigning indignation is Tories/ Trmpsters way.

    It is not an accident that William thinks therapy has turned Harry against him and is bored with racism- this , among other things he said, indicates thet William is as ” anti woke” as a Fox News presenter

    • Chloe says:

      Hhmm harry also mentions in his book that william once let it slip that Brexit might not be a good idea. This was around 2015/2016. And i don’t think harry blames Tories in general but 1 person in particular: Simon Case. Aka the same guy who was responsible for the discord is BoJo’s government during the pandemic

      • Jenn says:

        William said it to a farmer on a visit with Kate. This isn’t a secret. William, infact the royals are tories. That’s why Charles appointed John major, William and Harry’s guardian after Diana died.

      • BayTampaBay says:

        Did Charles appoint John Major guardian of William and Harry’s trust fund (money from Diana’s estate) after Diana died or was it QEII?

  4. Lucy says:

    I can’t believe how much Meghan took out her credit card for their ungrateful asses. Buying space heaters for a bunch of whiny liars who immediately called someone to cry that she was duchess difficult. Burn it down.

    Anyway. Harry was supposed to be happy with crumbs, that’s what they were conditioning him for his whole life. If they’d wanted there to be actual work accomplished, they should’ve made William and Kate start doing it years earlier.

    And, if Charles is as much of a control freak about work as Harry hints, I don’t see why there was a KP to begin with. There wasn’t enough work to keep their staff busy, and they were slapped down by BP all the time in theory.

    And then Harry and Meg come blazing in and no one was ready for true believers who thought they were there to make a difference.

    • equality says:

      Charles maybe didn’t want to work directly with Will because of his incandescence and laziness? Or didn’t want witnesses to all his money laundering schemes or to have to share the ill-gotten goods? Or he didn’t want PW to take credit for things Charles came up with like he did with PH’s work?

  5. Brassy Rebel says:

    So Meghan was buying lamps and space heaters to make the staff comfortable only to have them anonymously accuse her of “bullying” them. Can’t make this 💩 up.

    • Soapboxpudding says:

      The level of gaslighting is astounding. Meghan being a genuinely kind person must have been so foreign and infuriating to them. She was so unprepared for that vipers nest.

    • Sarah Nguyen says:

      I wonder if the point came when her credit cards were maxed out because of all this extra purchasing she was doing that she shouldn’t have been doing. I wonder if at some point her and Harry were actually broke and could no longer live in those kind of circumstances anymore. I truly hope Megan no longer behaves in this way because she hurt herself in the process. She was overdoing for people that didn’t really care about her. I also feel myself being frustrated and Harry. His wife should not have been swiping her credit card for all these things. I get the sense Megan wanted so badly to belong and I don’t really understand why a sense of self-preservation never kicked in. I also don’t understand why Harry didn’t tell her to stop doing too much

      • BeanieBean says:

        Pretty sure lamps & space heaters were a drop in the bucket for Meghan. She was in no danger of going broke.

      • C says:

        She was a self-made millionaire on her own.

      • Lady D says:

        The point being she shouldn’t have needed to spend the money in the first place.

      • zebz says:

        Meghan got paid everytime an episode of suits with her aired/is streamed. Which i’m guessing is quite frequently since she is such an icon now. Its not like a movie where the money dries up once it leaves the box office/you get paid up front. People make 5k for one line on a popular syndicated show. Meghan was making BANK.

  6. C-Shell says:

    One thing Spare (and I think this came up in one of the interviews, maybe Bryony Gordon’s?) caused me to realize is how woefully ill-equipped and understaffed the KP operation was for the tsunami of media churn about the Sussexes. The only people equipped for it were the Simon Cases and Jason Knauffs in the hierarchy, snakes and vipers that they are. I can well imagine staffers who never worked hard before or had the skill set to deal with the sheer volume and wild, all-over-the-map, coverage of H&M would stress and burn out, be “reduced to tears” if pressed to do their jobs competently. That’s not bullying. Pitching a hissy fit over pens, screaming about the arrangement of teddy bears, THAT’S bullying.

    ETA — that said staff may or may not have complained that the source of their issues was Meghan, alone, comes from the point made in Harry’s comment that Bulliam blamed it all on Meghan. KP staff took all their cues and direction from Bulliam, KKKHate and their minions.

    • windyriver says:

      That struck me too, it hadn’t occurred to me all the extra work they’d be dealing with generated by outside sources. I’d been thinking along the lines of, how much more work there was because of Meghan’s projects – and of course there would have been – but then there was all the rest that wasn’t coming directly from her.

      I’m not sure what Harry was doing, maybe working on his outside projects, like Invictus?, but it sounds like the only person around KP with competent management skills to even try to deal with a situation like that was – Meghan. And having her try to direct anything, however gently, was never going to fly, for so many reasons, but especially because it threatened Will (and Kate’s) perception of their superior position.

  7. Layla says:

    Poor Meghan. I was so rooting for this and for her. I was a huge meghan and suits fan (like William and Kate 🤪) and I knew she would be an amazing princess just like she was amazing at everything she accomplished but She really didn’t stand a chance did she? Not with vultures like Willileaks I and Copykeen Antoinette and Charles and the other one

  8. Chantal says:

    Whoo! Meghan is one hell of a woman! I’m spending my own money and still getting abused and by people who are mad that I’m not groveling and am not happy being abused? Definitely couldn’t have been me. Harry should be calling her Queen and kissing her feet every day!

  9. notasugarhere says:

    I put this in the other thread too. I’ve written many times before, Harry should have been moved to Civil List/Sovereign Grant funding the second he turned 18. He should not have been funded out of the Duchy of Cornwall after that. He was never the future Duke of Cornwall, he should have been moved to his own apartment at KP or BP, given an annual ‘work’ stipend equivalent to being third in line at the time, somewhere to land between trainings and deployments, and funds to live. Someone (Charles+William) insisted on keeping Harry under the Cornwall/Clarence House banner in order to control him and abuse/bully him financially.

    • Lucy says:

      That’s a really great point. Simple, easy, and would’ve avoided so much. They would’ve missed out on having a scape goat they could mess around though, and that clearly makes the whole place implode.

      I hope in the pieces cut from the book, Harry comes to awareness that they weren’t accidentally letting people leak against them, or just happened to forget to give him a place to live, but that it was deliberate and done with the blessing of his dad and brother. Over and over, he’s just surprised they don’t seem to consider him in anything.

    • BayTampaBay says:

      @notasugarhere – Everything you stipulated in your above comment that should have been given to Harry around age 18 WAS given to Andrew around the time Andrew was 18, finished school and enlisted full time in Royal Navy.

    • Snuffles says:

      Excellent point. And Harry would have been totally happy with that. But they had to keep him tethered to William/KP because they needed Harry to prop his lazy ass up.

    • Lindsay says:

      You’re right, except the Civil List doesn’t exist anymore. Chuck and Willy weren’t going to miss an opportunity to control Harry.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Which is why I put ‘Civil List/Sovereign Grant’ which are essentially the same thing under a new name. Think of the Sovereign Grant as ‘Civil List DBA (Doing Business As) Sovereign Grant’. Same old business, same model, same employees, different name. They might pretend it is vastly different, but in reality it isn’t.

    • Nic919 says:

      Part of the issue was the longevity of the Queen because they probably assumed that Harry would be a son of a monarch and thus funded under the sovereign grant much sooner than it ever happened.

      What they need to do is come up with a real plan for future generations to avoid this mess. But they won’t.

    • Blue Nails Betty says:

      It’s comments like this that make me hope a Sussex staffer is reading Celebitchy because there is a boatload of wisdom and clarity about the royal family and Harry’s place/purpose in that family.

      It can be extremely difficult to acknowledge the family you love so desperately actively treats you the way the royals treated Harry. Having someone outside of the fish bowl say”actually, Haz, that’s pretty messed up” can be a life/sanity saver.

      Harry sees a lot about his family but he’s got a ways to go to get the whole picture of their rottenness. I’m so glad he has love and support in his life as he digs for the truth.

    • Otterton says:

      Harry sort of addresses this in the book, but the way he puts it is more in terms of marriage – like you gwt upgrades to a nicer house, get more money and more opportunities only when you get married. It seems like they have no plan for anyone who isn’t married by 21. Which is ridiculous, because Charles took forever to get married. But these people are terrible at everything, so it’s no surprise they tried to keep him controlled for so long.

  10. Tessa says:

    Look in the mirror William to see who causes the strife.

  11. Jais says:

    “…There was no such thing as constructive feedback. All feedback was seen as an affront, an insult.” Yep, that sounds about right and essentially what we’ve all said here before. Giving feedback on how to do something better or more effectively caused people to melt down in tears. Last I heard that wasn’t bullying.

    • Feeshalori says:

      Obviously, these fragile blossoms never had yearly performance evaluations when your work got critiqued by the boss as is normal in business, where not only your strengths but areas of weaknesses where you could improve were discussed. Undoubtedly they all would have all been left in puddles of tears and wailing over bullying.

      • Feeshalori says:

        And to add, the fault ultimately lies with bosses who were clearly lacking in leadership and the entitled toxic work environment they fostered and encouraged.

  12. JMoney says:

    Billy and Katie were hazing Meghan. I don’t think H ever realized that bc it’s clear he’s never really gazed anyone nor have had it done to him since he’s a royal.

    I think Harry knows how toxic his family is but one thing he has a hard time coming to terms with is that they know how they are and they don’t care.

  13. what's inside says:

    Diana was also blamed for the troubles in her marriage until she started putting her story out.

  14. Snuffles says:

    If William was a competent boss, he would have paused to take a look at the situation, or hired someone who was neutral to give an assessment.

    Here is what I got from it.

    Pre-Meghan, the way Harry got his projects done was to go outside of Kensington Palace. Even if the staff were hard working and industrious, it would have been too much for them to handle. Meanwhile, while Harry was handling his business outside of KP’s purview, the KP staff were working for 2 lazy bosses who rarely showed up. It was an easy gig and they were rarely bothered.

    Then Meghan shows up. Even without Meghan doing any work, her being the new, shiny American would automatically triple the work the communications office would have to do to respond to inquiries. The press and the public wanted to see her and Harry in action and they were both game for it. So, more outings and visits needed to be planned. And again, more work than they were used to.

    Throw on top of that the fact that Will and Kate’s egos got in the way. Jealous that the Sussex’s were not only garnering more interest, Meghan was a natural at the job. The whole, no one can outshine the heir trope came into play. You can bet your sweet bippy that the Cambridges were telling staff that they didn’t have to accommodate Meghan. Some agreed because they were xenophobic and racist, and just couldn’t handle Meghan’s American ways.

    That’s another thing. Cultural differences were also a big problem. Meghan being straight forward and gung Ho about work completely intimidated them. They simply couldn’t keep up with her. Especially after working for two lazy gits all these years. So, I can totally buy that some staff were overwhelmed and in tears. Trying to serve 4 bosses with wildly different agendas. But, apparently some were up for the challenge and that’s when staff started taking sides.

    So, two different work styles and work ethics. I wonder whose idea was it to split offices and when was it suggested? Was it Harry? Did some suggest it earlier before William assaulted Harry over it? Did William balk at the idea because he knew if the Sussex’s were free to operate how they wanted to, they would continue to outshine the Cambridges by leaps and bounds and he refused to let that happen?

    It just says SO much about William’s lack of leadership skills that he thought the best way to deal with the situation was to browbeat Harry into submission-verbally and then physically.

    But I continue to be surprised at how naive both Harry and Meghan were about the reality of their situation. Constantly bending over backwards trying to make the best of the situation that was untenable. Meghan believing if she tries hard enough, she could make it work. And Harry refusing to see that William and Kate couldn’t bare being outshone even if was for the good of the monarchy and the people of the country they are supposed to lead and represent.

    • lanne says:

      Meghan did what women are conditioned to do all over the world. Bend over backward to make nice, thinking you can convert them with kindness and sincerity. It went as well as it usually goes.

    • Lissen says:

      People usually see their own traits & faults in others. I see M&H as empathic humans who, if others apologize & change their horrible behaviour, they are forgiven. H&M act with kindness towards others and believe that the kindness would be returned. That’s how they perceive the world. They don’t understand that there are people for whom simple human kindness is an utterly foreign concept. Unfortunately, now they do.

      I also believe that there weren’t other courses of action available to them then, aside from “go along to get along” and hope that things will improve. Even when they acknowledged that they had to get away, they weren’t able to see a path forward. Until Tyler Perry offered them an out.

    • Dee says:

      I would add that William would want the budgets/accounting mingled so he could throw Harry under the bus in case there was any questioning of the financials. If William was to move cash from a charity to one of his own projects or to fund his private helicopter “expenses” for instance.

    • Mary says:

      “Meghan believing if she tries hard enough, she could make it work.”.

      @Snuffles, I learned a long time ago from a great boss, after entering a really backstabbing public sector work environment (where people can’t be fired easily), that no matter what you do, some insecure and jealous (and in Meghan’s case racist and xenophobic) people may be predisposed or determined to not like you and bad mouth you.

      In these cases, it is best to realize that NOTHING you do will change their opinion of you and it is best to, as far as possible, avoid contact, meaning avoiding all non-necessary interactions because even nicely interacting with them will be an irritant to them, piss them off even further and give them more ammo against you.

      When someone is looking for a reason to dislike you, you won’t even be able to smile at them correctly. I likened it to a perverted version of “familiarity breeds contempt” in jealous, insecure people.

      No matter how nice Meghan was to the staff, they were going nitpick, find fault with and complain about innocent, minor things. It is a shame Meghan had to learn this in such a toxic and public environment.

  15. Nikki (Toronto) says:

    I think Harry knows it was Will and Kate. I think Harry knows his family is racist (not “unconscious bias”). He’s giving them an out. Someone else to blame. He’s far kinder than I would have been. And they’re too stupid to accept his gift.

    • PunkPrincessPhD says:

      @Nikki in TO:

      Or the legal advisors on the book felt there might not be enough to definitively make the case that the buck stops with William.

  16. ThatsNotOkay says:

    What a terrible life, when your main job is managing your press. That’s what it sounds like. Your entire existence is generating and managing press for yourself. No wonder they’re all so self-absorbed, mean-spirited, backstabby, and obsessed with their own headlines. Everyone smelling themselves. And no introspection. Zero. Always looking outward or in the mirror for touch-ups, never inward. Anyone who escapes that echo chamber is better for it.

  17. anna says:

    That section felt very – thinned out. They clearly interacted much more than this, but their interactions must have been awful and Harry removed them, or just more petty/awkwardness from Will and Kate. At this point I’m just being nosy, but I would love more detail because Harry and Meghan actually did quite a bit of work (including the Morocco trip that wasn’t even mentioned) and I would love more of the detail – but I understand why he left it out. I thought he would include more Archewell content at the end – more on their work with vaccines etc, but that was left out too – I’m just curious more about their day to day working style and interests.

    • Snuffles says:

      Sounds like a great idea for a Netflix documentary series!! 😉

      Seriously though, I thought the Harry and Meghan series would get into that a bit more. I think the most we got was the office Christmas party and a few guest appearances of staff. Archewell has done so much in its short time that I think it could warrant its own series. I hope they are still filming and capturing all of their good work.

      I agree it would be fascinating to see how they run their foundation.

  18. Hail says:

    The part about the competing agendas was especially obvious when Meghan announced her cookbook. It was either minutes or days later, Katie Keen announced her BIG “Broken Britain” project to coincide with Meghan’s cookbook. Meg and Harry had lots of interesting projects and engagements flowing. Invictus games, Oceania tour, cookbooks, amazing speeches and the only “big” thing William and Kate could come up with was a rushed “broken britain” project for Kate that has since been forgotten. Meg was actually untested in helping and hit the ground running even before the wedding yet it took Kate 7 years to come up with her first big project. And of course they couldn’t have the biracial duchess working harder and better than the future queen. Instead of making Kate work harder, they painted Meg as a bully who was difficult to work with.

    • Jais says:

      IIRC, Kate announced her project the Friday before Meghan’s cookbook dropped. Of course she announcing that something was going to happen at some point as opposed to anything tangible like a cookbook.

    • Nic919 says:

      Becky English had an exclusive in the DM about kate doing Broken Britain on the Friday prior to Meghan launching her cookbook. In usual kate fashion there were no details and she didn’t actually announce the survey until months later.

      The public had no inkling of Meghan’s cookbook or the launch when this article came out. So clearly kate has her staff release this vague nonsense to try to undercut the excellent project that Meghan had already finished and was ready to show the public.

      • Becks1 says:

        Was the survey months later? I felt like the survey was early 2020, so it would have been over a year later. Maybe my timeline is mixed up though. Don’t make me google “5 big questions” please 🤣🤣

        ETA I googled I couldn’t help it. It was January 2020. so 15 months after the announcement of “broken britain.” I guess 3 months to come up with each question?

      • Nic919 says:

        I thought they had announced something more in early 2019 but it’s even worse that it wasn’t until 2020 that the survey happened.

    • Carty says:

      Kate has not done a thing of note since then. Nothing comes to mind. What projects has she launched since Harry n Meghan left 3 years ago? Nothing. Always just stories about how she’s keen to do more.

    • notasugarhere says:

      Early Years wasn’t even Kate’s project/idea. It is what Quinn put together last minute once they learned about Meghan’s cookbook. It even includes historically Tory language about ‘Broken Britain’. Quinn gave up after two years of Kate’s uselessness and walked.

  19. Over it says:

    Dear Harry, your brother is the leak.

  20. L4Frimaire says:

    I think Harry is giving the KP staff more grace than they deserve in this passage. Some of that staff were leaking to Tatler how much they disrespected Meghan, calling her degree wife and other names, so it was coming from Inside. They weren’t just overwhelmed, they were hostile and obstructionist. It seems, even with his increased popularity and visibility, even before Meghan, they never wanted Harry to have any autonomy or treated as a full working royal. This shows in his poor housing and not having his own staff, the fact he was expected to be tethered to the Cambridges/Wales. The fact that once he married Meghan and the press and public interest exploded in them, in her, the fact they made no changes for that shows that the royals, especially Will and Kate, didn’t want to accept this new reality and the new duchess.

    • Rnot says:

      Camilla’s niece Louisa Parker Bowles became the Executive and Managing Editor of the Tatler in February 2018. What were the dates on those stories?

      • L4Frimaire says:

        The article I’m referring to with the staff talking smack was the May2019 issue I think, but there were other articles. One Harry mentioned in the book, around the time of the engagement, was that aristo guys like American women because American women were easier and went down more. Was really gross.

      • SomeChick says:

        this shines a bit of new light on that Kate the Great shade job as well.

        so many tentacles. Camzilla has her fingers in all of the evil pies!

  21. Qatar2 says:

    Non-brit here who has worked with tons of Brits and I can 100% see how the office environment went from zero to shambolic so quickly. The ones I worked with were as H described – government washouts (and also failed NHS execs) – and I have never met a worse group of passive aggressive, backstabbing, opportunistic dickbags. At least 98% had absolutely zero ethics, constantly lied to screw others over, stole work and identified it as their own, and were just generally horrible human beings. Cluster many of them together and they both compete as well as feed each other when faced with an “outsider” they can gang up on.

    • Mary says:

      @Qatar2, Wow. I wrote up thread about one experience, as an American abroad, entering into a toxic work environment and I thought I had it bad! Meghan really didn’t stand a chance, did she? I don’t know how long you lasted in work environments as toxic as the ones you mentioned but for my own part I decided early on that I would not stay more than several years in the position (the job itself was great and offered really good experience) because all of the Americans I met who had been there for longer than that time were, quite frankly, not very nice people. I could see how constantly being surrounded by such negativity would really impact one adversely. How on Earth did you deal with it?

    • TurquoiseGem says:

      Brit here shaking my head at the description of ” passive aggressive, backstabbing, opportunistic dickbags.”
      Gosh. I’m sorry that you had to deal with people who weren’t fussed about having actual ethics. Dreadful.
      I’m conjuring up quite a visual.

      Reading this and the account of what Meghan and Harry were up against has made me extra appreciative of the professional, and agreeable work colleagues and environments I’m used to.

  22. Claire says:

    I’m actually shocked that he’s admitting to accepting freebies in this book – the only reason I can think of him doing that is to get ahead of the palace leaking that? (Or had they already leaked it I can’t remember?). I’m also a little surprised that he’s admitting she gave out / shared free items with staff? I would guess that made a conflict of interest situation worse.

    • equality says:

      Actually, there are rules that govern what is done with freebies. Things can be kept for use if below a certain value. If it is food items, they definitely can be used by the recipient. Of course, anything valuable like jewels will be considered crown property. Do you not see the royals accepting freebies at every walk-about they do?

    • Mary says:

      @Claire, Maybe somewhere in the omitted 400 pages it is detailed how Kate has accepted freebies all throughout her marriage and gifted them to work subordinates to keep them in her thrall!

      Maybe Harry is just blasting that “Royals don’t accept freebies or steep discounts” rule that was broadcast most loudly after Meghan entered the Firm. Prior to that, it had been reported occasionally that Kate accepted freebies (although the stories would disappear promptly)

      • Dee says:

        Kate did a workaround with some items which were sent to Pippa and then “gifted” or shared with Kate. I remember a necklace in particular after George was born.

      • SomeChick says:

        there was also a story – presented as “charming” – about someone leaving a gift of jewelry in Kate’s changing room at an engagement. she was seen wearing it. so yes, Kate accepts freebies and gifts.

  23. girl_ninja says:

    Meghan “remained calm” and made efforts to spread kindness, from handwritten thank-you notes to baskets of food and flowers. She hosted tea parties and ice-cream socials for staff and “shared all the freebies she received, clothes and perfumes and makeup, with all the women in the office.” Meghan also bought “new lamps and space heaters, all bought with her personal credit card” for office

    Whew. This brings me back to the Netflix doc. when Meghan said “I tried so hard.” and just pisses me off and makes me sad. All she ever wanted to do was give her best, work hard and serve. What a rotten bum Bill is.

  24. QuiteContrary says:

    In so many, many ways, Meghan was too good for those sorry jerks.

  25. Annalise says:

    Meghan had to buy them space heaters?? Wtf?? So before Meghan came on the scene, the staff had to shiver away in their cold, drafty palace-offices?? Are we to understand that H, W & K were UNAWARE that their staff froze in the office every winter??? And once they finally did become aware, Meghan had to use her OWN money to get space heaters for staff?? So out of the HUNDREDS of pounds in the Sovereign Grant, a couple hundred couldn’t be allocated to help staff keep warm and comfortable in the winter??? What the HELL was/is going on over there???, 🤯🤯🤯Honestly I think this makes Harry look like crap, too. At least in terms of this situation. Like, great way to be TOTALLY oblivious to your staffs daily physical discomfort!! What’s next, did the toilet clog and Meghan had to pay a plumber to come??? 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

  26. AC says:

    I had a next door neighbor who used to be an extra for many of the blockbuster movies in Hollywood. He would tell me how some of the nicest actors/actresses are the most famous ones that sometimes get crapped on by the media. So the fact that Not one crew member/actor/staff has ever talked anything negative about Meghan really tells you something. My former neighbor would say, film staff and the crew all know who the jerks are around town and they all talk about it. If Meghan was such a B, you would definitely hear about it esp from film crew and staff she’s worked with previously. There was a tik toker who mentioned her husband was a member of a crew in Suits and confirmed that Meghan treated all of them with kindness and respect. In the meantime, the British Press has a very Long history of writing about crap, even being sued by a list of celebrities for years. And of course Princess Diana has clearly exposed the BRF toxicity.
    Goes back to WK, I remembered an article I read a few years ago , I think the writer’s friend or acquaintance used to date Kate in her earlier years and described her as polite but just boring. So a beautiful/intelligent/career-oriented woman comes along, and I can see Kate’s insecurities. Not to mention, it’s possible W having a little crush esp if Kate’s such a bore. And we now know the alpha W is , with being used to always having the best around him.